Those topics are always crazy because theres at least one very loud mouth person that makes a five minute video detailing their obviously abusive relationship
Dating out. Black women dating out. Black women dating in. Dating among black women. Black. Dating. Women. I'm so tired of it. Like, why can't it just be: Go where you are loved and appreciated, don't fetishize, don't accept fetishization, and mind your business? Why I gotta write an essay every time I find a non-black person cute? Why I gotta justify if I want to be with a black man?
Edit: LOL! Thank you for the award <3.
* Celebrity gossip
* Men
* Random ass questions in titles like like "Why do XYZ?" or "How come ABC?", girl we have no damn clue why life be this way!
* Threads with the first sentence: "so I saw on Tiktok/Twitter/Instagram--" please stop treating random posts from strangers as gospel and dragging their brain dead takes here.
Ahem.
- Sexxy Redd
- Tyla is black. Tyla is not black.
- White men are fetishizing us
- Black men hate us
- My boyfriend doesn’t like dark skin girls
- I’m not black. My boyfriend said xyz about dark skin girls
- black women don’t want to be mothers
- there’s nothing wrong with being a black mother
- people hate 4c hair
- someone said xyz about my 4c hair
- how should I react to *insert obvious colorist/racist comment* that my brother/mother/significant other said
- how do yall feel about *insert sad balloon pop video*
I feel at the end of the day people should post what they want because there’s always going to be an audience for it and I’ll gladly just not contribute but it does get a little depressing to see certain topics ALWAYS gaining traction that have negative titles about being black.
Gay ass me comes here, and these threads are a dark reminder that sexuality isn’t a choice, otherwise we wouldn’t be having 513 of these posts a week from other women.
Lol like I said people should always feel free to post what they want especially when it comes to looking for emotional support.
But when you refresh the app and you see it everyday, it can definitely have a different effect on someone else who’s either struggling with a scarcity dating mindset or has low self esteem pertaining to their blackness.
Maybe we can start using trigger warning categories as titles lol?
TW: Boyfriend’s offensive comments
TW: His thoughts on my hair
TW: Self conscious and skin
Anything relating to Tyla, "if you're black and you like this activity you're anti black," and I'm tired of seeing folks mad because someone else didn't get married and they want them to, **submissive and dominant**, and 'what do you bring to the table.'
Variations of "Black women are so mean to me/Why don't Black women uplift each other". We aren't monoliths and a lot of Black women will treat you as any other person. If they're mean to you, they're probably mean to other non-Black people too.
Debates around black women having kids.
I want all women to do what works for them, but it feels like when the topic comes up, people can’t discuss it without being insulting to “the other side.” Plenty of women choose not to have children and are happy. Plenty of other women choose to have children and are *also* happy! You can choose either path and have happiness. You don’t need to defend your decision by insulting people who made a different decision 🗣️
Most of these men aren’t high value. In my opinion a man can’t be high value unless he makes above 6 figures, is not in debt, own his own home, no record, no kids, isn’t a cheater, no community D with a low body count. And of course is attractive. If he isn’t those he isn’t value.
Honestly from what i’ve seen that poor girl just wanna play basketball and mind her business, it’s everybody else trying to spin narratives on her for either love and hate
Oh yeah no hate on her she's probably so over it. But I would like for them to show other games and talk about some other players, you know? I don't blame her at all.
-Interracial relationships
-bbl’s
-bisexual men
-the validity of trans people but especially trans women
-Chris brown
-How biracial people choose to ID themselves
Edit: weave vs natural hairstyles
Who’s black and who’s not black, the racial identities of mixed race celebrities. I just get so tired. Can black people just accept some people are mixed race and move on? We don’t have to claim everyone as black, mixed race people exist. Can we stop discussing artists racial identities and just discuss their art? It’s so tiring. (Ex: the conversation surrounding Tyla, Ice Spice)
Anything having to do with dating outside the race…or having white friends…
The worst is the why don’t black men like me…why are black women unattractive…or why do I hate myself and what’s wrong with doing that?— all that self hating stuff. I feel for those sisters but it has to be a better way to ask. It’s to the point where IM starting to feel bad from reading all that negativity.
Yeah like maybe there needs to be a separate running thread for something like that because I can understand looking for people to talk to about that, especially if you’re in a predominantly white area, but it’s a fucking drag
Posts about us not being ‘conventionally attractive’. You can still be gorgeous and not conventionally attractive. You can be overall unattractive and be conventionally attractive. Black women are beautiful periodt!
