I teach Middle School. As I walk around my classroom, I look at the top of everybody's heads. It's amazing how many kids already have some silver in the mix.
Not a dude, but since letting my natural “salt & pepper” (is it still called that when you’re blonde?) grow out I’ve gotten so many more compliments on it then I ever did when I was dying it various colours. I also think it’s kinda interesting watching the progression of my hair turning grayer over time. As with anything the key is that you like how look and feel comfortable with your appearance, whatever that entails for you.
I didn’t have many but I had the same three that I thought were so cool that I noticed at like 12. Now that I’m 30, I have a few more in the same spots and I love them. I won’t dye my hair anymore because I like it when they peak through.
I used to go to elementary school with a kid hor had a gray spot on the side of his head as long as I could remember. Honestly, for how brutal kids can be, we all found it pretty cool back then.
It’s stress and genes. A lot of 20 somethings in my PhD program with grey hairs. Meanwhile, my grandma got her first stripe of grey hair in her 70s while in remission from cancer
I was born with some gray hair. I was so excited that I was gonna be a silver fox and go all Anderson Cooper by my 30s.
I'm in my 40s and it's the same scattered gray hairs with no new friends.
I met my wife when she was 29. She's almost 40 now and I have enjoyed watching her age and change.
Who cares. Grey hair. Couple extra pounds. More wrinkles. That's part of the journey. Part of life.
hey random woman here - I've had salt and pepper hair since I was 15 and the guys I was interested in barely cared. Confidence was probably key because superhero stuff was popping off and people probably thought I was trying to be like rogue or something.
My guy and I are nearly 40 and he's finally caught up to me in the salt department. I work a professional job that I dress up for, and I haven't had anyone tell me I look unprofessional for not dying my hair. I've met some women who feel they need to touch up their roots and have their nails manicured to be taken seriously, but I suspect that may be more of a confidence thing (they feel more confident so that translates to more assertive behavior).
So I guess, how do you feel about your hair? If it being salt and pepper bothers you, dye it. If you think you can feel 'kempt' and stylish with the two tone, do that. I'd actually hit up a hairdresser and ask them to cut/style it in a way that makes the streaks look cool. I've got a side swept shoulder length cut and I love it.
I take care in my appearance and health so I think that's why I'm so torn on this.. cuz I'm like "is it distracting from my other efforts?" But hate the thought of having to keep up with constantly dying it. I'm turning 30 this year and I guess I'm doing some deep thinking on it because once you start that dying journey, it's hard to ever get back to natural. Thanks for sharing your story! It's encouraging
A woman who shows care for her appearance and has salt and pepper hair shows a powerful degree of self-worth. She’s owning her natural self. And that’s sexy as hell.
The color of the hair itself is all personal preference, and for most not that important. Some guys like red hair, or blonde or brown or black. Some love dyed colors (blue, etc.) Some love gray or salt & pepper. But almost no guy will find the wrong color hair off putting, and any who would find it more of a negative than the confidence is a positive isn’t a grown man who you’d want around anyway.
People gain weight as they age due to hormonal changes and pregnancy weight can be hard to get rid of. Loss of mobility with age can also play a role. My mom exercises 5 days a week and eats healthier than I do, but she is considerably overweight because her body prefers to hold onto fat for whatever reason despite her tireless efforts to lose it
Fat does not equal “lazy”
Wowzers. So I can see, by these comments, that you're about as deep as a puddle. Going to educate you a little her, as you don't know shit about shit apparently.
Some people, like my wife, just carry extra weight. It can be lost and kept off, sure. But, some people just carry more weight. We eat organic and healthy. We do high impact yoga and calisthenics workouts. We only drink alcohol on the weekends and sometimes not even then. For her to be what your under developed brain deems to be "attractive" or "not fat" takes so much effort for her. She was on a state ranked crew in high-school. Still a little heavy. She was a cheerleader. Still a little heavy. She has to work ungodly hard to fit into your shallow, chauvinist version of what beautiful is. My wife is healthy. She is in good shape. Just a little extra fat here and there. I am an RN so I don't need you telling me what healthy is and isn't. I'm 48 and am in great shape. Better than when I was 35.
