When I was explaining transmasc enbys to my mom and she says that every woman feels like that and she never liked being very feminine, dressing feminine or doing feminine things, or felt like a woman proper and binded her chest as a teen because she hated having boobs… guess I know where I got it from
there was a skit where a kid came out as non binary to their parents and the mom says “everyone’s faked breast cancer to get their insurance to cover a double mastectomy” and the dads like “yeah everyone has a different name they call themselves but would never dare to tell anyone” and the kid is just 😐
You can absolutely have moments/periods of gender-queerness or feeling like a gender other than your own, and still be comfortable in/confident about a cis identity. Like people who identify as straight because that's their preference 97% of the time, even if they occasionally have feelings of attraction to the same gender. It *is* normal. The important thing is that she's open and accepting of all gender identities.
That's not the task though. They need to figure it out for themselves and having a trans person explain exactly your experience while starting to transition is exactly how you get that to happen.
Happened with me and my dad too. I asked him once if it was ok that I sometimes didn't really feel like a girl and kinda preferred being mistaken for a boy, and he was like "yeah, people call me sir all the time and I don't really mind at all." I walked away, assured in my cisness.... till he came out lol
I grew up in a very neurodivergent family before we had most of the language to understand neurodivergence. I'm still unpacking things that I/we used to think were "normal" that are really very uncommon.
**My mom:** *loses an earring*
**Mom:** damn, now I only have one out of a pair. If only I were a man... *(alluding to single earring being something a guy would wear)*
**Me, provocatively**: so, we just talked of Joe *(transmasc "rommate" of my cousin that my mom said she has "great respect" for)*. Was a girl, now a man. What's stopping you?
**Mom, without skipping a beat:** well it involves taking hormones and such, so it's a hassle, and I have plenty going on and don't need extra hassle in my life right now
#totallycistho
It's... Actually really sad to see cases like this and wonder how much repression they dealt with their entire lives. At some point does it become so reflexive you become deadened to it?
Yes and no. Completely internalized masking is a serious problem for both eggs and people with many different kinds of neurodivergent conditions. It still takes a toll (in mental/emotional capacity, stress, energy) even if you're doing it reflexively. So it can bleed over into making other parts of life hurt more, even if you're "deadened" to it. And it gets harder to unlearn the longer you do it.
Yeah that's crazy. Sort of a similar thing except I never got to talk to her directly about it but my mom always told me how much my grandma would talk about wanting to have a penis and how it would be so cool to just live as a man. She died before I transitioned so she never got to meet me as me and she never got the chance to figure out if maybe transitioning was right for her but I like to imagine how it could have been if she was still here
1: "The Other" gender? There's so many though
2: No, mom, it really isn't normal (I've had this argument with my mom, who is like "WELL WHY WOULD I WANT TO BE A WOMAN! BEING A WOMAN IS TERRIBLE" (ok mom, for you maybe, and umm . . . have you considered maybe thinking long and hard about this one? Like I've had to do?)
ok this kinda happened to me when I came out to my parents. My mom was like "I just feel like a person" and I was like "lol you're agender"
(also I think of myself as agender as well — just transmasc agender instead of plain vanilla agender)
My brother just decided to ask our mom about her gender and she said something like "gender is just the bits you are born with any nothing else". Given she doesn't care about pronouns and presents masc, I wonder if she may be a transmasc agender egg.
I'm not exactly out, although I think my moms have their suspicions (one asked me if I was a woman). But partly don't want to deal with eggy transphobia.
My guess is that gender dysphoria is not that uncommon, it's just that some people just don't realize or never do anything about it and just live with it.
Then when they're older transitioning is simply not an option when they already have a family and a job.
When I was explaining transmasc enbys to my mom and she says that every woman feels like that and she never liked being very feminine, dressing feminine or doing feminine things, or felt like a woman proper and binded her chest as a teen because she hated having boobs… guess I know where I got it from
Hey that sounds like me
I like your name dawg
Wait
I recently had a similar conversation with my mom lol.
there was a skit where a kid came out as non binary to their parents and the mom says “everyone’s faked breast cancer to get their insurance to cover a double mastectomy” and the dads like “yeah everyone has a different name they call themselves but would never dare to tell anyone” and the kid is just 😐
[hold up i found it](https://youtu.be/jQRPBO5rewQ)
that's amazing lol. very underrated too
PLEASE FIND ME THAT SKIT
In case you missed it, the skit has been found and posted as a reply to the comment above yours
Thank you 😩
*Hmmm…* 🤔
Who's gonna tell her...
Them? Him? Hmmm
Yes, who will tell ‘em indeed
You can absolutely have moments/periods of gender-queerness or feeling like a gender other than your own, and still be comfortable in/confident about a cis identity. Like people who identify as straight because that's their preference 97% of the time, even if they occasionally have feelings of attraction to the same gender. It *is* normal. The important thing is that she's open and accepting of all gender identities.
Oh, huh, hmmm, seems pretty eggy to me, idk, atleast she seems supportive 🐋🌸🤍🌸🐋
It seems kinda forced tho... ALSO THAT FLAG IS BEAUTIFUL
I mean, it's better than nothing, and thank you so so much!!
Uhhh… mom, I’ve got some *more* news for you.
Imagine gathering the courage to come out just to receive the task to tell your caretakers that they are trans 💙💖💟💖💙
That's not the task though. They need to figure it out for themselves and having a trans person explain exactly your experience while starting to transition is exactly how you get that to happen.