Bonnets in the airport/store/outside. I do not care.
Hard wig/soft life. My god shut up. It’s corny!!
Those stupid balloon TikTok’s.
SexxyRed.
“My white bf says the n-word should I break up with him” idk girl you tell me!
“Feminine energy”
Edit: Natural Hair vs Weaves/Wigs. Also debates on what works for natural hair. Only you know what works best for the hair that grows out of YOUR head.
•Black men don't want/ like/love black women
• Who pays on a first date
•Any debates surrounding the validity of ' The Predate' such as 'coffee', and whatever else.
•Anything baby mama/ daddy related
• Who comes first, your wife or mother
1. Anything that has to do with black women's desirability
2. "I can't find a good black man/forever alone" dating posts
3. "I won't dump my racist white boyfriend but I'll waste your time by asking for advice I won't follow" posts
Literally anything about why Black men do anything.
GIRL WE DONT KNOW WE ARE NOT CIS MEN?!
If you don't know break up with him and bring us a funny story about it.
I mean I talk about dating, sports, random celebrity shit, books, the news, work in my day to day life. I feel like that's all the things I see here (minus the sports, we could talk about more sports).
There is no got damn cookout, so stop inviting folks.
And even IF there was a cookout, who TF appointed you in charge of the guest list?
People who problem aren't even invited themselves are extending plus ones...STAAHP!!!!
The state of dating in our community. Most of them are colorist, want 50/50, don’t value marriage or anything of value so give it a rest 😂. Accept the truth and move on. If you can find a good bm then good for you but don’t put all your faith in bm only especially if you have traditional values. Plus don’t go around thinking other men are better just because they’re not black. Discern all men by character.
Anything about dating, men, masculine women and feminine men, “how to be in your feminine and submissive”, the “black/white wife/husband effect”, any black guy trying to tell black women how to date, guys and those scenarios of “if your mom and wife called both in an accident, who would you go to first”, also those weird cuckholding scenarios that help nobody and just come off as bitter…
Anything pertaining to relationships. Please just do what works for you and your partner. If going 50/50 works for y’all then do that. If your partner being the sole provider and you being a stay at home mom/wife/dad/husband/spouse works for yall then do that. But for the love of all things holy stop trying to shame people for what works for their relationship.
Street interviews.
Money vs love. If you want to be a gold digger, go ahead but be honest about it. Some people do want to date for love. They are not a "pick me" or setting women back for it.
Exposing your shitty significant others (especially if you're gonna defend them). It's embarrassing for both parties.
Recording dates. Again embarrassing for both parties and childish af.
I’m over any TikTok baby mama drama (Ekane, Morgan, etc)
I CAN’T with the constant who is lighter debate, who is caramel vs butter vs chocolate vs brownie
I am also over the over consumption of products and aggressive marketing strategies that only push out wigs/bundles, BBL dresses, and turmeric soap
Especially w reality tv I see tweets like “so and so realized they weren’t THAT type of ✋🏾”
Not ppl still stereotyping diff types of black ppl. PLEASE. ENOUGH.
Anything pertaining to what others do in their relationships or household…example: 50/50 on bills etc 🙄 Note:do what works best for YOU ❤️
Those topics are always crazy because theres at least one very loud mouth person that makes a five minute video detailing their obviously abusive relationship
Buuuuut....I love him dearly. We've been together for 1246 years. I can fix him. Things can change. It won't be like this forever. 🤡😂🤡😂🤡😭
THIS!!! Hang it up.
I was coming to comment this!!!
This the one fr
Insecurity about who likes us or not.
Yess this one!!! I’m sick of it
Please stop with “they don’t like us” who TF cares. Please live your life with Joy and love in your heart.
Thank you! Please give a rest.
💯
Yessss im so tiredd 😭 like girl, just live your life. stop worrying about what group “likes” us or not
Dating out. Black women dating out. Black women dating in. Dating among black women. Black. Dating. Women. I'm so tired of it. Like, why can't it just be: Go where you are loved and appreciated, don't fetishize, don't accept fetishization, and mind your business? Why I gotta write an essay every time I find a non-black person cute? Why I gotta justify if I want to be with a black man? Edit: LOL! Thank you for the award <3.
* Celebrity gossip * Men * Random ass questions in titles like like "Why do XYZ?" or "How come ABC?", girl we have no damn clue why life be this way! * Threads with the first sentence: "so I saw on Tiktok/Twitter/Instagram--" please stop treating random posts from strangers as gospel and dragging their brain dead takes here.
