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The r/sex forum's HUGE archive of past posts is a *tremendous* resource for people who have all kinds of common questions regarding sexual activity. Searching those posts for relevant discussions will definitely help you here.
For starters, here is a list of past r/sex discussions which came up when I searched the keywords “**call daddy**” in this forum:
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Not all of these past discussions will apply to your situation, but some definitely will — especially if you’re willing to search just a little bit more.
I used to interpret it this way, but now I associate it with a fun (consensual) power dynamic, authority, and safety. A daddy is usually in control and is protective.
This kink is still constrained by what terms the language has to offer. Similar titles that suggest male and power are Sir or Master, both of which are used to refer to someone in a dominant role. Daddy is just another available term with different connotations.
An alternative would be to make up a brand new word, and the reality is language doesn’t do that as much as it tends to borrow an existing word and tweak it to fit a new scenario.
"I can excuse slavery, but I draw the line at women who have a Daddy kink."
Like in reality both are fine and are literal roleplay. Real slavery is different from BDSM and real incest is different from women with a Daddy kink. If you can distinguish that in one case, you should be able to distinguish that in both.
I had a feeling this deleted post was asking something stupid regarding slavery or "master", or Daddy being incestuous, so you're exactly correct. BDSM has a TOTALLY different language than everyday talk. Master isn't racist & Daddy isn't my REAL dad who's 30 years older than me. C'mon people 🤦🏼♀️
My ex was PR and he had one of his ex's call him papi. Way he described it was just the woman's way of saying he was the man in the relationship and she looked to him for strength/guidance/etc. it made sense and I could see why some people do it.
That's a good explanation too! I think it's funny, I've heard Papi used in all sorts of contexts. Meanwhile (at least for me) Daddy is used only in sexual context. Not something I'd call my s/o out in public (unless discreetly), yet Papi seems so versatile in that way and acceptable in other contexts. Cultural stuff. *shrug*
So if you want context from the ladies side, my personal take is that I see him as a figure of both dominance and protection. It's not literally that I'm calling him my father, lol. That would be gross. The term is Daddy for a reason and not "Dad". Most grown women aren't referring to their father as "Daddy". It's easily a separated thing in my mind because of that. But keep in mind I have a thing for gentle doms. The Daddy thing really goes hand-in-hand with that for me. I'm forking over my control to someone I trust to both protect and dominate me, prioritizing my pleasure and praising me. That's the more in-depth side. Some women might just think it's simply hot to say; I can't speak for all of us.
Guys that don't get it only know one definition for the word Daddy.
It's like if you only know one definition for the word 'baby'. If baby means infant to you and your lover says, "I love you baby" she is not calling you an infant. Those that would freak out over being called baby simply are lacking vocabulary. There are two definitions for baby, not one. There are two definitions for Daddy, not one.
People who are put off by the word Daddy in bed are simply ignorant of the alternate definition and don't realize that they are actually being *complimented and respected* by the use of that word.
Baby is a term of endearment, not an insult. Daddy is not creepy unless you are ignorant. Baby is not creepy unless you are ignorant.
Being turned off doesn’t make a person ignorant. It is completely possible to understand that some people view it differently and still get the ick when you hear it. To each their own, but it still gives creepy vibes to some people, and that isn’t a lack in their vocabulary or intellect.
because he's older than me and big/muscular compared me, so i feel protected by him. also i dont want to always say his name, and im def a sub so like to make him feel in control
I used to hate it until a woman I was with told me to think of it less like you’re her daddy, and more like you just put the kids to bed and she’s in the mood, “daddy”.
My kids call me daddy so it’s an instant turnoff for me lol. I’ve never understood this one. Call me master or boss or anything else authoritative if you wanna be kinky, but not anything with incestuous ties
Yeah if your kids call you that it would be a turnoff. My kids call me dad or pop.. never daddy. The first time a woman called me daddy I was a little shocked but soon it became clear it’s the dominant word and not the paternal one.
He’s my authority figure, 13 years older than me, greying, fucks my brains out, can change my oil, and can grill the fuck out of some cheese burgers. That’s my daddy.
Uhh yeah we do. I call my wife babe/baby all the time and I know plenty of other couples who do. I have never once associated it with child related sexual stuff.
