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Same! I girlboss in a big way in my job, so I often attract men who think that translates to the bedroom.
But no. I make decisions all the time. Tell me what to do and I'll do it. Please Jesus, don't make me decide what position we are doing first. Just push my ass on the bed and get to it 🤣
Edited to say men, not Jen, since everyone is wondering LoL
Literally if she wants you and is dominant she will make it obvious by grabbing your dick or other things. Some women show dominance by being physically dominant or bossy. Depends tho
No like personally If I want someone that badly and feel like being dominant I have grabbed a dudes dick. Not firmly but enough that I got his attention and he wanted whatever I was gunna do. And your comment literally killed me lol
My friend has a theory that you act the opposite in the bedroom compared to real life.
For instance, if you're a kind and generous person, you're probably more interested in receiving pleasure than giving it behind closed doors.
If the woman is dominant in the bedroom, then she may be more of a pushover in real life?
Just a theory.
Definitely not an all shoes fit theory. I myself am a Primal that goes after Dom men to make them submit. It's the best high out there. Hunting them, and then watching the realization hit that they have a collar on their neck that says "good boy". I am in no way a pushover in any aspect of my life. I have fangs and claws 24/7. I teach in my day job and even my students know what I say goes do not make me say it twice.
I can attest to this accurately. Someone who has busy stressful job and has to be in great control of life may want the dead opposite in bedroom. Definitely difference between being dominate in everyday life and in the bedroom. Since OP didn't clarify.
Lol I know. It's similar to The Shopping Cart Theory. The world isn't black and white. They're just neat little theories that apply to some, but not all.
The most dom girl I went out with was a quiet wee lass, lovely girl and seemed like a pushover. In the bedroom another matter. You can only use the empirical approach. F#@k about and find out.
Usually people who are dominant in life, are submissive sexually.
It's not a hard fact, but 95% true.
I think the best way to know - is to ask her. (If it's appropriate, obviously.)
Who said anything about being dominant in bed? The question was how to tell if a woman is dominant and I provided my answer but if she is dominant in one area it might be an indicator for
What does this mean? Are you looking for a woman to tie you up and whip you as in a dominatrix or are you looking for a woman that can physically beat you up? Are you looking for a woman to live in fear of and to take care of you and protect you? Needs clarification.
*TLDR*: If she's a dick on the first date.
Emotionally? I went on a date with a girl once and she picked a fight, on our first date! I apologised even though I didn't mean it because I was trying to get lucky. Every other time we were together after that she always picked a fight. It was always brief but always very hurtful stuff.
Eventually I broke down her barriers and came to understand why she was the way she was. Gave her all my patience and understanding but she still never changed. Finally I got sick of it and walked away. You can say that's bullying not dominance but I don't think there is a difference when it comes to relationships.
For those of you who read this far: no she wasn't dominant in the bedroom.
she was Japanese and at age 12 committed some shameful act so they sent her to a boarding school on the other side of the world never to return. Messed her up good.
I could tell by the way she carried herself, my lady runs shit and it's soooooooo fucking Hawt, like swoon like a mofo 😍🥰, plus later on in our relationship I just made a statement to her and she very cutely said, Yup! I love it! All of it... I'm more sub/dom, so it definitely gonna work out just fine... We're meant for each other. 🙂❤️
My gf dominates me. Not in an aggressive way but she calls the shots. I don’t mind I like it. I’m not a passive dude but I let her do her thing and it works out.
Non-bedroom-wise? I think dominate women are decisive, confident about it and less agreeable. They aren’t afraid to speak up if they don’t like something and may stubbornly refuse or interject in a situation.
Dominant individuals often exude confidence and assertiveness in their demeanor and interactions with others. They may speak with conviction, maintain strong eye contact, and carry themselves with a sense of authority.
I knew what she did for a living beforehand. She was an online dominatrix, mostly.
We hit it off and then got to it. It was pretty organic.
I've been involved in weird sex stuff since the early 90s, so I'm no stranger to it.
It was pretty amazing, but I caught feelings because I was coming out of a serious relationship.
