I vaguely remember this post, the thing that stuck out most to me was this guyās wife would just do a gym session then climb into bed without showering.
Because she does NOT want to have sex with her husband. Clearly, she finds him unattractive or undesirable for whatever reason. Sounds like they need to work on their marriage to re ignite any spark they had or maybe look elsewhere
When I don't want to have sex, it's usually due to me feeling unattractive. I know my husband finds me attractive, but I feel bloated or smelly or any number of things depending on how insecure I'm feeling. Not because of him. She could be similar? Or maybe there's a 50/50 split? Harsh to say it's all on the guy...
Sometimes when I get off a 11 hour shift I'm too broken to shower even though I know it would make me feel better but then I just die in my bed, end up feeling bad about it, and washing all my bedding the next day.
Yeah and it's proven that women are less likely to get turned on and want sex if the guy doesn't do any chores. I would understand you don't wanna have sex with someone who acts more like a son than your husband.
Here's the thing. We don't know HOW he is asking. Is he setting the mood, giving a heads up before hand, or just being like 'stop what you are doing and lets bang'
The reason I bring this up is that it is statistically proven that woman are less likely to have a spontaneous sex drive. Meaning, they aren't going to be turned on at the drop of a hat. Often times, it's takes effort, and yes, some planning.
Communication is key, not blaming, not sulking, not asking until the answer is 'yes' to get him off her back.
>Here's the thing. We don't know HOW he is asking. Is he setting the mood, giving a heads up before hand, or just being like 'stop what you are doing and lets bang'
The funny thing is, we do know, because he documented it.
Reason: "I'm in the middle of watching my TV show."
Also, he complained about how she said they didn't have time, but then they were 20 minutes early.
So, if he thinks that prep, foreplay, sex, and cleanup should take less than 20 minutes, there's a pretty obvious reason that she's saying no most days.
Yeah, if you ask I might say, āokā or I might say not right now or I have to pee or something. If you try to set a mood and maybe I dunno, give me a kiss or two, I might actually *want* to have sex.
Nah she fucked him three times in a a month and a half. Thatās an average of 2 times a month. Thatās not a lot but itās more than some people get. Heās still not fuckable but not the least fuckable
Cheers for this. My gf has been annoyed at me over something trivial and weāre currently sat in silence in the lounge.
This comment made me laugh out loud.
Breaking the icy silence.
She asked me āwhatās so funnyā and I š showed her this comment.
Now weāre currently doing doggy.
I always excitedly show my fiancee my spreadsheets with all their cool programming in them and she always doesnt care :P
OPs spreadsheet sucks though. But I guess it does what it intended to do
And what about all the times he denied going down on her? Finding her clit? Attempting to make her orgasm? Giving her a massage that lasted more than 20 seconds...
The dude seemed to think that those extra 20min were enough time to bang, clean up, shower, and get re-dressed to go out so clearly he doesn't reciprocate.
Sometimes even when I forget to ask. When she goes for a walk or to the store, when she watches that show of hers, when sheās sleeping beside me, when I go to the shed to put the mower away, lunch break at work, just leave my desk for no reason other than to jerk it. Oh and right before she surprises me and asks for sex.
This is a weird thing to make a spreadsheet about. If someone's not wanting to, you shouldn't guilt them over it or imply their reasons are invalid "excuses." If it's causing relationship problems, sit down and have a conversation about it.
Interesting. Sometimes I feel like we are part of a social experiment. How many comments and reposts will one version get over the other? Iāve seen the man version reposted twice now but I still havenāt seen the womanās version.
was it about how many times she asked him to do the dishes vs. how many times the dishes actually got done?
i may not be an A student but im definitely better than 2 out of 47...
I actually see a lot of value here, but you have to replace āexcuseā with āreasonā. Would benefit from applying generic categories that apply to more than one entry (āI donāt feel sexyā) and then taking on the big stacks with deliberate, loving action. For example, it looks like several have to do with how she feels about herself. Some thoughtful compliments might help. If she needs more zone-out time, then any way you can increase her available free time? Upside is she gets happier and you get laid.
