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ESH - He the most for being in a relationship and pursuing you.
And no one should be kissing someone who is in a relationship. The feelings themselves aren't bad. The acting on them is.
ESH. He sucks because he is lying to you. He is not going to leave his girlfriend for you. You're the AH because he is a taken man, you knew it, and still kissed him. Honestly, you are both gross and deserve each other. But he won't leave her for you. There also isn't any interpersonal conflict and this isn't an advice sub. Try r/relationships.
You both suck in this situation. Learn from it. I have seen this story SOOO many times on here. He is not going to leave his current partner for you. EVERYONE here knows it. I know it. Hell, I read this to my spouse and they know it... You need to learn it. Don't pursue him, or that would make you an even bigger AH, and honestly, a fool. Like I said, this isn't an advice sub. I posted the sub you need to post this in, because this WILL get removed sooner or later. ESH, but you're quickly approaching YTA. Just don't. Find someone who isn't in a relationship and won't lie to you. But you're not coming out smelling of roses in this situation at all, either.
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ESH. The fact is? You knew he was in a relationship and pursued him. He knew he was in a relationship and pursued you.
Why do you keep saying he is “committed to his girlfriend”. Being committed in a relationship means they don’t cheat. They’ve already cheated multiple times. What he is actually doing is stringing the girlfriend along and anyone else he’s been involved with. Whether you want to accept it or not… By kissing him? You allowed him to cheat on the girlfriend you know about with you.
You need to realise all he is doing is wanting to have his cake and eat it.
I’m going to be honest here because you’re being very naive.
He isn’t leaving his girlfriend for you.
He has no plans to leave his girlfriend for you.
He wants a dirty little piece on the side whilst his bread gets buttered at home.
He sees you as someone he can mess about with but not commit to completely, and let’s say him and his girlfriend do break up, he’s going to do the same thing to you as well.
You are not the asshole for having feelings for him you’re an asshole for talking to a guy and kissing a guy with a girlfriend. No wonder he wants you as the dirty little piece he can have on the side, because I’m sorry, but that’s how you’re acting.
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Get away.
I'm sorry to tell you: he's not serious about you at all. Still sorting out how he feels but already asks for sex? "He never felt the thing that he feels for you to anyone else"? Snort, that's totally from the book. He is committed to his girlfriend, but does not love her? Another one used by cheating AH's all over the world. Why is he still with her, if he does not love her?
He has been sleeping around before, he will continue to do so, do you really want to be one of his bedmates? There's nothing to gain for you here. All his talks about his heartbreak and feelings for you: forget it.
NTA for having feelings, how could you be an AH for that. But Y W B T A to yourself if you don't leave this awful example of a bad guy where he belongs, far away from you.
I regret kissing him.. sharing moments with him..I really want to forget all those things and not feel anything when I see him again..I don't want to get butterflies when I see him again
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I moved to a new country and made friends with a boy. We got close, and he's already in a relationship back home. Despite this, he started showing interest in me, complimenting my appearance and getting physically close. He admits to having feelings for me, even though he's committed to his girlfriend, whom he doesn't love. We both like each other, but I don't want to be involved while he's still with his girlfriend. He says he feels peaceful with me, but he's inconsistent in his communication. I'm unsure what to do and need advice.
We have kissed but never had any sex... even though he asked I said no...I know he's not a good guy...he had sex with a married woman and had a casual relationship...also when he was in this relationship he used to flirt with so many girls...bt he never felt the thing that he feels for me to anyone else...he told me he is still sorting out what he is feeling for me...But still I've got some kind of crush on him. What should I do help me with your honest opinion.
He told me after his ex. Which was his biggest heartbreak and the girl he'll remember forever I'm the girl that he felt this type of feelings...
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ESH - He the most for being in a relationship and pursuing you. And no one should be kissing someone who is in a relationship. The feelings themselves aren't bad. The acting on them is.
I know I regret it now..
He's completely playing you. Don;t fall for anything he says. Stop engaging in conversations with him.
We already kissed...I fell for half...I really want to get away
Just do it. He is an asshole and not worth it. Speaking from experience
ESH. He sucks because he is lying to you. He is not going to leave his girlfriend for you. You're the AH because he is a taken man, you knew it, and still kissed him. Honestly, you are both gross and deserve each other. But he won't leave her for you. There also isn't any interpersonal conflict and this isn't an advice sub. Try r/relationships.
But they're always fighting and he's not sure about their relationship either...but I admit that there was a mistake on my part also
You both suck in this situation. Learn from it. I have seen this story SOOO many times on here. He is not going to leave his current partner for you. EVERYONE here knows it. I know it. Hell, I read this to my spouse and they know it... You need to learn it. Don't pursue him, or that would make you an even bigger AH, and honestly, a fool. Like I said, this isn't an advice sub. I posted the sub you need to post this in, because this WILL get removed sooner or later. ESH, but you're quickly approaching YTA. Just don't. Find someone who isn't in a relationship and won't lie to you. But you're not coming out smelling of roses in this situation at all, either.
He is telling. Lu, he is not sure. He is lying to get you laid. Do not fall for it. You are not the „better“ girl for him.
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As it should’ve been removed because it’s not really an AITA question it’s a relationship question. Reposting can get you banned. It specifically stated why it was deleted.
ESH. The fact is? You knew he was in a relationship and pursued him. He knew he was in a relationship and pursued you. Why do you keep saying he is “committed to his girlfriend”. Being committed in a relationship means they don’t cheat. They’ve already cheated multiple times. What he is actually doing is stringing the girlfriend along and anyone else he’s been involved with. Whether you want to accept it or not… By kissing him? You allowed him to cheat on the girlfriend you know about with you. You need to realise all he is doing is wanting to have his cake and eat it.
I’m going to be honest here because you’re being very naive. He isn’t leaving his girlfriend for you. He has no plans to leave his girlfriend for you. He wants a dirty little piece on the side whilst his bread gets buttered at home. He sees you as someone he can mess about with but not commit to completely, and let’s say him and his girlfriend do break up, he’s going to do the same thing to you as well. You are not the asshole for having feelings for him you’re an asshole for talking to a guy and kissing a guy with a girlfriend. No wonder he wants you as the dirty little piece he can have on the side, because I’m sorry, but that’s how you’re acting.
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Get away. I'm sorry to tell you: he's not serious about you at all. Still sorting out how he feels but already asks for sex? "He never felt the thing that he feels for you to anyone else"? Snort, that's totally from the book. He is committed to his girlfriend, but does not love her? Another one used by cheating AH's all over the world. Why is he still with her, if he does not love her? He has been sleeping around before, he will continue to do so, do you really want to be one of his bedmates? There's nothing to gain for you here. All his talks about his heartbreak and feelings for you: forget it. NTA for having feelings, how could you be an AH for that. But Y W B T A to yourself if you don't leave this awful example of a bad guy where he belongs, far away from you.
I regret kissing him.. sharing moments with him..I really want to forget all those things and not feel anything when I see him again..I don't want to get butterflies when I see him again
Do not see him. And always tell you: „ he is a cheater and he will cheat on every gf“
Red flag!!!! Run as fast as you can
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> bt he never felt the thing that he feels for me to anyone else He's told that to all the others too, YTA to yourself if you believe him