Right? I have lost a lot of weight and itās okay, because it was trauma weight that needed to go. But Iām still never going to be āthinā and I have the thicc ass/hips/thighs/boobs but I also have the chubby arms and stomach that Instagram models never have.
I wish more men would just be honest about it. Normalize liking different kinds of bodies so that people with all different kinds of bodies will realize they are beautiful and lovable.
And fwiw, I donāt know a single āthinā woman who doesnāt starve herself. Not a one. Even my friends who swore in their 20s that they ate normally now at 40 admit that they were starving themselves. IT DOESNāT HAVE TO BE THIS WAY.
One last thingāI found out when I was much bigger (over 300 pounds) that lots of men found that incredibly sexy, too. I had zero problems finding sex if I wanted it, from men genuinely into it and into me. But what 90% of them *didnāt* want was to be seen with me in public.
Think about how fucked up that isālots of men want to be with bigger women, but because society says itās ābadā and āwrongā men will settle for relationships with thin women they arenāt as attracted to just because it ālooksā more acceptable.
So fucking sad.
Edit: I know a few people have said āhey that isnāt fairā about thin women. And I will correct myselfāI knew one woman (exactly one) who had a metabolism where no matter how much she ate she stayed very thin. But she had no boobs/ass/thighs, etc. And that is ABSOLUTELY OKAY. But the fact is it is extremely rare to have the kind of metabolism that keeps a woman that thin, especially into her 30s and 40s. And women that thin naturally have very little body fat anywhere, whether it is metabolism or hyperthyroidism.
The point is, the *average* very thin woman is starving herself, even if sheās lying to herself as much as everyone else. All to meet beauty standards pushed by capitalism and fueled by misogynistic fears about what gives a woman worth. We are so much more than just our bodies.
My lil tummy and my thick thighs are a product of food I loved. Adventures I had. I am strong and healthy and I am finally feeling okay about it! I love my body and so does my bf. Iām happy.
Your term "trauma weight" just opened my eyes. I think I'm going to see my weight loss journey differently a lil bit.
Also, yeah even when I was dating at my biggest, sex wasn't a prob. \*high five\*
I can only speak to my own body but I put on a LOT of excess weight as a young girl and into my twenties because of constant sexual abuse. I wanted to be invisible so I became very, very large. I was 400 pounds. I canāt say that every person that large is so because of trauma, but I was. And once I started healing the trauma my body just started letting go of weight faster than I could keep up with it, though before, when I didnāt know it was trauma, I tried every diet under the sun and nothing worked.
Itās a lot of work, but healing my trauma and doing the work of mindfulness and connecting to my body changed my life.
But that is no shame against anyone who is big so please donāt misinterpret it as that. I really believe some bodies are meant to be bigger, and throughout all of history we can see that. All the way back to Venus of Willendorf. So fuck anyone who says that only thin bodies are healthy bodies.
I have a neighbor who is a little chubby and sheās almost 90 so also fuck the fatphobia that says only skinny people get to live to be old, too.
Yeah I did the same. Took me over 17 years to realize that I was adding weight because I got attacked out walking as a 15 yo skinny teen. I just wanted noone to ever want to hurt me like that again.
Unfortunately that realization wasn't enough to get the weight off so I'm working on that now. But I'm more concerned with taking good care of my mental health. Mindfulness really is wonderful
I feel the same about most of the things people consider less āconventionally attractiveā as a character artist. People hate their hooked noses, but I think they are sooo fun to draw on characters and especially beautiful to render in portraits. I canāt articulate why as elegantly as you did though, haha.
In art school the drawing teacher was a lech and would only get models with "perfect" figures. Sooooo boring and uninspiring. The most interesting figures for me was an old thin saggy man and women with an interesting figure..something to actually draw! Rubens thought so too!
Maybe I donāt need to lose all that weight to fall in love after allā¦ šā¦
For real though, props to you for enjoying what you like! As a big woman I have my own preferences so I try to never take offense to those not attracted to my body but I definitely have been surprised by how many men do enjoy curvy women. Society breeds shame but people are complex š
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If youāre doing it for health, go for it. But if youāre doing it because youāre self conscious then be careful and try to love yourself before you try to lose weight. If you think youāre worthless if the scale has a larger number it can lead to eating disorders. You should love exactly who you are!!
Iāve always been so insecure about my body type as I am a bigger girl, but I realised after getting a bf that if one person likes me and finds me sexually appealing, then more people out of the 7 billion people in the world will as well, and this is more evidence towards thatššāØ
I hate the thought of others bashing you or saying you're a weirdo for your preferences or attraction to a specific type of woman. You described your attraction so elegantly! They're just insecure about themselves..
The most frustrating part is when people act like you canāt possibly be telling the truth. I like bigger women too (as wells as other body types), and edgelords on the internet would just say Iām virtue signalling & trying to be politically correct. They cannot fathom that itās the truth, and accuse anyone saying so of lying, and itās so close minded. Obviously I donāt care what strangers on the internet might think of my tastes, but I donāt like that this must surely affect how some bigger girls see themselves. Imagine being told that anyone who compliments you is lying.
Yeah you're so right. Its unfortunate not only for you, but for those women who may end up buying into the idea that they aren't valued or aren't worthy of love because of their size or appearance. Unfortunate.
Only time I'll be thirsting over a copper I swear, his dad bod physique all Big and protective but also huggable, need me a man like that
Also, username checks out lmaooo
I'm with you!! I'm a thin girl but I've always been attracted to chubby guys! They're huggable, like teddy bears and I find them so cute! Also maybe, all the men in my family are thin, so I just can't do skinny guys, don't find them sexy lol I'm not attracted to muscular guys either.
