It’s v barren. We tried to get back into it, but it was a wasteland for me as a heteroflexible male. I used to get a decent amount of likes/convos (it’s how I met my partner), but now it’s nothing but bots and solicitors.
What is “heteroflexible” ? I keep seeing that and it sounds like a euphemism for bisexuality made up by people that are uncomfortable with themselves being bisexual. Which is…. odd.
Follow up: okay so yeah. it is a euphemism.
All sex is already situational… to begin with. Sexual ATTRACTION is what falls on a spectrum, however, gendered preference falls into one of three categories. Whether you only enjoy sucking cock on Tuesday nights after dinner or eating pussy on Sundays after a Costco haul is irrelevant to whether you are straight, gay, or bi.
It’s the step between heterosexual and bisexual. I don’t want to have a sexual experience with a man directly bc it’s not my speed, but I do find lots of men attractive and I’ll flirt back when the attention comes. I also don’t mind MFM situations and not pressured by them. It can seem like the way you see it from the outside. I find everyone attractive, I’m just only interested in sexual relationships with women.
I've never seen it applied that way. It's normally used as a better way of saying "situationally bi." I feel like setting yourself as HF on Feeld may send the wrong message.
Nor mine. We're in the process of moving so have had ours turned off for awhile. I wasn't having all the problems prior to moving people have been mentioning, so I'm interested to see if the fake profiles are around in our new city.
In our experience it means “straight guy that wants to fuck your partner and will fail to launch anyway because being naked in front of another man wasn’t all they thought it was gonna be” 🤷🏻♂️
We just skip these and file them in the “man straight” category now as they are very much hetero and way less flexible than the name would lead one to believe. I just went with Queer. Technically bi but I’m not willing to leave out anyone except the man straights/heteroflex when it comes to bedroom stuff. Love my straight friends, just don’t wanna date any of them. 😂
Yeah, it’s kinda funny now but was very annoying when we first joined the app. I think they also expect a more fem dude when they show up and I ain’t that. 🤷🏻♂️ We try to be clear in our bios but I could literally write “I’m a cannibal and will 100% out your head in my fridge” and it would not effect my likes at all. 😂
>I’m a cannibal and will 100% out your head in my fridge”
The irony of that is it's funny as hell and may actually get you MORE likes 😂. It would certainly work on me lmaoo
Opposite of the other person. I'm not sexually attracted to men, just cocks. I have no desire to kiss a man or participate in anal. Some people will also call it "situationally bi."
Yes, it's that bad. I've read all the advice and changed my profile and pictures accordingly. I'm in a major metro and soon will be visiting another. I've had 6 matches in 6 months, most don't chat outside of a message a week, if that. I have two likes that aren't shown to me. I'm not majestic but this subreddit is enough to convince me that it isn't even worth trying.
absolutely not worth paying for the privilege of seeing all the likes you won’t be getting anyway. And pings are just viewed as thirsty and a bit ick when received by most women
Yes, there have been several posts about it recently, and the overall consensus is that it's a desert out there for most straight men. The thing is, it's like this on other dating apps as well. There is a large gap in the male to female ratio, at least looking at straights. I don't know of any dating app that has found a way to mitigate it, even if they want to - and I think it's very arguable that most don't want to change it, because it helps them sell premium memberships, pings/super likes/etc., and more to those men.
I guess it's something that would be hard to combat even on a new app, he's joked about making his own (he's a software developer) but doesn't want the hassle 😂
I agree and I've basically given up on OLD, this is not something to be solved commercially. I deleted Bumble & Hinge and let my majestic lapse, the only reason I haven't deleted Feeld is that there are a couple people I occasionally chat with. I'm figuring out some IRL activities I can get involved in. Been to a couple of sloshes off Kasidie & Fetlife but tbh the things that center around alcohol are not appealing.
I thought about this as well but am busy with other projects.
My thinking was less on making an app like Feeld but more on evolving the speed dating side or providing tools relating to in person meetups to allow for more efficient info exchange.
There are a huge amount of dating apps getting funding from major investors that will hit the market over the next 3 years.
With the widespread complaints, and so many people working on the problem, it feels inevitable things will get a lot better soon.
I wonder if a business model would be viable where the way they make money is by a pay what you will system, where if a match is succesful and fruitful, people can 'vote' with their money. It incentivizes developers to promote actual matches (and not swipes, or pings, or premium or what have you), but it does depend on the goodwill and community effort of the userbase. For a dating app this probably wouldn't work (different goals for the userbase), but for a libertine lifestyle app, I can see it work with that mindset.
Really, the way to do it to simply get rid of any way to view likes or send "pings" or superlikes, etc. If the only way for two people to match is for them to swipe right/hit the like button on each other, women won't be deluged with like notifications. Every body swipes, and filters help you narrow the pool down. That's it.
The only apps where straight man get more matches than woman is SG/SB apps. The quantity and quality is amazing. Before you pass judgement there are many regular woman who are just tired of man who cheapen out and they just want to be feel taken care of. If you can afford it is a game changer.
Exactly that. To be honest when it comes to dating for marriage or dating a men that can provide for their girl, there is more supply of women who want it and less supply of men willing / able to do that.
But for apps like feeld, Tinder ect it is wayyyyy easier to find men who want sex without any commitment and without any efforts than women who are ok with that.
Nah. If I can't get a decent bank of likes without a paid subscription, I for damn sure ain't paying for premium or features. I'll just pay the money to go to a club or event where I don't have to wonder if my profile is even being seen.
Sure! And I think some people are doing that, though I have no idea of numbers. For a lot of people, the apps might be their only way to meet people, or at least they think it's the only way. They feel easy, almost passive; I know some people just swipe when they're bored or out of habit. And then there's the fact that even as some leave the dating apps, including feeld, there are always more people coming along to replace them. So the developers don't really have to care, unless their reputation were to get so bad it creates a tipping point.
Meeting people and dating and sex are all in a sort of period of flux right now. Something else will probably come along and replace dating apps, or at least the kind we have now. We just can't know how long that will take.
It's intentional. Dating apps have existed that didn't fall into the trap of targeting men's money. The original okcupid, before it was bought, it had a fantastic algorithm that actually matched you with people you were shockingly compatible with. But the swipe yes or no style apps makes it easy to skew the algorithm to string along straight men since they are more likely to spend money on dating apps. The goal is to make money, after all. They don't make money if you get on the app and find someone compatible within a month.
Yeah mate, I'm a decent looking guy and I have very little joy also. Just gotta remember that it's the apps that have the problem and the problem isn't you.
I get matches, conversations, and dates there. Hadn’t used it in… maybe a year. Once this update happened I lost my profile and all my matches. I’ve had one match since then and no response from support.
Now why did you say that? In that way, using the words you use! 😂😭🤣
But I won't lie. I definitely swipe on the Bi guys ❤️ Even some of the men that I swipe on who are straight turn out to be Bi.
Just so everyone know this guy who is replying is from the "Bumble" reddit & was caught being racist to a Black woman trying to shame her for not wanting him. Now he is stalking me & others who defend the woman 🙄 Just report him. Dude has issues. Blocking him now. So pathetic.
Bi here, can't entirely agree, although it certainly helped with the matches I did get (and life in general, lol). I would have very little interaction without having used pings though.
I’m always happy to swipe on a bi or queer guy, but I get suspicious of straight guys on there. I mean as long as the rest of their profile is great it’s fine but I trust other bis more.
Bi here. This app has been so shitty to me that I’ve deleted twice. I want to date more women, but apparently I only appeal to dudes. And the last girl I matched with, she seemed cool in text and I meet her just for her to be a stud into kink. Yeah.
15/20 CONVERSATIONS?(!) i think i look pretty good and have a well written bio And i have 15 LIKES, not conversations. And i have had feeld for almost a year
My husband and I are both on there and I echo the previous comment re quality of matches - I have 5000 likes sitting there (I’ve been on a couple of years) and my husband might have 6-8-10 over a couple of months (he has let majestic lapse). I have chatted to and been on dates with far more people than he has, however the quality of connection and longevity he’s had with women he’s met has been far superior to what I’ve found, despite us both being poly and openly looking for secondary relationships. We both have detailed bio’s, plenty of recent face pics and are good with consistent regular chat. He only has women who have clearly read his profile and are on the same page as him liking his profile - I get 8-10 new likes a day but 80% of them are from men ‘looking for fun’ / ‘seeing what’s out there’ / with no poly knowledge or experience despite my profile stating I’m not here to be a fun interlude before your next monogamous relationship / they’re 16,000km away from me despite my profile also stating I’m not interested in penpals / couples looking for unicorns, which my profile also states I am not. In my experience, the vast majority of men on there don’t give a fuck about reading or respecting your profile and what you’re looking for.
