Iām sorry. She shouldāve definitely gone with you especially after the effort you put in to secure those tickets for her & especially if you enjoy some songs just to because she loves Taylor sm. Sorry this happened to you. She seems very ungrateful.
Honestly I feel she doesn't care about you the same way you care for her I mean if you said to me while looking hurt that I should bring whoever I want and not bring you just because ypu planned for it that way I would immediately say sorry and tell my friend she can't go. If I were in your situation, I would be rethinking my future with a partner like this.
Donāt you have a backbone? You should have said weāre going to the Taylor swift concert, and when she said with her friend you should have said NO itās for us, end of! No wonder she chose her friend, she knew you would be a pushover and just allow it.
If I bought fancy BLACKPINK tickets for my gf. Iām definitely going too. Ridiculous. OP is completely in the right. Yea he may have set himself up and agreed to give to her friend because heās kind and sweet. But sheās completely dim.
When she said she would go with you, you should have left it at that. You canāt say āyou should go with whoever you want to go withā then get upset when she does. People need to stop trying to test their partners.
Side note: There are a lot of guys that would rather go to the Super Bowl with a friend over their girlfriend, itās not a huge deal.
It doesnāt sound like youāre that big of a fan so I donāt think youāre at a loss here. Let your gf go have a girls night out. I think itās sort of petty to ask for the full ticket price, maybe ask how much she can afford, you donāt know her financial situation but you know you were able to afford the tickets.
I just want to acknowledge what a thoughtful and sweet person you are. I think if it was me I'd have said I bought them for you and I to have a special date together. I realise the friend is a massive fan but I went out of my way to do this for us as a romantic gesture.
Having said that at least you got the money for the ticket back, but I feel bad fornyou not getting to experience a concert with her. I hope she realises what a gem you are.
I think I saw a reel on Instagram about this story where the boyfriend gave his ticket to the best friend for the eras tour but I can't find her reel again. Can anyone help me find the reel or the account they were Aussie it seems
That is a sure sign for the future dude. Time to part ways. Women like that never appreciate the things you do for them. She doesn't respect you or what you have. Break up and move on. It ain't worth it in the long run.
Imo, dump her the day before the concert. Take back any spare key you might have lent her, block her number, and find a girl who prioritizes you. As well as the time you spend together, because she obviously doesn't.
Hahah. Man who has never been to a concert expects girlfriend to know this is the one he wants to go to and that she is expected to hand back half of her gift immediately so he can annoyingly try and make the experience about āthemā for life memories instead of about the music artist because heās never actually enjoyed something enough to go to a concert before and he has no clue that she is not going to be looking at him AT ALL. During the whole concert she will be singing words he doesnāt know and staring at the stage. And then heāll be all sulky about that as well. It wonāt be romantic. Heād bring her joy down progressively through the evening.
I donāt even know any song except shake it off but I can see this is a girls joy party not a man trying to control a womanās joy party. The way the gift came with strings attached was very anti Taylor Swift messaging.
And yes Iāve bought tickets for an ex to take his colleagues to a music festival. Iāve also bought a computer for an ex. No strings attached. More than some concert tickets. I didnāt expect to be able to share it. And I wasnāt rich, regular almost minimum wage. I just wanted them to have an amazing experience. $800 isnāt that much if you donāt live in an expensive city and have medical bills or a substance abuse problem or kids.
Thatās how I chose to spend my money. On people I cared about. No expectations of something in return.
And when I bought tickets for myself and someone else I said upfront, I want someone to attend this festival with me and to come with me for the drive there and back. During the musical festival I knew they had been unable to get tickets so I said you go see what you want, just make sure you meet me at xyz to make sure I can find my car in the parking lot at the end of the day/night festival.
Knowing they had best friends also attending and not wanting to hold them hostage of course I didnāt have a tantrum when they wanted to hang out with the friends at different acts.
Seriously this whole youāre in a romantic relationship so suddenly everyone you care about has to take a backseat even though you havenāt proposed yet to be talking about sharing that memory for life is controlling as heck. And selfish.
Holy shit, you are a bigger man than I am. No way in hell I would have taken that shit from her.
You did something fāing HEROIC and ROMANTIC and your AIRHEAD girlfriend of 3 years puts her girl friend before you. UNREAL
Run my guy run! I hope you've broken up with her a long time ago cuz I would've slapped the friendship out of her if I was the best friend. š¤”
Cuz I would feel guilty if my friend told me her boyfriend did ALL OF THAT to get those tickets
You should let her because no man actually wants to watch a Taylor swift show...let her take her mate and sit back and enjoy all the blowjobs your gonna get for being a sick boyfriend
seems like people are split on this, which suggests it isnāt clearly right or wrong either way.
the gf thought the bf was doing something for her, not for them. she thought it was her bf thinking about what she might love to do, which is go out to see her favourite star plus have a spare ticket for somebody else who loved that star too. that is wonderful love from the bf, pure heart and care.
the bf wasnāt thinking of it as something for her, but as something, an activity, he arranged for the gf and himself as a couple. that is okay too. then he should recognise that it isnāt something that is a gift for his gf, but for himself as the lead arranging a date. thatās beautiful.
seems the gf didnāt think he was interested in the star, and probably he wasnāt really, but he thought it could be nice to go anyway. more than that he was interested in seeing at the concert his gfās excitement and joyfulness and that she would show love and appreciation to him for getting the tickets as the event played out. totally get that.
love isnāt selfish. seems the gf is being called selfish and the bf is being called selfish.
all this thinking is turning something good into some disappointment.
the bf gave his gf a special gift, a chance to make her quasi sis, her best friend probably from way back, happy as the star is akin to a god for both of them.
if i were the bf i might give a chuckle and wink, seems i have been replaced not by another guy but by a gal! then feel delight at how happy the gfās sis, her friend, was to miraculously get the ticket.
as for charging, depends on the bfās budget, but i would probably not have charged for the ticket. it was a gift for her plus an extra ticket to bring her friend..
i suppose depending on the scenario, another way is to have said, i got one extra so you can take whoever you want but they should pay the ticket discounted ticket fee. if you donāt have a fan to go with you, i am your fan and i will go with you, and am interested in seeing the star too.ā that would have been a āswiftā (pun intended) way to save the situation and let the gf decide.
anyhow, the tickets were intended not for the gf but for the bf to have the two of them go together on a date. that is beautiful and romantic but needed to be said more quickly it seems. the bf cares about her and wanted to do something together and see her joy from his action.
nobody is wrong here. sure she loves him. sure he loves her.
people learn communication styles. she trusted him and his sincerity so she thought he really wanted it for her, her tickets from him, and for her to choose her friend who was also a fan made sense, something she could not have done without her bf, so of course he should feel pride and contentment. she found out quickly he didnāt mean the tickets for her, but he let her have them and decide, so that was good. that is true love to give for the other person.
the superbowl comparison seems good, although not everyone agrees. if she was able to get ahold of two tickets knowing his brother wanted to go, and left him the gift of sharing that, it would make sense.
the bf and gf can find something together as a date or couple that they both truly might enjoy later, more romantic like the italy trip , and she can express appreciation for the star tickets that not only did he care about her but made or possible for her to help her best childhood friend or sis enjoy it too (with the only wish to make her happy).
better to let go of the feeling bad. feel happy instead. the bf made a save in letting his gf enjoy with her friend. the gf missed a chance as she didnāt realise how disappointing her bf was. the bf manned up, let her be an excited kid (thats what she was being, like a puppy) and invite her friend instead.
i think OP , the bf, must love her very much.
again, nobody was wrong. it is learning about intentions.
not sure if bf gets that he hadnāt intended the gift for his gf, but was looking for a gift from her, her appreciation on a date,
the bf certainly realised he wanted to create memories together with his gf, so beautiful.
next, italy, but be sure to say up front before even sharing the gift that it is for the two, tje gf and bf, together! if not italy, maybe something closer to home, for the two together.
learning experience. laugh and learnā¦
life goes on.
OP is amazing, couldn't of given a nicer gift for a clear Swiftie. It sucks how the girlfriend responded but she is not 100percent a bad person just clearly not thinking.
Sometimes my husband and dad buy tickets for concerts for me and my mom under the stipulation that they don't have to go. I don't think I've ever assumed he is buying my bestie a ticket though.
Swifties are a little nuts (me being one) I don't think she meant to offend although she did. It definitely sucks. Im taking my husband to Taylor Swift although he isn't a huge fan but it gives him a reason to listen to her music with me. That gf missed an awesome opportunity to get closer to her clearly awesome man. Sorry OP.
I know this is such an old post but Iām here anywayā¦ Ok, so normally Iād be like Sheās TA but really, no one is hereā¦ youāre not a fan, she wants to go with someone that would really enjoy it.. they were a gift, you told her āyou donāt have to pick meā, then proceeded to be mad when she didnāt.. ANY other concert she wouldāve likely immediately picked you, but this whole Taylor craze is another level so if youāre not a fan like that, honestly just letting her and her bff enjoy it is major cooter coo points for you and she wouldāve been ecstatic had you thought of it that wayā¦ even if it was a āI got 2 tickets, BUT, she does have to pay for her own, in the event she canāt afford it, I will go in her placeā type of dealā¦ and then yāall go to dinner or something, but thatās just me. I canāt fathom spending that much money to see someone sing mediocre music on stage from 500 ft away lol
Iām late to the party, but the fact that you bought 2 tickets and said āI canāt wait to go!ā, but somehow she thought the second ticket was for her BFFā¦like really? These comments are so dumb. Itās not about mind-reading. Itās about common sense. Usually when your partner buys you 2 tickets to a concert or whatever, that means the plan was for you to be going together! Not to mention, at what point did you suggest the second one was for Becky when you gave her the tickets? Not sure why people are criticizing you for saying āgo with whoever you wanna go with moreā and still being hurt. You didnāt put yourself in any position. She already chose Becky and backpedaled when she saw you were hurt and realized she screwed up and said sheād be happy to go with you instead because she felt guilty. I wouldnāt want her pity either. For what itās worth, Iām glad you got your money back for the second ticket. That being said, you shouldāve stood your ground more. YOU bought those tickets and you had every right to go. Hell, you had the right to take them back if you wanted to! If my bf gave me 2 tickets to a concert (2 very expensive tickets no less), it is OUR trip. I donāt care who else is a fan of that artist/band, much less if they liked it more than him. He would 100% be there, and not just because he would have bought them and that would be his plan.