I am the same way with dudes! I just love a man with dad bod! I mean no disrespect to thin men, but I'll pass. Give me a guy thats soft and a bit squishy any day! ā”
I was quite skinny when I was younger and never had problems when it came to dating. Now I'm on the heavier side and it have definitely affected my dating life. Maybe my self-esteem was affected at the same time, so that could be the reason? But I'm glad to hear! Thanks.
I wish you the best of luck moving forward in the dating scene! I promise as long as you are kind, considerate, and funny you can find happiness with someone. Laughter and joy are the keys to a happy life; laugh at yourself, but you know, not in a creepy way. Oh snap this might be a bit harder than I thought... lolololol! GOOOOOD LUCKKKKK ā”
Thank you! I've given up on dating for now, but I'll remember your words! And I always laugh at myself, but it must be up to others to decide whether it is creepy or not, haha.
Very kind of you, all the best to you!
It's true! I had a huge crush on a friend in college who was a track star, dude was super lean and beautiful to look at, but I got to hug him once and it was like hugging a literal tree. Just so... angular, and sharp. My husband is a fluffier guy and is much more pleasant to snuggle with :)
Iāve been insecure about my body for a long time, and this post made me realize Iām beautiful how I am. I always focused on being skinny when healthy is what matters. Thank you for loving bigger women how they are. Iām sure youāre giving many of us self confidence and flattery!
*I love it when they have cute fat rolls I can bite into*
You are a legend. These are the types of things all females who feel inferior because they are naturally bigger or have gained a lot of weight recently need to hear. Glad there are people like you out there who donāt conform to the societal ānormā of what is considered attractive or not. My own body dysmorphia is appreciative of this.
OP, thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Youāre my long lost twin, because I feel the same way. I fucking love plus sized women. All my crushes growing up were basically chubby girls and my last 2 girlfriends were chubby too and those relationships were amazing. Itās just what Iām naturally attracted to and nothing is going to change that. My current crush is chubby and my fuck buddy is chubby so yeah itās like Iām destined to date, marry and have kids with a plus sized woman.
I wear a size 16, small waist, big breasts, big behind, thick thighs, and some back rolls. Listen to me closely: Iāve NEVER had an issue getting a man! You, kind sir, are not alone! Those friends that have something to say to you are jealous because youāre confident enough to stand on what you like!
For all my plus sized ladies that may be feeling insecure: DONāT! I have sex butt naked in the day on top of the covers and have never had a complaint. Remember, ppl are attracted to confident ppl so flaunt your stuff ladies!!š
A lot of people donāt realize how much of a difference confidence makes when youāre not societyās ideal body type. Iāve hooked up with people considerably more attractive than me because I put myself out there and faked confidence until it became real.
Best advice right here. I've been with some AMAZING looking women and their lack of confidence just kills the attraction.
This goes for the "conventionally" attractive women and my preference of the ladies with some extra curvage.
Hell, the larger ladies seems to actually take my compliments and be more effected by them and appreciative than the ones I've dated who were stared at and approached by people who just wanted to bone because she's whatever the common "standard" is.
Confidence is the best, a big girl who flaunts her stuff will always have me more than some big boobed, tall, blonde girl who never wants me to see her and trashes on herself even when complimented.
When I was growing up (like middle school and high school) I was attracted to the more chubbier dudes. When I finally dated a skinny dude my friends said I "upgraded".
Nah, I just like dudes. Big or thin. It didn't really matter to me. It just was what it was.
Same here! Im not really skinny but im smaller with some muscle as i lift weights, but my god, strong, thick women will make me pass out. Any woman, really, will make my face go red, but mannnnn. Every woman is unique and i will gladly be very gay for every one.
Some dudes just like bigger girls and there ain't nothin wrong with that! I don't mind bigger girls (or guys!) myself.
Some girls look at skinny girls and get all mad and afraid their boyfriend is checking them out, but they won't know true envy until they get together with a dude who likes big girls, then they see a big ole girl waddle by and go, "WAHHHH she has a fatter ass than me! I *hate* her! UGH!" Source: I was fat (and very insecure) for a few years and my boyfriend at the time thought I was hotter than hell.
Christina Hendricks in Mad Men really changed things for me. I felt like shit about my squishy, top-heavy body until she became a sex symbol. Thereās something really special about seeing a celebrity with your own body type being considered desirable.
I really appreciate this as a plus size women. I feel like any time I get a compliment thereās an unspoken āā¦ for a fat girlā. And I genuinely thought any guy that ever showed interest in me just liked my personality etc. and compromised for being with a fat girl.
I'm not scared of getting into deep personal conversations with some of my close friends, and one of them have revealed to me that he has exactly the same preference as OP. And he's a good-looking guy to be honest. He works out a lot, so he isn't even a big guy himself. Everyone has some kind of preference, so you should never think that someone is compromising when showing interest in you.
GET IT HOMEBOY.
I was visiting my little brother once from my home in South Beach Miami. Home of shitty as fuck beautiful people. We went to watch our little sister play high school Lacrosse and then after she destroyed various opposition player we had dinner. Like a family dinner at a local āchainā.
While we were waiting for the rest of the fam to show a rather large woman(BBW) and friends cruised by who my little brother knew and they chatted, exchanged pleasantries and then went into the restaurant.
My little brother was stoked. I quipped in my typical douchebag way, āhey fat girls need love toā. To which he replied with āyeah by meā. Totally unapologetic.
They have been married for a long time with two kids and they are amazing.
Brother, you do you.
