This is both to the man I am replying to and the guy above me.
This does kinda make sense, but I think it can also be attributed to how much our societies have kind of degraded, y’know, moral decadence and wealth gaps and all.
The amount of disgust I feel at how many value ego and material wealth over human life and well being, how they are willing to make millions into sacrificial lambs to fulfill it.
When we were told we’d be in a society where we would have a choice, where people would care and be willing to lend a hand…
How we’d be having lives of plenty, only to wake up from the **dream** in the land of despair, seeing none of the wealth we toiled away for, as it was stripped from our hands, into that of the wealthy, powerful, egotistical, and deluded.
It sucks.
The consolation I take is that a life of inner peace and knowing I contribute to good would be more satisfying to me than climbing to the top by hurting people...
I think the quality of life ain't too different tbh between the zillionaires and a modest comfortable career if you look after your physical health and try to adapt to healthy habits. We all need to eat, sh*t and sleep.
This is 110 % precisely why I want to leave the city and go back to rural living like where I grew up, but my partner is an extroverted lifelong urbanite. It's kinda tearing me apart - I'm so exhausted and overwhelmed. I think I could deal with working in the city so long as I had a sanctuary to escape to, but he cant and won't see it. It's killing me.
It is your own well being we speak of, for the pain is at your detriment and it seems to be major.
I wish you well nonetheless, but this is all I can give you, know that I do sympathize.
Yeah. Afterall I'm in my own head nearly all the time that it's easier saying all the times I've fully been 1000% grounded in reality. Sometimes I make entire series in my head to plan out my reality but when it deviates I don't know what to do and I'm scared of the possibilities of what might happen should things deviate which they usually do.
😂yeah. I feel that.
I think a lot of people have been low level traumatized, constantly invalidated and/ or often disconnected with ourselves for some other reason. Not being clear on who you are or your values makes interacting with people exhausting.
Sensitivity is a gift and also a curse.
No shame in the game though. Just need some healing ❤️🩹 that’s all.
Top that off with me being told by people that I look like a judgey person when they first meet me.
I do judge… but I don’t mean to and I promise I don’t hold anything against you.
I thought I could get away with telling myself certain judgements I have are inappropriate and as long as I cover it up with being sweet it will all be fine. But whenever conflict came around, it still showed. I realize that its because i’m not truly compassionate 💔
I've a big heart. I care for the world. I care for a lot of people.
But the people who are close to me I truly care about the most.
But the weird thing is: I like to care and worry for others. But when it comes to me. I don't like people caring or worrying about me. It's weird.
But in general for me caring about people. Even the ones close to me. It is truly draining. But I deal with it. 😊🩵
"I love and care for people"
Nah I don't think so, as a delusion maybe if it's for anything but genuinely close friends, or just to feel better/get affirmation. Why should someone bother for the business of a complete stranger who may carry traits that are a threat to your interests?
Here's the bio of my profile, fits well with this post:
"Your lazy hardworker, geek sportsman, romantic macho, talkative introvert, rational dreamer, intelligent dumber, social loner, narcissistic people-pleaser, open-minded stubborn..."
Honestly completely depends on the person. I get easily exhausted by some people. Others I could talk to for literal hours and could keep going.
Kindred spirits are always a joy to be around. Some people just suck the energy and joy out of you. Sometimes very extroverted people can be difficult to be around.
I’m okay around people in my immediate vicinity but tire quickly, it’s manageable. What’s not is my phone, it’s basically a front door in my pocket, everyone drops by unannounced and everyone knows I’m behind it looking through the peephole. I hate hate hate hate that my sociability is dictated by how well I communicate with a dumbass phone. So…. That’s why my circle is small, at least for the most part.
I love and care about humanity as a whole and fully believe in our potential as a species to do amazing and genuinely good things.
I also see how our imposed hierarchal, artificial scarcity, authoritarian society has twisted us into something nigh irredeemable and entirely unpleasant to participate in.