You have been over stimulated with images of what is, for most people, unattainable beauty standards. Learn to like someone for themselves. Not their Instagram. Grow up some. Chubby does not mean unhealthy. It just means chubby. I am not judging you for your little brain. Maybe a little.
When everyone reaches for the same standard, the value of that standard is lowered. All these women that are pocket people and get mommy makeovers and fillers in their lips all look the same. Basic AF.
It's her hair she can do what she wants with it.
I've had 2 girlfriends now announce that they're going to do this in a way that they expect me to challenge them. I don't get it - it's your hair, it's natural, you can go back to dyeing if you want. I might have a slight preference but it's not for me to judge or influence your call, and it's so insignificant in the scheme of things it doesn't matter.
We need a bot so that whenever there is a question "How do men feel about a woman \_\_\_\_\_ " it automatically responds that men don't care. It'd probably be right 90% of the time.
I would prefer the natural color grey and all. Salt and pepper? Great. It is just fine. I am not a fan of hair coloring at all. My (ex) wife has some grey around age 32, and was all grey at 40. My next girlfriend was very salt and pepper around 50. And it has stayed about the same.
She can color her hair if she wants. I am commenting that I like natural colors and grey that comes in with age is natural. I like that. I have dated people who used hair color. And I fully support those who do not.
I guess those who choose natural colors also choose me cause I am that kind of guy. It sort of goes with the whole package. It goes with matching each other. And no package has everything perfectly matched. Hair color is not on my list of important things.
If you look good, you look good. The kind of guys that would look at hair and say "man, pass on that" are probably not the ones you want to attract anyways. And that goes for any one dimensional aspect. It seems universally that women create "no" lists and men have sliding scales on everything.
I think that a lot of women see it as getting old and losing youth. As a guy I see it as being more mature and elegant. Women who gray in their thirties are still young but their hair makes them unique and mysterious to me in an attractive way.
Doesn't matter one bit. We're all getting older. Try not to "let yourself go" too much, and expect the same from him. And I'm talking about general maintenance of yourself and appearance. Not saying you gave to gave rock hard abs.
Unkept? No.
I did giggle when my dad tried blond hair dye tho. Looked better natural. My aunt recently died her hair to the same blond (she has been a brunette forever) and I had to not giggle.
Men often let their hair go salt and pepper, we see it as better than balding. I know I treat my white hairs as a badge of surviving a hard world.
I've got salt and pepper hair. It's not a big deal. If she takes care of her hair, you know, lather rinse repeat, good diet, etc, then it doesn't look unkempt, it looks like she's got some grey in her hair.
As a guy I don't mind. Hair color has nothing to do with seeming unkempt. Now clearly greasy hair on the other hand yeah that's a sign of poor self care.
It's her hair, and she's free to do what she wants with it. I'm currently going salt and pepper and will be using it as an opportunity to try dying my hair so the grays and whites are fun colors.
I don’t care if she leaves it or dyes it, whatever makes her happiest. So long as it’s a “natural hair color”. Any of those oversaturated cotton candy hair colors are a turnoff for me. Too reminiscent of a clown imho.
I’m 33 and I think it’s kinda hot. I got some silvers coming in. My wife has some “bride of Frankenstein” style stripes coming in and I think it’s sexy.
I used to barely know any woman around me who wouldn't dye her hairs. I respect that they have the courage to be as they are. No I definitely don't see it as "unkempt". I generally don't care if others do anything to themselves except washing.
