Ekdum sahi bola bhai ne.
Meri advise le :
1.Building ke niche na jidhr bike parking rahega na udhr jaake kisike pe bhike pe bhaith Jaa generally jo bachpan se friends rehte hai building mai woh udhrich milenge
2.Same society ka koi bhi baakda pakad le.woh baakda group mai unity rehta hai aur terko bhi add kr lenge.
3. Agar smoke krta hai toh tapri pakd le udhr ek hi time fix rakh, same time pe aane wale bahot log milenge aur dost bhi ban jayenge.
Itne bana automatically unka friend circle tera ban jayega
Scene sort
I honestly feel it depends on the locality in where you stay. Places like Andheri can be good to make new friends but can’t say the same for Goregaon-Borivali where people are a bit more conservative.
I have tried talking to people in my building but have failed most of the time. Plus those areas are not that cosmopolitan enough from what I have felt.
No offense but sounds like typical sobo wanna be. Either you're lacking in communication or you just met people who don't wanna mix up, however that doesn't mean everyone is same. It's like saying all men/women are same after breakup xD
Hmm maybe, but personally I have had really bad experiences in Mumbai which I think I would never ever really overcome. It has left a deep scar in my mind. And no, I’m not a SoBo wannabe, infact I detest those guys for being so out of touch with reality.
Its not Bombay. Its the popular kid from undergrad realising there are people as smart, cool or more than him in PG, where all the weed gets cut and the more talented thrive.
Happened to me too. I went from being like the coolest kid in the whole college to a pariah. Thats the day I realised andhon me kana raaja banke fayyda nahi hai.
Ya when I came from a tier 2 city thinking I'm good at what I do and shit then saw call centre people making more than tab fatt ke hath me agayi. Made me very Humble else Mera ego bahut tha. Also living in Mumbai for some time makes you feel like other cities are like a walk in a park in terms of travelling. Travelling in my home city feels so weird like I can just reach my home in 2-5 mins by bike from anywhere.
Look, stop trying to fill the void by scheduling things to do. Ghar jaate time rikshaw Wale se baat karo, vada pav wale se baat karo.
And Buddy, aap Mumbai ka experience club mein nahi le sakte.
Leopold cafe, Marines, Banda fort, Bandstand, etc
Friends milenge, bohot milenge. But abhi pehle Mumbai se karlo dosti. Sab hoga. just give it time 🤭
Thanks and yeah i wasnt talking specifically about clubs but do get your point and yes i did make friends with all the autowalas they the most people in this town
Whoever says shit like this has no clue about life largely.
Keeping certain things to yourself and opening up to selective people is a natural human trait, not a “cool introvert thing”
Look around you and tell me the introverts who made it in life. You HAVE to be an extrovert to an extent and a good one to be making bank as well as friends. Even the most successful and famous ‘introvert’ people you know have gotten where they are because of being very well extroverted where they need to be.
He's talking about things to do in everyday life not career advice, and cribbing about pretentious shit like being well known in his small town and school. There's a difference in talking to people for your gain and talking to anyone randomly. If you step into a bigger city ofc you're going to be a smaller fish, pretty obvious stuff
Go for weekend trekks and hikes with these trekking cos, it is the perfect time to witness the beauty of Maharashtra and also meet new people of all age groups and profession in these trekking and hiking groups. Keep an open mind.
OP i feel you, but you are so wrong. Don't give up on this city!
Your post reads like this: I am going to stay confined in my room and being lonely instead of going out. Also, Mumbai's culture scene? It's off-season. The rains don't allow culture and art scenes to work with monsoons here, right?
Here's what I recommend:
Go out! Even speaking with your society's watchman will teach you more about life.
You're in the "easy-to-make-friends" city, and you have to find those opportunities. You can't expect to stay at home, go work and come back, and assume you're in a fairy tale that will bring friends to your doors!
I hope it gets better for you. Mumbai is overwhelming at times due to the number of people around us. You are new here and have no mutuals, making it difficult to feel like you belong.
Bumble BFF is nice. You can also check out some single mixers. If you enjoy reading, check @bandrareads on Insta, check event pages on BMS, All Event, Event Tribe...
If your job allows, work from a cafe. I work remotely, but I work from cafes at least twice a week, and have had business and made friends working from public places.
Good luck out there!
