I wear makeup maybe once every two or three years, so yeah, I went on dates without makeup. (All my OLD photos were makeupless, so guys knew what they were getting. I assume that men who considered makeup a must just didn't date me.)
These dark circles ALWAYS get dressed up for first dates. Future dates? Sure, maybe. But seriously, I have hereditary dark circles and don't feel very secure in public without concealer over them.
Yes. I don’t usually wear makeup, so that included some dates. My OLD pictures were also without makeup and without filters. My goal with those pics was not to attract as many matches as possible, but to show my real self and attract those for whom that would work.
Just be yourself and show up as you are! (Which means no makeup for now, and if you read the amount of toxic chemicals they include, maybe for ever…)
And that's exactly the mindset people should have. Way too many people (usually men in seems) focus way too much on the number of matches. They should be focused on the quality of matches and if these people are actually compatible or not.
I can't, and I'm not afraid to admit it. I also don't wear a ton; a little concealer, eye color (for funsies), and mascara. I'm incredibly blonde and incredibly white. If I don't wear just a little bit of makeup, I have no discernable features.
Can relate to the auto-immune thing. May you and your docs have clarity and the ability to communicate well.
I had to go makeup free one winter. I felt invisible, which is better than attention for the wrong reasons, I guess.
As a fair-skinned, pale lashed strawberry blonde myself, even just curling my lashes (without mascara) makes me feel and look better (I heat the curler up for a few seconds with the hairdryer for better results)! You may also be able to make your own beetroot and vaseline lip tint. That kind of thing is all I tend to use anyway but makes a difference for me.
Not really. I like me regardless, but I have an avatar that I wear in public, and it does give me more confidence even if it doesn't change my looks much. One tip I do have is to stay hydrated. I couldn't eat well, but staying hydrated does keep your skin looking okay. Also, I can't say enough good things about Vanicream moisturizer. It's cheap, hypoallergenic, and made me feel better about fine lines and wrinkles.
Never! Full face of makeup for all first dates. I like how I look that way the best, and that is the face I show to men I want to attract. Subsequent sex dates still get makeup, but a slightly modified version
I would, I barely ever wear any anyway. If by some mishap I ended up on a man who expected women to be dolled up regularly best it be over before it began anyway!
Maybe in a later stage . When I was younger I always went for a full face including bold lipstick, contour , eyeshadow and eyeliner. But these days it’s just a little bit of skin tint to cancel the redness in my face and color for my brows. I can ditch the skin tint but my brows will always be colored in.
I wear minimal makeup on my face but like to do my eye makeup, especially on dates. I just feel more confident. I also have an autoimmune disorder but found a few lines of makeup that are free from all of the dangerous chemicals. Thrive causmetics and Ogee are the two that I use. The Environmental Working Group also has a database of personal care products with toxicity ratings which is a super helpful resource. At the end of the day makeup is a personal choice, if you feel confident and attractive without it great, if you like a little boost then there are non-toxic options out there. Good luck :)
I don't wear makeup. The guys I've dated like that.
I guess if you're a regular user who will go back to it, then it might be more awkward to date now, since guys won't see you as you usually present.
I have never worn makeup, am happy with how I look, and have had no complaints from dates.
My twin sister can’t leave the house without a full face of makeup, is self conscious and unhappy about her appearance, and has no complaints from dates.
Go forth and be confident that you are enough as you are.
😆 When I try to boost her up she says that I don’t ‘need’ makeup whereas she does (she is better looking than me without any masking!)
Insecurity is a bugger!
There are non allergenic brow powder colours and non chemical lip products available, they might work for you if you are desperate, but I bet you look just fine without, it just feels weird when you are used to adding so much definition.
Consider that men don’t use any makeup and move through the world with absolute confidence, your smile and personality will project your beauty.
> I bet you look just fine without, it just feels weird when you are used to adding so much definition.
That's about where I'm at right now. I don't feel ugly or awful, but I do feel quite bare.
Personally I have really pale skin with redness around my nose. So I wear foundation daily. It also contains an spf. I feel weird leaving the house without it and have never dated without foundation
Always. I’d rather they see me the way I am, rather than they think I’m more than I am and then I’d feel pressure to always wear a makeup face when I see them. Plus at our age, any guy who would reject me cos I’m not wearing makeup, can self select himself out the door :)
I don’t really wear much makeup…..mascara, brush my eyebrows, and a bit of tinted gloss. That’s it. If I’m going out in the evening, I might throw on some eyeliner or a little blush/highlighter but that’s it. My skin is really sensitive so I’ve definitely gone out bare faced on dates, especially if they’re active dates. I do feel like it only works if you have good skin and don’t look tired, etc. without makeup because it’s a date so you still want to look good.
Yeah, the first date I went on with my partner…we went hiking outdoors in spring and I didn’t wear any makeup. I also just threw in a ponytail on day old hair and whatever hiking gear. The right guy really doesn’t care about any of the fancy stuff, though I did doll up for the second date.
I have actually gone on more dates without my makeup and hair done because I don’t want anyone to fall in love with a false perception of who I really am. I can and do get dolled up, but it’s not all the time and feel like presenting myself as that kind of person is bullshit. 😅
ETA: my profile photos always have pictures of me also without makeup and showing my natural roots and the gray hair that’s under the color I dye it. It’s the real me and I want someone who’s into that.
OP, I *also* contend with auto-immune issues, which, unbeknownst to me, means my skin woke up one day and violently protested makeup of *any* kind. It can definitely be maddening.
On my online profile, I include *unfiltered* photographs only, and of those, about 1/2 are makeup-free. My condition can cause a skin "flare", and my arms and neck and cheeks can get more "rosey" than *anyone* would like, so, I humbly (if a bit bitterly) included 2 pics of *those* days, too.
To your points in some of your follow-up comments? Yes, I did feel quite "naked" or "incomplete", at first. Even people in my own family or closer social circle would ask, initially, "You okay? Are you not feeling great?". It took some time to realize that going from a full face of makeup, to nothing, just on its own, can garner those "What's different about you?"-type of reactions. I know now that it's not specifically that I *looked bad* or *tired*, just *different*.
Now? I get those same quizzical reactions when I *do* don a full face of makeup 😁
After a few dates, and seeing people were chill and open just to be *in good company*, the fear factor dwindled, and I haven't thought much more about it.
I also second the staying hydrated and the vanicream suggestion. Great skin is a wonderfully palette, anyway, whether left au naturale or spiced up a bit - I can't speak enough about these two. Also, any nutrient-based skin care items that your doctors or dermatologist clears for your condition (even if used just weekly or less even) can be helpful.
I still "reinforce" my light eyebrows and use a bit of mascara from time to time, but the longer I went without makeup (and the sky didn't fall!?! 😁), the better I both took care of my skin and felt confident within it.
As a side tip: when my Mom received her cancer diagnosis, part of her care was this awesome "wig workshop" and makeup class that women relied upon to learn techniques to how their skin responded to chemo and radiation, among other treatments. In my late 20's at the time, I very rudely (and now embarrassingly) sat as an onlooker thinking, "If I'm concerned about my makeup when I hear I have cancer, shoot me...". But that class was *so* much more. Fast forward 15 years, and I've been a part of similar workshops with our community, but for women with chronic health issues. Even online-only groups can be a great resource for the way different things on our body react to chronic health issues (for me, my teeth were greatly affected by the nutrition issues with which I was contending, and we located a specialist who has helped immensely). Perhaps there is one local to you or online where you could ask more targeted questions as they arise.