On a subconscious level, we are always attracted to healthy hair. If it looks good, color doesn't matter as much. Personally, I like real hair color because there is too much fake these days
I don't care. like not even a little bit. I think women worry more about this and change it for themselves and other women. because men, for the most part, don't care. so the criticism is going to come from other women or yourself.
its only seen as unkempt if it IS unkempt. if its never brushed and/or washed and looks like shit enough that we actually notice it, it doesnt matter if its a solid color or not. it still looks like shit.
so take care of your hair and we dont give a fuck what color it is. well, thats not true some guys might not like neon green or whatever but natural colors are not a problem.
I think as long as it is intentional and you are still keeping up with your hair then it doesn’t look unkempt.
My wife goes regularly to get her hair done but doesn’t get it dyed anymore. Honestly the silver streaks coming through are kinda sexy.
Just like how women find the confidence of a balding man shaving his head attractive, I guess a lot of men would find a woman who isn't afraid to show her signs of ageing either attractive as well. I know I do.
It's part of life, we're not some plastic dolls that stay fresh in mint condition. Wrinkles? Greying? Saggy skin? It's all part of the process and it comes sooner for some, and later for others. People who try to hide their ageing by painting their hair or getting expensive surgeries done are kind of an ick to me, ngl.
I had an ex who had jet black hair that started going grey. She'd dye it almost every week to keep it looking black. We talked about it and instead of constantly dying it black, she used a light brown/dark blonde dye instead once a month or so - it helped soften the hard-lines between the black and grey and made her happier overall with less time requirement. Plus i think it looked great and made her hair interesting.
The woman I am dating is 31 and she got a lot of greys already.
I find it extremely sexy. I think I subconsciously connect it with class because every woman I ever met who wore her hair with pride and didnt mind to be aging was absolutely classy.
Personally, I find women that have the confidence to have gray in their hair are way hotter than the ones that have to constantly work to to hide things about themselves.
Maybe it's a cultural thing, but I think I've never seen any woman I'm acquainted with with salt and pepper hair. At least where I am from, every woman I know has dyed her hair at some point rather than letting her grey hair show. Unless they are already of age.
I come from a family of men that really don't go grey or bald. My dad, in his late 70's, only started doing the salt and pepper thing about 10 years ago, and he's still got most of his color today. My uncles are the same way. I'm in my 40's and, like most of my male cousins around the same age, don't have any greys at all.
When greys started showing up in my wifes hair shortly before her 40th birthday, she kind of freaked out over it. She thought it made her look old and unattractive.
I honestly hadn't even noticed until she pointed it out. It just wasn't something that I, or nearly any other guy our age, cared about at all. It really doesn't matter. She has quite a bit of grey today, and it has zero impact on how I feel about her. She's beautiful.
And if you run into a guy who does care? Well, that should tell you everything you need to know about him.
As long as you own it and don't feel self conscious, you do you and no one else matters. Long hair already is a damn nightmare to manage, I couldn't imagine also trying to keep it dyed and preventing roots fron showing.
You're not going to get honest answers here since it's a public forum, just answers that will get the most upvotes. Take that for what you will, but you should know that when taking into account the reality these comments are painting for you.
Natural hair color of any shade is a really insignificant physical characteristic to most men I've spoken too. Aside from those that are specifically attracted to redheads, I don't know anyone whose attraction level would be affected by salt and pepper. There is significantly more to be concerned about unnatural colors, particular lengths or textures, or damaged hair.
Very very few women can pull that shit off.
Men are visual creatures it's as simple as that.
And no, aging, getting fat and wrinkly isn't beautiful sorry.
Unkempt? How does strands of grey make her "seem unkempt"?
If you're a man, this is a weird question. If you're a woman, don't let worries about what a man might think govern any decisions you make. Even if you wanted to, you will never please everyone and you shouldn't do anything just to please others.
I don’t care about it but she pulls them off when she finds one 😂
She’s 31 and has very few. When I met her she used to dye her hair dark brown. I told her I loved her natural black hair color (from pictures) so she finds a few grey hairs here and there.
