Day 6 check in.
Off to rehab for four weeks today. I’ve had too many day 1s and need to try something different, hence the rehab.
I’ll be checking in when I can whilst away but internet use is restricted where I am going.
I’m determined to get on top of this disease 💪
IWNDWYT
Thanks Brighter 🌟
I’m a bit nervous and I’m going to miss my cat massively, but I’ve got to do this. Being told by a doctor in A&E last weekend that I was very likely a few hours away from it all being over was a big wake up call!
Well I had a good day off although very unproductive haha. Highlight was the pup deciding during my mid day nap that he also needed to join me.
He kinda does this thing where if I leave my door open and my blackout blinds are closed he knows that its my bedtime so he also just decides its his too despite whatever time it is.
It is adorable and makes me feel awesome that he takes the time to just cuddle and sleep with me. He really is my little sobriety buddy!
I hope you all get to enjoy your morning/noon/night and as always much love from me and mine to you and yours and IWNDWYT!
Thank you for taking care of us this week Jellies.
Wishing everyone a very happy start to this new week.
I’m just content to keep living in the moment
IWNDWYT.
I absolutely WNDWYT!
This week I'm travelling to our internal project review meeting. Naturally things are not going as smoothly as planned in the project outline, so it's a week highly charged with the balance of "not my fault", "my responsibility". Today's check in is perfect for me to reflect on 😉
Good weekend finished. Lots to take in this week, work wise - clear thinking and ability to focus is the order of the day (and therefore booze is very much not).
IWNDWY rather ace sobernaughts Today.
Thanks [Exotic\_Jellies](https://www.reddit.com/user/Exotic_Jellies/) for doing the DCI for us. Up early, dog is always up and about at 6am. I will not drink with you all today
Very anxious today but not planning on drinking anyway. Gotta get through the work day, then exercise and eat some good veggies that I cooked yesterday. Happy monday everybody and IWNDWYT ! ✨
A new week, a new start. I’ve still got some unexplained bruises from Saturday and I still feel sick about getting so drunk I didn’t even make the party. But I need to forgive myself, hope my friend forgives me and learn how to move forward.
I’m scared of not recognising myself without being a ‘drinker’ because what do I do without that? But I tried to make a list yesterday of the things that bring me joy and nowhere on the list did drinking come. It’s also made me realise I need to reassess my friendships, the ones that make me feel like myself the most.
All being said…IWNDWYT
Day 16. Reached out to my ex this morning and ended up spending the day together, went on a 2.5hr walk. Very unexpected but turned out to be a great day
Thanks for hosting this week, u/Exotic_Jellies!
Damn right fault is easy. All of it is my fault. That’s it. Not really, but that’s how I always operated. Which is exhausting. Some things are my fault, but not literally everything.
I’ve seen those 9 truths before and I need to read that book. I liked We Are The Luckiest a lot.
Coffees up, horns up, and let’s fucking go!! Busy day…work, therapy, then Drain/Terror show. Because doesn’t everyone go to therapy and then hardcore shows after work? 🤣
IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻
Day 1 again. I don't think I have a choice frankly, yesterday my body showed me it has lost the ability to process alcohol. A rather moderate amount left me feeling absolutely roofied- I was home so no real chance of that. I am really hurting myself drinking and I need to stop.
Happy sober Monday sober friends!
Thank you for looking after us this week EJ. I’ll take responsibility for my day with you by happily not drinking with you!
I love you all 💞
Day 48- I appreciate what you have to say @Exotic_Jellies. I relate to this a lot. I happily carry a lot of responsibility for my behavior and it makes me a better person every day. I’m beyond proud of the person I am when I’m sober. Being responsible for my life is tough, but beyond worth it. IWNDWYT
Day 19, I will not drink today or tonight
I've gotten back into walking everywhere and getting my steps in over the past few days which I rarely had the energy to do when I was drinking. Feels good to be more active
Thanks for hosting u/Exotic_Jellies, and thanks for the great post. I don't know her work, so I look forward to hearing more. I am not drinking today. No way.
Not today. Big week ahead of me. Last thing I want to do is slow my head down. I don’t need to escape anymore. Instead, I need to be me and be present to be successful.