Genius!
Itās honestly so disrespectful to call her reasons āexcuses.ā Framing from the 1950s, when your family was your property and before marital rape was a crime.
āMy poor guyā because she didnāt want to have sex? Jesus Christ I knew this sub was going downhill but is this really the āhumourā this sub has devolved to? āWoman has a choice in whether or not she wants to participate in sexual intercourse, sucks for menā
This is why she doesnāt have sex with him.
Edit: Even someone like me who is sex positive wouldnāt put up with this guy. When someone prioritizes sex this much over their partner, itās honestly pathetic.
Nothing says āI love youā like spreadsheets to shove in your face later as āevidenceā.
Iāve ran that experiment. After we had our two kids, my wifeās libido tanked. Rock bottom. At 23, I was lucky to have sex once a month when before the kids it was ~5x/week. She said it was because I ask all the time.
So I stopped asking and didnāt get sex for over 6 months before I finally broke and said something. She had an āahaā moment and consulted her doctor. Hormonal testing and a prescription later, weāre back to mostly normal.
Plus it compounds. You say yes once because you feel bad saying no so much, it feels kinda gross because youāre not in the mood, so you say no more because you donāt want to feel gross. Rinse and repeat
Maybe, his incessant nagging for sex isnāt very attractive
Friendly reminder that if an excuse needs to be made at all, itās an unhealthy relationship. āNot in the moodā should always be enough
Maybe he's asking at all the wrong times. So she has certain shows she likes, wait until they finish and then ask you might get a yes. She says no when she is feeling tired/ sweaty / gross a lot, avoid these times. Damn, the man made a spreadsheet but didn't even bother to try and interpret the data! I wonder what was similar about the yes times, pity he didnt analyse these in detail (maybe he'd be a lot luckier if he did). Instead of being petty maybe he needed to sit down and communicate with his wife.
BUT he would document other little habits I did on his notes app. Like I sometimes have anxious ticks and he would literally time them and write in his notes when he thought they would happen. It made them worse, obviouslyā¦
Yep, it doesn't seem that malicious either way.
Just some funny/shitpost notes made over a few months. Now if it was a years long spreadsheet detailing her every action and excuse, then there would be a problem.
Seriously. This is concerning behavior for sure. Nobody owes anyone sex - including your spouse. Now, if itās just a case of mismatched libidos, they can try to work on that or come up with another plan. But maybe sheās telling him no because sheās turned off by this psychotic behaviorā¦
I saw this posted elsewhere too and the comments not getting why this approach is so unbelievably out of pocket, no matter what, are unreal.
And so many people saying heās probably tried asking forever to be met with the same response, saying itās like their situation. Do they not talk to their partners?! If youāre not having sex and not happy about it, you communicate! Look up dead bedrooms and see if any of the factors apply to you. Do you not pull your weight around the house? Chances are your partner isnāt attracted to you anymore. Do you only express physical affection when you want sex? Bingo.
This why I will always advocate for couples to have similar sexual compatibility.
One person wanting it way more than the other is cause for alot of problems.
Itās fucking insane he made a spreadsheet, but at the same time, stuff like this is part of why I donāt ever want to get married, all I ever see is 9 people out of 10 talking about how miserable they are.
I felt this way too.
Itās actually really really easy though.
You see what happens is instead of me spending what I would assume to be AT LEAST an hour making a spreadsheet of all of the things heās done wrong.
We sit down and calmly address the problem. 9 times out of 10 it works. Like a charm. Usually takes all of 10 minutes of our day to resolve conflict. Thereās been a few times where itās been heated but thatās just part of being human. Never took longer than a day to resolve though.
Because we communicate. As clearly and effectively as we can.
I know you werenāt exactly looking for it. But my best advice to you is communicate very openly early on. If they cannot have mature conversations about big feelings, then they arenāt ready for a life partnership.
Iām sorry but he asks like every day to every second day
They are married
At some point in a relationship the sex drive might decrease a lot.
