I would never record it but that's not in my nature. I have spoken to children that are messing about many times. I've never had a parent speak to me about it. Maybe I'm lucky
You are lucky, or else you have a magic touch (or perhaps im unlucky or have the opposite of the magic touch). I've learned from experience that any attempt to talk to another person's child about their behavior, no matter how nicely or respectfully, is usually met with a blind rage from the parent upon their return.
Speaking to them like an adult is sensible thing to try; because obviously the parents aren't.
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I've only seen kids going insane WITH their parents. Attempts of making eye contact in hopes it would trigger SOME self awareness to stfu, has ended in the kids STARING at their parent(s) and crying/whining louder....
So triggering tantrum-kids to double down harder = "not lucky" lol š
Ironically enough this conversation was about calling people out, Iāll accept.
What the fuck is this shit? You two were on the same page, then oddly worded a comment that was somewhat confusing. So you make a remark about them not being able to read, or a breakdown when they read to much? Yikes, seriously.
I'm totally with you. Speak to children like they are adults. The eye contact bit is what confused me. I find if I give "eye contact" to a kid they usually stop being a twat
Thank you for the context; apologies for my previous snarky reply..
Yeah, you'd think eye contact would generally work; but I must have looked at some professional whiners. I'm thinking their thinking was something like: "SOMEONE IS LOOKING AT ME LIKE I'M NOT THE BOSS! YOU HAVEN'T SUBMITTED YET!!
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You are right not to. You should absolutely not be taking pictures or recordings of other peopleās children. I donāt care how badly behaved they are. Thatās weirdo behaviour.
In terms of attempting to parent other peopleās kids, I personally think thatās also a big no-no frankly. If no one has spoken back to you yet, I think youāve been very lucky. If I was ever to leave my child unattended in public (never happening) and I saw a stranger interacting with them, It would immediately put me on edge!
In general, people who know their kids are playing up, wonāt thank you for trying to intervene. All kids misbehave at times itās unavoidable, theyāre still learning. Parenting requires constant and consistent rules, having strangers voice their own thoughts directly to your child actually doesnāt help in the long run.
People who donāt know their kids are little shits wonāt care what you say anyway. We should all behave respectfully in shared public spaces, but itās not everyoneās role to teach every child this. Itās not your job to take up the slack.
I have a pre-school child, and I am genuinely shocked at the amount of parents that seem to leave their kids to do as they please in public whilst they wander off, phone in hand. I donāt get why youād have kids if you care that little, but the way to remedy this isnāt to interveneā¦ just because you can.
I know you might think you should, or can. But please donāt. Itās going to look as entitled to the parents as their kids look to you.
Ooh your lucky Lol I have an autistic child and if anyone approached him for āmisbehavingā in public Iād be very unhappy. Obviously this situation is different and unattended Child throwing a tantrum. Iād never leave my children unattended anywhere.
I would have said something. I have always worked this kind of job before becoming a SAHM and when the general public gives you a legitimate reason to say something snarky and/or b-itchy to them, you take full advantage lmao
People need to start āinterviewingā the parents about their failures at being a parent. And then start posting those interviews on Reddit, TikTok, X, etc.
You being the parent, not the stranger. Just want to clarify that up for everyone.
Parent wasnāt doing anything so the correct response from everyone else is to not mess with the child. Tell store staff, identify if you can the parent, and let security and everyone else deal with it.
I agree slightly tbh
I had meltdowns up until the age of 13, which is pretty embarrassing. I'm on meds and had a bit of therapy to help me years ago.
Although that doesn't excuse this. The parent needs to get the child out of the situation.
Plenty of autistic adults have meltdowns throughout their lives. I agree that they're often embarrassing, but that doesn't necessarily affect our ability to control them.
This kid should definitely have been removed from the situation, for their sake and for everyone else's.
Especially for the kid's sake
Roughly 100% of autistic people remember these episodes later and it's not with fondness. When behavior is this poor it's because the kid lost control and requires someone else responsible there to help them
I'm not autistic (ADHD) but I definitely remember my episodes.