49-year-old straight male in major metro area. Been off and on the app for the last year. Never paid for Majestic. Never send pings beyond the initial two they give you. Guess I’m lucky for having met two incredible long-term girlfriends out of it. Several other shorter term acquaintances.
After the initial week or so, I think I got a like every couple of weeks. So yes, quite one-sided. I’d quit the app, come back a few months later and probably 95% of the women were the same.
Unpopular opinion. I think they should make it a pay site for all. Filter out bots, scammers, and non-serious folk. I’d pay for that kind of service.
I mean, I do. Always. But the texts get ignored and left in answered. If I haven’t got a response within a week I just delete the connection because either she isn’t interested or she has too many options for me to bother trying to hold her attention.
It’s honestly better than many of the other apps in my experience. I’m a tall relatively handsome guy in my 30’s with a long and well thought out profile and I’ve gotten about 12 matches in the last month. I’m also in a big poly city and have majestic.
Compared to tinder where I might get 5-6 and none of those matches are poly.
In my experience it helps to match solo and not pair your profile with a partner. Most women on there aren’t looking to date as a unicorn and assume you’re not willing to date solo if you have a paired account.
I’d say it has its trade offs. I don’t get as many matches as most women I know, but the quality of matches is pretty high and no one tries to send unsolicited dick pics or turn the conversation creepy. I’ve been on less dates than my gf overall but have made more long term friends and connections and have had 0 creepy or scary dates irl.
We never paired accounts just for that reason, it puts me off seeing paired accounts even if they play separately
I'm glad to hear you got friendships and nice times from it though:)
I’m curious what a long well thought out profile statement looks like. It’s something I’ve particularly struggled with on Feeld vs other apps. Mind sharing yours? Minus any deets ofc
Before ‘Uplift’ came along back in late 2022, it was common for me to wait around a 2-3 weeks for a match, who would then fold literally at the start of the conversation. After ‘Uplift’ came along, I was able to get anything from 5-25 matches in a 24 hour period, but… with a response rate of around 1/3, and that’s not even including the ‘autofails’ (i.e. blank or faceless profiles).
I don’t know if it’s directly related, but since the December update, even getting ‘Likes’ via ‘Uplift’ feels largely impossible. A few times this year I paid £8.99 for 1 like in 24 hours 🥲. There are way too many factors to list as to why dating for straight men is the way it is right now, but one thing is for sure: London, compared to other cities, just isn’t great for dating/a sex-positive app/IRL focused interactions. IMHO people are generally far too busy, far too apprehensive, far too apathetic and far too distracted by other apps to put energy into something as simple as committing to a conversation. The problem often isn’t getting matches, as much as it is getting matches who have social-skills, a personality, and a desire to meet, even if for a coffee.
Very expansive topic, but just my quick-fire two cents
This app has some of the most anxious timid and unwilling to communicate ppl I've ever had the displeasure of attempting to interact with every. It's truly amazing.
I feel your pain— Feeld is full to the brim with conversation assassins.
My rule of thumb: no questions asked in return? All the best and good day. I’d rather sheer silence than carrying conversations out here.
Yup, I agree 100%. Even though I am new to the app, I completely skip over the low effort bios. I also think due to dudes swiping on every account they see on dating apps men are having less & less luck & only running into bots/scammers because of it.
So far, I am have great conversations w/ men who have well written bios.
To me, Boring Bios/Convos = Boring Sex
They can swipe all the profiles they want, but with the photos they choose to present themselves with and the low effort bios like “here for fun” “seeing what’s out there”….they aren’t going to have luck anyways
And what of all the men in this very thread with filled out profiles stating how they also get no matches? My bio has around 4 paragraphs and I have 5 pictures which are decent, and i havent had a match in more than a week
I suppose there could be a crowding out effect of all the alleged barren profiles. One way this could be cut down on is if there were some sort of peer profile approval process (the SLS app does this) where an app has to go through a review from other members prior to being allowed on the app.
Not all users would want to do this, but many would, add some minor incentives (like a membership reduction or free special features) and you could have a decent review panel.
I think if everyone had filled out profiles (btw the women I see around half have empty bios too) then it wouldn’t really help men that much IMO. You would get less men signing up but I think just inherently women swipe right far far far less than we men wish
I tend to agree it probably wouldn't help inofitself. I'm skeptical of the idea that low effort bios explain much of the sex disparity.
However, making users go through additional hoops before they can use the app could reduce the amount of profiles overall, which could help guys out (especially if the zero effort profiles are as rampant as reported).
I totally agree there is a multitude of women with just a couple of pictures and no bio. It was probably 6-7 out of 10 when I went through the app.
Idk
Maybe it’s a region thing?
But between feeld and 3fun here in SoCal we haven’t had much luck with guys having decent profiles.
“Looking for fun” “seeing what’s out there” is hardly a big attention grabber for us.
This is a husband and wife btw.
The women aren’t any better. A bunch of pictures and no bio or a few sentences. I just swipe left because I wouldn’t even know what to say in a conversation. And men doing the same thing? It’s really making me consider ditching all of this and going to munches instead. Play some board games and take it from there.
10/10. as a woman I paid for majestic to get serious about the app but I was inundated with over thousands of shitty barren profiles. Made the app useless for me.
As a couple who has been in the Ls for a while now we know exactly what we want and what to look for.
It takes us less than two seconds to move past a profile.
It’s honestly crazy to us how low effort the single guys treat it.
We would say only about 10 percent make it to the like phase.
Yeah husband and wife here but yeah it’s so sad, it’s almost like a joke to them like if it happens it happens but zero effort in profile and photos is so annoying .
Takes us less than 2 seconds to get all the info we need to move to like or not.
Nope. That's devastatingly accurate. Having better luck on OkCupid AND Tinder. I had high hopes. But I'm not giving up yet. Just getting more realistic I guess.
I'm not renewing majestic when it expires in a few days. I have had no luck on bumble or hinge either (don’t pay on those). Summer is nearly here, I plan to spend my time out in the world doing things.
It really is that bad. There are tons of bot/spam accounts but likes/matches from actual available/local women are extremely rare. If I'm on as a solo male, folks who are partnered want nothing to do with me. If I'm linked to my partner's account, women who are single want nothing to do with me. I'm pansexual and open to all genders, but the males who match with me are either only looking for quick NSA sex or they don't chat. Women who are straight want nothing to do with me because I'm bi, and apparently I'm not queer enough for queer/trans folks. It went from bad to much worse after the redesign. I'm quitting Majestic after the subscription expires, it's just not worth what they charge for all these crickets.
I get a like every few weeks, maybe once a month. Few of those turn into conversations.
I've had people review my profile, been told it all looks good. So, y'know, I guess that's how it is.
Yep. I had Magestic for 3 months, and got maybe 10-15 matches, only 1 of which went beyond 3 messages before the other person stopped responding. I put effort into my profile, my pictures, and my opening messages and I got absolutely nothing in return. I'm not the best looking guy but I'm not ugly either. I guess women just have too many options and go for the top 1-5% which I am not.
One like from a bot
Glad to see my invisibility on other apps also translates to this one? The gym beckons. Out in the real world, my people exist but are all taken.
you get what you get in this life. No use fussing about it and turning more grey
15/20 conversations over the last few months? I think I've had fewer than a dozen matches/conversations since February of last year, and only one of them turned into anything. Most of them were bots or scammers, with a couple that just plain fizzled almost from the outset.
Yeah I'm in New Zealand where ENM isn't very big and the disparities between my ex's account and mine was unreal! I just don't think the community is that big in some places...
I had one date in three years. I’m attractive, fit, and successful with no baggage; however, I’m neurotically selective.
She was way outta my league—Swiss boarding school, elite university, successful career, toned and very attractive—and was an exceptionally sophisticated conversationalist.
One drink turned into dinner. Had my Uber drop her off at her skyscraper apartment building with a cathedral for a lobby after a lovely kiss. We even targeted a retreat to attend together across the country at the end of next month.
Texted a bit the following afternoon after her rather serious dental procedure joking about her trying not to drool soup from a numb face.
And then, poof! Gone! Feeld shows she hasn’t been on Feeld ever since. Still, one of the more memorable dates in years.
Already starting a new, three-year plan for my next big date. Wish me luck.
Yeah. Stuff is going I got the abyss.
If they ever fix it I’ll make a brand new account. Currently I probably wasted likes and pings on potential matches that will never see them.
