I could use some of that here recently...
I feel like shit for feeling like shit because a couple friends in our circle died suddenly and then my Fiancé left me for some guy in a really fucked up way, and I tried reaching out because I was hurting, but people said they were too emotionally tired from the deaths that, like... no one had time for me and my incredibly deep heartache. I don't know, I'm trying to focus on the two who died more than my stuff because I feel like I'm being selfish for asking my friend to let me talk about it. So I just haven't, really.
I have to remind myself these are the same friend group who Never Called Me ever in *Two whole Years* after my entire fucking life collapsed around me, and I ended up with some major PTSD... I don't know, sorry for rambling. Love yall!
Drop bad friends, have no friends but time to yourself, feel better about yourself, new friends show up.
I’d 100 percent choose no friends as long as they are idiots
Stay above water fellow human.. try a decent distraction, like join a language class or music, just make new memories. hurt fades , it never disappears.
The biggest wake-up call for anybody about who their friends truly are is when you need them the absolute most at your darkest time. It's shitty because you have given them love and care when they have needed you, and to not get that in return is so hard. But just remember its not a reflection of you, its a reflection of them and their inability to deal with anything outside of their own bubble. Some people are just not built to be empathic and supportive, and that's fine for them, but you are in control of who you have around you and who is in your circle. As you get older, it's moments like this that make you realise that having true friends is more important than having lots of friends.
I'm so sorry. It sounds like the rug has been swept from under your feet, and nobody around you is trying to help you up. Please don't feel like you're the problem that your friends aren't supporting you, but I also feel like they're not true friends if they only want to be around you when things are good. Please seek some personal counselling so that you have a proper outlet for all your emotions and experiences. Keeping them pent up is never a good idea because you'll fill up like a bottle and eventually just explode. You deserve to feel heard and validated and if you don't have that circle around you that can help, then there are people that can.
Sending virtual hugs x
People can be afraid or have other things in their lives.
Talk to them, if they don't try to understand and make you feel bad, they aren't friends...
You can also see a doctor to help you, everybody is sick...
Eat less. If your belly is super full it can become uncomfortable, but a light meal before can sometimes even help
Alternatively, just go for it and give it a go. My ex and I were really bad as a couple, but frequently joked about after meal sex being the “sea lion” sex as it feels like it’s just two round fat bulbs rolling around on top off one another
Good times. Mediocre sex, but good times
Fuck yes!! I love cooking for my friends out of nowhere and surprising them.
Last saturday, I had the night off, and I had bought mussels to make for myself, but since it was a lot, I thought, "My best friend is about to go on break, the restaurant he bartends at is 3 mins away walking from my house, and he is gonna be hungry, so Imma text him and tell him to come to my house during break, I got food for him." He says yeah, and I start cooking, and right when it was about to be ready, he got to my house. I had prepared some mussels with white wine sauce and calabrian chilies, with some crostinis and rice. I served him a beer as well, and we started eating. He was so excited and thankful about it. I felt super happy because he went back to work with a full stomach. Honestly, that was like the best feeling in the world for me. To make a bomb ass meal that he can enjoy.
True. I’ve had a lot of really insane sexual experiences and checked off damn near everything on my sexual bucket list but none of that compares to the love that comes with being with my partner. Especially since I get to now share those fantasies with her and it’s something we both genuinely enjoy exploring.
There’s always a comedown when it’s just sex and it’s like you’re looking for your next fix. I don’t ever get that with her and it’s beautiful. It’s just a warm, comforting feeling that I love sharing with her.
Youre almost there. I have a 3.5yr old and am a stay at home dad. A year in and you will get those random full nights. A year and a half to two is where it becomes normal. At 2 and a half its smooth sailing at night (so long as you survive the whole day, as this is also around the time they start skipping naps).
I don’t know, I was so unproductive when my toddler was awake, I felt like if I slept while my toddler was asleep I was wasting precious time I could have been using to get things done uninterrupted. Taking a nap gave me such anxiety
For me, giving people head/back scratches. I always love giving my friends a massage when they need it. Seeing them so relaxed and happy makes me more relaxed and happy.
I said Viagra for ease. He's tried them all. Headaches. He has prostate issues. No worries people, there's more than one way to skin a cat, as they say. We manage to have sexy time anyway.