I think you may have a misunderstanding of how/when those terms are used bc again, I don't believe you've been in a relationship...
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I've never once called anyone I've been with "babe" or "baby" and I'm in a 17.5 year relationship, so I'm not sure where you're getting someone hasn't been in a relationship for finding it weird, I don't like doing it either.
Wife and I yell "Baby!" Like marco polo. Yelling across the house until we find eachother. Like when I come home. Or I take off my headphones after gaming and I want to find her. I probably say baby 25 times a day.
In my experience, at least with women my age (mid 30s), are all creeped out by wanting a guy to call them daddy.
I find this is far more common in the younger generations.
37/f and I was calling my fiancé Daddy literally last night. And I know plentyyyyy of men and women my age and older who love it. It’s not a new thing.
Yep. I had a guy once ask me to call him daddy, and he referred to himself as daddy. I thought it was weird but I liked him so I gave it a shot. Next day I dumped him. That is just gross. Total mood killer.
Generally speaking, it's part of a kink. Frequently seen in BDSM dynamics and is known as "daddy dom/little girl" (DD/LG). It's partly the power exchange and the feeling well taken care (nurtured even) by the dominant figure.
To some it's cringe, for others quite hot. I used to think it was absolutely cringe but no longer hold that opinion. My BDSM dynamic has evolved over the years and now I feel strongly compelled to refer to my D-type as "daddy" and he enjoys every minute of it.
So kudos to you, she felt well taken care of. 😉 If you liked it, make sure to let her know and see if it opens the doors to kinky adventures. You never know what fun you'll unlock. If you're not really well versed in BDSM/kink, here's a fun test: https://bdsmtest.org/select-mode :)
Nope. The word itself has entered mainstream/vanilla sex so thoroughly it can barely even be connected to ddlg anymore. I would say maybe 10% of couples that use the word regularly actually have a ddlg dynamic with each other in a BDSM sense.
Hard to explain any kink. Sure you can blanket say something like “she has daddy issues” but it could be so many more random reasons than that. You cant say for sure besides speculating “Heard it in porn, thought the guy likes it, has daddy issues, she likes it herself.” It will be different for everyone
It's *so* different, imo. If I was in bed with a man and he said "call me daddy" it's an immediate pants on, out the door situation. Couples call each other baby all the time, it's pretty normal. Daddy/Mommy is a totally different dynamic. It can bring up unwanted literal parent issues or trauma, denote a power dynamic or desire for one... It's common and getting more common, but not *that* commonplace.
I think daddy is relatively new and in vogue.
But mami and papi are common enough to be cultural stereotypes of Latin American cultures.
And I know quite a few WASPs who call their partners Mother and Father. I don’t know they do it in bed, but they use it frequently.
I choose to interpret it as saying that you’re good enough to be the father of her children and that idea excites her. I like that.
I don’t know if that’s why people say it, but this is what I tell myself to enjoy it. :p
I have only ever done this with a man who has actually fathered children. it seemed sick to me at first but he was really into the concept and I was willing to try it. I actually got so into the whole daddy sex theme and now I automatically say that every time we are intimate. it’s such a turn on for both of us. I don’t know if I would feel the same way if he didn’t have children, though. there’s something kind of dirty and hot about it that I can’t explain
A male variant of the Madonna-Whore Complex perhaps. The juxtaposition of his wholesome role as a responsible father, while also knowing he has an entirely different, dirty and uninhibited side that's separate and just for his partners?
This, exactly. Thank you for putting into words what I could not.
There’s something incredibly appealing about an older man who is a damn good Dad and exhibits those qualities but also wants to dominate me in the bedroom. He is also a bit older than me (15 years) and I have never been with an older man so I’m sure that plays into the sexiness. Sounds cliche, I know
I guess in that context it does make it a lot less weird. To me at least.
Hell I still call my dad the Finnish equivalent of Daddy these days when with family lol. Would be super weird for someone to call me that, especially as I’m not a dad
To each their own. I used to say the same thing until I was with someone who I use it with, there’s CNC and some free use stuff too, new kinks. Anyway, they are kinks. Never thought at 48 I’d love this shit
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Ive had girls who would never say it because they get a weird feeling or something, but if shes cool with it its really just the ultimate expression of adoration and respect. It can be an incestuous fantasy but 99% of the time its not at all… just the feeling of submission. Even good girls want to please their daddy.
