When watching porn I always imagined myself being the one who tops, it just came naturally. I wouldn't refuse to let someone who I trust/love to top though, although I don't feel the need or desire to bottom.
I saw a dude at the grocery store today that had a slight bit of muscle build up wearing those workout shorts. You know the type. A fledgling muscle bro and his ass just would not stop. Wanted to bury my face in that.
That’s amazing. I kinda dream about touching myself while getting fucked and then he pulls my hand away and beats my dick hard while he pounds me so we cum at the same time
You’re lucky. So he really buried it then huh?
I find that super hot. I’d love to lick a man’s balls, especially if they were some big low hanging door knockers. Have you ever done it? Any time anyone has ever licked my balls or tried to suck them they did it way too hard and I didn’t really enjoy it.
Sorry for askin so much but I have never been fucked and am living vicariously through you :-) the balls slapping thing is something I just find really hot. Big door knockers rhythmically slapping on me
What u mean? I ask bc while I have never been with a guy I fantasize about bottoming. But I have tried puttin stuff in my ass and it didn’t feel great, but I love the idea of being submissive while a guy has his way with me
i meannn it’s always worth a shot 🤷🏻♂️ you’ll never know until you try it. I was the same way (total top) then i bottomed and took it really slow and it was fucking awesome
Well, like everyone else, I went up in front of all the other first year gays and got sorted by the Sorting Hat
Didn’t the owl deliver your invitation??
Yeah, this, “You’re not a top/bottom, you haven’t tried both yet” gives me, “You don’t know that you’re gay, you’ve never been with a woman”. I know myself and what I want to do sexually.
If I don’t have the desire to do something sexually, I’m not going to do it. All implications and subsequent communications are between me and my partner.
Yeah, that's my favorite. Some people have an uncontrollable urge to tell others how and with who they should have sex. Whether it's the physical attributes you're attracted to or your preferred role in sex they got to know better than you.
6’3 here and I usually prefer to bottom, but I’ve been in a lot of hookups where the other guy begs me to top him. Or people will scold me for wanting to bottom on Grindr. It’s interesting but sometimes I’ll oblige if they want it bad enough 😉
I had a GF who I was out to. She really got turned on by my bisexuality. She started fingering me which led to toys which led to me breaking up with her to date men!
Which is why so many women dont want to date men who are attracted to men.
Straight men love dating bi women. Not many straight women want to date a bi man. It's twice as many threats to make her feel insecure.
Yep, keep your “power level” to your self if you are bi and want to date a women.
I find gay men are more chill. Most don’t care, other (few) are insecure and a handful are into it.
Like seducing a (stereotypically) straight guy but actually possible…
Literally all of my expectations and the lustful dreams I've had from elementary to high school were with me being the bottom...
Cut to me actually dating, and not finding many tops I liked and only attracting bottoms... something clicked for me and I realized I love being aggressive with cute guys or just topping them, and there's just something about loving a sweet boy that loves being submissive or girly that I found irresistible. The handful of times I tried bottoming resulted in not a whole lot of pleasure, so while I say I'm vers / verse top, I'm really just a top who will bottom if the top wants but I gain no pleasure 🥲
Started having sex when i was 17, bottomed for an older guy. I think the dynamic of older/younger and the assigned roles to that dynamic where in my head. So for a couple of years i bttmed. Also felt insecure/performence pressure/not being what i perceived what a top has to be like to top. But tried it out and with everything learned more and more to be at easy with it and enjoyed it. Vers now, so it depends on my mood, the partner + situation of what i want to do - and it can also change during sex.
So try it out, also look for the "right" partner. So you feel comfortable in doing something new and/or that feels unuasual/even intimidating to you. And the impression doesn't get tainted by your partner expressing something not helpful or judgmental. Enjoy trying out something out of your comfortzone, and try it out a few times with different settings/partners(?). ANd listen to what feels good to you and don't be ashamed of anything. And if you are curiousabout something, explore.
I’m a trillion years old, so I came out in the 90’s before the internet was around to tell me I had to pick one. I had seen an image of gay sex, and that looked totally right to me. I liked what I saw and wanted to try it all.
It never occurred to me that any gay man would only want half of what I saw in that picture. If you had told me there was such a thing as “a top” or “a bottom” I wouldn’t have believed it. I would have thought: How do they put up with getting only half of sex all the time? Plus who would be willing to date a guy who won’t do for his boyfriend what his boyfriend does for him?
If you had explained the terms, I would have believed that “a top” or “a bottom” was like the most eccentric exception to the rule, or maybe the result of something out of their control like injury or something. And when I say I didn’t realize I mean that literally: I didn’t know I was “versatile” because I assumed every gay man was, and the word for that was “gay.”
Such is life when you’ve never met gay people, they don’t exist in media, there are no dating/hook-up apps, and [the internet looks like this.](https://web.archive.org/web/19961226095523/http://www.webcrawler.com/)
You end up joining a group and meeting actual gays a few at a time. And weirdly the first thing you discuss isn’t “So, do you only fuck, get fucked, or do you like it all?” It literally took years of gradual confusion to discover this was important to some people, even longer for me to believe I hadn’t misunderstood, or that they hadn’t.
Now, I accept it intellectually of course. To each his own and guys should do what they like, that’s the point of coming out. Emotionally though, I’m still back wondering how a guy could give half of it up, even more now that I’ve tried it both ways and know how good it is both ways. For me that’s what I signed up for. So now I know! And as I have come to understand and accept that it’s important to others, it’s become important to me to: I’m versatile, only versatile, always versatile.
Bravo! You put in writing exactly how I feel (except I do not feel that old! 54 here, came out in late 80s). True versatile here, for exactly the same reasons.
For me I don’t really have much sensation in my dick - I mean, it responds as you’d expect it to but I really don’t feel it. Could b a mixture of things - I’m cut, and haven’t really topped a lot so it may be that I’m jst not recognizing the sensation (I get hard, and orgasm but between the two there’s not much sensation). When I bottom…it’s like riding a roller coaster as the guy moves inside me.
“Like many of us, someone decided for me when I was fairly young”.
Well fuck, this hit home.
Your right, but I’m now a top, and love it. Go and experiment!
I only would watch porn with guys being topped, liked asses, was only attracted to smaller guys with nice asses. Would be turned on by an ass pic more than a dick pic. Then I tried both, and bottoming was very boring, but I still cum from topping. Also, like you said, others have decided that I am dominant and it fits. Then I became ok to be with any guy, as long as I top, but ended up dating my bf who is a twink-ish sub anyways. Opposites attract!