I swear, sometimes i get a little romantic attention and fall head over heels within a couple of weeks. Lol. Not a good thing.
From my observation, they are typically assertive in expressing their opinions, preferences, and boundaries. They are not afraid to speak up for themselves, advocate for their needs, and assert their authority when necessary.
well there isn't really a way of knowing because people are different and don't do the same thing when they are a part of a community, for me, people have told me that because I'm outgoing and talk a lot, it shows im dominant in the conversation
In MY experience the ones who are dominant are extremely competitive,can be controlling,love to drive the conversation and can be judgemental. aggressive in nature and I don’t mean they aren’t nice just very assertive. Again just my opinion based on my experience with the few dominant women I’ve come across
I'm pretty much dom all my kinks but I spent 5y with a woman who is also Dom, (we were also polyamorous) and also she is part of a pretty active FemDom group.
Totally no way to tell in day to day life and this goes for men as well. Definitely some patterns, however, I certainly know subs who fit any of those patterns. And some patterns are quite the opposite of others. Additionally, either side of the slash might be pretty familiar with the other role and make jokes. I did and all it meant is I'm secure, and funny, and I usually had carefully selected who heard those jokes.
The answer is a tough one for a lot of subs: communicate. Be assertive. Get your head out of the clouds. Ask questions. Listen fully. All of which is also traits that will be advantageous in your service when it pans out into a relationship.
Woman here,
I think it is a mood thing (that goes both ways). I fantasize about what I want to do to my man. I want to shove him onto the bed and get into his pants to say the least. But I also want him to do the same (both ways) and maybe more to me.
Who knows, even in public (within reason) , I might shove him against a wall or a car or a tree or even just go for the shirt collar and plant one on him.
If I'm not doing that you probably would not know.
Woman here,
I think it is a mood thing (that goes both ways). I fantasize about what I want to do to my man. I want to shove him onto the bed and get into his pants to say the least. But I also want him to do the same (both ways) and maybe more to me.
Who knows, even in public (within reason) , I might shove him against a wall or a car or a tree or even just go for the shirt collar and plant one on him.
If I'm not doing that you probably would not know.
I have a theory you can tell by the shape of a person's eyes, men and women. What's interesting is men's attractiveness is often perceived by eye shape - almost more predatory. Think alpha male wolf type eyes slitted like Tom Cruise, then think big circular doe eyes. Both are formed by hormones in the womb. They have found significant correlation between face type and personality traits. It's not 100% perfect but it has a pattern. This is ofc estimation on not asking right? Some people have soft almond shaped eyes or they're a mix and in a way I think that makes sense as people are not 100% sub or dom. Let me know what you think!
Exactly! This is an open ended question where everyone that had contributed so far has learned a thing or two… that be shared experiences or other things 🫡
I could never be dominate. I got too many people trying to run something over me and boss me around out of the bedroom, I literally can't bring myself to do that to another person, especially in the bedroom.
1. Like others have said just ask them
2. If you mean for kink reasons (which going by the fact that this post is marked nsfw you most likely do) then go on a site called fetlife and find events in your local area to meet new people.
I only date dominant women.
There's no way to know unless you ask. Their profession doesn't tell you anything about what they are like at home.
The same is true for men.
One easy way to tell is if she's always wearing leather and carries a cat-o'-nine-tails wherever she goes.
That and if she has a Discover card. For whatever reason, every chick I've ever met with a Discover card has gone HARD in the bedroom.
All I know that if they seem dominant in everyday situations,they are the opposite in bed. There's better chance for quiet ones to be the doms...from my research 🤓
As someone who used to do sex work I'll tell you right now: people who are extremely open about their sex life and have the confidence to take their own control on it are usually the qualities it seems you are looking through.
My best friend is submissive in bed but dominant in personality, usually being called mommy, so it really heavily depends.
I love my SW girlies though, they all are so bold and confident
If you’re in a relationship then you can tell. That’s my only 2 cents and my guess too, but don’t mistaken a strong independent woman as dominate either, I’m glad I don’t have to ask my wife to do things or request things like I’m playing the sims. She and I both do things as to what our roles are and dominate those areas, as to each other we’re equal and submit to each other.
