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Deep throating takes practice and you have to train your throat to open like that. I would suggest buying a dildo to practice with.
Also, it’s nearly Impossible to deep throat and swallow at the same time, so you need to get past gagging and some accumulation of saliva. It’s okay to get a little messy, nothing crazy but it’s going to happen. It’s normal to gag, and sometimes I enjoy gagging a little, doesn’t mean that I’m going to puke everywhere. When I gag a little, it shows my enthusiasm and that arouses me while doing it.
It's over hyped.
During a normal blowjob my wife can't go more than probably 30% of the way down.
But when the circumstances are perfect and we go at the right angle, we can get closer to like 80%
And that 80% feels pretty much the same, maybe even a little less stimulation, than the 30%
IMHO, you wanna have the wildest "deepthroat" feeling possible, if she grips a little tighter with her hand, and pushes her lips against her fist, with a good amount of lubrication (either a flavored water based lube or just saliva is fine) and then moves her hand all the way down while she goes with her mouth, it straight up feels like she is swallowing the whole thing over and over. It especially feels that way with two hands if her and your anatomy (hand size and penis length) work for that. This process gives way more stimulation than any actual deep throating.
Also: there is way more stimulation to be had than even that process, but it doesn't feel like deep throat at all. Facefucking, but very shallow face fucking. Not the super intense shoving it way down her throat way you see here on reddit or all over bdsm porn. This is so stimulating, at least for me, that it is the only way I have ever found from oral sex that I can finish from with relative ease.
Here is how we do that: she gets into a comfortable seated position that aligns her height well with my hips. She leans her head down for a blowjob and I grab a hold of her hair. She controls the depth, and I pull her AWAY, never forcing her down. For some reason, I cannot pinpoint why, this is the most stimulating feeling possible from oral sex. She focuses on the depth and on moving her hand up and down with the motion. I focus on the speed and the feeling of control. As I get close to finishing I pull her all the way away and start rocking my hips, still not forcing myself down her throat in any way, but just using my hips now instead of pulling her head around. She focuses on breathing (which sometimes means pulling away completely and sometimes just means breathing through her nose between strokes, it depends.) and on keeping her hand on me.
This method took me receiving oral from: this is pretty fun, but if she wants to make me finish it will take 45 minutes or more and a ton of variety and difficulty. To: get the flavored lube out, and sit on the end of the couch honey, I'm gonna cum in your mouth within the next five minutes.
You don't "convince" anyone to perform any sexual act. Enthusiastic consent is a must.
Our wiki has a page on communication if you'd like help discussing it with her. If she gives *enthusiastic* consent then our [BJ wiki](https://reddit.com/r/sextips/w/faq/oral_on_penises?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share) has tips on training a gag reflex but there are physical limitations and depending on your girth it may not be possible for her.
Also, for prolonged face fucking, bear in mind that she will need to breathe and that isn't possible with your penis in her throat. I'm a sex worker and the amount of clients who expect me not to come up for air is ridiculous. Porn is often edited to make it seem more extreme than is physically possible.
Agreed. Pushy will likely turn her off it completely. Get her to kiss it first and get used to having it near her mouth. Never know, she might secretly have BJs as a fantasy
My wife prides herself in how she can take my member all the way down without a gag. But I can sure as hell make her gag by going way too far. Enthusiasm and enjoying it help I for her definitely. your wife will want to do it for that to happen
I think you're focusing on it too much. If your wife gives u bj then tell her how u like it and if she doesn't gives you it you can tell her to try. I have been there where my ex didn't like it but she did it eventually and I never forced her or taunted her it's all about communication.
Yeah so your more extreme than me. I would just like her to perform it at her own pace. In respect. I want to talk to her about it. So I guess convince was not the best word. Been with her for 25 plus years so yeah we respect each other.
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Deep throating takes practice and you have to train your throat to open like that. I would suggest buying a dildo to practice with. Also, it’s nearly Impossible to deep throat and swallow at the same time, so you need to get past gagging and some accumulation of saliva. It’s okay to get a little messy, nothing crazy but it’s going to happen. It’s normal to gag, and sometimes I enjoy gagging a little, doesn’t mean that I’m going to puke everywhere. When I gag a little, it shows my enthusiasm and that arouses me while doing it.
It's over hyped. During a normal blowjob my wife can't go more than probably 30% of the way down. But when the circumstances are perfect and we go at the right angle, we can get closer to like 80% And that 80% feels pretty much the same, maybe even a little less stimulation, than the 30% IMHO, you wanna have the wildest "deepthroat" feeling possible, if she grips a little tighter with her hand, and pushes her lips against her fist, with a good amount of lubrication (either a flavored water based lube or just saliva is fine) and then moves her hand all the way down while she goes with her mouth, it straight up feels like she is swallowing the whole thing over and over. It especially feels that way with two hands if her and your anatomy (hand size and penis length) work for that. This process gives way more stimulation than any actual deep throating. Also: there is way more stimulation to be had than even that process, but it doesn't feel like deep throat at all. Facefucking, but very shallow face fucking. Not the super intense shoving it way down her throat way you see here on reddit or all over bdsm porn. This is so stimulating, at least for me, that it is the only way I have ever found from oral sex that I can finish from with relative ease. Here is how we do that: she gets into a comfortable seated position that aligns her height well with my hips. She leans her head down for a blowjob and I grab a hold of her hair. She controls the depth, and I pull her AWAY, never forcing her down. For some reason, I cannot pinpoint why, this is the most stimulating feeling possible from oral sex. She focuses on the depth and on moving her hand up and down with the motion. I focus on the speed and the feeling of control. As I get close to finishing I pull her all the way away and start rocking my hips, still not forcing myself down her throat in any way, but just using my hips now instead of pulling her head around. She focuses on breathing (which sometimes means pulling away completely and sometimes just means breathing through her nose between strokes, it depends.) and on keeping her hand on me. This method took me receiving oral from: this is pretty fun, but if she wants to make me finish it will take 45 minutes or more and a ton of variety and difficulty. To: get the flavored lube out, and sit on the end of the couch honey, I'm gonna cum in your mouth within the next five minutes.
You don't "convince" anyone to perform any sexual act. Enthusiastic consent is a must. Our wiki has a page on communication if you'd like help discussing it with her. If she gives *enthusiastic* consent then our [BJ wiki](https://reddit.com/r/sextips/w/faq/oral_on_penises?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share) has tips on training a gag reflex but there are physical limitations and depending on your girth it may not be possible for her. Also, for prolonged face fucking, bear in mind that she will need to breathe and that isn't possible with your penis in her throat. I'm a sex worker and the amount of clients who expect me not to come up for air is ridiculous. Porn is often edited to make it seem more extreme than is physically possible.
Agreed. Pushy will likely turn her off it completely. Get her to kiss it first and get used to having it near her mouth. Never know, she might secretly have BJs as a fantasy
My wife prides herself in how she can take my member all the way down without a gag. But I can sure as hell make her gag by going way too far. Enthusiasm and enjoying it help I for her definitely. your wife will want to do it for that to happen
I think you're focusing on it too much. If your wife gives u bj then tell her how u like it and if she doesn't gives you it you can tell her to try. I have been there where my ex didn't like it but she did it eventually and I never forced her or taunted her it's all about communication.
PSA: Deepthroat isn’t the only component of a good blowjob
Yeah so your more extreme than me. I would just like her to perform it at her own pace. In respect. I want to talk to her about it. So I guess convince was not the best word. Been with her for 25 plus years so yeah we respect each other.