I recently moved to another town and started dating. I met a guy there and at first it seemed like a really nice date. We had coffee, talked a lot, he showed me his work place in a skyscraper that had a stunning view and he helped me with some things, since I am new to the city. Beforehand he had told me that he had a Zumba course in the evening so I figured we would not spend the night together.
Then when we were walking and I said I needed to pee he told me I could use the bathroom at his place that was quite close. I did and then he showed me around a bit. Suddenly he lay on his bed and told me to do too. He was an attractive and fit guy so I surely did not say no and we started kissing.
Then things kinda turned around for me. I had spent hours with him and actually thought he was kinda likeable and attractive but I just didnt really feel it. He was very direct and fast in removing our clothes and everything felt very mechanical in a way. My brain told me that I should enjoy doing that with this attractive guy but it felt kinda passionless. The point for me, where it got strange was, that he wouldnt take no for an answer. He topped me without a condom, I told him to stop and he was just like "now it's my time to do what I want" and just went on (he was much taller and more muscular than me I might add). He also came inside without asking. I felt uncomfortable, also since I wasn't really prepared for all this.
Afterwards he told me I could get a shower which I did. When I came out he was already fully dressed and said he will still go to Zumba now and that we surely weren't the "perfect couple". He sent me out, strangeley sent me a zumba selfie and then told me he would not like to meet again.
I felt pretty bad and used the next days.
Not sure if this is an answer you expected but I wanted to share this experience since I still do not know how to really feel about all of this. I have never experienced something like that before.
Thanks for sharing man. I’m sorry this happened to you. This is so horrible. Hoping for all the good things for you and for him to accidentally trip and damage his dick.
Yeah it was certainly not what I expected and his sudden change of behaviour caught me totally off guard. It felt like an abusive situation looking back at what happened.
I had that once. He begged me to come over so I did. Took me 2 hrs to get there. He was a premature ejaculate. He didn't even get it in. Jerked myself off. Then when I went to showerup and he turned the water off so I couldn't clean myself. Like wtf. I had to drive 2 hours home covered in dried up cum. He was such an asshole then slutshamed me after.
i told him to stop and he kept going... he had like a thick 9inch cock too. safe to say i had big dick constipation for abit a week after and blood. i shouldve reported him for rape.
My first time at 19. He was older and said he just wanted to frot but no penetration, especially as I wasn’t prepared for it nor did we have condoms or lube. He penetrated with very little spit, begged him to stop. It was extremely painful and lasted a couple of minutes. Only reason he stopped was because he ripped me and noticed blood. Took me a while to heal back up and I was afraid I’d need stitches, bleeding a lot after bowel movements, luckily it healed up and you can barely see a scar today. Anal became very uncomfortable for me for a long time after that. In retrospect I was foolish for not reporting it as an assault and seeking medical attention.
That's horrible something similar happened to me. The only difference is that it didn't really hurt during the act but got blood and it took almost a year to heal...
How long did it take to heal for you?
I’m sorry to hear that. The tissue healed pretty quickly but took way over a year for the pain to stop. If I had a large bowel movement I would tear and bleed again and if I attempted anal sex, I would also tear again. The pain from anal sex was far worse tho. That definitely took me over a year to learn to cope with.
Thinking I had enough lube and nope!!! Felt like anal tug of war lol
Then once they kinda slipped and ended up balls deep on first attempted entry when I was new. I can still feel THAT pain typing this.
More recently thinking I was clean enough. But, nope. Mid session I ran to the bathroom 🏃♂️🫣 it was just really uncomfortable after that. They didn’t mind, but that was embarrassing
I am so sorry. I think someone had attempted this on me. I was letting him top me with a condom on. And I felt his dick come out, so I assumed he just needed to put it back in but he was taking a little too long. I turned around and he took the condom off. I looked at him like wtf are you doing. And he was like “oh you didn’t wanna do it like that?” I was like “no that’s why I gave you a condom” ended up giving him another one and made sure he finished with it on. Immediately blocked him after
Mine didn’t listen to a “no, wtf”…
It made me extra cautious in a way to never again agree to sex with anyone who needs to be convinced to respect my redlines.
