I'm a relatively good looking guy. I get looks, but I am BAD at holding convos with people I don't know. I'm better with people I've already met and had outings with in groups of older friends. It sucks cuz I wanna be social but I'm bad at it
I feel this. Like friends of friends it's way easier to talk to them after you met them once. I get social anxiety still, but it was a lot more when I was younger. I wanna say it gets better even if you put in minimal effort to try to be social.
Yes!!! I've literally seen guys with such a cute face that I've thought: i really don't care what his physique is like. He could be overweight or whatever. A cute face does it all for me...
When they walk away its ass. I love seeing it bounce and imagine burying my face in it. I got to take a second to concentrate on not getting boner in public when i see a cheeked up man.
Me too ... but I don’t actually care about the size … it’s a cute something and personality first … cute something means anything really … face, hands, arms, arse, legs … the way they gesture … maybe even some kind of obvious vulnerability they’ve overcome too … I like real people that have seen some life rather than a vapid über gay who gets everything they desire.
Face. And if he’s wearing flip flops/ sandals I’ll almost always look down at the feet lol
I don’t exactly have a foot fetish (like I’m not into sucking toes or anything like that — no kink shaming tho), but a hot guy with nice feet instantly makes me swoon.
Just don’t tell anyone 🤫
OMG yes I absolutely love white ankle socks such a turn on I want to stick my cock between those socked feet and fuck them and shoot ropes of cum on those sexy socks
Eyes definitely. I grew up before dating apps and internet, so you actually had to leave the house if you were gonna meet guys. Eye contact was critical to get a read on a guy.
Looks, like the basic little shit that I am. More on face, less on figure.
If I feel some attraction, then his posture and demeanor. Does he seem friendly, arrogant, tough, etc?
Visually? Build. I tend to prefer the leaner set.
Substantively? Where is their attention. Are they talking to me, or are they still mentally on their phone or headed to work.
Instantly? I think I remember being told by a professor in class that gender is the first thing that most people register, once they realize they're looking at a person. Everything else is usually case-by-case.
I guess I'd say height/body size. I do notice when a guy has nice shoulders, and good/bad posture.
If he actually cares, hands down. There have been guys in my life who legitimately light me up, gay or straight. Sometimes straight guys have never had anyone care about them, I can’t not care
Depending what side I see first it usually eyes or butt. Love seeing a guy with tattoos too! I don’t have any myself but I would just worship a dude with a sleeve or something like that.
No choice in the matter always his bulge. Even worse if there is anything close to a VPL. Especially if it’s visible enough I can tell his religion or lack thereof.
For me, I know it's superficial and I hate it. But face for me for some reason is huge for me. I also have grown attracted to people for personality tho. If the guy has a 10/10 face but isn't intellectual I lose Interest fast, overall I value someone's entirety way more
A guys energy is probably the most important. Whether you’re dating or just considering them as a friend. And you can feel it almost immediately when you start talking to them, their energy. It doesn’t take a lot of effort to find out if your energies will align.
The eyes. I have had three great loves in my life. All three had roman candle explosions on first contact, and the fire works went up when our eyes met. We both knew where it was going. In all three instances we took our time getting there, but we knew.
How is his face reacting to when he is listening to me talking. How he talks, what mimicking he is doing.
His Smile. (I adore kind people)
What are his eyes telling me.
Hard to say since it all happens so fast and over and over.
Arms, for sure. I like strong forearms. Chest is probably second, then shoulders, then face. Nice legs melt my butter, too. I'm not a huge faces guy, but every once in a while, I see such a handsome face that I just want to hold him tenderly and kiss him all over.
For me it's the hair then the face then style then biceps... butt and back when I look at him from the behind. Even though butt, back and biceps are the least important things on the list.
Absolutely face, but oddly . . . I pay special attention to teeth and oral hygiene. Dirty teeth are a deal-breaker. Can't kiss someone with visible plaque and tartar.
Face!! You could have the most fit physique or be overweight, it wouldn’t matter if you have a cute face. That and a personality, I could just stare and admire you for hours.
At first sight, face would be the first thing, ass if it’s from behind
From behind, their back too
Agree!
The first thing u instantly notice in a dude is yourself. LOL
Face then ass
From behind it's back of the neck for me
If they can hold a conversation.
After my last relationship, this is now the most important.
Feel like such a boring person sometimes because I kinda suck at this 😬
I'm a relatively good looking guy. I get looks, but I am BAD at holding convos with people I don't know. I'm better with people I've already met and had outings with in groups of older friends. It sucks cuz I wanna be social but I'm bad at it
I feel this in my soul. I know im not boring, but I can never bring myself to lead a conversation with a stranger for fear of boring them x.x
I feel this. Like friends of friends it's way easier to talk to them after you met them once. I get social anxiety still, but it was a lot more when I was younger. I wanna say it gets better even if you put in minimal effort to try to be social.
You start a conversation after you see him. What attracts you to him to want to talk to him?
Great checkmate
The face. I like a welcoming, cute face. 🥰
Yes!!! I've literally seen guys with such a cute face that I've thought: i really don't care what his physique is like. He could be overweight or whatever. A cute face does it all for me...