In some long term relationships you get used to your partner and just donāt feel the same attraction anymore (had that with my ex, in the end we didnāt have sex in 3 month. I just didnāt find him attractive anymore and he mostly declined when asked and that killed the relationship in the end because I could use sex at least once a day and no sex was just a deal breaker for me.)
Important question: did they talk about it?
Guys will literally work on a spreadsheet for three months in order to not have to talk to their spouse about their feelings.
Maybe he could analyse his own fuckin data and stop asking her for sex when shes in the middle of watching a show?
You realize that sex is a vital part of a relationship and if one of the couple members suffers because the other never wants to do it, it's not his own problem but a problem for the couple? (And before you say anything, I have female friends that had the same problem as this guy)
He isnt wrong, ofc a spreadsheet is too much guys I dont have to explain that, however, he should leave her. Ahe doesnt love him. Its funny how people think the man should respect the womans needs but never the other way around, cool if you dont want to, there is the door.
He should leave her and she should leave him if both of them are annoyed by that. Sex isn't everything but is an important part of a relationship. And I mean it in every way, even if a person is asexual for example, it's ok, but you have to find someone that is able to accept this and has a libido that can fit your rythm.
It's quite obvious that a woman can say "no" when she wants but that's all the point: if she wants to do it 3 times in 2 months and he wants to every 2 or 3 days, there is no way they can overcome this without one of them pretending it's all ok when it's not.
So this man knows his wife doesn't have a libido as high as his and instead of openly talking about it, he pesters her every day and keeps track of her replies to guilt trip her. What a nice husband.
I can imagine that one reason she doesn't want as much sex is that he's not very interested in making it a good time for her.
Poor *GUY*? Ffs. Leave the woman alone, let it happen naturally. Donāt HAVE A WRITTEN RECORD LIKE A CREEP as to why she does not want to fool around that night. Jesus Christ š¤¦āāļø
Ok Iām throwing this out to see what you all with long term partners think. With my long term partner this is very much frequency of sexual activity. For her itās about twice a month she wants to and it usually coincides with her ovulation cycle. She gets horny right before ovulating and right before sheās about to go on her period.
This is about every two weeks just like this spreadsheet suggests. Anyone else experience the same? Not to rule out that she just isnāt attracted to her lover anymore but I think thereās some biological stuff in there too.
If the guy thought 20 min was enough time to have sex then I am not surprised she doesnt want to do it. Also asking your wife to have sex every single day and then put all that in the excel...
Poor girl.
"Poor guy"? This woman's husband made a fucking spreadsheet about it like a crazy person. Maybe he needs to be putting that energy into why his wife doesn't want to have sex with him to begin with lol. But I have a feeling part of it is because he's someone that would make a fucking spreadsheet about this...
This. If my man had time to do this but not put in the effort to butter me up and make me want to jump his bones, why would I? If I was this woman, Iād be packing my bags. This man is a screaming red flag.
In a 6 week period, man's gotten laid 3 times. He's got a much better average than I do and I dknt feel the need to make a spreadsheet.
Than again I'm not married, but on the other hand I AM petty AF.
His frequency of whining for sex reminds me of a grumpy, tired toddler constantly holding out their arms and demanding 'up, up' while you're trying to make dinner, or bath the baby, or mow the lawn.
I honestly wouldn't fuck him either.
The mistake the guy made, is when they did the deed he immediately asks the next day like wtf, can you guys just not last a few days at least. Itās really off putting to us women when you constantly ask and pester and that spreadsheet is a huge cringe too me lol.
Apparently I donāt understand this at all. Three times in six weeks doesnāt sound bad to me, like once every two weeks. How do you even get time for more?
(To be fair, I am a teenager and a virgin and asexual so I know very little on the subject but like. Idk it shocks me how much people have sex)
He asked EVERY DAMN DAY??? Jeez š
No - you sent me a spreadsheet No - you sent me a spreadsheet Repeat ad infinitum
Nothing gets someone's sexual interest going more than sending them a spreadsheet on the things they do/don't do. So hot.