I can manage them better now by removing myself from the frustrating things and taking a break, but as a kid I needed help to get there
Fully agree, though I'm not autistic (I'm ADHD)
I'm old enough now that when I feel myself getting over stimulated or upset, I back up and go somewhere else until I've calmed down.
I still get incredibly upset but I know how to avoid the screaming and head hitting stuff far better than I did when I was 13.
I feel you I grew up undiagnosed with ADHD (I always did well in school so no one figured anything was wrong). I had a lot of fits as a kid and had these weird behaviors that other kids didn't seem to have and just didn't know why until I was an adult and my therapist helped me put the pieces together. Like I wasn't a "spoiled brat" as my dad would tell you. I actually had ADHD the whole time and would get easily frustrated and freak out
I did horribly in school because of my ADHD, but everyone just assumed I was lazy or "not trying hard ebough"
My mom knew something was wrong, as I was in a school for kids with developmental delays (this was in Germany when I was 2/3), but we moved to the u.s and couldn't afford to send me to another one or anything like that
I was diagnosed at 14, about 6 years ago. My mom feels really horrible for not getting me diagnosed sooner.
Likely because heās grown up watching his Mom pay more attention to her phone than to him. Heās acting out because he probably thinks itās the only way to get her attention. This is likely just the result of shit parenting.
If parents aren't doing anything why would you resort to hitting the kid?
I'd try talking first, setting boundaries and following through with consequences if they don't behave. 90% chance they'll do it once, be surprised that their actions have consequences and not do it again.
If you hit them you know damn well they're gonna be afraid of you and listen even less than they did before, just like you'd feel if an adult would try to correct you by hitting you.
Likeā¦.i donāt hit my spouse when heās not listening to me or when heās annoying me or when he looses his cool over a hockey game. Not only is it a criminal offense, but it just would not work. Why would it work to hit your kid every time they act up??
I was kind of this way when I was a kid.
Turned out both me AND my mom had undiagnosed adhd.
When I look back at that time in my life (throwing tantrums in public or running away from my mom and playing around in the store), Iām mostly just grateful that camera phones werenāt a thing back then, and that mental health awareness is more of a thing now.
Hopefully not shame. Kids this age don't act like this unless something is wildly wrong, even kids from shitty homes generally keep quiet in public by this age. Only time I've ever encountered kids around this age acting out are when they've got some sort of pretty heavy developmental disability, it's why I tend to just mind my own business when it comes to stuff like this. Either the parent caused it in some way through severe neglect and is going to get defensive, or the kid is disabled and the parent is keenly aware and just trying to do their business and get out so they can take their child somewhere they can calm down/be more comfortable.
If I work inn that store I would have taken the kid to the counter, call out over. The pa that we were looking for the kid mother, when she got there I would throw them both out of the store and ban the mom from coming back
In my early twenties I worked at a Victoriaās Secret PINK. I hated the parents who didnāt parent their child in the store and I had to clean up the giant messes of displays they often would demolishā¦. ugh.
People who donāt parent your kids: please for the love of everything in this world PARENT THE KIDS.
Ya leave the child out of it, even if they are exhibiting bad behaviour, they are not the one that deserves to be blasted on Reddit. People are commenting on the childās body I just find this all really weird.
Exactly. I have an autistic son (he is 23 now) When meltdowns happened I did everything in my power to either diffuse the situation OR remove him from the situation.
how old?
but next statement...i remember being miserable as a child if mom was clothes shopping...almost especially if it was for me and sibs...hours and hours..
AND NOWHERE TO SIT...
why oh why???
I would hide *inside* the rack of clothes and pick the pin needles out of the carpet until my mom came looking for me then I'd show her a handful of pins why was she never as impressed with them as I am now I'll never know
This was the way! I did the same exact thing, where did they all come from? Why didnāt anyone ever care except for us?! Lol, momās are hard to impress sometimes I guess.
looks like the kid is tired of being an accessory. he just needs a nap. people need to stop having kids just to HAVE kids, they're real being that needs to cared for emotionally too. I don't blame the kid, the mom is wrong here.
