Bro, what? I don’t even get where FLR comes In here? An FLR even at its harshest is **consensual**. She sounds like she is using your kink to get away with cheating on you.
She doesn’t love you if she’s doing this. I’ve been married 12 years, trust me. This is not healthy and certainly not the way to start a marriage. Massive red flag.
I understand, it’s easy for anonymous keyboard warriors to pass judgement. But you have a right to consent or not consent to anything, even in an FLR. Ask anyone here in a long term FLR or even femdom, it’s arguably even more important to have trust, communication and consent because one partner is giving up so much to the other. You have to know she’ll protect that.
If you have a problem with this you have a right to speak up. If she won’t change and your don’t consent that’s a real problem. Again even in the strict domme/sub there is a trust to respect boundaries. Don’t be afraid to speak up and stand up for yourself in a case like this.
>strict domme/sub there
But there is a difference between consent and fear of losing what you have.
This difference is a MUST to be able to parse the difference.
Sounds to me like she is taking advantage of him. He nauseates her?
Is this part of the kink OR does he truly nauseate her? If so, why in the heck would she marry him? For money? Security?
There is also the possibility that she has security in the relationship and change is difficult for anyone to undertake, even if its necessary. The fear of "a change of life" in any way can be fearful for most people as well.
I dont get the marriage angle from someone who is nauseated by you. Unless there is a fear there, or money.
>relationship we both put lot of
It does NOT seem like she put a lot into it. If she is saying you nauseate her then how can she love you?
If you dont sexually satisfy her at all then to me, Maybe she needs to show you how. She cant expect that you can know what she likes. And if its penis size.... there are fixes for that. How can this other guy satisfy her? She wants to feel full? They have toys for that. 500 dollars gets you the dirk. And 700 gets you a larger one at Realcock2.
Or....Is that all part of the kink? The nausea?
Seems to me she is marrying you for some benefit. Not for love. How can you be nauseated by someone you plan to marry?
Remember, marriage is not and should not ever be about, "We have sexual chemistry but we cant stand each other" nor can it be just about, "We have no sexual chemistry at all but I like being around this person." Unless you are older. Because eventually the sexual is going to disappear in a relationship as you grow older.
What benefit does she have in the relationship? Just a feeling toward you? It cant be that. Because she says you nauseate her.
So what is her reason for marrying you? Because she says she adores you but you nauseate her at the same time? This makes ZERO sense. It is a direct contradiction in reality. Just saying she adores you does not make it so.
Do you provide her with safety from living a lesser lifestyle if she was not with you?
Cucking is never part of a healthy relationship, lmao. It's sexist BS based on the faulty idea that the submissive man is inferior and the woman isn't actually dominant, she just needs a "real man" to put her in her place. You need therapy, not kink or an FLR.
I beg to differ on cuckolding. Many couples including ours enjoy the act of cuckolding. It has absolutely nothing to do with anything you’ve mentioned. Communication, trust and love are paramount. My wife can choose whoever she wants to be with, I could see someone if I’d want but choose not too. I may not consider myself alpha as I’m very much submissive in nature, I still am a man and my wife respects that. It’s not a label she gives. Sure she many mention it for fun. We very much are happy in our marriage together. Sexually I don’t necessarily need to be involved. As long as she’s being fulfilled sexually. It’s all that matters to us. Been together 12 years, married 4 and since we became ethically non monogamous. Our marriage has only gotten stronger and better.
Now where I fully agree you with you is on how bad this guys situation is and strongly needs couples therapy. Probably personal too.
Cuckolding ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS leads to someone catching feelings eventually.
Your love for each other can not overpower her desires. That is the truth.
Ask yourself this question... if you were to NOT want to do this lifestyle anymore.... Does she love you enough to stay with you?
And in saying this I would like to make a few things very clear... when you marry someone you should absolutely consider there will be a very long time you live together after the hormones subside and menopause is over and older age sets in where there may be no more desires sexually.
having said all of that.... If you told her you didnt want to be cuckolded anymore and wish for her to stop, would she stop? Does she love you enough to stop and stick around? OR, is she only with you because of the convenience of being able to fulfill some need that was created by having sex with multiple partners throughout the years anyway?
Did she request this lifestyle or did you?
I am asking these questions for multiple reasons. One of which is my own curiosity crossed with my own understanding of how human beings think and respond.
My older brother has been married 5 times because he lives the swingers/cuckold lifestyle and he always marries someone who his wife brings into the relationship. Like I told him when he started this lifestyle back in his early 20s and it has proved true.... Someone ALWAYS catches feelings. Its just, when you start spending more time with the one you caught feelings for or the wife starts doing it, eventually you will notice or she will notice. Then it will start to bother you.
Turn your feet in the other direction and start running. You'd be insane to marry her. Find a woman who is into you, then have all the kink fun you want.