No - you filed for divorce
People aren't allowed to not want sex?
I vaguely remember this post, the thing that stuck out most to me was this guyās wife would just do a gym session then climb into bed without showering.
no wonder she feels gross all the time
WHY WOULD ANYONE DO THAT?!?!?
Because she does NOT want to have sex with her husband. Clearly, she finds him unattractive or undesirable for whatever reason. Sounds like they need to work on their marriage to re ignite any spark they had or maybe look elsewhere
When I don't want to have sex, it's usually due to me feeling unattractive. I know my husband finds me attractive, but I feel bloated or smelly or any number of things depending on how insecure I'm feeling. Not because of him. She could be similar? Or maybe there's a 50/50 split? Harsh to say it's all on the guy...
Some people like it.
To avoid sex? š¤
Sometimes when I get off a 11 hour shift I'm too broken to shower even though I know it would make me feel better but then I just die in my bed, end up feeling bad about it, and washing all my bedding the next day.
She's too tired or has a headache
based on reddit posts from the past couple of days, i'm pretty sure this guy doesn't do any chores around the house.
Yeah and it's proven that women are less likely to get turned on and want sex if the guy doesn't do any chores. I would understand you don't wanna have sex with someone who acts more like a son than your husband.
The wife should respond with a spreadsheet of all the chores he didnāt help with. Maybe a link to sign up for the local gym tooā¦
Here's the thing. We don't know HOW he is asking. Is he setting the mood, giving a heads up before hand, or just being like 'stop what you are doing and lets bang' The reason I bring this up is that it is statistically proven that woman are less likely to have a spontaneous sex drive. Meaning, they aren't going to be turned on at the drop of a hat. Often times, it's takes effort, and yes, some planning. Communication is key, not blaming, not sulking, not asking until the answer is 'yes' to get him off her back.
>Here's the thing. We don't know HOW he is asking. Is he setting the mood, giving a heads up before hand, or just being like 'stop what you are doing and lets bang' The funny thing is, we do know, because he documented it. Reason: "I'm in the middle of watching my TV show." Also, he complained about how she said they didn't have time, but then they were 20 minutes early. So, if he thinks that prep, foreplay, sex, and cleanup should take less than 20 minutes, there's a pretty obvious reason that she's saying no most days.
What do you mean, your wife doesnāt appreciate you ripping her out of her hobbies to gift you some daily rations of sex?
Plus in those 20min she needed to shower and get ready (it sounds like they're eating out so getting ready probably includes hair and makeup)
Yeah, if you ask I might say, āokā or I might say not right now or I have to pee or something. If you try to set a mood and maybe I dunno, give me a kiss or two, I might actually *want* to have sex.
Yeah and no it doesn't matter is one of them isn't in the mood, the other one shouldn't act like this
Redditors when their wife believes in consent
Yes, this is sad.
I wouldnāt sleep with someone who doesnāt delete unnecessary columns either.
This guy doesn't excel at Excel or fucking.
Iām only here because of my name
That shit bugged me thanks for hating it too
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Thatās what he just said
I think this is exact the same he just said
i do believe this is completely identical to what he just said
If you check the previous comment, you just said the same thing.
Fuck off bot.
This has to be the least fuckable man alive.
Nah she fucked him three times in a a month and a half. Thatās an average of 2 times a month. Thatās not a lot but itās more than some people get. Heās still not fuckable but not the least fuckable
Thatās true, I do think producing this spreadsheet decreased his sex appeal dramatically though!!
Oh definitely. It decreased his fuckability stat
Also, a friends re-run was a more attractive proposition! š¬
Get a load of captain āsex 3 times in 2 monthsā over here. Virtually a porn star.
Cheers for this. My gf has been annoyed at me over something trivial and weāre currently sat in silence in the lounge. This comment made me laugh out loud. Breaking the icy silence. She asked me āwhatās so funnyā and I š showed her this comment. Now weāre currently doing doggy.
