have a roommate where you share a bed, cuddle, split the bills while living together, own at least one dog (preferrably multiple), drive a subaru...... and then 6-12 months down the road, ask them if they'd like to be your girlfriend.
You’re also forgetting all of the ghosted texts followed by a few texts where they say they will do better at texting and they do for a few weeks but then it goes back to ghosting
I never knew being a lesbian would be so hard 🥺I thought the Subaru and the keychain carabiner would do all of the heavy lifting for me.
Or more likely im just attracted to neurodivergent people who struggle at communication just as bad as I do.
I also live in this weird paradox universe where I’m both not sure if they are flirting but also sure that they are flirting. But sometimes it’s both and neither at the same time. It’s Schrödinger’s theory of flirting.
>You’re also forgetting all of the ghosted texts followed by a few texts where they say they will do better at texting and they do for a few weeks but then it goes back to ghosting
My ADHD just amplifies this shit to the moon and I can't help it >·<
It’s okay!! I try really hard to be understanding and patient. If it is something really important I’ll call, otherwise I’m pretty low maintenance and don’t expect texts back instantaneously. Like not even every day.
I do get overwhelmed sometimes and I do really need my alone time, so I get it if others feel the same and physically or mentally cannot text back right away.
P.S. I love your user flair so much!
>I do get overwhelmed sometimes and I do really need my alone time, so I get it if others feel the same and physically or mentally cannot text back right away.
This is one of the main reasons for me too
>I love your user flair so much!
Thank you!!!
I can't speak to that part.
I have an impreza myself and my best friend (not a lesbian!) is on her 3rd or 4th subie and loves them.
I do wish I had a slightly bigger car due to an upcoming move I have, but I've loved my subie to death in the meantime. I can't imagine not owning a subie now.
I also personally like knowing I have all wheel drive.
But cars are personal. If you prefer toyota, then stick with toyota :)
Outside of known recalls, I haven't personally had any issues with my subie. And the dealer has handled the recalls themselves. I also take it in for service there a couple times a year.
That's kinda what I think too. On the other hand, if taking the dog on the car ride means the cat chills out on the car ride and doesn't have as much anxiety. It would make vet trips slightly easier.
AFAIK Toyota and Honda parts are just easier to come by, and almost every mechanic is comfortable working on them. Subarus are easier and cheaper than say, Volkswagen (I love my VW but never again), but some mechanics won’t service them or won’t know what they’re doing.
That being said, everything else I’ve ever heard about Subaru is amazing, and I’ve never known anyone who’s unhappy with theirs.
So, I've had two Foresters now and provided they got their care and feeding, there was only one notable problem. Once you are past your warranty period, the front wheel assembly tends to have either steering or drive bits break. They are fairly affordable to replace, but it has happened on both around the same time for me. (For one I lived on a rough dirt road, for the other I lived in suburbia.)
as someone who owns a cat and a dog. the answer is yes. Just fill them with love and attention and spoil them :)
Supposedly the next thing I'm supposed to do is fill my home with plants, but I haven't gotten to that stage yet.
it's ok for not starting with the animal dlc. fake plants dlc sounds like the wise starting place for you.
now you can decide if you want to go further down the fake plant talent tree, or if you wanna start investing your points into another tree.
It's your life, your talent tree. Do what brings you joy!
There are two types of lesbians: The ones who will bring a listing of nearby farms available for purchase to the first date that will take place inside the u-haul, and the ones who, after a woman flirts relentlessly with them for years, asks them to move in and travels to the ends of the world just to present them with the perfect gemstone to set in the wedding-sword that the woman themselves forged, will still wonder if said woman is just being friendly.
We have a small truck and live in a communal house. Does that still count?
I also wear flannel shirts for the 3 of us. The looks are punk redneck but hot & gay :p
A lesbian who is attracted to you! Just because you're transfem doesn't mean you have to undergo HRT for lesbians to like you! Hell, you don't even have to be femme, and there will still be lesbians attracted to you because you're still included in their attraction!
You might be surprised. Sexuality is a spectrum. There are some girls who identify as lesbians, but they're bi enough that they might date someone male-bodied, if the person thinks and acts like a girl.