Break up with that inconsiderate person. She does not care for you and is clearly showing you that SHE DOES NOT CARE.
And guess what? She will not care for you again when other stuff happens - guaranteed šÆ
So, yea, SHE DOES NOT CARE FOR YOU
Your girlfriend lost a little bit of respect for you. That very much seemed like a test and you failed.
Youāre thinking sheās the one, sheās thinking youāre the one for now. You need to reverse that. This way her first thought wonāt be to invite her bff, itāll be you.
Should you have done things differently? Yes. I can understand feeling defeated after finding that out, but you should definitely have been more pushy. Your gf was kind of a dick. She should have picked up on you wanting to go, but some people really donāt get the hint, or miss social cues. You shouldnāt feel bad about feeling betrayed. I donāt think this is a relationship ender, but you are justified in how you feel. I think it probably speaks volumes about how *she* feels about the relationship though and I would have a talk with her about it
I didnāt know straight guys liked Taylor Swift.
But on a serious note, pretty big red flag.
Iād definitely discuss with my girlfriend and see how she handles everything. Kind of a la a second chance since you basically already brought it up. If there are more red flags like this it might be time to reevaluate because itās a pretty significant thing that happened.
Oof that's awful. If I spent 800$ on what was suppose to be a special moment for me and my girlfriend and even missed work to make it happen, then there would be no way in hell that I would just be like nah its cool, go with your bestie.
I'm sure you were just doing it in the moment because you were in shock. But that's a huge red flag in my books and really shows your level of significance/importance in her life. Even more so since she saw you were upset and still dipped out.
And as a Taylor swift fan she has to know how hard it is to get those tickets. It's just disrespectful and I'm sorry you had to go through that
You should have put your foot down and told her that you wanted it to be a couple thing.
I get that her friend is a Taylor Swift fan but you wanted to share an experience with her! Itās actually kind of rude that she immediately thought it was for her and her friend. I would have just communicated that to her and that it hurt your feelings that she didnāt go with you.
The comments are infuriating. OP did nothing wrong and even gave gf a chance to clear the faux pas, but she still double downed and went with her friend who even seemed reluctant to pay up.
I don't care if you're "lifelong friends" or the stupid mentality that "watching with co-fans is better." If my partner bought me two fucking expensive tickets to an event that I love, it's a given that it is US who will go. That's called basic RESPECT and DECENCY that is clearly lost among some of the Swiftie fans here.
Sounds like you won this one. Iāve been to Taylor Swift twice and would love to have that time and money back. In all seriousness though, should have agreed to let her friend go right after they finished the threesome with you.
Dang, the met life concerts happened 7 months ago; youre still with her? Iām impressed, I donāt know if I wouldāve been too keen to stay with someone who was looking to just give my gift away like that. How has this negatively impacted your relationship? Have you talked about it with her?
Who the fuck is so stupid to pay 400 dollars for a taylor swift concert???? lol...I wouldn't pay to 400 dollars to see my favorite band even if I could afford it...
Not to mention, loving Taylor Swift so much is such a red flag lol. And I like couple of her songs and play them on repeat from time to time...
Pro tip: when you gift someone a ticket like this, just surprise them with one ticket, and then when they inevitably ask if theyāre going by themselves, you say of course I also got a ticket for me to go with you.
break up with her. Sorryš¤·š½āāļø!!! YOU SPENT 800 dollars on tickets for TS for you 2 & it didnāt even cross her mind that when you showed her the tickets, one was for you. You will forever be 2nd place to her bsf and thatās not the kind of relationship you want. Even after you told her and she knew you wanted to go but still gave her the choice & she chose bsf, leave her. She isnāt worth it, those 3 years donāt mean shit if she canāt value u and ur feelingsš¤¦š½āāļø. I mean seriously, YOU KNEW SHE WOULD LOVE THE TICKETS AND SHE DID, you werenāt in the picture and if she got tickets anywhere else, you would still not be in the picture. You can do better
and itās the āgo with me insteadā LIKE HUHHHH ???? INSTEAD ???? There was never an instead to begin with but you ALLOWED it. You shouldāve fought harder for your ticket, you paid for it and it was a romantic/thoughtful idea for ur gf who from this doesnāt seem to care about ur feelings. Not worth it
Ooofā¦ I think ur girlfriend is a moron for thinking you bought the tickets for her and bestfriend. Never ever would I assume anything else than taking my partner to wherever the partner got tickets to.
Awwww this fucking sucks. I feel bad for you. I get the excitement she probably felt about going with her friend if theyāre fans and itās ātheir thingā - like if I bought my husband hockey tickets I would expect him to go with a dude who loves hockey and that would be cool. BUT you specifically said it was for you guys to do as a date night/activity together. And she didnāt change her tune. Sucks the big one. Maybe just tell her how you feel- she may have gotten so wrapped up in her own shit she didnāt even realize how u felt.
You got dumped for a girlfriend of your girlfriend, dude Iām sort of at a loss but at least you did not loose the 400 for tickets or having to pay for dinner. Iād be hurt to sorry for ya
Yea next time surprise her at the gate the night of the event. So she can't screw up your plans. Which will happen every time you present tickets or vacations with her male BFF ready to take your place.
Oh, and did you get credit for your sick day, too? Donāt be an idiot next time. Mean what you say. If you really wanted to go, you really should have gone.
No your gf is very wrong for this and I wouldnāt have met that slide. I wouldnāt have gave her the option Iād say Iām going because I bought the tickets and and your bf.
I would feel so betrayed that I would have been convinced this is not the person I want to be my life partner. But it's just a matter of morals; you showed excitement on creating an opportunity for your relationship to grow stronger, and she chose to forgo that for her own enjoyment.
Dude, your girlfriend sucks. I mean seriously. What a bitch. I get the vibe sheās using you for what you do for her and that sheās not into you like you are with her. Iād dump her ass over something like this. It was a kind gesture and she made you look like a cuck about it.
This girl needs to goā¦ this incident is just a peek at what will happen in the future. With this BFF or someone else, there will also be some type of better friend hanging on or in the mix. Christmas gift: you get a loaf of bread and girl bud gets a Diamond necklace. Birthday: bff goes on a weekend trip with gf; you get a pair of socks. Etc, etc. Cut your losses now or forever be wondering what happened. And what happens will be big nothings. I am curious: what types of gifts has she given you previously- and what have you given herā¦ take a look and make plans appropriately.
My advice to all of my friends and relatives has been the same for ages: ALWAYS, Always date someone over the holiday season. Thanksgiving to Valentineās Day. You find out a lot about people and their families over those few weeks. There are some major warnings that show up over the holidays; pay attention, and act accordingly.
All these inconsiderate women in the comments and they are surprised incels shoot up spaces. Lmao I would tell them to pra rice their aim before so they can take out more of you selfish fucks.
Only excuse i can think of is if she's on the spectrum. Social interactions and interpretation of gestures for them aren't always the same for us. If she isn't, that's messed up.
Of course she thought of her friend instead of her boyfriend, who likes 1 or 2 songs. They have the same level of love for TS. Especially knowing it was their goal was to go together. They probably have been talking for weeks about going. It sounds like you are trying to insurt yourself into their friendship. Maybe going with you would seem like she is forcing you to go bc she is a fan & you wouldn't enjoy it as much.
You should have asked before getting them knowing the bond girlfriend has with BFF. I would have told her before buying them how much it would mean. TS will always have another concert, but this I want to share with you.
If you want to share your 1st time to a concert with her, find a new artist you like. Start to find & do things together. You want to show each others world & be a part of their routine. Be her #1 and you are just not the TS part. You have girlfriend with a BFF who would naturally do things together and share & even just having an other women to tell it is needed.
Other than TF if she continues to ignore you than talk. If she dose want to try new things or share there's a problem.
Dude. Despite your well-intended plans for you both to see the concert together you TOLD her that she should go with who she really wants to. Well, since her good friend and her both share a love for Taylor Swift and probably know every word to every song which they sing together every day, as well as share deep feelings with each other and their friendship which the music evokes... Then your girlfriend definitely has many of her feelings FOR YOU, YOUR RELATIONSHIP and WHAT ALL THAT MEANS TO HER tied up within that music as well. She also knows that you well, don't... and while she was ecstatic at the gift, you are being dumb playing the passive-aggressive poor me bs that comes off as emotionally immature and displays a lack of understanding about what a healthy relationship is. Believe me they've talked about just that, especially since you made her friend pay you back in full for the ticket. The real gentlemanly thing to have done is present them both with tickets as a gift to your girlfriend with the addendum that you know she would enjoy the show much more with her friend. Now that would have paid for itself 1000x over.
Plus that fails to address the point that when you said you'd rather her go with who she wants to, you were obviously lying.
Ouch.
I mean c'mon you were passive-aggressively trying to lay a guilt trip on her by acting grumpy. That's not a good look from any angle.
It's a very nice gift and should offset your outlandishly manipulative behavior. But that behavior is still there and needs to be addressed.