IWNDWYT
Back from a great vacation. First vacation in a long time without a drop of alcohol. Funny how I didn't have an anxiety burst or shame spiral while I was away. I really appreciate how much better my life feels without alcohol muddying the waters.
Thanks for hosting, Exotic! I have not read those books so I’m excited for your week of sharing the concepts 📚 I’m headed to Alabama for the first time for a work trip, my first real trip to the south, and excited to see whats it’s like and how many NA options they have. Honestly, I’m more worried about meat-free options, as a vegetarian… 😂. Four days around funders and donors and pressure and that’s when I drink — or rather, that’s when I USED TO DRINK. No more! IWNDWYT
Feelin great on morning 8 👌 these bizarre dreams are entertaining at this point. No 🌲either, not sure if I plan to stay without that as I honestly use for medical and doesn't cause me issues..but who knows?? Keepin an open 🧠 this ⏰️IWNHDWYT.........PS. I think I need a IWNHDWYT secret society t-shirt 🤔
Good morning, sober cats!
>I’m allowing myself to live now and face forward.
I'll practice doing this today. Love and gratitude and high fives to all of you. IWNDWYT 💙😸
Responsibility is what gets me. It’s something I’ve been working on. Recently I’ve leaned that I’m probably codependent. Honestly, I’ve been a bit hesitant to explore that very much, but I guess I will have to.
Responsibility has always been tough for me. I’ve internalized the idea that I’m irresponsible in everything other than work (or school when I was a child).
I’ve spent most of my life feeling at fault for and responsible for other people’s unhappiness. Basically I’ve felt responsible for things that I could not possibly be responsible for, and my inability to control or fix those things led me to believe I must be irresponsible.
Alcohol (and THC, and other “process” addictions) have been my way to numb the pain of not feeling good enough. They worked until they didn’t.
Now my goal is to take an honest look at myself. To take responsibility for the things that ARE my responsibility and to accept the rest. It’s ok to feel compassion for another’s pain, but I can’t fix it or control them to make things better. That’s their responsibility.
IWNDWYT.
On Day 7.
Wanted to share a quick story: I went to a get-together for a friend’s bday last night. She had snapped me a pic of the Athletic she was drinking earlier in the day and I realized her snaps had primarily included those whenever she was out. So last minute I threw together a mini 4pk sampler of some Brew Dog NA beers for a gift. She really liked it. She asked me at the party why I also appeared to be on the NA beer train. I told her I just wanted to focus on a healthy diet and didn’t want alcohol to interfere with exercise. (Not a total lie.) She told me she just felt like she’d been drinking too much lately (girl, same).
It’s cool to know my friends of similar age and hobbies are also choosing not to drink. And I’m so happy the craft NA industry has really taken off because I find I don’t actually enjoy getting a buzz or getting drunk — I just like the taste of beer and something to sip while I’m socializing. I wasn’t even tempted by (was almost repulsed by) the actual alcoholic drinks available to guests whereas in the past I’d never turn down a free White Claw.
Anyway — IWNDWYT!
Thank you for hosting, u/Exotic_Jellies! I’m also a people pleaser trying to work on my unhealthy mindsets and habits. Have a great week everyone, and I will not drink with you 🌿
Day 21, 3 weeks! (Trying to motivate myself by setting mini milestones rather than just focusing on the 30,60,90 marks.) Fault and blame are such good topics for me right now. Since everyone was mad at me for my latest incident, my reaction after the initial depression, shame, and remorse was to lash back at them all in my head. Didn’t they drink too? Hadn’t they encouraged my drinking and even poured me drinks I didn’t want? Hadn’t they all stood by for years and let me get overwhelmed with caretaking and responsibilities and done nothing to help?
Sounds so ridiculous typing it out! But it’s been swirling around my head for weeks, and I’ve got to figure out a way to let go of the idea of fault and to take more responsibility for myself. Wish there was a magic button to press to sort out my own thinking, but I’m hopeful that awareness is the first step, and I’ll get there!
Hey! I made it through another trigger weekend... took the kids camping which used to mean, setup tent the pour whiskey. I definitely felt the pull while I was there, but was so happy spending the higher-quality time with my kids sober.
Thank you for hosting us this week, u/Exotic_Jellies! And thank you for that beautiful share. Fault v responsibility really hit home for me.