I’m a sucker for natural straight black hair.
Nothing wrong with it. I think it can be pretty cool and unique, although a part of me may worry if she's been especially stressed lately. There were a pair of twins in my high school who had silver streaks in their black hair and it was the coolest natural hair I'd ever seen
>Does it make her seem unkempt?
Definitely not! Although I'm 41 and don't really have any valid opinion on someone in your age range, I think it's a sign of confidence and I'm very much into it.
I mean, a lot of men in their late 20s/early 30s are starting to develop male pattern baldness, so they would really be one to talk about a few grey hairs
Depending on how it comes it in can be an actively good look. Sometimes it's neutral or just makes her look older early. Older not automatically being bad, the -ER is critical here I don't mean straight up old.
Its not unkempt in and of itself, that's about how you're taking care of it not what color the bits you're taking care of (or failing to) happen to be.
I know three women on whom salt & pepper hair looks fantastic. Looks even better than all black.
But for my tastes I almost always prefer hair without the gray. I am also fortunate enough to be 56 without a touch of gray in my hair.
You mean, being natural?
I think it's awesome. Dyes disturb me. It says a lot about a person that's vain, that hides behind a mask.
Au naturale is the way
I teach Middle School. As I walk around my classroom, I look at the top of everybody's heads. It's amazing how many kids already have some silver in the mix.
Oh wow really? And I thought mine starting at 22 was early
Had a friend who had silver since he was 2. Still has it to this day.
Yeah I had a friend who had a single patch on the back of his head that was grey since he was a kid. Nowhere else though.
My grandfather was completely gray at 17, his was caused by stress though so idk probably a special case
Not a dude, but since letting my natural “salt & pepper” (is it still called that when you’re blonde?) grow out I’ve gotten so many more compliments on it then I ever did when I was dying it various colours. I also think it’s kinda interesting watching the progression of my hair turning grayer over time. As with anything the key is that you like how look and feel comfortable with your appearance, whatever that entails for you.
I didn’t have many but I had the same three that I thought were so cool that I noticed at like 12. Now that I’m 30, I have a few more in the same spots and I love them. I won’t dye my hair anymore because I like it when they peak through.
I used to go to elementary school with a kid hor had a gray spot on the side of his head as long as I could remember. Honestly, for how brutal kids can be, we all found it pretty cool back then.
It’s stress and genes. A lot of 20 somethings in my PhD program with grey hairs. Meanwhile, my grandma got her first stripe of grey hair in her 70s while in remission from cancer
I was born with some gray hair. I was so excited that I was gonna be a silver fox and go all Anderson Cooper by my 30s. I'm in my 40s and it's the same scattered gray hairs with no new friends.
I've had a gray streak right on the front of my hair since I was 11, I always get tons of compliments on it too
It's a pretty cool feature. My hair was chocolate brown but the bangs were more red than brown.
I met my wife when she was 29. She's almost 40 now and I have enjoyed watching her age and change. Who cares. Grey hair. Couple extra pounds. More wrinkles. That's part of the journey. Part of life.
This is comforting
hey random woman here - I've had salt and pepper hair since I was 15 and the guys I was interested in barely cared. Confidence was probably key because superhero stuff was popping off and people probably thought I was trying to be like rogue or something. My guy and I are nearly 40 and he's finally caught up to me in the salt department. I work a professional job that I dress up for, and I haven't had anyone tell me I look unprofessional for not dying my hair. I've met some women who feel they need to touch up their roots and have their nails manicured to be taken seriously, but I suspect that may be more of a confidence thing (they feel more confident so that translates to more assertive behavior). So I guess, how do you feel about your hair? If it being salt and pepper bothers you, dye it. If you think you can feel 'kempt' and stylish with the two tone, do that. I'd actually hit up a hairdresser and ask them to cut/style it in a way that makes the streaks look cool. I've got a side swept shoulder length cut and I love it.