You can see how misandry Reddit is if it were a woman who brings him tickets, they immediately make him look like the bad guy. If I were you I would rethink this relationship, and since from what I see she sees you as a provider not as the man she loves, and perhaps she has a relationship with her friend beyond friendship
(F23, M26) My boyfriend of nearly 3 years took me to see Candlebox. The tickets were $25 dollars each because that's what he could afford, and I couldn't imagine thinking to bring someone else. That gf sounds ungrateful, inconsiderate, and entitled. My bf mentioned proposing before the end of this year and i can guarantee you he's not spending no $800 fucking dollars on a ring.
If you wanted to go with her so badly you should have specified "I got a surprise for the both of us" or bought cheaper tickets so you could all go, it was a sweet gesture and if she really didn't care she wouldn't have let her friend pay you for the ticket she would have just yelled and pouted.
You do need better communication but a concert is not a big momentous occasion it's a concert yes Taylor Swift is awesome and it would be amazing to see her but it's still just a concert.
And it was supposed to be a gift if you wanted to go with her you should have confirmed things before hand not just assumed
I'm sorry my friend. I think you should leave her and move on. Being single sucks, of course but there is a fine like of respect and she isn't showing that with how little she has shown to you over those tickets and the thoughtfulness. You truly deserve more and better and I don't think being with her you will ever receive that. I say move on and cut your losses.
Bro what you did right there is the so-called "nice guy" persona that many guys take on to deceive themselves. You set a trap for your girl and are now resentful of the trap being tripped. WTF would you say something when you already knew the only answer you'd like is positive...this is going to fester in your mind, and one day, you're going to blow up on her for something minor. Your girl is no good either, as she was also probably only saying she'd go with you to seem like a good person too but she showed you her real self. Neither of you seem actually ready for adult dating. Empathy is a skill that serves and prevents shitty stuff like this from happening or resolving it "well" if it does occur..
This is like a late comment but I thought it was interesting.
Around the time the tickets were first available to purchase, there was huge discourse in the "swiftie" fandom about who deserved to go. A lot of people hating on girls bringing their boyfriends because they weren't "real swifties" and they'd breakup soon anyway. And just a huge general attitude of who was deserving to go or not.
Basically, as someone from the Taylor swift fandom, swifties are something else man š
Well, it's a bit surprising that you still call her your gf even when she doesn't give a shite about you, time to pack your bags my friend, she left even after you told her that you want to go with her without caring about your feelings, and based on how quick she was to call her friend after you Said she can take whoever she wants. Yeah I would've packed everything before she came back from the concert. One should never become a second class citizen in their own house.
I'm sorry man, I don't mean to belittle anything here, but I despise Taylor and this just seems exactly like something one of her fans would do, in my eyes.
As for the serious stuff, I mean tell your gf this hurt that she didn't for a second think that you would want to go with her. You put a lot of time and thought into getting her EXTREMELY expensive tickets ($400 is criminal, I'm not sorry), you took a day off work just to sit there and wait to grab them because you knew it would make her happy to get to see this show. It's not unreasonable for you to be miffed.
Question: Does your gf not know your fan of Taylor Swift?
Doesn't matter whose the biggest fan is. It's up to the person who bought the tickets and what they want to do with them or who they want to take with them. But at least you got your money back for your ticket OP
I like how the friend has no realisation that if the boyfriend has brought 2 tickets of $400/each, it's obvious for him & his gf, NOT YOU. Atleast get the point when you're asked for the $400 that it was not bought for you, make an excuse & let the couple go.
Hmm...a chemistry lesson could be useful here...
The strongest molecular bonds are called covalent bonds because they share electrons to have a full electron shell. Hydrogen is one such bond. Very hard and expensive to separate those atoms.
The weakest molecular bond are ionic. They are temporary polarities are charges that keep the electrons somewhat together. When something with a bigger charge walks by, the electrons run away to that.
Your girl is the latter. I recommend you run.
\-a DJ who has seen some shit
Dude you need to move on, that girl doesn't respect or care one iota about you. Any further explanation really shouldn't need said beyond she is selfish and doesn't deserve you or your kindness, and with the next girlfriend say "I got US tickets to a show"
You did a nice thing, just take that W with your girl and leverage that instead of treating it like an L and fighting about it in the future. Be the great BF who buys her T.S. tix and not the petty one who is upset over not going (although I totally get the feeling)
I can understand both sides. She may have chosen to take her bff because only fans can hype each other the way they do than people who are not huge fans. I understand how upset you must have felt but you did take the money from her bff so it's not a complete loss. You did something for her. She will be grateful, and in her books you got plus points!! So don't feel so bad. So cheer up cuz someone was happy because of your lil sacrifice.
This is called passive aggressive behavior and is the worst behavior. Blame your stupidity for not saying I bought two tickets for US to go. How did it go from US to here is two tickets you and a friend go? This makes no sense to me. Communication guys...say it. No I bought these tickets for us and I thought it would be a great night out, I never been to a concert before....put the damn phone down and talk to her and not us.
Dude I legit wanted to cry reading your post she's a horrible girlfriend!
Narcissistic beyond words!
Zero consideration of your emotions!
Went with her BBF instead of with you when you legit called off work to get the tickets etc.
She is a horrible person you can legit do better, your clearly a wonderful and thoughtful person and she does not deserve you at all.
That should have been a wake-up call. She isn't serious about this relationship. She is putting her friendship with her friend first. Obviously, you're not as important to her, and she doesn't feel the way you do.
You should thank yourself for not having to pay $50 for parking and waste 4 hours at that concert. You were successful making her happy, offered to give up your ticket so case closed. Take the high road and be happy for her. You did this to yourself. If I were you I would be happy and just move on. Plan a boys night out or just relax at home.
Well to me it sounds like your gf and her friend have been planning this for some time now by the way she immediately jumps to the conclusion the tickets are for them two. It sounds like your in some competition with her friend knowing that when you surprised her with the two tickets you were going to use them as a leverage to see if she would choose you or her friend. To add more, you got petty when you lost the battle and made her friend pay full price for the ticket which her friend gladly agreed because she knows she won and wasn't going to let the victory slip away. Now your acting like a baby back B*tch posting on reddit to have other fruit cakes that get pushed around by there girl give you some kind words to make you feel better š
You went out of your way to do something nice for the both of you.
Her first instinct was to exclude you without consideration, or even questioning who the ticket may be for. Superhuman levels of taking you for granted.
I think this person may not care about you as much as you care about them OP.
You have a penis. There is no reason to listen to one of the most annoying females on planet Earth for any longer than it would take to change the channel or skip the song. The only thing that should happen is that the friend needs to cough up the $400 and a 3-way with you and your girlfriend.
You guys will not last. Just my opinion. Thats basic respect she doesn't have for you. You got the ticket why in hell would it be for her BFF. She just didnt want to go with you. She took the tickets and had a fun time, you were just an after thought. That was clearly a memorable experience meant for you two as a couple. But she didn't care. Im curious has she ever gotten you a gift like this? Or this expensive?
You learned an expensive lesson that your GF values her BFF over you. I would have made her pay you the $400 for her ticket as well.
Does she even realize that you took a day off from work to get those tickets.
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Best move would've been if you gave ur ticket to her friend for free and then dumped her ass just before she stepped out of the door to go to concert. Now, best move is to dump her. She doesn't care about you. Have some self respect and stop wasting your time.
Update? He should have just broke up with her the moment she chose her friend over him. I mean it's not fair when you put her first and she won't? Wtf, the money you spent will come back, but if she's like that, I don't know how your future would go if you stay with her.(just saying and I don't expect anyone to agree with me :p)
While you are entitled to your feelings, I think you were being extremely passive aggressive and taking it way too personally.. You can't "test" her by telling her to "take who she wants" then get mad when she chooses her bff who is a bigger fan than you.
She didn't "choose" her friend over you. You said it yourself, her friend is a much bigger Taylor Swift fan than you. I understand being a little hurt but try to understand it from your girlfriends perspective. She probably wouldve had more fun with her friend, considering they are both huge fans. For example- If I bought my boyfriend Wild game tickets I would probably encourage him to take his dad, because I know they would probably have way more fun & appreciate it more than I would. So wouldn't you want the same for your girlfriend?
There are always other concerts and other memories for you guys to make. Just be more upfront with your feelings next time. I'd also talk to your girlfriend about it and try to forgive and move on.
Simple answer. Girl friend challenge you and call you not enough man to handle #2 women. Prove her wrong, take other friend to dinner and offer to trust her. If other friend no like dinner then offer more. You have power........this is #2 women which = 6 brains + 2 gland excretions. Essentially you can have both but do not long for it nor will enjoy a single non-sexual experience from this.
I don't like Taylor Swift or her music, but I know if that was my girlfriend, I would have sold both tickets, to teach her a lesson, and avoid the whole situation from getting even weirder.
You are basically put in a ridiculous position because of her stupid way of thinking while you were being more than nice to her, to spend that much for a concert.
Which boyfriend buys 2 of any tickets for his gf and his gf's friend? Unless you made it clear before that you genuinely hated Taylor Swift or sth, She had no right to assume such a ridiculous thing.
I wonder... if the genders were reversed on this, if you'd be getting different responses. lol
You're playing the victim a little, but you're genuinely hurt and tswift fans are notoriously insensitive when it comes to seeing tswift.
You should have communicated that you wanted to go with her, but that maybe her friend could snag her own ticket and third wheel. But you DID say she could go with whomever she wanted to go with more. Prob can't back down from that response anymore and hold it against her. If you didn't want her to go with her friend, you should have communicated that.
You gave them to her as a gift (presumably both) and then told her to go with whoever she wanted to go with and she did.