Like, live right now bro? Ayyyy high five it's like we're havin an orgy! Say hello to your girlfriend from me :)
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Can confirm, Iām the girl.
Wait actually?
Mhm. We are currently dogging
Yep can confirm šš¼ I'm the Cameraman
I can vouch for him, I am the camera.
Can vouch for the camera, i'm the pornhub streaming account.
I can vouch, I'm the bed
If you're doing doggy, whos doing doggy to me?
Excuse me do you mind if I post this to the ihavesex subreddit?
r/ihavesex
A true man in his 30s. If the misses found this guarantee all the excuses would be "because you made a fucken spreadsheets"
I always excitedly show my fiancee my spreadsheets with all their cool programming in them and she always doesnt care :P OPs spreadsheet sucks though. But I guess it does what it intended to do
And what about all the times he denied going down on her? Finding her clit? Attempting to make her orgasm? Giving her a massage that lasted more than 20 seconds...
The dude seemed to think that those extra 20min were enough time to bang, clean up, shower, and get re-dressed to go out so clearly he doesn't reciprocate.
So glad we don't gotta deal with that, amirite?
He could have just rubbed one out instead of making this as an attempt to guilt her about not wanting to fuck his goofy ass
Yo he sounds like a pest. No wonder she isnāt feeling it
I think denied is a gross way to put it. She doesn't owe him sex.
I donāt see whatās so bad about saying no to sex?
It's literally a right. Nobody should be forced to have sex when they don't want to- thatās rape.
Exactly! Consent is key.
Time to add āfuck offā to the excuse list
Looks like 10th time's the charm, thats a .100 batting average, either you're out of your league or something is off with your swing.
My thought too. No one is gonna skip 9 out of 10 games if youāre an all-star player.
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Yeah what's the point of this - she should start just saying yes even if she doesn't want to?
Sounds healthy..
Now cross reference how many times you jerked it when you NO for an answerā¦
Every time. Is that even a question?
Sometimes even when I forget to ask. When she goes for a walk or to the store, when she watches that show of hers, when sheās sleeping beside me, when I go to the shed to put the mower away, lunch break at work, just leave my desk for no reason other than to jerk it. Oh and right before she surprises me and asks for sex.
> when I go to the shed to put the mower away Whackin' Off In My Toolshed
Let's be honest. Even on the Yes days as well.
Yep, even if you had sex.
This is a weird thing to make a spreadsheet about. If someone's not wanting to, you shouldn't guilt them over it or imply their reasons are invalid "excuses." If it's causing relationship problems, sit down and have a conversation about it.
that poor woman
Just saw this meme hours ago and it was the other way around the woman sent the man the spreadsheet
Interesting. Sometimes I feel like we are part of a social experiment. How many comments and reposts will one version get over the other? Iāve seen the man version reposted twice now but I still havenāt seen the womanās version.
was it about how many times she asked him to do the dishes vs. how many times the dishes actually got done? i may not be an A student but im definitely better than 2 out of 47...
I actually see a lot of value here, but you have to replace āexcuseā with āreasonā. Would benefit from applying generic categories that apply to more than one entry (āI donāt feel sexyā) and then taking on the big stacks with deliberate, loving action. For example, it looks like several have to do with how she feels about herself. Some thoughtful compliments might help. If she needs more zone-out time, then any way you can increase her available free time? Upside is she gets happier and you get laid.
This was really well said dude
This guy has a happy wife for sure.
I like the way you think.
Genius! Itās honestly so disrespectful to call her reasons āexcuses.ā Framing from the 1950s, when your family was your property and before marital rape was a crime.
āMy poor guyā because she didnāt want to have sex? Jesus Christ I knew this sub was going downhill but is this really the āhumourā this sub has devolved to? āWoman has a choice in whether or not she wants to participate in sexual intercourse, sucks for menā
This is why she doesnāt have sex with him. Edit: Even someone like me who is sex positive wouldnāt put up with this guy. When someone prioritizes sex this much over their partner, itās honestly pathetic. Nothing says āI love youā like spreadsheets to shove in your face later as āevidenceā.