Damn yaar, moved to Bombay just last month and I’ve been feeling the same. I was in delhi previously and life was so easy and adventurous all the time.
Everybody is in a rush, and I think going with the flow I’m also rushing through life, last ka 1 mahina pata bhi NHi chala. It just disappeared.
Read my flair.
But yeah, it's an extremely fast paced life. If you consciously don't slow down then going with the flow won't be good. Just strike a conversation with anyone you think will respond - high chances that they will.
Forgot to mention I lived here in my childhood, from 2000-2012. People seemed nicer then. My school and teachers here were way better than the one in delhi.
Moved to delhi and didn’t like it at all. It took a few years for me to get adjusted there.
At the end of the day this city is where i grew up, got my values and had a really amazing childhood.
Coming back here after 12 years, it pains me what they have done to this place. It used to be so beautiful. The greenery is disappearing. They’re literally digging up and killing all the hills in Navi Mumbai.
And it felt so wrong to see that the city I was singing praises about all the time in delhi has actually become worse and delhi which I complained about has become way better.
Maybe it’s also because that I’ve started working now so it’s about the stress from that. Maybe adulting and Mumbai pain points are hitting together.
But one thing that’s best is when I tell my delhi friends my office is near BKC they all crack up 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Moreover just been a month
Let’s see what adventures this city has in plans for me.
Moj to hone wali hai im certain.
Really grateful to this city for giving me my first job, the start to my career.
I can totally relate. Came to mumbai for my MBA in 2022 and unfortunately got placed in mumbai so again am here only. I never understood the hype around this city. Or probably me being an introvert never really helped me in matching the bizzare energy of this place and its people. I come from a small city but I have lived in delhi too for 3 years. I fell in love with Delhi on the very first day of joining DU. Sadly it’s been 2 years and counting, but I can’t say the same for mumbai.
lol thanks for being the first person who admits this, i too have lived in bangalore and delhi and they are definitely wayy better but gonna give the city a fair chance lol
Being a mumbaikar is not easy, everyone knows that, but it’s rewarding in its own way.
Mumbai bol ke lifestyle improve karne bhi aa jaate ho, saath mai relatives mai bhi show off kar lete ho, but if you come here, you’ve to learn about the city, it’s ways and its culture - and how to soak it in/ make the most out of it. Complain hi karna hai toh go where you’re comfortable? hadd hai
Btw no Mumbai girl is attracted to this bechara bored aadmi attitude, do them a favour and stay out of the dating pool
I think youre confusing me with some other workforces of this city, show off karne nahi aye hai, just for college, im from a decent enough city that we dont need to show off about living in mumbai. pls dont take any critique of the city personally love didn’t mean to come off as “bechara” just complaining what every single human who moves to mumbai from decent place complains about.🎀
you can easily make friends there dudeee, pvt colleges have it really easy. Just got to step out of ur comfort zone...that's the only catch in Mumbai, and never miss out on group trips if yall plan any in the future
How i see it is, if you arent working for your survival and looking for spends. This city is the best as you get amazing food and resources at hand. To get away fromm all this cement city on weekends you can travel to Lonavala or have meetups and stuff.
The travel is fucked sometimes people are nice and bad
I feel the same about Mumbai. And I tried everything suggested by everyone here and nothing changed. I'm able to meet and talk to people easily but I don't like the people here. The social norms are completely different and you need to act tough for people to take you seriously. If you are nice, soft spoken and polite, people try to take you for a ride. I find the people here greedy, impolite, bad-mannered, and selfish. Even if they become your friends, they do so with bad intentions. Especially men.
I've given up and I'll be tolerating this place for 2 years as I have no choice. If I can transfer out at any point, I'll take the opportunity to leave even for less pay and never come back again.
This is my opinion and my experience. Maybe I'm unlucky or maybe it's the city because I never felt this way in any other place in India (so, I don't think it's me). I've always gelled well in every other place. It's only Mumbai. I did give it a fair shot with a positive attitude initially but now I give up.
And, as many people have angrily told you to leave Mumbai (you can see the Mumbai walon ka mentality here and they call themselves friendly lol) .. I will also leave asap. Rn, I literally have no choice.