I take care in my appearance and health so I think that's why I'm so torn on this.. cuz I'm like "is it distracting from my other efforts?" But hate the thought of having to keep up with constantly dying it. I'm turning 30 this year and I guess I'm doing some deep thinking on it because once you start that dying journey, it's hard to ever get back to natural. Thanks for sharing your story! It's encouraging
A woman who shows care for her appearance and has salt and pepper hair shows a powerful degree of self-worth. She’s owning her natural self. And that’s sexy as hell. The color of the hair itself is all personal preference, and for most not that important. Some guys like red hair, or blonde or brown or black. Some love dyed colors (blue, etc.) Some love gray or salt & pepper. But almost no guy will find the wrong color hair off putting, and any who would find it more of a negative than the confidence is a positive isn’t a grown man who you’d want around anyway.
That's maturity and confidence! Not all men think that way?
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People gain weight as they age due to hormonal changes and pregnancy weight can be hard to get rid of. Loss of mobility with age can also play a role. My mom exercises 5 days a week and eats healthier than I do, but she is considerably overweight because her body prefers to hold onto fat for whatever reason despite her tireless efforts to lose it Fat does not equal “lazy”
Wowzers. So I can see, by these comments, that you're about as deep as a puddle. Going to educate you a little her, as you don't know shit about shit apparently. Some people, like my wife, just carry extra weight. It can be lost and kept off, sure. But, some people just carry more weight. We eat organic and healthy. We do high impact yoga and calisthenics workouts. We only drink alcohol on the weekends and sometimes not even then. For her to be what your under developed brain deems to be "attractive" or "not fat" takes so much effort for her. She was on a state ranked crew in high-school. Still a little heavy. She was a cheerleader. Still a little heavy. She has to work ungodly hard to fit into your shallow, chauvinist version of what beautiful is. My wife is healthy. She is in good shape. Just a little extra fat here and there. I am an RN so I don't need you telling me what healthy is and isn't. I'm 48 and am in great shape. Better than when I was 35. You have been over stimulated with images of what is, for most people, unattainable beauty standards. Learn to like someone for themselves. Not their Instagram. Grow up some. Chubby does not mean unhealthy. It just means chubby. I am not judging you for your little brain. Maybe a little. When everyone reaches for the same standard, the value of that standard is lowered. All these women that are pocket people and get mommy makeovers and fillers in their lips all look the same. Basic AF.
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Didn't say big boned there little fella
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Um, no. It is not. You're a garbage person. Have a miserable life there little fella
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Hahahahahaha. Good one
Yeah right....
Yeah right what¿
It's her hair she can do what she wants with it. I've had 2 girlfriends now announce that they're going to do this in a way that they expect me to challenge them. I don't get it - it's your hair, it's natural, you can go back to dyeing if you want. I might have a slight preference but it's not for me to judge or influence your call, and it's so insignificant in the scheme of things it doesn't matter.
If there was ever a reply that was so obvious and succinct it was this.
I think gray hair looks cute. Anything natural, including "blemishes", freckles etc look so cute to me
We need a bot so that whenever there is a question "How do men feel about a woman \_\_\_\_\_ " it automatically responds that men don't care. It'd probably be right 90% of the time.
They are not allowed on the sub - don't ask about a groups thoughts or something like that.
The men that are controlling and do care aren’t reading this.
I think it looks cool
I would prefer the natural color grey and all. Salt and pepper? Great. It is just fine. I am not a fan of hair coloring at all. My (ex) wife has some grey around age 32, and was all grey at 40. My next girlfriend was very salt and pepper around 50. And it has stayed about the same.
Interesting! I'm kind of curious to see the evolution of my greys
But, if she didn't like the grey, would you help her color it?
She can color her hair if she wants. I am commenting that I like natural colors and grey that comes in with age is natural. I like that. I have dated people who used hair color. And I fully support those who do not. I guess those who choose natural colors also choose me cause I am that kind of guy. It sort of goes with the whole package. It goes with matching each other. And no package has everything perfectly matched. Hair color is not on my list of important things.