Today is my birthday. It is my first sober birthday since I was 15 years old, and I am now 39. I mourn the years I lost to alcohol, but I celebrate my sobriety and I embrace the journey that I am on now. Last year on my birthday I was bitter, drunk, and suicidal. This year I have clarity, gratitude, and sobriety! I am so happy to be alive.
IWNDWYT!!!
Day 379 and IWNDWYT! This coming Sunday I’ll be competing in a 70.3 Ironman triathlon for the first time. I’ve spent the last 6months training for it. Improving my health has been a big staple of sobriety and this will be a huge testament to my dedication over the last year.🦾🦾
I’m ready but also nervous at the same time.
68 days sober. Reaching a point I used to always think about early on reading people’s posts. I am falling in love with being alcohol free. I love myself again. My old soul and newly discovered patience gives me so much peace. If you are just getting started or sober curious just take the leap of faith. Call it a test drive to see which life you love more. 40/M in Pennsylvania and I will not drink with you today.
Yesterday I did a 90 minute workout that I literally couldn’t have managed had I been drinking anymore. I talked about this yesterday so I won’t belabor that point. As I was walking back to my car after, I passed a bar. It was noon and people were sitting outside drinking. I had this weird moment of like existential collision. Like my old life and new life met. Going to the bar at precisely noon to get my drink on isn’t my life anymore. Seeing it didn’t even make me sad or nostalgic. Instead I thought wow, I’m so glad I spent my morning sweating hard instead. I hope this doesn’t sound smug but when I was a drinker I always saw runners or people busting ass working out and there I was shitty hungover or drinking and wished that was me. Now? It *is* me. IWNDWYT.
Wow, OP, that’s some deep stuff. It’s not my fault, but it is my responsibility. It takes the shame away and gives me strength to keep going. I’m so glad you’re leading us this week! IWNDWYT
Good morning sober family :) I’m always thankful to wake up on Mondays feeling fresh and ready for anything. Even when I know I have a busy week ahead, I know I’m going into it at full strength and I will get through it!
I hope you all have a wonderful day :) Just for today, I am not drinking.
Checking in on what is hopefully my last day 2. It’s amazing how quickly we can forget the pain caused by a weekend binge and then convince ourselves it will be different next time. I’m so tired of being half the person I’m capable of being.
Day 45. Gonna be a full day. Work meeting this morning then some chores and a workout this afternoon. Then I get to go spend some time with my doggos. Haven't seen them in almost a week and I miss the hell out of them. Smart meeting tonight to round out the day.
On Saturday, I ran into someone I haven't seen in a few months and she looked amazing. So I said Hey! You look amazing! She replied that she hadn't had a drink in 9 weeks. I told her that I hadn't had a drink in 6 weeks and was feeling pretty good about it. Was a great a-ha moment for me. Other people are doing it too. Even people I know. We chatted for 10 minutes about how great we both feel being AF. Super grateful for that little run in.
Onward and upward!
I didn't drink yesterday and I won't drink today.
Thanks for hosting the DCI this week, E_J! I love your meditation on fault and responsibility. I also love that, outside of clinical therapy done at other times in my life, I've never focused so much on trying to be a better version of myself than during sobriety. I'm more open somehow to these ideas and meditations, and to attempting to put them into practice.
Checking in for another sober day out in the world. Happy sober Monday, everyone!
Day 57 🫶
Oh boy I slept like crap and woke up in the middle of the night sick and covered in cold sweats. It reminded me of when waking up in the middle of the night feeling like shit was a daily occurrence.
I work today, but I have an easy morning bc it’s a pd day and my son slept at a friend’s house.
I’m excited to have a good day at work. Come home and see my amazing partner. And my amazing kids.
Today I feel grateful ❤️
Off on holiday today! So glad to be back at a week's sobriety as I'm heading out. Built myself a snackle box so I don't have to set foot in any restaurants/bars at the airport.
IWNDWYT
Decent weekend… husband wanted to watch music at a distillery of all places 😅 I ordered a mocktail and did just fine. Next day a graduation party and yesterday I hit the internet to find alcohol alternatives (eventually i know i won’t even care but right now it’s a distraction… there are so many new options). Congrats to everyone on a new sober day. IWNDWYT!