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Perhaps donāt ask for sex every day???
I would be so annoyed by the topic. How is it not obvious that this constant asking is making it even less likely for me to want to have sex?!
Iāve ran that experiment. After we had our two kids, my wifeās libido tanked. Rock bottom. At 23, I was lucky to have sex once a month when before the kids it was ~5x/week. She said it was because I ask all the time. So I stopped asking and didnāt get sex for over 6 months before I finally broke and said something. She had an āahaā moment and consulted her doctor. Hormonal testing and a prescription later, weāre back to mostly normal.
Exactly. Once had a partner that would ask me *constantly* 3-4 times a day Never have I been so opposed to have sex. Just killed the vibe
Plus it compounds. You say yes once because you feel bad saying no so much, it feels kinda gross because youāre not in the mood, so you say no more because you donāt want to feel gross. Rinse and repeat
The real crimes are not showering and watching friends
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Maybe, his incessant nagging for sex isnāt very attractive Friendly reminder that if an excuse needs to be made at all, itās an unhealthy relationship. āNot in the moodā should always be enough
Maybe he's asking at all the wrong times. So she has certain shows she likes, wait until they finish and then ask you might get a yes. She says no when she is feeling tired/ sweaty / gross a lot, avoid these times. Damn, the man made a spreadsheet but didn't even bother to try and interpret the data! I wonder what was similar about the yes times, pity he didnt analyse these in detail (maybe he'd be a lot luckier if he did). Instead of being petty maybe he needed to sit down and communicate with his wife.
red red red flag
āIām still tender from yesterdayā just tells me that sex is painful for her :/
Probably because this dude engages in zero foreplay and just jackhammers her for 5 minutes.
Yeah, tbf he did think 20 minutes was enough for sex, shower and getting ready for dinner lol
She ain't attracted to him anymore.
Thats what happened to me. Told me it was my fault for 6 years before coming clean. Still getting my confidence back after our divorce.
Or she could just not like sex?
Dude has some issues DOCUMENTING thisā¦ reminds me of my narcissistic ex except he was the one denying me (did not document) lol
BUT he would document other little habits I did on his notes app. Like I sometimes have anxious ticks and he would literally time them and write in his notes when he thought they would happen. It made them worse, obviouslyā¦
This guys behavior is extremely concerning like who tf does this?
Every time I see this I canāt help but think it was just made as a meme.
Yep, it doesn't seem that malicious either way. Just some funny/shitpost notes made over a few months. Now if it was a years long spreadsheet detailing her every action and excuse, then there would be a problem.
Seriously. This is concerning behavior for sure. Nobody owes anyone sex - including your spouse. Now, if itās just a case of mismatched libidos, they can try to work on that or come up with another plan. But maybe sheās telling him no because sheās turned off by this psychotic behaviorā¦
Also 2 of the times where sheās said yes are times where he hasnāt asked for a few days. It might be that constantly asking is putting her off
I saw this posted elsewhere too and the comments not getting why this approach is so unbelievably out of pocket, no matter what, are unreal. And so many people saying heās probably tried asking forever to be met with the same response, saying itās like their situation. Do they not talk to their partners?! If youāre not having sex and not happy about it, you communicate! Look up dead bedrooms and see if any of the factors apply to you. Do you not pull your weight around the house? Chances are your partner isnāt attracted to you anymore. Do you only express physical affection when you want sex? Bingo.
Thank god someone else thinks this bc I was very concerned reading these comments
Maybe he has expressed the lack of sex and the rejection, and she said "but we have sex all the time"
Thank god someone else thinks this
This why I will always advocate for couples to have similar sexual compatibility. One person wanting it way more than the other is cause for alot of problems.
How to get divorced 101
Itās fucking insane he made a spreadsheet, but at the same time, stuff like this is part of why I donāt ever want to get married, all I ever see is 9 people out of 10 talking about how miserable they are.
They're the only ones leaving reviews. All the happily married ones are too busy making Power BI dashboards of their sexploits.