If you look good, you look good. The kind of guys that would look at hair and say "man, pass on that" are probably not the ones you want to attract anyways. And that goes for any one dimensional aspect. It seems universally that women create "no" lists and men have sliding scales on everything.
Very good point
I'd be a hypocrite to object. Besides, I'm sure she earned those stripes like I earned mine.
Saves her a small fortune on hair dye the sooner she accepts it. Leave it alone. What we have to do if we arnt balding.
I'd rather see strands of grey then some color out of a bottle. Age with some grace.
I prefer it to dying it.
I think that a lot of women see it as getting old and losing youth. As a guy I see it as being more mature and elegant. Women who gray in their thirties are still young but their hair makes them unique and mysterious to me in an attractive way.
Natural is always better than fake.
I actually find it very attractive. Mature women are sexy.
My wife has had silver in her hair since she was a teenager, has a more now and we are in our 30s. Idc about it at all
Let it go and rock it, it's hotter.
Doesn't matter one bit. We're all getting older. Try not to "let yourself go" too much, and expect the same from him. And I'm talking about general maintenance of yourself and appearance. Not saying you gave to gave rock hard abs.
Its her head..do you 😉
Unkept? No. I did giggle when my dad tried blond hair dye tho. Looked better natural. My aunt recently died her hair to the same blond (she has been a brunette forever) and I had to not giggle. Men often let their hair go salt and pepper, we see it as better than balding. I know I treat my white hairs as a badge of surviving a hard world.
Look. If you are good looking with your hair color, you will be good looking when you start turning grey.
I've got salt and pepper hair. It's not a big deal. If she takes care of her hair, you know, lather rinse repeat, good diet, etc, then it doesn't look unkempt, it looks like she's got some grey in her hair.
As a guy I don't mind. Hair color has nothing to do with seeming unkempt. Now clearly greasy hair on the other hand yeah that's a sign of poor self care.
It's her hair, and she's free to do what she wants with it. I'm currently going salt and pepper and will be using it as an opportunity to try dying my hair so the grays and whites are fun colors.
I don’t care if she leaves it or dyes it, whatever makes her happiest. So long as it’s a “natural hair color”. Any of those oversaturated cotton candy hair colors are a turnoff for me. Too reminiscent of a clown imho.
I’m 33 and I think it’s kinda hot. I got some silvers coming in. My wife has some “bride of Frankenstein” style stripes coming in and I think it’s sexy.
Some of the most attractive women I know are silver foxes. Let it go natural I say.
I used to barely know any woman around me who wouldn't dye her hairs. I respect that they have the courage to be as they are. No I definitely don't see it as "unkempt". I generally don't care if others do anything to themselves except washing.
I don't notice
Love it!
We are getting older and her dark brown hair is going grey. She can do what she wants with it. I love her just the same.
To give you an idea, i've quite literally never thought about it. At all. This dosen't even cross my mind.
There are some women at work… they have a few strands of silver in their long dark hair, and it is fantastically attractive.
Personally I think that gray hair looks bad.
On a subconscious level, we are always attracted to healthy hair. If it looks good, color doesn't matter as much. Personally, I like real hair color because there is too much fake these days
Men care far less about a woman's hair than the woman.
I don't care. like not even a little bit. I think women worry more about this and change it for themselves and other women. because men, for the most part, don't care. so the criticism is going to come from other women or yourself. its only seen as unkempt if it IS unkempt. if its never brushed and/or washed and looks like shit enough that we actually notice it, it doesnt matter if its a solid color or not. it still looks like shit. so take care of your hair and we dont give a fuck what color it is. well, thats not true some guys might not like neon green or whatever but natural colors are not a problem.
My wife has salt and pepper hair. She started going gray at 18. I find it nice.