Never had an interest or desire to bottom. I have out of sheer curiosity
And whenever I feel things approaching my ass, I get extremely uncomfortable. When guys try to finger me, I immediately tense up and tell them I’m not into that.
I've always known I want to do stuff with another guy, but once (around early teenage years) I learned about what being "gay" supposedly means (basically "those guys that do dick in butt stuff" according to my surroundings growing up in a rather conservative rural/suburban area in the 90s, plus school sex ed was pretty much non-existant), I couldn't self-identify as being gay for a very long time to follow because that's totally not what I ever want to do with any guy - my sexual fantasies have always been totally different, so I always felt there was something completely wrong with me in that regard and I'm like a unicorn, the only one in ~4 billion men out there that gets turned on by the stuff that turns me on, tried to "fight it" and "convert myself" at various points in late teens/early 20s which only caused depressive episodes.
Only after learning about the internal diversity of the community (including the side term, but also various fetishes/kinks I do align with and realising I'm by far not the only one) I finally came to peace with my sexuality
When I was growing up I always fantasized about be fucked and others objectifying me. I was also slightly effeminate so I had that bottom energy. Since growing up (i’m 21) I’ve kinda mellowed out the femininity part and my Preferences have changed a little bit, I consider myself a verse now
I’ve taken antidepressants and anti anxiety medications most of my adult life, so it takes a long time to cum. This makes it hard to top because I usually run out of endurance before I can get enough stimulation to cum. Add performance anxiety to this and you create a vicious cycle that means I can’t get off from topping and my bottom is left unsatisfied.
Bottoming is an intense enough experience that I can cum from it, if the top is good, and even if I don’t, as long as he gets off he’ll be happy. So I’m a bottom because sex in that role for me has the best chance of being a good experience.
I am not in your shoes but I feel like if you have a partner you trust/love you could try having sex with less of a "destination" in mind. Sex isn't always just to cum. It can be whatever you want. Maybe you topping can be a nice stress free warm up for you both and then switch? You don't have to cum to be a good top. All sorts of people are into all sorts of things. Just do what feels right for you, not necessarily what you think is the best for the group of you, y'know?
Practice, really. You have to learn what works for you and how to relax the muscles in your ass.
Anal's tricky -- angle and depth and curvature all play a factor as well as your anatomy (ie. location of your prostate) so the difference between it feeling weird/painful and amazing (like, handsfree orgasm amazing) can be very slight.
That in mind, you might have luck if you ride him, it gives you more control.
My story sounds like a movie plot, but I was in college. My college roommate and fraternity brother asked me if he could feel my dick, I thought he meant with his hands so I approached his bed with it out and he said no you have to put it in me and slipped off his shorts. I fumbled through the process and eventually built up a good rhythm, his enjoyment and the feeling I was getting took me to another world. We did it 10 more times over the next 4 days and I’ve identified as a top ever since.
I went to Vegas after college, tried another role didn’t hate it but didn’t prefer it either. Fast forward 10 years and I usually tell guys I’m a top, unless I’m really into them and they are a top as well then I’ll hit the verse switch if the goods look like something I can handle with ease ( ie small and thin) lol!
Most of the porn I watched included flipfucking, and both looked appealing to me. Plus I'm bi and already enjoy fucking to begin with. I will say for a while I kept thinking that in gay sex I'd be primarily in the bottom role, but once I started exploring that side of my sexuality I found myself topping more.
When I was sixteen, almost seventeen, I was seduced by a slightly older boy. He was barely eighteen. He knew exactly what he was doing as far as having sex with a guy, and really making it good for him. I knew I liked boys sence I was five. At sixteen, I thought I would be only a top, even though I had never done it either way. When I realized he was going to top me, I was scared, but really wanted it. Well, he was super gentile, and understanding. He took his time with me. There was no pain at all, just pleasure. It was great, but after we recuperated a little he told me he liked getting it as much as giving it. He taught me how to do that right also. I also loved doing that. So I guess he taught me that I was versatile, even though I had no knowledge of the word for it at the time. I just knew I didn't know which I liked better.
My hunch is that being on the bottom bunk once in a while helps you relate more to that role; experience 1st-hand where the prostate is, and thereby become a better top in the process. Because now you know how to give your bottom more pleasure. But find an experienced bottom if it's your first time.
I believe your hunch is correct. It doesn't matter if you prefer top, or bottom position most of the time, or like them equally like I do. Having been in the opposite position than what you usually prefer makes you understand better what you are making your partner feel. You know how to make it great for him. After all, shouldn't we all want to make our partners have a very good experience when they are with us?
Just like it happens between a man and a woman who never had sex before and never had sexual education. When you lay down with someone the body follow its natural course according to the pre-disposition. I just knew what I had to do because in my mind that was how I had pictured myself while having sex.
Trial and error. Though I think its never smart to be rigid. I am mostly a top but love having my ass eaten. Like I think it really depends on the situation
It takes two to fuck. There are plenty of horrible bottoms and horrible tops out there so be careful about committing to a lane based on experience with one or a just a few people.
Perhaps take the view that you haven’t yet had a good experience topping but are open to try with other guys. Sometimes even letting things like that be known to the other guy can be helpful, if they’re into the scene.
Eh I'm verse and it totally depended on my partner or who I'm with. I honestly am probably more of a side, but my current fwb is such a great bottom that I can't say no. Like I've never met someone who makes me want to go primal and take control so badly and that's how I become a Dom top for that one guy.
Used to exclusively bottom, then met this older hookup who was really hot and he asked me to fuck him. I figured I'd give it a shot and now I'm vers, me and my boyfriend switch all the time.
I've always wanted to experience everything I can, so I tried both until I got good at them. Bottoming was harder and took longer, but I got there. I tend to think most people who have strict ideas about what they're into just haven't tried other stuff enough to like it. We think of sex as something we're supposed to enjoy spontaneously, but it's actually an athletic activity you have to practice!
I read a study once that said most guys do not know for a long time and will have several sexual experiences before having a strong identification.
I believe it said it took 15 years after puberty. But I would guess that study was of my generation or older and is not up to date. I’m mid-to-elder millennial. I didn’t have sex until I was 27. Most people download Grindr now and get asked almost immediately how they identify. So the need to have an identification early is much stronger now.