Now you're mad because she did what you told her to do? Naw man. That is some passive agressive BS right there. Get the heck over it or you will poison your relationship. Get counseling if you find you can't say no or stand up for yourself but this one really is not on her.
You should have grown a set and told her your were hurt and you planned it on being you two, instead of being passive aggressive. Either way. Just break up, neither of you have a fully developed brain anyway, go live more life. Most of all ewwww a "swiftie", you can do better once you grow up.
First off. Leave her. Secondly work on your self respect. Honestly you spent so much time effort and money for a memorable night together and her first thought is "thank you Mr. ATM, I will enjoy theae without you." It is easy to see that you will always be second place to her. And no you definitely ahouldnt have given up your ticket.
Reverse the rolls, and we all know the GF would be extremely hurt if he didn't want to take her and wanted to take his best friend after she bought them tickets. She would be crying and have a mental breakdown over it.
She just doesn't care about your feelings or what you want. She cared more about what she wanted. You are in a relationship with a very self-centered person, and if you don't get out ASAP you will be in for a lot more hurt and disappointment staying with her. When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Awesome gift, but you bought her ONE ticket to Taylor Swift and you bought yourself a ticket. I think that is the confusion - if my husband said I got you two tickets to TSwift, Iād never think heād want to go unless he said āFor your bday, I got US ticketsā because he isnāt a big fan. Iād expect to take my sister who is a fan & get him the money for the second ticket. Weāve been together for over 20 years and communication is key. If itās bugging you, say something - otherwise, this is not a battle worth fighting just take the the āWā & clout for buying your GF the best freaking present out there right now & a fun night with her friend!
ETA: Iāve bought my husband tickets to sporting events and concerts that I didnāt want to go to & was clear when he opened them āand you can take a friend, the second ticket isnāt for meā - in cases where it was for us, I say I bought US tickets. Bc I also donāt want to inadvertently wind up at like a Slipknot show š itās just a clear communication thing.
That seems pretty awful to me, an older female! Did the friend pay you the $400? I hope so. Then you're only out $400.... it seems like it was a really self-centered thing for your girlfriend to do.
Unlike everyone else on hereā¦.. I do not think this is your fault or that youāre being āpassive aggressiveā or trying to be a victim. Who just assumes that when their partner spends $800 on 2 tickets to a concert that it was for them and their friend instead of going together? Also, to everyone saying āhe should of said something, sheās not a mind readerā what was he supposed to do, say āeither youāre going with me or youāre not going at allā? Thatās a dick move. Iām sure he was obviously uncomfortable during the time leading up to the concert and as a partner she should have been able to sense that at least to some degree even though he said it was okay. I mean, she made it clear she didnāt want him there and would only go with him to appease him, he probably felt like he would have just ruined it for her if he went instead of her friend. He has every right to feel hurt and like his feelings are being ignored. One thing I will say is that you should talk to your girlfriend about this. If she listens and tries to make it up to you, then this was just a misunderstanding. But if she invalidates your feelings (like everyone else in these comments š), you might want to reconsider your relationship because this sort of thing will just keep happening.
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If you give someone a gift, you have given up all claims on said item. It is theirs now and should be able to use it as they see fit.
If you wanted to go to the concert with her, buy two tickets and give her one. Problem solved.
I think it's reasonable to be upset because you wanted to share this experience with your girlfriend and that was your expectation, but be upset at the situation and not her. It makes a lot more sense for her to go with someone that understands and deeply connects with all the lore, intricacies, meaning etc of Taylor's music. Someone cannot fully share an experience with a person that doesn't completely understand the show. Imagine a girlfriend got a football fan tickets to the Superbowl and they wanted to go with their friend that also is a fan compared to the girlfriend that might just casually think the game is cool but doesn't know all the rules of the game or know all the players and everything about the teams like the boyfriend might. I hope you can see how it makes sense that you would have a way better experience with someone who also shares the same level of interest as you and this does not mean your relationship is less important or less of a priority.
I hate people that bring their boyfriends to Taylor Swift shows... they are litterally taking away the chance of someone that actually loves her music for decades now and wants be there for some guy who will stand there awkwardly most of the 3 and half hours.
Good for her for taking someone that actually sang her heart out next to her instead of the boyfriend
Next time you want something, donāt passive aggressively try and get it. Say what you mean. If you got a ticket for yourself you shouldnāt have even given her two tickets, just one. Would have avoided this whole situation. Of course she would want to go with the person who loves Swift just as much as her. And when she found out you wanted to go she switched it up and said sheād go with you.
You messed up trying to make her pick between you and her girlfriend by making it sound like it was a casual decision that was totally up to her and didnāt matter. Why the hell would you say that if you didnāt mean it? And then get bitter about it?
This is why relationships fail. Communication needs to be upfront, clear, and concise. Not this wishy-washy bullshit.
I gotta ask has she always put a friend above you in a scenario? If this is a first time it's something to just acknowledge and keep going but it's pretty damn insensitive for your gf to immediately assume this situation for her and her bff then oh I dunno someone who bought the damn tickets.
Added note: You really need to tell your gf it wasn't cool for her to do that but you need to grow a spine.
Sounds like there's a bigger problem here. I don't think she has much respect for you. Based on how quickly she decided to flip it over for herself. (She's not evil, it just happens that you're not very good with your boundaries).
And fortunately I think this is something you can work on. When you said "you can go with her." It made it obvious that you don't currently have strong boundaries with her, so she knows she can walk over you.
In the future be vulnerable and genuine. You could immediately say "I want to spend time with you, so I bought these for us. Why would you immediately go to it being your friends and yours, that's hurtful." And then continue the discussion from there, respectfully. And if she's getting all upset and negative about you wanting some mutual respect. Just take one of your best male friends and have fun, give her chocolates instead. Or just give those back get your money. Buy her some chocolate and go with your friend to do something cool.
Eventually if she's worth you. She's going to respect you more and love you more. Because it has to be mutual and you have to be real and leader. But it will be unpleasant at first.
Is it just me finding reasonable what the gf did? I would feel guilty if i had a super old promise with my bestie that we're gonna watch together our fave artist if they ever come and then being forced to go without her. That would feel like betrayal.
That being said, it's also unfair to the boyfriend since it was him who made the effort and money to buy the tickets. But the friend even refunded him her part so i think that's correct at least. And the gf even agreed to go with the bf but then he said it was fine if they go instead, so..
I think this is a difficult situation. Since it's clearly so important for the gf to go with her bestie, the guy should have arranged for all 3 of them to go together. I can't believe the gf never talked about the concert or how she'd love to go with her friend, the tour announcement and the ticket sale is on a different date, he should have known about this info imo.
$400 to hear Taylor Swift? What a joke.
Bragging or complaining?
Yeah. You should have asked for what you wanted. Your gf seems kinda self centered.
Average Taylor Swift Fan moment
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Bruh she listens to Taylor Swift what did you expect š
Iām sorry. She shouldāve definitely gone with you especially after the effort you put in to secure those tickets for her & especially if you enjoy some songs just to because she loves Taylor sm. Sorry this happened to you. She seems very ungrateful.
Honestly I feel she doesn't care about you the same way you care for her I mean if you said to me while looking hurt that I should bring whoever I want and not bring you just because ypu planned for it that way I would immediately say sorry and tell my friend she can't go. If I were in your situation, I would be rethinking my future with a partner like this.
Donāt you have a backbone? You should have said weāre going to the Taylor swift concert, and when she said with her friend you should have said NO itās for us, end of! No wonder she chose her friend, she knew you would be a pushover and just allow it.
Oh wow..
I feel like on a respect level, u should have been first choice. At least anyone who isnt totally a spoiled ahole would prob have that mindset
I would never do that to my bf. That was very rude of her.
If I bought fancy BLACKPINK tickets for my gf. Iām definitely going too. Ridiculous. OP is completely in the right. Yea he may have set himself up and agreed to give to her friend because heās kind and sweet. But sheās completely dim.
Are you and your girl still together?
Your girl sucks
Dump her
When she said she would go with you, you should have left it at that. You canāt say āyou should go with whoever you want to go withā then get upset when she does. People need to stop trying to test their partners. Side note: There are a lot of guys that would rather go to the Super Bowl with a friend over their girlfriend, itās not a huge deal.
Why did you give in? You bought these tickets as a date for the two of you.
Iād dump her
Good thing you got the $400 from the friend. Otherwise, I donāt think itās that big of a deal gf wanted to go with her friend.
It doesnāt sound like youāre that big of a fan so I donāt think youāre at a loss here. Let your gf go have a girls night out. I think itās sort of petty to ask for the full ticket price, maybe ask how much she can afford, you donāt know her financial situation but you know you were able to afford the tickets.
You should have gone with the gf. What now?
I just want to acknowledge what a thoughtful and sweet person you are. I think if it was me I'd have said I bought them for you and I to have a special date together. I realise the friend is a massive fan but I went out of my way to do this for us as a romantic gesture. Having said that at least you got the money for the ticket back, but I feel bad fornyou not getting to experience a concert with her. I hope she realises what a gem you are.
I think I saw a reel on Instagram about this story where the boyfriend gave his ticket to the best friend for the eras tour but I can't find her reel again. Can anyone help me find the reel or the account they were Aussie it seems
I dont think its the same couple though because salt.and.charcoal didn't go to metlife stadium.
I dont think its the same couple though because salt.and.charcoal didn't go to metlife stadium.
I think you are right because the dates don't match with the story but thank you for telling tho
salt.and.charcoal
I'd have dumped her at that instant. But that's just me
are you Christopher dinham? I just saw an Instagram reel about this situation and many people in the comments are saying it's linked to this post.