Heavy on the last bullet. I come here to learn, damnit!
I usually check out the moment I see a "I saw a _____." posts
white obsession subjects (interracial dating, biracials blackness,doing a “white” activity etc.)
No because fr
"I'm tired of being called pretty for a black girl " "Guy I'm dating says I'm the first black girl he's dated" "White people ask about my hair"
😂
diatribes about how yt ppl don’t like black ppl from tik tok 🙄
[удалено]
And banned. Post on your main yt lurker.
I can't breathe 😂
It's open season on the seasoning-less lurkers. No judge, no jury. 
We have one of the best subs on reddit. Because of jail.
aw man whaaaat? i’m so mad I missed it! I had time today too 😔
Me too 😭
I’m so tired of it
interracial relationships and some random celeberty
Ahem. - Sexxy Redd - Tyla is black. Tyla is not black. - White men are fetishizing us - Black men hate us - My boyfriend doesn’t like dark skin girls - I’m not black. My boyfriend said xyz about dark skin girls - black women don’t want to be mothers - there’s nothing wrong with being a black mother - people hate 4c hair - someone said xyz about my 4c hair - how should I react to *insert obvious colorist/racist comment* that my brother/mother/significant other said - how do yall feel about *insert sad balloon pop video* I feel at the end of the day people should post what they want because there’s always going to be an audience for it and I’ll gladly just not contribute but it does get a little depressing to see certain topics ALWAYS gaining traction that have negative titles about being black.
The "My boyfriend hates me for being black" shows up here once a day and twice on Tuesdays. Almost made me unsub.
Gay ass me comes here, and these threads are a dark reminder that sexuality isn’t a choice, otherwise we wouldn’t be having 513 of these posts a week from other women.
Facts.
Lol like I said people should always feel free to post what they want especially when it comes to looking for emotional support. But when you refresh the app and you see it everyday, it can definitely have a different effect on someone else who’s either struggling with a scarcity dating mindset or has low self esteem pertaining to their blackness. Maybe we can start using trigger warning categories as titles lol? TW: Boyfriend’s offensive comments TW: His thoughts on my hair TW: Self conscious and skin
Allllll of these! Yes! Yes! Yes! Please stop! 🙏🏾
Anything relating to Tyla, "if you're black and you like this activity you're anti black," and I'm tired of seeing folks mad because someone else didn't get married and they want them to, **submissive and dominant**, and 'what do you bring to the table.'
Hygiene Olympics
This is the most annoying. Y'all really taking a shower every four hours???
😂😂😂
THIS ONE RIGHT HERE
Variations of "Black women are so mean to me/Why don't Black women uplift each other". We aren't monoliths and a lot of Black women will treat you as any other person. If they're mean to you, they're probably mean to other non-Black people too.
interracial dating and who pays for what😭 i’m done
Interracial dating. Sexxy Red. Tyla. Them 50v1 dating shows. ***GIVE IT A FAWKING REST ALREADDDYYY‼️‼️‼️***
Sexyy Red
😂😂
You read my mind I was about to comment this lmaooo
I just discovered this Sexyy Red person! Sometimes the Internet drops little pearls into my lap!!!
Debates around black women having kids. I want all women to do what works for them, but it feels like when the topic comes up, people can’t discuss it without being insulting to “the other side.” Plenty of women choose not to have children and are happy. Plenty of other women choose to have children and are *also* happy! You can choose either path and have happiness. You don’t need to defend your decision by insulting people who made a different decision 🗣️
What black men are doing in their dating lives
High value men 🙄 bm and ww 🙄 pick me’s 🙄
High value men! Such a gross topic
Most of these men aren’t high value. In my opinion a man can’t be high value unless he makes above 6 figures, is not in debt, own his own home, no record, no kids, isn’t a cheater, no community D with a low body count. And of course is attractive. If he isn’t those he isn’t value.
Welp, I don't need a high value man when I'm apparently high value by my damn self based on these criteria 💁🏾♀️
I personally believe there are more high value women then men lol! And trust me likely you are high value and only date men on your level
There are many more women!! And i wish these high value women would stay far away from loser parasitic men who steal their light.
Agreed
Men vs. women topics. 🙄
Interracial dating, colorism, TikTok comments
Bear vs Man debate every time I scroll on TikTok I see a bunch of 40+ year olds debating it like omg who cares
Dinner with Jay Z or $500,000 Caitlyn Clark
HEAVY ON THE CAITLIN CLARK! I just wanna watch basketball and I don't want to always watch the Indiana Fever!
