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DoomJuicer

Leaving work for the day


well_uh_yeah

Yeah, when my butt hits the car seat and I close the door behind me there's this moment where I feel my spirit get lighter.


zombiesmurf85

That's usually when fartpocalypse begins


Dry-Prize-3062

I try to leave as much of that at work as possible.


half-a-duck

They've been too loud recently. Keep it down over there.


Acepeefreely

Careful, at some point you will realize a fart cannot be trusted to be just a fart.


The_RockObama

I'm getting paid for this shit. Loud and proud, boss.


unpopulrOpini0n

I work remotely, locking my computer for the day is heavenly


[deleted]

I used to feel this way but now when I shut off at the end of the day I get this strange “now what” feeling. I like having the drive home to destress a bit. Still prefer telecommuting for a million other reasons though


[deleted]

Have you tried going for a short walk or something at the beginning and end of your day? When I switched to a fully remote job, I started doing a 10 minute walk at both ends of my day. It simulated my walk into work from the parking garage and helped me distinguish work time from off time. Or as silly as it sound, maybe go for a joy ride in the car if you need to decompress.


AzureTsar

I use that what would be "drive time" as an excuse to wash the dishes or sweep or some other menial task I've ignored for the last 3 weeks. It helps gives an extra omph to the satisfaction of completing remote work.


Imnormalurnotok

Then coming home, going to my room and closing the door. I need to lay down to de-stress. I had a GF who couldn't understand, no matter how many times I told her, to leave me alone for an hour. So I told her to leave.


QuuxJn

That's why I don't mind or actually like having a almost 1h commute (one way) You can just relax, chill a bit one your phone or sleep and get mental as well as physical distance to work and by the time I'm home I've already forgotten about the problems at work.


Imnormalurnotok

I wasn't stressed because of work, I was stressed because of my commute. I used to live in NYC. I lived on Staten Island, the southern part of NYC. My job took me all over the city and it's a big place. The traffic and the worn out highways wore myself and my car out lol But I did what I had to do because the money was so good and it was my calling so to say.


QuuxJn

Ohh, if you have to commute by car, it's a different story. My commute consists of a 5min bike or bus ride 30min train ride and 5 to 10min walk and a bit of waiting. And especially the train ride helps a lot to have some time for yourself If you have to commute by car, I can understand why you feel stressed. That's exactly why I take the train and wouldn'ttake a job where I can't reasonably get to by train or is so close that I can take the bike (and during rush hour the car isn't even necessarily faster)


Usrname52

It was your calling to live on Staten Island?


2003Baddie

You made my day 😁


NatsuDragnee1

Listening to the sound of rain, the fresh smell of the sea, swimming, hiking, and birdwatching.


Bart-o-Man

Yea, that's like home, to me. I love sitting on a porch on a warm, humid summer evening, watching a thunderstorm move in. Watching the distant lightning and low rumble grow into cracks of thunder. Hearing the sounds of rain falling on leaves, grass, tin roofs, tarps- they all make their own unique sound. Finally, you're sitting there sweating and you feel the cool breeze start pouring out of the storm. It's about 30-45 minutes of pure, "Ahhhhh." Eventually the gust front hits, rain is moving sideways, and you have to run inside- but so worth it.


[deleted]

Thank you for taking us all there with you. Just moved out of the stormy Midwest and will miss the summer storms.


reasonablychill

You have a real way with words. I felt like I was right there with you.


atx00

Recently moved out of TX to a place where we get heavy snow and never rain/thunderstorms. I would give anything to listen to the sound of that rumble of distant thunder again. The rain on the roof. The smell (petrichor). Almost want to cry right now, getting homesick. One of my favorite things ever was to crack my window right when a thunderstorm came in so I could smell/hear it. Never failed to put me to sleep. Sometimes they could get a little intense, but not too often. I just miss the sound/smell of a thunderstorm.


THEFOX8909

same, I love listening to brown noise


ViolentVBC

Isn't that the musical note or frequency that will supposedly make a person shit themselves? I think *Mythbusters* did an episode on that one.


Independent_Hair_877

Hi, Audio Geek here. Brown note: makes you poop. Brown noise: randomness at the lower end of the frequency spectrum (pink noise: higher freqs; white noise: full spectrum). Brown Sound: The signature Guitar Tone coined by Eddie Van Halen. I hope this m clears up the brown waters.


