Hi, thanks for asking: Because I been going from long term to long term and I’m just going to impose this on myself to make sure not to jump on to the next one. Besides it’s not like I’m celibate, but I know I can find more time to work on my home and take care to find more time with my dogs and all.
After a year I’ll probably be more proactive because I do like being in a couple, but atm I just want to see what else is out there aside from just being with/looking for someone.
Not to "This" a comment but... Yeah.
A relationship is something that grows from friendship, feelings that take a long time to grow strong roots.
If you're jumping into relationships, you have what Reba McEntire calls "[The fear of being alone](https://open.spotify.com/track/5NFtmubmKmQ3rSs0TWLkde?si=JbI9Qc-7SOCp4jyv9AIvLg)". It means you should work on yourself, to be comfortable with yourself by yourself.
This is incredibly necessary, because nobody wants to be in a relationship where they are responsible for your emotions. Where they can't take time to breathe, and do their own thing from time to time.
Hi,
Well thanks for the response. It's a very healthy reason, so I hope there is a lot of growth for you. Bringing some focus on yourself is nice when you've been in a partnership. Also I hope you enjoy a good root (fuck) or two.
Mike
I’ll give you one piece of advice that has been true for me and maybe others:
The longer you’re single. The harder it is to not be single.
You get used to it. You get used to being very self focused. And it’s harder to do things as ‘the two of us’ type deal.
I’m ok with that. It would be nice not to have to sweat worrying if my plans will constantly have to be checked or if I have to ask before I make big changes to my own house because it’s what I want to do vs “it’s what we want to do” type deal. If after a year I feel good doing what I been doing then I might say it was worth going thru this personal thing.
Oh most definitely!! And that is absolutely a good way to approach it.
I know for myself I’ve been truly single for maybe 7ish years now. And the idea of someone else in my house regularly is such a weird thought to me now 😂 but I had to take some time to myself and do work on my self love. I really began to realize I need to be able to love myself before I can think of loving someone else. So I totally get you on that!
ClassyWrist is right. I haven’t dated since 2019, and now I can’t imagine going back to being tethered to someone. The peace of mind and independence is very comfortable.
Not to be a pointy nose in your business, but when's the last time you went out?
Went to a gay meetup? Went to a gay bar? Actually said hello to someone on that dating app?
Heck, when's the last time you went out into sexually ambiguous public?
Usually, the answer is before COVID, or never.
Time to fix that!
I go out almost every weekend, I meet lots of guys, I just don't date. Either none of the guys are interesting to me or I'm not interesting to any of the guys that I'm interested in.
Honestly I'm fine with it, my last relationship was kinda toxic and I don't really want to get into another anytime soon. I prefer just going out and being free and just enjoying casual sex.
OMG, if instead of dating (or \*trying\* to date) I had focused on other things.... so much time wasteeeeeed.... and guess what? I'm now alooooooone.....
It gets easier. Now I'm at the point where I don't even wanna go out on a date cause its too much work and anxiety to find some guy who actually finds me cute enough to date. So now I'm at year 2 without a date lol
'Been about day 100. Too many authentic things to do. Like dancing in the streets. Making my own clothing. Singing in the choir. Volunteering at the Spark Museum Of Electrical Invention, fixing old radios and explaining to the public how they work!
Anything (hooking up or coffee) with the expectation I will see that guy again in any regular basis: I’m going to spend a year not chasing or getting in to a relationship with someone even if it’s loosely based. Fwb is so grey I’m cutting that out and just going nsa if I feel like hooking up. These are just my self imposed thoughts, I’m sure everyone else has theirs.
My good young man. Prep provides protection (but not 100%) from HIV. What prep also does is lower the concern about STIs from random sex as shown by the dramatic increase in syphilis. I’m not suggesting celibacy. Just awareness. And satisfying sex doesn’t have to include anal sex.
This just makes me wonder either how many people disregard each other because they don't look typically aesthetically-appealing, or because people don't actually want to settle down.
Love the Dog Haus, tho. lol
So if not dating is a goal then I guess I'm on my 8490th day right now 😂😂😂😆
Never dated since birth so I also already added the leap year 😂😂😂
Then you are in your 20s, don't give up on it ;)
Me too, how do people like OP have to try not to date? 😭😭
hhh, we are so close. I am on my 8553rd day, I think.
Is that tear I’m seeing? /s
Why have you decided to not date and why a year? Love the dog house🙂
Hi, thanks for asking: Because I been going from long term to long term and I’m just going to impose this on myself to make sure not to jump on to the next one. Besides it’s not like I’m celibate, but I know I can find more time to work on my home and take care to find more time with my dogs and all. After a year I’ll probably be more proactive because I do like being in a couple, but atm I just want to see what else is out there aside from just being with/looking for someone.
Don’t be “proactive”. Let things happen naturally
Not to "This" a comment but... Yeah. A relationship is something that grows from friendship, feelings that take a long time to grow strong roots. If you're jumping into relationships, you have what Reba McEntire calls "[The fear of being alone](https://open.spotify.com/track/5NFtmubmKmQ3rSs0TWLkde?si=JbI9Qc-7SOCp4jyv9AIvLg)". It means you should work on yourself, to be comfortable with yourself by yourself. This is incredibly necessary, because nobody wants to be in a relationship where they are responsible for your emotions. Where they can't take time to breathe, and do their own thing from time to time.
