Leave the environment, we always reflect our environment that's why we have diff "personalities" when we're with diff friend groups. And then consciously discipline yourself to do the opposite of what you're already doing. Like when inconveniences come instead of thinking negatively and pouring it out on other people, force yourself to think in a more positive light. Do this until it becomes second nature, then come back to the environment a few times to test if you've really changed.
ify, OP. it has been constantly haunting me ever since i saw the same toxic patterns and behaviors na i was unconsciously doing na rin. it hurts bec after all these years, i still make up excuses for their behavior? like baka kasalanan ko, baka pasaway akong bata, maybe its bec of her unresolved trauma/issues. but seeing her okay naman w/ my other siblings except for me, makes me think otherwise? this has severely affected my mental health and my toxic views on relationships (which, by the way, she fails to even acknowledge even after being told by our guidance counci that i needed theraphy) anyways im so glad that i found someone that feels the same way. tbh it has also been one of the reasons why im so afraid to settle down and decide to have kids bec what if i become the same woman who caused my trauma? 🥲
oh nooooo hugs with consent for you. Probably it's because tayo na lang yung natitirang anak na sobrang affected pa din sa set up ng relationship natin with our parents. Napapansin ko lang na yung other siblings ko is nawawalan na talaga sila ng pake and it gave them inner peace kaya nagreflect din yun sa kung pano sila makisama with our Nparent. I guess yun yung kailangan natin matutunan. Mahirap, nakakaguilty at the same time nakakalungkot pero wala naman tayong choice e. Wag na natin gayahin kung ano yung ayaw natin sa isang tao, we will end up feeling more alone.
Leave the environment, we always reflect our environment that's why we have diff "personalities" when we're with diff friend groups. And then consciously discipline yourself to do the opposite of what you're already doing. Like when inconveniences come instead of thinking negatively and pouring it out on other people, force yourself to think in a more positive light. Do this until it becomes second nature, then come back to the environment a few times to test if you've really changed.
ify, OP. it has been constantly haunting me ever since i saw the same toxic patterns and behaviors na i was unconsciously doing na rin. it hurts bec after all these years, i still make up excuses for their behavior? like baka kasalanan ko, baka pasaway akong bata, maybe its bec of her unresolved trauma/issues. but seeing her okay naman w/ my other siblings except for me, makes me think otherwise? this has severely affected my mental health and my toxic views on relationships (which, by the way, she fails to even acknowledge even after being told by our guidance counci that i needed theraphy) anyways im so glad that i found someone that feels the same way. tbh it has also been one of the reasons why im so afraid to settle down and decide to have kids bec what if i become the same woman who caused my trauma? 🥲
oh nooooo hugs with consent for you. Probably it's because tayo na lang yung natitirang anak na sobrang affected pa din sa set up ng relationship natin with our parents. Napapansin ko lang na yung other siblings ko is nawawalan na talaga sila ng pake and it gave them inner peace kaya nagreflect din yun sa kung pano sila makisama with our Nparent. I guess yun yung kailangan natin matutunan. Mahirap, nakakaguilty at the same time nakakalungkot pero wala naman tayong choice e. Wag na natin gayahin kung ano yung ayaw natin sa isang tao, we will end up feeling more alone.