As someone who has basically only this going for me from what I've been told, thank you
Seconding this
Face then ass
Exact same with me great ass
Legs. I love looking at men’s legs.
Preferably very hairy .
Irresistible
Vibe. Facial expressions and body language. Tone of voice.
When they walk away its ass. I love seeing it bounce and imagine burying my face in it. I got to take a second to concentrate on not getting boner in public when i see a cheeked up man.
Is it still OK for those of use with small non jiggly/bouncy asses but r still cute? Just curious lol
I love pancakes 😋🥞
I can't tell if you just flamed me or complimented me but thanx 😭
For me, it’s arms. Then if I can see his bulge.
You must be a bottom
Vers, actually.
My eyes go directly to his bulge. Every guy, every time.
I have no shame either
Me too ... but I don’t actually care about the size … it’s a cute something and personality first … cute something means anything really … face, hands, arms, arse, legs … the way they gesture … maybe even some kind of obvious vulnerability they’ve overcome too … I like real people that have seen some life rather than a vapid über gay who gets everything they desire.
I could agree with that. I too don’t care about the size. Bulge first then the rest of him as you described.
always the face then going down to his bulge then leg/thighs. ALWAYS. 😂
If he’s got chest hair peeking out from his collar… that’s super hot to me 🤭
Same here!! 🔥🔥🔥
Ugh yea my knees start to buckle lmfao
Definitely eyes, then it goes from there. That's if we're close enough for me to see them, if not then his physique.
Face. And if he’s wearing flip flops/ sandals I’ll almost always look down at the feet lol I don’t exactly have a foot fetish (like I’m not into sucking toes or anything like that — no kink shaming tho), but a hot guy with nice feet instantly makes me swoon. Just don’t tell anyone 🤫
Try this: missionary, but the twink bottom puts his heels together and you slide between thos white ankle socks. You're welcome 🤗
That escalated quickly
OMG yes I absolutely love white ankle socks such a turn on I want to stick my cock between those socked feet and fuck them and shoot ropes of cum on those sexy socks
Face
Butt.
His ass
Is he the human equivalent to a mighty silverback gorilla? No? Then I move on
🦍🍆🍑🦍
I screamed inside 😂
🤣
Jawline
Belly, beard, large arms and legs
You read my mind!
A hug from a warm bear can make all the difference after a long day.
Absolutely!!
If only I could find one that fits me. 😆
His bulge!
I notice his face and also his voice
Eyes definitely. I grew up before dating apps and internet, so you actually had to leave the house if you were gonna meet guys. Eye contact was critical to get a read on a guy.
If they have hairy legs. Lol
The body, guys with a dad bod and a belly, they give me the impression that they enjoy life.
We do :)
Arms. The biceps, the armhair, the forearm mmm
The face card shallow I know then personality. A "first" date should be an interview to see if you want to go on a actual first date.
Looks, like the basic little shit that I am. More on face, less on figure. If I feel some attraction, then his posture and demeanor. Does he seem friendly, arrogant, tough, etc?
Depends on what I find to be their most attractive/unique feature, but handsome faces and athletic frames usually stand out immediately to me.
Muscles
Legs
If he's kinda thick.
His face then waist followed up with ass if at an angle I can see. Lastly overall how much masculinity he exhibits
Visually? Build. I tend to prefer the leaner set. Substantively? Where is their attention. Are they talking to me, or are they still mentally on their phone or headed to work.
Eyes and heart and lies
His face
Face of course
Hygiene, if his clothes are dirty then his crotch is a gonna be a stink bomb when I pull down those pants.
Eyes to hair to shoes then hands lol
Try to look at ass first. Always the ass
Notice: Face/biceps; Look for: Wedding ring
Muscles and bulge
The attitude, a confident guy is the key
Instantly? I think I remember being told by a professor in class that gender is the first thing that most people register, once they realize they're looking at a person. Everything else is usually case-by-case. I guess I'd say height/body size. I do notice when a guy has nice shoulders, and good/bad posture.
I'd say face, then physique, then I'll try to peek if he has a bulge or something 💀... Then of course ass lol
If he actually cares, hands down. There have been guys in my life who legitimately light me up, gay or straight. Sometimes straight guys have never had anyone care about them, I can’t not care
face: beard, eyes, hair (if any)
Front:Face Back:Nape (I like a good nape idk why)
Face/Eyes, Chest, bulge, hands, arms, legs. In that order
yep, i have it similar!
if I can just talk to them without walking on eggshells or matching their energy... second is beards lol
Smile, beard, crotch.
It all depends on he angle I’m approaching 🥵. Usually it’s face first but I’ve checked guys out and found myself staring at their ass primarily.
Big meaty cock
Face and legs
Hands. big hands that look dirty or used. Men with clean soft hands are not for me.
Teeth
His muscularity level and body type. I don't discriminate based on it though
Feet size
Ears
Nose
Chest!
His body, I like big bodies
Start with his face then shoulders, arms, chest, thighs, and bulge. If he is turned away from me it’s hair, back, arms, ass, then his legs.