It truly is hard to tell. Even on the so called F.L.R. and F.L.M. websites most are pretenders and are just seeking a kind man, not a more submissive guy
as I am myself.
I don’t know that you can! I’m a dominant personality. I have no issues being provocative, calling the shots, and making executive decisions. I own a very successful business and am overall a boss. When it comes to the bedroom I like to be submissive, and I think it’s because it’s the one time I can just surrender to someone.
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There’s no way to know unless you ask her. I come off as dominant but am not at all in the bedroom.
Same! I girlboss in a big way in my job, so I often attract men who think that translates to the bedroom. But no. I make decisions all the time. Tell me what to do and I'll do it. Please Jesus, don't make me decide what position we are doing first. Just push my ass on the bed and get to it 🤣 Edited to say men, not Jen, since everyone is wondering LoL
That's it entirely. Can there be some place in my life where I'm not in charge?
Amazing you put Pepe in her Pepe so what is the Jesus
What *I* wanna know is: *who is “Jen”?*
Meeee lmao 5"10, curvy, loud, boss in the streets but I'm literally just a girl at home 😭
Same
Same...
Weird with all of the replies to you as "same" because...same!
😂 🤣
🤯
Same
She'll let you know.
By dropping hints.
Yes. Subtle hints like, "TURN AROUND."
BRIGHT EYES
EVERY NOW AND THEN I....TURN AROUND!
Every now and then I fall apart...
lol or brace yerself!
Literally if she wants you and is dominant she will make it obvious by grabbing your dick or other things. Some women show dominance by being physically dominant or bossy. Depends tho
Grabbing dick… like firmly grasping it? Like that one SpongeBob episode?
💀💀
No like personally If I want someone that badly and feel like being dominant I have grabbed a dudes dick. Not firmly but enough that I got his attention and he wanted whatever I was gunna do. And your comment literally killed me lol
LOL getting their attention 😱
Tried to say it in a way to keep it PG lol
I literally grab, put my claws with *just* enough pressure and say "let's go, I'm horny and you are present"
[удалено]
Umm...you ask her?
Now, now… real communication? Let’s not get out of hand here
The audacity lol
🫡
Yeah, but let's be real here: that's pretty weird unless you two are close.
She will tell you
Hahaha!
bro's looking for a dommy mommy gf and asking about it on reddit of all places.
H—Hey I said this is for research purposes…~
Right, ok.
0.0
Believe me 😵💫
Yeah ok buddy
My friend has a theory that you act the opposite in the bedroom compared to real life. For instance, if you're a kind and generous person, you're probably more interested in receiving pleasure than giving it behind closed doors. If the woman is dominant in the bedroom, then she may be more of a pushover in real life? Just a theory.
Definitely not an all shoes fit theory. I myself am a Primal that goes after Dom men to make them submit. It's the best high out there. Hunting them, and then watching the realization hit that they have a collar on their neck that says "good boy". I am in no way a pushover in any aspect of my life. I have fangs and claws 24/7. I teach in my day job and even my students know what I say goes do not make me say it twice.
Wow! Keep slaying!
I'd say that I would love to be like you, but I've already married the first man I did this to LMFAO
I can attest to this accurately. Someone who has busy stressful job and has to be in great control of life may want the dead opposite in bedroom. Definitely difference between being dominate in everyday life and in the bedroom. Since OP didn't clarify.
That actually makes a lot of sense. Someone that is usually burdened with the stresses of life would want to wind down in different aspects.
I think your friend's theory is fairly accurate, to be honest.
Thanks for the theory! Kind of like ‘wearing different masks’ when with different people?
Not true of me, but I'm rarely "normal"
This is how I am. Timid and sweet in public…
Hah!! I’m glad to hear that’s desirable. I’ve been single so long that idk what characteristics men even like 😅
I think that's right in general, but I like to think I'm a nice dude and I'm DEFINITELY not a taker in bed. But I see where your friends coming from
It doesn't work like that. People aren't that easy. Lol
Lol I know. It's similar to The Shopping Cart Theory. The world isn't black and white. They're just neat little theories that apply to some, but not all.