Day 12, managed a visit with an old friend all day yesterday and just drank water. One of the better visits I’ve had.
Oh, and I will not drink with anyone tonight, including you!
It's been much easier than I expected, so far. But I'm not going to get complacent because I've done that before and found myself with a beer in my hand before I knew what was happening. Got to keep taking one day at a time. IWNDWYT
Whassup Jellies! Thanks for tossing out some McKowen today. This IS my responsibility and I take responsibility by working on sobriety and by not drinking alcohol. But there's so much shit I'm not responsible for! 🤣🤣 and letting go of my perception of over responsibility is something I've learned in sobriety. Sober on y'all!
Well said today, OP. Fault and responsibility is exactly what got cleared up when I first got sober. I just never knew it until today. Thank you for highlighting the difference between the two.
IWNDWYT. Easy does it, friends.
Good morning! Lovely summer day here in NoVa. Feeling very over-sensitive and I know it’s brain chemicals so am trying to be extra kind to myself today. Suggestions for little bitty dopamine hits to keep me going are welcome. 😇
IWNDWYT!
Day 6 check in. Off to rehab for four weeks today. I’ve had too many day 1s and need to try something different, hence the rehab. I’ll be checking in when I can whilst away but internet use is restricted where I am going. I’m determined to get on top of this disease 💪 IWNDWYT
I believe in you! IWNDWYT 🫶💪
Thank you so much ☺️
I’m proud of you Pompey, and we’re all right here with you 🤝🌟
Thanks Brighter 🌟 I’m a bit nervous and I’m going to miss my cat massively, but I’ve got to do this. Being told by a doctor in A&E last weekend that I was very likely a few hours away from it all being over was a big wake up call!
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Brave choice Pompey. Go get it 💪
9 months today ✨ I’m doing fine 😊 IWNDWYT! 💪
Congratulations on your nine months!!
Thank you 😊 I couldn’t have done it without this community ❤️
I feel the same way. This community is the absolute best!
Yay! Go Ad! (it’s me old pestycelesty 😉 still here just changed accounts heheh) great job! 👏🏼 wooooo
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Will, always the fastest! I’m so glad you’re here. IWNDWYT!
Drinking causes my depression, fuck depression instead IWNDWYT
Damn straight!
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Absolutely be proud of yourself! You are KILLING IT!
IWNDWYT
Rock and roll! 🤘🏽
IWNDWYT ❤️
Every sober day is a great day! Keep up the fight!
Well I had a good day off although very unproductive haha. Highlight was the pup deciding during my mid day nap that he also needed to join me. He kinda does this thing where if I leave my door open and my blackout blinds are closed he knows that its my bedtime so he also just decides its his too despite whatever time it is. It is adorable and makes me feel awesome that he takes the time to just cuddle and sleep with me. He really is my little sobriety buddy! I hope you all get to enjoy your morning/noon/night and as always much love from me and mine to you and yours and IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT
Thanks for looking after us this week EJ. Today I'm a royalist as I've enjoyed my Monday off work Shine on you beautiful humans
Thanks for having me!
Thank you for taking care of us this week Jellies. Wishing everyone a very happy start to this new week. I’m just content to keep living in the moment IWNDWYT.
Happy Monday! I’m so glad to be here with you.
I will always appreciate hangover free Mondays. No drinking today! We’ve got this!
Day 5. Made it through the airport lounge and red eye flight without anything to drink yesterday!
IWNDWYT
Thanks, and same!
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Day 1079 checking in!
So fantastic! IWNDWYT
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Day 1379 check in. IWNDWYT.
That’s amazing! I’m so glad you’re here.
Thank you, my friend and likewise!
I will not drink with you today
IWNDWYT 🙂
IWNDWYT. Gotta stay strong!
Day 395. IWNDWYT.
I absolutely WNDWYT! This week I'm travelling to our internal project review meeting. Naturally things are not going as smoothly as planned in the project outline, so it's a week highly charged with the balance of "not my fault", "my responsibility". Today's check in is perfect for me to reflect on 😉
I’m so glad! I wish you all the luck with your project. Have a great week!
Wishing strength and dignity to us all today. Sobriety is an amazing gift and IWNDWYT.