Hey op is your girlfriend named salt.and.charcoal on Instagram bcus i saw a insta post with same situation and immediately thought of u šš
Should have told her your plans right off. It should be a date for the two of you!
Haha! Thatās what you get Swifty!
That is a sure sign for the future dude. Time to part ways. Women like that never appreciate the things you do for them. She doesn't respect you or what you have. Break up and move on. It ain't worth it in the long run.
Imo, dump her the day before the concert. Take back any spare key you might have lent her, block her number, and find a girl who prioritizes you. As well as the time you spend together, because she obviously doesn't.
Hahah. Man who has never been to a concert expects girlfriend to know this is the one he wants to go to and that she is expected to hand back half of her gift immediately so he can annoyingly try and make the experience about āthemā for life memories instead of about the music artist because heās never actually enjoyed something enough to go to a concert before and he has no clue that she is not going to be looking at him AT ALL. During the whole concert she will be singing words he doesnāt know and staring at the stage. And then heāll be all sulky about that as well. It wonāt be romantic. Heād bring her joy down progressively through the evening. I donāt even know any song except shake it off but I can see this is a girls joy party not a man trying to control a womanās joy party. The way the gift came with strings attached was very anti Taylor Swift messaging. And yes Iāve bought tickets for an ex to take his colleagues to a music festival. Iāve also bought a computer for an ex. No strings attached. More than some concert tickets. I didnāt expect to be able to share it. And I wasnāt rich, regular almost minimum wage. I just wanted them to have an amazing experience. $800 isnāt that much if you donāt live in an expensive city and have medical bills or a substance abuse problem or kids. Thatās how I chose to spend my money. On people I cared about. No expectations of something in return. And when I bought tickets for myself and someone else I said upfront, I want someone to attend this festival with me and to come with me for the drive there and back. During the musical festival I knew they had been unable to get tickets so I said you go see what you want, just make sure you meet me at xyz to make sure I can find my car in the parking lot at the end of the day/night festival. Knowing they had best friends also attending and not wanting to hold them hostage of course I didnāt have a tantrum when they wanted to hang out with the friends at different acts. Seriously this whole youāre in a romantic relationship so suddenly everyone you care about has to take a backseat even though you havenāt proposed yet to be talking about sharing that memory for life is controlling as heck. And selfish.
Holy shit, you are a bigger man than I am. No way in hell I would have taken that shit from her. You did something fāing HEROIC and ROMANTIC and your AIRHEAD girlfriend of 3 years puts her girl friend before you. UNREAL
Bro give us an update, what happened?
Run my guy run! I hope you've broken up with her a long time ago cuz I would've slapped the friendship out of her if I was the best friend. š¤” Cuz I would feel guilty if my friend told me her boyfriend did ALL OF THAT to get those tickets
OK next time plan a vacation for two. And then take your best friend.
You should let her because no man actually wants to watch a Taylor swift show...let her take her mate and sit back and enjoy all the blowjobs your gonna get for being a sick boyfriend
I hope you left this chick
Wish I could say something nice. I can't.
seems like people are split on this, which suggests it isnāt clearly right or wrong either way. the gf thought the bf was doing something for her, not for them. she thought it was her bf thinking about what she might love to do, which is go out to see her favourite star plus have a spare ticket for somebody else who loved that star too. that is wonderful love from the bf, pure heart and care. the bf wasnāt thinking of it as something for her, but as something, an activity, he arranged for the gf and himself as a couple. that is okay too. then he should recognise that it isnāt something that is a gift for his gf, but for himself as the lead arranging a date. thatās beautiful. seems the gf didnāt think he was interested in the star, and probably he wasnāt really, but he thought it could be nice to go anyway. more than that he was interested in seeing at the concert his gfās excitement and joyfulness and that she would show love and appreciation to him for getting the tickets as the event played out. totally get that. love isnāt selfish. seems the gf is being called selfish and the bf is being called selfish. all this thinking is turning something good into some disappointment. the bf gave his gf a special gift, a chance to make her quasi sis, her best friend probably from way back, happy as the star is akin to a god for both of them. if i were the bf i might give a chuckle and wink, seems i have been replaced not by another guy but by a gal! then feel delight at how happy the gfās sis, her friend, was to miraculously get the ticket. as for charging, depends on the bfās budget, but i would probably not have charged for the ticket. it was a gift for her plus an extra ticket to bring her friend.. i suppose depending on the scenario, another way is to have said, i got one extra so you can take whoever you want but they should pay the ticket discounted ticket fee. if you donāt have a fan to go with you, i am your fan and i will go with you, and am interested in seeing the star too.ā that would have been a āswiftā (pun intended) way to save the situation and let the gf decide. anyhow, the tickets were intended not for the gf but for the bf to have the two of them go together on a date. that is beautiful and romantic but needed to be said more quickly it seems. the bf cares about her and wanted to do something together and see her joy from his action. nobody is wrong here. sure she loves him. sure he loves her. people learn communication styles. she trusted him and his sincerity so she thought he really wanted it for her, her tickets from him, and for her to choose her friend who was also a fan made sense, something she could not have done without her bf, so of course he should feel pride and contentment. she found out quickly he didnāt mean the tickets for her, but he let her have them and decide, so that was good. that is true love to give for the other person. the superbowl comparison seems good, although not everyone agrees. if she was able to get ahold of two tickets knowing his brother wanted to go, and left him the gift of sharing that, it would make sense. the bf and gf can find something together as a date or couple that they both truly might enjoy later, more romantic like the italy trip , and she can express appreciation for the star tickets that not only did he care about her but made or possible for her to help her best childhood friend or sis enjoy it too (with the only wish to make her happy). better to let go of the feeling bad. feel happy instead. the bf made a save in letting his gf enjoy with her friend. the gf missed a chance as she didnāt realise how disappointing her bf was. the bf manned up, let her be an excited kid (thats what she was being, like a puppy) and invite her friend instead. i think OP , the bf, must love her very much. again, nobody was wrong. it is learning about intentions. not sure if bf gets that he hadnāt intended the gift for his gf, but was looking for a gift from her, her appreciation on a date, the bf certainly realised he wanted to create memories together with his gf, so beautiful. next, italy, but be sure to say up front before even sharing the gift that it is for the two, tje gf and bf, together! if not italy, maybe something closer to home, for the two together. learning experience. laugh and learnā¦ life goes on.
šsounds like three tickets were needed.
OP is amazing, couldn't of given a nicer gift for a clear Swiftie. It sucks how the girlfriend responded but she is not 100percent a bad person just clearly not thinking. Sometimes my husband and dad buy tickets for concerts for me and my mom under the stipulation that they don't have to go. I don't think I've ever assumed he is buying my bestie a ticket though. Swifties are a little nuts (me being one) I don't think she meant to offend although she did. It definitely sucks. Im taking my husband to Taylor Swift although he isn't a huge fan but it gives him a reason to listen to her music with me. That gf missed an awesome opportunity to get closer to her clearly awesome man. Sorry OP.
I know this is such an old post but Iām here anywayā¦ Ok, so normally Iād be like Sheās TA but really, no one is hereā¦ youāre not a fan, she wants to go with someone that would really enjoy it.. they were a gift, you told her āyou donāt have to pick meā, then proceeded to be mad when she didnāt.. ANY other concert she wouldāve likely immediately picked you, but this whole Taylor craze is another level so if youāre not a fan like that, honestly just letting her and her bff enjoy it is major cooter coo points for you and she wouldāve been ecstatic had you thought of it that wayā¦ even if it was a āI got 2 tickets, BUT, she does have to pay for her own, in the event she canāt afford it, I will go in her placeā type of dealā¦ and then yāall go to dinner or something, but thatās just me. I canāt fathom spending that much money to see someone sing mediocre music on stage from 500 ft away lol
Im so sorry :((
Dude man up, you really want to see Taylor Swift live?
Im honestly surprised she didnt try to take another dude with her. Its the wild west again these days
Iām late to the party, but the fact that you bought 2 tickets and said āI canāt wait to go!ā, but somehow she thought the second ticket was for her BFFā¦like really? These comments are so dumb. Itās not about mind-reading. Itās about common sense. Usually when your partner buys you 2 tickets to a concert or whatever, that means the plan was for you to be going together! Not to mention, at what point did you suggest the second one was for Becky when you gave her the tickets? Not sure why people are criticizing you for saying āgo with whoever you wanna go with moreā and still being hurt. You didnāt put yourself in any position. She already chose Becky and backpedaled when she saw you were hurt and realized she screwed up and said sheād be happy to go with you instead because she felt guilty. I wouldnāt want her pity either. For what itās worth, Iām glad you got your money back for the second ticket. That being said, you shouldāve stood your ground more. YOU bought those tickets and you had every right to go. Hell, you had the right to take them back if you wanted to! If my bf gave me 2 tickets to a concert (2 very expensive tickets no less), it is OUR trip. I donāt care who else is a fan of that artist/band, much less if they liked it more than him. He would 100% be there, and not just because he would have bought them and that would be his plan.
Break up with that inconsiderate person. She does not care for you and is clearly showing you that SHE DOES NOT CARE. And guess what? She will not care for you again when other stuff happens - guaranteed šÆ So, yea, SHE DOES NOT CARE FOR YOU
Charge her for the tickets plus the time you spent waiting in line then dump her ass!
Dump Her Ass!
It cost you 400$ to learn to move on from the self centered bitch.
Your girlfriend lost a little bit of respect for you. That very much seemed like a test and you failed. Youāre thinking sheās the one, sheās thinking youāre the one for now. You need to reverse that. This way her first thought wonāt be to invite her bff, itāll be you.