This is what it’s like for men with online dating in general. For me, I’ve only had two or three matches since late August. Only one led to chatting, and that ended after a few questions. It is what it is. The last matches I had on OKC was during the pandemic.
It would be a lot better if I could actually see the people that like me. Notification says I got a new like…open app…nothing. Just the same old likes that I’ve said no to 100 times. Like wtf is that.
I do feel like the amount of matches has reduced since the update, but I’m also still connecting with great people and having good dates. So I’m not that bitter about it.
15/20 conversations is huge compared to me. I’m up to 4 matches in about 6 weeks, 3 convos and 2 dates.
Nearly every profile is blank or sparse with a couple of desires so I’m shooting in the dark with likes and pings.
There’s a hole in the market for a newcomer to gain market share of the incumbents. Just bring out a reasonable product and keep it working for 3-5 years before selling out like the others.
It’s horrible really. If you’ve got low self esteem it’s a shortcut to the dumpster for your confidence. I personally find it fun but i have nothing riding on any outcomes. I’d be hooked if I could just have more sexty, flirty chats even with the same low qty of meetups
Such disparities are the norm for apps, but Feeld is uniquely bad. I gave it a whirl for 3 days and had a whole 2 matches (both the starter pings I sent). I'm not convinced my profile was even being shown, that or women don't even bother to swipe.
No one wants to hear this, but you have to buy the boosts. In 24 hours I pick up more likes than I otherwise would in a month. It’s a cruel game, I wish it wasn’t so tied to money, but that’s the way it is.
What you described seems incredibly normal. Anytime I compare with a female friend, it’s night and day. Women operate with thousands of likes and pings. Men get barely anything.
And I’m lucky. I do better IRL and happen to have two consistent connections rn. But I’m actually still trying to be active on the app because sometimes convos and “leads” take a long time to heat up.
I've been on the app for ~1 1/2 months with a detailed profile with good face and body pictures (and I'm 6'1" and have been called "handsome" by many women and "a very pretty man" by gay men), and I have majestic and use my pings regularly.
In that time I've made *one* match.
It's shit for women that don't date men too. Nothing but unicorn hunters, stealth unicorn hunters, and men posing as women to collect nudes/sext. On the bright side there are less overt scammers than most straight men have to deal with, but straight men don't have to deal with predatory couples.
For me, when I first downloaded and tried Feeld I was actually swimming in matches. I’m in a massively populated area. This was prior to them breaking the app for their update. I tried majestic and uplift once and it definitely added to it but I am very frugal and don’t think it’s necessarily worth it for me.
That being said since the way they broke this thing the app has been reallly dead. I think the issue is more of a ratio problem than anything. A lot of people probably got tired of the app being broken and just uninstalled/ never came back.
I actually simply just didn’t bother with it at all. Let it be and forgot about it. However, I opened it up again a couple months ago just out of boredom and noticed that they have since fixed it. All my matches were gone… which is crazy obnoxious but it is what it is. My pool of matches is really low now. I am assuming that most people have not returned to the app and that there is likely way more men on dating apps in general than women. I think it is just the way things are.
I normally do well though. It certainly helps that I am handsome and have a large hog though if I am being brutally honest. A lot of women I was matching with prior to the update debacle were “size queens” and tended to be VERY up front with me so the conversations would stick. If I wasn’t blessed in that regard who knows if they would given a crap about me and even stuck around or not. Hahaha
probably this is a common thing, but for the M here, it's very bad. been in the app for around 5 years now and lived in two different cities (both are core locations, by the way).
not a single real connection has been made. mainly looking for an F for her and to join us, but no luck. and it's crazy because we're both good looking, and have solid profiles in the app.
if there has been any real connection with a human, they all either disconnect or ghost us.
at one time, the M was thinking of using majestic, but now he's leaning more towards closing/deleting the app, rather than paying for it (especially because all of how shitty it is).
the F recently deleted her account because as well, after 5 years, she (as a bisexual F), she didn't find any lady for her. not to mention the flood of likes from men liking her profile... and she isn't even looking for men there anymore.
was funny that she always complained, screaming back to her phone, with the app open, like: "where are all the females?!".
honestly, I'm impressed by how the owners/developers of this app really don't give a f*ck, although they know it doesn't really work.
it's good in theory, but garbage in execution.
edit: by the way, as an M, if he gets 1 match per every month or two months, then it's a lot for him. unless it's scam, that's maybe one "match" per everr 4-5 weeks.
In the two years I have been on there I have matched with about 20 women, chatted with 10, met 2, and matched with about 40 guys, chatted with 15, and met none. It has been even tough to find real guys for either MFM of MMF.
Graveyard. Unless we take into account scammers with their “I’m not on here much hit up my IG or SC or Telegram”. Or if I want a special massage. I cancelled majestic and will delete my account soon. I wish there was a great place for those of us in ENM.
I’m pansexual, so it’s not a total wasteland…but I can tell you two points of note: I get lots of interest from “straight” men (probably trying to get to my wife), some interest from queer men, and absolutely zero interest from any women at all. I live just outside a large city, and there are plenty of people - including women - showing up in my area.
The app has been a disaster since the update but I was never getting many likes for months before that. When the app first launched it felt like a really good alternative to the vanilla dating apps. And I got a fair few connections, enjoying a reasonable amount of real life interactions.
Now, it’s barren. The few likes I get don’t even want to a chat so I end up deleting them after a week of no response. Either the text function doesn’t work or they are so overwhelmed with options my texts go into a pile of unanswered messages. Either way, the app is definitely weighted towards women and men are left desperately trying to make a connection, hence the overwhelming amount of likes women get.
Weekly like? I should get so much attention.
It tends to be about 10% of my pings get a return chat.
I am selective in who I ping, I don’t send one daily.
Maybe I need to add a pic to my profile where you too can save an abandoned puppy.
Yes. Been on the app for probably 7-8 years and it’s dried up almost completely. I haven’t gotten more than one new like a week in months. Based on chats with my best friend there are simply thousands of dudes on here trying to fuck on the first date.
I don’t even have the app anymore. Especially if you’re a guy on there by yourself it’s pretty rough. The only way you get hits is if you label yourself as bi or pansexual and then you only get men. that’s not the problem. The problem is I don’t like only men lol. Sometimes you get lucky and it’s a couple but when I say lucky, I like winning Powerball.
Likely, there is a bigger ratio m/w in this app in comparison with others. 15/20 in last months looks a lot actually, but in depends on the city (I'm in Lisbon)
I only get 1 or 2 likes per MONTH. I had majestic for a while but that was fruitless. I've only had a handful of conversations in the past year and one pretty nice date, but she and her primary decided to go back to monogamy (reminding me why I don't usually date newly "opened" folk).
I'm saving my last two pings in case I come across a couple that interests me. I'll likely delete the app after that.
I’m a straight female looking for one straight play partner (Dom) and it seems incredibly tough to find them. The men are usually ENM or poly and they already have a primary and are looking for a 3rd. Or as many have said no bio, just random interests and 2 or 3 so-so photos.
I’m talking to 2 men right now and they are engaging as they had very detailed bios but one is clearly all about the swinging life and the other one is a Dom but I guess I’m going to have to push for an in-person meeting. The app is so glitchy I don’t even know if my messages are going through since it takes an average of 1-2 days for them to respond.
Which region are you in? I (m) get barely no likes/matches in the UK but lots in the USA (though not all converting to chats/dates)
My female friends are in a similar situation to you. Feeld seems to have way more men than women on it, and women are far more selective, so women get way more likes. Hopefully if more women join the app and it’s seen as more than just hookups, the app will get better :)
From a girl’s perspective: why I have not been matching men and why I ended up leaving despite having thousands of likes:
A bit about me: I came out of a very long relationship with my first man. After many years of very vanilla and non existent sex life. I always knew I was interested in some kinks and would love to explore more stuff. I started by joining regular dating apps but the phew people I’ve been with ended up also being very boring.
So I researched and found feeld. I had normal decent looking pictures and was clear with what I was looking for. Have fun sexually of course,explore new things but with people I build trust, and chemistry. They basically have to be a gentleman and nice to me. I am no escort or sugar baby. I am educated, have my own job and all. But as a woman, before I can be confortable doing certain things with a man, there are at least some minimal requirements.
Be a normal human being. Let’s meet vibe, have normal conversations, be a gentleman, so I can trust and open up. I don’t expect to find a husband or anything like that in there but you still have to treat me like a lady.
Well from the 8000 plus likes I’ve got, most people are very brutal with their sexual advances. Asking for pictures right away, telling me all the dirty things they will do to me if we meet. The people I met (4 to be exact) wanted to rush things, and expected sex right away while they can’t even put in the effort to plan a proper date.
