Very few in our country understand parent wound and the need of setting boundaries with toxic parents.
Remember "kuch to log kahengey", so if you keep looking for validation fron people, society you will face only disappointment
Do what you need to do to maintain your sanity, and your child's welfare.
Life is all about choices, you are a warrior queen be fearless.
because i am not so emotionally and mentally strong person i am trying my best to fight it off and becoming a better and stronger version sadly society here is very rough and closed minded
You're doing really well and I'm extremely proud of you. Set those boundaries, fuck what society says. You've put other people first all your life, it's time to circle the wagons and prioritize yourself and your son. To hell with your mother, to hell with your golden child sister, you have your life to live and you live it as you damn well please.
I understand it's extremely difficult to do these things, so I'll just leave you with this: you've done enough for everyone else. You owe it to yourself now to break the shackles of society that are holding you back -- if moving away and putting distance between you and everyone who's dragging you down is what it takes to protect your peace, so be it. I assume your son is an adult now, so unless he has special needs, he should be capable of independence, which should free you up to pursue what *you* want to do.
Time is still on your side. Get that job you want, find people who share your interests, live well, get therapy/help when you can afford it (there are free/affordable options as well), be a good person, and you'll have done the very best anyone could possibly ask for. Good luck and godspeed, we're rooting for you.
thank you this actually motivates a lot to be honest
I will definitely look up to your words and follow it . i am working on my self right now and healing with time comments like yours always makes my day brighter thank you 😊
really sorry to hear that OP
You are good person and you have sympathy for family.
You need to step down foot and look for your kid.
Take stand. Society will always judge you. Even if you help your mom, they will still judge you saying you are not enough.
I don't have advice but will pray things get better for you
When we are evaluating the needs of everyone around us, it should not translate into ignoring our own needs.
Try and keep the societal pressure at bay and have an open conversation with your mother to understand what she needs and explain what you need, hopefully you will find some common ground and then start settling.
Tell your sister to take care of your mom. Actions have consequences. By rewarding bad behavior of your mom, you are setting a bad example yourself
"Choices have consequences. People who you trust, hurt you the most" - Simon "Ghost" Riley, Call of Duty Modern Warfare 2.
OP, take care of yourself first. You do what's right for you. Society will always have something to say. Don't let that affect you.
Very few in our country understand parent wound and the need of setting boundaries with toxic parents. Remember "kuch to log kahengey", so if you keep looking for validation fron people, society you will face only disappointment Do what you need to do to maintain your sanity, and your child's welfare. Life is all about choices, you are a warrior queen be fearless.
Next time ask the society and people pressuring you to come take care of her.
Society is only there to judge me they will never let my voice come to the surface
their judgement ain't paying you, so stop thinking about society and do what's right for you and son.
Why does it matter so much to you?
because i am not so emotionally and mentally strong person i am trying my best to fight it off and becoming a better and stronger version sadly society here is very rough and closed minded
You have gone through so much. Sending you hugs.
thank you 😊
You're doing really well and I'm extremely proud of you. Set those boundaries, fuck what society says. You've put other people first all your life, it's time to circle the wagons and prioritize yourself and your son. To hell with your mother, to hell with your golden child sister, you have your life to live and you live it as you damn well please. I understand it's extremely difficult to do these things, so I'll just leave you with this: you've done enough for everyone else. You owe it to yourself now to break the shackles of society that are holding you back -- if moving away and putting distance between you and everyone who's dragging you down is what it takes to protect your peace, so be it. I assume your son is an adult now, so unless he has special needs, he should be capable of independence, which should free you up to pursue what *you* want to do. Time is still on your side. Get that job you want, find people who share your interests, live well, get therapy/help when you can afford it (there are free/affordable options as well), be a good person, and you'll have done the very best anyone could possibly ask for. Good luck and godspeed, we're rooting for you.
thank you this actually motivates a lot to be honest I will definitely look up to your words and follow it . i am working on my self right now and healing with time comments like yours always makes my day brighter thank you 😊
That's the spirit. Go grab the life you were meant to have with both hands, and let no one take it from you.
really sorry to hear that OP You are good person and you have sympathy for family. You need to step down foot and look for your kid. Take stand. Society will always judge you. Even if you help your mom, they will still judge you saying you are not enough. I don't have advice but will pray things get better for you
Thank you for understanding yes am slowly healing my self
When we are evaluating the needs of everyone around us, it should not translate into ignoring our own needs. Try and keep the societal pressure at bay and have an open conversation with your mother to understand what she needs and explain what you need, hopefully you will find some common ground and then start settling.
At the end of the day. You have to live your life as well and your son's life will depend on that. You know what to do and you're scared to do it.
Find a remote job, take tuitions rather than wasting your time here
OP, a gentle advise "fuck sociey" do what you feel right they aint gonna come to fix your mental health
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Found the sister
What did they say
They were calling OP childish and immature for saying her sister was the favorite
Damn I see, thanks I guess we really did find the sister
This is such an insensitive take
Having anxiety is childish personality?