Saying you like bigger women and using Ashley Graham as an example is BS. Thatās like a 20 something I worked with telling me he liked older women and the example he gave was Jennifer Aniston. Beautiful women are beautiful.
A former co-worker shared the same thing. He was early 20ās of average to thin build. He wasnāt shy but he wasnāt dating a whole lot. There was a cute woman who all the guys in the office were drooling over. She really wanted to date him, was flirting with him a lot. He told me she was too skinny and told her that he just wanted to be friends with her. She was bummed and some of the guys thought he might be gay. It was refreshing TBH. Heās married to a beautiful plus sized woman now.
As a curvy young woman who feels insecure most of the time when looking at her skinny peers, this brought a smile to my face. Thank you, I needed this today
Iām what happens when the smaller model eats the cheeseburger and goes back for seconds. Iāve starved myself to be thin and Iāll never go through that hell again. Thankfully I met a wonderful man. A jock no less. Truth is, when given a chance anyone can find someone to love and share life with.
Years later, I now hear male friends say they are worried about what thier friends will say if they are with a larger lady or someone that looks different than most. People change inside and out. You wonāt be with the person youāre with today always. That person will grow and change as will their body. Find someone to love and enjoy the ride.
Almost 24 years later and I am still turned on by my hubby more than any other man Iāve ever talked to.
I commend you on speaking outside the norm.
For all those who think you have to look a certain way in order to find someone who will love you, the reality check is that those who you end up attracting donāt really love you. Bodies change constantly.
Thank you OP and others for self esteem boosters. Women who think they are too big or not big enough and men who think they are too skinny or not built enough, as long as you are happy with yourself thatās all that matters.
Iām just saddened by the fact that this has to even be a thing. Imagine replacing ābigger womenā in the headline to āAsiansā or āpeople with brown hairā or āpeople who didnāt go to collegeā Itās like, why is this even a thing? People are people. Why do we separate like this? Society obviously and media continues to perpetuate the marginalization of bigger bodies so we view a ālove for bigger womenā (or men, or non-binary) as this profound exclamation. I am a big woman, I love my body, I think Iām beautiful regardless of my size or societyās standard definition of beauty and I am beyond happy to see that other people feel the same way about my body type that I do. But it just makes me sad that this even has to be a conversation at all š But I donāt want to be a downer - I really love the support of bigger bodies given the fact that we are so underrepresented everywhere and it may seem ātabooā to do so. Rise above the brain washing of our society and mass media and we will stop seeing our differences but instead notice our similarities more. Anyway, sorry to make this serious, I just had to say my little piece. I love the love. š«¶š¼š„¹
I feel this! I too love bigger women more than women who are skinny. Now thatās not to say I wouldnāt date someone who is skinny because if the energy and vibes match then they match regardless of height and weight, but I do tend to lean more towards bigger women than smaller
Where are the men like you. I had a guy I was dating while I was dieting I had lost 30pounds so far and it still wasn't enough for him. He kept sending me pictures of women with abs, saying he wanted me to have them, like sir that's not gonna happen, and if it did it wouldn't be for a couple of years or so.
I wish more men liked bigger women, I feel like I'm always a disappointment
As a single, bigger woman in her late 30s.. you aren't alone. A lot more guys like the big girls then are willing to admit to it.
But those who can be loud and proud about it? That's some chefs kiss moments.
Keep being you and rocking at life. Fuck the haters.
This post. This comment section. The vibes here are immaculate. āØ Everything about it. š
As a bigger girl this really gives me the confidence boost that I need. Over time Iāve learned to accept myself but there are very hard days where I feel like itās hard to look at myself. This post helps. Thank you so much. š
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This is not a big surprise to anyone besides idiots. Guess your peers fall under that category. It is well known that tons of dudes prefer heavyset woman. Nothing wrong with it
I honestly think a good bit, not All, of men feel this way but worry about what their friends or family will think. I have two sons and when they were growing up I always had a house full of boys. I had alot of conversations with these now men and they always worried about what their friends thought. I only know of one out of the large group that married a extremely thin woman.
Same, thick girls are sexy. I definitely like bigger women.
Itās embarrassing that I so used to have such shame about it and couldnāt admit even to myself. Thick chicks all the way!!
Thicker women used to be the āidealā in other time periods. āBeauty standardsā only become standards when the population shifts their views. Iām thankful that it seems society is starting to shift the other way of healthier sizes and loving our bodies at every size. Thankful for men like you!
Okay so I looked up Ashley Graham. Not only has she lost a LOT of weight, the size she was modeling clothes for was only a 16 and she's 5'9"! So that's really more of an average sized woman. What you're saying and who you're using as an example are quite at odds. "I like plus size women but only if they are the model standard." Just another db.
Happens a lot. Usually when people say they like, bigger or plus size, they donāt mean what one would think. They donāt mean truly plus size or bigger people. Just moderately thicker and average. As someone who is actually bigger, Dunlap belly, rolls, big thighs, thick arms, stretch marks and not all too perfectly placed proportional thicknes, I donāt ever think when someone says such things that they mean me.
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To be fair OP did say thicker. Not necessarily fat or big in weight. Mostly mentioned tall and thick.
Thanks for sharing, mate. Iāve been harboring the same emotions recently. While I love a fit or slim lass, thereās something about a woman on the curvier side that just sparks something in me.
I think the thing that sucks the most as a bigger girl, I donāt get the body worship thinner women enjoy. Iāve never had a guy kiss me all over. Definitely not my belly. My current partner doesnāt even give oral even though he gets it twice a day some days. Iāve never been single though, and Iām not unattractive.