I am not generalizing. There are probably some women who just want to fuck period. Skip the bullshit, Hi 👋 boom 💥 and bye ✌️. But the majority are not like that. So to be successful there or on other dating apps, try to step up a little bit.
It is extremely hard getting anyone’s attention on there, it’s basically a desert. Sure I know the ratio is out of whack but it is on every app. I’m realistic about my expectations but get almost zero interest on Feeld. I love the app design, the intent but it simply doesn’t work. Last time I deleted it I left a comment along the lines of capping the amount of straight men allowed. It’ll never happen of course. But no. The app is a lemon
My likes that turned in to actual matches are in single digits with about 2 years on & off the app.
40 married ENM male. Never bothered with majestic mind you.
To me your bf's numbers sound like a lottery win 🤣
yes, as a straight heterosexual man it’s very barren. i’m not unattractive by any means, but that’s just how the app works. i did match with a lady the other day though, we met up for drinks and hit it off. after that she invited me to her place to hangout, then i walk out of her bathroom and i see her laying there naked 😂 one good experience is all it takes tbh.
i’m a straight woman and i was on feeld in 2022 and found it to be a lot of dominant men looking for submissive females. It’s ok if you’re into that, but I was looking for something more balanced so I left. I’m sorry to read that it has become such a graveyard of bots. Like women are looking to get laid too
Yes. On all dating apps.
>only had about 15/20 conversations over the last few months
That's a lot. I've been on the app about 5 months and have had 3 matches total, and only one conversation
My experience on other apps is only marginally better
I’m always looking… it’s 100% about the profile. No profile? Fuck that. ‘Just ask’ pffft, I don’t participate in this “just ask” mentality. You should be able to write a sentence or two about yourself in a bio. If you choose not to then you better be prepared to lead the conversation, because you aren’t giving me anything to go off of. I’m not going to spam you with interview-style questions because you’ve decided to invest little to no effort… that’s not sexy. I’m not fucking someone who can’t (at minimum) participate in a convo or write a bio.
Yup. I wasted so much money and time on Feeld. And the worst part wasn't necessarily the empty space between connections but the ghosting. I had conversations that were going so super well until suddenly, without warning, they are gone. No replies back, explanations, or reasons. Just, gone. Sucks.
I can say I’ve cleared the feeld game! As in within a 50 mile radius in a big metro area, feeld no longer has matches for me and my searches are somewhat broad as a heteroflexible M. I also suspect feeld is shady putting likes behind a paywall and won’t let those potential likes to appear on my feed so I can like back. I’ve been using it since March and lucky to have two dates and a handful of matches to chat initially, but it’s pretty tame now.
When I first signed up for feeld I think it gave me an uplift boost hence those handful of likes. After I signed up for majestic, the likes stop coming and it’s been dead silence since. Anyone else thinks feeld is being shady or really just a lack of women + couples on the platform?
I’m in NYC. Have a good profile. Matched like 4-5 people in the last week. Few have replied back to me, seems like they have a lot of singles in my area that I’m interested in.
Only issue I see is it basically resets all my options based on where I travel in a day, then making it hard to find anyone in my stack who’s nearby. But staying put in my hood seems to give pretty solid options so far. Never met anyone off it tho.
I’m on n off the app and get a lot of likes. Just get an uplift and set it to ur nearest biggest city. Even if you’re already there. Don’t use current location. Use an engaging bio and you’re good
This is true for pretty much any dating app for guys. I can count on one hand the amount of dates I've been on in the past 6 years.
I started deleting pretty much all my dating profiles, getting 1 or 2 matches every few months is not even worth being on there tbh.
There's infinity bot and scammer and prostitute accounts now on Feeld. So the real women get even more attention, because there are so few. Yes, it is brutal out there for straight dudes. Even if you match, it's so hard to hold a conversation, because the girl could easily have 1000 convos going at once.
Man barren is an understatement. The fact they had 15/20 conversations is still eons better than me. I wouldn’t say I’m bad looking either. Any matches i do get never reply or is a bot. I’ve wanted to delete several times but hold out because the type of women I like I KNOW are on there somewhere, bought majestic once and that helped but very minimal and not worth the price
A guy should think of their bio in the currency that a woman’s breasts and ass value has. Be exciting, semi fictional, hyper realistic about yourself.
a man’s mystery is a woman’s sex appeal.
The brutality isn’t my experience. I live in a pretty small city with a very small dating pool. I am solo poly looking for singles, couples, or groups on my own or with one of my partners for fun or dating.
I’m currently off of discover and just occasionally messaging, but I usually get out what I put into it. If I’m actively looking and swiping and engaging I’ll get consistent matches and responses. If I’m sort of passively swiping when I’m bored, my matches are fewer and less quality (little response, not much engagement) which is partially my fault I’m sure.
I’m not bad looking, I’m a bit older than most of the people I see on the app, and despite being bi and genuinely seeking them out, i have fewer matches with men. I have a detailed profile and am usually pretty quick to send a message after a match.
I’ve just never experienced the lack of engagement or matches that folks describe.
As a straight man, I think, unfortunately, that the solution is for there to be fewer straight men on the app and to allow women to report and ban low quality accounts. How this would be done in practice, I'm not sure. Perhaps require over-represented demos (straight or heteroflexible males) to pay for the app on a sliding scale basis until there is better balance. Allow others to report accounts that "cheat the system." And maybe even require a subscription of as low as $1/month for *all* accounts to help prevent bots and scammers. Severely limit the number of right swipes per day, so certain demos aren't inundated, and then reward low-swiping demos for swiping.
Would this be "unfair"? Yes, it would feel unfair to many, but you have to ask yourself what is the goal of the app beyond just making money for the developers (duh).
It’s v barren. We tried to get back into it, but it was a wasteland for me as a heteroflexible male. I used to get a decent amount of likes/convos (it’s how I met my partner), but now it’s nothing but bots and solicitors.
They should make an app for all these bots and solicitors to get together
That reminds me of something Zizek said about a vibrator and a fleshlight getting it on
How refreshing to read about Zizek on a random Reddit chat
Zizek is a racist bigot. Look it up
Figure out who's scamming who lol! Kinda like the videos of two pizza places calling each other trying to order a pizza
I felt bad when he showed me 😔 unfortunately I guess that's the state of dating apps but it was a shock
Fr, after the update the app just died
Yep, this has been my experience too.
What is “heteroflexible” ? I keep seeing that and it sounds like a euphemism for bisexuality made up by people that are uncomfortable with themselves being bisexual. Which is…. odd. Follow up: okay so yeah. it is a euphemism. All sex is already situational… to begin with. Sexual ATTRACTION is what falls on a spectrum, however, gendered preference falls into one of three categories. Whether you only enjoy sucking cock on Tuesday nights after dinner or eating pussy on Sundays after a Costco haul is irrelevant to whether you are straight, gay, or bi.
It’s the step between heterosexual and bisexual. I don’t want to have a sexual experience with a man directly bc it’s not my speed, but I do find lots of men attractive and I’ll flirt back when the attention comes. I also don’t mind MFM situations and not pressured by them. It can seem like the way you see it from the outside. I find everyone attractive, I’m just only interested in sexual relationships with women.
I've never seen it applied that way. It's normally used as a better way of saying "situationally bi." I feel like setting yourself as HF on Feeld may send the wrong message.
Probably! I’ll do some more research. My profile isn’t even active right now and hasn’t been for awhile, so no harm.
Nor mine. We're in the process of moving so have had ours turned off for awhile. I wasn't having all the problems prior to moving people have been mentioning, so I'm interested to see if the fake profiles are around in our new city.
In our experience it means “straight guy that wants to fuck your partner and will fail to launch anyway because being naked in front of another man wasn’t all they thought it was gonna be” 🤷🏻♂️ We just skip these and file them in the “man straight” category now as they are very much hetero and way less flexible than the name would lead one to believe. I just went with Queer. Technically bi but I’m not willing to leave out anyone except the man straights/heteroflex when it comes to bedroom stuff. Love my straight friends, just don’t wanna date any of them. 😂
Hahaha. I’m glad you found your niche. Also, that is fucking hilarious.
Yeah, it’s kinda funny now but was very annoying when we first joined the app. I think they also expect a more fem dude when they show up and I ain’t that. 🤷🏻♂️ We try to be clear in our bios but I could literally write “I’m a cannibal and will 100% out your head in my fridge” and it would not effect my likes at all. 😂
That’s the worst thing about dating apps dude. Rarely do I match with people that bother to give a shit about reading a bio… it’s so obnoxious.