I personally don't care for it. I was molested, so I don't like anything that sounds familial.
Though, if people wanna do it, they can do whatever they like to do, I don't care unless it's directed at me.
I become very uncomfortable.
I'd love to know the answer to this question myself. I hate it when women call me daddy during intimacy. Like, what am I supposed to do, call her daughter in response? It's honestly a huge turn-off for me, and I have to mentally take myself out of the situation to keep going when they do that. I don't want to be called the parent of anyone I'm having sex with, nor do I want to be called son by a woman I'm sleeping with.
Yeah, I completely understand. Sir is completely different from daddy. And if a woman is of the submissive type in the bedroom, then sir translates as respect and kind of like you're her boss. And the same goes the other way. I could most definitely call a woman ma'am in the bedroom if she was into that sort of thing, but I could never call her mommy.
I'm seeing alot of people saying it's kink, which is fair, it is for some people. But I also think it's one of those normalized honorific by this point, it's not hot because of the word daddy but the message it conveys in pop culture now
As a man, I find it to be a turn off... In no way being called "daddy" or "papi" turns me on. To each their own on that, but it's not for me. I will say that for me, being called Sir is 🔥
Calling a lover "Daddy" originated in the prostitution community where hookers would call their pimp/BF Daddy; probably due to the controlling, custodial relationship they have with their girls. Probably also a reference to the Godfather; Big Daddy shortened to Daddy. The term came to mean, a baller, a pimp, someone who takes care of his girls financially AND sexually.
It eventually bled over into the BDSM community as a substitute for Sir or Master.
(This does not apply to "Mami" and "Papi" in the Spanish speaking community. Those terms have different origins and usage).
People also say baby. Which is weirder when you think about it. But it’s so normalized that we don’t.
Also it’s not generally used as you’re her actual daddy, it’s you are a daddy. It’s wrapped up in protection, a little domination, and breeding kinks.
She's probably submissive/has a daddy kink. There's nothing wrong with that. Totally fine if that's not your style you just need to communicate it but sounds like you thought it was hot so maybe ask her about it and yall can lean into it and you'll learn something about your own sexual preferences. Lotta kink shaming in the comments
Because it's a well known term to say during sex when you wanna spice things up.
Chatgpts answer: The use of the term "daddy" during intercourse has roots in various cultural and psychological factors. It can be linked to the concept of dominance and submission, as well as the eroticization of authority figures. Some suggest it may also be influenced by societal taboos and the appeal of forbidden or taboo language in intimate settings. It's important to note that preferences and interpretations of such terms can vary widely among individuals and are often based on personal experiences and cultural influences.
Some women just do that, or they've had a man who liked to be called Daddy before. Some men do. I've never personally had a man want me to call him Daddy. I had a Daddy... he died when I was 19, and it's just not my thing to call my men Daddy..
Some women are kinky like that I guess, I had a guy that wanted me to call him daddy but there was no way I wanted that visual in my head of my dad while having sex, like wtf.
I have also wondered this. It sounds soo creepy to me.
Calling a person I’m fucking daddy just doesn’t do it for me.
But am generally interested in why women do it.
I think it's gross. It reminds me of incest & I believe the woman who say it must have "daddy issues". It's one thing that you'll never hear ME saying.
In my house it’s because I’m the Dad and we refer to each other as mom and dad in the house around the kids. And it has crossed over into the bedroom.
I don’t understand it if you’re not the Dad.
I don’t have a “kink” and I call my man daddy. He’s my man and he takes care of me emotionally, financially and sexually. I call my father dad. I will say though, I would NEVER call a stranger daddy.
Plot twist:
In January 2018, a guy 8 years younger than me called me “mama” during sex and I haven’t left him alone since. He never did call me “mama” again, but it didn’t stop me from reliving that moment over and over again in my mind (and hoping he would say it again in our on and off situationship).