Iāve ran into a lot of guys that really appreciate women like me but I have my guard up pretty well so I donāt let people in often. I just get tired of people treating me like Iām invisible so I do it right off the bat to be honest.
Itās always nice seeing stuff like this though, and yeah peer pressure with guys is ridiculous. Any guy I dated that had friends had to field them making comments usually, depending on the friends. I could always tell how much they liked me depending on how they responded to their friends.
I haven't heard this since I was fourteen years old talking to my then boyfriend about our mutual love for "thicc girls" (as we said then). Glad to see someone being so vocal about liking bigger girls.
As someone who was super skinny (like sick-looking skinny) until I was about sixteen or seventeen and started putting on a fair bit of weight, I feel like I've seen quite a shift in how people, guys especially, see me (in a "potential partner" way, people I'm friends with are fine but I haven't had anyone actually Like me in years). I personally love my thick thighs and stretch marks, I remember when my stretch marks started "spreading" up my stomach my mum asked something along the lines of "how do you feel about that" and I just said, for the millionth time, I like them ā everyone thinks I'm crazy for liking my thick thighs and especially my stretch marks so it's cool to be reminded that there are people out there who also like thick thighs and stretch marks.
As a big woman, thank you so much for this post. Honestly. I sometimes forget that I am attractive and you just made me remember that I am š„° I just adore everything about this post! Thank you for sharing ā„ļø
I am with you on that. Not to say that there is anything wrong with smaller women. However, Iām 5ā3ā and have a hard time keeping much body fat(believe me itās not as great as it sounds), so almost all the women I have been with, and may be with in the future, would probably be considered ābiggerā in some regardš . Also, having hip bone hitting hip bone during sexy time is not fun at all. A little squishy makes for better cuddling as well. You are definitely not a weirdo, fuck them peers of yours!
Human attraction is like art, its all subjective. Props to you for being open with your attraction!
Many aren't and it sickens them OP is. š
as a chubby woman i am flattered
FAT BOTTOMED GIRLS, THEY MAKE THE ROCKIN' WORLD GO ROUND
Very well done haha!
You are Queen of the Redditors today.
you stole my joke 12 hours before i saw the post, you time traveling scum
I'm secretly hoping that this is the moment that you and OP begin your love for the ages!
I am cancelling all diet plans š¤£
>I am cancelling all diet plans š¤£ Lmaooo I'm hollering š
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I am also flattered
A ditto this lol
Right? I have lost a lot of weight and itās okay, because it was trauma weight that needed to go. But Iām still never going to be āthinā and I have the thicc ass/hips/thighs/boobs but I also have the chubby arms and stomach that Instagram models never have. I wish more men would just be honest about it. Normalize liking different kinds of bodies so that people with all different kinds of bodies will realize they are beautiful and lovable. And fwiw, I donāt know a single āthinā woman who doesnāt starve herself. Not a one. Even my friends who swore in their 20s that they ate normally now at 40 admit that they were starving themselves. IT DOESNāT HAVE TO BE THIS WAY. One last thingāI found out when I was much bigger (over 300 pounds) that lots of men found that incredibly sexy, too. I had zero problems finding sex if I wanted it, from men genuinely into it and into me. But what 90% of them *didnāt* want was to be seen with me in public. Think about how fucked up that isālots of men want to be with bigger women, but because society says itās ābadā and āwrongā men will settle for relationships with thin women they arenāt as attracted to just because it ālooksā more acceptable. So fucking sad. Edit: I know a few people have said āhey that isnāt fairā about thin women. And I will correct myselfāI knew one woman (exactly one) who had a metabolism where no matter how much she ate she stayed very thin. But she had no boobs/ass/thighs, etc. And that is ABSOLUTELY OKAY. But the fact is it is extremely rare to have the kind of metabolism that keeps a woman that thin, especially into her 30s and 40s. And women that thin naturally have very little body fat anywhere, whether it is metabolism or hyperthyroidism. The point is, the *average* very thin woman is starving herself, even if sheās lying to herself as much as everyone else. All to meet beauty standards pushed by capitalism and fueled by misogynistic fears about what gives a woman worth. We are so much more than just our bodies.
My lil tummy and my thick thighs are a product of food I loved. Adventures I had. I am strong and healthy and I am finally feeling okay about it! I love my body and so does my bf. Iām happy.
Your term "trauma weight" just opened my eyes. I think I'm going to see my weight loss journey differently a lil bit. Also, yeah even when I was dating at my biggest, sex wasn't a prob. \*high five\*
I can only speak to my own body but I put on a LOT of excess weight as a young girl and into my twenties because of constant sexual abuse. I wanted to be invisible so I became very, very large. I was 400 pounds. I canāt say that every person that large is so because of trauma, but I was. And once I started healing the trauma my body just started letting go of weight faster than I could keep up with it, though before, when I didnāt know it was trauma, I tried every diet under the sun and nothing worked. Itās a lot of work, but healing my trauma and doing the work of mindfulness and connecting to my body changed my life. But that is no shame against anyone who is big so please donāt misinterpret it as that. I really believe some bodies are meant to be bigger, and throughout all of history we can see that. All the way back to Venus of Willendorf. So fuck anyone who says that only thin bodies are healthy bodies. I have a neighbor who is a little chubby and sheās almost 90 so also fuck the fatphobia that says only skinny people get to live to be old, too.
Yeah I did the same. Took me over 17 years to realize that I was adding weight because I got attacked out walking as a 15 yo skinny teen. I just wanted noone to ever want to hurt me like that again. Unfortunately that realization wasn't enough to get the weight off so I'm working on that now. But I'm more concerned with taking good care of my mental health. Mindfulness really is wonderful
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They indeed do. Just floating bubbles full of love.