Good luck with your health journey...autoimmune diagnoses are not fun to attain and go so much smoother when your care team is on board. I hope you are blessed with a communicative and assertive team! 💜
I don’t know how I wore so much makeup in high school and my freshman year of college. I’m talking foundation, blush, etc.
As I became more confident with myself, I realized that I didn’t need all of that makeup. I now only wear eyeliner on my eyelids, mascara, and lip gloss.
Make skincare a priority, then maybe try some classic lashes and a tinted lip balm.
You didn't mention what your autoimmune disease is, but if feasible, you may want to look into Selena Gomez's Raw Beauty if you want to see if that's something that can work for you.
She has lupus, so her beauty line takes that into account. She also prioritizes accessibility in the functionality of the packaging.
I hate makeup! It makes me feel like my pores are suffocating.
If a guy can’t accept me bare faced, then he’s not the guy for me. I don’t have time for that bs
I usually wear very little make up. Some days I don't wear any. I would feel better if I wore at least a little bit for dates. I probably won't go on dates without make up.
Almost every time. I need to feel like myself on dates, not like I'm trying to be someone else. Otherwise, I'll never feel comfortable. The normal me wears very minimal makeup, so the date version of me does the same.
Ohhh no. Mostly because I'm going thru chemo and I've already lost my hair, most of my eyebrows, tho miraculously have retained my eyelashes! (So far.)
I don't bother with wigs. Will sometimes wear my Pink Floyd hat, rarely will tie up a paisley scarf. Mostly just flaunt the gleam, lol.
But makeup? Yeah, I kinda need that (even tho it's pretty basic and simple by necessity now) just to have the chutzpah to walk around like, what? I'm a bass player and this is my thing.
Also I'm 6' tall and thin, so I don't want to be called "sir," which happens.
Without it, I think the struggle of this is too clearly written on my face.
But then again, nobody is asking me out anyway. LOL
I've never worn makeup regularly in my life and have gone on many dates and have had many boyfriends. None of them cared. There's nothing about my appearance I have ever changed for a man, and I never will.
Yes. I'm taking a break from dating but the last one I went on I showed up with no makeup. I had also stopped dying my hair and had some grey roots peaking.
He asked me out for a second date too.
If you asked my ex-situationship he'd tell you I never wore makeup on a single date and even suggested I should wear it. I was like, dude I've worn makeup every single time I've seen you lol. So I guess I've nailed the no make up make up look.
My takeaway was wear whatever the F you want because these guys don't have a clue, do it for you. If you like to wear it and feel good in it, then do it. If not, then don't!
Yes, but I almost never wear make-up so all of my photos are me without make-up. I think if you're worried about it, you should include some photos on your profile without, then you'll look the same.
Mascara and brows used to be my must-haves haha. I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel a bit naked without them on but that's probably just habit talking 😅
It might take me a bit to get used to it but I could do it.
My partner sees me regularly without any makeup. I don’t mind at all. But we’re established and passed that.
Yes.
These comments are mostly people saying they never wear makeup anyways so I don't think that's what you're asking 😂
I love to wear makeup, I love getting dressed up, my profile photos are a mix of dressy to casual. I have absolutely gone on dates without any makeup. Makeup is an accessory, it goes with my outfit and my vibe for the activity.
Sometimes I feel insecure about it because I certainly am not a dewy youth anymore, but I expect my date to like me exactly the way I am, regardless of what I'm wearing.
I'm gonna buck the trend in this thread and say no, I would not. No shade on those of you that prefer your bare face though, and honestly a little dismayed by the amount of comments low key implying that wearing makeup somehow makes you less yourself/real/honest or high maintenance.
I enjoy the artistry and self expression that comes from artfully applied looks in both makeup and clothing. It's a tool I use to express myself or invoke a vibe I want to channel that day. Maybe it's a cozy rainy day and I wanna channel my inner comfy feels... There's a 'look' for that. Difficult deliverable I have to answer for in a meeting at work? There's a look for that. Feeling sassy and flirty and fun? There's a look for that. It's about embracing who I am in the moment, and how I want to project myself to the people around me.
Some people use music, some people use mantras or self talk, I use Looks Of Affirmation. My therapist would probably say it has to do with insecurity, but if a little M.A.C Viva Glam is all it takes to make me transition from feeling like a bag of ass when I crawl out of bed to feeling like I can kick down a door and rock this shit, then whatever.
It would be important for me to wear makeup and An Outfit on a date simply because that is part of who I am, and it helps the filtering process. If a man prefers a bare faced gal who doesn't spend all that much time in front of her open closet debating an outfit, then I'm not the girl he's looking for, and that's ok.
Edit: ooooh! I wonder if it's a 'tism thing for me? Like an aspect of *physical* masking. Imma have to ponder that! Definitely did not think this question would end up provoking so much thought! Thanks, OP!
I am the same way! I love clothes, shoes, makeup, the whole shebang. It is a self expression! Like you said, there is a 'look' for that!
If people want to judge me as a high maintenance, so be it. It's just who I am! Is it an insecurity? I don't know! I'm pretty secure and confident person and I don't have an issue with people seeing me without makeup. But at the same time, they would only get the chance to see me sans makeup before bed, lol.
Joking aside, I never understood the attitude/opinion that " *women wear/do makeup because they are insecure* ", or " *because of other women* " that one was always baffling to me, or " *they are high maintenance* ".
Maybe some people are. But not all of us! In my case, I grew up surrounded by women in my family who always loved fashion and paid attention to how they look. That was their style! Some peoples style is rocking that t-shirt and jeans, or yoga pants and ponytail. And some of us love to dress up because it's who we are, it's our style.
If I had a health issue and couldn't wear makeup, or god forbid high heels, ofcourse I would leave my house without any. Would I go on a date without makeup? I hate to say never, but probably never.
It's just who I am, it's my style!
I agree, it was a really thought provoking question!
46yr and don't wear make up at all. Not even lip stick. I will wear chapstick on a date. But I feel like a clown when I do wear make up and it never lasts long always have to touch it up. Yuck
As someone who now and then gets absolutely terrible eczema around my eyes (like a raccoon only red), I will forgo makeup when that happens. It looks terrible, but makeup just makes it worse. Life goes on. No one of consequence has ever had an issue.
I send makeup free selfies all the time. You do you! If they can’t be understanding of your special circumstances than they’re not for you. I’ve done makeup less first dates, like trails
I went on dates with my STBX husband bare faced but always felt uncomfortable because of my acne scars. I wouldn't wear the make up because I felt like it only emphasized more and because living in the southern US, it has a tendency to sweat off really easily in the summer. That being said, when I start dating again, I'm probably going to wear make up anyway for the dates until I feel safe enough around that person to be bare faced. I have a picture of myself without makeup on my Facebook dating profile and I can tell marked difference in number of likes vs my other dating profile. Which is pretty discouraging.
I’ve become way more lax so maybe now? But my routine was always light. I also have AID and I tend to always fill my eyebrows, use mascara and blush. But I’ve recently even stopped that on Zoom for work so maybe I would on a date. I like to feel a little dressy though.
Mascara will probably be my last hold out for a while. I used to do more, like under eye concealer and contouring, but I’ve found it doesn’t improve things anymore. I focus on moisturizing and sunscreen now.
I can't leave home without it, and I wish I could. I'm very fair, and without a bit of help, my eyelashes do not exist, and my eyebrows are blonde. I don't wear much at all. It's a little bit that makes me feel "ready" for the outside world.