I think that's a very healthy way to do it.
Hi, Well thanks for the response. It's a very healthy reason, so I hope there is a lot of growth for you. Bringing some focus on yourself is nice when you've been in a partnership. Also I hope you enjoy a good root (fuck) or two. Mike
Damn, looks great! Nice man. I wish I had the determination to do this kind of stuff 😅. You are doing great!
Is your right bi-cep getting bigger than your left?
What if he’s a lefty?
I'm a righty but I always do it with the left 🤷♀️ I'm a nail polish hobbiest so she's become my favourite with a lot of things 😭
Mine is but I jerk with my left. So I don’t get it
Over 6 and 1/2 years single. Sigh
Same
how does being single link to doing up a dog house?
Uhhmmm because instead of FUCKING he allocated his time to build a house for the one who genuinely love him instead 😉😉😉
Lol, I’m still hooking up.
I’ll give you one piece of advice that has been true for me and maybe others: The longer you’re single. The harder it is to not be single. You get used to it. You get used to being very self focused. And it’s harder to do things as ‘the two of us’ type deal.
I’m ok with that. It would be nice not to have to sweat worrying if my plans will constantly have to be checked or if I have to ask before I make big changes to my own house because it’s what I want to do vs “it’s what we want to do” type deal. If after a year I feel good doing what I been doing then I might say it was worth going thru this personal thing.
Oh most definitely!! And that is absolutely a good way to approach it. I know for myself I’ve been truly single for maybe 7ish years now. And the idea of someone else in my house regularly is such a weird thought to me now 😂 but I had to take some time to myself and do work on my self love. I really began to realize I need to be able to love myself before I can think of loving someone else. So I totally get you on that!
ClassyWrist is right. I haven’t dated since 2019, and now I can’t imagine going back to being tethered to someone. The peace of mind and independence is very comfortable.
Looks great!! Einstein is super cute
Thank you, he is a very good dog. Check out his pups at @Stevie_and_Einstein
Please say hi to your dog for me.
I'm doing the same! Except not by choice
Not to be a pointy nose in your business, but when's the last time you went out? Went to a gay meetup? Went to a gay bar? Actually said hello to someone on that dating app? Heck, when's the last time you went out into sexually ambiguous public? Usually, the answer is before COVID, or never. Time to fix that!
I go out almost every weekend, I meet lots of guys, I just don't date. Either none of the guys are interesting to me or I'm not interesting to any of the guys that I'm interested in. Honestly I'm fine with it, my last relationship was kinda toxic and I don't really want to get into another anytime soon. I prefer just going out and being free and just enjoying casual sex.
I like the black / white farmhouse vibe. Trendy, gay…
I think it’s navy blue- my house had a blu-ish hue roof shingles and the sides are white. The dog is just a ham.
OMG, if instead of dating (or \*trying\* to date) I had focused on other things.... so much time wasteeeeeed.... and guess what? I'm now alooooooone.....
I've only just realised that I've never actually seen a dog house in real life...
The dog house looks so good! And the dog is super cute. Good luck with the challenge
I should do something like this. I need to be okay being alone.
It gets easier. Now I'm at the point where I don't even wanna go out on a date cause its too much work and anxiety to find some guy who actually finds me cute enough to date. So now I'm at year 2 without a date lol
The fact you have to try to not date is depressing.
'Been about day 100. Too many authentic things to do. Like dancing in the streets. Making my own clothing. Singing in the choir. Volunteering at the Spark Museum Of Electrical Invention, fixing old radios and explaining to the public how they work!
Ummm did you quit dating ur hand
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Who hurt you man 💀 No need to put down the entire gay community and all men just because you had a bad experience.
Often times the casual sex isn't even worth it.
If all the guys who are actively not dating (including me) developed an app called, oh I don’t know, LIMBO, maybe there’d be some life long matches? 😊
Lol; there’s no gay ltr app either.
*Summons red flag hot guy*
What’s a date?
Anything (hooking up or coffee) with the expectation I will see that guy again in any regular basis: I’m going to spend a year not chasing or getting in to a relationship with someone even if it’s loosely based. Fwb is so grey I’m cutting that out and just going nsa if I feel like hooking up. These are just my self imposed thoughts, I’m sure everyone else has theirs.
Does Einstein have two different color eyes? I love Corgis, I politely request more pictures please.
For you, does dating ≠ hookup?
Nope, I can hook up if I want, I don’t normally do that and I just went to planned parenthood for prep so I’m all set if I’m wanting to.
My good young man. Prep provides protection (but not 100%) from HIV. What prep also does is lower the concern about STIs from random sex as shown by the dramatic increase in syphilis. I’m not suggesting celibacy. Just awareness. And satisfying sex doesn’t have to include anal sex.
Dating? That was 1562 beers ago
Lol I been single for the last 7 years.
I'm on day 3000-ish. Do I get some sort of prize? It hasn't motivated me to do little projects like painting a dog house.
This just makes me wonder either how many people disregard each other because they don't look typically aesthetically-appealing, or because people don't actually want to settle down. Love the Dog Haus, tho. lol
Dating is SO overrated 😬
Do you mean dating or hooking up?
he's so handsome
I’m on day 348, since me and my ex broke up. Finally feeling fine still not looking though.