Should you have done things differently? Yes. I can understand feeling defeated after finding that out, but you should definitely have been more pushy. Your gf was kind of a dick. She should have picked up on you wanting to go, but some people really donāt get the hint, or miss social cues. You shouldnāt feel bad about feeling betrayed. I donāt think this is a relationship ender, but you are justified in how you feel. I think it probably speaks volumes about how *she* feels about the relationship though and I would have a talk with her about it
Wow! Iām sorry she was so awful about this. I hope this isnāt a pattern in your relationship.
I hope OP moved on
$400 for a concertā¦ouch
It's 2024, if she wants she can date her bff. You can date someone who values you as a person, not a gift dispenser.
I didnāt know straight guys liked Taylor Swift. But on a serious note, pretty big red flag. Iād definitely discuss with my girlfriend and see how she handles everything. Kind of a la a second chance since you basically already brought it up. If there are more red flags like this it might be time to reevaluate because itās a pretty significant thing that happened.
800.00 and see you later Felicia
Oof that's awful. If I spent 800$ on what was suppose to be a special moment for me and my girlfriend and even missed work to make it happen, then there would be no way in hell that I would just be like nah its cool, go with your bestie. I'm sure you were just doing it in the moment because you were in shock. But that's a huge red flag in my books and really shows your level of significance/importance in her life. Even more so since she saw you were upset and still dipped out. And as a Taylor swift fan she has to know how hard it is to get those tickets. It's just disrespectful and I'm sorry you had to go through that
Did her friend even thank you? I honestly dont think i would be continuing the reationship if it were me.
This is easy, let her bring the friend and you'll be the hero. You don't wanna sit through that concert for five hours.
Iād let them have the tickets and just walk the fuck away and be glad I dodged that
You should have put your foot down and told her that you wanted it to be a couple thing. I get that her friend is a Taylor Swift fan but you wanted to share an experience with her! Itās actually kind of rude that she immediately thought it was for her and her friend. I would have just communicated that to her and that it hurt your feelings that she didnāt go with you.
1. Your girl likes Taylor Swift 2. You spent a ton of money on tickets and she didn't care to go with you. 3. Read point 1 again. 4. Move on.
I would have broken up with them and sold the tickets for more than you paid.
That's bogus man. Did you say you're a Taylor Swift fan?  I appreciate the honesty I guess.
The comments are infuriating. OP did nothing wrong and even gave gf a chance to clear the faux pas, but she still double downed and went with her friend who even seemed reluctant to pay up. I don't care if you're "lifelong friends" or the stupid mentality that "watching with co-fans is better." If my partner bought me two fucking expensive tickets to an event that I love, it's a given that it is US who will go. That's called basic RESPECT and DECENCY that is clearly lost among some of the Swiftie fans here.
Sounds like you won this one. Iāve been to Taylor Swift twice and would love to have that time and money back. In all seriousness though, should have agreed to let her friend go right after they finished the threesome with you.
Hey, can I use this story in my video?
Break up with her. That's ridiculous.
Dang, the met life concerts happened 7 months ago; youre still with her? Iām impressed, I donāt know if I wouldāve been too keen to stay with someone who was looking to just give my gift away like that. How has this negatively impacted your relationship? Have you talked about it with her?
Who the fuck is so stupid to pay 400 dollars for a taylor swift concert???? lol...I wouldn't pay to 400 dollars to see my favorite band even if I could afford it... Not to mention, loving Taylor Swift so much is such a red flag lol. And I like couple of her songs and play them on repeat from time to time...
Pro tip: when you gift someone a ticket like this, just surprise them with one ticket, and then when they inevitably ask if theyāre going by themselves, you say of course I also got a ticket for me to go with you.
break up with her. Sorryš¤·š½āāļø!!! YOU SPENT 800 dollars on tickets for TS for you 2 & it didnāt even cross her mind that when you showed her the tickets, one was for you. You will forever be 2nd place to her bsf and thatās not the kind of relationship you want. Even after you told her and she knew you wanted to go but still gave her the choice & she chose bsf, leave her. She isnāt worth it, those 3 years donāt mean shit if she canāt value u and ur feelingsš¤¦š½āāļø. I mean seriously, YOU KNEW SHE WOULD LOVE THE TICKETS AND SHE DID, you werenāt in the picture and if she got tickets anywhere else, you would still not be in the picture. You can do better
and itās the āgo with me insteadā LIKE HUHHHH ???? INSTEAD ???? There was never an instead to begin with but you ALLOWED it. You shouldāve fought harder for your ticket, you paid for it and it was a romantic/thoughtful idea for ur gf who from this doesnāt seem to care about ur feelings. Not worth it
If she is prioritising other people over you, your relationship wonāt last, maybe itās better to stop it now
Ooofā¦ I think ur girlfriend is a moron for thinking you bought the tickets for her and bestfriend. Never ever would I assume anything else than taking my partner to wherever the partner got tickets to.
Dump this bitch I really hope you have since you posted this.
Awwww this fucking sucks. I feel bad for you. I get the excitement she probably felt about going with her friend if theyāre fans and itās ātheir thingā - like if I bought my husband hockey tickets I would expect him to go with a dude who loves hockey and that would be cool. BUT you specifically said it was for you guys to do as a date night/activity together. And she didnāt change her tune. Sucks the big one. Maybe just tell her how you feel- she may have gotten so wrapped up in her own shit she didnāt even realize how u felt.
You aren't missing anything, mostly kids and women anyways. Glad to hear the friend is paying for her ticket.
Your gf is clueless or just rude if she thought she could invite her friend WITH YOUR TICKET. Of course one ticket was for you. Ridiculous.
Sounds to me like itās time for a new girlfriend.
You got dumped for a girlfriend of your girlfriend, dude Iām sort of at a loss but at least you did not loose the 400 for tickets or having to pay for dinner. Iād be hurt to sorry for ya
Just send her a custom breakup message with ābad bloodā as the audio
This is the most disappointing thread ever. OP should walk. Give her the tix and never talk to her again. Trust me. She's for the fucking streeeets.
Fuuuuuck her. Dump her and move on. Recoup the full amount. You are a king and she is trash
Yea next time surprise her at the gate the night of the event. So she can't screw up your plans. Which will happen every time you present tickets or vacations with her male BFF ready to take your place.
Oh, and did you get credit for your sick day, too? Donāt be an idiot next time. Mean what you say. If you really wanted to go, you really should have gone.
She picked the wrong person to go with. You tested her and she failed the test.
No your gf is very wrong for this and I wouldnāt have met that slide. I wouldnāt have gave her the option Iād say Iām going because I bought the tickets and and your bf.
I would feel so betrayed that I would have been convinced this is not the person I want to be my life partner. But it's just a matter of morals; you showed excitement on creating an opportunity for your relationship to grow stronger, and she chose to forgo that for her own enjoyment.
Get a new girlfriend. ā¦.ugh.
Dude, your girlfriend sucks. I mean seriously. What a bitch. I get the vibe sheās using you for what you do for her and that sheās not into you like you are with her. Iād dump her ass over something like this. It was a kind gesture and she made you look like a cuck about it.
I would just return 1 ticket and go to the concert alone
This girl needs to goā¦ this incident is just a peek at what will happen in the future. With this BFF or someone else, there will also be some type of better friend hanging on or in the mix. Christmas gift: you get a loaf of bread and girl bud gets a Diamond necklace. Birthday: bff goes on a weekend trip with gf; you get a pair of socks. Etc, etc. Cut your losses now or forever be wondering what happened. And what happens will be big nothings. I am curious: what types of gifts has she given you previously- and what have you given herā¦ take a look and make plans appropriately. My advice to all of my friends and relatives has been the same for ages: ALWAYS, Always date someone over the holiday season. Thanksgiving to Valentineās Day. You find out a lot about people and their families over those few weeks. There are some major warnings that show up over the holidays; pay attention, and act accordingly.
Huge red flag. You should be planning your exit.
All these inconsiderate women in the comments and they are surprised incels shoot up spaces. Lmao I would tell them to pra rice their aim before so they can take out more of you selfish fucks.
You mean "ex" girlfriend, right?
This is how she will always be. You need an exit strategy.
Only excuse i can think of is if she's on the spectrum. Social interactions and interpretation of gestures for them aren't always the same for us. If she isn't, that's messed up.
Of course she thought of her friend instead of her boyfriend, who likes 1 or 2 songs. They have the same level of love for TS. Especially knowing it was their goal was to go together. They probably have been talking for weeks about going. It sounds like you are trying to insurt yourself into their friendship. Maybe going with you would seem like she is forcing you to go bc she is a fan & you wouldn't enjoy it as much. You should have asked before getting them knowing the bond girlfriend has with BFF. I would have told her before buying them how much it would mean. TS will always have another concert, but this I want to share with you. If you want to share your 1st time to a concert with her, find a new artist you like. Start to find & do things together. You want to show each others world & be a part of their routine. Be her #1 and you are just not the TS part. You have girlfriend with a BFF who would naturally do things together and share & even just having an other women to tell it is needed. Other than TF if she continues to ignore you than talk. If she dose want to try new things or share there's a problem.
Dude. Despite your well-intended plans for you both to see the concert together you TOLD her that she should go with who she really wants to. Well, since her good friend and her both share a love for Taylor Swift and probably know every word to every song which they sing together every day, as well as share deep feelings with each other and their friendship which the music evokes... Then your girlfriend definitely has many of her feelings FOR YOU, YOUR RELATIONSHIP and WHAT ALL THAT MEANS TO HER tied up within that music as well. She also knows that you well, don't... and while she was ecstatic at the gift, you are being dumb playing the passive-aggressive poor me bs that comes off as emotionally immature and displays a lack of understanding about what a healthy relationship is. Believe me they've talked about just that, especially since you made her friend pay you back in full for the ticket. The real gentlemanly thing to have done is present them both with tickets as a gift to your girlfriend with the addendum that you know she would enjoy the show much more with her friend. Now that would have paid for itself 1000x over. Plus that fails to address the point that when you said you'd rather her go with who she wants to, you were obviously lying. Ouch. I mean c'mon you were passive-aggressively trying to lay a guilt trip on her by acting grumpy. That's not a good look from any angle. It's a very nice gift and should offset your outlandishly manipulative behavior. But that behavior is still there and needs to be addressed.