I felt this way too. Itās actually really really easy though. You see what happens is instead of me spending what I would assume to be AT LEAST an hour making a spreadsheet of all of the things heās done wrong. We sit down and calmly address the problem. 9 times out of 10 it works. Like a charm. Usually takes all of 10 minutes of our day to resolve conflict. Thereās been a few times where itās been heated but thatās just part of being human. Never took longer than a day to resolve though. Because we communicate. As clearly and effectively as we can. I know you werenāt exactly looking for it. But my best advice to you is communicate very openly early on. If they cannot have mature conversations about big feelings, then they arenāt ready for a life partnership.
The fact that the man thinks this spreadsheet is foreplay could be his problem.
So for every 1 yes, 9 no's follow it. So just ask 9 times a day and you'll have sex every day.
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Only one time out of ten
Iām sorry but he asks like every day to every second day They are married At some point in a relationship the sex drive might decrease a lot. In some long term relationships you get used to your partner and just donāt feel the same attraction anymore (had that with my ex, in the end we didnāt have sex in 3 month. I just didnāt find him attractive anymore and he mostly declined when asked and that killed the relationship in the end because I could use sex at least once a day and no sex was just a deal breaker for me.) Important question: did they talk about it?
Well shit, if my SO asks for sex every day or damn close to it I would say no a lot too
This needs to be higher
this is so fucking creepy and pathetic
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A few years later..."Why are you leaving me? " Been there done that.
Because of the spreadsheet
Because of the implication
because of the entanglement
there doesnt need to be an excuse to not want sex. if she doesnt want to have sex she doesnt have to
Maybe he doesnāt know how to ask nicely.
And maybe she just doesnāt want it
Well, hope the relationship is based on more than sexual gratification.
Take a hint? Maybe the two of you should talk about relationships, sex and why you suck at it
Does it bug anyone else that he didnāt align the āExcuseā box with the text?
Gee, can't imagine why she wouldn't want to sleep with a catch like that?
Guys will literally work on a spreadsheet for three months in order to not have to talk to their spouse about their feelings. Maybe he could analyse his own fuckin data and stop asking her for sex when shes in the middle of watching a show?
These comments are concerning. You guys realize she can say no to sex anytime without giving any reasons, right? She doesn't owe him anything, right?
Nobody thinks she owes him anything. Most of the comments are saying that itās weird he made a spreadsheet
You realize that sex is a vital part of a relationship and if one of the couple members suffers because the other never wants to do it, it's not his own problem but a problem for the couple? (And before you say anything, I have female friends that had the same problem as this guy)
He isnt wrong, ofc a spreadsheet is too much guys I dont have to explain that, however, he should leave her. Ahe doesnt love him. Its funny how people think the man should respect the womans needs but never the other way around, cool if you dont want to, there is the door.
He should leave her and she should leave him if both of them are annoyed by that. Sex isn't everything but is an important part of a relationship. And I mean it in every way, even if a person is asexual for example, it's ok, but you have to find someone that is able to accept this and has a libido that can fit your rythm. It's quite obvious that a woman can say "no" when she wants but that's all the point: if she wants to do it 3 times in 2 months and he wants to every 2 or 3 days, there is no way they can overcome this without one of them pretending it's all ok when it's not.
r/deadbedrooms
She's really patient about him pestering her with the same question every day.
She sure watches a lot of shows huh
She clearly has very low self-esteem, and he's clearly a psychopath.
yes, clearly. very obvious from this spreadsheet. adds up.
Yes. We have all the facts to assess both parties psychological state of mind. It also appears he is left-handed
It is also obvious from the way this spreadsheet has been formed that the suspect uses a mid-range gaming PC from 2018 and razer branded peripherals.
And owns 3 distinct pieces of Burberry clothing
She's cheating on him with someone from her gym.
If that's the case the guy can just time travel to when she does want to have sex tho, it's dated 2014
Nah nah, I predicted his PC setup 4 years into the future from how he visualised the spreadsheet. There's just so much to read from one picture.