>I’m a cannibal and will 100% out your head in my fridge” The irony of that is it's funny as hell and may actually get you MORE likes 😂. It would certainly work on me lmaoo
Hahah! I’ll put a random lil joke in there every now and then and see who’s paying attention.
Opposite of the other person. I'm not sexually attracted to men, just cocks. I have no desire to kiss a man or participate in anal. Some people will also call it "situationally bi."
As a woman, to me this means that I am mostly attracted to men but in the right circumstances am somewhat attracted to women
Yes, it's that bad. I've read all the advice and changed my profile and pictures accordingly. I'm in a major metro and soon will be visiting another. I've had 6 matches in 6 months, most don't chat outside of a message a week, if that. I have two likes that aren't shown to me. I'm not majestic but this subreddit is enough to convince me that it isn't even worth trying.
He's given up on it, deleting it tonight, I wasn't aware of just how one sided it is
I don’t know that I would delete it. All it takes is 1 to change your mood about it.
I'm sorry he's had a crap go of it. But he's got you so...!
absolutely not worth paying for the privilege of seeing all the likes you won’t be getting anyway. And pings are just viewed as thirsty and a bit ick when received by most women
Baloney on the pings I answer majority of those way more than likes
Yes, there have been several posts about it recently, and the overall consensus is that it's a desert out there for most straight men. The thing is, it's like this on other dating apps as well. There is a large gap in the male to female ratio, at least looking at straights. I don't know of any dating app that has found a way to mitigate it, even if they want to - and I think it's very arguable that most don't want to change it, because it helps them sell premium memberships, pings/super likes/etc., and more to those men.
I guess it's something that would be hard to combat even on a new app, he's joked about making his own (he's a software developer) but doesn't want the hassle 😂
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I agree and I've basically given up on OLD, this is not something to be solved commercially. I deleted Bumble & Hinge and let my majestic lapse, the only reason I haven't deleted Feeld is that there are a couple people I occasionally chat with. I'm figuring out some IRL activities I can get involved in. Been to a couple of sloshes off Kasidie & Fetlife but tbh the things that center around alcohol are not appealing.
I thought about this as well but am busy with other projects. My thinking was less on making an app like Feeld but more on evolving the speed dating side or providing tools relating to in person meetups to allow for more efficient info exchange. There are a huge amount of dating apps getting funding from major investors that will hit the market over the next 3 years. With the widespread complaints, and so many people working on the problem, it feels inevitable things will get a lot better soon.
I wonder if a business model would be viable where the way they make money is by a pay what you will system, where if a match is succesful and fruitful, people can 'vote' with their money. It incentivizes developers to promote actual matches (and not swipes, or pings, or premium or what have you), but it does depend on the goodwill and community effort of the userbase. For a dating app this probably wouldn't work (different goals for the userbase), but for a libertine lifestyle app, I can see it work with that mindset.
Would be a cute idea but not sure how it would work!
Basically like the youtube thank you button, or the 'buy me a coffee' concept
My bf would put something stupid like "buy me a 4090" or something 🤦♀️
Well then the user interface and design of the app better be stellar 💫
His responsibility, not mine!
Your BF is a man of refined taste
That's debatable
He's brave if he makes the attempt! It seems like a thankless job and I know I at least don't know what even might work to untangle the knot.
Really, the way to do it to simply get rid of any way to view likes or send "pings" or superlikes, etc. If the only way for two people to match is for them to swipe right/hit the like button on each other, women won't be deluged with like notifications. Every body swipes, and filters help you narrow the pool down. That's it.
65/35 f/m!
The only apps where straight man get more matches than woman is SG/SB apps. The quantity and quality is amazing. Before you pass judgement there are many regular woman who are just tired of man who cheapen out and they just want to be feel taken care of. If you can afford it is a game changer.
Exactly that. To be honest when it comes to dating for marriage or dating a men that can provide for their girl, there is more supply of women who want it and less supply of men willing / able to do that. But for apps like feeld, Tinder ect it is wayyyyy easier to find men who want sex without any commitment and without any efforts than women who are ok with that.
What apps might these be? I’ve heard of Luxy and Hily but I don’t want to spend money to see likes or any of that nonsense.
Nah. If I can't get a decent bank of likes without a paid subscription, I for damn sure ain't paying for premium or features. I'll just pay the money to go to a club or event where I don't have to wonder if my profile is even being seen.
Sure! And I think some people are doing that, though I have no idea of numbers. For a lot of people, the apps might be their only way to meet people, or at least they think it's the only way. They feel easy, almost passive; I know some people just swipe when they're bored or out of habit. And then there's the fact that even as some leave the dating apps, including feeld, there are always more people coming along to replace them. So the developers don't really have to care, unless their reputation were to get so bad it creates a tipping point. Meeting people and dating and sex are all in a sort of period of flux right now. Something else will probably come along and replace dating apps, or at least the kind we have now. We just can't know how long that will take.
It's intentional. Dating apps have existed that didn't fall into the trap of targeting men's money. The original okcupid, before it was bought, it had a fantastic algorithm that actually matched you with people you were shockingly compatible with. But the swipe yes or no style apps makes it easy to skew the algorithm to string along straight men since they are more likely to spend money on dating apps. The goal is to make money, after all. They don't make money if you get on the app and find someone compatible within a month.
15/20 is a lot for men. My account is a graveyard
I'm sorry to hear that
Ah I think most guys like me are the same. It’s all good and the few I have met have been really nice
Yeah mate, I'm a decent looking guy and I have very little joy also. Just gotta remember that it's the apps that have the problem and the problem isn't you.
It’s so bad I went back to tinder
Wow must be bad if Tinder is the preferred option!
I get matches, conversations, and dates there. Hadn’t used it in… maybe a year. Once this update happened I lost my profile and all my matches. I’ve had one match since then and no response from support.
Me too!
protip for men on feeld: be bisexual. it's basically the perfect app for bi guys.
Can't get a girl? Start sucking dick
Now why did you say that? In that way, using the words you use! 😂😭🤣 But I won't lie. I definitely swipe on the Bi guys ❤️ Even some of the men that I swipe on who are straight turn out to be Bi.
I don't think I've ever liked a straight guy on Feeld, only our Bi Princes
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Just so everyone know this guy who is replying is from the "Bumble" reddit & was caught being racist to a Black woman trying to shame her for not wanting him. Now he is stalking me & others who defend the woman 🙄 Just report him. Dude has issues. Blocking him now. So pathetic.
Bi here, can't entirely agree, although it certainly helped with the matches I did get (and life in general, lol). I would have very little interaction without having used pings though.
Can confirm it’s absolute heaven if everyone is fuckable
I’m always happy to swipe on a bi or queer guy, but I get suspicious of straight guys on there. I mean as long as the rest of their profile is great it’s fine but I trust other bis more.
why would you get suspicious of straight guys?
Previous experience on dating apps with straight guys. I’m suspicious of everyone at all times tbh, I’m just less suspicious of bi people on Feeld.
Bi here. This app has been so shitty to me that I’ve deleted twice. I want to date more women, but apparently I only appeal to dudes. And the last girl I matched with, she seemed cool in text and I meet her just for her to be a stud into kink. Yeah.
15/20 CONVERSATIONS?(!) i think i look pretty good and have a well written bio And i have 15 LIKES, not conversations. And i have had feeld for almost a year
Yeah, after 6 months or so I might have had about 6 likes, let alone conversations.
Fuck I'm sorry to hear that 😔 didn't realise just how bad it was
Never had a like before the update. Never had a like after the update. Nothing changed for me. 15/20 mean he is highly popular.
I'll tell him to shut up complaining then 😂
My husband and I are both on there and I echo the previous comment re quality of matches - I have 5000 likes sitting there (I’ve been on a couple of years) and my husband might have 6-8-10 over a couple of months (he has let majestic lapse). I have chatted to and been on dates with far more people than he has, however the quality of connection and longevity he’s had with women he’s met has been far superior to what I’ve found, despite us both being poly and openly looking for secondary relationships. We both have detailed bio’s, plenty of recent face pics and are good with consistent regular chat. He only has women who have clearly read his profile and are on the same page as him liking his profile - I get 8-10 new likes a day but 80% of them are from men ‘looking for fun’ / ‘seeing what’s out there’ / with no poly knowledge or experience despite my profile stating I’m not here to be a fun interlude before your next monogamous relationship / they’re 16,000km away from me despite my profile also stating I’m not interested in penpals / couples looking for unicorns, which my profile also states I am not. In my experience, the vast majority of men on there don’t give a fuck about reading or respecting your profile and what you’re looking for.
