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This is a joke right? This can’t be a real post. The entitlement is literally not believable.
But on the offchance it is, then massively YTA. I started paying my MUM rent when I turned 18 and took care of my own dishes, laundry etc. If you have a problem with it, move out. You’ll be in the same situation but I guarantee you you’ll be paying way more in rent and utilities. The discount on all of those things, plus a safe and familiar place to stay is what you get when your family gives you a place to stay. Not a free ride while you work full time.
Ok see thank you because I am super dense when it comes to be able to tell about things like this. And the dystopic nightmare of real events and attitudes being indistinguishable from satire is not helping rn.
I honestly don’t know how they stay up so long. It’s like mods sometimes takedown posts that don’t seem fake and don’t seem to break any rules and the rule cited makes no sense but then these stay up? Just weird lol, def wouldn’t want to be a mod
When I was 20 I paid my parents $300/mo and that was in the mid 80’s! The entitlement is massive with this one but I’m a bit shocked they are surprised or that ignorant to the cost of living
You lost me massively when you state you can’t clean your dishes at night because it interferes with your “sleep cycle”. Wtf? YTA. If you don’t like his terms, if you think they are unreasonable, then move out.
You are now an adult and working full time. Pay rent and utilities or find your own place. And for goodness sake, start washing your own dishes!!! Yikes. Hoping this is a bait post.
Info: What was the agreement made between you and your uncle? That you would stay for free? Is your dad suppose to supplement your expenses? 500$ for a room sounds about right.
YTA. You seem to have forgotten that you are not a child anymore, you're a full blown adult. Why would you assume/expect your Uncle to pay your way? He allowed you to live there rent free, and you were expecting him to buy all your furniture are shit for you? No, my dude, that's not how things work when you are an adult.
Your argument that you are his nephew and he should treat you as such makes no fucking sense in this context. Being his nephew doesn't entitle you to his money, for him to pay your bills, clean up your messes, etc.
If you don't like your Uncle's rules, and don't want to pay rent to him, move out. Try getting an apartment and payinig all your own bills on top of it. You will quickly see how nice you have it right now.
So you have nowhere to go, your uncle took you in, and you're giving him attitude? YTA here. Where do you think you'll be able to live for $500 a month?
YTA. You live under your uncle's roof. Your dad only gave him money to cover your food. You work so you should be able to cover some of the living expenses and you don't make him living with you easy. If you don't like his terms, move out.
This can’t be real. If it is you are most definitely the asshole…you can’t seriously expect that you would be able to live with your Uncle completely free of charge. Did you also seriously expect him to furnish a room for you? Welcome to not living at home and becoming an adult. You should try acting like one instead of an entitled child
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I 19M moved in with my uncle 4 months ago. I moved from Oregon and my uncle allowed me to move with him, I do have my own room also. I am working and I have been working since the day after I moved to this state. I work hard for my money and I am on my stuff as I started applying to jobs before I even got here.
I have my own tv that I had to buy, a desk to study since college semester will be coming up for me, and a bed and blankets that I also had to purchase myself. My uncle didn’t make me feel very welcome since when I got here all I had was an empty room and no blankets. Even when he took me to Walmart I grabbed everything I needed for my room the day I got here, and when we got to checkout I thought my uncle was paying but he told me that my dad only sent him enough to pay for my food. I was starting to see the type of person my uncle was then, but I brushed it off.
I work full time, today when I got home from work, my uncle came to me and told me that he will start charging me rent and that we will go half on utilities. I was very shocked and upset and I told my uncle that I cannot help him pay for these things. I am his nephew and if he knew he was going to make me pay all these bills then why let me stay? I am working, I am not the one using air conditioning all day plus my uncle screams at me if I turn it on because he says he is hot.
My uncle and I began arguing and as the argument progressed, I told him that I am his nephew and that he should treat me as such. He said that I ran up his utility bill by $300 and that before I came it was never more than $100. He also said that my tv is always loud, that I talk on the phone loud at night and that when I cook that I never cook for him and that I leave him to wash my dishes.
I told him that I have to work the next morning, I have to make sure I get rest so I can’t clean my dishes and wait for them to soak, it would disrupt my sleep cycle, but I would clean them the next day. I also told him that I am only making $13/hr so how can I take my meager earnings to help him pay all these expensive bills? They are not in my name so they are not my responsibility. And $500/month for that tiny room is not worth it. I would die if I didn’t turn air on or open my window.
I have offered to pay my uncle $70 a month $100 at most especially since I make minimum wage at my job, but I will not pay his bills so he can get a come up out of me Or use me.
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YTA
Arguing and claiming that you shouldn't have to pay because you're his nephew shows a lack of understanding and respect for your uncle's financial situation. He is likely not trying to take advantage of you but rather is expecting you to share the burden of the increased costs.
YTA
Whether you're a nephew or a child, you should be pulling your weight as an adult. I don't know if your parents coddled you and just didn't tell you how you should behave as an adult or both, but they did you a big disservice if this is how you're behaving.
Yes, you do your own chores. You pick up after yourself - no excuses. You have a job and should be contributing financially to your living situation. He took you in but not at his own expense. He has no obligation to take you in. He has no obligation to pay anything towards your living expenses. He's giving you a roof, and he's telling you to not be a financial burden which is absolutely fair. You should be making your own way in life.
You should also be a courteous roommate and keep your noise down when living with others. Maybe in the past your family put up with it, but your uncle and future roommates do not. It's rude behavior that you should curb now. You wouldn't like it if someone was being loud when you're trying to sleep or watch TV or just have peace and quiet in your home late at night. Always be kind and considerate of others.