What absolute cringe from the dude's side. Absolute F-Tier behaviour.
Hygiene seems to be a real issue with her
Probably shouldnāt ask for it every day, but then again, I know girls who would be cool with having sex every day. Still a nightmare scenario
this is 100% the type of guy that would refuse to go down on her
Psychopath behavior if we being honest
Maybe this person should think about why this woman is making up excuses? Maybe *he* is the problem?
It's her choice tho?
So this man knows his wife doesn't have a libido as high as his and instead of openly talking about it, he pesters her every day and keeps track of her replies to guilt trip her. What a nice husband. I can imagine that one reason she doesn't want as much sex is that he's not very interested in making it a good time for her.
Poor *GUY*? Ffs. Leave the woman alone, let it happen naturally. Donāt HAVE A WRITTEN RECORD LIKE A CREEP as to why she does not want to fool around that night. Jesus Christ š¤¦āāļø
Imagine working out, getting all sweaty, and then marinating in it over night... š¤¢ She is definitely gross.
I showed this to my girlfriend, and she said āoh I didnāt know I could use Friends as an excuseā.
Ok Iām throwing this out to see what you all with long term partners think. With my long term partner this is very much frequency of sexual activity. For her itās about twice a month she wants to and it usually coincides with her ovulation cycle. She gets horny right before ovulating and right before sheās about to go on her period. This is about every two weeks just like this spreadsheet suggests. Anyone else experience the same? Not to rule out that she just isnāt attracted to her lover anymore but I think thereās some biological stuff in there too.
Time to see the wifeās response
Most of those are legitimate reasons, the rest are him not getting the hint lol
Does this smell like future divorce to anyone else?
Lmao yeah because this'll definitely make her say yes more often. Small d energy
If the guy thought 20 min was enough time to have sex then I am not surprised she doesnt want to do it. Also asking your wife to have sex every single day and then put all that in the excel... Poor girl.
At least bro respected just the ānoā
Well, that's a low bar
"Poor guy"? This woman's husband made a fucking spreadsheet about it like a crazy person. Maybe he needs to be putting that energy into why his wife doesn't want to have sex with him to begin with lol. But I have a feeling part of it is because he's someone that would make a fucking spreadsheet about this...
This. If my man had time to do this but not put in the effort to butter me up and make me want to jump his bones, why would I? If I was this woman, Iād be packing my bags. This man is a screaming red flag.
Right?! That seems super creepy to me, like he doesn't respect her reasons for not wanting sex every dang day.
This guy gives me major ick vibes.
Funny thing is she shouldnāt need an excuse to say noā¦
In a 6 week period, man's gotten laid 3 times. He's got a much better average than I do and I dknt feel the need to make a spreadsheet. Than again I'm not married, but on the other hand I AM petty AF.
Iād make a spread sheet too but itās easy to just remember zero. If the number changes Iām confident Iāll remember
His frequency of whining for sex reminds me of a grumpy, tired toddler constantly holding out their arms and demanding 'up, up' while you're trying to make dinner, or bath the baby, or mow the lawn. I honestly wouldn't fuck him either.
She should divorce him.
Itās gross that men think theyāre owed sex
The mistake the guy made, is when they did the deed he immediately asks the next day like wtf, can you guys just not last a few days at least. Itās really off putting to us women when you constantly ask and pester and that spreadsheet is a huge cringe too me lol.
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To be fair it would get annoying if the dude asked her to have sex that many times in 2 months.
Everyday though? I mean, damnā¦
Apparently I donāt understand this at all. Three times in six weeks doesnāt sound bad to me, like once every two weeks. How do you even get time for more? (To be fair, I am a teenager and a virgin and asexual so I know very little on the subject but like. Idk it shocks me how much people have sex)
Just a reminder: sexless marriages are VERY common: https://bedbible.com/sexless-marriage-statistics/
He 'd be adding a couple of more 'no s ' Reason: for making that exel sheet.
EVERY DAY?
3 times in a month?! Lucky man for marriedš