THIS!! ...same w a married/poly buddy of mine he gets way less matches but much better actual relationships than me/his wife
49-year-old straight male in major metro area. Been off and on the app for the last year. Never paid for Majestic. Never send pings beyond the initial two they give you. Guess I’m lucky for having met two incredible long-term girlfriends out of it. Several other shorter term acquaintances. After the initial week or so, I think I got a like every couple of weeks. So yes, quite one-sided. I’d quit the app, come back a few months later and probably 95% of the women were the same. Unpopular opinion. I think they should make it a pay site for all. Filter out bots, scammers, and non-serious folk. I’d pay for that kind of service.
If it's so bad for you guys then why don't you respond back when you DO get a match?
I mean, I do. Always. But the texts get ignored and left in answered. If I haven’t got a response within a week I just delete the connection because either she isn’t interested or she has too many options for me to bother trying to hold her attention.
matches are so rare. Interaction of any form on there is so rare
It’s honestly better than many of the other apps in my experience. I’m a tall relatively handsome guy in my 30’s with a long and well thought out profile and I’ve gotten about 12 matches in the last month. I’m also in a big poly city and have majestic. Compared to tinder where I might get 5-6 and none of those matches are poly. In my experience it helps to match solo and not pair your profile with a partner. Most women on there aren’t looking to date as a unicorn and assume you’re not willing to date solo if you have a paired account. I’d say it has its trade offs. I don’t get as many matches as most women I know, but the quality of matches is pretty high and no one tries to send unsolicited dick pics or turn the conversation creepy. I’ve been on less dates than my gf overall but have made more long term friends and connections and have had 0 creepy or scary dates irl.
We never paired accounts just for that reason, it puts me off seeing paired accounts even if they play separately I'm glad to hear you got friendships and nice times from it though:)
I’m curious what a long well thought out profile statement looks like. It’s something I’ve particularly struggled with on Feeld vs other apps. Mind sharing yours? Minus any deets ofc
My bf gets more action than me, a bi woman. It’s been dead for me ever since since we linked our accounts
We never linked our accounts mainly because we play separately, but about 80% of interactions on the app are from men and not women
Before ‘Uplift’ came along back in late 2022, it was common for me to wait around a 2-3 weeks for a match, who would then fold literally at the start of the conversation. After ‘Uplift’ came along, I was able to get anything from 5-25 matches in a 24 hour period, but… with a response rate of around 1/3, and that’s not even including the ‘autofails’ (i.e. blank or faceless profiles). I don’t know if it’s directly related, but since the December update, even getting ‘Likes’ via ‘Uplift’ feels largely impossible. A few times this year I paid £8.99 for 1 like in 24 hours 🥲. There are way too many factors to list as to why dating for straight men is the way it is right now, but one thing is for sure: London, compared to other cities, just isn’t great for dating/a sex-positive app/IRL focused interactions. IMHO people are generally far too busy, far too apprehensive, far too apathetic and far too distracted by other apps to put energy into something as simple as committing to a conversation. The problem often isn’t getting matches, as much as it is getting matches who have social-skills, a personality, and a desire to meet, even if for a coffee. Very expansive topic, but just my quick-fire two cents
This app has some of the most anxious timid and unwilling to communicate ppl I've ever had the displeasure of attempting to interact with every. It's truly amazing.
I feel your pain— Feeld is full to the brim with conversation assassins. My rule of thumb: no questions asked in return? All the best and good day. I’d rather sheer silence than carrying conversations out here.
Oh yeah I'm like Steph curry with the disconnect I can hit it from a mile away It's just amazing how these adults can't hold conversations
Men haven’t been treating it with any respect. Their profiles are barren and their photos garbage. It’s a joke
Yup, I agree 100%. Even though I am new to the app, I completely skip over the low effort bios. I also think due to dudes swiping on every account they see on dating apps men are having less & less luck & only running into bots/scammers because of it. So far, I am have great conversations w/ men who have well written bios. To me, Boring Bios/Convos = Boring Sex
They can swipe all the profiles they want, but with the photos they choose to present themselves with and the low effort bios like “here for fun” “seeing what’s out there”….they aren’t going to have luck anyways
And what of all the men in this very thread with filled out profiles stating how they also get no matches? My bio has around 4 paragraphs and I have 5 pictures which are decent, and i havent had a match in more than a week
I suppose there could be a crowding out effect of all the alleged barren profiles. One way this could be cut down on is if there were some sort of peer profile approval process (the SLS app does this) where an app has to go through a review from other members prior to being allowed on the app. Not all users would want to do this, but many would, add some minor incentives (like a membership reduction or free special features) and you could have a decent review panel.
I think if everyone had filled out profiles (btw the women I see around half have empty bios too) then it wouldn’t really help men that much IMO. You would get less men signing up but I think just inherently women swipe right far far far less than we men wish
I tend to agree it probably wouldn't help inofitself. I'm skeptical of the idea that low effort bios explain much of the sex disparity. However, making users go through additional hoops before they can use the app could reduce the amount of profiles overall, which could help guys out (especially if the zero effort profiles are as rampant as reported). I totally agree there is a multitude of women with just a couple of pictures and no bio. It was probably 6-7 out of 10 when I went through the app.
Same - invested in Majestic, put up six good photos and almost hit the character limit, and it got me one match that turned out to be a bot.
Idk Maybe it’s a region thing? But between feeld and 3fun here in SoCal we haven’t had much luck with guys having decent profiles. “Looking for fun” “seeing what’s out there” is hardly a big attention grabber for us. This is a husband and wife btw.
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Yeah we don’t even bother with female singles profiles. We just assume they are all fake or trying to get us to sign up for their only fans haha
The women aren’t any better. A bunch of pictures and no bio or a few sentences. I just swipe left because I wouldn’t even know what to say in a conversation. And men doing the same thing? It’s really making me consider ditching all of this and going to munches instead. Play some board games and take it from there.
Facts. I'm so tired of whiny posts like this from men when they can't even be bothered to put any effort into it
10/10. as a woman I paid for majestic to get serious about the app but I was inundated with over thousands of shitty barren profiles. Made the app useless for me.
As a couple who has been in the Ls for a while now we know exactly what we want and what to look for. It takes us less than two seconds to move past a profile. It’s honestly crazy to us how low effort the single guys treat it. We would say only about 10 percent make it to the like phase.
Yeah husband and wife here but yeah it’s so sad, it’s almost like a joke to them like if it happens it happens but zero effort in profile and photos is so annoying . Takes us less than 2 seconds to get all the info we need to move to like or not.
Nope. That's devastatingly accurate. Having better luck on OkCupid AND Tinder. I had high hopes. But I'm not giving up yet. Just getting more realistic I guess.
I'm not renewing majestic when it expires in a few days. I have had no luck on bumble or hinge either (don’t pay on those). Summer is nearly here, I plan to spend my time out in the world doing things.
It really is that bad. There are tons of bot/spam accounts but likes/matches from actual available/local women are extremely rare. If I'm on as a solo male, folks who are partnered want nothing to do with me. If I'm linked to my partner's account, women who are single want nothing to do with me. I'm pansexual and open to all genders, but the males who match with me are either only looking for quick NSA sex or they don't chat. Women who are straight want nothing to do with me because I'm bi, and apparently I'm not queer enough for queer/trans folks. It went from bad to much worse after the redesign. I'm quitting Majestic after the subscription expires, it's just not worth what they charge for all these crickets.
1 like a week would be a dream 😅. At least I'm all good now. I'm off the app and in a relationship. I'm glad to be out of the rat race.
I get a like every few weeks, maybe once a month. Few of those turn into conversations. I've had people review my profile, been told it all looks good. So, y'know, I guess that's how it is.
Yet and still, people will still cling on to the idea that you just need to try harder and put in effort.
Yep. I had Magestic for 3 months, and got maybe 10-15 matches, only 1 of which went beyond 3 messages before the other person stopped responding. I put effort into my profile, my pictures, and my opening messages and I got absolutely nothing in return. I'm not the best looking guy but I'm not ugly either. I guess women just have too many options and go for the top 1-5% which I am not.
One like from a bot Glad to see my invisibility on other apps also translates to this one? The gym beckons. Out in the real world, my people exist but are all taken. you get what you get in this life. No use fussing about it and turning more grey
15/20 conversations over the last few months? I think I've had fewer than a dozen matches/conversations since February of last year, and only one of them turned into anything. Most of them were bots or scammers, with a couple that just plain fizzled almost from the outset.
Yeah I'm in New Zealand where ENM isn't very big and the disparities between my ex's account and mine was unreal! I just don't think the community is that big in some places...