Absolutely! Iāve actually gained a lot of insight in the comments about being upset at the parent instead of the child and coming from someone with no kids at the moment it makes a lot of sense. Not gonna lie around this time I was a pretty hateful person - *especially* towards ill behaved kids so that definitely played a part in my views. I Can definitely imagine this kid just having a rough day or something which admittedly I have not thought about.
Can we just pass a law so we can discipline parents and children who act like this in public?
I understand it's not my child, but *we* the public are the ones who have to deal with these nightmares when they become an "adult".
We don't need a law. We just need the public to step back up and demand some measure of societal behavior.
You can be damned sure this behavior would not tolerated when I was a kid. I'd have been grabbed by the arm and marched of to my mother and she would get a talking to for not minding her child.
Have compassion for a clearly neglected child. Dude is probably doing all he or she knows since Mom can't be fucked to help. Strangers likely intervene so the (admittedly overgrown) kid knows to make a scene for attention. This is a deeply sad post if you think about it
Sorry but my compassion goes towards the workers. I donāt shop at these places because I am a dude but have friends who works in retail. They are just trying to make a living and pay the bills. Although I am sure the workers are compassionate towards this types of situations but who has compassion for them? They have to show up everyday with a smile on their face and get abused by AH families like this. This kid will leave a mess and the workers will have to pick it up. Whatever the situation is, the people who will have to pay for this and pick it up are the poor workers who didnāt sign up for this.
When I was an emotional as fuck 12 year old with attention span issues in a situation where there was absolutely nothing to do for hours I absolutely positively did not know exactly what I was doing as far as meltdowns are concerned.Ā
I don't know why people expect a 12 year old to have the emotional maturity of a late teen to young adult...
I think they expect a 12yo to have better self control than a toddler. But tbh, my mom could never drag me in to that place when I was 12yo. That was a no go zone for me. I would have gone to GameStop and waited for her there at 12yo.
Might not be a mall, to be fair. I do feel for the kid, because I've been in those shoes. Shopping for hours and hours and hours, being told over and over "we're leaving soon we're leaving soon" yet "soon" means like 2 more hours.Ā And often there isn't even anywhere to sit down.Ā
I work retail and I've seen these types of instances, and I'll almost always blame the parent. Either they ignore the meltdown, or they're on the phone, or they actively ignore anyone asking them to keep their kids under control.Ā Ā
It's the kids that waltz in on their own, usually in groups, and cause a ruckus/mess that I hate.Ā
Honestly, as someone on the spectrum myself... I thought the same. This kid looks old enough that he shouldn't be having outbursts like that, even if he's just spoiled.
It shouldn't be used as a cop-out excuse for all this kind of behaviour, but I do work in primary schools and I see autistic children acting like this all the time.
Obviously it maybe other things going on here but itās suggested that 70% of ASD children have comorbid psychiatric symptoms including ODD and DBD, disruptive behavior disorder. Itās not a given, but most children are mature enough to not behave this way unless thereās something going on.
Not the behavior I expect from an 11 year old. By age 11 my cousin Timmy had already graduated from Harvard, started his own business and was working as a doctor.
As a previous VS employee during its peak/best years and now a mother of a just turned 4 year oldā¦.ooohhhhh hell no, in any store helllll no. It amazes me some people have no thoughts in their heads about keeping an eye on their children in public #1 FOR THE CHILDS OWN SAFETY!!!! And #2 for reasons like this.
Before smartphones we would just either get the manager, tell the child to behave and clean that up, or talk to the mother š¤ Back then mothers would ofc still be embarrassed and people not used to shit like this
That's NOT a small young child. I might expect that from a two or three year old but that child has to be between 5 and 7 ( if not older).Ā I would absolutely bring it to the parent's attention, as well as the store manager.