*Saying* “Daddy,” however, is a total turnoff to me. My current guy is 20 years my senior and pays my bills - so I call him “a daddy” outside the bedroom but could never do it in the bedroom. The closest I came to it was when he role played with me like he was sneaking into my bed and taking my virginity lol. What can I say, some of us are into the freakiest things!
One of 2 reasons. 1 they think men like it. Fellow woman here and husband liked it until we had our kid now he finds it gross. Or 2. They have daddy issues
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Most likely just a kinky affectionate way of acknowledging an authority-type figure. I’d say it’s a kinky compliment
It's definitely got some sort of power dynamic kink linked to it.
It's all pillow talk, would it better if they said fuck me flipper do me dolphin style 
Probably for some... It's good to ask before hand. Do you want to be daddy, flipper, or god this time? Lol
During orgasm, I believe that man is always OH MY GODDDDDDD aka God, for short. 🤷🏼♀️
Some are all about the blow holes.
The power imbalance is erotic
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I used to interpret it this way, but now I associate it with a fun (consensual) power dynamic, authority, and safety. A daddy is usually in control and is protective. This kink is still constrained by what terms the language has to offer. Similar titles that suggest male and power are Sir or Master, both of which are used to refer to someone in a dominant role. Daddy is just another available term with different connotations. An alternative would be to make up a brand new word, and the reality is language doesn’t do that as much as it tends to borrow an existing word and tweak it to fit a new scenario.
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Yeah cause THAT isn't problematic at all.
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"I can excuse slavery, but I draw the line at women who have a Daddy kink." Like in reality both are fine and are literal roleplay. Real slavery is different from BDSM and real incest is different from women with a Daddy kink. If you can distinguish that in one case, you should be able to distinguish that in both.
I had a feeling this deleted post was asking something stupid regarding slavery or "master", or Daddy being incestuous, so you're exactly correct. BDSM has a TOTALLY different language than everyday talk. Master isn't racist & Daddy isn't my REAL dad who's 30 years older than me. C'mon people 🤦🏼♀️
So what you're saying is the thing is okay because it's not exactly the same as the historical, real-world version of the thing?
As a woman with the daddy kink, that's not it at all. No it's not something everybody likes, but it isn't an incest thing.
My ex was PR and he had one of his ex's call him papi. Way he described it was just the woman's way of saying he was the man in the relationship and she looked to him for strength/guidance/etc. it made sense and I could see why some people do it.
That's a good explanation too! I think it's funny, I've heard Papi used in all sorts of contexts. Meanwhile (at least for me) Daddy is used only in sexual context. Not something I'd call my s/o out in public (unless discreetly), yet Papi seems so versatile in that way and acceptable in other contexts. Cultural stuff. *shrug*
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It can sound however you want it to sound, but your opinion has no bearing on its meaning for people in the kink community.
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Kink in general is becoming more openly discussed and engaged in because our society is just more sexually open than it used to be.
Absolutely not. The DD/LG dynamic is not incestuous whatsoever.
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Wow, kink shaming in r/sex You're so edgy
Then it's all deleted. Maybe a mod got rid of it.
This is crazy to say when the post is about a woman bringing the term up, not the man.
So if you want context from the ladies side, my personal take is that I see him as a figure of both dominance and protection. It's not literally that I'm calling him my father, lol. That would be gross. The term is Daddy for a reason and not "Dad". Most grown women aren't referring to their father as "Daddy". It's easily a separated thing in my mind because of that. But keep in mind I have a thing for gentle doms. The Daddy thing really goes hand-in-hand with that for me. I'm forking over my control to someone I trust to both protect and dominate me, prioritizing my pleasure and praising me. That's the more in-depth side. Some women might just think it's simply hot to say; I can't speak for all of us.
It’s like calling someone “Baby” “Love you, Baby.” We’re obviously not calling them an infant! Same sorta concept I think
This is actually a great explanation. I feel I understand it so much better now
You're right. I don't like it at all and think it's strange. But that's just my own personal opinion as an older woman.
