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Taking time to ground yourself is important. I find, when I’m writing very dense things and they stick with me, that sometimes it’s because there’s emotion that I haven’t fully processed. Sometimes I cry it out, sometimes I shake it out or get physical, sometimes I mediate with it or I take time to journal about what I’m feeling so it can shift. Ultimately, I find it most important to sift through whether the feelings are an important part of the text that I haven’t yet addressed, or if I just need some TLC because I’m human.
Sending goodness your way.
Interesting, for me writing IS the release. Sure I might cry while creating an intense scene, but it takes real life negative emotions and releases them in a healthy manner.
Approach it like you would any real life negative emotion: talk to someone you love about it, allow yourself to fully feel the negative emotions before giving yourself permission to let go, do mindfulness excercises, read/watch/do something nice and comforting etc.
If this keeps happening think about what kind of scenes cause this reaction, and consider why. Maybe it is a problem you need professional help with (such as a real life trauma this reminds you of), or it's a topic you should awoid in the future.
I always cry while writing emotional scenes or even thinking about them. As the writer, I always feel them as if they are my experiences. But I kind of fantasize death so I keep killing characters in my stories :"3
Hope things get better for you🌼
I’ll usually play a game that requires a lot of focus and/or has a really great story so my mind isn’t able to keep going back to the dark stuff. Apart from that I have go-to YouTube videos that always make me smile or I find shows that are so absurd it breaks my brain for an hour or two
I write my characters enjoying themselves. Doesn't have to be part of the story either. One moment my heroine is dealing with all her friends all dying. The next she's in bed reading her favorite smut book, Love at the Speed of Nut.
I ride with the chaos, and live with the messed up. I'm built different, so I just keep writing. Ofc after a moment of surprise. I find it funny how I can plan a death from LITERALLY day one of writing it and yet, even though I've described every detail in notes, I still manage to act surprised as if it was random, lol.
It might help if you just breathe and think about it. Deaths are very... Important. If it is for the story, you MUST keep going. Definitely don't desensitize yourself (I'm somehow not even though my method is a little :/ ). Anyways, you just have to remember the story needs it. There really is no way to move on. I killed off a beloved character in my first book because it was needed... I wrote the death three years ago. I haven't moved past it since (much like a death irl). But I never was depressed about it. Depression from killing off a character you came up with is strictly for the weak minded. How can you make a character if you can't live with them being killed off? Actually, I can't quite say that since I've saved quite a few from death, lol.
TL;DR: In the moment, I'm angry and blah blah, but after the moment and the emotions fade (which isn't very long), I simply just move on. The story requires me to.
Honestly I take a break from writing until I can feel at ease again. I like reading, sleeping, studying, and playing video games to relax myself so I’ll do a mix of those things to level myself again. When I feel ready, I start writing the next part of the book. Rinse and repeat for all of the emotionally taxing sections of the book.
I feel that... I have two heavy duty chapters that wear me out every time I have to read through to edit them. I usually give myself a couple of days to take a writing break before getting back to it. I'll watch a movie or maybe even take a nap...!
If I stopped at a healthy point, I just need to lay down and calm down. Basically meditate. If I pushed it to far, I have to watch cute videos on youtube
After writing emotional scenes, I normally will take an hour or two play like a cheerful and relaxing video game, or I will watch a comfort show of mine like Drag Race. It really depends on the scenes and how much they mentally mess with me. I wrote a scene where a character was having a massive PTSD flashback, and it made me actually cry while I was writing it. I stopped writing that specific WIP for a few days and focused on a happier WIP.
Strangely enough I don't feel anything when I write. When I read it back later I might get affected,(I once wrote about a child murder and was only horrified after I read it during the edits-as if I wasnt the one who made it). I think I'm too focused on getting the work done to process the emotional beats to it in the moment. Try thinking of it in a very mechanical way i.e. this scene needs to get done and this is what needs to happen so you're more detached from it while you're writing.
Go on rampages in something like Cyberpunk or GTA. Destructive violence that hurts no one can help more than you think to let emotions out. That, or making yourself cry as hard as you can for 5ish minutes. Both are very good methods for emotion control.
i don’t know how healthy this is but i find a release in writing so i write some fluff with the character all happy and alive and cute and pure and healing (like an alternate universe where the bad thing didn’t happen). it’s not included in the story, but it overwrites the bad thing in my immediate memory and calms me down/makes me feel better. My characters feel really REAL to me so it helps to remind myself that it isn’t real and i can control what happens, and i can write something good for just me that helps cope.
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Weed.
Trust me I would if I could lol
God bless Canada. It's federally legal here 🇨🇦
I live in England lol so I've got no chance
That's tragic.
Taking time to ground yourself is important. I find, when I’m writing very dense things and they stick with me, that sometimes it’s because there’s emotion that I haven’t fully processed. Sometimes I cry it out, sometimes I shake it out or get physical, sometimes I mediate with it or I take time to journal about what I’m feeling so it can shift. Ultimately, I find it most important to sift through whether the feelings are an important part of the text that I haven’t yet addressed, or if I just need some TLC because I’m human. Sending goodness your way.