Nope. I’m super pale and need a bit of color. I don’t wear much though, but I do like to look polished. I know lots of women who don’t wear make up. It’s personal preference.
I rarely wear makeup anymore. For special occasions really. I used to spend hours on doing my face and hair...now I'm happily in my goblin crone era. What you see is what you get.
Dating with no makeup would’ve been hard for me. I’m lacking a lot of confidence anyway and makeup helped a little. Still pretty minimal because I’m not super skilled. I did use pictures with my “everyday” face, which is bare faced with mascara. Very blonde lashes and I dye my brows.
It’s funny though because my boyfriend likes my face either way! I bet you’re beautiful without it and I wish you luck!
I rarely wear makeup anymore. I only put some on for special occasions like weddings or galas. I feel like a guy should see the face they might see in the morning after sleeping next to me and decide whether or not he wants to continue seeing my face. Lol
Well it’s your call. It’s probably good to include photos without makeup and if you match “he has seen it all”. Otherwise lots of women don’t wear make up, just do it.
Absolutely. Went on many a date without any makeup on. If we were going to do some activity that makeup didn't pair well with I went without. After all the many men I talked to about it, I found that the majority told me they actually prefer no makeup. That definitely helped me feel more comfortable
The only way I would go without is if my OLD photos were sans makeup and I would never do that. You risk being accused of bait and switch if the contrast is too great.
Of course! I don't wear a lot of makeup to begin with tho but if someone wants to meet for coffee, I'm not showing up in full Glam. Having nice hair, clean and classic clothing, and smelling good are probably more impactful than makeup
I rarely wear make up. I’m not sure men notice makeup to the point of being bothered by it’s absence? I could be wrong. I think women put on makeup and things like that for other women.
Sure, the only way I would go, as I never wear any make up. Gave it up a few years ago, eyes were too sensitive and it wasn't recommended. Didn't use it very often anyway.
Also, they would have to like my face, so makes sense too :)
It was very awkward at first though, I am blond and pale, so without makeup you don't really notice my eyebrows or eyelashes, it's like they don't even exist. Have always been a bit envious of dark haired people because of it :D
But if my eyes could take any chemicals at all, I would probably do as I used to, use the permanent eyelash die regularly, so I would have darker eyelashes almost always :)
If I would wear make up, probably would wear it during a date too.
Whatever feels right and makes you feel comfortable and more you. I don't think it's right to shame or judge women for wearing or not wearing make up. It's a personal choice.
I do wish both choices would be equally supported in society though. I don't pay much attention to it any more, but when I was younger it was so difficult to choose not to wear make up, make up was like... expected. Depends on a cultural background too,of course.
Always do. I don’t own any makeup. I just don’t care about that stuff, never really have. I’d rather sleep longer than wake up earlier and spend an hour+ to put makeup on. What you see is what you get with me. During the work week, I wake up, brush teeth and hair, put clothes on, and I’m out the door generally in less than 20 minutes.
Yes! I don’t wear makeup but I do love a great lip balm and I curl my eyelashes (no mascara). Eyebrow shaping is also really important to me so I go for an eyebrow wax every 3-4 weeks. If my date is unhappy with the natural look then I will happily move along.
I never wore make up in my life so I went to all my dates without make up.
Men who likes me likes women without make up.
The ones who fuss that I should put on make up, are not for me.
I'm a older guy and just don't understand the whole make up thing. Never have. Why would you coat that face with crap that is at the least unhealthy and at worst toxic. If a man showed up for a first date wearing a Halloween mask and refused to take it off the whole date how would you feel about that? That is how makeup feels to me.stronger with some less with others depending on how much has been applied. I personally want to see and know the real you.
But first dates are not supposed to be fancy affairs. They are meant to let you get to know a person. Likes,dislikes, compatibility.
If your looking for a serious relationship you could at least start out by not deceiving the person on your first date by hiding your true self. Be you! Never hide who you are and what you are about, that's b.s. . No offence but ladies like to have a face for everything anymore. Business face,meeting face, etc., etc.
As a disclaimer I have always been told I am different by women because I prefer all natural. Men talk, too! And most of the guys I know prefer little to no makeup also they just don't want to make it an issue as it's not worth the fight. But me I am to stupid to just go with the flow and let cosmetic company's sell ladies a bunch of crap they don't need. You are beautiful just how you are. Anybody who is fixated on looks over brains and attitude is pretty shallow in my opinion. As a guy I want to know everything about you,not who you wish you are. My opinion, doesn't count for much anymore but there it is.
I'm a man, but this is my take. I have dated women that don't wear makeup, I would date a woman in the future that doesn't wear makeup. The only woman I had actually started to see a future with since my divorce did not wear makeup. The person matters more than the makeup.
As a dude, I am deeply opposed to heavy makeup, and fake stuff like eyelash extensions.
Light and tasteful makeup that is well applied is fine, but not in any way a requirement.
I find women that are comfortable in their own skin super sexy. 😉
I skip cosmetics and fancy clothes on the first date ( though I love both and am bit of a fashion junkie) No one has ever complained nor mentioned it. I am great believer in being my bare bones self on first dates. No high fashion,no tricky contouring and rich lipstick. Just my every day attire and my daily face...
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Not even lip gloss or lipstick? I don’t have reasons that prevent it so I would wear at least a bit of lip color. If I had health concerns, I would leave it off without qualms. I might use something with natural dyes, if that’s allowed actually (eg. cherries to stain, for ex).
You sound similar to me when going out of the house. My grandmother raised me to “put some paint on the barn” before leaving the house -always.
If you haven’t checked out r/45PlusSkincare there may be nuggets of good info you could use. I’ve seen posts and comments re autoimmune things and mash ups of highly sensitive etc.
I have very pale, sensitive skin that’s prone to redness and it can make me feel self conscious. A few years ago I threw out all my makeup based on the expiration dates. Did research & only bought tinted hydrating serum/lightweight foundation, eye brow powder & a little neutral contour so I don’t look pale and sick. Takes me less than 5 mins. Tinted lip balm is always in my bag.
I don’t because it’s what makes me happy and comfortable & I want someone to see what they’re getting into from the beginning, which is no makeup, no fillers no Botox no nothing, take it or leave it. As far as makeup, I wouldn’t want someone to think it’s a regular occurrence or be surprised or disappointed when most days I’m without it. At the end of the day if someone is right for you they’re going to like you with or without it so go with what makes you happy and comfortable.
43f I don’t know how to apply make up, I never learned how so I never wear it. I also live in Florida so anything that is applied to my face tends to melt off anyway… (I do apply lotion and sunscreen)
I rarely, if ever, wear makeup. Like someone else mentioned, all photos are of me without makeup. Any dates I go on are without it. It has never been an issue. It'll just be a personal preference and what you're comfortable with.
I rarely wear makeup and if I do it's lip liner & gloss, mascara and maybe eyeliner. And I've definitely gone on dates without it and had a pleasantly surprised guy when I do
A bare face is the only face I date with. The last time I wore makeup was about 20 years ago for a friend's wedding, and only because I was in the wedding and had to do the whole hair/makeup thing.
> Do you really think you can’t leave the house bare faced?
Oh I absolutely can and do! It's just a bit strange for me personally since I'm used to wearing makeup. Feels a little vulnerable I suppose.
Yep. I've got eczema, and white it's much better than it has been in the past, I don't wear makeup. I occasionally get a mascara, realize I don't like the feeling and never use it again.