The best insult Iāve ever received?
Iām just rolling with it.
As are my rollsš¤£
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Prefer to think of myself as a friendly, fluffy cloud but hey
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I feel the same about most of the things people consider less āconventionally attractiveā as a character artist. People hate their hooked noses, but I think they are sooo fun to draw on characters and especially beautiful to render in portraits. I canāt articulate why as elegantly as you did though, haha.
The melt <3
In art school the drawing teacher was a lech and would only get models with "perfect" figures. Sooooo boring and uninspiring. The most interesting figures for me was an old thin saggy man and women with an interesting figure..something to actually draw! Rubens thought so too!
I second this! I'm an artist who goes to a lot of life drawing classes, and fat people are absolutely WONDERFUL to draw, just the best models.
Draw me like one of your French girls
Maybe I donāt need to lose all that weight to fall in love after allā¦ šā¦ For real though, props to you for enjoying what you like! As a big woman I have my own preferences so I try to never take offense to those not attracted to my body but I definitely have been surprised by how many men do enjoy curvy women. Society breeds shame but people are complex š EDIT: Typo
If youāre doing it for health, go for it. But if youāre doing it because youāre self conscious then be careful and try to love yourself before you try to lose weight. If you think youāre worthless if the scale has a larger number it can lead to eating disorders. You should love exactly who you are!!
I... suddenly despise my stretch marks slightly less. Thank you.
For me it the inner thighs šthey rub too much and now theyāre on the darker side
Iāve always been so insecure about my body type as I am a bigger girl, but I realised after getting a bf that if one person likes me and finds me sexually appealing, then more people out of the 7 billion people in the world will as well, and this is more evidence towards thatššāØ
I hate the thought of others bashing you or saying you're a weirdo for your preferences or attraction to a specific type of woman. You described your attraction so elegantly! They're just insecure about themselves..
The most frustrating part is when people act like you canāt possibly be telling the truth. I like bigger women too (as wells as other body types), and edgelords on the internet would just say Iām virtue signalling & trying to be politically correct. They cannot fathom that itās the truth, and accuse anyone saying so of lying, and itās so close minded. Obviously I donāt care what strangers on the internet might think of my tastes, but I donāt like that this must surely affect how some bigger girls see themselves. Imagine being told that anyone who compliments you is lying.
Yeah you're so right. Its unfortunate not only for you, but for those women who may end up buying into the idea that they aren't valued or aren't worthy of love because of their size or appearance. Unfortunate.
I'm the same! Except with men... sometimes it feels like very few ladies share the preference.
I'm with you. I like bulky men. Muscles are great, dad bods are great. I just like feeling safe and protected.
Dad bods are sexy af
I am a chubby woman myself and I love men with some belly. Extra to love ā¤ļø
Well I am small at 5' 4", but my bf is 6' 6" and about 380 pounds. We sometimes get looks when we're walking.
Love the tall men! Strut your stuff because they may not have what you have :) ā¤ļø
Someone told me a russian proverb - a man without a belly, is like a front room without a sofa.
That is beautiful. I'm gay and I definitely agree! My bf is thin but me being fat makes up for our difference, and I love being his cuddle bug lol
This right here!
Ohh we Stan dad bodyās give me them tall and chunky.
I never realised how attractive I found them til Jim Hopper took his shirt off in stranger things, it did something to me
Ohh man hopper š„µ I know weāre not supposed to use emojis but hopper. His whole appearance is appealing.
Only time I'll be thirsting over a copper I swear, his dad bod physique all Big and protective but also huggable, need me a man like that Also, username checks out lmaooo
Oof yes please! Hopper! Only time I too will ever thirst over a cop lol
I'm with you!! I'm a thin girl but I've always been attracted to chubby guys! They're huggable, like teddy bears and I find them so cute! Also maybe, all the men in my family are thin, so I just can't do skinny guys, don't find them sexy lol I'm not attracted to muscular guys either.
I have this weird thing for tall heavy men.
I have a thing for powerlifters. I want a lot of muscle but I donāt want them to be hard and pointy. I like a little squish on top of the muscles
I am the same way with dudes! I just love a man with dad bod! I mean no disrespect to thin men, but I'll pass. Give me a guy thats soft and a bit squishy any day! ā”
Abs do nothing for me but gimme some strong arms please.
Yeah, abs are good and all but they're hard (uncomfy to cuddle) and kinda...eh. Just a normal slightly soft stomach is much better. And YES. ARMS
ARMS are everything for me.
Shoulders are my thing! Broad strong shoulders! ā” oooooh for dessert THICCCCC strong thighs!
I was quite skinny when I was younger and never had problems when it came to dating. Now I'm on the heavier side and it have definitely affected my dating life. Maybe my self-esteem was affected at the same time, so that could be the reason? But I'm glad to hear! Thanks.
I wish you the best of luck moving forward in the dating scene! I promise as long as you are kind, considerate, and funny you can find happiness with someone. Laughter and joy are the keys to a happy life; laugh at yourself, but you know, not in a creepy way. Oh snap this might be a bit harder than I thought... lolololol! GOOOOOD LUCKKKKK ā”
Thank you! I've given up on dating for now, but I'll remember your words! And I always laugh at myself, but it must be up to others to decide whether it is creepy or not, haha. Very kind of you, all the best to you!