Guys that don't get it only know one definition for the word Daddy. It's like if you only know one definition for the word 'baby'. If baby means infant to you and your lover says, "I love you baby" she is not calling you an infant. Those that would freak out over being called baby simply are lacking vocabulary. There are two definitions for baby, not one. There are two definitions for Daddy, not one. People who are put off by the word Daddy in bed are simply ignorant of the alternate definition and don't realize that they are actually being *complimented and respected* by the use of that word. Baby is a term of endearment, not an insult. Daddy is not creepy unless you are ignorant. Baby is not creepy unless you are ignorant.
Being turned off doesn’t make a person ignorant. It is completely possible to understand that some people view it differently and still get the ick when you hear it. To each their own, but it still gives creepy vibes to some people, and that isn’t a lack in their vocabulary or intellect.
Think that’s on the money. People judging what gives others the ick is what’s ignorant. And use of this word gives LOTS of folk that feeling.
My wife calls me papi which is I guess Spanish for daddy. She's my big booty mexican goddess. She can call me shit bag and I'd still say thank you.
I love this for you two
Big Booty Mexican Goddess caught me off guard 🤣🤣
Damn yeah post history checks out! Nice.
[big booty puerto rican goddess](https://youtu.be/Cxqca4RQd_M?si=64t79ETBsM-pRtcS&t=4m23s)
Exactly what I was thinking too 😂
Best comment award! Actually made me do a spit take. Christ almighty...
because he's older than me and big/muscular compared me, so i feel protected by him. also i dont want to always say his name, and im def a sub so like to make him feel in control
Idk but for me it’s a turnoff. I associate it with my kids calling me daddy and I’m like fuuuuuuuuck now what do you want!!!
This made me laugh because I completely get it
I used to hate it until a woman I was with told me to think of it less like you’re her daddy, and more like you just put the kids to bed and she’s in the mood, “daddy”.
This helps. I still don’t like it but it helps, lmao.
My kids call me daddy so it’s an instant turnoff for me lol. I’ve never understood this one. Call me master or boss or anything else authoritative if you wanna be kinky, but not anything with incestuous ties
Yeah if your kids call you that it would be a turnoff. My kids call me dad or pop.. never daddy. The first time a woman called me daddy I was a little shocked but soon it became clear it’s the dominant word and not the paternal one.
He’s my authority figure, 13 years older than me, greying, fucks my brains out, can change my oil, and can grill the fuck out of some cheese burgers. That’s my daddy.
Love that
My husband is 12 years older than me. Big same.
Why do guys call girls “baby”?
That's kind of unisex.
And daddy isnt? Get with the times ya bigot.
If a dude called me daddy, I’d punch him in the dick and run away.
/r/callherdaddy in shambles.
Not analogous since partners often say it to each other, whereas gals who call their guys "daddy" usually aren't being called "mommy" in return.
I bring this up whenever this comes up.
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This is a very common nickname for couples where I live. Not at all associated with the things you mentioned
Uhh yeah we do. I call my wife babe/baby all the time and I know plenty of other couples who do. I have never once associated it with child related sexual stuff.
Essentially everyone does and you’re the one making things weird
never had a partner before?
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I think you may have a misunderstanding of how/when those terms are used bc again, I don't believe you've been in a relationship... this comment confirms it...
I've never once called anyone I've been with "babe" or "baby" and I'm in a 17.5 year relationship, so I'm not sure where you're getting someone hasn't been in a relationship for finding it weird, I don't like doing it either.
oh that makes sense, so you've only had 1...
A lot of guys do, maybe not during sex, but the term "baby" being used from a man to a woman in a relationship is nothing new.
Wife and I yell "Baby!" Like marco polo. Yelling across the house until we find eachother. Like when I come home. Or I take off my headphones after gaming and I want to find her. I probably say baby 25 times a day.
Freud would have a heyday if he were alive still
Some women do it believing the guy likes it but it'd always better to ask before doing. It can be a real mood killer.
Its was a great surprise
She might have been in the moment... It's happened to me with my D-type.
Uppercase D? Big D type?
D-type, meaning my Dom. (It was just an alternative way of saying it.)
In my experience, at least with women my age (mid 30s), are all creeped out by wanting a guy to call them daddy. I find this is far more common in the younger generations.
Yup. Most people I’ve met over 30 finds it cringe. It’s definitely a no-go for our generation.