If you're face down biting your pillow, she's definitely dominant.
If she walks in the room wearing a strap-on.
🤣
Which room? I hope only the bedroom🤔
Jokingly call her mommy and see how she reacts Edit: guys I swear I wrote JOKINGLY
I’ll throw up in my mouth if a man calls me that
I will be right there with you!
... wa ... we're supposed to joke about that? ... explains a few things.
I would leave immediately
She dominates
🤔
🤨🙄😂
I was introduced to a woman who said, "Most men call me Goddess."
Then when I cook for you, do you want burnt offerings?
BBQ burnt ends!
BBQ burnt ends are fire
Maybe even charred
The whips are a dead give away.
if she pees standing up, that's a clear indicator...
💀😵💫
The only way is to ask. I can be dominant and submissive but I’m more submissive than dominant.
I can definitely feel if she's submissive. I'm not sure about dominant, but it makes me wonder if submissive men can sense a dom in the same way
Like um… Spider-Man’s tingle sense 🤷♂️
That's a really good description, actually.
If she slaps you and spits in your mouth i think she might be a little dom
That def says a lot 🥶
If she rolls her own tampons is a good indicator
🤔You could tell your dominant when they ask you for permission to release the leash. 😜
Leash is crazy
The strap on
The most dom girl I went out with was a quiet wee lass, lovely girl and seemed like a pushover. In the bedroom another matter. You can only use the empirical approach. F#@k about and find out.
I thought I was until I actually had sex with one. Humbled. Truly.
You don’t have to ask. It’s obvious. Sit and watch.
Like one of those nature documentary shows
If her user is SelfishSavageQueen probably.
Okay thanks…~ 😵💫
Usually people who are dominant in life, are submissive sexually. It's not a hard fact, but 95% true. I think the best way to know - is to ask her. (If it's appropriate, obviously.)
Clean something in front of her if she is dominant she will push you out of the way and do it herself because you’re not doing it the right way
Doesn't mean she's dominant in bed
Who said anything about being dominant in bed? The question was how to tell if a woman is dominant and I provided my answer but if she is dominant in one area it might be an indicator for
Well... He was definitely looking for that... read also the comments... And then: most people that are dominant in life are submissive in the bedroom
He could of rephrased that question to be more directed to the bed room aspect and not a general question
She'll tell you
Like literally?
She's probably not acting dominant.
What does this mean? Are you looking for a woman to tie you up and whip you as in a dominatrix or are you looking for a woman that can physically beat you up? Are you looking for a woman to live in fear of and to take care of you and protect you? Needs clarification.
*TLDR*: If she's a dick on the first date. Emotionally? I went on a date with a girl once and she picked a fight, on our first date! I apologised even though I didn't mean it because I was trying to get lucky. Every other time we were together after that she always picked a fight. It was always brief but always very hurtful stuff. Eventually I broke down her barriers and came to understand why she was the way she was. Gave her all my patience and understanding but she still never changed. Finally I got sick of it and walked away. You can say that's bullying not dominance but I don't think there is a difference when it comes to relationships. For those of you who read this far: no she wasn't dominant in the bedroom.
Thanks for sharing, respect. Sounds like she was… something.
she was Japanese and at age 12 committed some shameful act so they sent her to a boarding school on the other side of the world never to return. Messed her up good.
Look at her toes.
Let me guess… her second toe?
😎
Hehe someone told me about their feet as a signal too lol
I could tell by the way she carried herself, my lady runs shit and it's soooooooo fucking Hawt, like swoon like a mofo 😍🥰, plus later on in our relationship I just made a statement to her and she very cutely said, Yup! I love it! All of it... I'm more sub/dom, so it definitely gonna work out just fine... We're meant for each other. 🙂❤️
Sweet!
It's just a vibe i noticed. Im more dominant. I usually always attract submissives. Take note who they hang out with and how they act.
i will have to check with my wife before i answer this.
