Most of them via text. Literally no one cared. I was more awkward about it than they were.
I told one of my friends while we were on a camping trip together. He cared so little that we still slept in the same tent.
People care less than you think, especially if they’re already your friends. Be prepared for a lot of “I can’t believe you didn’t think you could tell me” comments.
I'm starting to think the same. That im just over thinking it. They stuck through around all my BPD and stuff. Ive grown alot and theyve watched all my progess and supported all of it so i feel like this shouldnt be a deal breaker lol i think its just all in my head haha
Well if you bring up the subject of gay people how do they react or if anyone else has come out how has it gone? To me, I just laid it out to them and people treated me well, with a bit of reassurance. I think the courage comes from knowing it's important part of your self development and something to be proud not ashamed of.
Yea ive gotten past the ashamed part. Took a minute cause i grew up in the south so grew up around a lot of homophobic people. But today i think ill invite my best friend on a walk or something and tell him in person.
Well i bit the bullet and just called him. We spoke for about 30 minutes and first thing he said was " i still love ya and nothing gonna change . Still got your back through it all man thank you for telling me". We both agreed i was overthinking it haha but he still sees me the same which is great. He really had more questions about how i came to the realization of it all and how i felt about myself mentally and physically after my first experience with a guy.
This answer is subjective. I first see are they comfortable with the concept of lgbt , are they comfortable with gays around them, are they close to me to tell me I'm also into guys. If yes I would tell them and if they show homophobia I wouldn't because I don't want to lose a close friend just because I like to kiss a guy . People chose what they want to believe in.
While driving back from campus, I mentioned my boyfriend (now ex). One of them questioned if I meant "friend," but I clarified that he was indeed my boyfriend, like a male version of a girlfriend. Since then, they've been asking a lot about gay stuff, even though I'm bi. They're not as interested in the straight stuff about my life.
They accepted it really well and even tried to set me up once with someone. The funny thing is, I don't have much experience with guys, but they still keep asking a lot of questions, they tease me more and want to know with who from them I would hook up. Besides that, nothing else has changed.
Most of them didn’t care. Most of them had already figured out and were just waiting for me to share. A couple of them were really excited and wanted to have sex. (Hint: Never have sex with friends who aren’t openly gay.)
I built it up over years of friendship letting little hints go and messing with him as a friend, and when I did express my sexuality to him he wasn't fazed and even said "yea I figured" and he's still my best friend today, this year I believe marks 7 years of friendship for us
I don't, but I also haven't ever had the kind of friend who wants to talk to you outside the times you would usually see each other (school, work, whatever). I don't make a habit of talking about sex in such environments so it just doesn't come up
Said, well guys, I’m bisexual. Don’t think that means I’m after your cocks (ahem...secretly after their cocks). But subtly and respectfully. Who knows what they say behind my back, but I’m getting too old to miss an opportunity. I’ve had lots of great sex with women, time to try this side of me with vigour.
I built it up over years of friendship letting little hints go and messing with him as a friend, and when I did express my sexuality to him he wasn't fazed and even said "yea I figured" and he's still my best friend today, this year I believe marks 7 years of friendship for us.
I came out online to everyone. None of them cares and it was business as usual. It was awkward seeing them for the first time but that was to be expected.
My friends don’t care/didnt care. They encourage me to go out and have fun lol. But if they choose to no longer be friends because of your sexuality, then they aren’t anything
I told my entire fraternity at once during Chapter. I got lots of support, but no one really cared beyond asking a few questions.
But dude, here's the thing -- you cannot control how other people react. There is always going to be some level of risk that one or more of "your boys" has a problem with your sexuality, no matter what you do. Coming out is about realizing that being true to yourself and living your authentic life is worth the risk of losing the people close to you.
I honestly don't have straight male friends. Only before turning 18 did I hang out with straight dudes, and since then, I guess I don't care to. (I'm from the South, and finding straight guys who'd even want to hang out would be a crapshoot.)
Freshman year of college, tho, I had a straight roommate. I just told him very casually, and he was cool about it. Asked a lot of questions. It was fine, funny, and drama-free.
But yeah...best of luck to you with all this! I'm so glad your best friend proved supportive. I, too, hope the others will turn out equally-accepting of you. 💛
I started by telling two hetero male friends whom I knew would be supportive. But even then I had this lingering fear that they would only be theoretically supportive of the general idea but they would start acting differently around me, start being gradually too “busy” to see me and disappear. Nothing could have been further from the truth. They really, truly were allies.
There were a few others in the same group of friends who had made homophobic comments in the past. But with the support of my original two, the others came around very quickly. In fact, it was me, not them, who ended up kind of becoming more distant in those friendships because I developed the feeling that my true friends should have never had a problem with it and shouldn’t need two weeks to come around and apologize.
Nowadays I have far more confidence in myself and I hold myself to a high standard as far as who I want as friends. In the unlikely event that anybody has a problem with it, why would I want a bigot as a “friend” and why would I want a false friend who only likes a fake perception of me? I have much more real and true friendships now than I ever did back then.
Most of them via text. Literally no one cared. I was more awkward about it than they were. I told one of my friends while we were on a camping trip together. He cared so little that we still slept in the same tent. People care less than you think, especially if they’re already your friends. Be prepared for a lot of “I can’t believe you didn’t think you could tell me” comments.
I'm starting to think the same. That im just over thinking it. They stuck through around all my BPD and stuff. Ive grown alot and theyve watched all my progess and supported all of it so i feel like this shouldnt be a deal breaker lol i think its just all in my head haha
Well if you bring up the subject of gay people how do they react or if anyone else has come out how has it gone? To me, I just laid it out to them and people treated me well, with a bit of reassurance. I think the courage comes from knowing it's important part of your self development and something to be proud not ashamed of.