I know plenty of mid-30s+ people who like it, of all genders. It’s not a generational thing, it’s a kink thing.
37/f and I was calling my fiancé Daddy literally last night. And I know plentyyyyy of men and women my age and older who love it. It’s not a new thing.
Yep. I had a guy once ask me to call him daddy, and he referred to himself as daddy. I thought it was weird but I liked him so I gave it a shot. Next day I dumped him. That is just gross. Total mood killer.
Cause you're providing. Some good dick, some great company. YOU'RE bringing it. YOU'RE the only one, baby
Is that what daddy's are supposed to do?
Well CLEARLY someone hasn't been to mass or confession in a while
Nah got no time for that too busy working on my farm being a provider.
She thinks you are a boss.
Haha hopefully
Because my husband is a hot fucking bearded daddy and I love it.
Generally speaking, it's part of a kink. Frequently seen in BDSM dynamics and is known as "daddy dom/little girl" (DD/LG). It's partly the power exchange and the feeling well taken care (nurtured even) by the dominant figure. To some it's cringe, for others quite hot. I used to think it was absolutely cringe but no longer hold that opinion. My BDSM dynamic has evolved over the years and now I feel strongly compelled to refer to my D-type as "daddy" and he enjoys every minute of it. So kudos to you, she felt well taken care of. 😉 If you liked it, make sure to let her know and see if it opens the doors to kinky adventures. You never know what fun you'll unlock. If you're not really well versed in BDSM/kink, here's a fun test: https://bdsmtest.org/select-mode :)
Nope. The word itself has entered mainstream/vanilla sex so thoroughly it can barely even be connected to ddlg anymore. I would say maybe 10% of couples that use the word regularly actually have a ddlg dynamic with each other in a BDSM sense.
It's a kink and pretty common. She should have checked with you first though.
It just happened. She said sorry when she said it. It was fine
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Hard to explain any kink. Sure you can blanket say something like “she has daddy issues” but it could be so many more random reasons than that. You cant say for sure besides speculating “Heard it in porn, thought the guy likes it, has daddy issues, she likes it herself.” It will be different for everyone
Why are some guys into feet? Same thing but even more common
I mean it’s related to kinks, sure. But it is really no different than calling her baby.
It's *so* different, imo. If I was in bed with a man and he said "call me daddy" it's an immediate pants on, out the door situation. Couples call each other baby all the time, it's pretty normal. Daddy/Mommy is a totally different dynamic. It can bring up unwanted literal parent issues or trauma, denote a power dynamic or desire for one... It's common and getting more common, but not *that* commonplace.
I think daddy is relatively new and in vogue. But mami and papi are common enough to be cultural stereotypes of Latin American cultures. And I know quite a few WASPs who call their partners Mother and Father. I don’t know they do it in bed, but they use it frequently.
I choose to interpret it as saying that you’re good enough to be the father of her children and that idea excites her. I like that. I don’t know if that’s why people say it, but this is what I tell myself to enjoy it. :p
You're not wrong. They're summoning the sperm.
Super interesting interpretation. Thanks for sharing your perspective!
I have only ever done this with a man who has actually fathered children. it seemed sick to me at first but he was really into the concept and I was willing to try it. I actually got so into the whole daddy sex theme and now I automatically say that every time we are intimate. it’s such a turn on for both of us. I don’t know if I would feel the same way if he didn’t have children, though. there’s something kind of dirty and hot about it that I can’t explain
Thanks for sharing. Yeah once she knew I was ok with it she was super happy
A male variant of the Madonna-Whore Complex perhaps. The juxtaposition of his wholesome role as a responsible father, while also knowing he has an entirely different, dirty and uninhibited side that's separate and just for his partners?
This, exactly. Thank you for putting into words what I could not. There’s something incredibly appealing about an older man who is a damn good Dad and exhibits those qualities but also wants to dominate me in the bedroom. He is also a bit older than me (15 years) and I have never been with an older man so I’m sure that plays into the sexiness. Sounds cliche, I know
I guess in that context it does make it a lot less weird. To me at least. Hell I still call my dad the Finnish equivalent of Daddy these days when with family lol. Would be super weird for someone to call me that, especially as I’m not a dad
I'm a woman and the idea of saying daddy is creepy and a turn off
Agree I’m lesbian and I’d be damned if a woman called me momma
To each their own. I used to say the same thing until I was with someone who I use it with, there’s CNC and some free use stuff too, new kinks. Anyway, they are kinks. Never thought at 48 I’d love this shit
I don't know, but it turns me off instantaneously. Were I a man, I'd immediately go soft and leave. Lol it's so gross to me.