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IWNDWYT! ♥️
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29 days down, 1 to go for a month! Not Today Satan!
Day 31. 💪 IWNDWYT.
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IWNDWYT. Can’t promise about the day after like I usually do. But for now, that’s what I have in me.
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Feeling very “meh” today. Going to do a sluggish run on the treadmill before work. IWNDWYT ⭐️
Day 10. The days are starting to tick by faster. 60 min bike coming up followed by an easy 45 min run. Then a full work day. IWNDWYT.
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Back after the weekend checking in for Monday! 55 days down! IWNDWYT
Woohoo!
I won’t drink today.
IWNDWYT!
Not drinking today
IWNDWYT Thanks for hosting, u/Exotic_Jellies!
Day one! My kid deserves me sober!
I will not drink with you in Germany today!
Good weekend finished. Lots to take in this week, work wise - clear thinking and ability to focus is the order of the day (and therefore booze is very much not). IWNDWY rather ace sobernaughts Today.
Day 3 of Winter Pledge: IWNDWYT >>> FALDU (From A Land Down Under).
Thanks [Exotic\_Jellies](https://www.reddit.com/user/Exotic_Jellies/) for doing the DCI for us. Up early, dog is always up and about at 6am. I will not drink with you all today
Iwndwyt
IWNDWYT!
Thank you for this 🙏 IWNDWYT
Very anxious today but not planning on drinking anyway. Gotta get through the work day, then exercise and eat some good veggies that I cooked yesterday. Happy monday everybody and IWNDWYT ! ✨
A new week, a new start. I’ve still got some unexplained bruises from Saturday and I still feel sick about getting so drunk I didn’t even make the party. But I need to forgive myself, hope my friend forgives me and learn how to move forward. I’m scared of not recognising myself without being a ‘drinker’ because what do I do without that? But I tried to make a list yesterday of the things that bring me joy and nowhere on the list did drinking come. It’s also made me realise I need to reassess my friendships, the ones that make me feel like myself the most. All being said…IWNDWYT
iwndwyt!
I will stay sober today.
Day 2 checking in. IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today!
IWNDWYT 🙂
I will not drink with you today.
Good morning all! I need to start going to bed earlier, I feel knackered. At least I'm not hungover!! Iwndwyt!
IWNDWYT..have a great Monday and no matter what happens today you do not need a drink!
Day 1,682 IWNDWYT
A new day, a new week, a new beginning with boundless opportunities. Have a great week 👊. I will not drink with you today friends 💚 🍀
Day 16. Reached out to my ex this morning and ended up spending the day together, went on a 2.5hr walk. Very unexpected but turned out to be a great day
Thanks for hosting this week, u/Exotic_Jellies! Damn right fault is easy. All of it is my fault. That’s it. Not really, but that’s how I always operated. Which is exhausting. Some things are my fault, but not literally everything. I’ve seen those 9 truths before and I need to read that book. I liked We Are The Luckiest a lot. Coffees up, horns up, and let’s fucking go!! Busy day…work, therapy, then Drain/Terror show. Because doesn’t everyone go to therapy and then hardcore shows after work? 🤣 IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻
Day 1 again. I don't think I have a choice frankly, yesterday my body showed me it has lost the ability to process alcohol. A rather moderate amount left me feeling absolutely roofied- I was home so no real chance of that. I am really hurting myself drinking and I need to stop.
I love this!! Thank you! IWNDWYT 💜🦋💜
Happy sober Monday sober friends! Thank you for looking after us this week EJ. I’ll take responsibility for my day with you by happily not drinking with you! I love you all 💞
Aw, thanks, Brighter! You’re such a shining light on this sub.
Checking in, Day 48. Danger Zone. Lets do this 💪 IWND ☠️ WYT.
I am not finding reasons to drink today!
Day 48- I appreciate what you have to say @Exotic_Jellies. I relate to this a lot. I happily carry a lot of responsibility for my behavior and it makes me a better person every day. I’m beyond proud of the person I am when I’m sober. Being responsible for my life is tough, but beyond worth it. IWNDWYT
Jam tomorrow and jam yesterday, but never ham today. And no jam either. Ha! IWNDWYT
Day 1. I will not drink today.
