but how about holding out hope to fix literally everything that is not right, and work around the sex to build a stable relationship? Is this impossible?
That’s way tooooo much to fix and to hope for change. If you’re going to commit to someone in marriage you really need to have a good foundation and be good from the get go. Why the hell would you get married with someone you are that incompatible with?
because if you love the person in their heart, you would surpass limits for that person and not hold yourself back during obstacles on your road, even if those include compatibility issues. You’d find each other in the middle, where you belong together. The hurdles would not be seen as incompatibilties, but yet another challenge to overcome and surpass.
I'm not sure about committing to marriage, but I could see myself having a ultra long-term casual relationship with them and finding fulfillment in that dynamic. It might be the perfect scenario for me.
How to not attach yourself other than sexually to the person then? I find it extremely hard with him and I keep imagining a future where I know it’s not realistic.
Am I capable of executing this?
Or would you recommend to drop him, to safe me more heart ache for a future long term partner?
Just regard him as a friend or acquaintance you can fuck. It's that simple really, not every guy you have good sex with has to be more than just a guy you have good sex with. Part of life is realizing not every guy you have a good time with has to be end goal. They can just be a good time you can enjoy while you have them around
Why would I date someone who is literally the worst match just because the sex is good?
If I feel more of a connection with random strangers than my supposed partner in life ...yeah that won't work.
I don't think I would. It's like asking me if I would marry someone who's good in bed but has an addiction problem... Maybe, I'm a bit conservative in this idea but if you don't have anything in common and you're stuck with this person, it would be torture. Plus, divorce can be expensive... I think sex and intimacy can be taught, character is something very difficult to change. If you haven't made the connection by the time you want to marry someone, I think it's a mistake to do it.
No, don't be dumb Sex is the least important part of a relationship to me. I'd probably stay with a guy who had no sex drive at all if we got on well.
Can’t you learn to get on well? Is getting on well decided unaffected from conscious active decision making?
Omg no. You’d be an idiot to do that.
but how about holding out hope to fix literally everything that is not right, and work around the sex to build a stable relationship? Is this impossible?
That’s way tooooo much to fix and to hope for change. If you’re going to commit to someone in marriage you really need to have a good foundation and be good from the get go. Why the hell would you get married with someone you are that incompatible with?
because if you love the person in their heart, you would surpass limits for that person and not hold yourself back during obstacles on your road, even if those include compatibility issues. You’d find each other in the middle, where you belong together. The hurdles would not be seen as incompatibilties, but yet another challenge to overcome and surpass.
Nope. Is he rich?
I did once. It was a mistake. A very big mistake. I do remember the sex appreciatively though.
sex is not that important to put up with other shit
I'm not sure about committing to marriage, but I could see myself having a ultra long-term casual relationship with them and finding fulfillment in that dynamic. It might be the perfect scenario for me.
I would do it the opposite way where the sex sucks but everything else is great. Not every orgasm has to be a high quality really good orgasm.
Absolutely not?!
Why?
No
No
No.
Nah let's just be fuck buddies at that point
How to not attach yourself other than sexually to the person then? I find it extremely hard with him and I keep imagining a future where I know it’s not realistic. Am I capable of executing this? Or would you recommend to drop him, to safe me more heart ache for a future long term partner?
Just regard him as a friend or acquaintance you can fuck. It's that simple really, not every guy you have good sex with has to be more than just a guy you have good sex with. Part of life is realizing not every guy you have a good time with has to be end goal. They can just be a good time you can enjoy while you have them around
Thank you. ♥️♥️
No prob
No. While sex is definitely important, it's only worth it if I actually like the person.
Why would I date someone who is literally the worst match just because the sex is good? If I feel more of a connection with random strangers than my supposed partner in life ...yeah that won't work.
God no. You spend most of the time in your life not having sex.
No lol. I am with someone with most of the above. We don't really have any mutual interests but everything else does click.
Only if he's 80+ y/o and wealthy. Otherwise, zero chance - a few may disagree, but sex with the same person for years on end gets boring.
Isnt that what most people do?
Of course not.
No. You probably left your sanity somewhere. Run back and get it.
I don't think I would. It's like asking me if I would marry someone who's good in bed but has an addiction problem... Maybe, I'm a bit conservative in this idea but if you don't have anything in common and you're stuck with this person, it would be torture. Plus, divorce can be expensive... I think sex and intimacy can be taught, character is something very difficult to change. If you haven't made the connection by the time you want to marry someone, I think it's a mistake to do it.
I wouldn't marry anyone period. It's an outdated crumbling patriarchal institution with which I do not subscribe
If you do, get a pre-nup, because that marriage is a recipe for an inevitable divorce down the road.