Finally a thread I can add something to lol. My first time was definitely the worst. Disclosure, I'm 19 and still fairly new to this but I've done it a few times. The first time I bottomed was at 18. It was with a man in his mid 30s. This was a super uncomfortable situation because he wanted to rush things and get it over with asap. We did did it across the street from my house on a gravel road against the side of his truck. Originally he told me he didn't want to do anal and neither did I. But he forced me into it and I didn't know how to say no. On top of that (pun intended) he didn't wear protection. Also found out a little bit later that he was married with kids, another thing he lied about😭
My one and only time I bottomed. Obviously wasn’t used to it and didn’t build up to it properly. He was quite girthy too. Just very painful with no pleasure at all. However, it gave me more insight into being a bottom. I always take care topping anyway but it was a valuable experience nonetheless.
He said he really wanted to do it, led me on for a couple of weeks and finally came over, lasted a total of 3 thrusts and left.
Its not the fact that he didnt last long, its the fact that he made it seem like his dick would cure cancer or something.
Went to see that really hot guy that messaged me on Grindr, when we meet he doesn't look exactly like his picture but is still kinda cute.
We talk a bit he looks really uncomfortable and makes me uneasy too. We get to massaging ( I love to give massages and he had a physiotherapy formation at the time) I start and massage him with some RnB in the background, it get to his turn and he massages me really well, while massaging me he start to touch my ass, remove my underwear, and hump his dick to my ass.
He tries a first time to penetrate me without any preparation or lube but can't. I get on all fours and start sucking his dick to get it at least wet. When sucking him, everytime I tried to grab his dick with my hand he would remove it, he gives me some shy slaps on the ass and get on top of me. He tries to enter me again without any preparation nor lube (I was just oily from the massage oil) it hurts and when I suggest him to prepare me with his finger first at least he stops and calls it quit. I was flabbergasted.
We talk a little more, I try to make him understand how disappointed I am with the encounter, he laughs it off and say "It's no big deal". It wasn't a big deal, but I don't hookup with anybody or anytime so when I do I always make the most of it. He tells me that I still can come see him so he can train his massaging on me, I tell him no, get out of his apartment and block him on the spot.
The results of that experience were a feeling of disappointment and a painful ass.
My first time and it was last year wasn’t as bad as my second time when my old fwb literally jammed his 8 inch in my ass and I’m sure I have an a a fissure bc every time I insert my dildo now It feels 10x more painful from the first time:( I wish I had got up and left after that moment
A guy tried to jam his dick in me. I don’t bottom often and I told him to go slow. I was pissed and threw the lube bottle that was in my hand, blocked him and stormed out
Drove almost an hour to have sex with a guy, after he came he didn't care to make me cum as well, just got up, took my clothes, put on the bed and said he'd like to do it again in the future, but I had to go now 🤡
He was Poz, undetectable. I asked him to use a condom, he did when I bottomed. Then we switched and he just helped himself to my cock.... without a condom (he was hosting).
I was pretty mad... and young, dumb and couldn't stand up for myself.
I was new to anal and rarely bottomed, he has a very short penis with a huge head on it, he gets about 3 thrusts and cums, puts on his clothes and leaves. He gets ahold of me on Grinder a week later and wants to meet up again, he keeps asking me how I like his big thing on this conversation, and how good he is. I said I don’t think we’re a match, he blocks me before I can block him.
Every time I bottom , I love it more and want more. But burst time hurts little, but the top was very nice and sweet , he kept talking nice to me (and dirty, witch I love) he fuckes me good and came in my ass.
He is vers and know how the bottom feels. We become regular, and he calls me whenever he can host
I recently moved to another town and started dating. I met a guy there and at first it seemed like a really nice date. We had coffee, talked a lot, he showed me his work place in a skyscraper that had a stunning view and he helped me with some things, since I am new to the city. Beforehand he had told me that he had a Zumba course in the evening so I figured we would not spend the night together. Then when we were walking and I said I needed to pee he told me I could use the bathroom at his place that was quite close. I did and then he showed me around a bit. Suddenly he lay on his bed and told me to do too. He was an attractive and fit guy so I surely did not say no and we started kissing. Then things kinda turned around for me. I had spent hours with him and actually thought he was kinda likeable and attractive but I just didnt really feel it. He was very direct and fast in removing our clothes and everything felt very mechanical in a way. My brain told me that I should enjoy doing that with this attractive guy but it felt kinda passionless. The point for me, where it got strange was, that he wouldnt take no for an answer. He topped me without a condom, I told him to stop and he was just like "now it's my time to do what I want" and just went on (he was much taller and more muscular than me I might add). He also came inside without asking. I felt uncomfortable, also since I wasn't really prepared for all this. Afterwards he told me I could get a shower which I did. When I came out he was already fully dressed and said he will still go to Zumba now and that we surely weren't the "perfect couple". He sent me out, strangeley sent me a zumba selfie and then told me he would not like to meet again. I felt pretty bad and used the next days. Not sure if this is an answer you expected but I wanted to share this experience since I still do not know how to really feel about all of this. I have never experienced something like that before.