Totally unacceptable.
Kids do stupid shit and so do some parents. Weāve all experienced obnoxious behavior like this in stores at some point. Whatās weirder is you in the store like āI gotta get a pic of this _child_ so I can post it to Reddit for karma later.ā
I posted this picture yes. I took a picture to show an employee since it pissed me off thatās all there was to it. So thank you but I donāt just simply run up to children and take photos of them all day if thatās what youāre insinuating - and Iām not sure what youāre getting at with the karma thing you can clearly see I do not post regularly..
Isn't this what conservative christians are calling grooming? I mean why would a mother bring her male child to a women's sexy underwear store?
What would you do as a 10 year old when watching your mom pick out thongs?
Send them to school in the worst kit the next week. No yelling or hitting. Just go ok cool. Here are jean shorts, a stained shirt, underwear with stains and holes and some busted ass kicks or flip flops. 5 days straight. If they do it again it's a month. No need to tell and shout and all that. Works every time.
āThat type of store.ā š¤·š¼āāļø
Moms need bras and panties too. What do you suggest she do (aside from controlling her childās behavior there)?
Bad parenting is bad parenting and they should be called out
I can't decide if I would have said something directly, or just obviously started recording the situation/mom.
I would never record it but that's not in my nature. I have spoken to children that are messing about many times. I've never had a parent speak to me about it. Maybe I'm lucky
You are lucky, or else you have a magic touch (or perhaps im unlucky or have the opposite of the magic touch). I've learned from experience that any attempt to talk to another person's child about their behavior, no matter how nicely or respectfully, is usually met with a blind rage from the parent upon their return.
Speaking to them like an adult is sensible thing to try; because obviously the parents aren't. ..... I've only seen kids going insane WITH their parents. Attempts of making eye contact in hopes it would trigger SOME self awareness to stfu, has ended in the kids STARING at their parent(s) and crying/whining louder.... So triggering tantrum-kids to double down harder = "not lucky" lol š
You've lost me to be honest
I'm lost at your confusion. Does this happen when you read too much?
Ironically enough this conversation was about calling people out, Iāll accept. What the fuck is this shit? You two were on the same page, then oddly worded a comment that was somewhat confusing. So you make a remark about them not being able to read, or a breakdown when they read to much? Yikes, seriously.
I'm totally with you. Speak to children like they are adults. The eye contact bit is what confused me. I find if I give "eye contact" to a kid they usually stop being a twat
Thank you for the context; apologies for my previous snarky reply.. Yeah, you'd think eye contact would generally work; but I must have looked at some professional whiners. I'm thinking their thinking was something like: "SOMEONE IS LOOKING AT ME LIKE I'M NOT THE BOSS! YOU HAVEN'T SUBMITTED YET!!  "
Gotta be honest, I thought this was the same person talking to themselves for a second
100% thought I was going crazy
Me too š
Ya recording something non-violent gives zero resolution and 100% chance of escalating the situation
You are right not to. You should absolutely not be taking pictures or recordings of other peopleās children. I donāt care how badly behaved they are. Thatās weirdo behaviour. In terms of attempting to parent other peopleās kids, I personally think thatās also a big no-no frankly. If no one has spoken back to you yet, I think youāve been very lucky. If I was ever to leave my child unattended in public (never happening) and I saw a stranger interacting with them, It would immediately put me on edge! In general, people who know their kids are playing up, wonāt thank you for trying to intervene. All kids misbehave at times itās unavoidable, theyāre still learning. Parenting requires constant and consistent rules, having strangers voice their own thoughts directly to your child actually doesnāt help in the long run. People who donāt know their kids are little shits wonāt care what you say anyway. We should all behave respectfully in shared public spaces, but itās not everyoneās role to teach every child this. Itās not your job to take up the slack. I have a pre-school child, and I am genuinely shocked at the amount of parents that seem to leave their kids to do as they please in public whilst they wander off, phone in hand. I donāt get why youād have kids if you care that little, but the way to remedy this isnāt to interveneā¦ just because you can. I know you might think you should, or can. But please donāt. Itās going to look as entitled to the parents as their kids look to you.