Face and Build
Depending what side I see first it usually eyes or butt. Love seeing a guy with tattoos too! I don’t have any myself but I would just worship a dude with a sleeve or something like that.
Eyes but no guy wants to make eye contact, not on the streets of NYC anyway #lifewhenyoufug 😆
Smile
No choice in the matter always his bulge. Even worse if there is anything close to a VPL. Especially if it’s visible enough I can tell his religion or lack thereof.
Face
eyes and personality
Thighs and legs
The first greeting, the way he interacts with me
His face then my boner
Smile
Their Teeth.
Eyes, I always want to see the eyes
Dark eyebrows are my thing, tattoos, their clothing style, and ass.
Face, physique, butt
Eyes. Beautiful eyes really are captivating.
The smile.
Face from the front. Ass from the back.
Face and chemistry in the 👀. If he is in a nudist place, his penis right away. 😊
Muscles
Mannerisms
Face and ass
eyes
Eyes.. thats what gets me first.. unless they have their shirt off and are showing me a nice beefy hairy chest.. that makes me melt
Chest 🤩
Ass, I always check it, if it's a nice one then I check the face
Face
For me, I know it's superficial and I hate it. But face for me for some reason is huge for me. I also have grown attracted to people for personality tho. If the guy has a 10/10 face but isn't intellectual I lose Interest fast, overall I value someone's entirety way more
Posture. Everything follows from there. Are they at ease? Tense? Do they just flow?
Eyebrows and eyelashes. Immediately. Like, a set of nice eyebrows instantly has me noticing them.
Their face and their feet
A guys energy is probably the most important. Whether you’re dating or just considering them as a friend. And you can feel it almost immediately when you start talking to them, their energy. It doesn’t take a lot of effort to find out if your energies will align.
Physically: hair and noses usually draw my attention Mentally/personality wise: humor, how they hold a conversation is also a big one Edit: typo
Eyes, ears, and smile
Whether they can pass for straight
I check for crusty lips.
Is he is wearing shorts, his calves
Face is the first thing I notice. A cute face can be ruined by an ugly attitude.
Lack of interest from them.
Typically i notice hair first. One of the things that turns me off the fastest is if someone doesn’t take care of their hair lol
Height and weight
The eyes. I have had three great loves in my life. All three had roman candle explosions on first contact, and the fire works went up when our eyes met. We both knew where it was going. In all three instances we took our time getting there, but we knew.
Eyes and hair
Their belly (if they have one). Otherwise their eye colour or hair.
Nipples
Their body type.
A slutty waist
Eyes and smile, then I try to take in their personality and body language 😊
1. Face 2. Crotch/bulge
Face & eyes
How is his face reacting to when he is listening to me talking. How he talks, what mimicking he is doing. His Smile. (I adore kind people) What are his eyes telling me.
his arms, his face, and whether he knows my secret when when we meet or if it's something that changes how we acts afterwards.
Facing them, smile eyes shoulders, in that order. From behind, ass and shoulders.
Eyes (especially lashes) and nose
Face
Personality than face
His posture!
Hard to say since it all happens so fast and over and over. Arms, for sure. I like strong forearms. Chest is probably second, then shoulders, then face. Nice legs melt my butter, too. I'm not a huge faces guy, but every once in a while, I see such a handsome face that I just want to hold him tenderly and kiss him all over.
Legs + ass
Posture
very specifically smile, it is easily the number 1 most attractive quality in a man
Either the eyes, bulge or smile
Confidence/posture
If from a far it would be posture and attire.
Face, arms, chest
chest. esp if it’s a nicely shaped one. i wont be able to stop staring 😆😆 and also if there’s a nice swath of chest hair as well
Arse then face.
Face, vibes, humor. Everything else is a treat
His blood type
Ears
His outfit lol
Eyes.
Ass. I like to see if it’s the square, boxy, juicy, or the whole package type of ass. Call me a pervert ig. 😭
Bulge first
Bulge
What they’re wearing -> body -> face
My time being wasted
If they know how to use a comma. Lol
Wrists. They can reveal a lot about what kind of body is under the clothes!
His bulge. Or more like, its the first place my eyes go to. If i see one im happy if i dont the dude may as well not exist
Face and eyes.
How he talks, he moves and looks
How he talks, he moves and looks
It would be face which also makes it obvious how good the body is due to how well defined jawline and cheekbones look.
For me it's the hair then the face then style then biceps... butt and back when I look at him from the behind. Even though butt, back and biceps are the least important things on the list.
Face
It's their hairstyle. I dunno why but a guy with a nice head of hair and a nice haircut instantly intrigues me.
His face and his Butt
Ditto me too
Lips 👄
His eyes tbh
Absolutely face, but oddly . . . I pay special attention to teeth and oral hygiene. Dirty teeth are a deal-breaker. Can't kiss someone with visible plaque and tartar.
How honest they are. I’ve met some guys that contradict themselves within one or two dates.
Height > Face > Crotch
Face!! You could have the most fit physique or be overweight, it wouldn’t matter if you have a cute face. That and a personality, I could just stare and admire you for hours.