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> but it was pretty hot. And there you have it! Complex stuff here, I'm glad you asked the crowd.
I have no idea, it's weird af to me but to each their own.
I dont say that. I never say that. I know plenty of men who find it hot, but it dries me right up and real good.
We all secretly want a protector. *Its primal baby.* ;)
Ive had girls who would never say it because they get a weird feeling or something, but if shes cool with it its really just the ultimate expression of adoration and respect. It can be an incestuous fantasy but 99% of the time its not at all… just the feeling of submission. Even good girls want to please their daddy.
Why don't you ask her?
Very true
I personally don't care for it. I was molested, so I don't like anything that sounds familial. Though, if people wanna do it, they can do whatever they like to do, I don't care unless it's directed at me. I become very uncomfortable.
I'd love to know the answer to this question myself. I hate it when women call me daddy during intimacy. Like, what am I supposed to do, call her daughter in response? It's honestly a huge turn-off for me, and I have to mentally take myself out of the situation to keep going when they do that. I don't want to be called the parent of anyone I'm having sex with, nor do I want to be called son by a woman I'm sleeping with.
The appropriate response to being calls daddy is “that’s a good girl.”
The appropriate response from me is, "Don't call me that." LOL
I prefer to be called “sir”, myself.
I could get down with sir.. I would have no problem with being called, sir.
The first time a woman admitted she’s submissive to me and called me sir, I was taken aback by it. Then I was, “hell yeah.”
Yeah, I completely understand. Sir is completely different from daddy. And if a woman is of the submissive type in the bedroom, then sir translates as respect and kind of like you're her boss. And the same goes the other way. I could most definitely call a woman ma'am in the bedroom if she was into that sort of thing, but I could never call her mommy.
Yeah mommy is a different kink. No thank you.
Right there with you.
Great minds think alike.
I'm seeing alot of people saying it's kink, which is fair, it is for some people. But I also think it's one of those normalized honorific by this point, it's not hot because of the word daddy but the message it conveys in pop culture now
Similar to calling a lesbian "zaddy" zaddy isn't even a word, but it's the more femme version of the term daddy
I don’t see the allure in this term as well. My dad has since passed and I couldn’t see myself calling someone else that in or out of the bedroom.
Because the man is authoritative + sexy. Go with it
Because Luke, you are her father
Thats the voice of pleasure.
As a man, I find it to be a turn off... In no way being called "daddy" or "papi" turns me on. To each their own on that, but it's not for me. I will say that for me, being called Sir is 🔥
Daddy always put me off, too (female here), but I could see Sir being super hot in the right situations. I think it’s the same dynamic, though.
Calling a lover "Daddy" originated in the prostitution community where hookers would call their pimp/BF Daddy; probably due to the controlling, custodial relationship they have with their girls. Probably also a reference to the Godfather; Big Daddy shortened to Daddy. The term came to mean, a baller, a pimp, someone who takes care of his girls financially AND sexually. It eventually bled over into the BDSM community as a substitute for Sir or Master. (This does not apply to "Mami" and "Papi" in the Spanish speaking community. Those terms have different origins and usage).
People also say baby. Which is weirder when you think about it. But it’s so normalized that we don’t. Also it’s not generally used as you’re her actual daddy, it’s you are a daddy. It’s wrapped up in protection, a little domination, and breeding kinks.
I like for her to refer to herself as mommy. 🤷♂️
Me and my boyfriend use both. Gotta have the best of both worlds.
No idea. Personally, I hate it and will not call a man that. He also does not want me to either.