Mysterion_x

Instructions unclear.. pooped in guitar


Tchefy

Swimming is like meditation to me. I've never been able to meditate.There's just so much noise and anxiety in my head. But for whatever reason the second I hit the water my mind is blank. It's so peaceful. In the last 10 years I only had a brief 6 month period to join the Y. I went and did laps 4 times a week. I'd be in there for almost an hour just lap after lap in pure silent bliss. It did wonders for my stress. I miss it more than anything.


BleekerTheBard

Plans being canceled


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JOMO, the opposite of FOMO


The_Cons00mer

Jacking off, missing out👌


chunkylover53aaolcom

“In terms of instant relief, cancelling plans is like heroin.” John Mulaney


Crono_Magus_Glenn

Just happened to us! We have a free Sunday to do nothing tomorrow. We're gonna order in and park on the couch for some movies.


2003Baddie

A good example is before COVID broke out, having a ton of shit to do (boom covid) nothing to do.


cmalarkey90

Cuddling on the couch with my wife or my two little daughters. Those ladies are everything to me. The youngest isn't quite 1 yet so she's still small enough to sleep on my chest and I melt every time she does. The 3 year old loves to sit on my lap and lean her back against my chest and it's the greatest bit of love. My wife's body shape fits perfectly against mine when spooning and there are times when she knows I've had a bad day that she will be the big spoon and just hold me and I couldn't imagine feeling me loved and appreciated. All three of them make me feel like a matter and have a place in the world.


mildlyeducated_cynic

First daughter on the way. Can't wait. This is beautiful


cmalarkey90

Congratulations!!!


WannabeTraveler87

First 4 months of their lives are a real doozy though. Source: father to a 4 month old


kaiser_kraut

First daughter on the way, too. This post got me


Full_Brilliant6174

Wish I had a father that thought the same way as you they are very lucky


cmalarkey90

You're dad is missing out, everyone is lovely in some way, I don't know you but I know you are lovely.


jenethith

“Everyone is lovely in some way.” What a beautiful thing to say and I will remember that forever.


ProsciuttoPizza

This was beautiful.


cmalarkey90

Thank you :)


he_who_has

I’m a girl dad too - father of 3 daughters. There’s nothing like the calming affection from my girls. The way girl loves her dad is like no other feeling I’ve experienced.


lurkinuuu

I’m 90% sure I don’t want kids, but every now and then some shit like this makes me rethink about it.


cmalarkey90

It's perfectly okay to not want kids. It is really life changing in a good way, and brings a lot of amazing moments. But sometimes it's stressful. But don't ever feel pressured into it.


RosieEmily

I live for cuddles with my kids. My son was the cuddliest toddler and we used to fall asleep on the sofa all the time. Last night before bedtime stories we were having a cuddle on the sofa and he fell asleep right before we were about to go up. He's nearly 5 now so I just savoured that moment before my husband carried him up to bed.


cmalarkey90

I'm dreading the day that my girls are older and don't want to cuddle. But that just means I have to savor the moments now.


TheKairos

This was just the sweetest thing to read!! I'm the youngest with 5 older brothers. My dad is 75 and while we are close he still thinks he needs to shield me from his pain (major accident and stage 4 cancer within 4 years of each other), because at almost 45 I'm still his little girl. We were both at my brothers construction office one day and he was talking with a bunch of the guys while I was in the next room. I overheard him telling one of them how much he would regret giving over parental rights of his daughter because "you will never understand the love and joy of a daughter there is nothing in the world like it". I tear up every time I think of that moment. Those are the moments you are giving your daughters.


Elaneyse

We have four little girls here too. I have plenty of pics of all four of them using Daddy as a mattress at some point!


cmalarkey90

Adorable! It's the best thing!


Garlopp

Dude is Winning


BetterBrief2442

Like seriously, this sounds like everything there is to achieve in life. Why the f one would want a sports car or a yacht or w/e when there's this. Hope i reach this state someday


[deleted]

Ignore the anti children noise perpetuated by depressed childless people. It's defiantly tough and tiring but it's worth it to many of us.


Picardy_Turd

Shutting off a generator that’s been running for hours.


Fargon-Icehole

If someone has never done this they could never appreciate it. I’ve done it many times and it is one of the most peaceful moments on earth.


OxyMorpheous

Don't own or even encounter many generators, but I remember having some classes in a bungalow and yeah, it's so true. It's close to getting out of a go-kart and the sudden lack of vibration and ugly engine sounds in tandem with that first breath of fresher air.