Honestly from what i’ve seen that poor girl just wanna play basketball and mind her business, it’s everybody else trying to spin narratives on her for either love and hate
Oh yeah no hate on her she's probably so over it. But I would like for them to show other games and talk about some other players, you know? I don't blame her at all.
Someone brought her up the other day and I just kept saying “who??” Idaf about her or most sports. Talk to Stephen A Smith. Not me
“Black Americans don’t know where they’re from” diaspora wars
It’s ok to include people of other races in your dating pool. It’s also ok to only date within your race.
50/50 convos 🤦🏾♀️
Mhm. I was about to write this.
Not every month but recently the "what kind of vibes do I give off"/"what is your perception of me when you see me" posts have worn me ragged.
They in multiple subs with very little member overlap, too. I cannot escape lol.
-Interracial relationships -bbl’s -bisexual men -the validity of trans people but especially trans women -Chris brown -How biracial people choose to ID themselves Edit: weave vs natural hairstyles
I’m currently crying in my bathroom in a tangled mess with a curved needle sticking out of my head so I welcome the weave conversations today!
lol yes
Interracial relationships. FFS it’s 2024.
Dating shows involving black women or that stupid ahh balloon pop show. That shit is brain rot
Had no idea what this was. Went to look it up. On episode 2 😅
Nooo get out while u can😭
What black women do with their hair.
Who’s black and who’s not black, the racial identities of mixed race celebrities. I just get so tired. Can black people just accept some people are mixed race and move on? We don’t have to claim everyone as black, mixed race people exist. Can we stop discussing artists racial identities and just discuss their art? It’s so tiring. (Ex: the conversation surrounding Tyla, Ice Spice)
Anything having to do with dating outside the race…or having white friends… The worst is the why don’t black men like me…why are black women unattractive…or why do I hate myself and what’s wrong with doing that?— all that self hating stuff. I feel for those sisters but it has to be a better way to ask. It’s to the point where IM starting to feel bad from reading all that negativity.
Yeah like maybe there needs to be a separate running thread for something like that because I can understand looking for people to talk to about that, especially if you’re in a predominantly white area, but it’s a fucking drag
Yep. We need a pinned or weekly post for support on those topics. . .I joined the Happy Black Women sub and muted this one because it's too much
Oh I didn’t realize there was one! Off to find it! Sorry but I just can’t possibly care where a hypothetical man might rate my attractiveness
The reasons why BM feel the need to express that they don't like BW. We don't give a fuck sir(s) 🤷🏽♀️ Let it be and let us live!
I left Twitter months ago and it’s still on the same bullshit😒 like do black ppl talk about anything else on that app ?
Posts about us not being ‘conventionally attractive’. You can still be gorgeous and not conventionally attractive. You can be overall unattractive and be conventionally attractive. Black women are beautiful periodt! 
The idea of conventional attractiveness itself needs to be up down the garbage disposal atp.
Exactly because it makes no sense, therefore being trash. 
The posts that basically start in medias res with zero context and just come off as rambling nonsense.
Diaspora Wars, feat. Tyla & Sexxy Red live at the BET Awards 🙄
Bonnets in the airport/store/outside. I do not care. Hard wig/soft life. My god shut up. It’s corny!! Those stupid balloon TikTok’s. SexxyRed. “My white bf says the n-word should I break up with him” idk girl you tell me! “Feminine energy” Edit: Natural Hair vs Weaves/Wigs. Also debates on what works for natural hair. Only you know what works best for the hair that grows out of YOUR head.
TikTok Debates : -Black wife effect 💯 -Black husband effect ❌ -White husband effect ❓ -White wife effect ⁉️ -No husband effect 💯 Wyt corp America : -Diversify and inclusion or to ban diversity and inclusion
•Black men don't want/ like/love black women • Who pays on a first date •Any debates surrounding the validity of ' The Predate' such as 'coffee', and whatever else. •Anything baby mama/ daddy related • Who comes first, your wife or mother
Variations of “everyone hates Black women” and how to get “xyz non Black race/ethnicity” to date me.
Interracial dating…it’s giving boring 😫
So tired of the “how can I get an invite to the cookout; I looooove Black people; yall are so cool !!! “
1. Anything that has to do with black women's desirability 2. "I can't find a good black man/forever alone" dating posts 3. "I won't dump my racist white boyfriend but I'll waste your time by asking for advice I won't follow" posts
Tyla’s racial identity. Folks either gon listen to her music or not.