I felt it when I had first moved to Delhi. Didn't have any friends, and also had nothing to do on weekends. Then, slowly i started joining larger groups in office / the PG where I stayed to go do things together. It all felt very forced at first, but slowly I ended up gelling with a couple of folks. And really, a few people is all you need.
If you're into trekking or hiking, go for some group trek. You'll need people there for sure, and without much phone network people just talk to each other. Vagabond organises these in Maharashtra region, check it out.
Join some.classes
Go.for curated experiences ull meet people with
"Trove experiences"
Go for heritage walks with ttl.india
Go for dating at heart and soul events
Ull meet people if ur foodie join headbangerseats serial eater group 🍻
Easiest way in mumbai to make friends is to get on a crowded train at the same time at the same place each day for 7 days. I bet you will become great friends soon.
Go to Playace.co parties. You'll meet many people there who are from elsewhere in India and have moved to Mumbai for work. Go every weekend, make new friends. I'm from Mumbai, but I've made quite a few new friends at Playace parties.
Going out and meeting new people is much safer and wiser than talking to people on Bumble or Hinge, in a city like Mumbai you don’t need dating apps to meet new people.
I moved to Mumbai in March 2023 and it's the same for me. I've almost lost hope trying to find some decent people. I'm going to go explore South Bombay this weekend. Read, write and get some coffee at a cafe. I'd love for you to join me!!! :) I hear you, understand you, and I'm here for a talk whenever you need.
>I was hoping the culture , museums , cool cafes , art , theater, clubbing etc
You do realize you have to go to these places to experience the city's culture, right? You can't be whining about it without making your efforts to go and socialize. Are you expecting a special invitation?
I love the anonymity of this city. I love the solitude and freedom of just going anywhere I want without needing to drag someone else into it. If you don't like yourself, it makes sense why you are lonely. Long travel times and big crowds force you to make friends and/or face your own thoughts. I understand if it takes some time to get used to it, but if you give it a chance, you can grow to love it.
Roz kirana lene Jaa. Make friends with the shopkeeper. Help people living in your society complex. Dabeli, Sandwich etc khaane jayega to you can make forever friends with them. Ho jayega. Just open yourself completely. Will take time but ho jayega.
This sounds like a YOU problem. Go talk to people, it is easier to make friends. Attend events there you will make friends. I have done the same now I have some people who are friends for life.
I can agree with you that Mumbai can feel extremely overwhelming. Also its a sensory overload. I live in a hostel in lower parel and every morning when I take the train, I literally get dizzy seeing the throngs of people piling out of the station. And yes, this city can give you an immense sense of loneliness, even though people here can be extremely talkative and friendly. If you want to meet or hangout for a drink, maybe get something to eat. Im all there, and I live in Mumbai. So DM if you feel like chatting.
Living in Mumbai is not for the faint of heart. It takes time to get used to, you’ll fall in love with the city only when it accepts you and falls in love with you
My boyfriend was new to town four years ago, he was tired and was emotionally exhausted w Mumbai and then we matched on hinge… things took a beautiful turn. Didn’t know a random conversation with a dude would change everything 🤍 Good things happen when you don’t expect them.
Idk why people always come here and say such bs . Mumbai is fast , but it's not heartless, nor is it lonely. There's always a genuine connection to be made here , but if you go looking for superficial shit ur gonna meet superficial people, and loneliness will follow . I've never been to a crazy party or a nightclub ever in my life, and i dont regret a single thing . I have good friends and a gf who cares about me , i have good parents , and i love where i live and even the people that surround it . Try to shut out the drama and take enjoyment in life . Try to slow down , and look for something real . Ur having fomo bcz ur life qnd fun is based on what others think is fun . Define your own standards first and what makes you happy. Try to be comfortable in your own self , try to be proud of who you are, and if you aren't , get to where you want to be where you will feel pride . No one , no matter how special or interesting, in this city is gonna save you from this , it's only you . Plus, bumble and hinje are just gonna make you feel more lonely , you'll delete it in a month or less . Mumbai is a great city , and maybe it's cause i was born here, but I've been to quite many cities in india, and still there's no city in india. I'd ever live in except mumbai flaws and all . Home is where the heart is , and my heart is right damn here
Lol
So many actors come from outside Mumbai how do you think they survive. They don't crib and find ways.
People living in small towns feel so about fast paced city. People living in American towns feel the same way about New York.