Picardy_Turd

Yeah - it's like mana from tractors.


dorseytrim

I’m a carpenter. When I first started out I worked with a framing crew. As the new guy I was the one that turned the compressor off at 4:30 when we began to clean up. Holy cow was that a calming feeling.


ForgetMeNot01

Walking in nature on a nice warm day, the thin clouds dissapear, I stop walking, close my eyes and the sunlight hits my face.


LostCause7

Love a good hike!


Phlm_br

I hate hot weather, but love walking in nature. I used to go a lot to Ubatuba - Prumirim beach (look it up, is gorgeous), it's the remaining preserved part of the Atlantic Forest in Brazil. So delicious to walk around those areas


2003Baddie

that's the dream 🫣


KittyGrewAMoustache

Cuddling my cat


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Kitty cuddles are the best 💕


IncelCore-i9

Hell yes. No matter how shitty the day is, I grab my cat and once she starts purring everything becomes nice and calm


MediumShame2909

I wish i had a cat who doesnt hate hugs. My cat literally screams and scrathes everytime i pick him up or hug


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One thing about cats is they tend to like the people that don’t pick them up and force their love on them. They have to be the ones to “choose” when and where you cuddle. It’s usually better to let them come to you. Engage them with lots of talk (they’ll “talk” back!) and lots of treats. Then leave them be when you can tell they don’t want you to pet or bother them. Suddenly, they’ll jump up on your lap one day when it’s their own choice. It’s a magical moment when you’ve struggled to bond. My legs fell asleep because I didn’t want to disturb him as he lay there all peacefully purring the first time my cat did that. Lol


outsideyourbox4once

Have you tried going slow and giving rewards afterwards? I'm in the process with one of my cats of three years old. Today she sat on my chest which was rare so I made some air head markings in front of her and finally she gave me a real head marking for the first time ever! She grew up in the wild so I don't judge her at all. Her special time is nightie time where she gives me a trust fall that falls into the position of a little spoon and then she purrs herself to sleep


TeddyRivers

My dogs. They are the best dogs.


as_a_fake

My cats are the cuddliest, least independent cats I have ever met, and I love them for it! Every time I get home I get to go over, pick them up, and bury my face in their fur and they're (usually) perfectly happy with it. As someone who used to have a very independent cat, I am pleasantly confused at how loving they are.


aaddii_10

Doing a puzzle


Genisisis_

Going for a walk outside and just relaxing in nature.


FraseraSpeciosa

Nature is healing, I know it sounds hippy but there’s something about being out there, it’s almost like you have the feeling of immense belonging, as in humans are nature, we evolved in the woods or savannas, there are reward circuits put in place by trees and fresh air, it’s pretty wild to think about.


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Doing puzzles. Like sitting on the floor, digging through hundreds of pieces kind of puzzles.


purrrloiner

Yeah that works great for me too. Anything to do with sorting and organising hits the spot perfectly. I deep clean my flat every time I'm angry, it's the only time I do it.


YourMominator

I'm an angry cleaner too! Or I was, but now I don't get angry much, and my house is cleaner anyways. "It's amazing how much mature wisdom resembles being too tired." -R. Heinlein


Squigglepig52

Oddly compelling. I don't do puzzles often, but I go through periods of doing them. I love how sometimes, the right piece leaps out at you from a pile of hundreds, or how, as you work through it, your ability to pick out subtle stuff in all the "same" pieces builds.


duman82

Someone putting their fingers through my hair


anarchytecture

Brazilian Portuguese has a word for this: “Cafuné”


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ThePhabtom4567

I'm glad I'm not alone. It's not even like a sexy thing. It just feels absolutely amazing and puts me to sleep.


Pacific_Northwest

Eating out alone. Something about 'people watching' and feeling invisible. I'm happy being me for a moment, zero thinking about other people's problems. Thats my happy place.


CoffeeAddict1011

Never thought about it this way, I’d def start going out to eat more


Pacific_Northwest

This one thing will change your life. I'm totally fine interacting with people. But these uninterrupted moments of watching real people live their lives - this gives me sanity knowing people are going through similar shit.


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krakenpistole

I know it's not the same but for what it's worth *\*virtual hug\**


stadiumjay

Listening to music


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Playing my bass 𝄢


FraseraSpeciosa

I may have lost almost all of my friends, I may have fucked up my career path for good, I may be so depressed I cannot see the light of day, but damn right my jazz fender is always there for me. Might be the only thing keeping me from completely self destructing.


An_Aspiring_Scholar

Piano and guitar have the same effect for me. Having an instrument lets you play what you're feeling.


scarlettlove03

Painting! I’m not very good, but it helps.