Thanks for sharing man. I’m sorry this happened to you. This is so horrible. Hoping for all the good things for you and for him to accidentally trip and damage his dick.
Yeah it was certainly not what I expected and his sudden change of behaviour caught me totally off guard. It felt like an abusive situation looking back at what happened.
That was rape
I hate him 😠.
Wow I am so sorry 😣 this is literally sexual assault. You didn't deserve any of that, and I hope you have been able to move past this experience. 🫂
I bottomed for a guy with a micropenis. I'm not sure he even got it in. Easily the most awkward sex I've ever had.
I had that once. He begged me to come over so I did. Took me 2 hrs to get there. He was a premature ejaculate. He didn't even get it in. Jerked myself off. Then when I went to showerup and he turned the water off so I couldn't clean myself. Like wtf. I had to drive 2 hours home covered in dried up cum. He was such an asshole then slutshamed me after.
Same , it was sad watching him struggle
i told him to stop and he kept going... he had like a thick 9inch cock too. safe to say i had big dick constipation for abit a week after and blood. i shouldve reported him for rape.
Need to train tops fr. Sorry to hear that
wierdly enough he wanted to come over again... and i let him. my selfworth was so low at 18.. i was such a stupid teen.
I guess we were all 18 once 😭😭
yeah, it helps that he was like 6'4 and in the army lmao
Lmaoo
My first time at 19. He was older and said he just wanted to frot but no penetration, especially as I wasn’t prepared for it nor did we have condoms or lube. He penetrated with very little spit, begged him to stop. It was extremely painful and lasted a couple of minutes. Only reason he stopped was because he ripped me and noticed blood. Took me a while to heal back up and I was afraid I’d need stitches, bleeding a lot after bowel movements, luckily it healed up and you can barely see a scar today. Anal became very uncomfortable for me for a long time after that. In retrospect I was foolish for not reporting it as an assault and seeking medical attention.
That’s all on him. Fuck men like that sucks.
Yeah, at that moment all I could think of was to pull up my shorts and get out of his car. Needless to say I blocked him and never saw him again.
So sorry that happened bro
That's horrible something similar happened to me. The only difference is that it didn't really hurt during the act but got blood and it took almost a year to heal... How long did it take to heal for you?
I’m sorry to hear that. The tissue healed pretty quickly but took way over a year for the pain to stop. If I had a large bowel movement I would tear and bleed again and if I attempted anal sex, I would also tear again. The pain from anal sex was far worse tho. That definitely took me over a year to learn to cope with.
Thinking I had enough lube and nope!!! Felt like anal tug of war lol Then once they kinda slipped and ended up balls deep on first attempted entry when I was new. I can still feel THAT pain typing this. More recently thinking I was clean enough. But, nope. Mid session I ran to the bathroom 🏃♂️🫣 it was just really uncomfortable after that. They didn’t mind, but that was embarrassing
Omg that pain my god. Felt like it was splitting in half. It happens man. Happened to me too 🥲🥲🥲 struggles really, struggles
The time I got stealthed. Was not on PrEP yet.
Omg that’s horrible!!
Being stealthed is absolutely terrible.
What does stealthed mean?
It means we agreed to having sex with condom, he removed it during sex unilaterally, held me down, and finished raw.
I am so sorry. I think someone had attempted this on me. I was letting him top me with a condom on. And I felt his dick come out, so I assumed he just needed to put it back in but he was taking a little too long. I turned around and he took the condom off. I looked at him like wtf are you doing. And he was like “oh you didn’t wanna do it like that?” I was like “no that’s why I gave you a condom” ended up giving him another one and made sure he finished with it on. Immediately blocked him after
Mine didn’t listen to a “no, wtf”… It made me extra cautious in a way to never again agree to sex with anyone who needs to be convinced to respect my redlines.
Well... I've never bottomed and wanted to lol. I need to know everyones best experiences so I'm not scared anymore 🤣
Hahaha it gets better once you get the hang of it and of the people you’ll do it with. Just always start slow and keep to where you’re comfortable.