YTA. If you have issues paying rent, do chores around the house.
I legitimately don't know how anyone can sleep soundly in another's house knowing that you are contributing absolutely nothing.
If it's so hard to do anything to help out, leave his house and go stay somewhere else that you can afford
ESH. You and your uncle should have had a discussion about living arrangements before you move in. I think it is unfair for him to ask for $500 in rent + utilities, if this was not the previous arrangement.
It sounds like your uncle was unprepared to have you in his home. Of course an additional person in the home will run up his utility bill.
I’d say begin looking for a different place to live. Can you live in campus at your school?
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This is a joke right? This can’t be a real post. The entitlement is literally not believable. But on the offchance it is, then massively YTA. I started paying my MUM rent when I turned 18 and took care of my own dishes, laundry etc. If you have a problem with it, move out. You’ll be in the same situation but I guarantee you you’ll be paying way more in rent and utilities. The discount on all of those things, plus a safe and familiar place to stay is what you get when your family gives you a place to stay. Not a free ride while you work full time.
Yeah this isn’t real
Ok see thank you because I am super dense when it comes to be able to tell about things like this. And the dystopic nightmare of real events and attitudes being indistinguishable from satire is not helping rn.
I honestly don’t know how they stay up so long. It’s like mods sometimes takedown posts that don’t seem fake and don’t seem to break any rules and the rule cited makes no sense but then these stay up? Just weird lol, def wouldn’t want to be a mod
I check the cake date whenever something wacky is posted. It's almost always the same day as the post.
When I was 20 I paid my parents $300/mo and that was in the mid 80’s! The entitlement is massive with this one but I’m a bit shocked they are surprised or that ignorant to the cost of living
You lost me massively when you state you can’t clean your dishes at night because it interferes with your “sleep cycle”. Wtf? YTA. If you don’t like his terms, if you think they are unreasonable, then move out.
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You are now an adult and working full time. Pay rent and utilities or find your own place. And for goodness sake, start washing your own dishes!!! Yikes. Hoping this is a bait post.
YTA. You're an adult. Bills are part of life. Giving you a room free for 4 months WAS him being generous. Now you need to step up and pay
Info: What was the agreement made between you and your uncle? That you would stay for free? Is your dad suppose to supplement your expenses? 500$ for a room sounds about right.
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What was the agreement between your uncle and your dad?
People must be bored tonight. YTA
That’s what I was thinking. There’s no way some kid can be this much of an asshole.
YTA. You seem to have forgotten that you are not a child anymore, you're a full blown adult. Why would you assume/expect your Uncle to pay your way? He allowed you to live there rent free, and you were expecting him to buy all your furniture are shit for you? No, my dude, that's not how things work when you are an adult. Your argument that you are his nephew and he should treat you as such makes no fucking sense in this context. Being his nephew doesn't entitle you to his money, for him to pay your bills, clean up your messes, etc. If you don't like your Uncle's rules, and don't want to pay rent to him, move out. Try getting an apartment and payinig all your own bills on top of it. You will quickly see how nice you have it right now.
You are so rude. If I was him I'd be sending you home to your parents.
Then pack your things and move. Have you talked to your father and asked what arrangements he made with your uncle?
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So you have nowhere to go, your uncle took you in, and you're giving him attitude? YTA here. Where do you think you'll be able to live for $500 a month?
YTA you are so entitled! Wow
YTA. You live under your uncle's roof. Your dad only gave him money to cover your food. You work so you should be able to cover some of the living expenses and you don't make him living with you easy. If you don't like his terms, move out.
This can’t be real. If it is you are most definitely the asshole…you can’t seriously expect that you would be able to live with your Uncle completely free of charge. Did you also seriously expect him to furnish a room for you? Welcome to not living at home and becoming an adult. You should try acting like one instead of an entitled child
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YTA Arguing and claiming that you shouldn't have to pay because you're his nephew shows a lack of understanding and respect for your uncle's financial situation. He is likely not trying to take advantage of you but rather is expecting you to share the burden of the increased costs.
YTA Whether you're a nephew or a child, you should be pulling your weight as an adult. I don't know if your parents coddled you and just didn't tell you how you should behave as an adult or both, but they did you a big disservice if this is how you're behaving. Yes, you do your own chores. You pick up after yourself - no excuses. You have a job and should be contributing financially to your living situation. He took you in but not at his own expense. He has no obligation to take you in. He has no obligation to pay anything towards your living expenses. He's giving you a roof, and he's telling you to not be a financial burden which is absolutely fair. You should be making your own way in life. You should also be a courteous roommate and keep your noise down when living with others. Maybe in the past your family put up with it, but your uncle and future roommates do not. It's rude behavior that you should curb now. You wouldn't like it if someone was being loud when you're trying to sleep or watch TV or just have peace and quiet in your home late at night. Always be kind and considerate of others.
YTA. If you have issues paying rent, do chores around the house. I legitimately don't know how anyone can sleep soundly in another's house knowing that you are contributing absolutely nothing. If it's so hard to do anything to help out, leave his house and go stay somewhere else that you can afford
ESH. You and your uncle should have had a discussion about living arrangements before you move in. I think it is unfair for him to ask for $500 in rent + utilities, if this was not the previous arrangement. It sounds like your uncle was unprepared to have you in his home. Of course an additional person in the home will run up his utility bill. I’d say begin looking for a different place to live. Can you live in campus at your school?