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You can see how misandry Reddit is if it were a woman who brings him tickets, they immediately make him look like the bad guy. If I were you I would rethink this relationship, and since from what I see she sees you as a provider not as the man she loves, and perhaps she has a relationship with her friend beyond friendship
(F23, M26) My boyfriend of nearly 3 years took me to see Candlebox. The tickets were $25 dollars each because that's what he could afford, and I couldn't imagine thinking to bring someone else. That gf sounds ungrateful, inconsiderate, and entitled. My bf mentioned proposing before the end of this year and i can guarantee you he's not spending no $800 fucking dollars on a ring.
If you wanted to go with her so badly you should have specified "I got a surprise for the both of us" or bought cheaper tickets so you could all go, it was a sweet gesture and if she really didn't care she wouldn't have let her friend pay you for the ticket she would have just yelled and pouted. You do need better communication but a concert is not a big momentous occasion it's a concert yes Taylor Swift is awesome and it would be amazing to see her but it's still just a concert. And it was supposed to be a gift if you wanted to go with her you should have confirmed things before hand not just assumed
I'm sorry my friend. I think you should leave her and move on. Being single sucks, of course but there is a fine like of respect and she isn't showing that with how little she has shown to you over those tickets and the thoughtfulness. You truly deserve more and better and I don't think being with her you will ever receive that. I say move on and cut your losses.
Hey. Hoping for an update to your situation. Honestly the disrespect from your girlfriend is too much.
Run bro. The point that you're an afterthought is a massive red flag. Thats just the start.
Damm cuz. If that ain't a sign, you deserve what comes later
Bro what you did right there is the so-called "nice guy" persona that many guys take on to deceive themselves. You set a trap for your girl and are now resentful of the trap being tripped. WTF would you say something when you already knew the only answer you'd like is positive...this is going to fester in your mind, and one day, you're going to blow up on her for something minor. Your girl is no good either, as she was also probably only saying she'd go with you to seem like a good person too but she showed you her real self. Neither of you seem actually ready for adult dating. Empathy is a skill that serves and prevents shitty stuff like this from happening or resolving it "well" if it does occur..
Aww man please don't be such a simp.
This is like a late comment but I thought it was interesting. Around the time the tickets were first available to purchase, there was huge discourse in the "swiftie" fandom about who deserved to go. A lot of people hating on girls bringing their boyfriends because they weren't "real swifties" and they'd breakup soon anyway. And just a huge general attitude of who was deserving to go or not. Basically, as someone from the Taylor swift fandom, swifties are something else man š
Well, it's a bit surprising that you still call her your gf even when she doesn't give a shite about you, time to pack your bags my friend, she left even after you told her that you want to go with her without caring about your feelings, and based on how quick she was to call her friend after you Said she can take whoever she wants. Yeah I would've packed everything before she came back from the concert. One should never become a second class citizen in their own house.
Whatever you do, do not marry this woman. Enjoy the pie while looking for a wife material.
I'm sorry man, I don't mean to belittle anything here, but I despise Taylor and this just seems exactly like something one of her fans would do, in my eyes. As for the serious stuff, I mean tell your gf this hurt that she didn't for a second think that you would want to go with her. You put a lot of time and thought into getting her EXTREMELY expensive tickets ($400 is criminal, I'm not sorry), you took a day off work just to sit there and wait to grab them because you knew it would make her happy to get to see this show. It's not unreasonable for you to be miffed.
I wonder if OP is still with her
Well I don't know do you really want to go see Taylor Swift? Seriously I think they're doing you a favor
Question: Does your gf not know your fan of Taylor Swift? Doesn't matter whose the biggest fan is. It's up to the person who bought the tickets and what they want to do with them or who they want to take with them. But at least you got your money back for your ticket OP
I like how the friend has no realisation that if the boyfriend has brought 2 tickets of $400/each, it's obvious for him & his gf, NOT YOU. Atleast get the point when you're asked for the $400 that it was not bought for you, make an excuse & let the couple go.
Hmm...a chemistry lesson could be useful here... The strongest molecular bonds are called covalent bonds because they share electrons to have a full electron shell. Hydrogen is one such bond. Very hard and expensive to separate those atoms. The weakest molecular bond are ionic. They are temporary polarities are charges that keep the electrons somewhat together. When something with a bigger charge walks by, the electrons run away to that. Your girl is the latter. I recommend you run. \-a DJ who has seen some shit
Dude you need to move on, that girl doesn't respect or care one iota about you. Any further explanation really shouldn't need said beyond she is selfish and doesn't deserve you or your kindness, and with the next girlfriend say "I got US tickets to a show"
Bruh I would have taken her friend, as a middle finger. Keep it 500
Dump her.
This relationship is dead. It just hasnāt dropped yet.
I would have already thrown the tickets on the floor after her first response tbh
She saved you from looking like she dragged you to a Taylor Swift concert like all the other guys there.
If I bought my wife some Taylor Swift tickets, she could take whoever she wants, because I don't like Taylor Swift.
You did a nice thing, just take that W with your girl and leverage that instead of treating it like an L and fighting about it in the future. Be the great BF who buys her T.S. tix and not the petty one who is upset over not going (although I totally get the feeling)
I can understand both sides. She may have chosen to take her bff because only fans can hype each other the way they do than people who are not huge fans. I understand how upset you must have felt but you did take the money from her bff so it's not a complete loss. You did something for her. She will be grateful, and in her books you got plus points!! So don't feel so bad. So cheer up cuz someone was happy because of your lil sacrifice.
This is called passive aggressive behavior and is the worst behavior. Blame your stupidity for not saying I bought two tickets for US to go. How did it go from US to here is two tickets you and a friend go? This makes no sense to me. Communication guys...say it. No I bought these tickets for us and I thought it would be a great night out, I never been to a concert before....put the damn phone down and talk to her and not us.
Dude I legit wanted to cry reading your post she's a horrible girlfriend! Narcissistic beyond words! Zero consideration of your emotions! Went with her BBF instead of with you when you legit called off work to get the tickets etc. She is a horrible person you can legit do better, your clearly a wonderful and thoughtful person and she does not deserve you at all.
That should have been a wake-up call. She isn't serious about this relationship. She is putting her friendship with her friend first. Obviously, you're not as important to her, and she doesn't feel the way you do.
You should thank yourself for not having to pay $50 for parking and waste 4 hours at that concert. You were successful making her happy, offered to give up your ticket so case closed. Take the high road and be happy for her. You did this to yourself. If I were you I would be happy and just move on. Plan a boys night out or just relax at home.
You called in sick... Shouldn't you charge her the 400$ plus the day off work, gas money, and emotional damages?
Well to me it sounds like your gf and her friend have been planning this for some time now by the way she immediately jumps to the conclusion the tickets are for them two. It sounds like your in some competition with her friend knowing that when you surprised her with the two tickets you were going to use them as a leverage to see if she would choose you or her friend. To add more, you got petty when you lost the battle and made her friend pay full price for the ticket which her friend gladly agreed because she knows she won and wasn't going to let the victory slip away. Now your acting like a baby back B*tch posting on reddit to have other fruit cakes that get pushed around by there girl give you some kind words to make you feel better š
You went out of your way to do something nice for the both of you. Her first instinct was to exclude you without consideration, or even questioning who the ticket may be for. Superhuman levels of taking you for granted. I think this person may not care about you as much as you care about them OP.
I'd never do anything for her again
this dude is such a disappointment he makes doormats look goodš¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£
You have a penis. There is no reason to listen to one of the most annoying females on planet Earth for any longer than it would take to change the channel or skip the song. The only thing that should happen is that the friend needs to cough up the $400 and a 3-way with you and your girlfriend.
Why would she think you'd drop $400 on her friend? Presumably, the friend paid you back? And hopefully, you're looking for a new gf.
OP, your gf is kind of a dick.
So what happened?
You guys will not last. Just my opinion. Thats basic respect she doesn't have for you. You got the ticket why in hell would it be for her BFF. She just didnt want to go with you. She took the tickets and had a fun time, you were just an after thought. That was clearly a memorable experience meant for you two as a couple. But she didn't care. Im curious has she ever gotten you a gift like this? Or this expensive?
At least her friend paid for the ticket but grow a spine man
Personally I wouldn't go since I'm not a Taylor Swift fan and I can't enjoy something I don't like even though it's with someone I love.
You did the right thing but it's OK to be upset by it. Go get drunk with your friend and have a good time. Yall don't have to do everything together.
If that was my gf, Iād beā¦relieved. I mean I like TS but not enough to go to a concert of screaming girls.
You learned an expensive lesson that your GF values her BFF over you. I would have made her pay you the $400 for her ticket as well. Does she even realize that you took a day off from work to get those tickets. ?
OP only had to pay $400 to learn his girlfriend is not wife material. Seems like $400 well spent if you ask meā¦
Best move would've been if you gave ur ticket to her friend for free and then dumped her ass just before she stepped out of the door to go to concert. Now, best move is to dump her. She doesn't care about you. Have some self respect and stop wasting your time.