Finally a thread I can add something to lol. My first time was definitely the worst. Disclosure, I'm 19 and still fairly new to this but I've done it a few times. The first time I bottomed was at 18. It was with a man in his mid 30s. This was a super uncomfortable situation because he wanted to rush things and get it over with asap. We did did it across the street from my house on a gravel road against the side of his truck. Originally he told me he didn't want to do anal and neither did I. But he forced me into it and I didn't know how to say no. On top of that (pun intended) he didn't wear protection. Also found out a little bit later that he was married with kids, another thing he lied about😭
I’m so sorry to hear that happened to you!
What in the word.. how do you even- 🤦♂️ *sighs*
I never said it was a good idea
Maybe we dont do hookups anymore 😭😭 but if they so bad why they feel so good
I fainted my first sex, when I was 18.
Okay i have to ask. What happened?! Was it before during or after?
I fainted during sex when guy's thing inserted in me. First sex, no experience. Guess it caused of pain. Guy wasn't gentle.
Damn. Hope you’ve had better experience after that dickhead
My one and only time I bottomed. Obviously wasn’t used to it and didn’t build up to it properly. He was quite girthy too. Just very painful with no pleasure at all. However, it gave me more insight into being a bottom. I always take care topping anyway but it was a valuable experience nonetheless.
Tops need to bottom at least once!! Good on you!!
He said he really wanted to do it, led me on for a couple of weeks and finally came over, lasted a total of 3 thrusts and left. Its not the fact that he didnt last long, its the fact that he made it seem like his dick would cure cancer or something.
That’s hella annoying
Went to see that really hot guy that messaged me on Grindr, when we meet he doesn't look exactly like his picture but is still kinda cute. We talk a bit he looks really uncomfortable and makes me uneasy too. We get to massaging ( I love to give massages and he had a physiotherapy formation at the time) I start and massage him with some RnB in the background, it get to his turn and he massages me really well, while massaging me he start to touch my ass, remove my underwear, and hump his dick to my ass. He tries a first time to penetrate me without any preparation or lube but can't. I get on all fours and start sucking his dick to get it at least wet. When sucking him, everytime I tried to grab his dick with my hand he would remove it, he gives me some shy slaps on the ass and get on top of me. He tries to enter me again without any preparation nor lube (I was just oily from the massage oil) it hurts and when I suggest him to prepare me with his finger first at least he stops and calls it quit. I was flabbergasted. We talk a little more, I try to make him understand how disappointed I am with the encounter, he laughs it off and say "It's no big deal". It wasn't a big deal, but I don't hookup with anybody or anytime so when I do I always make the most of it. He tells me that I still can come see him so he can train his massaging on me, I tell him no, get out of his apartment and block him on the spot. The results of that experience were a feeling of disappointment and a painful ass.
My first time and it was last year wasn’t as bad as my second time when my old fwb literally jammed his 8 inch in my ass and I’m sure I have an a a fissure bc every time I insert my dildo now It feels 10x more painful from the first time:( I wish I had got up and left after that moment
Aw damn. Maybe get it checked out?
Any time someone thinks they don't need lube. 🤦♂️ or need to add more when going a long time. It's not magical!
A guy tried to jam his dick in me. I don’t bottom often and I told him to go slow. I was pissed and threw the lube bottle that was in my hand, blocked him and stormed out
🙌
Drove almost an hour to have sex with a guy, after he came he didn't care to make me cum as well, just got up, took my clothes, put on the bed and said he'd like to do it again in the future, but I had to go now 🤡
Probably that one guy that was breaking the sweat while I didnt even feel he was inside. Like NADA.
That time that resulted in me needing two anal surgeries. Seriously, always warm up before.
He was Poz, undetectable. I asked him to use a condom, he did when I bottomed. Then we switched and he just helped himself to my cock.... without a condom (he was hosting). I was pretty mad... and young, dumb and couldn't stand up for myself.
I was new to anal and rarely bottomed, he has a very short penis with a huge head on it, he gets about 3 thrusts and cums, puts on his clothes and leaves. He gets ahold of me on Grinder a week later and wants to meet up again, he keeps asking me how I like his big thing on this conversation, and how good he is. I said I don’t think we’re a match, he blocks me before I can block him.
Every time I bottom , I love it more and want more. But burst time hurts little, but the top was very nice and sweet , he kept talking nice to me (and dirty, witch I love) he fuckes me good and came in my ass. He is vers and know how the bottom feels. We become regular, and he calls me whenever he can host
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