Crawling into bed after washing, drying your sheets comforters, and taking a shower.... The warmth from the bed sheets and the feeling of being clean and stuff is just so good, like biting into a roll lathered in butter fresh out the stove...
I think its best when its like 5 am on a saturday that you can sleep in, you go to the bathroom then climb back into bed. Yeah kinda sucks getting up to go but getting back in? pure bliss
Distant thunderstorms rolling in from the distance, heavy clouds so it’ll stay dark, really good leftovers in the fridge so you know brunch is covered when you get up later. Way later.
You got part of that right. You know when you’re in a situation where you’ve REALLY got to rip a piss but you’re not able to for one reason or another. Like, you have to piss so bad that you’re a grown ass man basically having to do the pee pee dance to keep yourself from pissing right then and there. It’s that moment when you’re finally able to run to the restroom or are able to make it outside and FINALLY get to let it rip. THAT feeling is the best feeling.
The feeling of freedom, real freedom. Waking up and looking out at the ocean or the mountains and not having to worry about money and or owing anyone anything.
Nothing better than hearing an amazing track for the first time and getting chills of euphoria rippling through your body. Heart starts to beat faster and sometimes it feels like you're floating.
That is absolutely a thing. I used to be a touch therapist (which is fancy talk for professional and platonic cuddle buddy) and I'm an introvert with bad anxiety, so sometimes I would 💨🍃 before I do a session. Most the time we would cuddle while watching a movie. That or cuddle an I would run my fingers through their hair and give them scalp massages as I actively listen to them an give them advice to help them with ease pain of the burdens that led them to seek out therapy an touch therapy. A lot of my clients had severe depression, ptsd, were divorced/widowed or have high blood pressure and the touch therapy would help them. I loved that job. Not just the perfect cuddles but the helping clients with the battles they don't speak on.
Cuddles while high on mdma. My partner never did drugs so I never got to experience it but I absolutely loved being high on mdma I just wish I had a cuddly girlfriend to share it with.
My hubs and I both have low libidos. Mine was very high when I was younger. I have to say, the feeling I get when he looks at me, knowing there's nothing but love and respect between us, better than any sex. I feel extremely happy and content just knowing I have a great partner.
I appreciate this. We're told constantly that lots of sex is what a healthy couple should be having. Like you, my husband and I had lots of it when we first got together when we were in our early 20s. Now we're in our 30s and I've definitely realised that both of our libidos have gone low and we don't have it a lot. Once a week, maybe twice if we're feeling it. I haven't spoken to my friends about it because when I've overheard them talking about their 'bedroom' problems, they think only doing it once a week represents a failing relationship.
My husband and I are stronger than any couple I know. That sounds very biased, but it's true. We have an incredibly deep emotional connection, we're playful and cuddly, laugh together all the time. We genuinely just feel so happy next to each other. I've come to realise that not everybody's normal is normal. Bodies change, people change, but we've changed together. When we do have it, it's wonderful because we've missed it, and we put a lot of time and effort into it.
But as you say, that feeling of being looked at with nothing but love means everything. He worships me as I worship him. He will randomly say things like 'I was thinking about you at work today, you're just lovely, I love knowing I'm coming home to you' means so much more than anything. Sex will eventually stop when we're much older, but that affection and care between us I hope will last forever.
You described it beautifully. This is exactly what I have with my husband. It's really refreshing to hear someone else feel the same. I don't mention our sex life to friends for that exact reason. We just do it when it feels right but there's no pressure. We simply enjoy each other.
A *really good cup of coffee on a foggy, misty morning next to a warm, aromatic fire, not bothered by anyone, especially the person you just had sex with
Way back as a new dad me and my wife were trying to get our new kiddo to laugh and I was recording it. I accidentally dropped my phone and it landed right next to him and he lost his shit and couldn’t stop laughing. So naturally I kept tossing my phone around. It’s a precious video for me.
That's great you got it on video. Mines first laugh was while she was asleep on my chest. Looked down she she had the sweetest smile. It's the best memory of the sweetest sound.
When the D&D group actually get together.
Also, when me and the guys (all married with children) manage to find a night when we are all free as a bird to meet up.