Another study suggests that the largest group of gay men is actually verse. However, they are underrepresented because tops and bottoms NEED a complimentary role, so they loudly and explicitly seek it out. Verses however do not NEED a complimentary role, so they are not as vocal, which shrinks the perceived size of the pools.
Additionally, how people identify on apps in not necessarily what people are capable of in a relationship or even in a hookup. The roles people suggest they are in apps are more reflective of their intentions on the app in the moment.
I personally am verse. But I don’t have an affiliation to either roll really strongly. But on apps I say top or bottom depending on my mood. People don’t respond well to verse IMO.
Experimented together with another inexperienced friend.
He fucked me and came inside very quickly.
I tried fucking him but he said He couldn’t relax. I took it as he didn’t want to do it. But then he asked if he could do me again. I said yes.
He lasted much longer this time and made me cum from anal.
From that point on, it was settled what our roles were without any further discussion and it stayed like that for years.
I was just automatically the receiver. I wanted to please my friends and oral was always the start so naturally it moved to my waiting hole. But when ever it was my turn. They hissed and howled I was just too big, so I just resigned to be a bottom. Forever until i stop dating guys and started dating women. Now I don't like either I'm a side Preferably..
guys can still talk me in to fucking them but they better have a really good oral skills first.
Well, I love being a bottom. The affection the Top gives you is just AWESOME.
THE BITING, NIBBLING, SPANKING, KISSING, FRENCHING, RIMMING, NIPPLE BITING, NECK BITING, AND MY ENTIRE LEGS AND BACK, OH, MY GOD! JOSEPH, YES! FUCK ME, YOU FUCK!
AND THEN WHEN THAT ENTER DICK ENTERS RUBS AGAINST YOUR PROSTATE JUST RIGHT AND GETS DEEP ENOUGH TO HIT YOU IN YOUR CORE!
FUCK ME, BIG GUY!!!
....damn.... I love it 😅
I love it so much 😭😭😭
I'm sorry, I just got out of the gym and the testosterone is kicking right now. HA HA HA!!! LOVE ME, BIG GUY!
Pansexual guy here. Am top. Tried both.
While I still feel turned on by the idea of bottoming for another guy (and I would never discard bottoming again), I just get a huge kick out of being in charge in the bedroom and there’s nothing hotter for me than being balls deep inside another person.
An overwhelming majority of my gay fantasies involve me topping ever since I realized I was into dudes too.
Top: Realised it because whenever my partner would go down on me or I was bottoming I found it incredibly painful, or my entire body froze up and I couldn't relax or enjoy it at all.
Not necessarily. I'm a definite versatile guy. Some of the best sex I have ever had was a few times with guys with a small dick that loved to top or be versatile.
Well, I doubt I'm what most people would consider fit. I just turned 64, and have gotten a little bit of an old man bod. Not overweight, or anything, just a little bit of a belly. I hate it, a bit after a big surgery, it was there. I want a real boyfriend, not just a shag. Also seeing as you used that term, I'm willing to bet you are in a different country from me. I am in the USA.
Still it was a nice invite.
Yeah but what are you doing to do with 2 swords and no sheaths?
I kid, but when it works it does feel great. I know a lot of guys who wouldn’t want a sword anywhere near their scabbard and a lot of guys who have wonderful sword but never want to use it.
Key to happiness is find someone who clicks with you!
Everything with me is chemistry.
But typically, I don't have the dick em down attitude.
Having said that, it's been 4, going on 5 years since I've fucked at all.
I don't even know how anyone could be gay and not innately their position. I knew I was vers because every guy that liked me and vice versa was butch vers. I've never really been into tops and bottoms.
so i’ve been dreaming about having a guy to lead my through the fun, who would be on top and give me affection since primary school😩🙌✨ protection and stuff lol.
but i do get attracted to the idea of topping at times, so i guess i’m a vers bottom then
Tried topping and didn't enjoy it. Tried bottoming and didn't enjoy it. But I always found myself wanting to bottom again. Eventually I relaxed more and enjoyed bottoming. Tried topping again and still didn't like it. I never get the same satisfaction out of anything that I do from bottoming. Even using a dildo is more satisfying than fapping for me.
I haven’t had much experience other than topping because there’s no prep and there’s no pain. However, I’ve been slowly teased and fucked by a dildo and I loved the helpless submissive feeling
I tried both. And I found out that it depends on whether I have an emotional connection or not. If it's just casual sex or even a hookup, I'd rather top; if I have feelings for him and there's a safe space for me to show vulnerability, I'll love to bottom.
I started as a bottom cuz I felt like I was one, then I had a boyfriend for 4 years and the last year he wanted to try bottoming so we started experimenting that. After we broke up I kinda enjoy being a top and bottoming became less appealing to me tho I still do it if the guy's really hot. I think of myself as vers now 🤷🏽
I topped a guy n it was amazing. Then again I’ve never really being interested in bottoming. Like I’ve never delivered played with my ass idk it just doesn’t interest me. I’ve bottom for guys before but not really into it. I also don’t think all the douching is not worth it since I’m not into it. Also I read a lot of subreddit where guys always wanted to have a dick inside them but for me I always wanted to put my dick inside a guy since like puberty.
I've always fantasized about being the one doing the fucking, even when I was pretty young lmao. If I saw cute boys in my school the fantasy was for me to fuck them. Was never really even a question for me.
I was in 6th grade and I saw a friend of mine with a huge cock, he was jerking. He didn't bother me watching him and continued. I wanted to bottom so bad for him though I didn't know the real meaning much by that time, but for weeks I dreamed about showing him my ass...
After my first experience dating and bottoming was so bad, in college, it took 15yrs to date guys again. I only top now and make sure to treat guys better than I was treated.
“Like many of us someone decided it for me” wtf worst assumption I’ve ever seen of gays what kind of post is this people do what they like just be gay and fuck, we choose on our own your life is your own
I started off thinking I was a bottom until I did it, from there I was a Dom vers/top for years until I had a divorce then I become a sub vers/bttm and a Dom when I top.
Reading this, I don't think was helpful...
Maybe it means that sometimes it's more dictated in what you enjoy? For me I was over being in control so being submissive in the bedroom became attractive to me 😂
At the age of 17. It was a role that was just given to me really. My bf was my first sex partner. He didn't like being bottom, so I became the bottom. I already had some experience because I would finger bang myself to masturbate. I haven't really topped since then. Maybe if I top more, I'll be a verse, but I enjoy being bottom. It's what I'm used to.
I guess people come to realization during random events, I thought that I'm top, but after few meetings with one dude I realized that I really like both and being versatile is the best overall.
