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Fully YTA. She's a child. What's your excuse for being spiteful? Also, you could not have proven her more correct about you if you tried. Punishing her because YOU don't listen? Y T A does not even begin to describe what you are.
Where do you think she got her "disrespectful" attitude from?
Take some time to reflect, go apologize and let your daughter know you heard her, you're going to work on listening to her and help her rebuild her project.
Of course YTA.
*"...this will teach her the lesson she needs*"? I suppose so...if you're trying to teach her that you have no self control and are spiteful.
Find some mature ways to handle frustration and anger and be a better parent.
YTA times a million. You are an emotionally abusive a$$.
If your wife reads this, I hope she divorces you and protects the kid from you. This is not ok.
Based on how you represent yourself here, you don't deserve any respect. YTA and more, you are a nasty bullying father who has no idea about what constitutes good parenting.
You are horrible bro wtf. You threw a temper tantrum because your daughter pointed out you don’t listen, which your wife agreed with it. Instead of being a grown adult and actually going oh i don’t listen and doing better you decided that destroying your child’s school work was the punishment that was needed. Do you see how ridiculous that is? Then you’re gonna get mad at her if she fails because of the project that you fucked. How are you a parent with emotional maturity of a 7 year old? No matter how mad i made my moms he never destroyed my things and especially my school work. You suck bro. This is just giving her more of a reason to hate you.
If two people say you don’t listen, then you don’t listen. You wouldn’t have gotten so mad if you knew you listened. Two people who are with you on a daily basis said you don’t. You don’t listen bro. Go throw a tantrum about that.
YTA! You punished your daughter for expressing her feelings of being invalidated and unheard by you, and you did so by sabotaging her hard work at school? That’s awful.
YTA. destroying her schoolwork was a pointless act of anger. what does that teach her? nothing, and now you've jeopardised her grade on the project.
how did she "disrespect" you? is it because she's growing up and has opinions of her own? shocking!
kind of ridiculous that you don't see this and are looking for sympathy from strangers on the internet.
YTA. Saying you "never listen" is expressing an opinion, which shouldn't by itself be a punishable offense. You compounded this by destroying her school project, and what is she going to tell her teacher if she's unable to redo it in time? I highly doubt the teacher is likely to accept "My daddy broke it" as an excuse even if it's the absolute truth. If she gets a bad grade, then what, does she get punished for the bad grade that you caused?
If you want to discipline your kid for actual offenses, maybe stick to grounding, taking her phone, etc.
YTA, she wasn’t rude she told you that she felt you didn’t listen, your wife agreed that it didn’t need punishment so you decide to wreck something she worked hard on and that she can now fail a class for. You need to work on yourself if this is not a troll.
YTA. Hopefully your wife listens to your actions and leaves you.
She needs to start by going to the school and explaining to her daughters teacher that you, a grown man out of jealousy and spite destroyed her class project.
Then she needs to go to an attorney and get you some walking papers that include no unsupervised visits with her daughter until you get anger management therapy.
YTA and an incredibly hostile, volatile, abusive one at that! If I was your wife I would divorce you over the way you think it's OK to punish a child. You destroyed her homework, do you think she will ever forget what you've done or forgive you and have a future relationship with you? I don't!
YTA. Your daughter is more mature than you! You should just stop trying because you are wrong beyond belief. You just messed with her education and you need tell her teacher what you did. Hopefully she can get an extensiom.
Wow. Are you 5? Go have your tantrum with mommy. Of course you’re the asshole. How could you not be? You’re a disrespectful, whiny, asshole. Get some therapy for your anger issues.
I'm having a really hard time buying this post as for real. It not believable that an adult person and parent would react this way, and express these rationales. Maybe a 12 year old brother is changing the roles, hoping for validation for the awful thing he did to his sister? Whoever you are, you are clearly a full scale mega-AH.
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I'm 43M and my daughter is 14F.
My daughter can be kind of argumentative and it's frustrating to try and reason with her because of how she is. She's been working on a diagram type thing for her history class and it's apparently a big thing.
Last night her and I were talking and it lead to another argument. She made a comment about how I "never listen" which angered me, so I decided to punish her. I sent her to her room but she told her mom (my wife) and was let off. I tried to tell my wife she was punished, but she told me I was overreacting. I was mad she evaded punishment and decided to punish her harder. I found her project in her room and threw it out, destroying it so she couldn't just dig it out of the trash. She found out and was very upset with me, but I told her that she knew she was punished and got out of it so this will teach her the lesson she needs. She's now sulking because she "worked so hard" and now has to start over and has little time to finish.
My wife and I have been arguing about this and she thinks I overreacted, but I think I'm just doing what a parent should do and disciplining my kid. She told me my daughter was right and that I never listen, especially since I destroyed her important project after she had said it was a final project and she could fail for this, but I was disrespected which I think makes that point null and void.
My daughter and wife are upset with me now and now I'm wondering, am I the asshole?