Cuddling thin men is like sleeping on a pile of remotes š
It's true! I had a huge crush on a friend in college who was a track star, dude was super lean and beautiful to look at, but I got to hug him once and it was like hugging a literal tree. Just so... angular, and sharp. My husband is a fluffier guy and is much more pleasant to snuggle with :)
Iāve been insecure about my body for a long time, and this post made me realize Iām beautiful how I am. I always focused on being skinny when healthy is what matters. Thank you for loving bigger women how they are. Iām sure youāre giving many of us self confidence and flattery!
*I love it when they have cute fat rolls I can bite into* You are a legend. These are the types of things all females who feel inferior because they are naturally bigger or have gained a lot of weight recently need to hear. Glad there are people like you out there who donāt conform to the societal ānormā of what is considered attractive or not. My own body dysmorphia is appreciative of this. OP, thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
you are not alone. lots of us do!
Youāre my long lost twin, because I feel the same way. I fucking love plus sized women. All my crushes growing up were basically chubby girls and my last 2 girlfriends were chubby too and those relationships were amazing. Itās just what Iām naturally attracted to and nothing is going to change that. My current crush is chubby and my fuck buddy is chubby so yeah itās like Iām destined to date, marry and have kids with a plus sized woman.
You are awesome. š„²
Nice to know there are men who like bigger women out there.
That is so refreshing! If only men liked kinda chubby OLDER women!
Your DMs are ruined forever now haha
Lol, Iāll just have to deal with it I guess, haha, what a shame. /s :)
You can share some with me lol
Thick thighs save lives
I wear a size 16, small waist, big breasts, big behind, thick thighs, and some back rolls. Listen to me closely: Iāve NEVER had an issue getting a man! You, kind sir, are not alone! Those friends that have something to say to you are jealous because youāre confident enough to stand on what you like! For all my plus sized ladies that may be feeling insecure: DONāT! I have sex butt naked in the day on top of the covers and have never had a complaint. Remember, ppl are attracted to confident ppl so flaunt your stuff ladies!!š
A lot of people donāt realize how much of a difference confidence makes when youāre not societyās ideal body type. Iāve hooked up with people considerably more attractive than me because I put myself out there and faked confidence until it became real.
Best advice right here. I've been with some AMAZING looking women and their lack of confidence just kills the attraction. This goes for the "conventionally" attractive women and my preference of the ladies with some extra curvage. Hell, the larger ladies seems to actually take my compliments and be more effected by them and appreciative than the ones I've dated who were stared at and approached by people who just wanted to bone because she's whatever the common "standard" is. Confidence is the best, a big girl who flaunts her stuff will always have me more than some big boobed, tall, blonde girl who never wants me to see her and trashes on herself even when complimented.
When I was growing up (like middle school and high school) I was attracted to the more chubbier dudes. When I finally dated a skinny dude my friends said I "upgraded". Nah, I just like dudes. Big or thin. It didn't really matter to me. It just was what it was.
Iām a smaller lesbian, and my god thereās something about thick, curvy, pin-up girl types that give me a raging ladyboner.
Same here! Im not really skinny but im smaller with some muscle as i lift weights, but my god, strong, thick women will make me pass out. Any woman, really, will make my face go red, but mannnnn. Every woman is unique and i will gladly be very gay for every one.
That is so wholesome
Some dudes just like bigger girls and there ain't nothin wrong with that! I don't mind bigger girls (or guys!) myself. Some girls look at skinny girls and get all mad and afraid their boyfriend is checking them out, but they won't know true envy until they get together with a dude who likes big girls, then they see a big ole girl waddle by and go, "WAHHHH she has a fatter ass than me! I *hate* her! UGH!" Source: I was fat (and very insecure) for a few years and my boyfriend at the time thought I was hotter than hell.
Penelope Garcia from Criminal Minds awakened this in me.
I'm a Christina Hendricks guy myself.
Me, too, and Iām a straight woman. Haha. I think sheās the most beautiful actress followed by Amanda Seyfried.
Christina Hendricks in Mad Men really changed things for me. I felt like shit about my squishy, top-heavy body until she became a sex symbol. Thereās something really special about seeing a celebrity with your own body type being considered desirable.
Christina Hendrick's body type is literally perfect in my eyes.
Preach it man! Love me some thicc ladies :P
I really appreciate this as a plus size women. I feel like any time I get a compliment thereās an unspoken āā¦ for a fat girlā. And I genuinely thought any guy that ever showed interest in me just liked my personality etc. and compromised for being with a fat girl.
I'm not scared of getting into deep personal conversations with some of my close friends, and one of them have revealed to me that he has exactly the same preference as OP. And he's a good-looking guy to be honest. He works out a lot, so he isn't even a big guy himself. Everyone has some kind of preference, so you should never think that someone is compromising when showing interest in you.
Thank you for your kind reply š Iāll try to remind myself of that more in the future
Me too! My wife is exactly what I want in that regard and everyday is good. Thanks for this post
I am with you. Such glorious natural beauty.
GET IT HOMEBOY. I was visiting my little brother once from my home in South Beach Miami. Home of shitty as fuck beautiful people. We went to watch our little sister play high school Lacrosse and then after she destroyed various opposition player we had dinner. Like a family dinner at a local āchainā. While we were waiting for the rest of the fam to show a rather large woman(BBW) and friends cruised by who my little brother knew and they chatted, exchanged pleasantries and then went into the restaurant. My little brother was stoked. I quipped in my typical douchebag way, āhey fat girls need love toā. To which he replied with āyeah by meā. Totally unapologetic. They have been married for a long time with two kids and they are amazing. Brother, you do you.
hah your brother is the shit
Awwwww
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I LOVEEEEEEEE THEYRE GORGEOUS SAME WITH BIGGER MEN!!! SO UNDERRATEDDDD BOTH ARE SO BEAUTIFULLLLL
Saying you like bigger women and using Ashley Graham as an example is BS. Thatās like a 20 something I worked with telling me he liked older women and the example he gave was Jennifer Aniston. Beautiful women are beautiful.