I love it, age appropriate and it can be beautiful. I’m only a few years off getting some silver myself and I’m excited AF.
38M here.. never cared, regardless of age.
I think as long as it is intentional and you are still keeping up with your hair then it doesn’t look unkempt. My wife goes regularly to get her hair done but doesn’t get it dyed anymore. Honestly the silver streaks coming through are kinda sexy.
I think it's hot. Also, a woman's hair looks healthier without all them dyes and whatnot.
A woman has titties and a whole ass. We literally don't care.
Just like how women find the confidence of a balding man shaving his head attractive, I guess a lot of men would find a woman who isn't afraid to show her signs of ageing either attractive as well. I know I do. It's part of life, we're not some plastic dolls that stay fresh in mint condition. Wrinkles? Greying? Saggy skin? It's all part of the process and it comes sooner for some, and later for others. People who try to hide their ageing by painting their hair or getting expensive surgeries done are kind of an ick to me, ngl.
I prefer it. It shows that they are less vain than others.
I think it’s hot - but I’m one of those guys who doesn’t go for the fake lips and hair dye
I'm all for it. Stop bathing your head in chemical dyes. I love you or I don't, but not because of your hair. Even all gray or white, be real.
I honestly couldn't care less about a few greys, or even all greys
I think it's sexy.
I had an ex who had jet black hair that started going grey. She'd dye it almost every week to keep it looking black. We talked about it and instead of constantly dying it black, she used a light brown/dark blonde dye instead once a month or so - it helped soften the hard-lines between the black and grey and made her happier overall with less time requirement. Plus i think it looked great and made her hair interesting.
Maybe it’s the romance book I’m reading where the lady mc has silver hair, but I don’t mind at all
The woman I am dating is 31 and she got a lot of greys already. I find it extremely sexy. I think I subconsciously connect it with class because every woman I ever met who wore her hair with pride and didnt mind to be aging was absolutely classy.
Personally, I find women that have the confidence to have gray in their hair are way hotter than the ones that have to constantly work to to hide things about themselves.
Its hot AF!
Maybe it's a cultural thing, but I think I've never seen any woman I'm acquainted with with salt and pepper hair. At least where I am from, every woman I know has dyed her hair at some point rather than letting her grey hair show. Unless they are already of age.
Oh hell no. I think it is beautiful.
it's beautiful. anything is better than a dye-job.
I am *unreasonably* attracted to it.
I come from a family of men that really don't go grey or bald. My dad, in his late 70's, only started doing the salt and pepper thing about 10 years ago, and he's still got most of his color today. My uncles are the same way. I'm in my 40's and, like most of my male cousins around the same age, don't have any greys at all. When greys started showing up in my wifes hair shortly before her 40th birthday, she kind of freaked out over it. She thought it made her look old and unattractive. I honestly hadn't even noticed until she pointed it out. It just wasn't something that I, or nearly any other guy our age, cared about at all. It really doesn't matter. She has quite a bit of grey today, and it has zero impact on how I feel about her. She's beautiful. And if you run into a guy who does care? Well, that should tell you everything you need to know about him.
My wife started getting silver in her late 30s. She has dark brown/black hair, so it's very visible. Hot as fuck.
As long as you own it and don't feel self conscious, you do you and no one else matters. Long hair already is a damn nightmare to manage, I couldn't imagine also trying to keep it dyed and preventing roots fron showing.
You're not going to get honest answers here since it's a public forum, just answers that will get the most upvotes. Take that for what you will, but you should know that when taking into account the reality these comments are painting for you.
Do it man
I'm starting to turn salt and pepper.....so it's w/e
Depending on the hair style and ratio, salt and pepper can be extremely attractive in my opinion.
It doesn't bother me. I mostly see people in general dying because it bothers them. I have grey hairs on my head and in my beard.