She's probably submissive/has a daddy kink. There's nothing wrong with that. Totally fine if that's not your style you just need to communicate it but sounds like you thought it was hot so maybe ask her about it and yall can lean into it and you'll learn something about your own sexual preferences. Lotta kink shaming in the comments
I was told by a woman that she uses it to refer to the guy she wants to make a daddy, as in make babies with
Because it's a well known term to say during sex when you wanna spice things up. Chatgpts answer: The use of the term "daddy" during intercourse has roots in various cultural and psychological factors. It can be linked to the concept of dominance and submission, as well as the eroticization of authority figures. Some suggest it may also be influenced by societal taboos and the appeal of forbidden or taboo language in intimate settings. It's important to note that preferences and interpretations of such terms can vary widely among individuals and are often based on personal experiences and cultural influences.
Some women just do that, or they've had a man who liked to be called Daddy before. Some men do. I've never personally had a man want me to call him Daddy. I had a Daddy... he died when I was 19, and it's just not my thing to call my men Daddy..
Some women are kinky like that I guess, I had a guy that wanted me to call him daddy but there was no way I wanted that visual in my head of my dad while having sex, like wtf.
I sure as hell don’t. I think some women think it’s something guys want or maybe it’s their kink. But it’s definitely not all women doing that.
It's super fucking creepy and needs to stop.
I have also wondered this. It sounds soo creepy to me. Calling a person I’m fucking daddy just doesn’t do it for me. But am generally interested in why women do it.
Huge turn off! Literally disgusting!
It’s really creepy. I hate it.
Feel like you answered your own question….
Very true. Still always very interesting to see everyones point of view.
I think it's gross. It reminds me of incest & I believe the woman who say it must have "daddy issues". It's one thing that you'll never hear ME saying.
I have had two women call me daddy during sex. It was immediately over. I can't stand that.
You said it in your post. Because it was hot.
Daddy….Papi…..Gimme that bbc….it all sends me over the top !
Quite common…turns most of us on in a kinky way.
In my house it’s because I’m the Dad and we refer to each other as mom and dad in the house around the kids. And it has crossed over into the bedroom. I don’t understand it if you’re not the Dad.
This drives me nuts!! Like he ain’t your daddy. And it would just be weird personally do call My partner “daddy”. Ewww
SOME women do this. Mommy and daddy are cring af. Ick! I'm my opinion, of course.
NOPE. I definitely hate it. I think most women do it because they think men like it.
I don’t have a “kink” and I call my man daddy. He’s my man and he takes care of me emotionally, financially and sexually. I call my father dad. I will say though, I would NEVER call a stranger daddy.
It gives me the ick. I could never!
Idk. Huge turnoff for me
Maybe they have a spanking fetish?
Not all women say it. I find it creepy 🤷♀️
Because it’s hot! 🔥 
One time during the act she called me "dada" which I guess lil girls call their dads. Kinda weird but still hot.
Plot twist: In January 2018, a guy 8 years younger than me called me “mama” during sex and I haven’t left him alone since. He never did call me “mama” again, but it didn’t stop me from reliving that moment over and over again in my mind (and hoping he would say it again in our on and off situationship). *Saying* “Daddy,” however, is a total turnoff to me. My current guy is 20 years my senior and pays my bills - so I call him “a daddy” outside the bedroom but could never do it in the bedroom. The closest I came to it was when he role played with me like he was sneaking into my bed and taking my virginity lol. What can I say, some of us are into the freakiest things!
I think it’s a control dynamic to it. Having been on the other end of that it definitely makes me feel like I’m in control. Plus it’s a turn on
because I tell them too. you're welcome.
That really turns me off, just like women that emulate porn talk and moans, feels so forced to me most of the time
One of 2 reasons. 1 they think men like it. Fellow woman here and husband liked it until we had our kid now he finds it gross. Or 2. They have daddy issues
Congrats, it's a girl... Happy Father's day! 🦸🏼
The women live in Alabama
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Maybe. I guess we all do things with out thinking it bed
I don’t watch a ton of porn & have called guys daddy in bed. It’s a dominance thing.
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It comes accross to me as someone having daddy issues.
TiL: that big hairy guy was a woman. (Except not, because I'm a liar. But it's true for someone.)
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I dunno, all the kinky people I know fully admit their parental issues if they have them :P
Not all women say this. I would never and I wouldn't date a guy who would me to.