A former co-worker shared the same thing. He was early 20ās of average to thin build. He wasnāt shy but he wasnāt dating a whole lot. There was a cute woman who all the guys in the office were drooling over. She really wanted to date him, was flirting with him a lot. He told me she was too skinny and told her that he just wanted to be friends with her. She was bummed and some of the guys thought he might be gay. It was refreshing TBH. Heās married to a beautiful plus sized woman now.
As a curvy young woman who feels insecure most of the time when looking at her skinny peers, this brought a smile to my face. Thank you, I needed this today
They ain't yummy unless they got a tummy. It's my mantra
I think there are a lot more men like you out there they just unfortunately donāt want to admit it due to cultural conditioning
Iām what happens when the smaller model eats the cheeseburger and goes back for seconds. Iāve starved myself to be thin and Iāll never go through that hell again. Thankfully I met a wonderful man. A jock no less. Truth is, when given a chance anyone can find someone to love and share life with. Years later, I now hear male friends say they are worried about what thier friends will say if they are with a larger lady or someone that looks different than most. People change inside and out. You wonāt be with the person youāre with today always. That person will grow and change as will their body. Find someone to love and enjoy the ride. Almost 24 years later and I am still turned on by my hubby more than any other man Iāve ever talked to. I commend you on speaking outside the norm.
I wish someone would bite into my cute fat rolls :(
I would.
For all those who think you have to look a certain way in order to find someone who will love you, the reality check is that those who you end up attracting donāt really love you. Bodies change constantly. Thank you OP and others for self esteem boosters. Women who think they are too big or not big enough and men who think they are too skinny or not built enough, as long as you are happy with yourself thatās all that matters.
Iām just saddened by the fact that this has to even be a thing. Imagine replacing ābigger womenā in the headline to āAsiansā or āpeople with brown hairā or āpeople who didnāt go to collegeā Itās like, why is this even a thing? People are people. Why do we separate like this? Society obviously and media continues to perpetuate the marginalization of bigger bodies so we view a ālove for bigger womenā (or men, or non-binary) as this profound exclamation. I am a big woman, I love my body, I think Iām beautiful regardless of my size or societyās standard definition of beauty and I am beyond happy to see that other people feel the same way about my body type that I do. But it just makes me sad that this even has to be a conversation at all š But I donāt want to be a downer - I really love the support of bigger bodies given the fact that we are so underrepresented everywhere and it may seem ātabooā to do so. Rise above the brain washing of our society and mass media and we will stop seeing our differences but instead notice our similarities more. Anyway, sorry to make this serious, I just had to say my little piece. I love the love. š«¶š¼š„¹
Great points and I agree completely.
Thanks! I was looking for some clarity in this thread! Ha. š
I feel this! I too love bigger women more than women who are skinny. Now thatās not to say I wouldnāt date someone who is skinny because if the energy and vibes match then they match regardless of height and weight, but I do tend to lean more towards bigger women than smaller
Where are the men like you. I had a guy I was dating while I was dieting I had lost 30pounds so far and it still wasn't enough for him. He kept sending me pictures of women with abs, saying he wanted me to have them, like sir that's not gonna happen, and if it did it wouldn't be for a couple of years or so. I wish more men liked bigger women, I feel like I'm always a disappointment
Most big girls donāt look like Ashley Graham, but I appreciate the love anyway!
As a single, bigger woman in her late 30s.. you aren't alone. A lot more guys like the big girls then are willing to admit to it. But those who can be loud and proud about it? That's some chefs kiss moments. Keep being you and rocking at life. Fuck the haters.
This made me feel nice. Itās hard living in a world where everything is designed to make you feel insecure when you gain some pounds.
I think I love you. Or at least your opinion on women who may look like me haha. This post made me feel good
I have always been attracted to big women. I hate bones and love things that are soft.
Same OP, you arenāt weird at all.
Same actually
I agree 1000 percent with this
I feel so empowered rn
This made me feel really good about myself after a really shitty day. Thank you for the confidence boost OP
More cushion for the pushing š
This is just very wholesome, and as a plus size woman it made my day :)
This post. This comment section. The vibes here are immaculate. āØ Everything about it. š As a bigger girl this really gives me the confidence boost that I need. Over time Iāve learned to accept myself but there are very hard days where I feel like itās hard to look at myself. This post helps. Thank you so much. š EDIT: Spelling
Whatever floats your boat. You like what you like & embrace it! All women are beautiful in my eyes :)
Are you single? š
I feel like in most relationships, thereās one person who wants to be squished. I have ALWAYS loved bigger boys. (Iām VERY petite)
This is not a big surprise to anyone besides idiots. Guess your peers fall under that category. It is well known that tons of dudes prefer heavyset woman. Nothing wrong with it
I honestly think a good bit, not All, of men feel this way but worry about what their friends or family will think. I have two sons and when they were growing up I always had a house full of boys. I had alot of conversations with these now men and they always worried about what their friends thought. I only know of one out of the large group that married a extremely thin woman.
Same, thick girls are sexy. I definitely like bigger women. Itās embarrassing that I so used to have such shame about it and couldnāt admit even to myself. Thick chicks all the way!!
New fat-roll biting kink, ACQUIRED.
Idk why people care what someone else prefers. I think itās good we all have different preferences.