I was having regular conversations and meeting some great people until the update. Total graveyard now. I let Majestic lapse in Jan.
Honestly? It used to be pretty good for matching but now it’s like a ghost town, and I live in a major city!
There's a pretty good community on it in Tucson, Arizona, but probably only 10 to 15 matches a month tops
THATS HOW WE SPEAK IN TUCSON ARIZONIAAAAA (off topic but can't hear tucson without Matt Berry)
1 human, alcohol martini, please!
I had one date in three years. I’m attractive, fit, and successful with no baggage; however, I’m neurotically selective. She was way outta my league—Swiss boarding school, elite university, successful career, toned and very attractive—and was an exceptionally sophisticated conversationalist. One drink turned into dinner. Had my Uber drop her off at her skyscraper apartment building with a cathedral for a lobby after a lovely kiss. We even targeted a retreat to attend together across the country at the end of next month. Texted a bit the following afternoon after her rather serious dental procedure joking about her trying not to drool soup from a numb face. And then, poof! Gone! Feeld shows she hasn’t been on Feeld ever since. Still, one of the more memorable dates in years. Already starting a new, three-year plan for my next big date. Wish me luck.
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Yeah. Stuff is going I got the abyss. If they ever fix it I’ll make a brand new account. Currently I probably wasted likes and pings on potential matches that will never see them.
This is what it’s like for men with online dating in general. For me, I’ve only had two or three matches since late August. Only one led to chatting, and that ended after a few questions. It is what it is. The last matches I had on OKC was during the pandemic.
short answer: yes long answer: yes
It would be a lot better if I could actually see the people that like me. Notification says I got a new like…open app…nothing. Just the same old likes that I’ve said no to 100 times. Like wtf is that.
I do feel like the amount of matches has reduced since the update, but I’m also still connecting with great people and having good dates. So I’m not that bitter about it.
Simply put yes, it is.
This app is garbage. I don’t even get likes using an uplift since they update. I had Apple refund all my purchases, then deleted my account.
15/20 conversations is huge compared to me. I’m up to 4 matches in about 6 weeks, 3 convos and 2 dates. Nearly every profile is blank or sparse with a couple of desires so I’m shooting in the dark with likes and pings. There’s a hole in the market for a newcomer to gain market share of the incumbents. Just bring out a reasonable product and keep it working for 3-5 years before selling out like the others.
My bf joked with the idea of it but don't think he actually has time for it 😅 it is a shame, I didn't realise the huge gap between guys and girls!
It’s horrible really. If you’ve got low self esteem it’s a shortcut to the dumpster for your confidence. I personally find it fun but i have nothing riding on any outcomes. I’d be hooked if I could just have more sexty, flirty chats even with the same low qty of meetups
Such disparities are the norm for apps, but Feeld is uniquely bad. I gave it a whirl for 3 days and had a whole 2 matches (both the starter pings I sent). I'm not convinced my profile was even being shown, that or women don't even bother to swipe.
It’s so bad I turned gay. Now I get matches.
Pretty much.
No one wants to hear this, but you have to buy the boosts. In 24 hours I pick up more likes than I otherwise would in a month. It’s a cruel game, I wish it wasn’t so tied to money, but that’s the way it is.
I think he's bought a boost or 2? I'm not sure I'll ask what his experiences were with them
Feast or famine.
What you described seems incredibly normal. Anytime I compare with a female friend, it’s night and day. Women operate with thousands of likes and pings. Men get barely anything. And I’m lucky. I do better IRL and happen to have two consistent connections rn. But I’m actually still trying to be active on the app because sometimes convos and “leads” take a long time to heat up.
I've been on the app for ~1 1/2 months with a detailed profile with good face and body pictures (and I'm 6'1" and have been called "handsome" by many women and "a very pretty man" by gay men), and I have majestic and use my pings regularly. In that time I've made *one* match.
I deleted mine; it was useless
It's shit for women that don't date men too. Nothing but unicorn hunters, stealth unicorn hunters, and men posing as women to collect nudes/sext. On the bright side there are less overt scammers than most straight men have to deal with, but straight men don't have to deal with predatory couples.
For me, when I first downloaded and tried Feeld I was actually swimming in matches. I’m in a massively populated area. This was prior to them breaking the app for their update. I tried majestic and uplift once and it definitely added to it but I am very frugal and don’t think it’s necessarily worth it for me. That being said since the way they broke this thing the app has been reallly dead. I think the issue is more of a ratio problem than anything. A lot of people probably got tired of the app being broken and just uninstalled/ never came back. I actually simply just didn’t bother with it at all. Let it be and forgot about it. However, I opened it up again a couple months ago just out of boredom and noticed that they have since fixed it. All my matches were gone… which is crazy obnoxious but it is what it is. My pool of matches is really low now. I am assuming that most people have not returned to the app and that there is likely way more men on dating apps in general than women. I think it is just the way things are. I normally do well though. It certainly helps that I am handsome and have a large hog though if I am being brutally honest. A lot of women I was matching with prior to the update debacle were “size queens” and tended to be VERY up front with me so the conversations would stick. If I wasn’t blessed in that regard who knows if they would given a crap about me and even stuck around or not. Hahaha
probably this is a common thing, but for the M here, it's very bad. been in the app for around 5 years now and lived in two different cities (both are core locations, by the way). not a single real connection has been made. mainly looking for an F for her and to join us, but no luck. and it's crazy because we're both good looking, and have solid profiles in the app. if there has been any real connection with a human, they all either disconnect or ghost us. at one time, the M was thinking of using majestic, but now he's leaning more towards closing/deleting the app, rather than paying for it (especially because all of how shitty it is). the F recently deleted her account because as well, after 5 years, she (as a bisexual F), she didn't find any lady for her. not to mention the flood of likes from men liking her profile... and she isn't even looking for men there anymore. was funny that she always complained, screaming back to her phone, with the app open, like: "where are all the females?!". honestly, I'm impressed by how the owners/developers of this app really don't give a f*ck, although they know it doesn't really work. it's good in theory, but garbage in execution. edit: by the way, as an M, if he gets 1 match per every month or two months, then it's a lot for him. unless it's scam, that's maybe one "match" per everr 4-5 weeks.
It's bad, although when I put on the intro of my bio that I wouldn't ask for nudes or send dick pics then I got like 15 matches in 2 days...
In the two years I have been on there I have matched with about 20 women, chatted with 10, met 2, and matched with about 40 guys, chatted with 15, and met none. It has been even tough to find real guys for either MFM of MMF.
Graveyard. Unless we take into account scammers with their “I’m not on here much hit up my IG or SC or Telegram”. Or if I want a special massage. I cancelled majestic and will delete my account soon. I wish there was a great place for those of us in ENM.
I’m pansexual, so it’s not a total wasteland…but I can tell you two points of note: I get lots of interest from “straight” men (probably trying to get to my wife), some interest from queer men, and absolutely zero interest from any women at all. I live just outside a large city, and there are plenty of people - including women - showing up in my area.
The app has been a disaster since the update but I was never getting many likes for months before that. When the app first launched it felt like a really good alternative to the vanilla dating apps. And I got a fair few connections, enjoying a reasonable amount of real life interactions. Now, it’s barren. The few likes I get don’t even want to a chat so I end up deleting them after a week of no response. Either the text function doesn’t work or they are so overwhelmed with options my texts go into a pile of unanswered messages. Either way, the app is definitely weighted towards women and men are left desperately trying to make a connection, hence the overwhelming amount of likes women get.
Weekly like? I should get so much attention. It tends to be about 10% of my pings get a return chat. I am selective in who I ping, I don’t send one daily. Maybe I need to add a pic to my profile where you too can save an abandoned puppy.
Yes. Been on the app for probably 7-8 years and it’s dried up almost completely. I haven’t gotten more than one new like a week in months. Based on chats with my best friend there are simply thousands of dudes on here trying to fuck on the first date.
I don’t even have the app anymore. Especially if you’re a guy on there by yourself it’s pretty rough. The only way you get hits is if you label yourself as bi or pansexual and then you only get men. that’s not the problem. The problem is I don’t like only men lol. Sometimes you get lucky and it’s a couple but when I say lucky, I like winning Powerball.
Likely, there is a bigger ratio m/w in this app in comparison with others. 15/20 in last months looks a lot actually, but in depends on the city (I'm in Lisbon)
Guys select bi. Chances are she'll never make you prove it.