I only wear makeup when I go out for a fancy evening and even then it is super minimal - like maybe 5 minutes worth
I have never had an issue with dating
I basically only wear makeup for job interviews and some important work stuff. But none of my OLD pics had me with makeup on. I have VERY sensitive skin so makeup sometimes doesn't agree with me and I'm too scared to try it.
So, what I'd do is put a pic of what you currently look like w/o makeup so people know what to expect. Bonus: my partner doesn't have to worry about makeup on his shirts (I've got brown skin so it'd be very noticeable).
But, I sense you're concerned - is something like tinted moisturizer completely off the table? What about non face stuff like mascara or lipstick?
I am a mascara and cherry chapstick gal anyhow. I used to feel like I was missing out on some of the fun if I was worried about melting or smudges. I honestly want someone to like the real me…and I am not someone who enjoys dressing up often so I do like to be me as much as possible. I do ask for casual dates too though.
I rarely wear makeup as it is so I wouldn’t have an issue not wearing any on a date. I have really nice lips so I do like to accent them by wearing a bit of lip stain or tinted gloss.
Yes as I don't wear much make up and haven't since my early/mid 30s. I just kept scaling back and now it's maybe concealer and lipstick. Had to quit anything around the eyes because they are easily irritated, so if I'm trying to look real nice I curl the lashes and that does something. If you wear glasses those can be a fun pop on your face. Bold earrings maybe? If I were a full face makeup before I go out the house kind of gal I probably would feel awkward. But I think the more you go out in daily life without makeup the more normal it will feel to you to go on a date without makeup. I remember when I ditched foundation it felt so weird the first day or two MAX, then it was normal. I realized no one gasped in horror when they saw me and the people I saw every day didn't seem to notice or care lol
Yes I would. A few years ago I wouldn't dare walk out of the house without makeup on. Eventually I decided to stop wearing makeup so it's no longer something I even do. I focus on healthy-looking skin over just covering up blemishes. I do still wear makeup once in a while, esp. if it's a big event but it's mainly just mascara, eyeliner and foundation.
I am pale and my eyelashes are very short. So I mostly have a little of blush-on and eyeliners/eyeshadow. I would be insecure with my blank face that mostly looks like a plain paper and some people will think I am sick. So my answer is no, I won't go on a date unless I can wear a big pair of sunglasses on.
I usually use cover up. I have PIH from perioral dermatitis and it makes me a bit self conscious. I don’t usually wear other makeup, but that’s probably because I have some sensory issues. Sometimes a bit of cream blush.
I wore super light makeup on the first date with bf. He said it was fancy and he doesn't understand makeup. I've only worn it 3 times since. Makes life easy since I don't like it anyway.
I hardly ever wear makeup. It’s hot to be a special occasion think wedding, something I’m dressing up for, for me to wear makeup. Definitely not the usual for me.
I very rarely wear makeup. Honestly people notice when I’m made up, but never notice when I’m not. On a date, I may put on some minimal mascara and eyeliner, maybe eye shadow, but I don’t worry about anything else.
I rarely wear makeup. Most of the dates I go on, I don’t wear makeup. Occasionally I’ll wear some mascara. Honestly most men that I’ve gone on dates with that I’ve met on dating apps have put zero effort into their appearance for the date. I often feel overdressed just because I tried and I’m wearing earrings. I think they just don’t bother because most app first dates don’t work out.
Not wearing makeup has never seemed to be a problem and I would say most of the men have found me attractive. I will add that I’m not wearing makeup in most of my pics either though. I don’t think the experience would be the same if you’re heavily made up in all your pics then show up without makeup on.
I wear makeup everyday but my entire routine takes maybe 5 minutes, 8 if I'm feeling fancy., very minimal still. I absolutely would not go on a first date without makeup on, nope.
Only if my date requested it. I'm fair-haired and have very sparse eyebrows. So if I don't fill in my brows and use mascara...well... it's really obvious. Some of my OLD photos are makeup-free though.
I wear makeup maybe once every two or three years, so yeah, I went on dates without makeup. (All my OLD photos were makeupless, so guys knew what they were getting. I assume that men who considered makeup a must just didn't date me.)
I don’t think men think about makeup at all or can even identify half of the products applied and their purpose
Same! I don't ever wear make-up so I feel like if I was wearing it in my profile photos or on a date, I would totally be catfishing.
I for one appreciate it when women don’t wear construction grade makeup.
These dark circles ALWAYS get dressed up for first dates. Future dates? Sure, maybe. But seriously, I have hereditary dark circles and don't feel very secure in public without concealer over them.
I have such bad dark circles that concealer is pretty futile, so I just go without. Or use the glasses distraction technique.
Do you think you could get through a first date without though? Haha!
Nope! Unless I was wearing my glasses, which also hide them.
Yes. I don’t usually wear makeup, so that included some dates. My OLD pictures were also without makeup and without filters. My goal with those pics was not to attract as many matches as possible, but to show my real self and attract those for whom that would work. Just be yourself and show up as you are! (Which means no makeup for now, and if you read the amount of toxic chemicals they include, maybe for ever…)
And that's exactly the mindset people should have. Way too many people (usually men in seems) focus way too much on the number of matches. They should be focused on the quality of matches and if these people are actually compatible or not.
This💯🥰
I can't, and I'm not afraid to admit it. I also don't wear a ton; a little concealer, eye color (for funsies), and mascara. I'm incredibly blonde and incredibly white. If I don't wear just a little bit of makeup, I have no discernable features.
I'm in the exact same boat and feeling similar lol. I don't think I'm unattractive or anything but I sure do feel... declawed haha.
Can relate to the auto-immune thing. May you and your docs have clarity and the ability to communicate well. I had to go makeup free one winter. I felt invisible, which is better than attention for the wrong reasons, I guess.
Do you think your feelings about your appearance changed at all during that winter?
As a fair-skinned, pale lashed strawberry blonde myself, even just curling my lashes (without mascara) makes me feel and look better (I heat the curler up for a few seconds with the hairdryer for better results)! You may also be able to make your own beetroot and vaseline lip tint. That kind of thing is all I tend to use anyway but makes a difference for me.
Not really. I like me regardless, but I have an avatar that I wear in public, and it does give me more confidence even if it doesn't change my looks much. One tip I do have is to stay hydrated. I couldn't eat well, but staying hydrated does keep your skin looking okay. Also, I can't say enough good things about Vanicream moisturizer. It's cheap, hypoallergenic, and made me feel better about fine lines and wrinkles.
Can you have other things done besides makeup? Such as eyelash tinting or will that trigger side effects
I'm very blonde too, but I just never wore it. It's amazing the comments I get when I do wear makeup.
I go everywhere without makeup on, so yes
I have and would again. My fullest face of makeup is pretty minimal anyways
Same, hahahaha. I feel like a washed face and moisturizer and gloss is more than enough?
Same!
I never wear makeup, so yes!!! It's my default!! :)
Never! Full face of makeup for all first dates. I like how I look that way the best, and that is the face I show to men I want to attract. Subsequent sex dates still get makeup, but a slightly modified version
Nope. I don't wear a lot of makeup but I prefer to wear it when I'm out
Part of my problem is not feeling fully dressed for the occasion without something on my face. Especially if I'm really happy with my outfit 😩
I can relate. Maybe do your hair extra nice or put on glasses or light sunglasses to feel more dressed up?
I would, I barely ever wear any anyway. If by some mishap I ended up on a man who expected women to be dolled up regularly best it be over before it began anyway!
Depends on the date. If we’re going for a run or the gym, sure. A restaurant? Unlikely.