Thicker women used to be the āidealā in other time periods. āBeauty standardsā only become standards when the population shifts their views. Iām thankful that it seems society is starting to shift the other way of healthier sizes and loving our bodies at every size. Thankful for men like you!
My wife is thick like AG, and I absolutely love it! Nothing hotter IMO
Okay so I looked up Ashley Graham. Not only has she lost a LOT of weight, the size she was modeling clothes for was only a 16 and she's 5'9"! So that's really more of an average sized woman. What you're saying and who you're using as an example are quite at odds. "I like plus size women but only if they are the model standard." Just another db.
Happens a lot. Usually when people say they like, bigger or plus size, they donāt mean what one would think. They donāt mean truly plus size or bigger people. Just moderately thicker and average. As someone who is actually bigger, Dunlap belly, rolls, big thighs, thick arms, stretch marks and not all too perfectly placed proportional thicknes, I donāt ever think when someone says such things that they mean me. š¤·š»āāļø To be fair OP did say thicker. Not necessarily fat or big in weight. Mostly mentioned tall and thick.
Very cuddly soft and warm.
Kudos to you! I always fear how people react when I tell people my preference, so I usually keep it to myself. I'm inspired by your fearlessness.
No problems getting up when youāre down with the thiccness š¤¤
Thanks for sharing, mate. Iāve been harboring the same emotions recently. While I love a fit or slim lass, thereās something about a woman on the curvier side that just sparks something in me.
Wow where are all the guys like you?! Boyfriend goals.
Are, are you flirting with me???
Hearing things like this give me hope!
As a bigger girl, thank you so much. I hope you find your somebody soon. You literally made my heart flutter with such flattery you speak.
Fuck yes, my friend! Get you a big girl with a praise kink that loves food and you win life, my friend.
Me being a bigger woman, among other things is the reason Iāve been rejected countlessly by men Iām also short though. Iām only 5ā3ā
Glad you got this off your chest a lot of men don't like to admit and just try to shame and use them
You're not alone :D
As a big woman, we need to hear this. Thank you.
Dude, if you love a woman and the woman loves you...nothing else matters.
I think the thing that sucks the most as a bigger girl, I donāt get the body worship thinner women enjoy. Iāve never had a guy kiss me all over. Definitely not my belly. My current partner doesnāt even give oral even though he gets it twice a day some days. Iāve never been single though, and Iām not unattractive. Iāve ran into a lot of guys that really appreciate women like me but I have my guard up pretty well so I donāt let people in often. I just get tired of people treating me like Iām invisible so I do it right off the bat to be honest. Itās always nice seeing stuff like this though, and yeah peer pressure with guys is ridiculous. Any guy I dated that had friends had to field them making comments usually, depending on the friends. I could always tell how much they liked me depending on how they responded to their friends.
I haven't heard this since I was fourteen years old talking to my then boyfriend about our mutual love for "thicc girls" (as we said then). Glad to see someone being so vocal about liking bigger girls. As someone who was super skinny (like sick-looking skinny) until I was about sixteen or seventeen and started putting on a fair bit of weight, I feel like I've seen quite a shift in how people, guys especially, see me (in a "potential partner" way, people I'm friends with are fine but I haven't had anyone actually Like me in years). I personally love my thick thighs and stretch marks, I remember when my stretch marks started "spreading" up my stomach my mum asked something along the lines of "how do you feel about that" and I just said, for the millionth time, I like them ā everyone thinks I'm crazy for liking my thick thighs and especially my stretch marks so it's cool to be reminded that there are people out there who also like thick thighs and stretch marks.
As a big woman, thank you so much for this post. Honestly. I sometimes forget that I am attractive and you just made me remember that I am š„° I just adore everything about this post! Thank you for sharing ā„ļø
Iām a pretty decently in shape guy and I agree!
i like big people. iām boney enough for the both of us.
Bless you all.
I can appreciate all that but the word fertile lost me š
thank you
I am with you !
Absolutely
And we love you back, king!!! š
Thicc thighs save lives my friend
All you wanna be, is someone who gets to see, a giant woman lol song is in my head now. I wish I could give you a high five.
Nothing wrong with that... I'd rail AG too
Bless you for this Just what I need to see today
thatās kinda sweet actually
Yes.::. Yes.
A lot of dudes like fat women but feel pressured to date thinner women.
Respect King. I dig it!
God bless men like this
As a chubby woman I find other chubby women to be so beautiful ā¤ļø
Yaaassss
Aww we Love you too babyyy
Same, dawg. They are literally the best for hugs and cuddles.
I love my women thick ššš
Nothing wrong with it. Everyone has their own preferences :)
So ya gots a sickness for the thiccness? Nice. Also I just looked up ashley graham..... yeah bro I'm right there with you. Lol
I love it!!! Thank you for this
Everybody likes what Everybody likes. It's as simple as that.
Thick thighs save lives
Iām with you king!
Helllllllll yes. This post made my day today!!! Thank you. āŗļø
Preach bro!
I am with you on that. Not to say that there is anything wrong with smaller women. However, Iām 5ā3ā and have a hard time keeping much body fat(believe me itās not as great as it sounds), so almost all the women I have been with, and may be with in the future, would probably be considered ābiggerā in some regardš . Also, having hip bone hitting hip bone during sexy time is not fun at all. A little squishy makes for better cuddling as well. You are definitely not a weirdo, fuck them peers of yours!
I needed to hear this today š„ŗš„ŗ
Iām right there with you man, Iām 6ā2 240 pounds, I enjoy having someone that matches, makes everything much, much easier.
Thatās good for you mate. Fuck what anybody thinks
so real
Awh wait i love this