I love people and the people in my life…
But am also exhausted after being social
Also just as happily or would sometimes say more so love a whole day or more for myself…
But at the same time I also want to see the people I love from time to time but then I am tired and look forward to retreat to my introverted ways and love being alone, but I love the lovely people in my life too and don’t want to let them down…
Next to I have adhd and some mild autism probably am time blind so can also go ages without seeing someone but still caring about someone just the same
But also scared they maybe don’t have that and need more contact to be upheld
It’s a bit of a 😵💫💖✨🥰🥺😣❤️all of this, in no particular order and various repeats here and there
We just need little more curiosity and imagination when it comes to human interaction. Instead of dwelling on how they make you feel, try to direct your attention to who they really may be, their nuances and characteristics, not who you think you may be around them.
Clear you mind and be genuinely interested.
"I don't want anything truly awful to ever happen to you, that said, I hope I never hear from you ever again for the rest of my life"
I guess it beats the opposite, not caring about other people and their opinions don't matter, but enjoy having them around you because you love the attention (well, from a moralistic pov anyway, though it sure would be advantageous in getting ahead in one's career... 🤔)
Friends are wonderful but they are too much responsibility. You constantly have to be talking or texting them and then going out all the time. I just can't.
u/abnabatchan 2 3 years ago I did a test and I was infp. But a year or so later it changed to something else. These archetypes are not always the same. Sometimes due to life circumstantial conditions they may slightly change.
I am introverted in general. Need lots of "alone" or "don't touch me" time. Do you also feel the same?
Ain't that the truth
I think it's because we usually measure happiness with social currency, i.e it's a lot easier to make other people happy than to make yourself happy
It's true. I hate people and I don't wanna be in a relationship but I'm sure having someone next to me that gets me would be good
Whatever, I need money if I want to survive
Controversial take: I honestly think a lot of infps love an idealised version of people but the real thing exhausts them - saying this as an infp
Nah that's not very controversial, that's just facts
This is both to the man I am replying to and the guy above me. This does kinda make sense, but I think it can also be attributed to how much our societies have kind of degraded, y’know, moral decadence and wealth gaps and all.
Indeed it can be, we are fed the same ideals as our forefathers but go out into a world with very different values
The amount of disgust I feel at how many value ego and material wealth over human life and well being, how they are willing to make millions into sacrificial lambs to fulfill it. When we were told we’d be in a society where we would have a choice, where people would care and be willing to lend a hand… How we’d be having lives of plenty, only to wake up from the **dream** in the land of despair, seeing none of the wealth we toiled away for, as it was stripped from our hands, into that of the wealthy, powerful, egotistical, and deluded.
It sucks. The consolation I take is that a life of inner peace and knowing I contribute to good would be more satisfying to me than climbing to the top by hurting people... I think the quality of life ain't too different tbh between the zillionaires and a modest comfortable career if you look after your physical health and try to adapt to healthy habits. We all need to eat, sh*t and sleep.
This is 110 % precisely why I want to leave the city and go back to rural living like where I grew up, but my partner is an extroverted lifelong urbanite. It's kinda tearing me apart - I'm so exhausted and overwhelmed. I think I could deal with working in the city so long as I had a sanctuary to escape to, but he cant and won't see it. It's killing me.
It is your own well being we speak of, for the pain is at your detriment and it seems to be major. I wish you well nonetheless, but this is all I can give you, know that I do sympathize.
Lmao so true😭😭 everything is better in my head.
Yeah. Afterall I'm in my own head nearly all the time that it's easier saying all the times I've fully been 1000% grounded in reality. Sometimes I make entire series in my head to plan out my reality but when it deviates I don't know what to do and I'm scared of the possibilities of what might happen should things deviate which they usually do.
Maybe 🤔 I think this is more likely to happen in romantic relationships though.
Probably more heightened in romantic relationships given the timeframes, and people putting their best foot forward and what not
You put my entire life experience with people into words 😭
Soooo true.
😂yeah. I feel that. I think a lot of people have been low level traumatized, constantly invalidated and/ or often disconnected with ourselves for some other reason. Not being clear on who you are or your values makes interacting with people exhausting. Sensitivity is a gift and also a curse. No shame in the game though. Just need some healing ❤️🩹 that’s all.
Same, lol. I care deeply about people, but I'm easily bothered by their flaws. Does that make me judgemental?
Top that off with me being told by people that I look like a judgey person when they first meet me. I do judge… but I don’t mean to and I promise I don’t hold anything against you.