Day 19, I will not drink today or tonight I've gotten back into walking everywhere and getting my steps in over the past few days which I rarely had the energy to do when I was drinking. Feels good to be more active
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Day 33, IWNDWYT 🙌
IWNDWYT (:
I will be sober today.
Thanks for hosting u/Exotic_Jellies, and thanks for the great post. I don't know her work, so I look forward to hearing more. I am not drinking today. No way.
Not today. Big week ahead of me. Last thing I want to do is slow my head down. I don’t need to escape anymore. Instead, I need to be me and be present to be successful.
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IWNDWYT Meditation streak: 43 days
IWNDWYT Back from a great vacation. First vacation in a long time without a drop of alcohol. Funny how I didn't have an anxiety burst or shame spiral while I was away. I really appreciate how much better my life feels without alcohol muddying the waters.
Thanks for hosting, Exotic! I have not read those books so I’m excited for your week of sharing the concepts 📚 I’m headed to Alabama for the first time for a work trip, my first real trip to the south, and excited to see whats it’s like and how many NA options they have. Honestly, I’m more worried about meat-free options, as a vegetarian… 😂. Four days around funders and donors and pressure and that’s when I drink — or rather, that’s when I USED TO DRINK. No more! IWNDWYT
I will not drink today
Feelin great on morning 8 👌 these bizarre dreams are entertaining at this point. No 🌲either, not sure if I plan to stay without that as I honestly use for medical and doesn't cause me issues..but who knows?? Keepin an open 🧠 this ⏰️IWNHDWYT.........PS. I think I need a IWNHDWYT secret society t-shirt 🤔
I will not drink with you today
Hi SD family. Im staying ☠️ free with you all again today.
Checking in for another sober day IWNDWYT🧋☕️😊
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IWNDWYT!
Thanks for hosting the DCI [u/Exotic\_Jellies](https://www.reddit.com/user/Exotic_Jellies/). Have a great start to the week everyone! IWNDWYT!!!
Keeping on not drinking with you good peoples today.
Morning friends! Thanks for taking I’ve the DCI, u/Exotic_Jellies! I will not drink with you today.
I will not drink today
Thank you for the post OP, it really rang true to my reasons for drinking so I really appreciate it. IWNDWYT
Another day where I will not be drinking. Have a good day everyone
Hello, good Monday IWNDWYT and whole week ^^
day 91!! IWNDWYT
A HUNDO, BABY! IWNDWYT
Good morning, sober cats! >I’m allowing myself to live now and face forward. I'll practice doing this today. Love and gratitude and high fives to all of you. IWNDWYT 💙😸
Thank you for hosting Jellies. I will not drink with you. ,❤️
Not today people IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT :)
IWNDWYT Day 24
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Happy Monday Friends, IWNDWYT, WE GOT THIS 🙂
Hi Everyone- Day 153 here and IWNDWYT!!!
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Checking in again today and all is well.
Bonjour tout le monde ! Je ne vais pas boire avec vous aujourd'hui (basically the IWNDWYT in french) ! Bisou !
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Day 1,783. Thanks for hosting, [Exotic\_Jellies](https://www.reddit.com/user/Exotic_Jellies/)! I will not drink with you today.
I love Laura. IWNDWYT. Day 15
Responsibility is what gets me. It’s something I’ve been working on. Recently I’ve leaned that I’m probably codependent. Honestly, I’ve been a bit hesitant to explore that very much, but I guess I will have to. Responsibility has always been tough for me. I’ve internalized the idea that I’m irresponsible in everything other than work (or school when I was a child). I’ve spent most of my life feeling at fault for and responsible for other people’s unhappiness. Basically I’ve felt responsible for things that I could not possibly be responsible for, and my inability to control or fix those things led me to believe I must be irresponsible. Alcohol (and THC, and other “process” addictions) have been my way to numb the pain of not feeling good enough. They worked until they didn’t. Now my goal is to take an honest look at myself. To take responsibility for the things that ARE my responsibility and to accept the rest. It’s ok to feel compassion for another’s pain, but I can’t fix it or control them to make things better. That’s their responsibility. IWNDWYT.