Was gonna write something sour in response but I like sour things so I'ma just let you imagine how kissing inside the mouth may look like comically. Gotta distract myself with what I can :)
A cheeky kiss is still affectionate to be taken as such.
Healthy until something 🍐 flavor cones your relationship in a burden like scenario or routine. It's probably not the guy who's in control, but your woman or how family of his may be impacting your woman's mindset, hopefully that's only something that begins a kinkier more excitable to the whole involved fling, just state what makes you uncomfortable if it does and what you want if you want it. And sounds like she's telling you she's into disappointing you too feel helpless enough to beg for sex while she mayhaps gets off on cucking you into chastity or degradation play. Hoping for yours and hers best desires to become achievable without the worry or home improvement advertising a paint job your way. Tired of the basics missing from the instructions list, just fill empty wall space with nature's spread of sticks and leaves and use primer before painting ffs. Helps reflection of heat back to where it came from and put things between your wall sheets cause cold. The more you knoooooow oooohhhh I'm spooky ghost enthusiast, they love empty spaces and if you know less the more influence a ghost may have oooohhhoohh ghosts boos! Hehe my sillyness at least helping me for right now.
I would say it sounds wonderful. In an FLR relationship she gets to see whoever she wants, snd do what she pleases. Your job is to adore her and support her. You need to work on pleasuring her with your tongue and work on all the ways you can please her, from doing chores to giving her foot rubs. Your fiance sounds perfect please adore and worship her, I doubt you'll find another like her.
You are projecting your kink on her and she seems happy to go along with it. She doesn't seem to be attracted to you and being a soul mate doesn't equal love. Whether you like being cuck or not, this doesn't seem all right. It is still ok to turn around and run for the hills.
>soul mate doesn't equal love
I actually believe HE thinks they are soul mates and she goes along with that because she is gaining something by it. I would bet anything that is the case. She is benefiting by being in a relationship with the OP in some way and that is why she sticks around. Of course she can just sleep with whomever she chooses so of course she can also have a complete other relationship with someone else.
I believe eventually, with her doing this she will catch feelings for someone else who will take care of her and she will jump ship eventually.
You should consider couples counseling and if she refuses to do that, you need to move on and get counseling just for yourself to get over this. This is an abusive situation. And not okay.
No.
Bro, what? I don’t even get where FLR comes In here? An FLR even at its harshest is **consensual**. She sounds like she is using your kink to get away with cheating on you. She doesn’t love you if she’s doing this. I’ve been married 12 years, trust me. This is not healthy and certainly not the way to start a marriage. Massive red flag.
I totally agree
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I understand, it’s easy for anonymous keyboard warriors to pass judgement. But you have a right to consent or not consent to anything, even in an FLR. Ask anyone here in a long term FLR or even femdom, it’s arguably even more important to have trust, communication and consent because one partner is giving up so much to the other. You have to know she’ll protect that. If you have a problem with this you have a right to speak up. If she won’t change and your don’t consent that’s a real problem. Again even in the strict domme/sub there is a trust to respect boundaries. Don’t be afraid to speak up and stand up for yourself in a case like this.
>strict domme/sub there But there is a difference between consent and fear of losing what you have. This difference is a MUST to be able to parse the difference. Sounds to me like she is taking advantage of him. He nauseates her? Is this part of the kink OR does he truly nauseate her? If so, why in the heck would she marry him? For money? Security? There is also the possibility that she has security in the relationship and change is difficult for anyone to undertake, even if its necessary. The fear of "a change of life" in any way can be fearful for most people as well. I dont get the marriage angle from someone who is nauseated by you. Unless there is a fear there, or money.
>relationship we both put lot of It does NOT seem like she put a lot into it. If she is saying you nauseate her then how can she love you? If you dont sexually satisfy her at all then to me, Maybe she needs to show you how. She cant expect that you can know what she likes. And if its penis size.... there are fixes for that. How can this other guy satisfy her? She wants to feel full? They have toys for that. 500 dollars gets you the dirk. And 700 gets you a larger one at Realcock2. Or....Is that all part of the kink? The nausea? Seems to me she is marrying you for some benefit. Not for love. How can you be nauseated by someone you plan to marry? Remember, marriage is not and should not ever be about, "We have sexual chemistry but we cant stand each other" nor can it be just about, "We have no sexual chemistry at all but I like being around this person." Unless you are older. Because eventually the sexual is going to disappear in a relationship as you grow older. What benefit does she have in the relationship? Just a feeling toward you? It cant be that. Because she says you nauseate her. So what is her reason for marrying you? Because she says she adores you but you nauseate her at the same time? This makes ZERO sense. It is a direct contradiction in reality. Just saying she adores you does not make it so. Do you provide her with safety from living a lesser lifestyle if she was not with you?
You shouldnt be getting married from what you have written
Without any open context or communication, id say no
Of course not.
Hey this sounds completely abusive and one sided, maybe dont
Something doesn't sound right in how she is treating you. It feels like she is not up to the task of being married.