I’ve never fantasized about sticking my dick in a man. I’ve always imagined being more submissive like I’ll imagine myself sucking dick or taking it rather than giving before I even had sex with men. When I first started having sex with men it was always me taking it. When I finally tried to top it just didn’t work. I get soft fast and it doesn’t arouse me. I’d compare topping to sexually fantasizing about a woman. It just doesn’t do anything for me.
Whenever I watched straight porn (before I knew I wasn’t straight) and then when I watched gay porn, I realized how much I loved the way a dick sliding inside a hole looked. I always wanted to be that hole. I used to tell my friends that if I were a girl, I’d be letting so many guys hit it, but of course I have my standards. Something about being submissive and pleasing a man directly by letting him use your hole drives me crazy.
I once met someone who was versatile, asked him if I could top him. Voilà.
Indeed, it can be daunting to ask someone to top or bottom for you, but there’s nothing to worry.
I struggle to keep an erection with a condom - from a diamond cutter as I'm opening the packet, to pushing a marshmallow through a keyhole seconds later - and by struggle I've only managed to stay hard on entry a leper's handful of times with the woman I lost my virginity to (and later married).
Ok litterally my process,
"Hmmmm, topping is really nice but what about bottoming"
*sticks a old hairbrush handle in my ass*
"Ah so I'm a verse this feels nice"
I swore up and down when i first came out i was strictly bottom and soon after i tried topping i figured out i’m verse top and RARELY bottom. it was really nice to finally test the waters. i had the notion in my head that since i was more fem i was damned to be a bottom like a prison sentence or something.
Before my first sex experience, i just assume that i am a bottom guy based on my personality. However, when i watch porn, imagining myself as a top also turns me on.
Now that i have few sex experiences (both top and bottom), i think im a vers bottom guy because i didn't feel pleasure when i topped. But this doesn't mean i didn't enjoy it.
No it’s not a typo and I would say he was at least 8-9 inches and very thick. I use to go to elementary school with cum dripping out my butt. I thought I was peeing on myself. My grandmother finally found out when I was in 6 grade because I had a sore on my rectum and was walking strange. I was a bottom to a couple of guys on my football team one was the QB. They fucked me every day from 10th grade til I graduated from college. Both or married with kids now. They didn’t know about each other . I learned how to take a really big cock .
I wanted things to be easy/convenient so I had hoped I'd be vers and thus not have to worry about which the other guy was/preferred as I'd just do the other. Worked out nicely for me.
I'm more naturally a bottom but would def want to top sometimes. It's just something else you can do with our equipment set. Being at least a little vers seems like you get the most bang for your buck
I have a hard time finishing when I top. Bottoming hurts and I ...ummm ... have IBS. So, yeah. That's that. But also I'm married so I'm not actually having sex anyways.
Only topped for the first two years cause I knew I’d like to put my dick in a guys butt lmao and then tried bottoming to see if I liked it and it’s hit or miss for me so figured makes me a verse top lmao
Whenever I watched porn of any kind I image myself as the receiving end so it kinda came naturally to me. I used to be into girls but not anymore so ever since that I just enjoy bottoming only pretty much
When watching porn I always imagined myself being the one who tops, it just came naturally. I wouldn't refuse to let someone who I trust/love to top though, although I don't feel the need or desire to bottom.
Same here - when watching porn and/or jerking off I just knew that I would enjoy both roles and I've always been vers irl.
For me it was the opposite watching porn I saw my self in both depends on mood but mostly bottom but in practice I ended up liking to top
A guy fucked me and I was in heaven
Can I take you to heaven again?
Maybe
I saw a dude at the grocery store today that had a slight bit of muscle build up wearing those workout shorts. You know the type. A fledgling muscle bro and his ass just would not stop. Wanted to bury my face in that.
Really what was it like? Mentally in heaven or also did it feel good? Did you nut from him pounding you?
Felt both physically and emotionally good. I came from touching myself whilst he was pounding me
That’s amazing. I kinda dream about touching myself while getting fucked and then he pulls my hand away and beats my dick hard while he pounds me so we cum at the same time
Did you feel his Balls slapping against yours while he fucked you?
I did
You’re lucky. So he really buried it then huh? I find that super hot. I’d love to lick a man’s balls, especially if they were some big low hanging door knockers. Have you ever done it? Any time anyone has ever licked my balls or tried to suck them they did it way too hard and I didn’t really enjoy it.
Sorry for askin so much but I have never been fucked and am living vicariously through you :-) the balls slapping thing is something I just find really hot. Big door knockers rhythmically slapping on me
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What u mean? I ask bc while I have never been with a guy I fantasize about bottoming. But I have tried puttin stuff in my ass and it didn’t feel great, but I love the idea of being submissive while a guy has his way with me
i meannn it’s always worth a shot 🤷🏻♂️ you’ll never know until you try it. I was the same way (total top) then i bottomed and took it really slow and it was fucking awesome
You mean it felt awesome? Can you feel his dick pulsing when he nuts inside you?
If a straight fucks you, are you in hell?
If a straight fucks you he’s not a straight guy
Well, like everyone else, I went up in front of all the other first year gays and got sorted by the Sorting Hat Didn’t the owl deliver your invitation??
It told me I’m a cRavencawk
I'm a Gryffinwhore.
I’m sure that the hat would also offer someone to Slid-it-in, too
I graduated from Twinkeryn and then became a Jocklepuff.
I got sorted into sucklefuck but had really hoped for assysmash
I knew I'm a top the same way I knew I'm gay: God told me.
Based
😜 Can't argue the almighty daddy.
Yeah, this, “You’re not a top/bottom, you haven’t tried both yet” gives me, “You don’t know that you’re gay, you’ve never been with a woman”. I know myself and what I want to do sexually. If I don’t have the desire to do something sexually, I’m not going to do it. All implications and subsequent communications are between me and my partner.
Yeah, that's my favorite. Some people have an uncontrollable urge to tell others how and with who they should have sex. Whether it's the physical attributes you're attracted to or your preferred role in sex they got to know better than you.
This! 💯
I tried both to see which I preferred
I'm like 5'5" and guys just assumed I'd want to bottom, and they were right.
6’5 here ….. assumed I’m a top. Just like you, they were right. But hey a little bottom now and then satisfies me too :)
😲 6'5?!