Ooh your lucky Lol I have an autistic child and if anyone approached him for āmisbehavingā in public Iād be very unhappy. Obviously this situation is different and unattended Child throwing a tantrum. Iād never leave my children unattended anywhere.
I would have said something. I have always worked this kind of job before becoming a SAHM and when the general public gives you a legitimate reason to say something snarky and/or b-itchy to them, you take full advantage lmao
i'd just shake my head in disappointment and go on with my day. maybe mutter something about 'take control of your fucking kid,', or something.
Recording an under age person might not go well.
yes, but also this kid is like 12.
People need to start āinterviewingā the parents about their failures at being a parent. And then start posting those interviews on Reddit, TikTok, X, etc.
people need to just put their cameras put away and stay off the ticktocks and twitters.
This child must have emotional problems. The mother should have kept an eye on him.
Thatās a 12 year old why tf they screaming in public at that age
It's giving neurodivergent meltdown vibes.
That's when you take your neurodivergent child out of the situation, bodily if necessary Source: have ND kid (who is no longer a kid)
You being the parent, not the stranger. Just want to clarify that up for everyone. Parent wasnāt doing anything so the correct response from everyone else is to not mess with the child. Tell store staff, identify if you can the parent, and let security and everyone else deal with it.
I agree slightly tbh I had meltdowns up until the age of 13, which is pretty embarrassing. I'm on meds and had a bit of therapy to help me years ago. Although that doesn't excuse this. The parent needs to get the child out of the situation.
Plenty of autistic adults have meltdowns throughout their lives. I agree that they're often embarrassing, but that doesn't necessarily affect our ability to control them. This kid should definitely have been removed from the situation, for their sake and for everyone else's.
Especially for the kid's sake Roughly 100% of autistic people remember these episodes later and it's not with fondness. When behavior is this poor it's because the kid lost control and requires someone else responsible there to help them
I'm not autistic (ADHD) but I definitely remember my episodes. I can manage them better now by removing myself from the frustrating things and taking a break, but as a kid I needed help to get there
Fully agree, though I'm not autistic (I'm ADHD) I'm old enough now that when I feel myself getting over stimulated or upset, I back up and go somewhere else until I've calmed down. I still get incredibly upset but I know how to avoid the screaming and head hitting stuff far better than I did when I was 13.
I feel you I grew up undiagnosed with ADHD (I always did well in school so no one figured anything was wrong). I had a lot of fits as a kid and had these weird behaviors that other kids didn't seem to have and just didn't know why until I was an adult and my therapist helped me put the pieces together. Like I wasn't a "spoiled brat" as my dad would tell you. I actually had ADHD the whole time and would get easily frustrated and freak out
I did horribly in school because of my ADHD, but everyone just assumed I was lazy or "not trying hard ebough" My mom knew something was wrong, as I was in a school for kids with developmental delays (this was in Germany when I was 2/3), but we moved to the u.s and couldn't afford to send me to another one or anything like that I was diagnosed at 14, about 6 years ago. My mom feels really horrible for not getting me diagnosed sooner.
Likely because heās grown up watching his Mom pay more attention to her phone than to him. Heās acting out because he probably thinks itās the only way to get her attention. This is likely just the result of shit parenting.
Didn't get his own way? Mummy didn't buy him a MaccyD?
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I agree. Letās normalizing spanking bad parents
Donāt. Iāve seen that video. They just all start twerking.
yeah, hit the screaming child! iām sure that would totally work to deescalate the situation!