Update? He should have just broke up with her the moment she chose her friend over him. I mean it's not fair when you put her first and she won't? Wtf, the money you spent will come back, but if she's like that, I don't know how your future would go if you stay with her.(just saying and I don't expect anyone to agree with me :p)
You shouldn't have given up your ticket so easily and you should be looking for another girlfriend, right now.
While you are entitled to your feelings, I think you were being extremely passive aggressive and taking it way too personally.. You can't "test" her by telling her to "take who she wants" then get mad when she chooses her bff who is a bigger fan than you. She didn't "choose" her friend over you. You said it yourself, her friend is a much bigger Taylor Swift fan than you. I understand being a little hurt but try to understand it from your girlfriends perspective. She probably wouldve had more fun with her friend, considering they are both huge fans. For example- If I bought my boyfriend Wild game tickets I would probably encourage him to take his dad, because I know they would probably have way more fun & appreciate it more than I would. So wouldn't you want the same for your girlfriend? There are always other concerts and other memories for you guys to make. Just be more upfront with your feelings next time. I'd also talk to your girlfriend about it and try to forgive and move on.
All you need to do is download Baldur's Gate 3 and play it all night. Thank me later.
Simple answer. Girl friend challenge you and call you not enough man to handle #2 women. Prove her wrong, take other friend to dinner and offer to trust her. If other friend no like dinner then offer more. You have power........this is #2 women which = 6 brains + 2 gland excretions. Essentially you can have both but do not long for it nor will enjoy a single non-sexual experience from this.
Sounds like a win to me
As Taylor would say āthis is why we canāt have nice thingsā. Some people donāt deserve them.
I don't like Taylor Swift or her music, but I know if that was my girlfriend, I would have sold both tickets, to teach her a lesson, and avoid the whole situation from getting even weirder. You are basically put in a ridiculous position because of her stupid way of thinking while you were being more than nice to her, to spend that much for a concert. Which boyfriend buys 2 of any tickets for his gf and his gf's friend? Unless you made it clear before that you genuinely hated Taylor Swift or sth, She had no right to assume such a ridiculous thing.
Or you could go with her BFF and not take her. I'm not sure if this is too much for such an insensitive person.
I wonder... if the genders were reversed on this, if you'd be getting different responses. lol You're playing the victim a little, but you're genuinely hurt and tswift fans are notoriously insensitive when it comes to seeing tswift. You should have communicated that you wanted to go with her, but that maybe her friend could snag her own ticket and third wheel. But you DID say she could go with whomever she wanted to go with more. Prob can't back down from that response anymore and hold it against her. If you didn't want her to go with her friend, you should have communicated that.
Well, my friend, thatās the tip of the iceberg what you have seen.
You gave them to her as a gift (presumably both) and then told her to go with whoever she wanted to go with and she did. Now you're mad because she did what you told her to do? Naw man. That is some passive agressive BS right there. Get the heck over it or you will poison your relationship. Get counseling if you find you can't say no or stand up for yourself but this one really is not on her.
Stop acting like a bitch bro
You should have grown a set and told her your were hurt and you planned it on being you two, instead of being passive aggressive. Either way. Just break up, neither of you have a fully developed brain anyway, go live more life. Most of all ewwww a "swiftie", you can do better once you grow up.
First off. Leave her. Secondly work on your self respect. Honestly you spent so much time effort and money for a memorable night together and her first thought is "thank you Mr. ATM, I will enjoy theae without you." It is easy to see that you will always be second place to her. And no you definitely ahouldnt have given up your ticket.
Reverse the rolls, and we all know the GF would be extremely hurt if he didn't want to take her and wanted to take his best friend after she bought them tickets. She would be crying and have a mental breakdown over it. She just doesn't care about your feelings or what you want. She cared more about what she wanted. You are in a relationship with a very self-centered person, and if you don't get out ASAP you will be in for a lot more hurt and disappointment staying with her. When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
I think the problem here is we are talking about Taylor Swift. And 400 bucks a ticket aswell. Wow
Awesome gift, but you bought her ONE ticket to Taylor Swift and you bought yourself a ticket. I think that is the confusion - if my husband said I got you two tickets to TSwift, Iād never think heād want to go unless he said āFor your bday, I got US ticketsā because he isnāt a big fan. Iād expect to take my sister who is a fan & get him the money for the second ticket. Weāve been together for over 20 years and communication is key. If itās bugging you, say something - otherwise, this is not a battle worth fighting just take the the āWā & clout for buying your GF the best freaking present out there right now & a fun night with her friend! ETA: Iāve bought my husband tickets to sporting events and concerts that I didnāt want to go to & was clear when he opened them āand you can take a friend, the second ticket isnāt for meā - in cases where it was for us, I say I bought US tickets. Bc I also donāt want to inadvertently wind up at like a Slipknot show š itās just a clear communication thing.
She obviously does not appreciate you and Iām sure she gets āher wayā all the time! Thatās your fault. I HAD a husband like that.
That seems pretty awful to me, an older female! Did the friend pay you the $400? I hope so. Then you're only out $400.... it seems like it was a really self-centered thing for your girlfriend to do.
Unlike everyone else on hereā¦.. I do not think this is your fault or that youāre being āpassive aggressiveā or trying to be a victim. Who just assumes that when their partner spends $800 on 2 tickets to a concert that it was for them and their friend instead of going together? Also, to everyone saying āhe should of said something, sheās not a mind readerā what was he supposed to do, say āeither youāre going with me or youāre not going at allā? Thatās a dick move. Iām sure he was obviously uncomfortable during the time leading up to the concert and as a partner she should have been able to sense that at least to some degree even though he said it was okay. I mean, she made it clear she didnāt want him there and would only go with him to appease him, he probably felt like he would have just ruined it for her if he went instead of her friend. He has every right to feel hurt and like his feelings are being ignored. One thing I will say is that you should talk to your girlfriend about this. If she listens and tries to make it up to you, then this was just a misunderstanding. But if she invalidates your feelings (like everyone else in these comments š), you might want to reconsider your relationship because this sort of thing will just keep happening.
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If you give someone a gift, you have given up all claims on said item. It is theirs now and should be able to use it as they see fit. If you wanted to go to the concert with her, buy two tickets and give her one. Problem solved.
I would drop her like a hot potato. She exposed who she really is. I am sure it must have been painful. Your girlfriend should also have paid you.
Seems you may need a new girlfriend. Just saying
I think it's reasonable to be upset because you wanted to share this experience with your girlfriend and that was your expectation, but be upset at the situation and not her. It makes a lot more sense for her to go with someone that understands and deeply connects with all the lore, intricacies, meaning etc of Taylor's music. Someone cannot fully share an experience with a person that doesn't completely understand the show. Imagine a girlfriend got a football fan tickets to the Superbowl and they wanted to go with their friend that also is a fan compared to the girlfriend that might just casually think the game is cool but doesn't know all the rules of the game or know all the players and everything about the teams like the boyfriend might. I hope you can see how it makes sense that you would have a way better experience with someone who also shares the same level of interest as you and this does not mean your relationship is less important or less of a priority.
I hate people that bring their boyfriends to Taylor Swift shows... they are litterally taking away the chance of someone that actually loves her music for decades now and wants be there for some guy who will stand there awkwardly most of the 3 and half hours. Good for her for taking someone that actually sang her heart out next to her instead of the boyfriend
Dump her dude
Next time you want something, donāt passive aggressively try and get it. Say what you mean. If you got a ticket for yourself you shouldnāt have even given her two tickets, just one. Would have avoided this whole situation. Of course she would want to go with the person who loves Swift just as much as her. And when she found out you wanted to go she switched it up and said sheād go with you. You messed up trying to make her pick between you and her girlfriend by making it sound like it was a casual decision that was totally up to her and didnāt matter. Why the hell would you say that if you didnāt mean it? And then get bitter about it? This is why relationships fail. Communication needs to be upfront, clear, and concise. Not this wishy-washy bullshit.
I gotta ask has she always put a friend above you in a scenario? If this is a first time it's something to just acknowledge and keep going but it's pretty damn insensitive for your gf to immediately assume this situation for her and her bff then oh I dunno someone who bought the damn tickets. Added note: You really need to tell your gf it wasn't cool for her to do that but you need to grow a spine.
Sounds like there's a bigger problem here. I don't think she has much respect for you. Based on how quickly she decided to flip it over for herself. (She's not evil, it just happens that you're not very good with your boundaries). And fortunately I think this is something you can work on. When you said "you can go with her." It made it obvious that you don't currently have strong boundaries with her, so she knows she can walk over you. In the future be vulnerable and genuine. You could immediately say "I want to spend time with you, so I bought these for us. Why would you immediately go to it being your friends and yours, that's hurtful." And then continue the discussion from there, respectfully. And if she's getting all upset and negative about you wanting some mutual respect. Just take one of your best male friends and have fun, give her chocolates instead. Or just give those back get your money. Buy her some chocolate and go with your friend to do something cool. Eventually if she's worth you. She's going to respect you more and love you more. Because it has to be mutual and you have to be real and leader. But it will be unpleasant at first.
Is it just me finding reasonable what the gf did? I would feel guilty if i had a super old promise with my bestie that we're gonna watch together our fave artist if they ever come and then being forced to go without her. That would feel like betrayal. That being said, it's also unfair to the boyfriend since it was him who made the effort and money to buy the tickets. But the friend even refunded him her part so i think that's correct at least. And the gf even agreed to go with the bf but then he said it was fine if they go instead, so.. I think this is a difficult situation. Since it's clearly so important for the gf to go with her bestie, the guy should have arranged for all 3 of them to go together. I can't believe the gf never talked about the concert or how she'd love to go with her friend, the tour announcement and the ticket sale is on a different date, he should have known about this info imo.