On Day 7. Wanted to share a quick story: I went to a get-together for a friend’s bday last night. She had snapped me a pic of the Athletic she was drinking earlier in the day and I realized her snaps had primarily included those whenever she was out. So last minute I threw together a mini 4pk sampler of some Brew Dog NA beers for a gift. She really liked it. She asked me at the party why I also appeared to be on the NA beer train. I told her I just wanted to focus on a healthy diet and didn’t want alcohol to interfere with exercise. (Not a total lie.) She told me she just felt like she’d been drinking too much lately (girl, same). It’s cool to know my friends of similar age and hobbies are also choosing not to drink. And I’m so happy the craft NA industry has really taken off because I find I don’t actually enjoy getting a buzz or getting drunk — I just like the taste of beer and something to sip while I’m socializing. I wasn’t even tempted by (was almost repulsed by) the actual alcoholic drinks available to guests whereas in the past I’d never turn down a free White Claw. Anyway — IWNDWYT!
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Iwndwy’allt! ❤️
IWNDWYT, my friends
Wise words Exotic_Jellies thank you. IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you all today 🫶🏼☀️🤍✨
Thank you for hosting, u/Exotic_Jellies! I’m also a people pleaser trying to work on my unhealthy mindsets and habits. Have a great week everyone, and I will not drink with you 🌿
Wishing everyone a happy Monday … iwndwyt
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Day 21, 3 weeks! (Trying to motivate myself by setting mini milestones rather than just focusing on the 30,60,90 marks.) Fault and blame are such good topics for me right now. Since everyone was mad at me for my latest incident, my reaction after the initial depression, shame, and remorse was to lash back at them all in my head. Didn’t they drink too? Hadn’t they encouraged my drinking and even poured me drinks I didn’t want? Hadn’t they all stood by for years and let me get overwhelmed with caretaking and responsibilities and done nothing to help? Sounds so ridiculous typing it out! But it’s been swirling around my head for weeks, and I’ve got to figure out a way to let go of the idea of fault and to take more responsibility for myself. Wish there was a magic button to press to sort out my own thinking, but I’m hopeful that awareness is the first step, and I’ll get there!
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Just so extremely tired of this. Drinking has never made anything better or easier. I am done. Day 2. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. Day 5.
Hey! I made it through another trigger weekend... took the kids camping which used to mean, setup tent the pour whiskey. I definitely felt the pull while I was there, but was so happy spending the higher-quality time with my kids sober.
Thank you for hosting us this week, u/Exotic_Jellies! And thank you for that beautiful share. Fault v responsibility really hit home for me. Today is my birthday. It is my first sober birthday since I was 15 years old, and I am now 39. I mourn the years I lost to alcohol, but I celebrate my sobriety and I embrace the journey that I am on now. Last year on my birthday I was bitter, drunk, and suicidal. This year I have clarity, gratitude, and sobriety! I am so happy to be alive. IWNDWYT!!!
Day 379 and IWNDWYT! This coming Sunday I’ll be competing in a 70.3 Ironman triathlon for the first time. I’ve spent the last 6months training for it. Improving my health has been a big staple of sobriety and this will be a huge testament to my dedication over the last year.🦾🦾 I’m ready but also nervous at the same time.
68 days sober. Reaching a point I used to always think about early on reading people’s posts. I am falling in love with being alcohol free. I love myself again. My old soul and newly discovered patience gives me so much peace. If you are just getting started or sober curious just take the leap of faith. Call it a test drive to see which life you love more. 40/M in Pennsylvania and I will not drink with you today.
Yesterday I did a 90 minute workout that I literally couldn’t have managed had I been drinking anymore. I talked about this yesterday so I won’t belabor that point. As I was walking back to my car after, I passed a bar. It was noon and people were sitting outside drinking. I had this weird moment of like existential collision. Like my old life and new life met. Going to the bar at precisely noon to get my drink on isn’t my life anymore. Seeing it didn’t even make me sad or nostalgic. Instead I thought wow, I’m so glad I spent my morning sweating hard instead. I hope this doesn’t sound smug but when I was a drinker I always saw runners or people busting ass working out and there I was shitty hungover or drinking and wished that was me. Now? It *is* me. IWNDWYT.