Adding on that some kids do it in order to gain attention from their passive parents who donāt care
Then both parents and kids are undisciplined, donāt expect a random person to put up with an annoying kid.
lol I never argued in their defense
If parents aren't doing anything why would you resort to hitting the kid? I'd try talking first, setting boundaries and following through with consequences if they don't behave. 90% chance they'll do it once, be surprised that their actions have consequences and not do it again. If you hit them you know damn well they're gonna be afraid of you and listen even less than they did before, just like you'd feel if an adult would try to correct you by hitting you.
Likeā¦.i donāt hit my spouse when heās not listening to me or when heās annoying me or when he looses his cool over a hockey game. Not only is it a criminal offense, but it just would not work. Why would it work to hit your kid every time they act up??
Isn't nice when the solution to a problem is violence.
I wonder how this kid feels looking back at this moment in their life
Probably traumatized by a negligent parent.
I was kind of this way when I was a kid. Turned out both me AND my mom had undiagnosed adhd. When I look back at that time in my life (throwing tantrums in public or running away from my mom and playing around in the store), Iām mostly just grateful that camera phones werenāt a thing back then, and that mental health awareness is more of a thing now.
Hopefully not shame. Kids this age don't act like this unless something is wildly wrong, even kids from shitty homes generally keep quiet in public by this age. Only time I've ever encountered kids around this age acting out are when they've got some sort of pretty heavy developmental disability, it's why I tend to just mind my own business when it comes to stuff like this. Either the parent caused it in some way through severe neglect and is going to get defensive, or the kid is disabled and the parent is keenly aware and just trying to do their business and get out so they can take their child somewhere they can calm down/be more comfortable.
Honestly, there is probably something going on at home or in this childās life the parents either arenāt helping or are making worse sadly.
doesnāt even remember
And God forbid someone tells the kid to cut his shit out, cause that POS mom will come to his defense. "Don't you talk to my little angel like that!"
If I work inn that store I would have taken the kid to the counter, call out over. The pa that we were looking for the kid mother, when she got there I would throw them both out of the store and ban the mom from coming back
This is the right thing
"You do NOT tell me how to raise MY child!"
We need to publicly shame parents more cuz wtf. This isn't even a toddler-
There is a 0% chance I would ever allow my hellspawn to do anything close to something like this, WATCH YOUR FUCKIN KIDS PEOPLE
In my early twenties I worked at a Victoriaās Secret PINK. I hated the parents who didnāt parent their child in the store and I had to clean up the giant messes of displays they often would demolishā¦. ugh. People who donāt parent your kids: please for the love of everything in this world PARENT THE KIDS.
Kick them out. Solved.
This kid is crying out for attention. Blame the parents. I feel bad for her.
Did his mom buy him elastic skinny jeans? Poor kid, I'd probably be crying too.
Iām the type that would call the non emergency line to report an abandoned kid
thats a child?
I just want to know, for parents who do this,,, why??? You made that kid, meaning you are responsible for them! Get off the phone and be a parent!
That kid looks waaay too old to behave like that
Bad parenting but donāt take pictures of someone elseās kid. Thatās weird af.
Right. Now taking pictures of the PARENT while ignoring their distressed child - all for it.
Ya leave the child out of it, even if they are exhibiting bad behaviour, they are not the one that deserves to be blasted on Reddit. People are commenting on the childās body I just find this all really weird.
Using child very liberally here
This is most definitely posted in the wrong sub r/extremelyinfuriating belongs there.
That would make it more than mildly infuriating! Both mother and child should have been kicked out.
Shitty parents often have shitty kids. Its shitty turtles all the way down.
Infuriating, sure, but don't take pictures of other people's kids.
At least they blocked the childās face out.
Agree. Many people don't even have the presence of mind to do that.
Nobody ever takes pics of the insane parent who is severely neglecting their child in public. Na, just the kid
Yeah, that was my thought exactly. It's the parent that's the problem, anyway.
Exactly. I have an autistic son (he is 23 now) When meltdowns happened I did everything in my power to either diffuse the situation OR remove him from the situation.
how old? but next statement...i remember being miserable as a child if mom was clothes shopping...almost especially if it was for me and sibs...hours and hours.. AND NOWHERE TO SIT... why oh why???