> A restaurant? Unlikely. My go to 😫
Maybe in a later stage . When I was younger I always went for a full face including bold lipstick, contour , eyeshadow and eyeliner. But these days it’s just a little bit of skin tint to cancel the redness in my face and color for my brows. I can ditch the skin tint but my brows will always be colored in.
Yeah not being able to fix my brows is definitely something lol. Constantly feels like I forgot to wear pants 😆
How will you deal with that now? Is it impossible to color your brows?
I wear minimal makeup on my face but like to do my eye makeup, especially on dates. I just feel more confident. I also have an autoimmune disorder but found a few lines of makeup that are free from all of the dangerous chemicals. Thrive causmetics and Ogee are the two that I use. The Environmental Working Group also has a database of personal care products with toxicity ratings which is a super helpful resource. At the end of the day makeup is a personal choice, if you feel confident and attractive without it great, if you like a little boost then there are non-toxic options out there. Good luck :)
I never wear makeup except for lipstick
I don't wear makeup. The guys I've dated like that. I guess if you're a regular user who will go back to it, then it might be more awkward to date now, since guys won't see you as you usually present.
I have never worn makeup, am happy with how I look, and have had no complaints from dates. My twin sister can’t leave the house without a full face of makeup, is self conscious and unhappy about her appearance, and has no complaints from dates. Go forth and be confident that you are enough as you are.
I'm curious if she feels self conscious when you hang out together haha. You're blowing her cover!
😆 When I try to boost her up she says that I don’t ‘need’ makeup whereas she does (she is better looking than me without any masking!) Insecurity is a bugger!
Aw man it would be so funny if she did your makeup one day while she went without. Think people would get you mixed up? 😆
It would be a fun experiment, but I don’t think I could convince her…
Haha I know I wouldn't shut up about it if it were me 😂
There are non allergenic brow powder colours and non chemical lip products available, they might work for you if you are desperate, but I bet you look just fine without, it just feels weird when you are used to adding so much definition. Consider that men don’t use any makeup and move through the world with absolute confidence, your smile and personality will project your beauty.
> I bet you look just fine without, it just feels weird when you are used to adding so much definition. That's about where I'm at right now. I don't feel ugly or awful, but I do feel quite bare.
Personally I have really pale skin with redness around my nose. So I wear foundation daily. It also contains an spf. I feel weird leaving the house without it and have never dated without foundation
Oooh I couldn’t do it. My skin is such a huge insecurity for me.
Always. I’d rather they see me the way I am, rather than they think I’m more than I am and then I’d feel pressure to always wear a makeup face when I see them. Plus at our age, any guy who would reject me cos I’m not wearing makeup, can self select himself out the door :)
I never wear a foundation but I need to darken my eyebrows and put on some lipstick
I don’t really wear much makeup…..mascara, brush my eyebrows, and a bit of tinted gloss. That’s it. If I’m going out in the evening, I might throw on some eyeliner or a little blush/highlighter but that’s it. My skin is really sensitive so I’ve definitely gone out bare faced on dates, especially if they’re active dates. I do feel like it only works if you have good skin and don’t look tired, etc. without makeup because it’s a date so you still want to look good.
Yeah, the first date I went on with my partner…we went hiking outdoors in spring and I didn’t wear any makeup. I also just threw in a ponytail on day old hair and whatever hiking gear. The right guy really doesn’t care about any of the fancy stuff, though I did doll up for the second date.
I have actually gone on more dates without my makeup and hair done because I don’t want anyone to fall in love with a false perception of who I really am. I can and do get dolled up, but it’s not all the time and feel like presenting myself as that kind of person is bullshit. 😅 ETA: my profile photos always have pictures of me also without makeup and showing my natural roots and the gray hair that’s under the color I dye it. It’s the real me and I want someone who’s into that.
I usually went on first dates with little to no make up, to make sure the guy actually liked me
OP, I *also* contend with auto-immune issues, which, unbeknownst to me, means my skin woke up one day and violently protested makeup of *any* kind. It can definitely be maddening. On my online profile, I include *unfiltered* photographs only, and of those, about 1/2 are makeup-free. My condition can cause a skin "flare", and my arms and neck and cheeks can get more "rosey" than *anyone* would like, so, I humbly (if a bit bitterly) included 2 pics of *those* days, too. To your points in some of your follow-up comments? Yes, I did feel quite "naked" or "incomplete", at first. Even people in my own family or closer social circle would ask, initially, "You okay? Are you not feeling great?". It took some time to realize that going from a full face of makeup, to nothing, just on its own, can garner those "What's different about you?"-type of reactions. I know now that it's not specifically that I *looked bad* or *tired*, just *different*. Now? I get those same quizzical reactions when I *do* don a full face of makeup 😁 After a few dates, and seeing people were chill and open just to be *in good company*, the fear factor dwindled, and I haven't thought much more about it. I also second the staying hydrated and the vanicream suggestion. Great skin is a wonderfully palette, anyway, whether left au naturale or spiced up a bit - I can't speak enough about these two. Also, any nutrient-based skin care items that your doctors or dermatologist clears for your condition (even if used just weekly or less even) can be helpful. I still "reinforce" my light eyebrows and use a bit of mascara from time to time, but the longer I went without makeup (and the sky didn't fall!?! 😁), the better I both took care of my skin and felt confident within it. As a side tip: when my Mom received her cancer diagnosis, part of her care was this awesome "wig workshop" and makeup class that women relied upon to learn techniques to how their skin responded to chemo and radiation, among other treatments. In my late 20's at the time, I very rudely (and now embarrassingly) sat as an onlooker thinking, "If I'm concerned about my makeup when I hear I have cancer, shoot me...". But that class was *so* much more. Fast forward 15 years, and I've been a part of similar workshops with our community, but for women with chronic health issues. Even online-only groups can be a great resource for the way different things on our body react to chronic health issues (for me, my teeth were greatly affected by the nutrition issues with which I was contending, and we located a specialist who has helped immensely). Perhaps there is one local to you or online where you could ask more targeted questions as they arise. Good luck with your health journey...autoimmune diagnoses are not fun to attain and go so much smoother when your care team is on board. I hope you are blessed with a communicative and assertive team! 💜
I don’t know how I wore so much makeup in high school and my freshman year of college. I’m talking foundation, blush, etc. As I became more confident with myself, I realized that I didn’t need all of that makeup. I now only wear eyeliner on my eyelids, mascara, and lip gloss. Make skincare a priority, then maybe try some classic lashes and a tinted lip balm.
You didn't mention what your autoimmune disease is, but if feasible, you may want to look into Selena Gomez's Raw Beauty if you want to see if that's something that can work for you. She has lupus, so her beauty line takes that into account. She also prioritizes accessibility in the functionality of the packaging.
*Rare Beauty
Thank you! One of these days I'm going to check for autocorrect errors before posting!
I hate makeup! It makes me feel like my pores are suffocating. If a guy can’t accept me bare faced, then he’s not the guy for me. I don’t have time for that bs
Absolutely!🤌🏻👠🥰 I already do, bc I've always been told that natural freckles are sexy af.
I love makeup, it’s part of how I express my creativity. I wouldn’t go on a date without it
I usually wear very little make up. Some days I don't wear any. I would feel better if I wore at least a little bit for dates. I probably won't go on dates without make up.
I can only wish to be that brave lol
Almost every time. I need to feel like myself on dates, not like I'm trying to be someone else. Otherwise, I'll never feel comfortable. The normal me wears very minimal makeup, so the date version of me does the same.