Day 10 here we go
Wow, OP, that’s some deep stuff. It’s not my fault, but it is my responsibility. It takes the shame away and gives me strength to keep going. I’m so glad you’re leading us this week! IWNDWYT
Good morning sober family :) I’m always thankful to wake up on Mondays feeling fresh and ready for anything. Even when I know I have a busy week ahead, I know I’m going into it at full strength and I will get through it! I hope you all have a wonderful day :) Just for today, I am not drinking.
Checking in on what is hopefully my last day 2. It’s amazing how quickly we can forget the pain caused by a weekend binge and then convince ourselves it will be different next time. I’m so tired of being half the person I’m capable of being.
Day 45. Gonna be a full day. Work meeting this morning then some chores and a workout this afternoon. Then I get to go spend some time with my doggos. Haven't seen them in almost a week and I miss the hell out of them. Smart meeting tonight to round out the day. On Saturday, I ran into someone I haven't seen in a few months and she looked amazing. So I said Hey! You look amazing! She replied that she hadn't had a drink in 9 weeks. I told her that I hadn't had a drink in 6 weeks and was feeling pretty good about it. Was a great a-ha moment for me. Other people are doing it too. Even people I know. We chatted for 10 minutes about how great we both feel being AF. Super grateful for that little run in. Onward and upward! I didn't drink yesterday and I won't drink today.
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Thank you for hosting, Exotic_Jellies! IWNDWYT!
Thanks for hosting the DCI this week, E_J! I love your meditation on fault and responsibility. I also love that, outside of clinical therapy done at other times in my life, I've never focused so much on trying to be a better version of myself than during sobriety. I'm more open somehow to these ideas and meditations, and to attempting to put them into practice. Checking in for another sober day out in the world. Happy sober Monday, everyone!
Day 57 🫶 Oh boy I slept like crap and woke up in the middle of the night sick and covered in cold sweats. It reminded me of when waking up in the middle of the night feeling like shit was a daily occurrence. I work today, but I have an easy morning bc it’s a pd day and my son slept at a friend’s house. I’m excited to have a good day at work. Come home and see my amazing partner. And my amazing kids. Today I feel grateful ❤️
Hell no we won’t go! Still sober. Enjoyed waking up today sober. Sleep is still wonky.
Off on holiday today! So glad to be back at a week's sobriety as I'm heading out. Built myself a snackle box so I don't have to set foot in any restaurants/bars at the airport. IWNDWYT
Decent weekend… husband wanted to watch music at a distillery of all places 😅 I ordered a mocktail and did just fine. Next day a graduation party and yesterday I hit the internet to find alcohol alternatives (eventually i know i won’t even care but right now it’s a distraction… there are so many new options). Congrats to everyone on a new sober day. IWNDWYT!
Day 12, managed a visit with an old friend all day yesterday and just drank water. One of the better visits I’ve had. Oh, and I will not drink with anyone tonight, including you!
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Not today Satan. IWNDWYT
About to finish my first coffee then going on a walk. This evening I have Pilates. IWNDWYT
It's been much easier than I expected, so far. But I'm not going to get complacent because I've done that before and found myself with a beer in my hand before I knew what was happening. Got to keep taking one day at a time. IWNDWYT
1 week sober! I guess technically it’s just the start of my 7th day but I know I’m not drinking today, so I’m celebrating it! IWNDWYT!
Good monday morning all. Dealing with stress without alcohol certainly takes some getting used too. I'm grateful that I get to figure it out. IWNDWYT.
Day 3! I will not drink with you today! Feel great, thanks everybody! Have a great day!
Whassup Jellies! Thanks for tossing out some McKowen today. This IS my responsibility and I take responsibility by working on sobriety and by not drinking alcohol. But there's so much shit I'm not responsible for! 🤣🤣 and letting go of my perception of over responsibility is something I've learned in sobriety. Sober on y'all!
Well said today, OP. Fault and responsibility is exactly what got cleared up when I first got sober. I just never knew it until today. Thank you for highlighting the difference between the two. IWNDWYT. Easy does it, friends.
I will not drink alcohol to cover my problems and feelings today. It only makes my life worse when I do that.
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Morning all! I will not drink with you beautiful people today❤️
Good morning! Lovely summer day here in NoVa. Feeling very over-sensitive and I know it’s brain chemicals so am trying to be extra kind to myself today. Suggestions for little bitty dopamine hits to keep me going are welcome. 😇 IWNDWYT!