I would hide *inside* the rack of clothes and pick the pin needles out of the carpet until my mom came looking for me then I'd show her a handful of pins why was she never as impressed with them as I am now I'll never know
This was the way! I did the same exact thing, where did they all come from? Why didnāt anyone ever care except for us?! Lol, momās are hard to impress sometimes I guess.
Where DID they come from?! Are they still there? Why don't we step on them or find them on our shoes?!
And who in the new generation has taken up our torches? So many questions.
I did the same thing! Hide in the rack of clothes. I used to haaate being dragged clothes shopping with my Mom
I remember that shit, dude shop as long as you want, I just want to sit down!
Some parents just donāt get itš¤¦āāļø
Shirts *are* just fitted blankets though
That aināt a child that looks like a young adult
looks like the kid is tired of being an accessory. he just needs a nap. people need to stop having kids just to HAVE kids, they're real being that needs to cared for emotionally too. I don't blame the kid, the mom is wrong here.
Perhaps it would be better to photograph the parent, instead of publicizing the child. It's not the child's fault.
Looking back I really should have.
Thank you for responding! And for thinking about it. I hope that kid found adults who helped them learn better than Mom was doing.
Absolutely! Iāve actually gained a lot of insight in the comments about being upset at the parent instead of the child and coming from someone with no kids at the moment it makes a lot of sense. Not gonna lie around this time I was a pretty hateful person - *especially* towards ill behaved kids so that definitely played a part in my views. I Can definitely imagine this kid just having a rough day or something which admittedly I have not thought about.
Can we just pass a law so we can discipline parents and children who act like this in public? I understand it's not my child, but *we* the public are the ones who have to deal with these nightmares when they become an "adult".
We don't need a law. We just need the public to step back up and demand some measure of societal behavior. You can be damned sure this behavior would not tolerated when I was a kid. I'd have been grabbed by the arm and marched of to my mother and she would get a talking to for not minding her child.
Good on OP to cover the kidās face, despite his infuriating behavior.
Dude knew exactly what he was doing. And that isnāt a child. He looks like a tween.
Have compassion for a clearly neglected child. Dude is probably doing all he or she knows since Mom can't be fucked to help. Strangers likely intervene so the (admittedly overgrown) kid knows to make a scene for attention. This is a deeply sad post if you think about it
Sorry but my compassion goes towards the workers. I donāt shop at these places because I am a dude but have friends who works in retail. They are just trying to make a living and pay the bills. Although I am sure the workers are compassionate towards this types of situations but who has compassion for them? They have to show up everyday with a smile on their face and get abused by AH families like this. This kid will leave a mess and the workers will have to pick it up. Whatever the situation is, the people who will have to pay for this and pick it up are the poor workers who didnāt sign up for this.
When I was an emotional as fuck 12 year old with attention span issues in a situation where there was absolutely nothing to do for hours I absolutely positively did not know exactly what I was doing as far as meltdowns are concerned.Ā I don't know why people expect a 12 year old to have the emotional maturity of a late teen to young adult...
I think they expect a 12yo to have better self control than a toddler. But tbh, my mom could never drag me in to that place when I was 12yo. That was a no go zone for me. I would have gone to GameStop and waited for her there at 12yo.
Might not be a mall, to be fair. I do feel for the kid, because I've been in those shoes. Shopping for hours and hours and hours, being told over and over "we're leaving soon we're leaving soon" yet "soon" means like 2 more hours.Ā And often there isn't even anywhere to sit down.Ā I work retail and I've seen these types of instances, and I'll almost always blame the parent. Either they ignore the meltdown, or they're on the phone, or they actively ignore anyone asking them to keep their kids under control.Ā Ā It's the kids that waltz in on their own, usually in groups, and cause a ruckus/mess that I hate.Ā
It might just be autism?
No
Why is autism the go to for behavioral problems? I see so many people suggest it.