You can join a gym or some activities o book club. Start making friends and acquaintances this way. One will invite you out to meet other friends etc. There is no limit to how many friends you can make in Mumbai.
People of this beautiful city are very careful about other's privacy. Its not disinterest. Its just caution. If you can break through that by just talking to people around your building/office or even find local people on the internet - they will bring you into their group of friends.
If you are not comfortable making an effort (breaking out of the self imposed restraint to avoid bothering people), then you would take more time to find your circle. But finding a circle is very easy
During my early working days, I went from being lonely to getting invited every weekend to some group's outing/dinner/pub to the extent that I had to politely decline many of the invites. Very often the locals want their friends to meet someone from the opposite gender - this makes dating new people very easy too.
Remember - Mumbai people are friendly and the most non-judgmental people in India - they are just careful about invading other's privacy
Edit - One more thing you need to do - Ensure you become as non-judgemental about people here as they are about you. Social status, income level, education levels, wealthy vs poor family background - all of this is immaterial in Mumbai about making friends. Often, people would not know your last name and yet call you their friend.
It hasn't even begun yet in suburbs and city. MMR getting some heavy rains but so far it's the humidity which is killing in Mumbai.
Revisit your comment at the end of July
If you are doing it from tier 1 clg then u don't have time for loneliness for more than 2 hr .
If doing it from tier 2 clg grp is necessary .. u need to make a extra effort for people in finding their rooms , relocation or maid problem ..tadah problem solved for male .
If tier 3 - I don't know
Bhai looking at some of the comments i can understand there is a fair reason about why finding friends can become more difficult. Drop down that ego, cool shit you think you have. Normality is best in mumbai. If you think you are big you better go to Delhi.
Bhai itna mat soch. Niche jaake kisi se bhi baat karega toh it’ll be fine. Mumbai is the easiest place to make friends. Everyone wants to chit chat
Ekdum sahi bola bhai ne. Meri advise le : 1.Building ke niche na jidhr bike parking rahega na udhr jaake kisike pe bhike pe bhaith Jaa generally jo bachpan se friends rehte hai building mai woh udhrich milenge 2.Same society ka koi bhi baakda pakad le.woh baakda group mai unity rehta hai aur terko bhi add kr lenge. 3. Agar smoke krta hai toh tapri pakd le udhr ek hi time fix rakh, same time pe aane wale bahot log milenge aur dost bhi ban jayenge. Itne bana automatically unka friend circle tera ban jayega Scene sort
Why do you sound like Jackie Shroff? Lol.. But ek number advice dost!
Aadhe se jyada public jo Mumbai mai bade hue asiach baat krenge. Woh apna Bhidu thoda popular hai iske liye
Yes, bhidu. 
 Yes, bhidu.
Bhai mumbai ka har banda aise hi sound karta.
What is baakda?
Bench
Bhai lagta hai Mumbai ka nahi hai
Nahi n bhai me nagpur se hu
https://preview.redd.it/wauoqvizc2ad1.jpeg?width=524&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5a41500f5ab58fa675b605bd410ff3c05a72fd45 Somry
Love the language
Good stuff
Neeche gaya ghoomne bc baarish ho gayi
moye moye😂
I honestly feel it depends on the locality in where you stay. Places like Andheri can be good to make new friends but can’t say the same for Goregaon-Borivali where people are a bit more conservative.
True
Im from goregaon and I'm super friendly 🤨
Exactly, I'm from Goregaon - Malad too, Aisa kya paap kia hai hamne? 💀
I have tried talking to people in my building but have failed most of the time. Plus those areas are not that cosmopolitan enough from what I have felt.
No offense but sounds like typical sobo wanna be. Either you're lacking in communication or you just met people who don't wanna mix up, however that doesn't mean everyone is same. It's like saying all men/women are same after breakup xD
Hmm maybe, but personally I have had really bad experiences in Mumbai which I think I would never ever really overcome. It has left a deep scar in my mind. And no, I’m not a SoBo wannabe, infact I detest those guys for being so out of touch with reality.
Lol, scar. Yes, that's what I mean when I mentioned the breakup part.
Nothing like breakup buddy, not even close. Infact far worse, given that I faced tremendous bullying in my schooling days.