Ohhh no. Mostly because I'm going thru chemo and I've already lost my hair, most of my eyebrows, tho miraculously have retained my eyelashes! (So far.) I don't bother with wigs. Will sometimes wear my Pink Floyd hat, rarely will tie up a paisley scarf. Mostly just flaunt the gleam, lol. But makeup? Yeah, I kinda need that (even tho it's pretty basic and simple by necessity now) just to have the chutzpah to walk around like, what? I'm a bass player and this is my thing. Also I'm 6' tall and thin, so I don't want to be called "sir," which happens. Without it, I think the struggle of this is too clearly written on my face. But then again, nobody is asking me out anyway. LOL
I've never worn makeup regularly in my life and have gone on many dates and have had many boyfriends. None of them cared. There's nothing about my appearance I have ever changed for a man, and I never will.
I haven't worn any make up in years. I don't think I've ever worn any on a date ever.
Yes. I'm taking a break from dating but the last one I went on I showed up with no makeup. I had also stopped dying my hair and had some grey roots peaking. He asked me out for a second date too.
If you asked my ex-situationship he'd tell you I never wore makeup on a single date and even suggested I should wear it. I was like, dude I've worn makeup every single time I've seen you lol. So I guess I've nailed the no make up make up look. My takeaway was wear whatever the F you want because these guys don't have a clue, do it for you. If you like to wear it and feel good in it, then do it. If not, then don't!
Yes I have & I would again
Yes, but I almost never wear make-up so all of my photos are me without make-up. I think if you're worried about it, you should include some photos on your profile without, then you'll look the same.
I pretty much won’t go anywhere without mascara. I regularly go out without anything else.
Mascara and brows used to be my must-haves haha. I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel a bit naked without them on but that's probably just habit talking 😅
Without mascara people tell me I look tired lol I have bangs that cover my brows!
Think you'd feel "off" dating if you couldn't wear it anymore?
It might take me a bit to get used to it but I could do it. My partner sees me regularly without any makeup. I don’t mind at all. But we’re established and passed that.
Yes. These comments are mostly people saying they never wear makeup anyways so I don't think that's what you're asking 😂 I love to wear makeup, I love getting dressed up, my profile photos are a mix of dressy to casual. I have absolutely gone on dates without any makeup. Makeup is an accessory, it goes with my outfit and my vibe for the activity. Sometimes I feel insecure about it because I certainly am not a dewy youth anymore, but I expect my date to like me exactly the way I am, regardless of what I'm wearing.
I'm gonna buck the trend in this thread and say no, I would not. No shade on those of you that prefer your bare face though, and honestly a little dismayed by the amount of comments low key implying that wearing makeup somehow makes you less yourself/real/honest or high maintenance. I enjoy the artistry and self expression that comes from artfully applied looks in both makeup and clothing. It's a tool I use to express myself or invoke a vibe I want to channel that day. Maybe it's a cozy rainy day and I wanna channel my inner comfy feels... There's a 'look' for that. Difficult deliverable I have to answer for in a meeting at work? There's a look for that. Feeling sassy and flirty and fun? There's a look for that. It's about embracing who I am in the moment, and how I want to project myself to the people around me. Some people use music, some people use mantras or self talk, I use Looks Of Affirmation. My therapist would probably say it has to do with insecurity, but if a little M.A.C Viva Glam is all it takes to make me transition from feeling like a bag of ass when I crawl out of bed to feeling like I can kick down a door and rock this shit, then whatever. It would be important for me to wear makeup and An Outfit on a date simply because that is part of who I am, and it helps the filtering process. If a man prefers a bare faced gal who doesn't spend all that much time in front of her open closet debating an outfit, then I'm not the girl he's looking for, and that's ok. Edit: ooooh! I wonder if it's a 'tism thing for me? Like an aspect of *physical* masking. Imma have to ponder that! Definitely did not think this question would end up provoking so much thought! Thanks, OP!
I am the same way! I love clothes, shoes, makeup, the whole shebang. It is a self expression! Like you said, there is a 'look' for that! If people want to judge me as a high maintenance, so be it. It's just who I am! Is it an insecurity? I don't know! I'm pretty secure and confident person and I don't have an issue with people seeing me without makeup. But at the same time, they would only get the chance to see me sans makeup before bed, lol. Joking aside, I never understood the attitude/opinion that " *women wear/do makeup because they are insecure* ", or " *because of other women* " that one was always baffling to me, or " *they are high maintenance* ". Maybe some people are. But not all of us! In my case, I grew up surrounded by women in my family who always loved fashion and paid attention to how they look. That was their style! Some peoples style is rocking that t-shirt and jeans, or yoga pants and ponytail. And some of us love to dress up because it's who we are, it's our style. If I had a health issue and couldn't wear makeup, or god forbid high heels, ofcourse I would leave my house without any. Would I go on a date without makeup? I hate to say never, but probably never. It's just who I am, it's my style! I agree, it was a really thought provoking question!
46yr and don't wear make up at all. Not even lip stick. I will wear chapstick on a date. But I feel like a clown when I do wear make up and it never lasts long always have to touch it up. Yuck
Same
As someone who now and then gets absolutely terrible eczema around my eyes (like a raccoon only red), I will forgo makeup when that happens. It looks terrible, but makeup just makes it worse. Life goes on. No one of consequence has ever had an issue.
I send makeup free selfies all the time. You do you! If they can’t be understanding of your special circumstances than they’re not for you. I’ve done makeup less first dates, like trails
Yep! Time forced my hand. Tinted moisturizer and mascara for "dressing up" but that's about it I less I was t to look like a spackled piece of bark.
I don’t wear makeup (allergy), so all my dates are makeup free.
I’m a minimalist when it comes to makeup (among other things). I would do it if I have to, I just look washed out and tired without it.
I went on dates with my STBX husband bare faced but always felt uncomfortable because of my acne scars. I wouldn't wear the make up because I felt like it only emphasized more and because living in the southern US, it has a tendency to sweat off really easily in the summer. That being said, when I start dating again, I'm probably going to wear make up anyway for the dates until I feel safe enough around that person to be bare faced. I have a picture of myself without makeup on my Facebook dating profile and I can tell marked difference in number of likes vs my other dating profile. Which is pretty discouraging.
I’ve become way more lax so maybe now? But my routine was always light. I also have AID and I tend to always fill my eyebrows, use mascara and blush. But I’ve recently even stopped that on Zoom for work so maybe I would on a date. I like to feel a little dressy though. Mascara will probably be my last hold out for a while. I used to do more, like under eye concealer and contouring, but I’ve found it doesn’t improve things anymore. I focus on moisturizing and sunscreen now.
Yea. I don't go heavy on it anyway. Probably not the first date, but I'm comfortable on the 3rd or 4th - granted I've gotten enough sleep, haha
I don’t really wear makeup so…
I can't leave home without it, and I wish I could. I'm very fair, and without a bit of help, my eyelashes do not exist, and my eyebrows are blonde. I don't wear much at all. It's a little bit that makes me feel "ready" for the outside world.
Nope. I’m super pale and need a bit of color. I don’t wear much though, but I do like to look polished. I know lots of women who don’t wear make up. It’s personal preference.
I rarely wear makeup anymore. For special occasions really. I used to spend hours on doing my face and hair...now I'm happily in my goblin crone era. What you see is what you get.
Dating with no makeup would’ve been hard for me. I’m lacking a lot of confidence anyway and makeup helped a little. Still pretty minimal because I’m not super skilled. I did use pictures with my “everyday” face, which is bare faced with mascara. Very blonde lashes and I dye my brows. It’s funny though because my boyfriend likes my face either way! I bet you’re beautiful without it and I wish you luck!
