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YTA. It doesn't sound like she asked for your opinion.
> was it fair for me to speak up about something that's been bothering me for a while?
Bothering you *for a while*? Stop eating her food and going over there for dinner then. JFC.
YTA -
1. It's not inedible, just not to your "taste expectations"
2. She did not ask
3. You went round to her house and insulted her cooking. No wonder she was in tears
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I (29F) recently found myself in a bit of a sticky situation with my sister-in-law (34F), and now I'm questioning if I handled it the right way.
So, my sister-in-law is really passionate about cooking, and she takes a lot of pride in her culinary skills. However, the truth is, her cooking just doesn't hit the mark for me. I've tried to be polite in the past, offering compliments and thanking her for the meals she prepares, but truth be told, I struggle to enjoy her dishes.
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YTA. If you can't be quiet, the most you could say is it's "not to my taste". Nobody can argue taste ("de gustibus non disputandum est"). To add in cooking tips is a direct insult.
YTA. If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. Especially when your opinion wasn't asked for. If you don't like her cooking suck it up or stop eating it
NTA
You attempted to be polite and/or kind in your honesty. Perhaps simply stating it wasn’t your cup of tea may have been a better approach. You cannot take it back now. Neither of you were malicious, so please try to mend fences without lying about enjoying the taste of her food.
Look for local spots for cooking classes and gift them to her (perhaps you or your husband could go too so it’s social). It may help her future dishes to be more palatable.
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YTA. It doesn't sound like she asked for your opinion. > was it fair for me to speak up about something that's been bothering me for a while? Bothering you *for a while*? Stop eating her food and going over there for dinner then. JFC.
YTA - 1. It's not inedible, just not to your "taste expectations" 2. She did not ask 3. You went round to her house and insulted her cooking. No wonder she was in tears
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YTA because she didn't ask your opinion. If she asked, it would have been different. But no one wants an unwanted opinion.
YTA. You don’t have to say stuff like that out loud.
YTA - no one asked your opinion on it and there was no need to offer it
Info: Did she ask for your opinion on the meal?
YTA. If you can't be quiet, the most you could say is it's "not to my taste". Nobody can argue taste ("de gustibus non disputandum est"). To add in cooking tips is a direct insult.
YTA "Didn't meet my taste expectations" This isn't master chef and you're not Gordon Ramsay, shut up and eat the food and go home
YTA. If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. Especially when your opinion wasn't asked for. If you don't like her cooking suck it up or stop eating it
NTA You attempted to be polite and/or kind in your honesty. Perhaps simply stating it wasn’t your cup of tea may have been a better approach. You cannot take it back now. Neither of you were malicious, so please try to mend fences without lying about enjoying the taste of her food. Look for local spots for cooking classes and gift them to her (perhaps you or your husband could go too so it’s social). It may help her future dishes to be more palatable.