She puts her hand on the small of your back aggressively before going in
I do all the chores. If I miss a spot, I have to clean the whole thing again. 🤪
Women who are dominant personality-wise typically do not enjoy being dominant in bed. So maybe take a reverse approach.
My gf dominates me. Not in an aggressive way but she calls the shots. I don’t mind I like it. I’m not a passive dude but I let her do her thing and it works out.
As long as both parties are satisfied
Ask her to grab your collar.
If she tells you she wants to peg
Non-bedroom-wise? I think dominate women are decisive, confident about it and less agreeable. They aren’t afraid to speak up if they don’t like something and may stubbornly refuse or interject in a situation.
Uh...if they are domineering.
How does she react to that one scene in the Lion King where Nala ends up on top of Simba? If she's a little too giddy, then she's dominant.
You ask her for permission.
Dominant individuals often exude confidence and assertiveness in their demeanor and interactions with others. They may speak with conviction, maintain strong eye contact, and carry themselves with a sense of authority.
I dated an actual dominatrix for about 6 months once. We talked about it. I'm a switch, but I prefer being dominated completely by a woman.
Did you know before or had to get to know her and open up?
I knew what she did for a living beforehand. She was an online dominatrix, mostly. We hit it off and then got to it. It was pretty organic. I've been involved in weird sex stuff since the early 90s, so I'm no stranger to it. It was pretty amazing, but I caught feelings because I was coming out of a serious relationship. I swear, sometimes i get a little romantic attention and fall head over heels within a couple of weeks. Lol. Not a good thing.
From my observation, they are typically assertive in expressing their opinions, preferences, and boundaries. They are not afraid to speak up for themselves, advocate for their needs, and assert their authority when necessary.
When she holds me down in bed, covers my mouth and says "nobody will hear you scream"
Cock size
If I had awards to give, you would most certainly get one.
The male is scared of her. For example if he apologises when she glares at him or smt.
She will tell you
It's gonna blow your mind: Ask her
She will show and tell you
Bruh she don’t wanna peg you
it's obvious
well there isn't really a way of knowing because people are different and don't do the same thing when they are a part of a community, for me, people have told me that because I'm outgoing and talk a lot, it shows im dominant in the conversation
Ooohhh conversation holder of sorts
This will be pretty clear in any interaction.
It starts off with "Good morning!"
Dominant in bed or "high maintenance wears the pants?" I can do a strong woman, I prefer one, but I can't do a bossy high maintenance spouse.
In MY experience the ones who are dominant are extremely competitive,can be controlling,love to drive the conversation and can be judgemental. aggressive in nature and I don’t mean they aren’t nice just very assertive. Again just my opinion based on my experience with the few dominant women I’ve come across
In my experience if she acts one way in public she’s the opposite in bed
“For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction” -Newton
Talks about strong women all day, Talks about strength, expresses more women in politics, just tough to be around due to being argumentive
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I'm pretty much dom all my kinks but I spent 5y with a woman who is also Dom, (we were also polyamorous) and also she is part of a pretty active FemDom group. Totally no way to tell in day to day life and this goes for men as well. Definitely some patterns, however, I certainly know subs who fit any of those patterns. And some patterns are quite the opposite of others. Additionally, either side of the slash might be pretty familiar with the other role and make jokes. I did and all it meant is I'm secure, and funny, and I usually had carefully selected who heard those jokes. The answer is a tough one for a lot of subs: communicate. Be assertive. Get your head out of the clouds. Ask questions. Listen fully. All of which is also traits that will be advantageous in your service when it pans out into a relationship.
She's only dominant if you allow it. If you don't like her bossing you around. Leave.
Woman here, I think it is a mood thing (that goes both ways). I fantasize about what I want to do to my man. I want to shove him onto the bed and get into his pants to say the least. But I also want him to do the same (both ways) and maybe more to me. Who knows, even in public (within reason) , I might shove him against a wall or a car or a tree or even just go for the shirt collar and plant one on him. If I'm not doing that you probably would not know.