You can't crack an egg, you have to provide the warmth for it to hatch.
True story, I’ve literally had this happen to me, except I was the mom. And by mom I mean older brother. Edit: To clarify, *was* the older brother.
Happened with me and my dad too. I asked him once if it was ok that I sometimes didn't really feel like a girl and kinda preferred being mistaken for a boy, and he was like "yeah, people call me sir all the time and I don't really mind at all." I walked away, assured in my cisness.... till he came out lol
I grew up in a very neurodivergent family before we had most of the language to understand neurodivergence. I'm still unpacking things that I/we used to think were "normal" that are really very uncommon.
y'know, being trans has been linked to genetics 💙💕🤍💕💙
zelda pls
Oh shit for real? Ya got the sorce on that? Sounds like an interesting read.
[https://academic.oup.com/jcem/article/104/2/390/5104458?login=false](https://academic.oup.com/jcem/article/104/2/390/5104458?login=false) 💙💕🤍💕💙
wait is that why my cousin is also a trans guy and my sister is showing a lot of signs of being one too? 💀
maybe, cuz my sister is trans as well 💙💕🤍💕💙
Why am I the only queer in my family tho :( a million relatives and they're all cishet
i mean it doesn't always work out 💙💕🤍 💕💙
Well,seems like someone is not as cis as they pretend (◕ᴗ◕✿)
It is normal to want to be the other gender though Source: Wanted to be the other gender for most of my life
**My mom:** *loses an earring* **Mom:** damn, now I only have one out of a pair. If only I were a man... *(alluding to single earring being something a guy would wear)* **Me, provocatively**: so, we just talked of Joe *(transmasc "rommate" of my cousin that my mom said she has "great respect" for)*. Was a girl, now a man. What's stopping you? **Mom, without skipping a beat:** well it involves taking hormones and such, so it's a hassle, and I have plenty going on and don't need extra hassle in my life right now #totallycistho
Are you cis or are you too much of a hassle?
I'm [I-only-wear-dresses-because-they're-cute-cis](https://www.instagram.com/keytarqueero/)
Yeah, your mom sounds really supportive, he's cool
someone certainly got some figuring out to do 😅
"Actually, mom, most of my friends tell me that's actually NOT normal..."
When I came out my mom said she was experimenting with her gender as a teen, though nothing came of it.
It's... Actually really sad to see cases like this and wonder how much repression they dealt with their entire lives. At some point does it become so reflexive you become deadened to it?
Yes and no. Completely internalized masking is a serious problem for both eggs and people with many different kinds of neurodivergent conditions. It still takes a toll (in mental/emotional capacity, stress, energy) even if you're doing it reflexively. So it can bleed over into making other parts of life hurt more, even if you're "deadened" to it. And it gets harder to unlearn the longer you do it.
When you hear an egg cracking but it's not yours.
More like M🥚m
Yeah that's crazy. Sort of a similar thing except I never got to talk to her directly about it but my mom always told me how much my grandma would talk about wanting to have a penis and how it would be so cool to just live as a man. She died before I transitioned so she never got to meet me as me and she never got the chance to figure out if maybe transitioning was right for her but I like to imagine how it could have been if she was still here
1: "The Other" gender? There's so many though 2: No, mom, it really isn't normal (I've had this argument with my mom, who is like "WELL WHY WOULD I WANT TO BE A WOMAN! BEING A WOMAN IS TERRIBLE" (ok mom, for you maybe, and umm . . . have you considered maybe thinking long and hard about this one? Like I've had to do?)
Even M Night Shyamalam couldn't come up with a plot twist like that 🖤💜
Uhhhhhhhh… possible egg
Seems very cis to me🤔🤔🤔
Sometimes gender is fun for the whole family! 😊
ok this kinda happened to me when I came out to my parents. My mom was like "I just feel like a person" and I was like "lol you're agender" (also I think of myself as agender as well — just transmasc agender instead of plain vanilla agender)
My brother just decided to ask our mom about her gender and she said something like "gender is just the bits you are born with any nothing else". Given she doesn't care about pronouns and presents masc, I wonder if she may be a transmasc agender egg. I'm not exactly out, although I think my moms have their suspicions (one asked me if I was a woman). But partly don't want to deal with eggy transphobia.
I guess they are transparent. i-i'll see myself out..
I have a trans brother... we're both adopted... same mom... I've got a feeling genetics play a role tbh..
lmao, my mom is a big ole transmasc egg too, but she said she doesnt see the point in doing anything w it for her.
It's never late to crack the egg 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
My guess is that gender dysphoria is not that uncommon, it's just that some people just don't realize or never do anything about it and just live with it. Then when they're older transitioning is simply not an option when they already have a family and a job.
Awww. That's sweet. And awkward.
Wait what. So I’m still cis, ok. It’s all good
Mother~ it’s time to educate you on some things! Come here~ Egg to egg convo~
Yeah umm I suspect my mom might be an egg
* egg cracking noises *
*Hmmm…* 💞
Uh oh
sounds pretty eggy
eggy parent :O
🤔
Genderfluid mom❤️
Eh?
well, it is normal to wonder what it would be like or, just be the other gender for just a day but, any more than that probably isnt cis
"It's normal to not feel like your AGAB sometimes" is why it took 24 years for my egg to crack.
Same for bisexuality here, wow is this actually genetic ?
I wonder how many people out there are trans and either accepted their gender envy/dysphoria as normal or never realized it…
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