Interesting, for me writing IS the release. Sure I might cry while creating an intense scene, but it takes real life negative emotions and releases them in a healthy manner. Approach it like you would any real life negative emotion: talk to someone you love about it, allow yourself to fully feel the negative emotions before giving yourself permission to let go, do mindfulness excercises, read/watch/do something nice and comforting etc. If this keeps happening think about what kind of scenes cause this reaction, and consider why. Maybe it is a problem you need professional help with (such as a real life trauma this reminds you of), or it's a topic you should awoid in the future.
If past experience is any guide, I share my feelings on a subreddit and get slagged for it.
For me, I keep writing. If I were you, I would listen to music. Helps me calm down.
I always cry while writing emotional scenes or even thinking about them. As the writer, I always feel them as if they are my experiences. But I kind of fantasize death so I keep killing characters in my stories :"3 Hope things get better for you🌼
I’ll usually play a game that requires a lot of focus and/or has a really great story so my mind isn’t able to keep going back to the dark stuff. Apart from that I have go-to YouTube videos that always make me smile or I find shows that are so absurd it breaks my brain for an hour or two
I keep writing. What is there to decompress about?
Yep. Keep writing to get to the revenge/justice scene.
I write my characters enjoying themselves. Doesn't have to be part of the story either. One moment my heroine is dealing with all her friends all dying. The next she's in bed reading her favorite smut book, Love at the Speed of Nut.
I ride with the chaos, and live with the messed up. I'm built different, so I just keep writing. Ofc after a moment of surprise. I find it funny how I can plan a death from LITERALLY day one of writing it and yet, even though I've described every detail in notes, I still manage to act surprised as if it was random, lol. It might help if you just breathe and think about it. Deaths are very... Important. If it is for the story, you MUST keep going. Definitely don't desensitize yourself (I'm somehow not even though my method is a little :/ ). Anyways, you just have to remember the story needs it. There really is no way to move on. I killed off a beloved character in my first book because it was needed... I wrote the death three years ago. I haven't moved past it since (much like a death irl). But I never was depressed about it. Depression from killing off a character you came up with is strictly for the weak minded. How can you make a character if you can't live with them being killed off? Actually, I can't quite say that since I've saved quite a few from death, lol. TL;DR: In the moment, I'm angry and blah blah, but after the moment and the emotions fade (which isn't very long), I simply just move on. The story requires me to.
Do the same thing in real life and compare the feeling. /s
Honestly I take a break from writing until I can feel at ease again. I like reading, sleeping, studying, and playing video games to relax myself so I’ll do a mix of those things to level myself again. When I feel ready, I start writing the next part of the book. Rinse and repeat for all of the emotionally taxing sections of the book.
I watch Youtube Shorts until I can't think properly
Write a short story children’s book with a moral like Aesop fabels.
mindless scrolling through YouTube shorts.
YouTube shorts—the gentleman writer’s emotional crutch
I feel that... I have two heavy duty chapters that wear me out every time I have to read through to edit them. I usually give myself a couple of days to take a writing break before getting back to it. I'll watch a movie or maybe even take a nap...!
Fuzzy blanket, feel good movie, and comfort food. And if you have pets/significant other, snuggles.
Literally lying on my couch scrolling Reddit right… so, that I guess
If I stopped at a healthy point, I just need to lay down and calm down. Basically meditate. If I pushed it to far, I have to watch cute videos on youtube
I write to process to emotional stuff. That's what they mean when they say "write from experience".
I write a short fluff piece involving the character/s just for myself so I feel better. I feel you.
After writing emotional scenes, I normally will take an hour or two play like a cheerful and relaxing video game, or I will watch a comfort show of mine like Drag Race. It really depends on the scenes and how much they mentally mess with me. I wrote a scene where a character was having a massive PTSD flashback, and it made me actually cry while I was writing it. I stopped writing that specific WIP for a few days and focused on a happier WIP.
Strangely enough I don't feel anything when I write. When I read it back later I might get affected,(I once wrote about a child murder and was only horrified after I read it during the edits-as if I wasnt the one who made it). I think I'm too focused on getting the work done to process the emotional beats to it in the moment. Try thinking of it in a very mechanical way i.e. this scene needs to get done and this is what needs to happen so you're more detached from it while you're writing.
Try comedy.
Lay in bed and cry a little lol. Maybe watch YouTube.
Go on rampages in something like Cyberpunk or GTA. Destructive violence that hurts no one can help more than you think to let emotions out. That, or making yourself cry as hard as you can for 5ish minutes. Both are very good methods for emotion control.
I go outside and walk - preferably alone in the woods or hills.
Exercise or cry or talk to my wife. Depends on the situation. Sometimes all three.
i don’t know how healthy this is but i find a release in writing so i write some fluff with the character all happy and alive and cute and pure and healing (like an alternate universe where the bad thing didn’t happen). it’s not included in the story, but it overwrites the bad thing in my immediate memory and calms me down/makes me feel better. My characters feel really REAL to me so it helps to remind myself that it isn’t real and i can control what happens, and i can write something good for just me that helps cope.
I write something funny