King-Bomber-Kill

You don’t have to be good at something to enjoy it!


Hamallamas

I love art it really the only reason I’m hear today I was very deep into depression debating if I should unalive myself after an argument i with my mom I thought to myself I’m going to do it tomorrow. Then later that night I was just thinking to myself what it’ll be like I decided to get up in the middle of the night and just paint with acrylics and then I made what I believe is a great dog and realized why I should keep living and now in happier than ever and I’m the head of painting class for my school


DETRITUS_TROLL

Playing music. I can have the shittiest day and 30 min on my guitar and I'm right as rain.


anima99

Drinking freshly brewed/extracted coffee with your favorite mug. People who only drink coffee "for the buzz," don't know what it feels like to just sit back and claim some free time for yourself. It's like you're in this small bubble where you're not worried about anything other than just drinking a fresh cup of coffee. Problems, deadlines, paperwork, assignments, you can deal with all that today, but not before you finish this cup. So, take it slow. Inhale the freshness. Taste the different flavors. Feel the warmth transfer from your hands all the way down your belly, and exhale it all back to nature.


Woodnote_

I wake up 30 minutes before the rest of my family so I can sit in my favorite chair, watch all the neighborhood animals out the window, and drink my first cup of coffee in silence. It’s the most relaxed I will be all day, and I genuinely look forward to it when I get out of bed.


OmniFella

I do the same thing. Never was a morning person either - that was always my father. But now I like to get up AT LEAST 30-45 minutes before everyone else so I can coffee up and get the checkbook balanced for the day. Productive, uninterrupted quiet.


Woodnote_

Same. I used to be a sleep in till noon sort of person, but now it’s the only quiet time I get to myself. Plus it’s just lovely first thing in the morning.


Mad_Martigan2023

That's my meditation moment in the morning, where I can just sit and be quiet.


hollalagongas

I get up at 5:30 to do the same! I also do devotions and read the bible during this time. My kids don't wake up at the exact same time everyday, but it's pretty close so I often get an hour and a half to do these things


xxSammaelxx

Holy shit, are you a marketing manager or something? Who doesn't feel like a coffee after reading this.


DannyPantsgasm

Just read it at 3pm and now im about to go make a cup.


unknownfazeA

this just spoke to me in an odd, comforting way. thank you random person on reddit, i'm gonna get coffee now


ian_dangerous

Me too! A lot of these other posts were relatable but this one spoke to me on another level.


Hanso_ul

taking a shower


Commercial_One_4594

Marching in the streets, screaming a lighting shit on fire, fight with cops. Then again I’m French


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iknownuting

Pension tension


sane-ish

Nobody protests like the French 🥖 :)


Upper-Job5130

Do you hear the people sing? Singing the song of angry men? It is the music of the people Who will not be slaves again! When the beating of your heart Echoes the beating of the drums There is a life about to start When tomorrow comes!


labla

Swimming


TwoScoopsBaby

Drinking tea, Earl Grey, hot.


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UnpopularOpinionJake

Petting my hog


[deleted]

Cmon this is funny, why is it downvoted?


Wolfhunter145

Yeah maybe he just has a pet pig or something.


ViolentVBC

At'll do pig


BrushesMcDeath

entering a forest


Throwaway-account-23

Driving. Car, motorcycle, snowmobile, boat, tractor, doesn't matter. Now that I think about it, the repetitive purposeful nature of tilling and planting a field is so satisfying and calming.


KSV2306

Same 😌..... Driving also makes me calm


hairybagel27

Chugging a big glass of water. All the things my body does after that just gets my mind off of whatever was bothering me


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mano-vijnana

I'm actually really surprised this one is so far down. Top calming activity for me.


Particular-Topic-445

Probably a bad sign - but that first sip of whiskey at the end of the workweek


Zither74

Nah.. It's not a bad sign until it becomes "on my Monday lunch break" 😂


bobke4

Scuba diving. The second you submerge you’re in another world. You’re floating and can only hear the sound of your breathing. You can’t get disctracted by your phone, people,… nothing. Just you floating there. It’s very calming


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Alternative_Pin2346

I’ve been learning Chopin’s Nocturne #20 recently, and every time I feel overwhelmed, I sit down and start to play that song. I guess it’s because of the movie “The Pianist,” but when I hear that song it calms me and makes me sad at the same time.