Cucking is never part of a healthy relationship, lmao. It's sexist BS based on the faulty idea that the submissive man is inferior and the woman isn't actually dominant, she just needs a "real man" to put her in her place. You need therapy, not kink or an FLR.
Yeah I get so tired of flr and cuckolding being considered the same thing
I beg to differ on cuckolding. Many couples including ours enjoy the act of cuckolding. It has absolutely nothing to do with anything you’ve mentioned. Communication, trust and love are paramount. My wife can choose whoever she wants to be with, I could see someone if I’d want but choose not too. I may not consider myself alpha as I’m very much submissive in nature, I still am a man and my wife respects that. It’s not a label she gives. Sure she many mention it for fun. We very much are happy in our marriage together. Sexually I don’t necessarily need to be involved. As long as she’s being fulfilled sexually. It’s all that matters to us. Been together 12 years, married 4 and since we became ethically non monogamous. Our marriage has only gotten stronger and better. Now where I fully agree you with you is on how bad this guys situation is and strongly needs couples therapy. Probably personal too.
Cuckolding ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS leads to someone catching feelings eventually. Your love for each other can not overpower her desires. That is the truth. Ask yourself this question... if you were to NOT want to do this lifestyle anymore.... Does she love you enough to stay with you? And in saying this I would like to make a few things very clear... when you marry someone you should absolutely consider there will be a very long time you live together after the hormones subside and menopause is over and older age sets in where there may be no more desires sexually. having said all of that.... If you told her you didnt want to be cuckolded anymore and wish for her to stop, would she stop? Does she love you enough to stop and stick around? OR, is she only with you because of the convenience of being able to fulfill some need that was created by having sex with multiple partners throughout the years anyway? Did she request this lifestyle or did you? I am asking these questions for multiple reasons. One of which is my own curiosity crossed with my own understanding of how human beings think and respond. My older brother has been married 5 times because he lives the swingers/cuckold lifestyle and he always marries someone who his wife brings into the relationship. Like I told him when he started this lifestyle back in his early 20s and it has proved true.... Someone ALWAYS catches feelings. Its just, when you start spending more time with the one you caught feelings for or the wife starts doing it, eventually you will notice or she will notice. Then it will start to bother you.
Turn your feet in the other direction and start running. You'd be insane to marry her. Find a woman who is into you, then have all the kink fun you want.
Was gonna write something sour in response but I like sour things so I'ma just let you imagine how kissing inside the mouth may look like comically. Gotta distract myself with what I can :) A cheeky kiss is still affectionate to be taken as such. Healthy until something 🍐 flavor cones your relationship in a burden like scenario or routine. It's probably not the guy who's in control, but your woman or how family of his may be impacting your woman's mindset, hopefully that's only something that begins a kinkier more excitable to the whole involved fling, just state what makes you uncomfortable if it does and what you want if you want it. And sounds like she's telling you she's into disappointing you too feel helpless enough to beg for sex while she mayhaps gets off on cucking you into chastity or degradation play. Hoping for yours and hers best desires to become achievable without the worry or home improvement advertising a paint job your way. Tired of the basics missing from the instructions list, just fill empty wall space with nature's spread of sticks and leaves and use primer before painting ffs. Helps reflection of heat back to where it came from and put things between your wall sheets cause cold. The more you knoooooow oooohhhh I'm spooky ghost enthusiast, they love empty spaces and if you know less the more influence a ghost may have oooohhhoohh ghosts boos! Hehe my sillyness at least helping me for right now.
I would say it sounds wonderful. In an FLR relationship she gets to see whoever she wants, snd do what she pleases. Your job is to adore her and support her. You need to work on pleasuring her with your tongue and work on all the ways you can please her, from doing chores to giving her foot rubs. Your fiance sounds perfect please adore and worship her, I doubt you'll find another like her.
This does not sound healthy at all.
If this post is all true, I can't imagine the emotional state you must be in. I'd be heading to a therapist, and dropping my fiancée in a heartbeat
You are projecting your kink on her and she seems happy to go along with it. She doesn't seem to be attracted to you and being a soul mate doesn't equal love. Whether you like being cuck or not, this doesn't seem all right. It is still ok to turn around and run for the hills.
>soul mate doesn't equal love I actually believe HE thinks they are soul mates and she goes along with that because she is gaining something by it. I would bet anything that is the case. She is benefiting by being in a relationship with the OP in some way and that is why she sticks around. Of course she can just sleep with whomever she chooses so of course she can also have a complete other relationship with someone else. I believe eventually, with her doing this she will catch feelings for someone else who will take care of her and she will jump ship eventually.
You should consider couples counseling and if she refuses to do that, you need to move on and get counseling just for yourself to get over this. This is an abusive situation. And not okay.
This makes me nauseous tbh
Don't get married to her. You are probably making this up or extremely naive.