Rarely do I.
It’s hard enough and exhausting just to keep up with 1. Multiple? I prefer not. I also feel a little guilty, I know I’m not doing anything wrong but I feel in a way it can be misleading to other parties.
I’ve gotten to the point I don’t even want to date at all lol. I’m focusing on more organic connections.
Step 1 is where the mistake is happening - feelings can make us think we're "in love" when really that may be initial limerence. Oftentimes this is because people are projecting what they hope the relationship to be onto a partner (on either side) but in reality don't know each other. Date first. Really get to know each other, don't overly commit to someone you don't know but keep your intentions clear and check in on theirs in a real way.
Some people choose to date more than one person to prevent them from hype fixate on the sole person - in a sense - to keep their head grounded until they genuinely connect more with one person among the others.
I say date around. it’s a numbers game. dating for me is about exploring and experimenting. seeing what can develop and what sticks. it takes a looooooonnnngggg time to get to truly know someone and to gauge compatibility and to build trust. initial reads on those things are insightful, sure, but not enough. I try to stay curious and have a healthy level of detachment to outcome, and just let the relationship unfold on its own.
I may have gone out to grab a coffee with more than one guy in a day for a first date. It's not that serious
Rarely do I. It’s hard enough and exhausting just to keep up with 1. Multiple? I prefer not. I also feel a little guilty, I know I’m not doing anything wrong but I feel in a way it can be misleading to other parties. I’ve gotten to the point I don’t even want to date at all lol. I’m focusing on more organic connections.
Step 1 is where the mistake is happening - feelings can make us think we're "in love" when really that may be initial limerence. Oftentimes this is because people are projecting what they hope the relationship to be onto a partner (on either side) but in reality don't know each other. Date first. Really get to know each other, don't overly commit to someone you don't know but keep your intentions clear and check in on theirs in a real way. Some people choose to date more than one person to prevent them from hype fixate on the sole person - in a sense - to keep their head grounded until they genuinely connect more with one person among the others.
I have 6 im going steady with
I say date around. it’s a numbers game. dating for me is about exploring and experimenting. seeing what can develop and what sticks. it takes a looooooonnnngggg time to get to truly know someone and to gauge compatibility and to build trust. initial reads on those things are insightful, sure, but not enough. I try to stay curious and have a healthy level of detachment to outcome, and just let the relationship unfold on its own.