Yea ive gotten past the ashamed part. Took a minute cause i grew up in the south so grew up around a lot of homophobic people. But today i think ill invite my best friend on a walk or something and tell him in person.
Good luck! Let us know how it goes
Well i bit the bullet and just called him. We spoke for about 30 minutes and first thing he said was " i still love ya and nothing gonna change . Still got your back through it all man thank you for telling me". We both agreed i was overthinking it haha but he still sees me the same which is great. He really had more questions about how i came to the realization of it all and how i felt about myself mentally and physically after my first experience with a guy.
That's so lovely mate I'm really glad for you! Hope the others are the same.
I didn't. He saw me kiss my BF on a night out and then he worked the rest out himself. He couldn't have cared less.
Thats great! Im gonna tell my best friend today i think. Just gonna lay it out to him.
Good luck!
None of my straight friends had a problem with it.
Glad that went well for you! Gonna tell my closest homie today and see how that goes.
"Hey bro, can I tell ya something?" "Sure." "I'm gay, just so ya know." "Cool."
This comment sums it up
This answer is subjective. I first see are they comfortable with the concept of lgbt , are they comfortable with gays around them, are they close to me to tell me I'm also into guys. If yes I would tell them and if they show homophobia I wouldn't because I don't want to lose a close friend just because I like to kiss a guy . People chose what they want to believe in.
While driving back from campus, I mentioned my boyfriend (now ex). One of them questioned if I meant "friend," but I clarified that he was indeed my boyfriend, like a male version of a girlfriend. Since then, they've been asking a lot about gay stuff, even though I'm bi. They're not as interested in the straight stuff about my life. They accepted it really well and even tried to set me up once with someone. The funny thing is, I don't have much experience with guys, but they still keep asking a lot of questions, they tease me more and want to know with who from them I would hook up. Besides that, nothing else has changed.
Most of them didn’t care. Most of them had already figured out and were just waiting for me to share. A couple of them were really excited and wanted to have sex. (Hint: Never have sex with friends who aren’t openly gay.)
I built it up over years of friendship letting little hints go and messing with him as a friend, and when I did express my sexuality to him he wasn't fazed and even said "yea I figured" and he's still my best friend today, this year I believe marks 7 years of friendship for us
People around here have straight male friends? *Jealousy ensues*
i just casually brought up mine and they were really supportive. i guess it's because we've been good friends for a very long time.
I don't, but I also haven't ever had the kind of friend who wants to talk to you outside the times you would usually see each other (school, work, whatever). I don't make a habit of talking about sex in such environments so it just doesn't come up
Well I didn’t I was false -out💔
Im sorry im not quite understanding 😭 can you rephrase
Meaning people started talking about me being gay without me saying anything.
Said, well guys, I’m bisexual. Don’t think that means I’m after your cocks (ahem...secretly after their cocks). But subtly and respectfully. Who knows what they say behind my back, but I’m getting too old to miss an opportunity. I’ve had lots of great sex with women, time to try this side of me with vigour.
I built it up over years of friendship letting little hints go and messing with him as a friend, and when I did express my sexuality to him he wasn't fazed and even said "yea I figured" and he's still my best friend today, this year I believe marks 7 years of friendship for us.
I came out online to everyone. None of them cares and it was business as usual. It was awkward seeing them for the first time but that was to be expected.
Like in all things life, sometimes you just have to swallow your fear and jump into it.
I ended up telling my best friend and he reassured me nothing is gonna change.
My friends don’t care/didnt care. They encourage me to go out and have fun lol. But if they choose to no longer be friends because of your sexuality, then they aren’t anything
I told my entire fraternity at once during Chapter. I got lots of support, but no one really cared beyond asking a few questions. But dude, here's the thing -- you cannot control how other people react. There is always going to be some level of risk that one or more of "your boys" has a problem with your sexuality, no matter what you do. Coming out is about realizing that being true to yourself and living your authentic life is worth the risk of losing the people close to you.
Just got tired of it one day and did. It was a relief, they thought I was a virgin or something. Nope, just gay.
I just told him and he was like aight and he wants to hear all kinds of story abt gay stuff i experience
I honestly don't have straight male friends. Only before turning 18 did I hang out with straight dudes, and since then, I guess I don't care to. (I'm from the South, and finding straight guys who'd even want to hang out would be a crapshoot.) Freshman year of college, tho, I had a straight roommate. I just told him very casually, and he was cool about it. Asked a lot of questions. It was fine, funny, and drama-free. But yeah...best of luck to you with all this! I'm so glad your best friend proved supportive. I, too, hope the others will turn out equally-accepting of you. 💛
I started by telling two hetero male friends whom I knew would be supportive. But even then I had this lingering fear that they would only be theoretically supportive of the general idea but they would start acting differently around me, start being gradually too “busy” to see me and disappear. Nothing could have been further from the truth. They really, truly were allies. There were a few others in the same group of friends who had made homophobic comments in the past. But with the support of my original two, the others came around very quickly. In fact, it was me, not them, who ended up kind of becoming more distant in those friendships because I developed the feeling that my true friends should have never had a problem with it and shouldn’t need two weeks to come around and apologize. Nowadays I have far more confidence in myself and I hold myself to a high standard as far as who I want as friends. In the unlikely event that anybody has a problem with it, why would I want a bigot as a “friend” and why would I want a false friend who only likes a fake perception of me? I have much more real and true friendships now than I ever did back then.