Oh well, that sucks mate. (Also, breakup is supposed to be a metaphor)
exactly striking a conversation with anyone in Malad and Goregaon has been super easy and cool, ppl here are kind .......btw when I'm from goregaon
+1
Literally sounds like a YOU problem
YOU is the BECAUSE
Esa kya
Its not Bombay. Its the popular kid from undergrad realising there are people as smart, cool or more than him in PG, where all the weed gets cut and the more talented thrive. Happened to me too. I went from being like the coolest kid in the whole college to a pariah. Thats the day I realised andhon me kana raaja banke fayyda nahi hai.
Ya when I came from a tier 2 city thinking I'm good at what I do and shit then saw call centre people making more than tab fatt ke hath me agayi. Made me very Humble else Mera ego bahut tha. Also living in Mumbai for some time makes you feel like other cities are like a walk in a park in terms of travelling. Travelling in my home city feels so weird like I can just reach my home in 2-5 mins by bike from anywhere.
Im not sure i relate but i do get your point. Hopefully find the more cool people u talking about
Look, stop trying to fill the void by scheduling things to do. Ghar jaate time rikshaw Wale se baat karo, vada pav wale se baat karo. And Buddy, aap Mumbai ka experience club mein nahi le sakte. Leopold cafe, Marines, Banda fort, Bandstand, etc Friends milenge, bohot milenge. But abhi pehle Mumbai se karlo dosti. Sab hoga. just give it time 🤭
leopold? are you serious?
Right? Says club mein experience nahi milta and go to Leopold in same breath, lmao.
Jaise paani nal se nikalta hai, waise paisa nikalta hai udhar kishe se
Lol yeah it's just a club with shittier seating.
Its an example. Aapko nahi pasand toh mat jaao
Thanks and yeah i wasnt talking specifically about clubs but do get your point and yes i did make friends with all the autowalas they the most people in this town
why are you getting downvoted😂
Are you trying to make random strangers friends with no mutually shared interests? If yes, it will be difficult anywhere in the world.
Sounds like typical extrovert bs ngl. Introverts OP 🗿🗿
Whoever says shit like this has no clue about life largely. Keeping certain things to yourself and opening up to selective people is a natural human trait, not a “cool introvert thing” Look around you and tell me the introverts who made it in life. You HAVE to be an extrovert to an extent and a good one to be making bank as well as friends. Even the most successful and famous ‘introvert’ people you know have gotten where they are because of being very well extroverted where they need to be.
He's talking about things to do in everyday life not career advice, and cribbing about pretentious shit like being well known in his small town and school. There's a difference in talking to people for your gain and talking to anyone randomly. If you step into a bigger city ofc you're going to be a smaller fish, pretty obvious stuff
sorry but as a grown ass man cant be too stoked about being a male introvert reddit guy
omg😂😂😂 man you're really damn mad, aren't you?
apologies for the tone 🌻
I guess we now know why you don't have friends.
I see now why no one wants to talk to you
Dil pe mat le
Abe nalle Gand fhat Rahi hai toh wapis apne gaon chala ja. Firse apne gaon ke college me admission leke cool extrovert ban ja
Jali xD
Maybe just maybe it's not the city but you.....
Fair point babe
Fair point babe
Go for weekend trekks and hikes with these trekking cos, it is the perfect time to witness the beauty of Maharashtra and also meet new people of all age groups and profession in these trekking and hiking groups. Keep an open mind.
Weekend pe you can start some interactive hobby, you will definitely find someone matching your wavelength.
good idea
Welcome to the big leagues lil pup
chill out boy acting like daud😭
Yeah you gonna be lonely
And you wonder why you can't make friends lmao
ok lil pup
Aaja next week trek par chalein.
Bhai zyada load mat lo! You will eventually make some good yaars/bhidu in this city. Zarurat pade to I’m there to hang out..
Hey I moved here around a month and a half ago now and still haven’t met anyone and am despairingly alone. Let’s hang out
I moved here 2 years ago and still spend my weekends alone.
sure
Lots of people try socializing via Mumbai meetups sub. You can try that.
