calling u/drifand and then everyone that has both I was confused to choose which one, Leuchtturm Drehgriffel Nr. 1 1917 vs Caran D'Ache 849, any of y'all thoughts on em?

You are asking about the pen? The pencil models are Nr.2 and 844 respectively.

i 'm kinda stuck on weather i should get a tombow mono graph, graphgear 500 or a rotring 500 or smth else if i can find it in romania or somewhere where the shipping doesnt cost a lot

Tombow Mono Graph (I assume that you're mean the Mono Graph Zero that has knurling grip) has big rounded body and the biggest diameter among them, it's lowest heavy among them, the tip and the grip was individual part (which is they're not one part), the knurling is slipperiest among them, has twisting eraser mechanism and no lead hardness Pentel GraphGear 500 has rounded grip with hex barrel; the grip has bigger diameter than the barrel, it's low heavy, the tip and grip was one part, the knurling is fine; not too sharp nor too slippery, there's lead hardness (Japan version) *(Mono Graph Zero and GraphGear 500 has similar price) rOtring 500 has rounded grip with hex barrel; the grip diameter smaller than the hex barrel, it's center gravity (which is can bent the tip easiest among them when it dropped), the tip and grip was one part, the knurling was the sharpest among them, there's leaf hardness, it's the priciest among them . so it back to your preference, but I'll go for GraphGear 500 which has cheapy price and comfy drafting design

Im looking for a high quality lead holder that can be plastic or metal. I like the designs of the older lead holders like the presto-matic so something like that. Preferably without a clip and 2mm. Budget:- $20-30~ Website preferably Amazon

Staedtler 925 25 or 35 2.0mm was the best choice for that price range (even less than your budget); all metal build, incremental lead advance it's come with clip, but it's easily to slide it off so it'll being clipless