Basically, socialising in a schedule that seems to get fuller by the day.
waking up thinking you have to go to work or school and realize you have like 3 more hours until your alarm sounds so you get to sleep more. MY GOD IS THAT A GREAT FEELING!!!!
Outliving your enemies
Delicious indeed. The pinnacle is when you tea bag their dead body.
Mmm... Tea bags...
Britain must love you
Are you trying to say we drink a lot of tea? How dare you be so accurate!
And to see them driven before you
And to hear the lamentation of their women.
As soon as I saw outliving enemies, I scrolled down looking for this and the response to it.
I have no enemies
Congrats on outliving them all
Let me fix that. Fuck you.
Good one my son, Thorfinn
Having a stable relationship with someone you love and trust
This is the way
or getting out of a toxic relationship.... that's been the best for me.
Validation of your self worth from the people who matter.
I could use some of that here recently... I feel like shit for feeling like shit because a couple friends in our circle died suddenly and then my Fiancé left me for some guy in a really fucked up way, and I tried reaching out because I was hurting, but people said they were too emotionally tired from the deaths that, like... no one had time for me and my incredibly deep heartache. I don't know, I'm trying to focus on the two who died more than my stuff because I feel like I'm being selfish for asking my friend to let me talk about it. So I just haven't, really. I have to remind myself these are the same friend group who Never Called Me ever in *Two whole Years* after my entire fucking life collapsed around me, and I ended up with some major PTSD... I don't know, sorry for rambling. Love yall!
Holy shit I think you might need better friends. Sorry to hear, bud. That sounds really hard.
It's either bad friends or no friends.
I'd go for no friends tbh
Yeah, no one trying to drown you is the obvious choice.
Sadly, yeah. Most of the time there's no good option
Drop bad friends, have no friends but time to yourself, feel better about yourself, new friends show up. I’d 100 percent choose no friends as long as they are idiots
Stay above water fellow human.. try a decent distraction, like join a language class or music, just make new memories. hurt fades , it never disappears.
You seem like the sweetest person, I'm so sorry. If you need someone my dms are open.
Thank you!
The biggest wake-up call for anybody about who their friends truly are is when you need them the absolute most at your darkest time. It's shitty because you have given them love and care when they have needed you, and to not get that in return is so hard. But just remember its not a reflection of you, its a reflection of them and their inability to deal with anything outside of their own bubble. Some people are just not built to be empathic and supportive, and that's fine for them, but you are in control of who you have around you and who is in your circle. As you get older, it's moments like this that make you realise that having true friends is more important than having lots of friends. I'm so sorry. It sounds like the rug has been swept from under your feet, and nobody around you is trying to help you up. Please don't feel like you're the problem that your friends aren't supporting you, but I also feel like they're not true friends if they only want to be around you when things are good. Please seek some personal counselling so that you have a proper outlet for all your emotions and experiences. Keeping them pent up is never a good idea because you'll fill up like a bottle and eventually just explode. You deserve to feel heard and validated and if you don't have that circle around you that can help, then there are people that can. Sending virtual hugs x
People can be afraid or have other things in their lives. Talk to them, if they don't try to understand and make you feel bad, they aren't friends... You can also see a doctor to help you, everybody is sick...
I hope that you're getting the therapy you need
...as they fuck your brains out
cooking something for someone and seeing them really genuinely enjoy it
Also sometimes leads to sex. Win win.
I cant have sex if my belly is full? :( I am so scare that I will throw up...
Nah just don't obstruct the pathway.
Eat less. If your belly is super full it can become uncomfortable, but a light meal before can sometimes even help Alternatively, just go for it and give it a go. My ex and I were really bad as a couple, but frequently joked about after meal sex being the “sea lion” sex as it feels like it’s just two round fat bulbs rolling around on top off one another Good times. Mediocre sex, but good times
Fuck yes!! I love cooking for my friends out of nowhere and surprising them. Last saturday, I had the night off, and I had bought mussels to make for myself, but since it was a lot, I thought, "My best friend is about to go on break, the restaurant he bartends at is 3 mins away walking from my house, and he is gonna be hungry, so Imma text him and tell him to come to my house during break, I got food for him." He says yeah, and I start cooking, and right when it was about to be ready, he got to my house. I had prepared some mussels with white wine sauce and calabrian chilies, with some crostinis and rice. I served him a beer as well, and we started eating. He was so excited and thankful about it. I felt super happy because he went back to work with a full stomach. Honestly, that was like the best feeling in the world for me. To make a bomb ass meal that he can enjoy.