Where can you find these meet-up subs
r/mumbaimeetups You can search for yourself if I have messed up with the spelling
OP i feel you, but you are so wrong. Don't give up on this city! Your post reads like this: I am going to stay confined in my room and being lonely instead of going out. Also, Mumbai's culture scene? It's off-season. The rains don't allow culture and art scenes to work with monsoons here, right? Here's what I recommend: Go out! Even speaking with your society's watchman will teach you more about life. You're in the "easy-to-make-friends" city, and you have to find those opportunities. You can't expect to stay at home, go work and come back, and assume you're in a fairy tale that will bring friends to your doors! I hope it gets better for you. Mumbai is overwhelming at times due to the number of people around us. You are new here and have no mutuals, making it difficult to feel like you belong. Bumble BFF is nice. You can also check out some single mixers. If you enjoy reading, check @bandrareads on Insta, check event pages on BMS, All Event, Event Tribe... If your job allows, work from a cafe. I work remotely, but I work from cafes at least twice a week, and have had business and made friends working from public places. Good luck out there!
Damn yaar, moved to Bombay just last month and I’ve been feeling the same. I was in delhi previously and life was so easy and adventurous all the time. Everybody is in a rush, and I think going with the flow I’m also rushing through life, last ka 1 mahina pata bhi NHi chala. It just disappeared.
Read my flair. But yeah, it's an extremely fast paced life. If you consciously don't slow down then going with the flow won't be good. Just strike a conversation with anyone you think will respond - high chances that they will.
Forgot to mention I lived here in my childhood, from 2000-2012. People seemed nicer then. My school and teachers here were way better than the one in delhi. Moved to delhi and didn’t like it at all. It took a few years for me to get adjusted there. At the end of the day this city is where i grew up, got my values and had a really amazing childhood. Coming back here after 12 years, it pains me what they have done to this place. It used to be so beautiful. The greenery is disappearing. They’re literally digging up and killing all the hills in Navi Mumbai. And it felt so wrong to see that the city I was singing praises about all the time in delhi has actually become worse and delhi which I complained about has become way better. Maybe it’s also because that I’ve started working now so it’s about the stress from that. Maybe adulting and Mumbai pain points are hitting together. But one thing that’s best is when I tell my delhi friends my office is near BKC they all crack up 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Moreover just been a month Let’s see what adventures this city has in plans for me. Moj to hone wali hai im certain. Really grateful to this city for giving me my first job, the start to my career.
https://open.spotify.com/track/6ZLt6fyonW1xOGMBC9vJPJ?si=_BSEH6teRzG_Qh5BjfxCnQ :(
Lol I am trying to find a date in the city when I was 18, now I will be 25 and I am still not able to get one. Dating apps are also a scam.
That's basically Bombay giving you a reality check wrt the "main character" delusion you'd been living with so far. It's not us, it's you.
Mumbai rains are crazy. One shower and the roads get clogged. Everytime, every year.
I can totally relate. Came to mumbai for my MBA in 2022 and unfortunately got placed in mumbai so again am here only. I never understood the hype around this city. Or probably me being an introvert never really helped me in matching the bizzare energy of this place and its people. I come from a small city but I have lived in delhi too for 3 years. I fell in love with Delhi on the very first day of joining DU. Sadly it’s been 2 years and counting, but I can’t say the same for mumbai.
lol thanks for being the first person who admits this, i too have lived in bangalore and delhi and they are definitely wayy better but gonna give the city a fair chance lol
Sp jain?
‘Time to download hinge and bumble’ you’re going to regret it lmao
Would love to know your hometown
This is what too much consumption of Bollywood does to someone
Being a mumbaikar is not easy, everyone knows that, but it’s rewarding in its own way. Mumbai bol ke lifestyle improve karne bhi aa jaate ho, saath mai relatives mai bhi show off kar lete ho, but if you come here, you’ve to learn about the city, it’s ways and its culture - and how to soak it in/ make the most out of it. Complain hi karna hai toh go where you’re comfortable? hadd hai Btw no Mumbai girl is attracted to this bechara bored aadmi attitude, do them a favour and stay out of the dating pool
I think youre confusing me with some other workforces of this city, show off karne nahi aye hai, just for college, im from a decent enough city that we dont need to show off about living in mumbai. pls dont take any critique of the city personally love didn’t mean to come off as “bechara” just complaining what every single human who moves to mumbai from decent place complains about.🎀
Which college? KJSIM?