Yeah. I shrinking with age. Was another half inch in my prime :)
6’3 here and I usually prefer to bottom, but I’ve been in a lot of hookups where the other guy begs me to top him. Or people will scold me for wanting to bottom on Grindr. It’s interesting but sometimes I’ll oblige if they want it bad enough 😉
6'5 here as well and for me the assumptions were wrong :P
How long is your dong if you don’t mind me fantasizing about letting you wreck me
I come in at a surprisingly complete average size of around 6.. Proportionally my legs are a bit short too, maybe that's it? :')
I’m 5’6 and a top! But my body type is muscular w/ body hair so I just describe myself as a very tall Gimli 😂 Still waiting for my 6’4 Legolas…
Damn you for putting that image in my head. How am I meant to clean my house while I'm thinking about how Gimli should 100% top Legolass?
I'm 5'6" and guys just assumed I'd want to bottom, and they were wrong. Very wrong.
I had a GF who I was out to. She really got turned on by my bisexuality. She started fingering me which led to toys which led to me breaking up with her to date men!
Great exclamation point
Wow, imagine if this post was about doing the inverse.
Which is why so many women dont want to date men who are attracted to men. Straight men love dating bi women. Not many straight women want to date a bi man. It's twice as many threats to make her feel insecure.
Yep, keep your “power level” to your self if you are bi and want to date a women. I find gay men are more chill. Most don’t care, other (few) are insecure and a handful are into it. Like seducing a (stereotypically) straight guy but actually possible…
Literally all of my expectations and the lustful dreams I've had from elementary to high school were with me being the bottom... Cut to me actually dating, and not finding many tops I liked and only attracting bottoms... something clicked for me and I realized I love being aggressive with cute guys or just topping them, and there's just something about loving a sweet boy that loves being submissive or girly that I found irresistible. The handful of times I tried bottoming resulted in not a whole lot of pleasure, so while I say I'm vers / verse top, I'm really just a top who will bottom if the top wants but I gain no pleasure 🥲
I got fucked and I was like, *nice* Then I fucked and I was like, *nice*
> Like many of us, someone decided for me when I was fairly young I'm sorry what the fuck?
Good, I'm not the only one who was shocked about that lol, but yeah, wtf?!?!
Think he meant when he began to explore as an adult, he had sex and let the other person take the lead and stuck with the same practices.
Yeah I was like, this is a thing?
Didn’t the gay overlords assign you to your role?
Well, I got the membership card, and the agenda booklet, but I guess someone forgot to assign me a role?
Maybe check the gay agenda on a taco Tuesday and it should tell you there
Started having sex when i was 17, bottomed for an older guy. I think the dynamic of older/younger and the assigned roles to that dynamic where in my head. So for a couple of years i bttmed. Also felt insecure/performence pressure/not being what i perceived what a top has to be like to top. But tried it out and with everything learned more and more to be at easy with it and enjoyed it. Vers now, so it depends on my mood, the partner + situation of what i want to do - and it can also change during sex. So try it out, also look for the "right" partner. So you feel comfortable in doing something new and/or that feels unuasual/even intimidating to you. And the impression doesn't get tainted by your partner expressing something not helpful or judgmental. Enjoy trying out something out of your comfortzone, and try it out a few times with different settings/partners(?). ANd listen to what feels good to you and don't be ashamed of anything. And if you are curiousabout something, explore.
I’m a trillion years old, so I came out in the 90’s before the internet was around to tell me I had to pick one. I had seen an image of gay sex, and that looked totally right to me. I liked what I saw and wanted to try it all. It never occurred to me that any gay man would only want half of what I saw in that picture. If you had told me there was such a thing as “a top” or “a bottom” I wouldn’t have believed it. I would have thought: How do they put up with getting only half of sex all the time? Plus who would be willing to date a guy who won’t do for his boyfriend what his boyfriend does for him? If you had explained the terms, I would have believed that “a top” or “a bottom” was like the most eccentric exception to the rule, or maybe the result of something out of their control like injury or something. And when I say I didn’t realize I mean that literally: I didn’t know I was “versatile” because I assumed every gay man was, and the word for that was “gay.” Such is life when you’ve never met gay people, they don’t exist in media, there are no dating/hook-up apps, and [the internet looks like this.](https://web.archive.org/web/19961226095523/http://www.webcrawler.com/) You end up joining a group and meeting actual gays a few at a time. And weirdly the first thing you discuss isn’t “So, do you only fuck, get fucked, or do you like it all?” It literally took years of gradual confusion to discover this was important to some people, even longer for me to believe I hadn’t misunderstood, or that they hadn’t. Now, I accept it intellectually of course. To each his own and guys should do what they like, that’s the point of coming out. Emotionally though, I’m still back wondering how a guy could give half of it up, even more now that I’ve tried it both ways and know how good it is both ways. For me that’s what I signed up for. So now I know! And as I have come to understand and accept that it’s important to others, it’s become important to me to: I’m versatile, only versatile, always versatile.
Bravo! You put in writing exactly how I feel (except I do not feel that old! 54 here, came out in late 80s). True versatile here, for exactly the same reasons.
I’m 26 and I couldn’t agree more. Picking just one is alien to me as both is extremely pleasurable when done right.
For me I don’t really have much sensation in my dick - I mean, it responds as you’d expect it to but I really don’t feel it. Could b a mixture of things - I’m cut, and haven’t really topped a lot so it may be that I’m jst not recognizing the sensation (I get hard, and orgasm but between the two there’s not much sensation). When I bottom…it’s like riding a roller coaster as the guy moves inside me.
“Like many of us, someone decided for me when I was fairly young”. Well fuck, this hit home. Your right, but I’m now a top, and love it. Go and experiment!
I only would watch porn with guys being topped, liked asses, was only attracted to smaller guys with nice asses. Would be turned on by an ass pic more than a dick pic. Then I tried both, and bottoming was very boring, but I still cum from topping. Also, like you said, others have decided that I am dominant and it fits. Then I became ok to be with any guy, as long as I top, but ended up dating my bf who is a twink-ish sub anyways. Opposites attract!
Never had an interest or desire to bottom. I have out of sheer curiosity And whenever I feel things approaching my ass, I get extremely uncomfortable. When guys try to finger me, I immediately tense up and tell them I’m not into that.