I rarely wear makeup anymore. I only put some on for special occasions like weddings or galas. I feel like a guy should see the face they might see in the morning after sleeping next to me and decide whether or not he wants to continue seeing my face. Lol
Well it’s your call. It’s probably good to include photos without makeup and if you match “he has seen it all”. Otherwise lots of women don’t wear make up, just do it.
I own no makeup
I don’t wear makeup but I wear tinted sunscreen. I’m fine going on a date without makeup.
I’ve almost never worn makeup in my life. Sensitive skin and it’s just not me.
I’m more comfortable without it than with it nowadays so yes.
I just don't wear it. But I'm older so guys seem to expect....less?
Absolutely. Went on many a date without any makeup on. If we were going to do some activity that makeup didn't pair well with I went without. After all the many men I talked to about it, I found that the majority told me they actually prefer no makeup. That definitely helped me feel more comfortable
The only way I would go without is if my OLD photos were sans makeup and I would never do that. You risk being accused of bait and switch if the contrast is too great.
Of course! I don't wear a lot of makeup to begin with tho but if someone wants to meet for coffee, I'm not showing up in full Glam. Having nice hair, clean and classic clothing, and smelling good are probably more impactful than makeup
Yup. I don’t wear makeup a whole lot 🤷♀️
I never wear makeup lol…guys have never seemed to have an issue with it…they still like me lol
I don’t wear makeup so yes.
I don't wear make up so yeah, no issue.
I rarely wear make up. I’m not sure men notice makeup to the point of being bothered by it’s absence? I could be wrong. I think women put on makeup and things like that for other women.
42F here. I don't wear or own makeup, and my photos reflect that. If makeup is a requirement, my hunch is that we won't get along.
Well, I don’t wear make up so yes. 🤷🏻♀️
Yes, I would!
Sure, the only way I would go, as I never wear any make up. Gave it up a few years ago, eyes were too sensitive and it wasn't recommended. Didn't use it very often anyway. Also, they would have to like my face, so makes sense too :) It was very awkward at first though, I am blond and pale, so without makeup you don't really notice my eyebrows or eyelashes, it's like they don't even exist. Have always been a bit envious of dark haired people because of it :D But if my eyes could take any chemicals at all, I would probably do as I used to, use the permanent eyelash die regularly, so I would have darker eyelashes almost always :) If I would wear make up, probably would wear it during a date too. Whatever feels right and makes you feel comfortable and more you. I don't think it's right to shame or judge women for wearing or not wearing make up. It's a personal choice. I do wish both choices would be equally supported in society though. I don't pay much attention to it any more, but when I was younger it was so difficult to choose not to wear make up, make up was like... expected. Depends on a cultural background too,of course.
I never wear makeup...
I don't think any of my profile pictures are of me wearing make up, so yeah, more than happy to!
My partner, a woman, doesn't own makeup. She still somehow made it to dates. 😀
Yes. Honestly every once in a while I feel like I look amazing without it hahaha. It’s a rare occurrence but yes I’ve dated sans makeup
Always do. I don’t own any makeup. I just don’t care about that stuff, never really have. I’d rather sleep longer than wake up earlier and spend an hour+ to put makeup on. What you see is what you get with me. During the work week, I wake up, brush teeth and hair, put clothes on, and I’m out the door generally in less than 20 minutes.
Yes I would. I’m makeup free all the time as I don’t even wear makeup or know anything about makeup.
I wear a little powder and cherry chapstick. I can go without powder, but not the cherry chapstick :-)
Yes! I don’t wear makeup but I do love a great lip balm and I curl my eyelashes (no mascara). Eyebrow shaping is also really important to me so I go for an eyebrow wax every 3-4 weeks. If my date is unhappy with the natural look then I will happily move along.
I do it all the time!
I never wore make up in my life so I went to all my dates without make up. Men who likes me likes women without make up. The ones who fuss that I should put on make up, are not for me.
I'm a older guy and just don't understand the whole make up thing. Never have. Why would you coat that face with crap that is at the least unhealthy and at worst toxic. If a man showed up for a first date wearing a Halloween mask and refused to take it off the whole date how would you feel about that? That is how makeup feels to me.stronger with some less with others depending on how much has been applied. I personally want to see and know the real you. But first dates are not supposed to be fancy affairs. They are meant to let you get to know a person. Likes,dislikes, compatibility. If your looking for a serious relationship you could at least start out by not deceiving the person on your first date by hiding your true self. Be you! Never hide who you are and what you are about, that's b.s. . No offence but ladies like to have a face for everything anymore. Business face,meeting face, etc., etc. As a disclaimer I have always been told I am different by women because I prefer all natural. Men talk, too! And most of the guys I know prefer little to no makeup also they just don't want to make it an issue as it's not worth the fight. But me I am to stupid to just go with the flow and let cosmetic company's sell ladies a bunch of crap they don't need. You are beautiful just how you are. Anybody who is fixated on looks over brains and attitude is pretty shallow in my opinion. As a guy I want to know everything about you,not who you wish you are. My opinion, doesn't count for much anymore but there it is.
I'm 49 and have never worn makeup. Probably why I'm single.
I'm a man, but this is my take. I have dated women that don't wear makeup, I would date a woman in the future that doesn't wear makeup. The only woman I had actually started to see a future with since my divorce did not wear makeup. The person matters more than the makeup.
As a dude, I am deeply opposed to heavy makeup, and fake stuff like eyelash extensions. Light and tasteful makeup that is well applied is fine, but not in any way a requirement. I find women that are comfortable in their own skin super sexy. 😉
Great answer! 👍
I skip cosmetics and fancy clothes on the first date ( though I love both and am bit of a fashion junkie) No one has ever complained nor mentioned it. I am great believer in being my bare bones self on first dates. No high fashion,no tricky contouring and rich lipstick. Just my every day attire and my daily face...
What do you consider your bare bones self?
The woman I am dating doesn't wear makeup. She rocks it with confidence. I find her massively attractive.
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Not even lip gloss or lipstick? I don’t have reasons that prevent it so I would wear at least a bit of lip color. If I had health concerns, I would leave it off without qualms. I might use something with natural dyes, if that’s allowed actually (eg. cherries to stain, for ex).
In my case I'm having a really hard time with everything at the moment so I'm just rocking my natural lip color lol
You sound similar to me when going out of the house. My grandmother raised me to “put some paint on the barn” before leaving the house -always. If you haven’t checked out r/45PlusSkincare there may be nuggets of good info you could use. I’ve seen posts and comments re autoimmune things and mash ups of highly sensitive etc. I have very pale, sensitive skin that’s prone to redness and it can make me feel self conscious. A few years ago I threw out all my makeup based on the expiration dates. Did research & only bought tinted hydrating serum/lightweight foundation, eye brow powder & a little neutral contour so I don’t look pale and sick. Takes me less than 5 mins. Tinted lip balm is always in my bag.
My makeup is mascara and lip gloss, other than that, I don’t wear anything else.
I don’t because it’s what makes me happy and comfortable & I want someone to see what they’re getting into from the beginning, which is no makeup, no fillers no Botox no nothing, take it or leave it. As far as makeup, I wouldn’t want someone to think it’s a regular occurrence or be surprised or disappointed when most days I’m without it. At the end of the day if someone is right for you they’re going to like you with or without it so go with what makes you happy and comfortable.