You sound like a bloody good mate
love Edit: more than half of replys have been rehashing songs sung long ago. I'm dissapointed.
What is that and where do I find it?
And how much does it cost?
Everything and nothing.
*Love? What's love? Can I spend it?*
Give me rent
Haddaway's less popular second single.
What is looovve...
Baby don't hurt me
don't hurt me
No more
*intense head bobbing*
I broke the window again....
Dad’s gonna be *pissed*.
I'll just tell him you did it
No more
True. I’ve had a lot of really insane sexual experiences and checked off damn near everything on my sexual bucket list but none of that compares to the love that comes with being with my partner. Especially since I get to now share those fantasies with her and it’s something we both genuinely enjoy exploring. There’s always a comedown when it’s just sex and it’s like you’re looking for your next fix. I don’t ever get that with her and it’s beautiful. It’s just a warm, comforting feeling that I love sharing with her.
Love & Sex (maybe chocolate) (second time I have commented something like this in a day- except for the chocolate part)
What is love? Baby don't hurt me no more.
Being really financially secure
While your spouse bangs the pool boy
Hard to bang the pool boy from the boat. The boat doesn't rock just because of waves lad.
And it’ll for sure be rockin’, because of the implication.
Taking a nap when your Toddler is taking nap as well
That first full night sleep after having your first kid tho
I have a 9 month old, and I slowly come to acceptance this will never happen.
Youre almost there. I have a 3.5yr old and am a stay at home dad. A year in and you will get those random full nights. A year and a half to two is where it becomes normal. At 2 and a half its smooth sailing at night (so long as you survive the whole day, as this is also around the time they start skipping naps).
At 7 my son just makes his own food and plays Fortnite when I doze off lol
Taught my kid how to make sandwiches when he was three years old. It’s one of my greatest achievements.
My man living the dream! Half way to go for me haha
I don’t know, I was so unproductive when my toddler was awake, I felt like if I slept while my toddler was asleep I was wasting precious time I could have been using to get things done uninterrupted. Taking a nap gave me such anxiety
Can confirm, I was a toddler once. Take a nap with me, you’ll be the same amount of productive with more sleep :)
Sleep is the GOAT, after you have kids
Or just when you're old in general.
I feel this in my circadian.
I have never resonated more with this. Or you know rocking in the chair with your baby and you both fall asleep. Gold Tier right their!
back scratches 😩
YES.
I'll do you one better: head scratches, it feels soooo goddamn good
For me, giving people head/back scratches. I always love giving my friends a massage when they need it. Seeing them so relaxed and happy makes me more relaxed and happy.
While being called a good boy/girl
Sex Poops Back scratches Not in any particular order, and combinations are allowed.
Combinations 🤨
The knowing glance shared between two people as a subtle reference or joke is made. Extra points if it goes unnoticed by others.
I love inside jokes. I’d love to be a part of one someday.
Hey, that damn leaf blower, am I right?? 😂😂
A solid 8 hours of sleep.
A massive power nap. The kind of nap that makes you question where you are. Nothing beats that
Like when you wake up and arnt sure if it's the same day or the next.
Sex is cool, but my parents shouldnt have done it
r/suicidebywords
That subreddit needs mods badly lol
Accomplishing something you've been working twords
Accomplishing something you’ve been working threewords
Accomplishing something you've been working forwards
For me, food is the best thing humanity has come up with. I love pizza and sushi rolls. Food is the food of gods!
I absolutely agree. I'm 64. The husband hates Viagra cuz it gives him a headache so "I'll take food of any kind for the win, Peter."
Get Jim on 5mg of daily cialis.
I said Viagra for ease. He's tried them all. Headaches. He has prostate issues. No worries people, there's more than one way to skin a cat, as they say. We manage to have sexy time anyway.
I don’t think humanity came up with food.
What better then a cold glass of water when you’re extremely thirsty?
Especially after having a mint!
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Crawling into bed after washing, drying your sheets comforters, and taking a shower.... The warmth from the bed sheets and the feeling of being clean and stuff is just so good, like biting into a roll lathered in butter fresh out the stove...