I eventually realized that it's ok to not be turned on by butt stuff, and so I'm a side
You’re certainly not alone. :)
I've always known I want to do stuff with another guy, but once (around early teenage years) I learned about what being "gay" supposedly means (basically "those guys that do dick in butt stuff" according to my surroundings growing up in a rather conservative rural/suburban area in the 90s, plus school sex ed was pretty much non-existant), I couldn't self-identify as being gay for a very long time to follow because that's totally not what I ever want to do with any guy - my sexual fantasies have always been totally different, so I always felt there was something completely wrong with me in that regard and I'm like a unicorn, the only one in ~4 billion men out there that gets turned on by the stuff that turns me on, tried to "fight it" and "convert myself" at various points in late teens/early 20s which only caused depressive episodes. Only after learning about the internal diversity of the community (including the side term, but also various fetishes/kinks I do align with and realising I'm by far not the only one) I finally came to peace with my sexuality
When I was growing up I always fantasized about be fucked and others objectifying me. I was also slightly effeminate so I had that bottom energy. Since growing up (i’m 21) I’ve kinda mellowed out the femininity part and my Preferences have changed a little bit, I consider myself a verse now
I’ve taken antidepressants and anti anxiety medications most of my adult life, so it takes a long time to cum. This makes it hard to top because I usually run out of endurance before I can get enough stimulation to cum. Add performance anxiety to this and you create a vicious cycle that means I can’t get off from topping and my bottom is left unsatisfied. Bottoming is an intense enough experience that I can cum from it, if the top is good, and even if I don’t, as long as he gets off he’ll be happy. So I’m a bottom because sex in that role for me has the best chance of being a good experience.
I am not in your shoes but I feel like if you have a partner you trust/love you could try having sex with less of a "destination" in mind. Sex isn't always just to cum. It can be whatever you want. Maybe you topping can be a nice stress free warm up for you both and then switch? You don't have to cum to be a good top. All sorts of people are into all sorts of things. Just do what feels right for you, not necessarily what you think is the best for the group of you, y'know?
I am a top because its uncomfortable to put stuff up my ass, but tbh i haven’t rly tried it other than with a finger once
Lube that baby up.
I lost my virginity as a bottom, addicted to it since then.
I always pictured myself doing both. Then I did both, and liked both (though it took a few tries to figure out how to bottom).
What would you say is the secret? Hopefully not poppers 😬
Practice, really. You have to learn what works for you and how to relax the muscles in your ass. Anal's tricky -- angle and depth and curvature all play a factor as well as your anatomy (ie. location of your prostate) so the difference between it feeling weird/painful and amazing (like, handsfree orgasm amazing) can be very slight. That in mind, you might have luck if you ride him, it gives you more control.
My story sounds like a movie plot, but I was in college. My college roommate and fraternity brother asked me if he could feel my dick, I thought he meant with his hands so I approached his bed with it out and he said no you have to put it in me and slipped off his shorts. I fumbled through the process and eventually built up a good rhythm, his enjoyment and the feeling I was getting took me to another world. We did it 10 more times over the next 4 days and I’ve identified as a top ever since. I went to Vegas after college, tried another role didn’t hate it but didn’t prefer it either. Fast forward 10 years and I usually tell guys I’m a top, unless I’m really into them and they are a top as well then I’ll hit the verse switch if the goods look like something I can handle with ease ( ie small and thin) lol!
Well I find both topping and bottoming fun. If someone fucks me good I usually get a very strong urge to fuck them back.
When I would watch porn, I always wanted to do both, for me being vers was just natural. I'm thankful that I'm married to another vers, now.
I like sex So with being vers I have twice the opportunities
Most of the porn I watched included flipfucking, and both looked appealing to me. Plus I'm bi and already enjoy fucking to begin with. I will say for a while I kept thinking that in gay sex I'd be primarily in the bottom role, but once I started exploring that side of my sexuality I found myself topping more.
When I was sixteen, almost seventeen, I was seduced by a slightly older boy. He was barely eighteen. He knew exactly what he was doing as far as having sex with a guy, and really making it good for him. I knew I liked boys sence I was five. At sixteen, I thought I would be only a top, even though I had never done it either way. When I realized he was going to top me, I was scared, but really wanted it. Well, he was super gentile, and understanding. He took his time with me. There was no pain at all, just pleasure. It was great, but after we recuperated a little he told me he liked getting it as much as giving it. He taught me how to do that right also. I also loved doing that. So I guess he taught me that I was versatile, even though I had no knowledge of the word for it at the time. I just knew I didn't know which I liked better.
My hunch is that being on the bottom bunk once in a while helps you relate more to that role; experience 1st-hand where the prostate is, and thereby become a better top in the process. Because now you know how to give your bottom more pleasure. But find an experienced bottom if it's your first time.
I believe your hunch is correct. It doesn't matter if you prefer top, or bottom position most of the time, or like them equally like I do. Having been in the opposite position than what you usually prefer makes you understand better what you are making your partner feel. You know how to make it great for him. After all, shouldn't we all want to make our partners have a very good experience when they are with us?
I just tried stuff out; sometimes multiple times, until I figured myself out.
Realized during swap sex that I kept cutting his turn in my butt short so I could be in his butt.
Just like it happens between a man and a woman who never had sex before and never had sexual education. When you lay down with someone the body follow its natural course according to the pre-disposition. I just knew what I had to do because in my mind that was how I had pictured myself while having sex.
Trial and error. Though I think its never smart to be rigid. I am mostly a top but love having my ass eaten. Like I think it really depends on the situation
My friend asked if he could fuck we. I was curious about it and said sure. Now I love it! I have even moved onto fisting
I tried both and ended up doing what I liked.
It takes two to fuck. There are plenty of horrible bottoms and horrible tops out there so be careful about committing to a lane based on experience with one or a just a few people. Perhaps take the view that you haven’t yet had a good experience topping but are open to try with other guys. Sometimes even letting things like that be known to the other guy can be helpful, if they’re into the scene.
>Like many of us, someone decided for me when I was fairly young and I kinda stuck with it What?
He was 15 and I was five years younger but that's behind me now.
you were ten? ummm yeahhhhh
Tried. both. Liked both
Eh I'm verse and it totally depended on my partner or who I'm with. I honestly am probably more of a side, but my current fwb is such a great bottom that I can't say no. Like I've never met someone who makes me want to go primal and take control so badly and that's how I become a Dom top for that one guy.
Whatever feels right and whatever you enjoy. It could also change over time.
I always wanted dick in me. There was no other interest for me.
Used to exclusively bottom, then met this older hookup who was really hot and he asked me to fuck him. I figured I'd give it a shot and now I'm vers, me and my boyfriend switch all the time.