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For a lot of people, bi and pan are pretty similar. For me personally, I identify more with pan because I have heard bi described as attraction to genders similar or dissimilar to your own, or as attraction to two or more genders. Whereas for me, I am attracted to who I am attracted to without gender factoring in to my attraction at all. I may be wrong in my understanding of the terms, but that lack of caring about gender at all when it comes to gender is why I identify more with pan.
Oh, I don't know myself enough to tell if I'm BI or PAN but I really don't know if gender is really a factor. I know I'm probably to both so I think I'll join the gang?
Nice thing is, lesbian has been an umbrella term for ages (at least a century), so no matter which of those you find that fits you, lesbian is always available to you if you wish you use it
To me, Bi is attraction to more than one gender, Pan is attraction to all genders.
Pan is a type of Bi, and we're all vibing under the same umbrella <3
Yeah, personally I consider myself Bisexual because gender *does* play a role in my attraction. But, I'm still attracted to pretty much everyone. There's definitely some overlap between bisexuality and pansexuality (namely, the attraction to more than one gender), but I think the exact definition comes down to how people who identify as one or the other define it.
Yeah how I have heard it described as bi you are attracted to multiple (or all) genders, potentially but not necessarily some more than others, whereas pan means you are attracted to people completely regardless of gender
The number of times I've been told that I look like a lesbian while at work is more than I can count.
I always make sure to tell both of my girlfriends afterwards and they never fail to have a giggle, but I still don't understand why. 😞
Reminds me of when I heard the story that someone refused to play a game because "all the female characters look like lesbians". (The game lacked long hair options.)
One time a guy on the construction site said I look like I suck dick.
I said thanks, I'm working on getting better at it.
Never seen a grown man turn so red so fast
I felt like this when I was going through my closet and found all my old formal boy clothes. I decided to try on some collared shirts and blazers just for the heck of it and I was like... wow now this just makes me look super gay. Ah, victory!
My roommate told me a long time ago I come off like a gay twink to him (he clarified he meant in a really good way in conversation) and I saw it as a compliment because I’m quite literally a gay trans man and cis twinks are funny and full of sarcasm but everytime I tell someone cis about it they look at me like I was hate crimed. Is being a twink bad? Did the term become a slur or something? Like???? Am I not supposed to be ok with this???
Lesbian has been an umbrella term since it's inception. We bi/pan lesbians exist, and we've always been here. We just get attacked for using the term in a way that pre-dates the political lesbian movement
I use that as my cop out response when people ask what i am. I’m a lesbian trans woman, but I’m still seen as a guy at times, so yeah I’m a lesbian… do the math😉 then i walk away.
I bought my first pair of women’s pants recently, and when I asked my sister (who I’d just come out to) how they fit she said “you look like a lesbian… but that’s a good thing now!”
Definitely feels validating 😂😅
I think the first ever compliment I got from a friend that made me feel gender euphoria, was something along the lines of :
“Damn ! You look like a lesbian teacher from the [somewhere in USA I forgot] during the 70ties”
I’m not sure anything really topped that one since
i've been told by my friends and close coworkers that it's obvious at first glance that i'm a lesbian (and have had interactions with customers that would confirm that) like thanks y'all this is literally what i always aspired to, glad to know i made it
This comic made me think of this, I call myself pan but if I have to be more refined I say I'm a Lesbian due to me being more biased for fem leaning (even butch) peeps than like masc/male. Is there a specific kinda "word" for this or am I just over thinking?
Whenever someone I know says "gay" as if to mean some kind of insult, even if it's vague or there's only a hint of it, I'm always like, "Okay, and why is that an insult?" They can never fully explain it and just default to going, "Old habits" and insist they aren't brainwashed even just a tiny-bit and are not at all biased.
I'm often told my haircut and dress style makes me look like an 80s lesbian librarian.
I'm pan and have a boyfriend and a transfem life partner, so close enough!
My parents: You look like a lesbian. Me: Thanks, anything I can do to look more like a lesbian?
I'll take any tips
have a roommate where you share a bed, cuddle, split the bills while living together, own at least one dog (preferrably multiple), drive a subaru...... and then 6-12 months down the road, ask them if they'd like to be your girlfriend.
Woah, now! You're really rushing that girlfriend request! What if she's just being nice?!
She put a ring on my finger after I said "I do" but, I think we're just really good friends is all.
I love when roommates get along so well!
I know! They're such good just-friends-and-nothing-more!