100% of the dates I’ve been on in my life have has zero makeup. If you don’t like the way I look then you shouldn’t be with me 🤷♀️
43f I don’t know how to apply make up, I never learned how so I never wear it. I also live in Florida so anything that is applied to my face tends to melt off anyway… (I do apply lotion and sunscreen)
All the time. I'm lucky if I get mascara on these days.
I rarely, if ever, wear makeup. Like someone else mentioned, all photos are of me without makeup. Any dates I go on are without it. It has never been an issue. It'll just be a personal preference and what you're comfortable with.
I almost never wear makeup, so yes.
I don’t wear makeup. So yes.
Yes. I prefer to show how i really look anyways.
I would go on a walking date... I'm moderately active, so it's something I'd probably do.
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I rarely wear makeup and if I do it's lip liner & gloss, mascara and maybe eyeliner. And I've definitely gone on dates without it and had a pleasantly surprised guy when I do
Yep. Did it today 😊 and he said he prefer no makeup
A bare face is the only face I date with. The last time I wore makeup was about 20 years ago for a friend's wedding, and only because I was in the wedding and had to do the whole hair/makeup thing.
If you're dating men, I hear they prefer this.
I do all the time. If I do anything, it’s lipstick only. They’re going to see what they’re getting early on.
I almost never wear makeup. And I never wear it for a first date. Do you really think you can’t leave the house bare faced?
> Do you really think you can’t leave the house bare faced? Oh I absolutely can and do! It's just a bit strange for me personally since I'm used to wearing makeup. Feels a little vulnerable I suppose.
I go on nearly every date with no make up on 😂 I never quite took to it
Yep. I've got eczema, and white it's much better than it has been in the past, I don't wear makeup. I occasionally get a mascara, realize I don't like the feeling and never use it again.
I only wear makeup when I go out for a fancy evening and even then it is super minimal - like maybe 5 minutes worth I have never had an issue with dating
I never wear makeup so have never been on dates with it. I guess men that like me must really like the natural look. Lol!
I basically only wear makeup for job interviews and some important work stuff. But none of my OLD pics had me with makeup on. I have VERY sensitive skin so makeup sometimes doesn't agree with me and I'm too scared to try it. So, what I'd do is put a pic of what you currently look like w/o makeup so people know what to expect. Bonus: my partner doesn't have to worry about makeup on his shirts (I've got brown skin so it'd be very noticeable). But, I sense you're concerned - is something like tinted moisturizer completely off the table? What about non face stuff like mascara or lipstick?
Yes.
I don’t wear makeup. I’ve gone on dates without makeup. May as well see what I look like from the get go.
I just wear moisturizer, eyeliner and mascara.
Guy here. Prefer no make up. I actually find it bizarre that women paint their faces.
I am a mascara and cherry chapstick gal anyhow. I used to feel like I was missing out on some of the fun if I was worried about melting or smudges. I honestly want someone to like the real me…and I am not someone who enjoys dressing up often so I do like to be me as much as possible. I do ask for casual dates too though.
I've got hyperpigmentation on my face from PCOS so my answer is always no, but if I didn't I would absolutely
I don’t wear makeup. I told a match that I sometimes wear lip balm, but also that I would at least match the amount of makeup he wore on the date.
Absolutely.
Always. Natural is the best way to go, IMO.
I do often and ALWAYS get complimented for it.
Nope I don't.i have terrible skin though.
All of my dates are without makeup. I haven’t worn any since the 90s.
I rarely wear makeup as it is so I wouldn’t have an issue not wearing any on a date. I have really nice lips so I do like to accent them by wearing a bit of lip stain or tinted gloss.
Yes as I don't wear much make up and haven't since my early/mid 30s. I just kept scaling back and now it's maybe concealer and lipstick. Had to quit anything around the eyes because they are easily irritated, so if I'm trying to look real nice I curl the lashes and that does something. If you wear glasses those can be a fun pop on your face. Bold earrings maybe? If I were a full face makeup before I go out the house kind of gal I probably would feel awkward. But I think the more you go out in daily life without makeup the more normal it will feel to you to go on a date without makeup. I remember when I ditched foundation it felt so weird the first day or two MAX, then it was normal. I realized no one gasped in horror when they saw me and the people I saw every day didn't seem to notice or care lol
Yes I would. A few years ago I wouldn't dare walk out of the house without makeup on. Eventually I decided to stop wearing makeup so it's no longer something I even do. I focus on healthy-looking skin over just covering up blemishes. I do still wear makeup once in a while, esp. if it's a big event but it's mainly just mascara, eyeliner and foundation.
I am pale and my eyelashes are very short. So I mostly have a little of blush-on and eyeliners/eyeshadow. I would be insecure with my blank face that mostly looks like a plain paper and some people will think I am sick. So my answer is no, I won't go on a date unless I can wear a big pair of sunglasses on.
Yes! If they don’t like me without it on when we are out they won’t like me when they wake up with me.
I usually use cover up. I have PIH from perioral dermatitis and it makes me a bit self conscious. I don’t usually wear other makeup, but that’s probably because I have some sensory issues. Sometimes a bit of cream blush.
Nope. I don't wear a lot of makeup on dates though.
I’ve done it. I don’t think I’ve gone completely bare faced for a first date. But my usual “make up” look is curling eyelashes, mascara and lip balm.
Yes!
I very rarely wear makeup and when I do it's usually a special occasion or just because I want to get dressed up.
NO.
Only if I forgot ADHD is… challenging
I do not wear make up except for eye liner .
I very rarely wear makeup anyway. Mostly I just throw on red lipstick to look fancy. Low-effort but makes a big impact.
I wore super light makeup on the first date with bf. He said it was fancy and he doesn't understand makeup. I've only worn it 3 times since. Makes life easy since I don't like it anyway.
Yes absolutely
I hardly ever wear makeup. It’s hot to be a special occasion think wedding, something I’m dressing up for, for me to wear makeup. Definitely not the usual for me.
I seldom wear makeup and went on every date without it on. I didn’t want to suggest that I was someone other than who I am.
Yes, I’m not a makeup everyday kind of gal anyways. They’re going to see eventually if things go well!
Never been my thing. Maybe tinted lip gloss. Do what makes you comfortable!
I very rarely wear makeup. Honestly people notice when I’m made up, but never notice when I’m not. On a date, I may put on some minimal mascara and eyeliner, maybe eye shadow, but I don’t worry about anything else.
I almost never wear makeup.
If I couldn’t, it wouldn’t be a big deal. I don’t put much on anyway. Focus on flattering clothes and jewelry to give you some sparkle.
I rarely wear makeup. Most of the dates I go on, I don’t wear makeup. Occasionally I’ll wear some mascara. Honestly most men that I’ve gone on dates with that I’ve met on dating apps have put zero effort into their appearance for the date. I often feel overdressed just because I tried and I’m wearing earrings. I think they just don’t bother because most app first dates don’t work out. Not wearing makeup has never seemed to be a problem and I would say most of the men have found me attractive. I will add that I’m not wearing makeup in most of my pics either though. I don’t think the experience would be the same if you’re heavily made up in all your pics then show up without makeup on.
I would
I wear makeup everyday but my entire routine takes maybe 5 minutes, 8 if I'm feeling fancy., very minimal still. I absolutely would not go on a first date without makeup on, nope.
Only if my date requested it. I'm fair-haired and have very sparse eyebrows. So if I don't fill in my brows and use mascara...well... it's really obvious. Some of my OLD photos are makeup-free though.