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Fully YTA. She's a child. What's your excuse for being spiteful? Also, you could not have proven her more correct about you if you tried. Punishing her because YOU don't listen? Y T A does not even begin to describe what you are.
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Where do you think she got her "disrespectful" attitude from? Take some time to reflect, go apologize and let your daughter know you heard her, you're going to work on listening to her and help her rebuild her project.
Of course YTA. *"...this will teach her the lesson she needs*"? I suppose so...if you're trying to teach her that you have no self control and are spiteful. Find some mature ways to handle frustration and anger and be a better parent.
Another obvious AH...no one e could think he is anything else. I also consider this abusive. (But likely fake)
YTA times a million. You are an emotionally abusive a$$. If your wife reads this, I hope she divorces you and protects the kid from you. This is not ok.
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You're abusing her kid and think nothing of it. This is emotional AND educational abuse. Of course she should divorce you to protect your daughter.
Hopefully shut down soon
YTA > I think I'm just doing what a parent should do and disciplining my kid. But she never did anything?
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You disrespected your wife and child.
Based on how you represent yourself here, you don't deserve any respect. YTA and more, you are a nasty bullying father who has no idea about what constitutes good parenting.
No one who has *ever* whined about being disrespected actually **deserved** any respect. Respect happens naturally.
You are horrible bro wtf. You threw a temper tantrum because your daughter pointed out you don’t listen, which your wife agreed with it. Instead of being a grown adult and actually going oh i don’t listen and doing better you decided that destroying your child’s school work was the punishment that was needed. Do you see how ridiculous that is? Then you’re gonna get mad at her if she fails because of the project that you fucked. How are you a parent with emotional maturity of a 7 year old? No matter how mad i made my moms he never destroyed my things and especially my school work. You suck bro. This is just giving her more of a reason to hate you.
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If two people say you don’t listen, then you don’t listen. You wouldn’t have gotten so mad if you knew you listened. Two people who are with you on a daily basis said you don’t. You don’t listen bro. Go throw a tantrum about that.
This is not disciplining your kid. This is interfering with their education and pure bullying. And lazy. YTA.
YTA! You punished your daughter for expressing her feelings of being invalidated and unheard by you, and you did so by sabotaging her hard work at school? That’s awful.
YTA. destroying her schoolwork was a pointless act of anger. what does that teach her? nothing, and now you've jeopardised her grade on the project. how did she "disrespect" you? is it because she's growing up and has opinions of her own? shocking! kind of ridiculous that you don't see this and are looking for sympathy from strangers on the internet.
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did you also say things that she perhaps thought were hurtful?
YTA This isn’t disciplining a kid.
YTA - wtf?! This is awful.
YTA and if she fails this project and gets a reduced grade for the class it’s your fault.
YTA. Saying you "never listen" is expressing an opinion, which shouldn't by itself be a punishable offense. You compounded this by destroying her school project, and what is she going to tell her teacher if she's unable to redo it in time? I highly doubt the teacher is likely to accept "My daddy broke it" as an excuse even if it's the absolute truth. If she gets a bad grade, then what, does she get punished for the bad grade that you caused? If you want to discipline your kid for actual offenses, maybe stick to grounding, taking her phone, etc.
Lol this can’t be real
YTA, she wasn’t rude she told you that she felt you didn’t listen, your wife agreed that it didn’t need punishment so you decide to wreck something she worked hard on and that she can now fail a class for. You need to work on yourself if this is not a troll.
YTA seriously you sound like little brother more than father.
YTA. Hopefully your wife listens to your actions and leaves you. She needs to start by going to the school and explaining to her daughters teacher that you, a grown man out of jealousy and spite destroyed her class project. Then she needs to go to an attorney and get you some walking papers that include no unsupervised visits with her daughter until you get anger management therapy.
Holy shit. YTA. Big, flaming A. Maybe you need to step back and see a therapist, my man.
YTA
Major, full-on, 100% YTA.
YTA and an incredibly hostile, volatile, abusive one at that! If I was your wife I would divorce you over the way you think it's OK to punish a child. You destroyed her homework, do you think she will ever forget what you've done or forgive you and have a future relationship with you? I don't!
YTA. Your daughter is more mature than you! You should just stop trying because you are wrong beyond belief. You just messed with her education and you need tell her teacher what you did. Hopefully she can get an extensiom.
Wow. Are you 5? Go have your tantrum with mommy. Of course you’re the asshole. How could you not be? You’re a disrespectful, whiny, asshole. Get some therapy for your anger issues.
YTA and abusive. Get some professional help.
YTA - destroying her stuff amounts to abuse. Also, punishing her for telling you you don't listen is exactly the point she was probably making...
I'm having a really hard time buying this post as for real. It not believable that an adult person and parent would react this way, and express these rationales. Maybe a 12 year old brother is changing the roles, hoping for validation for the awful thing he did to his sister? Whoever you are, you are clearly a full scale mega-AH.
Yta and you daughter is rightbyouvdobtblisten to anyone and You have anger probelm.
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Yep!
What did your child do?
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