Yeah, every time she goes down on me, I think "I could ask her out.." But it would probably just make things weird.
You forgot still cis, too
fair enough. I'm not cis so, thank you for calling it out since I forgot it :)
It’s either that or she doesn’t know how to rent a u-haul.
You’re also forgetting all of the ghosted texts followed by a few texts where they say they will do better at texting and they do for a few weeks but then it goes back to ghosting I never knew being a lesbian would be so hard 🥺I thought the Subaru and the keychain carabiner would do all of the heavy lifting for me. Or more likely im just attracted to neurodivergent people who struggle at communication just as bad as I do. I also live in this weird paradox universe where I’m both not sure if they are flirting but also sure that they are flirting. But sometimes it’s both and neither at the same time. It’s Schrödinger’s theory of flirting.
>You’re also forgetting all of the ghosted texts followed by a few texts where they say they will do better at texting and they do for a few weeks but then it goes back to ghosting My ADHD just amplifies this shit to the moon and I can't help it >·<
It’s okay!! I try really hard to be understanding and patient. If it is something really important I’ll call, otherwise I’m pretty low maintenance and don’t expect texts back instantaneously. Like not even every day. I do get overwhelmed sometimes and I do really need my alone time, so I get it if others feel the same and physically or mentally cannot text back right away. P.S. I love your user flair so much!
>I do get overwhelmed sometimes and I do really need my alone time, so I get it if others feel the same and physically or mentally cannot text back right away. This is one of the main reasons for me too >I love your user flair so much! Thank you!!!
I legit want to get a subaru forester just for the rep, but Toyotas are just so much more reliable from what I've read ;w;.
I can't speak to that part. I have an impreza myself and my best friend (not a lesbian!) is on her 3rd or 4th subie and loves them. I do wish I had a slightly bigger car due to an upcoming move I have, but I've loved my subie to death in the meantime. I can't imagine not owning a subie now. I also personally like knowing I have all wheel drive. But cars are personal. If you prefer toyota, then stick with toyota :) Outside of known recalls, I haven't personally had any issues with my subie. And the dealer has handled the recalls themselves. I also take it in for service there a couple times a year.
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That's kinda what I think too. On the other hand, if taking the dog on the car ride means the cat chills out on the car ride and doesn't have as much anxiety. It would make vet trips slightly easier.
IIRC the subies are fine as long as they have the metal head gasket. Polymer one is what blew out all the time and gave them the bad rep.
AFAIK Toyota and Honda parts are just easier to come by, and almost every mechanic is comfortable working on them. Subarus are easier and cheaper than say, Volkswagen (I love my VW but never again), but some mechanics won’t service them or won’t know what they’re doing. That being said, everything else I’ve ever heard about Subaru is amazing, and I’ve never known anyone who’s unhappy with theirs.
So, I've had two Foresters now and provided they got their care and feeding, there was only one notable problem. Once you are past your warranty period, the front wheel assembly tends to have either steering or drive bits break. They are fairly affordable to replace, but it has happened on both around the same time for me. (For one I lived on a rough dirt road, for the other I lived in suburbia.)
Are cats an acceptable substitute for dogs
Yes.
as someone who owns a cat and a dog. the answer is yes. Just fill them with love and attention and spoil them :) Supposedly the next thing I'm supposed to do is fill my home with plants, but I haven't gotten to that stage yet.
I don't have any animal, but I have fake plants!
it's ok for not starting with the animal dlc. fake plants dlc sounds like the wise starting place for you. now you can decide if you want to go further down the fake plant talent tree, or if you wanna start investing your points into another tree. It's your life, your talent tree. Do what brings you joy!
Oh my morb they were roommates
You should also be in possession of a sword
I would like a sword........ I have toy lightsabers, do those count?
instead of a Subaru, what if Public transit
I'm hoping to use more public transit in the future. I was just trying to hit the stereotype <3
I thought lesbian stereotypes were like, the opposite of this. U-Haul lesbians, and all.
There are two types of lesbians: The ones who will bring a listing of nearby farms available for purchase to the first date that will take place inside the u-haul, and the ones who, after a woman flirts relentlessly with them for years, asks them to move in and travels to the ends of the world just to present them with the perfect gemstone to set in the wedding-sword that the woman themselves forged, will still wonder if said woman is just being friendly.