"Before our date, please wrap your mouth on this schlong"
I was just experimenting
I only get 1 or 2 likes per MONTH. I had majestic for a while but that was fruitless. I've only had a handful of conversations in the past year and one pretty nice date, but she and her primary decided to go back to monogamy (reminding me why I don't usually date newly "opened" folk). I'm saving my last two pings in case I come across a couple that interests me. I'll likely delete the app after that.
I’m a straight female looking for one straight play partner (Dom) and it seems incredibly tough to find them. The men are usually ENM or poly and they already have a primary and are looking for a 3rd. Or as many have said no bio, just random interests and 2 or 3 so-so photos. I’m talking to 2 men right now and they are engaging as they had very detailed bios but one is clearly all about the swinging life and the other one is a Dom but I guess I’m going to have to push for an in-person meeting. The app is so glitchy I don’t even know if my messages are going through since it takes an average of 1-2 days for them to respond.
Which region are you in? I (m) get barely no likes/matches in the UK but lots in the USA (though not all converting to chats/dates) My female friends are in a similar situation to you. Feeld seems to have way more men than women on it, and women are far more selective, so women get way more likes. Hopefully if more women join the app and it’s seen as more than just hookups, the app will get better :)
I'm in Leeds and get few likes now used to get loads last year,
From a girl’s perspective: why I have not been matching men and why I ended up leaving despite having thousands of likes: A bit about me: I came out of a very long relationship with my first man. After many years of very vanilla and non existent sex life. I always knew I was interested in some kinks and would love to explore more stuff. I started by joining regular dating apps but the phew people I’ve been with ended up also being very boring. So I researched and found feeld. I had normal decent looking pictures and was clear with what I was looking for. Have fun sexually of course,explore new things but with people I build trust, and chemistry. They basically have to be a gentleman and nice to me. I am no escort or sugar baby. I am educated, have my own job and all. But as a woman, before I can be confortable doing certain things with a man, there are at least some minimal requirements. Be a normal human being. Let’s meet vibe, have normal conversations, be a gentleman, so I can trust and open up. I don’t expect to find a husband or anything like that in there but you still have to treat me like a lady. Well from the 8000 plus likes I’ve got, most people are very brutal with their sexual advances. Asking for pictures right away, telling me all the dirty things they will do to me if we meet. The people I met (4 to be exact) wanted to rush things, and expected sex right away while they can’t even put in the effort to plan a proper date. I am not generalizing. There are probably some women who just want to fuck period. Skip the bullshit, Hi 👋 boom 💥 and bye ✌️. But the majority are not like that. So to be successful there or on other dating apps, try to step up a little bit.
It is extremely hard getting anyone’s attention on there, it’s basically a desert. Sure I know the ratio is out of whack but it is on every app. I’m realistic about my expectations but get almost zero interest on Feeld. I love the app design, the intent but it simply doesn’t work. Last time I deleted it I left a comment along the lines of capping the amount of straight men allowed. It’ll never happen of course. But no. The app is a lemon
The app is unusable
My likes that turned in to actual matches are in single digits with about 2 years on & off the app. 40 married ENM male. Never bothered with majestic mind you. To me your bf's numbers sound like a lottery win 🤣
It’s actually a lot worse than that if you don’t live in an urban area.
yes, as a straight heterosexual man it’s very barren. i’m not unattractive by any means, but that’s just how the app works. i did match with a lady the other day though, we met up for drinks and hit it off. after that she invited me to her place to hangout, then i walk out of her bathroom and i see her laying there naked 😂 one good experience is all it takes tbh.
i’m a straight woman and i was on feeld in 2022 and found it to be a lot of dominant men looking for submissive females. It’s ok if you’re into that, but I was looking for something more balanced so I left. I’m sorry to read that it has become such a graveyard of bots. Like women are looking to get laid too
Yes. On all dating apps. >only had about 15/20 conversations over the last few months That's a lot. I've been on the app about 5 months and have had 3 matches total, and only one conversation My experience on other apps is only marginally better
I’m always looking… it’s 100% about the profile. No profile? Fuck that. ‘Just ask’ pffft, I don’t participate in this “just ask” mentality. You should be able to write a sentence or two about yourself in a bio. If you choose not to then you better be prepared to lead the conversation, because you aren’t giving me anything to go off of. I’m not going to spam you with interview-style questions because you’ve decided to invest little to no effort… that’s not sexy. I’m not fucking someone who can’t (at minimum) participate in a convo or write a bio.
100%, yes. Honest opinion, I had MUCH more success before the update. Pretty much crickets since then
Yup. I wasted so much money and time on Feeld. And the worst part wasn't necessarily the empty space between connections but the ghosting. I had conversations that were going so super well until suddenly, without warning, they are gone. No replies back, explanations, or reasons. Just, gone. Sucks.
I am too having trouble getting pings , too many spam in my area ,not cool
My ex had 5 matches, I’m sure the app is 90% men, 10% other. I got rid of it a while back!
I can say I’ve cleared the feeld game! As in within a 50 mile radius in a big metro area, feeld no longer has matches for me and my searches are somewhat broad as a heteroflexible M. I also suspect feeld is shady putting likes behind a paywall and won’t let those potential likes to appear on my feed so I can like back. I’ve been using it since March and lucky to have two dates and a handful of matches to chat initially, but it’s pretty tame now. When I first signed up for feeld I think it gave me an uplift boost hence those handful of likes. After I signed up for majestic, the likes stop coming and it’s been dead silence since. Anyone else thinks feeld is being shady or really just a lack of women + couples on the platform?
He had 15 to 20 conversations? That's gold my friend.
Lifeless losers with fakes, unstable couples searching for a 3rd girl, aaaaand yepp thats it mist of the time
I’m in NYC. Have a good profile. Matched like 4-5 people in the last week. Few have replied back to me, seems like they have a lot of singles in my area that I’m interested in. Only issue I see is it basically resets all my options based on where I travel in a day, then making it hard to find anyone in my stack who’s nearby. But staying put in my hood seems to give pretty solid options so far. Never met anyone off it tho.
My partner had 150 likes in 2 days, I had 12 in a month
I’m on n off the app and get a lot of likes. Just get an uplift and set it to ur nearest biggest city. Even if you’re already there. Don’t use current location. Use an engaging bio and you’re good
This is true for pretty much any dating app for guys. I can count on one hand the amount of dates I've been on in the past 6 years. I started deleting pretty much all my dating profiles, getting 1 or 2 matches every few months is not even worth being on there tbh.
Massive difference in the amount of men vs women on this app. Many of them are using like a hookup app and slobbering over the women I’m exhausted
There's infinity bot and scammer and prostitute accounts now on Feeld. So the real women get even more attention, because there are so few. Yes, it is brutal out there for straight dudes. Even if you match, it's so hard to hold a conversation, because the girl could easily have 1000 convos going at once.
Yep, deleted my Magestic account last week. Feeling really positive about it.
Man barren is an understatement. The fact they had 15/20 conversations is still eons better than me. I wouldn’t say I’m bad looking either. Any matches i do get never reply or is a bot. I’ve wanted to delete several times but hold out because the type of women I like I KNOW are on there somewhere, bought majestic once and that helped but very minimal and not worth the price
It’s not this bad for all men. Just….most of us.
A guy should think of their bio in the currency that a woman’s breasts and ass value has. Be exciting, semi fictional, hyper realistic about yourself. a man’s mystery is a woman’s sex appeal.
The brutality isn’t my experience. I live in a pretty small city with a very small dating pool. I am solo poly looking for singles, couples, or groups on my own or with one of my partners for fun or dating. I’m currently off of discover and just occasionally messaging, but I usually get out what I put into it. If I’m actively looking and swiping and engaging I’ll get consistent matches and responses. If I’m sort of passively swiping when I’m bored, my matches are fewer and less quality (little response, not much engagement) which is partially my fault I’m sure. I’m not bad looking, I’m a bit older than most of the people I see on the app, and despite being bi and genuinely seeking them out, i have fewer matches with men. I have a detailed profile and am usually pretty quick to send a message after a match. I’ve just never experienced the lack of engagement or matches that folks describe.
As a straight man, I think, unfortunately, that the solution is for there to be fewer straight men on the app and to allow women to report and ban low quality accounts. How this would be done in practice, I'm not sure. Perhaps require over-represented demos (straight or heteroflexible males) to pay for the app on a sliding scale basis until there is better balance. Allow others to report accounts that "cheat the system." And maybe even require a subscription of as low as $1/month for *all* accounts to help prevent bots and scammers. Severely limit the number of right swipes per day, so certain demos aren't inundated, and then reward low-swiping demos for swiping. Would this be "unfair"? Yes, it would feel unfair to many, but you have to ask yourself what is the goal of the app beyond just making money for the developers (duh).