VinylCrast

Chocolate milk and some good metal music


Shwats

I see you're also someone with refined taste \m/


Vidar_Faelnirv

The loving mix of caffeine and sugar and everything in between in an energy drink. Is it addiction? Probably Is it ADHD? Also probably.


N0tBappo

The reason for this could be because to people with ADHD, this is a stimulant. It'll give you energy, however, unlike people without ADHD, it actually can also relax us as well. This could be why you love it so much.


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Indecks9999

Sitting in the middle of a field with baby goats running around.


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unknownfazeA

cuddling with my girlfriend. I can be the most upset with my life and the daunting future, as soon as I feel her warmth and her soft skin touching mine, everything is fine.


ValGalorian

Writing


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Cleaning


Cool_Bluebird7490

Out of the kindest of my heart I will let you clean my house to help you calm down! 😁


MeMajaSammy

Petting my cat .


twoworder

Getting money


InterviewOk9871

Star gazing, just hits different to think how small and unimportant we are


Upjack_the_Evil

Petting my dog


MyIdentityIsStolen

Smoking weed.


rat8mar

scrolled too much to find this one


Junkyardhoodie

Running on the spot, 20 mins in and the demons fade away. Also, a good shower 😌


CrummyWombat

I work a job that can be pretty stressful on my mind and body. A 5k run through woods after work does wonders to ease tensions on both.


sonicreach

I do daily 5k trail runs not because of any reason other than its the most peaceful part of my day.


ThePhabtom4567

Getting head scratches from my wife. So comforting.


ValueNo520

Sitting on the beach watching and listening to the waves come in.


Ilovethe90sforreal

Hot bath


Arkhamryder

Sex


yatseg

Cleaning the house, gym.


utter-ridiculousness

I paddle-board. Being out on the water.


Electronic-Tooth-324

petting my cat


[deleted]

Video games! Really into The Binding of Isaac! It angers me and calms me at the same time


help_me_help_you06

Baking


Ratsofat

Picking up my kids from daycare after work. When he sees me, my little one will get the zoomies and run around shouting 'baba!!' Buckets of inner peace from that.


666Salina666

Painting


shleexyz

taking the bra offffff


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Mowing the lawn


easymac187

Video games most definitely. Helps with my anxiety.


misternotthatnice

Hiking. Just me and my thoughts. Always do it when life got rough.


Yeeting-Boi

Laying down and just listening to music. Sometime’s I’ll read too.


Famous_Reaction_5383

Shiting, mushrooms, marijuana


AkKik-Maujaq

Bro last night I had brownies with 40ML CBD and mushrooms baked into them. Holy god. Calm doesn't describe it. I was DEAD for like 12 hours


scienceforbid

Bears, beets, Battlestar Galactica


pvt_s_baldrick

Tetris helps me get into the zone which I find very calming


Independent-Shoe543

Cuddles


mikescelly

Nature


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Taking a shower.


Giantstink

Fishing. It remains relaxing because I don't catch shit.


sybarius

Woodworking. Using a razor sharp plane on a piece of noble wood. The sound, the smell . Very comforting. Sometimes I just go into the shop to plane a random piece of. Wood.


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StickOfLight

For real how did I come down this far to find the same thought without one masturbation comment in between


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lockaomd

Taking Xanax.


Odd-Law8794

Coloring


Molten-Marauder

Being out in a blackberry field on a warm summer day


lemonadesteak

Putting on a familiar show or movie. Going for a jog outside. Drinking a bottle of wine and doing the dishes with a nostalgic playlist blasting in my earbuds.


Hunterkiller040

Cuddling with my Girlfriend


gagansid

Blasting heavy metal in the headphones while briskly walking in a park


Ohlsen

Beer


slabange

Digging for fossils


whatacad

Strangely enough, intense dancing. It's not that I'm super chill afterwards, but it eases a part of my brain that's on all the time.


h11dee

reading


seabreathe

Pranayama (breath work)


FickleFingerOfFunk

Letting the hot water in the shower beat against the back of my skull. Try it. You’ll see.


jade4jas

Cooking... I don't care much for the eating part, but I'm good at it, I find it grounding, and it makes my wife happy 🙂


cyclejones

Pinball. Either playing or repairing broken machines. Anything that gets me into Flow.


Dresiden15

Touching my wife's butt. 😉


The_Rural_Banshee

Walking the dog


HeadSpade

When someone vacuums around me and i get to sit or preferably lay down near the sound


Positive_Agent_6112

Orgasming


Dibber_Bibber

Listening to Bob Marley.