We have a small truck and live in a communal house. Does that still count? I also wear flannel shirts for the 3 of us. The looks are punk redneck but hot & gay :p
I'm not the lesbian police! lesbian however you'd like!
a super subaru would be fun to tune
That's what she said
Sword
Me too.
Try kissing a girl, that looks very lesbian. Maybe even hold hands.
Yeah but what lesbian would kiss me? I'm still pre-HRT 😭
A lesbian who is attracted to you! Just because you're transfem doesn't mean you have to undergo HRT for lesbians to like you! Hell, you don't even have to be femme, and there will still be lesbians attracted to you because you're still included in their attraction!
Oh I'm definitely butch, but that 'lesbian who's attracted to me' still sounds like a mythical creature. 😅
'Mean, with how many stories there are about being someone's one exception, you imagine it has to happen. Tis what's inside that matters.
That dosent mean that you cant be the kind of cutie a lesbian would kiss
You might be surprised. Sexuality is a spectrum. There are some girls who identify as lesbians, but they're bi enough that they might date someone male-bodied, if the person thinks and acts like a girl.
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I can't wear that cuz I'm hot natured and my brother wears that plaid stuff and I don't wanna look like him.
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Surely you mean your roommate?
Historically speaking? Probably
They were just the bestest of friends!
same but instead of looking like a lesbian i look stupid :P
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Same, but instead of people telling me I look like a lesbian, they tell me I look stupid (I’m also a guy).
Ayyyy, transpanbians rise up!! 🔥✊️😩🔥
Now that's a level of calling out that should be ilegal
I have no idea what my sexuality is, and I don't know the difference between bisexuality and pansexuality
For a lot of people, bi and pan are pretty similar. For me personally, I identify more with pan because I have heard bi described as attraction to genders similar or dissimilar to your own, or as attraction to two or more genders. Whereas for me, I am attracted to who I am attracted to without gender factoring in to my attraction at all. I may be wrong in my understanding of the terms, but that lack of caring about gender at all when it comes to gender is why I identify more with pan.
Oh, I don't know myself enough to tell if I'm BI or PAN but I really don't know if gender is really a factor. I know I'm probably to both so I think I'll join the gang?
Welcome sis! And please don't feel like you're obligated to stay if you find that some other descriptor suits you better personally~
Thank you sis.
Nice thing is, lesbian has been an umbrella term for ages (at least a century), so no matter which of those you find that fits you, lesbian is always available to you if you wish you use it
To me, Bi is attraction to more than one gender, Pan is attraction to all genders. Pan is a type of Bi, and we're all vibing under the same umbrella <3
Yeah, personally I consider myself Bisexual because gender *does* play a role in my attraction. But, I'm still attracted to pretty much everyone. There's definitely some overlap between bisexuality and pansexuality (namely, the attraction to more than one gender), but I think the exact definition comes down to how people who identify as one or the other define it.
Yeah how I have heard it described as bi you are attracted to multiple (or all) genders, potentially but not necessarily some more than others, whereas pan means you are attracted to people completely regardless of gender
Kiki and Bouba
Booba 😩
I'm too short to do that 😔
I'm still tall, so I can give you a lift~
Yeah!
Oh no! A compliment! What do I do with those? Tell my girlfriend about it???
When ever I see a new comic drop fro Brooke I feel like that meme from monty python and the holy grail *A blessing from the lord*
No no you don’t need to kneel
I've worked very hard to look like a lesbian
The number of times I've been told that I look like a lesbian while at work is more than I can count. I always make sure to tell both of my girlfriends afterwards and they never fail to have a giggle, but I still don't understand why. 😞
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Reminds me of when I heard the story that someone refused to play a game because "all the female characters look like lesbians". (The game lacked long hair options.)
I aspire to look extremely lesbian
“I thought you were American”
Lol if someone told me unprompted that I looked like an American, *then* I'd be devastated
One time a guy on the construction site said I look like I suck dick. I said thanks, I'm working on getting better at it. Never seen a grown man turn so red so fast
I felt like this when I was going through my closet and found all my old formal boy clothes. I decided to try on some collared shirts and blazers just for the heck of it and I was like... wow now this just makes me look super gay. Ah, victory!