Woman here, I think it is a mood thing (that goes both ways). I fantasize about what I want to do to my man. I want to shove him onto the bed and get into his pants to say the least. But I also want him to do the same (both ways) and maybe more to me. Who knows, even in public (within reason) , I might shove him against a wall or a car or a tree or even just go for the shirt collar and plant one on him. If I'm not doing that you probably would not know.
She pees on your furniture to mark her territory.
Possibly her job role might give you a lead, Meyers Briggs and her zodiac sign.
I have a theory you can tell by the shape of a person's eyes, men and women. What's interesting is men's attractiveness is often perceived by eye shape - almost more predatory. Think alpha male wolf type eyes slitted like Tom Cruise, then think big circular doe eyes. Both are formed by hormones in the womb. They have found significant correlation between face type and personality traits. It's not 100% perfect but it has a pattern. This is ofc estimation on not asking right? Some people have soft almond shaped eyes or they're a mix and in a way I think that makes sense as people are not 100% sub or dom. Let me know what you think!
Raise your hand and see if there is fear in her eyes or rebellion. Lol
Bruh, should this even be a question?
I mean can you tell?
Oh I cannot tell!😁
Exactly! This is an open ended question where everyone that had contributed so far has learned a thing or two… that be shared experiences or other things 🫡
I appreciate your respect man!🫡
When she sets up a gym routine for you.
Hehe I already have one 🫡😎
She’ll let you know now
Slap her! See what happens
I could never be dominate. I got too many people trying to run something over me and boss me around out of the bedroom, I literally can't bring myself to do that to another person, especially in the bedroom.
1. Like others have said just ask them 2. If you mean for kink reasons (which going by the fact that this post is marked nsfw you most likely do) then go on a site called fetlife and find events in your local area to meet new people.
Oh snap~ 💭
If you play your cards right you won’t have to ask.
I only date dominant women. There's no way to know unless you ask. Their profession doesn't tell you anything about what they are like at home. The same is true for men.
Just ask
One easy way to tell is if she's always wearing leather and carries a cat-o'-nine-tails wherever she goes. That and if she has a Discover card. For whatever reason, every chick I've ever met with a Discover card has gone HARD in the bedroom.
Alright so the Discover card is a good indicator 😲
by seeing if she dominates people? there's not some secret, like, phrenology trick to guess it or anything.
When she’s the one entering you
All I know that if they seem dominant in everyday situations,they are the opposite in bed. There's better chance for quiet ones to be the doms...from my research 🤓
So what you’re telling me… the innocent ones aren’t always so innocent in that sense~
I‘ll ask once i get permission to speak
If she's commanded you to allow her to be inside of you with a strap - on, she could potentially be considered dominant.
librarians
She spits
"Research pourpouses" Bro wants to get pegged
By the whip hanging from her hip
As someone who used to do sex work I'll tell you right now: people who are extremely open about their sex life and have the confidence to take their own control on it are usually the qualities it seems you are looking through. My best friend is submissive in bed but dominant in personality, usually being called mommy, so it really heavily depends. I love my SW girlies though, they all are so bold and confident
ask, and if she's unsure, let her take the wheels and see how she feels
You have to ask that question, she probably is
Ask her what her K/D is.
You will know. That type also has the reputation of “being a bitch” but you won’t see that for 6-9 months 😅
If she's assertive or if she initiates certain things like a person or man in power would.
If you’re in a relationship then you can tell. That’s my only 2 cents and my guess too, but don’t mistaken a strong independent woman as dominate either, I’m glad I don’t have to ask my wife to do things or request things like I’m playing the sims. She and I both do things as to what our roles are and dominate those areas, as to each other we’re equal and submit to each other.
It truly is hard to tell. Even on the so called F.L.R. and F.L.M. websites most are pretenders and are just seeking a kind man, not a more submissive guy as I am myself.
Ask her
I don’t know that you can! I’m a dominant personality. I have no issues being provocative, calling the shots, and making executive decisions. I own a very successful business and am overall a boss. When it comes to the bedroom I like to be submissive, and I think it’s because it’s the one time I can just surrender to someone.