The ethnocentric conversation regarding Tyla. Not really a conversation but I’m sick sick sick of the 20v1 balloon popping fiasco. It’s so pervasive.
Relationships/ dating - leave me alone w this
😭this made me wanna delete all my socials, all of this stuff is on my Twitter and I don't even interact with that stuff
sUbMiSsIoN
Body counts.
Anything about non black people that literally pointless to keep bringing up
Literally anything about why Black men do anything. GIRL WE DONT KNOW WE ARE NOT CIS MEN?! If you don't know break up with him and bring us a funny story about it. 
I’m late to the party but people still be talking about how to properly clean the meats? Seasoning in the sink? Etc
Biracial & black not being the same thing. 😐
"ghetto black women", men, anything revolving around men. just give it up. femininity, lgbt. like im over it
Literally anything we talk about. They’re all counterproductive and stupid
Well, what should we talk about ...?
What does anyone else talk about? Surely they don’t have gender wars 24/7
I mean I talk about dating, sports, random celebrity shit, books, the news, work in my day to day life. I feel like that's all the things I see here (minus the sports, we could talk about more sports).
All of the comments below👇
There is no got damn cookout, so stop inviting folks. And even IF there was a cookout, who TF appointed you in charge of the guest list? People who problem aren't even invited themselves are extending plus ones...STAAHP!!!!
Ozempic
The state of dating in our community. Most of them are colorist, want 50/50, don’t value marriage or anything of value so give it a rest 😂. Accept the truth and move on. If you can find a good bm then good for you but don’t put all your faith in bm only especially if you have traditional values. Plus don’t go around thinking other men are better just because they’re not black. Discern all men by character.
Anything centered around men. Relationships, dating, being attractive, etc.
Anything about dating, men, masculine women and feminine men, “how to be in your feminine and submissive”, the “black/white wife/husband effect”, any black guy trying to tell black women how to date, guys and those scenarios of “if your mom and wife called both in an accident, who would you go to first”, also those weird cuckholding scenarios that help nobody and just come off as bitter…
Kendrick, Drake, J.Cole. I'm OVER IT. 😭😭 The songs are great, now let it go plsss
Making a man a plate first 😒
Diaspora, 50/50, being a stay at home wife/GF
Interracial dating 😭 every god damn day
Anything pertaining to relationships. Please just do what works for you and your partner. If going 50/50 works for y’all then do that. If your partner being the sole provider and you being a stay at home mom/wife/dad/husband/spouse works for yall then do that. But for the love of all things holy stop trying to shame people for what works for their relationship.
Diaspora wars.... enough, I've had enough. Atp, I click "not interested" on tiktok every single time.
the tyla race thing. i’m sick to the back teeth of it.
To be clear … are these topics we ARE NOT to bring up here ? Don’t boo me … I’m new … lol
I love the irony of this post because you’re reopening the conversation and not “[giving] it a rest”😂
Tyla!!
Y’all have me gagged… go off!!! What you wanna talk about instead… just looking to make a suggestions list 👀
Fatherless children but being the reason for the fatherless children.
Anything about yt male validation- I immediately click off
Interracial dating. If you love them and they love you. That’s all that matters. Fucking next please.
Desirability
Colorism
How is the job search going? 🥹🥲
Street interviews. Money vs love. If you want to be a gold digger, go ahead but be honest about it. Some people do want to date for love. They are not a "pick me" or setting women back for it. Exposing your shitty significant others (especially if you're gonna defend them). It's embarrassing for both parties. Recording dates. Again embarrassing for both parties and childish af.
Black women’s hair choices. Femininity coaches/life coaches as if we’re inherently flawed. Anything baby mama or baby daddy related.
“Should the bill be split evenly amongst a party that goes out to eat or should everyone pay for their own items?”
I’m over any TikTok baby mama drama (Ekane, Morgan, etc) I CAN’T with the constant who is lighter debate, who is caramel vs butter vs chocolate vs brownie I am also over the over consumption of products and aggressive marketing strategies that only push out wigs/bundles, BBL dresses, and turmeric soap
Black jobs … cause tf?! It’s the same ole ignorant BS repackaged.
Especially w reality tv I see tweets like “so and so realized they weren’t THAT type of ✋🏾” Not ppl still stereotyping diff types of black ppl. PLEASE. ENOUGH.
"Do I look masculine?" conversations or ways to look feminine.
Haven’t seen this one yet. Bashing others about their investment portfolios and tax brackets lol only seen this on Twitter though …. And. Threads..