My roommate told me a long time ago I come off like a gay twink to him (he clarified he meant in a really good way in conversation) and I saw it as a compliment because I’m quite literally a gay trans man and cis twinks are funny and full of sarcasm but everytime I tell someone cis about it they look at me like I was hate crimed. Is being a twink bad? Did the term become a slur or something? Like???? Am I not supposed to be ok with this???
Technically not wrong…maybe? \^\^’ I mean fairly wrong but we take what we can get
I'd be over the moon if someone said I looked like a gay guy! Very affirming to hear I'm assuming 😂
tbh my goal at this point is to just boymode so badly that people assume I'm a lesbian.
Sister: you look like a gay guy Meanwhile, father: is [my name] a lesbian? I be looking gay both ways
Lesbian has been an umbrella term since it's inception. We bi/pan lesbians exist, and we've always been here. We just get attacked for using the term in a way that pre-dates the political lesbian movement
Won’t ever forget someone told me I looked like i didn’t know if I wanted to be a man or a woman 😂
Oh, I LOVE when someone says I look like a lesbian. That kind of butch femme 'lesbian' look is 100% what im going for 80% of the time.
Based.
Honestly? I'm ace and wouldn't mind "looking like a lesbian". Lesbians are pretty based.
I use that as my cop out response when people ask what i am. I’m a lesbian trans woman, but I’m still seen as a guy at times, so yeah I’m a lesbian… do the math😉 then i walk away.
Based on what?
I have semi short hair irl (growing it out) I assume it's cuz of that- lame as that is
I hope i look like lesbian
I bought my first pair of women’s pants recently, and when I asked my sister (who I’d just come out to) how they fit she said “you look like a lesbian… but that’s a good thing now!” Definitely feels validating 😂😅
Pan trans femme enby right here, I wait for the day this is said tobme
My wife told me I was throwing off lesbian vibes a week or so ago. It was an incredible compliment! 🤗
Transbains: Oh noooo! Whatever shall I do! *Goes to kiss gf*
Lol I get this a lot. I had coworkers, family, and friends tell me I look like a young lesbian.
I think the first ever compliment I got from a friend that made me feel gender euphoria, was something along the lines of : “Damn ! You look like a lesbian teacher from the [somewhere in USA I forgot] during the 70ties” I’m not sure anything really topped that one since
This got bonehurting juiced into a loss joke.
Yeah I saw lol
Got well and truly bamboozled and slightly nettled by it before seeing noticing the sub name.
My parents: you look like a girl Me: I have achieved my perfect form then
Principals always look like lesbians…
Someone said I look like a lesbian before I was out and I grinned from ear to ear
Oh really? I thought she was straight (please laugh)
My friend once told me I looked like a lesbian to mock me, the euphoria alone could have ascended me straight to heaven.
Ain't that the goal?
I was talking about something similar just yesterday with my friends o_0
i've been told by my friends and close coworkers that it's obvious at first glance that i'm a lesbian (and have had interactions with customers that would confirm that) like thanks y'all this is literally what i always aspired to, glad to know i made it
Is it possible to learn this power
I feel called out omg
FUCK YES SLAY I wish i looked more lesbian cuz. i am one
So you like not just the men, but the women, and the other groups too? They're people, and you adore them as people? You love them?
I mean I'm Omni/Pan but I'll definitely take looking lesbian
This comic made me think of this, I call myself pan but if I have to be more refined I say I'm a Lesbian due to me being more biased for fem leaning (even butch) peeps than like masc/male. Is there a specific kinda "word" for this or am I just over thinking?
Gynesexual maybe?
I don’t look like a lesbian, I just look tired and out of shape. Maybe a tired and out of shape lesbian. Or bisexual if you wanna be specific.
Samesies
Teach me your ways
gotta love transpans :pray:
A recentlly renovated park in my city has an arena theater painted in the pan flag colours. UNINTENTIONALLY
Whenever someone I know says "gay" as if to mean some kind of insult, even if it's vague or there's only a hint of it, I'm always like, "Okay, and why is that an insult?" They can never fully explain it and just default to going, "Old habits" and insist they aren't brainwashed even just a tiny-bit and are not at all biased.
Happy pan visibility day!
I'm often told my haircut and dress style makes me look like an 80s lesbian librarian. I'm pan and have a boyfriend and a transfem life partner, so close enough!
Before I started transitioning I was once told I had bi vibes and I was like "eh, close enough."
I mean ya are butch
I'm not really lol I just got short hair
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