Natural hair color of any shade is a really insignificant physical characteristic to most men I've spoken too. Aside from those that are specifically attracted to redheads, I don't know anyone whose attraction level would be affected by salt and pepper. There is significantly more to be concerned about unnatural colors, particular lengths or textures, or damaged hair.
Do whatever you want.
She does what she wants. She’s my wife and I love her. The greying is hot.
It's fine.
No it doesn't make her seem unkempt: it makes her look human. Fuckin' a, man....
Don’t care.
Nothing wrong with salt 'n pepper. The ridiculous unnatural colours with natural roots is daft.
Absolutely no business of mine
Very very few women can pull that shit off. Men are visual creatures it's as simple as that. And no, aging, getting fat and wrinkly isn't beautiful sorry.
Unkempt? How does strands of grey make her "seem unkempt"? If you're a man, this is a weird question. If you're a woman, don't let worries about what a man might think govern any decisions you make. Even if you wanted to, you will never please everyone and you shouldn't do anything just to please others.
I don’t care about it but she pulls them off when she finds one 😂 She’s 31 and has very few. When I met her she used to dye her hair dark brown. I told her I loved her natural black hair color (from pictures) so she finds a few grey hairs here and there. I’m a sucker for natural straight black hair.
It's fine
My wife is early 50s and finally letting her hair go undyed. It barely has any grey at all but I'm here for it. I think it looks good.
I personally like silver/gray hair. My wife is not a fan. She dyes her hair now. I don’t really care. I will not be dyeing mine.
Total indifference
Don’t care as long as I can pull it from behind when doing personal things together.
Nothing wrong with it. I think it can be pretty cool and unique, although a part of me may worry if she's been especially stressed lately. There were a pair of twins in my high school who had silver streaks in their black hair and it was the coolest natural hair I'd ever seen
>Does it make her seem unkempt? Definitely not! Although I'm 41 and don't really have any valid opinion on someone in your age range, I think it's a sign of confidence and I'm very much into it.
I mean, a lot of men in their late 20s/early 30s are starting to develop male pattern baldness, so they would really be one to talk about a few grey hairs
Depending on how it comes it in can be an actively good look. Sometimes it's neutral or just makes her look older early. Older not automatically being bad, the -ER is critical here I don't mean straight up old. Its not unkempt in and of itself, that's about how you're taking care of it not what color the bits you're taking care of (or failing to) happen to be.
I like it. Hell even full gray can look good.
Not a fan myself, grey hair makes people look much older than they are
Being a man in my early 30's, with Salt and Pepper, I get some compliments on it.
I am 42 and I love it. Especially with women younger than me
Makes her seem like she's aging with dignity. Women dying their hair as they get older always seemed a little odd to me
I know three women on whom salt & pepper hair looks fantastic. Looks even better than all black. But for my tastes I almost always prefer hair without the gray. I am also fortunate enough to be 56 without a touch of gray in my hair.
I've had some grey hairs since I was 14.
My gf had it since she was a late teen. It looks great on her.
You mean, being natural? I think it's awesome. Dyes disturb me. It says a lot about a person that's vain, that hides behind a mask. Au naturale is the way
I don't care at all, but my wife doesn't believe that.
My dads very favorite
It's can look good.
Nope. It’s sexy as hell imo.
I love the salt and pepper hair. I fact the more white the more beautiful I think it is.
Natural hair is attractive, no matter the type. Even the best dye jobs look off in one light or another.
What is salt and pepper??
Damn, you still have hair ? 🤣🤣🤣 [](https://emojipedia.org/rolling-on-the-floor-laughing)
>in her late 20s / early 30s Tour's over 🫗😔
As long as she not my woman. I see not putting effort into looking her best as disrespectful towards me.
Wow At least you’re up front about it.
I'm so disappointed that I looked through your comment history. It's depressing and disgusting at the same time. Get help.
Dude is like a Andrew Tate wannabe.
Except I have no idea who that is.
Lol, no worries. The feeling is mutual.