I started as a bottom at first but never really enjoyed it all that much then I started topping and loved it
I've always wanted to experience everything I can, so I tried both until I got good at them. Bottoming was harder and took longer, but I got there. I tend to think most people who have strict ideas about what they're into just haven't tried other stuff enough to like it. We think of sex as something we're supposed to enjoy spontaneously, but it's actually an athletic activity you have to practice!
I read a study once that said most guys do not know for a long time and will have several sexual experiences before having a strong identification. I believe it said it took 15 years after puberty. But I would guess that study was of my generation or older and is not up to date. I’m mid-to-elder millennial. I didn’t have sex until I was 27. Most people download Grindr now and get asked almost immediately how they identify. So the need to have an identification early is much stronger now. Another study suggests that the largest group of gay men is actually verse. However, they are underrepresented because tops and bottoms NEED a complimentary role, so they loudly and explicitly seek it out. Verses however do not NEED a complimentary role, so they are not as vocal, which shrinks the perceived size of the pools. Additionally, how people identify on apps in not necessarily what people are capable of in a relationship or even in a hookup. The roles people suggest they are in apps are more reflective of their intentions on the app in the moment. I personally am verse. But I don’t have an affiliation to either roll really strongly. But on apps I say top or bottom depending on my mood. People don’t respond well to verse IMO.
Experimented together with another inexperienced friend. He fucked me and came inside very quickly. I tried fucking him but he said He couldn’t relax. I took it as he didn’t want to do it. But then he asked if he could do me again. I said yes. He lasted much longer this time and made me cum from anal. From that point on, it was settled what our roles were without any further discussion and it stayed like that for years.
I was just automatically the receiver. I wanted to please my friends and oral was always the start so naturally it moved to my waiting hole. But when ever it was my turn. They hissed and howled I was just too big, so I just resigned to be a bottom. Forever until i stop dating guys and started dating women. Now I don't like either I'm a side Preferably.. guys can still talk me in to fucking them but they better have a really good oral skills first.
How big are you (if you don't mind)?
I could tell you or show you. So you'll believe me. I'm not super huge.
Normally I top. But, I would not mind to be bottom now and then. It’s seem a little vulnerable to me. That’s why I top.
Well, I love being a bottom. The affection the Top gives you is just AWESOME. THE BITING, NIBBLING, SPANKING, KISSING, FRENCHING, RIMMING, NIPPLE BITING, NECK BITING, AND MY ENTIRE LEGS AND BACK, OH, MY GOD! JOSEPH, YES! FUCK ME, YOU FUCK! AND THEN WHEN THAT ENTER DICK ENTERS RUBS AGAINST YOUR PROSTATE JUST RIGHT AND GETS DEEP ENOUGH TO HIT YOU IN YOUR CORE! FUCK ME, BIG GUY!!! ....damn.... I love it 😅 I love it so much 😭😭😭 I'm sorry, I just got out of the gym and the testosterone is kicking right now. HA HA HA!!! LOVE ME, BIG GUY!
Pansexual guy here. Am top. Tried both. While I still feel turned on by the idea of bottoming for another guy (and I would never discard bottoming again), I just get a huge kick out of being in charge in the bedroom and there’s nothing hotter for me than being balls deep inside another person. An overwhelming majority of my gay fantasies involve me topping ever since I realized I was into dudes too.
Top: Realised it because whenever my partner would go down on me or I was bottoming I found it incredibly painful, or my entire body froze up and I couldn't relax or enjoy it at all.
When i tried out both, i was like nahhh i'm a side.
Nice
if you have a small dick and a fantastic ass it's kind of decided for you...
Not necessarily. I'm a definite versatile guy. Some of the best sex I have ever had was a few times with guys with a small dick that loved to top or be versatile.
oh well DM me if you're fit and fancy getting shagged
Well, I doubt I'm what most people would consider fit. I just turned 64, and have gotten a little bit of an old man bod. Not overweight, or anything, just a little bit of a belly. I hate it, a bit after a big surgery, it was there. I want a real boyfriend, not just a shag. Also seeing as you used that term, I'm willing to bet you are in a different country from me. I am in the USA. Still it was a nice invite.
yes, I'm in Europe and was joking in any case...not that much younger than yourself
I figured you were joking. I was sure you were from Europe. We just don't really use the term "Shagging", at all in the US.
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Yeah but what are you doing to do with 2 swords and no sheaths? I kid, but when it works it does feel great. I know a lot of guys who wouldn’t want a sword anywhere near their scabbard and a lot of guys who have wonderful sword but never want to use it. Key to happiness is find someone who clicks with you!
Back in the 70's when I came out there was no shortage of men who wanted nothing to do with "sheath" sex. They bonded and had fun in "other" ways.
Sounds fun. *It’s only gay if you sheath a sword!*
In 1975 we had more than one kinda sheath. Furthermore, the desire to sheath wasn't a measure of our gayness....
Everything with me is chemistry. But typically, I don't have the dick em down attitude. Having said that, it's been 4, going on 5 years since I've fucked at all.
I don't even know how anyone could be gay and not innately their position. I knew I was vers because every guy that liked me and vice versa was butch vers. I've never really been into tops and bottoms.
I honestly don't know, I've just always had that urge to take a man inside me
I fucked a guy and felt like I was born to do this: pumping my seeds into men.
so i’ve been dreaming about having a guy to lead my through the fun, who would be on top and give me affection since primary school😩🙌✨ protection and stuff lol. but i do get attracted to the idea of topping at times, so i guess i’m a vers bottom then
Tried topping and didn't enjoy it. Tried bottoming and didn't enjoy it. But I always found myself wanting to bottom again. Eventually I relaxed more and enjoyed bottoming. Tried topping again and still didn't like it. I never get the same satisfaction out of anything that I do from bottoming. Even using a dildo is more satisfying than fapping for me.
I haven’t had much experience other than topping because there’s no prep and there’s no pain. However, I’ve been slowly teased and fucked by a dildo and I loved the helpless submissive feeling
I tried both. And I found out that it depends on whether I have an emotional connection or not. If it's just casual sex or even a hookup, I'd rather top; if I have feelings for him and there's a safe space for me to show vulnerability, I'll love to bottom.