Nmims
you can easily make friends there dudeee, pvt colleges have it really easy. Just got to step out of ur comfort zone...that's the only catch in Mumbai, and never miss out on group trips if yall plan any in the future
Where are you staying OP in Mumbai, if you don't mind?
dm
How i see it is, if you arent working for your survival and looking for spends. This city is the best as you get amazing food and resources at hand. To get away fromm all this cement city on weekends you can travel to Lonavala or have meetups and stuff. The travel is fucked sometimes people are nice and bad
Give it time. Meanwhile there is so much to do. Start with seeing plays and going to museums. Mumbai is very accepting of all people.
I feel the same about Mumbai. And I tried everything suggested by everyone here and nothing changed. I'm able to meet and talk to people easily but I don't like the people here. The social norms are completely different and you need to act tough for people to take you seriously. If you are nice, soft spoken and polite, people try to take you for a ride. I find the people here greedy, impolite, bad-mannered, and selfish. Even if they become your friends, they do so with bad intentions. Especially men. I've given up and I'll be tolerating this place for 2 years as I have no choice. If I can transfer out at any point, I'll take the opportunity to leave even for less pay and never come back again. This is my opinion and my experience. Maybe I'm unlucky or maybe it's the city because I never felt this way in any other place in India (so, I don't think it's me). I've always gelled well in every other place. It's only Mumbai. I did give it a fair shot with a positive attitude initially but now I give up. And, as many people have angrily told you to leave Mumbai (you can see the Mumbai walon ka mentality here and they call themselves friendly lol) .. I will also leave asap. Rn, I literally have no choice.
Hmu I’m a native
Where are you doing your mba from?
nm
I felt it when I had first moved to Delhi. Didn't have any friends, and also had nothing to do on weekends. Then, slowly i started joining larger groups in office / the PG where I stayed to go do things together. It all felt very forced at first, but slowly I ended up gelling with a couple of folks. And really, a few people is all you need. If you're into trekking or hiking, go for some group trek. You'll need people there for sure, and without much phone network people just talk to each other. Vagabond organises these in Maharashtra region, check it out.
Tell us how hinge or bumble goes for you 😂
Join some.classes Go.for curated experiences ull meet people with "Trove experiences" Go for heritage walks with ttl.india Go for dating at heart and soul events Ull meet people if ur foodie join headbangerseats serial eater group 🍻
I belong to the city and I’m lonely as fuck
Easiest way in mumbai to make friends is to get on a crowded train at the same time at the same place each day for 7 days. I bet you will become great friends soon.
Go to Playace.co parties. You'll meet many people there who are from elsewhere in India and have moved to Mumbai for work. Go every weekend, make new friends. I'm from Mumbai, but I've made quite a few new friends at Playace parties.
Going out and meeting new people is much safer and wiser than talking to people on Bumble or Hinge, in a city like Mumbai you don’t need dating apps to meet new people.
I moved to Mumbai in March 2023 and it's the same for me. I've almost lost hope trying to find some decent people. I'm going to go explore South Bombay this weekend. Read, write and get some coffee at a cafe. I'd love for you to join me!!! :) I hear you, understand you, and I'm here for a talk whenever you need.
>I was hoping the culture , museums , cool cafes , art , theater, clubbing etc You do realize you have to go to these places to experience the city's culture, right? You can't be whining about it without making your efforts to go and socialize. Are you expecting a special invitation? I love the anonymity of this city. I love the solitude and freedom of just going anywhere I want without needing to drag someone else into it. If you don't like yourself, it makes sense why you are lonely. Long travel times and big crowds force you to make friends and/or face your own thoughts. I understand if it takes some time to get used to it, but if you give it a chance, you can grow to love it.
Roz kirana lene Jaa. Make friends with the shopkeeper. Help people living in your society complex. Dabeli, Sandwich etc khaane jayega to you can make forever friends with them. Ho jayega. Just open yourself completely. Will take time but ho jayega.
This sounds like a YOU problem. Go talk to people, it is easier to make friends. Attend events there you will make friends. I have done the same now I have some people who are friends for life.
I can agree with you that Mumbai can feel extremely overwhelming. Also its a sensory overload. I live in a hostel in lower parel and every morning when I take the train, I literally get dizzy seeing the throngs of people piling out of the station. And yes, this city can give you an immense sense of loneliness, even though people here can be extremely talkative and friendly. If you want to meet or hangout for a drink, maybe get something to eat. Im all there, and I live in Mumbai. So DM if you feel like chatting.
