You would need to look into this cancer specifically to see the survival and re-occurrence rates, especially w.r.t. his age.
Consider if there are special requirements for his lifestyle that may not mesh with yours.Â
This is such a lame outlook. We like to hype Cancer, serious illness survivors. Call them warriors, strong. While all they did was take the treatment provided by doctors.
It wasn't like they had the option to give-up and hang the flag.
Them surviving cancer doesn't tell you anything about their strength. If anything, if makes their bodies weaker and more susceptible to other diseases.
I’m a doctor. I would. Life is unpredictable. There’s no guarantee a perfectly healthy person won’t get cancer a year into your marriage.
Lymphomas are quite common in young people and have an excellent survival rate.
Seriously, it would depend on the type of cancer.
Your mom is just looking out for you - doesn't want you in a situation where you could experience an early loss or worry about passing on to children.
Yes, anyone can develop cancer at any time (including you!), but as a parent, she probably is pretty risk-averse when it comes to your future happiness.
It sucks, but that's AM for you.
So my mother’s sister had hole in the heart.
My uncle got married to her and they leading good life.
Later she got some surgery.
I would say it depends on the stage.
I think life’s is very much unpredictable now.
Anyone can get Cancer so it’s perspective and it shouldn’t be a concern if they are out of it.
Depends on the facts of the case.
Someone may be okay, for some they would want a healthy partner.
If you like the person for their other attributes, why not request them for a joint medical consultation, like you want to know what are the chances of relapse, if the condition could be transmitted to kids, or does the medicine have side effects etc
Others cannot answer this question for you as it is deeply personal and individual
Haven’t talked to the prospect yet. His father told us the medical part and asked to decide first if we are okay with this part, then only further communication will happen.
I think you can meet once and decide.
Have you seen the guys photo ? Does he look attractive to you? What about other stuff like salary, career, education, liabilities, family background are they all okay for you?
It is an arrange marriage not a love marriage. You need a healthy partner who will stay with you for life. Life can throw curve ball but that is fate. There is no need to send an invitation to hellish life.
Lingering a client over technical issue or building a useless abstraction is SOP of SDEs. Also dumb egoistic idiosyncratic adjectives strongly cling to doctors , therefore had to take a jibe at SDEs to lessen the insult.
I reply in 3 years when I start looking. (Cancer survivor here)
Take care.
Lol it's been decade tho. I completed all my treatment in 2014. But thanks 🫡
You would need to look into this cancer specifically to see the survival and re-occurrence rates, especially w.r.t. his age. Consider if there are special requirements for his lifestyle that may not mesh with yours.Â
If someone defeated cancer they are strong as fuck, I would
This is such a lame outlook. We like to hype Cancer, serious illness survivors. Call them warriors, strong. While all they did was take the treatment provided by doctors. It wasn't like they had the option to give-up and hang the flag. Them surviving cancer doesn't tell you anything about their strength. If anything, if makes their bodies weaker and more susceptible to other diseases.
I’m a doctor. I would. Life is unpredictable. There’s no guarantee a perfectly healthy person won’t get cancer a year into your marriage. Lymphomas are quite common in young people and have an excellent survival rate.
Yes. This. I gave the same reasoning to my mom who was adamantly saying no. She has now reluctantly agreed to explore this prospect further.
Seriously, it would depend on the type of cancer. Your mom is just looking out for you - doesn't want you in a situation where you could experience an early loss or worry about passing on to children. Yes, anyone can develop cancer at any time (including you!), but as a parent, she probably is pretty risk-averse when it comes to your future happiness. It sucks, but that's AM for you.
Hmmmmm....... Guess what op? You're future husband whoever he may be.... Is definitely a lucky one ✨
Kya fayda? Been 5 days since numbers were exchanged and still haven’t really talked to him. He is too busy.
that's nice you have a good heart op
After 5 years, you are even less likely to get a recurrence. For some types of cancer, after 10 years your doctor might say that you are cured.
So my mother’s sister had hole in the heart. My uncle got married to her and they leading good life. Later she got some surgery. I would say it depends on the stage. I think life’s is very much unpredictable now. Anyone can get Cancer so it’s perspective and it shouldn’t be a concern if they are out of it.
Depends on the facts of the case. Someone may be okay, for some they would want a healthy partner. If you like the person for their other attributes, why not request them for a joint medical consultation, like you want to know what are the chances of relapse, if the condition could be transmitted to kids, or does the medicine have side effects etc Others cannot answer this question for you as it is deeply personal and individual
Haven’t talked to the prospect yet. His father told us the medical part and asked to decide first if we are okay with this part, then only further communication will happen.
I think you can meet once and decide. Have you seen the guys photo ? Does he look attractive to you? What about other stuff like salary, career, education, liabilities, family background are they all okay for you?
I guess the guy’s pics are old. However, the other stuff such as his family, education, career etc are all good to me.
My advice is to reject this man. You will become his nurse and perhaps inevitable will happen.
It is an arrange marriage not a love marriage. You need a healthy partner who will stay with you for life. Life can throw curve ball but that is fate. There is no need to send an invitation to hellish life.
I will mostly not go ahead. There are so many other prospects, why would I risk it all? It doesn't make sense.
No.
Ask him to stop seeing those doctors.
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Doctors profit from keeling ppl . Just like a software developer profits from fooling off shore clients.
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ohh we have a doctor in our midst. atleast try to be honest on an anonymous platform.
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If I was not down voted , doctors being a syndicate of cereal killers would have been part of our history.
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\*serial , i thought you will get it.
What did the software developer do to you?
Lingering a client over technical issue or building a useless abstraction is SOP of SDEs. Also dumb egoistic idiosyncratic adjectives strongly cling to doctors , therefore had to take a jibe at SDEs to lessen the insult.