Honestly, as someone on the spectrum myself... I thought the same. This kid looks old enough that he shouldn't be having outbursts like that, even if he's just spoiled.
this could be a meltdown. the child is in distress. not an excuse for bad behaviour but the mother needs to do better by helping their child.
Amen, either way a meltdown this bad is a case of "Mom isn't handling this right".
It shouldn't be used as a cop-out excuse for all this kind of behaviour, but I do work in primary schools and I see autistic children acting like this all the time.
Obviously it maybe other things going on here but itās suggested that 70% of ASD children have comorbid psychiatric symptoms including ODD and DBD, disruptive behavior disorder. Itās not a given, but most children are mature enough to not behave this way unless thereās something going on.
Couldnāt they just kick him out of the store?
I would have wanted to take em to the food court for a snack, poor dude.
Pepperidge Farm remember when the Victoria's Secret catalogs were free.
I would also like to add this was around Black Friday/ Christmas shopping and the employees were trying to keep the store as neat as possible
If thatās a child then I am still a child as well
Thatās clearly like an 11 year old lol
Not the behavior I expect from an 11 year old. By age 11 my cousin Timmy had already graduated from Harvard, started his own business and was working as a doctor.
I think having this on your phone for two years is even more troubling lol
As a previous VS employee during its peak/best years and now a mother of a just turned 4 year oldā¦.ooohhhhh hell no, in any store helllll no. It amazes me some people have no thoughts in their heads about keeping an eye on their children in public #1 FOR THE CHILDS OWN SAFETY!!!! And #2 for reasons like this.
Who hasn't wanted to have a scream and then settle themselves by making a makeshift bed out of discounted lingerie.
Ask the child why they want to be a piss baby
Before smartphones we would just either get the manager, tell the child to behave and clean that up, or talk to the mother š¤ Back then mothers would ofc still be embarrassed and people not used to shit like this
It was her husband
Another parent that has kids strictly for an EBT card & extra big tax return.
Be mad at the piece of shit, neglectful mom - it's her fault, ultimately.
Sheesh, what is it with boys having a meltdown the minute they can't see mom? They're so emotional.
That's NOT a small young child. I might expect that from a two or three year old but that child has to be between 5 and 7 ( if not older).Ā I would absolutely bring it to the parent's attention, as well as the store manager. Totally unacceptable.
Maybe heās angry cuz he got on dumbass Yeezy off brands
If you think this is bad, jut wait 4 years. He'll be robbing people
All they need is a belt
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Jokes about abuse arenāt funny.
You're gonna get the belt next.
Get a life
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Jokes usually have to actually be funny.Ā
Kids do stupid shit and so do some parents. Weāve all experienced obnoxious behavior like this in stores at some point. Whatās weirder is you in the store like āI gotta get a pic of this _child_ so I can post it to Reddit for karma later.ā
I posted this picture yes. I took a picture to show an employee since it pissed me off thatās all there was to it. So thank you but I donāt just simply run up to children and take photos of them all day if thatās what youāre insinuating - and Iām not sure what youāre getting at with the karma thing you can clearly see I do not post regularly..
I agree.
Isn't this what conservative christians are calling grooming? I mean why would a mother bring her male child to a women's sexy underwear store? What would you do as a 10 year old when watching your mom pick out thongs?
Do you always take photos of kids when you are out shopping? Very creepy.
Never would have guessed the parents race š poor kid.
Send them to school in the worst kit the next week. No yelling or hitting. Just go ok cool. Here are jean shorts, a stained shirt, underwear with stains and holes and some busted ass kicks or flip flops. 5 days straight. If they do it again it's a month. No need to tell and shout and all that. Works every time.
Yeah abuse sure makes people fall in line. Why don't you take the door off the hinges and waterboard the kid, too.
Why is a young person in that type of store?
āThat type of store.ā š¤·š¼āāļø Moms need bras and panties too. What do you suggest she do (aside from controlling her childās behavior there)?