Living in Mumbai is not for the faint of heart. It takes time to get used to, you’ll fall in love with the city only when it accepts you and falls in love with you
Broooo get on this boat 🛶🛶🛶🛶
It gets better bruh, hinge is fun. Have fun while you’re in Bombay. It’s the coolest city (not weather wise)
been on too many dates that i regret to agree on the hinge part😭 but yes fingers crossed hope the city is ✨nice to me
My boyfriend was new to town four years ago, he was tired and was emotionally exhausted w Mumbai and then we matched on hinge… things took a beautiful turn. Didn’t know a random conversation with a dude would change everything 🤍 Good things happen when you don’t expect them.
Thats really cute happy for u, and yes will give the city a chance ✨
Hey man, if you need a friend to talk to I'm here! I love meeting new people, dms are always open
Idk why people always come here and say such bs . Mumbai is fast , but it's not heartless, nor is it lonely. There's always a genuine connection to be made here , but if you go looking for superficial shit ur gonna meet superficial people, and loneliness will follow . I've never been to a crazy party or a nightclub ever in my life, and i dont regret a single thing . I have good friends and a gf who cares about me , i have good parents , and i love where i live and even the people that surround it . Try to shut out the drama and take enjoyment in life . Try to slow down , and look for something real . Ur having fomo bcz ur life qnd fun is based on what others think is fun . Define your own standards first and what makes you happy. Try to be comfortable in your own self , try to be proud of who you are, and if you aren't , get to where you want to be where you will feel pride . No one , no matter how special or interesting, in this city is gonna save you from this , it's only you . Plus, bumble and hinje are just gonna make you feel more lonely , you'll delete it in a month or less . Mumbai is a great city , and maybe it's cause i was born here, but I've been to quite many cities in india, and still there's no city in india. I'd ever live in except mumbai flaws and all . Home is where the heart is , and my heart is right damn here
You can make friends out of some colleagues too.
Lol So many actors come from outside Mumbai how do you think they survive. They don't crib and find ways. People living in small towns feel so about fast paced city. People living in American towns feel the same way about New York. You can join a gym or some activities o book club. Start making friends and acquaintances this way. One will invite you out to meet other friends etc. There is no limit to how many friends you can make in Mumbai.
I'm guessing you are picky - possibly want GenZ cultured.
People of this beautiful city are very careful about other's privacy. Its not disinterest. Its just caution. If you can break through that by just talking to people around your building/office or even find local people on the internet - they will bring you into their group of friends. If you are not comfortable making an effort (breaking out of the self imposed restraint to avoid bothering people), then you would take more time to find your circle. But finding a circle is very easy During my early working days, I went from being lonely to getting invited every weekend to some group's outing/dinner/pub to the extent that I had to politely decline many of the invites. Very often the locals want their friends to meet someone from the opposite gender - this makes dating new people very easy too. Remember - Mumbai people are friendly and the most non-judgmental people in India - they are just careful about invading other's privacy Edit - One more thing you need to do - Ensure you become as non-judgemental about people here as they are about you. Social status, income level, education levels, wealthy vs poor family background - all of this is immaterial in Mumbai about making friends. Often, people would not know your last name and yet call you their friend.
Also everyone has scared me too much about the rains
This time, it's too low. You will feel it's wrath atleast once. If it rains heavily during high tide, it will get clogged
Bhai abhi usko red yellow orange alert ke baare Mai Janna bacha hai
chill, you'll fall in love w it. Everyone comes here w a 1000 complaints and leaves here crying, if they have to
It hasn't even begun yet in suburbs and city. MMR getting some heavy rains but so far it's the humidity which is killing in Mumbai. Revisit your comment at the end of July
If you are doing it from tier 1 clg then u don't have time for loneliness for more than 2 hr . If doing it from tier 2 clg grp is necessary .. u need to make a extra effort for people in finding their rooms , relocation or maid problem ..tadah problem solved for male . If tier 3 - I don't know
yeah im in NM so it def is extremely hectic
Bhai looking at some of the comments i can understand there is a fair reason about why finding friends can become more difficult. Drop down that ego, cool shit you think you have. Normality is best in mumbai. If you think you are big you better go to Delhi.
Bubble se bahar nikloge toh friends bann jayenge :)