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gender_enjoyer

if you’re comfortable sharing what was the message your dad sent you?


LargePersonOfCulture

“*birthname* (I didn’t sign the letters with that name), we have read your letters. We love you. You will always have our support. We are sorry we have hurt you.” Its not the worst thing they could have said by any margin but they just didn’t try to talk to me at all after I said everything I said


gender_enjoyer

honestly that’s not bad have you provided them with a new name? if not i wouldn’t take them calling you by your birth name as an insult as they don’t have anything to call you by. good luck <3


BlazeStar345

Usually I wouldn't respond but I just want to say OP did say she signed the letters in a different name. So her parents would have another name to call her by.


gender_enjoyer

oof yeah i completely read over that part :/ yeah not a good start but give them time you’d be surprised how much people can change especially if it’s someone they love


BlazeStar345

Hey, no biggie. I assumed it was a legit mistake anyway.


LargePersonOfCulture

Look at you and your affirming language.


BlazeStar345

Yeah. Would rather not make your dysphoria or other mental stuff worse while you're already going through this. 🤗


LargePersonOfCulture

Awww thank you. I just had dysphoria from trying to offer a friend money but I came on too strong and made her uncomfortable and now I feel like one of those guys who pressures women into things and can’t take a hint n shit


BlazeStar345

Oh no... I'm sorry to hear.


DocFGeek

Stay safe. Have a contingency plan or a safe house with a friend (REAL friend, who supports you, not just performs being a friend) set up if SHTF or a boiling point with the parents.


LargePersonOfCulture

Good advice. I don’t have great options. But they’ll likely not do anything that renders me homeless but living there might be more or less of a pain now


Mystical-Madelyn

I wish you luck and that things will be good 💜


LargePersonOfCulture

Thank you


flowering_peony

i read potent-ially trans as potent italy trans


TominatorFN

You can't just say this without saying what they said to you. I hope you are fine, but that is just cruel from you!


LargePersonOfCulture

“*birthname* (I didn’t sign the letters with that name), we have read your letters. We love you. You will always have our support. We are sorry we have hurt you.” Its not the worst thing they could have said by any margin but they just didn’t try to talk to me at all after I said everything I said


TominatorFN

I see. That reminds me of what happened when I told them, because I told them that it is awkward for me and then they avoided talking to me about it in general, what got really annoying with time, because I didn't know what they were thinking. I hope you will be fine! But what they said sounds really good (and similar to what I heard from my parents)


SeaRux-The-Human

Id say as screwed up as it is, atleaat there response was direct and honest. Let's just say there's a reason I had to force myself back into the closet and layer my mind with multiple levels of denial just to cope. And worse still, I now know I was happier. Sadly its not in the cards for me. I hope things work out for you though. Atleast now you know from the start where things stand instead of being lied to only for shit to blow up when you least expect it and are the most screwed over1


Soggy_Ad_2111

Omg, so much this. I told my parents i was trans at 19 and at 20. It took 12 more years to start finally transitioning.


SeaRux-The-Human

For me, I plan to go to college, then maybe somtime after when I have a decent job and not stupid mc d's, when I have my own place and shit I'm about to be twenty in August


Auralynnnnnnnnn

Hopefully either they accept or improve as people


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If op isn't comfortable sharing it, that's their decision


p1nkie_

Well yeah I cant make them


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But you shouldn't pressure them


p1nkie_

Oh yeah my bad sorry