I thought I could get away with telling myself certain judgements I have are inappropriate and as long as I cover it up with being sweet it will all be fine. But whenever conflict came around, it still showed. I realize that its because i’m not truly compassionate 💔
I've a big heart. I care for the world. I care for a lot of people. But the people who are close to me I truly care about the most. But the weird thing is: I like to care and worry for others. But when it comes to me. I don't like people caring or worrying about me. It's weird. But in general for me caring about people. Even the ones close to me. It is truly draining. But I deal with it. 😊🩵
It's insane to me how much I relate to this sub. I was just thinking about this yesterday. 🤔
I call mine intermittent caring. I care and I leave after
I care in my thoughts
I care about them and like want to talk to them but at the same time I feel exhausted doing so ??
I can't say i love and care for people. I feel too disassociated from most people, i can't relate. My life has steered me in a different direction.
IS THERE ANYTHING POSITIVE ABOUT BEING AN INFP???
"I love and care for people" Nah I don't think so, as a delusion maybe if it's for anything but genuinely close friends, or just to feel better/get affirmation. Why should someone bother for the business of a complete stranger who may carry traits that are a threat to your interests?
Here's the bio of my profile, fits well with this post: "Your lazy hardworker, geek sportsman, romantic macho, talkative introvert, rational dreamer, intelligent dumber, social loner, narcissistic people-pleaser, open-minded stubborn..."
Sounds like me
Honestly completely depends on the person. I get easily exhausted by some people. Others I could talk to for literal hours and could keep going. Kindred spirits are always a joy to be around. Some people just suck the energy and joy out of you. Sometimes very extroverted people can be difficult to be around.
lol 🤣🤣
I’m okay around people in my immediate vicinity but tire quickly, it’s manageable. What’s not is my phone, it’s basically a front door in my pocket, everyone drops by unannounced and everyone knows I’m behind it looking through the peephole. I hate hate hate hate that my sociability is dictated by how well I communicate with a dumbass phone. So…. That’s why my circle is small, at least for the most part.
I love and care about humanity as a whole and fully believe in our potential as a species to do amazing and genuinely good things. I also see how our imposed hierarchal, artificial scarcity, authoritarian society has twisted us into something nigh irredeemable and entirely unpleasant to participate in.
I love people and the people in my life… But am also exhausted after being social Also just as happily or would sometimes say more so love a whole day or more for myself… But at the same time I also want to see the people I love from time to time but then I am tired and look forward to retreat to my introverted ways and love being alone, but I love the lovely people in my life too and don’t want to let them down… Next to I have adhd and some mild autism probably am time blind so can also go ages without seeing someone but still caring about someone just the same But also scared they maybe don’t have that and need more contact to be upheld It’s a bit of a 😵💫💖✨🥰🥺😣❤️all of this, in no particular order and various repeats here and there
We just need little more curiosity and imagination when it comes to human interaction. Instead of dwelling on how they make you feel, try to direct your attention to who they really may be, their nuances and characteristics, not who you think you may be around them. Clear you mind and be genuinely interested.
"I don't want anything truly awful to ever happen to you, that said, I hope I never hear from you ever again for the rest of my life" I guess it beats the opposite, not caring about other people and their opinions don't matter, but enjoy having them around you because you love the attention (well, from a moralistic pov anyway, though it sure would be advantageous in getting ahead in one's career... 🤔)
Friends are wonderful but they are too much responsibility. You constantly have to be talking or texting them and then going out all the time. I just can't.
This is the most relatable post i’ve seen on this sub
u/abnabatchan 2 3 years ago I did a test and I was infp. But a year or so later it changed to something else. These archetypes are not always the same. Sometimes due to life circumstantial conditions they may slightly change. I am introverted in general. Need lots of "alone" or "don't touch me" time. Do you also feel the same?
Oof
Yeah, apparently you’re meant to actually DO stuff! Pff
Ain't that the truth I think it's because we usually measure happiness with social currency, i.e it's a lot easier to make other people happy than to make yourself happy
So me😂
Depends on who it is
It's true. I hate people and I don't wanna be in a relationship but I'm sure having someone next to me that gets me would be good Whatever, I need money if I want to survive
agreed
intj here, this is where we say you don't have to love everyone, you can have respect for someone's humanity and despise their guts
In my experience it's more like "I love and care so much about people, look at me, aren't I awesome? I'm so much better than other people"