I thought I was alone in this! Same here. Casual sex top, when in love—> love and need to bottom
I started as a bottom cuz I felt like I was one, then I had a boyfriend for 4 years and the last year he wanted to try bottoming so we started experimenting that. After we broke up I kinda enjoy being a top and bottoming became less appealing to me tho I still do it if the guy's really hot. I think of myself as vers now 🤷🏽
I topped a guy n it was amazing. Then again I’ve never really being interested in bottoming. Like I’ve never delivered played with my ass idk it just doesn’t interest me. I’ve bottom for guys before but not really into it. I also don’t think all the douching is not worth it since I’m not into it. Also I read a lot of subreddit where guys always wanted to have a dick inside them but for me I always wanted to put my dick inside a guy since like puberty.
My size
I've always fantasized about being the one doing the fucking, even when I was pretty young lmao. If I saw cute boys in my school the fantasy was for me to fuck them. Was never really even a question for me.
Real
Internal bleeding
I hate it when a hand around my hole. I don't like when I gave a head. I felt great while I topped I felt happy while my dick sucked. welp....
I was in 6th grade and I saw a friend of mine with a huge cock, he was jerking. He didn't bother me watching him and continued. I wanted to bottom so bad for him though I didn't know the real meaning much by that time, but for weeks I dreamed about showing him my ass...
After my first experience dating and bottoming was so bad, in college, it took 15yrs to date guys again. I only top now and make sure to treat guys better than I was treated.
When I first started watching porn I just knew I wanted to be the guy getting fucked. No idea why, or what drew me to it. ‘Twas pure instinct lol.
“Like many of us someone decided it for me” wtf worst assumption I’ve ever seen of gays what kind of post is this people do what they like just be gay and fuck, we choose on our own your life is your own
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Lol
Im verse and this might sound very shallow but my desire to top or bottom depends on the other person’s physical features.
I started off thinking I was a bottom until I did it, from there I was a Dom vers/top for years until I had a divorce then I become a sub vers/bttm and a Dom when I top. Reading this, I don't think was helpful... Maybe it means that sometimes it's more dictated in what you enjoy? For me I was over being in control so being submissive in the bedroom became attractive to me 😂
Had a prostate exam, didn’t like it
I’ve never had it, one finger or two? 😂 I was thinking of a “fletch” scene.
Almost every guy friend I had growing up wanted to fuck my butt. It was my favorite way to get off. And still love it!
At the age of 17. It was a role that was just given to me really. My bf was my first sex partner. He didn't like being bottom, so I became the bottom. I already had some experience because I would finger bang myself to masturbate. I haven't really topped since then. Maybe if I top more, I'll be a verse, but I enjoy being bottom. It's what I'm used to.
I guess people come to realization during random events, I thought that I'm top, but after few meetings with one dude I realized that I really like both and being versatile is the best overall.
I’ve never fantasized about sticking my dick in a man. I’ve always imagined being more submissive like I’ll imagine myself sucking dick or taking it rather than giving before I even had sex with men. When I first started having sex with men it was always me taking it. When I finally tried to top it just didn’t work. I get soft fast and it doesn’t arouse me. I’d compare topping to sexually fantasizing about a woman. It just doesn’t do anything for me.
just enjoyed being the more submissive one I guess
Whenever I watched straight porn (before I knew I wasn’t straight) and then when I watched gay porn, I realized how much I loved the way a dick sliding inside a hole looked. I always wanted to be that hole. I used to tell my friends that if I were a girl, I’d be letting so many guys hit it, but of course I have my standards. Something about being submissive and pleasing a man directly by letting him use your hole drives me crazy.
I once met someone who was versatile, asked him if I could top him. Voilà. Indeed, it can be daunting to ask someone to top or bottom for you, but there’s nothing to worry.
Depends on the guy, for me. I can do both.
I struggle to keep an erection with a condom - from a diamond cutter as I'm opening the packet, to pushing a marshmallow through a keyhole seconds later - and by struggle I've only managed to stay hard on entry a leper's handful of times with the woman I lost my virginity to (and later married).
I tried both. It turned out I like both.
Like everything else in life: you try it and experience it and then you gradually find out what you like best
Ok litterally my process, "Hmmmm, topping is really nice but what about bottoming" *sticks a old hairbrush handle in my ass* "Ah so I'm a verse this feels nice"
I swore up and down when i first came out i was strictly bottom and soon after i tried topping i figured out i’m verse top and RARELY bottom. it was really nice to finally test the waters. i had the notion in my head that since i was more fem i was damned to be a bottom like a prison sentence or something.
Before my first sex experience, i just assume that i am a bottom guy based on my personality. However, when i watch porn, imagining myself as a top also turns me on. Now that i have few sex experiences (both top and bottom), i think im a vers bottom guy because i didn't feel pleasure when i topped. But this doesn't mean i didn't enjoy it.
I had sex 1st time when I was 7 with a marine with a large cock. And after 6 years of sex with him I was a bottom and have been ever since.
Please tell me that's a typo...
No it’s not a typo and I would say he was at least 8-9 inches and very thick. I use to go to elementary school with cum dripping out my butt. I thought I was peeing on myself. My grandmother finally found out when I was in 6 grade because I had a sore on my rectum and was walking strange. I was a bottom to a couple of guys on my football team one was the QB. They fucked me every day from 10th grade til I graduated from college. Both or married with kids now. They didn’t know about each other . I learned how to take a really big cock .
I just like to fuck. I could live without bottoming.
Total bottom here i knew it from the first time I was with a man!
Muscle testing research
You just know
I wanted things to be easy/convenient so I had hoped I'd be vers and thus not have to worry about which the other guy was/preferred as I'd just do the other. Worked out nicely for me.
Like both but since I am a bit passive I like it when some one else take control and they usually end up topping
I had a bad experience and I'm afraid to be penetrated?
I'm more naturally a bottom but would def want to top sometimes. It's just something else you can do with our equipment set. Being at least a little vers seems like you get the most bang for your buck
I have a hard time finishing when I top. Bottoming hurts and I ...ummm ... have IBS. So, yeah. That's that. But also I'm married so I'm not actually having sex anyways.
I feel it in my bones
I've tried to bottom repeatedly and the best it ever felt was slight discomfort. There's no pleasure involved, so I'm a top.
Only topped for the first two years cause I knew I’d like to put my dick in a guys butt lmao and then tried bottoming to see if I liked it and it’s hit or miss for me so figured makes me a verse top lmao
I didn't like the idea of bottoming to people I didn't know, soni topped, after being a relationship I'm more vers
Whenever I watched porn of any kind I image myself as the receiving end so it kinda came naturally to me. I used to be into girls but not anymore so ever since that I just enjoy bottoming only pretty much