Yes! but also straight out of the shower with freshly shaved legs.
Success
Pissing after a really good night's sleep.
I think its best when its like 5 am on a saturday that you can sleep in, you go to the bathroom then climb back into bed. Yeah kinda sucks getting up to go but getting back in? pure bliss
And it is snowing outside.
Ooh when it’s rainy the next morning and I have nothing to do all day.
This. This is my heaven.
Distant thunderstorms rolling in from the distance, heavy clouds so it’ll stay dark, really good leftovers in the fridge so you know brunch is covered when you get up later. Way later.
You got part of that right. You know when you’re in a situation where you’ve REALLY got to rip a piss but you’re not able to for one reason or another. Like, you have to piss so bad that you’re a grown ass man basically having to do the pee pee dance to keep yourself from pissing right then and there. It’s that moment when you’re finally able to run to the restroom or are able to make it outside and FINALLY get to let it rip. THAT feeling is the best feeling.
The feeling after you drink an entire bottle of water by your bed at 3 AM
Having a gf that actually loves you
you need to love back though, otherwise it's painful.
The feeling of freedom, real freedom. Waking up and looking out at the ocean or the mountains and not having to worry about money and or owing anyone anything.
Super sex. It’s like regular sex, but super.
Regular sex, but wearing a cape.
No capes!
Nobody had fun until I put on the mask. I'm Sack Man.
To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentations of their women.
This guy knows...
This is best in life!
A burn I once read (speaking of an enemy): I would plant a tree in his mothers ass and fuck his sister in the shade.
This guy Croms!
Good music.
Nothing better than hearing an amazing track for the first time and getting chills of euphoria rippling through your body. Heart starts to beat faster and sometimes it feels like you're floating.
Laughing until your stomach hurts
Sweet, sweet sleep with no set alarm clock and nowhere to be anytime soon. Bonus if thunderstorm outside and good A\C.
Cuddles
Idk why… but i kinda want to experience cuddling while high
That is absolutely a thing. I used to be a touch therapist (which is fancy talk for professional and platonic cuddle buddy) and I'm an introvert with bad anxiety, so sometimes I would 💨🍃 before I do a session. Most the time we would cuddle while watching a movie. That or cuddle an I would run my fingers through their hair and give them scalp massages as I actively listen to them an give them advice to help them with ease pain of the burdens that led them to seek out therapy an touch therapy. A lot of my clients had severe depression, ptsd, were divorced/widowed or have high blood pressure and the touch therapy would help them. I loved that job. Not just the perfect cuddles but the helping clients with the battles they don't speak on.
I cuddled my dog whilst on acid last week and his fur was so soft I just lay there and smiled for about 15 minutes
Cuddles while high on mdma. My partner never did drugs so I never got to experience it but I absolutely loved being high on mdma I just wish I had a cuddly girlfriend to share it with.
Cheesecake
kittens
KITTENS!
Give a dog whose is unhappy at a refugee his best life yet : It's ask a lot from the human, but damn it's so great when you can do it
that first bite of mac n cheese
A good back crack
We had one sex, what about second sex?
Well what about elevensies? Luncheon? Afternoon quickie? Dinner?? Supper???
Freshly baked chocolate chip cookies and ice cold almond milk. mmmmm
Can I come over?
My hubs and I both have low libidos. Mine was very high when I was younger. I have to say, the feeling I get when he looks at me, knowing there's nothing but love and respect between us, better than any sex. I feel extremely happy and content just knowing I have a great partner.
I appreciate this. We're told constantly that lots of sex is what a healthy couple should be having. Like you, my husband and I had lots of it when we first got together when we were in our early 20s. Now we're in our 30s and I've definitely realised that both of our libidos have gone low and we don't have it a lot. Once a week, maybe twice if we're feeling it. I haven't spoken to my friends about it because when I've overheard them talking about their 'bedroom' problems, they think only doing it once a week represents a failing relationship. My husband and I are stronger than any couple I know. That sounds very biased, but it's true. We have an incredibly deep emotional connection, we're playful and cuddly, laugh together all the time. We genuinely just feel so happy next to each other. I've come to realise that not everybody's normal is normal. Bodies change, people change, but we've changed together. When we do have it, it's wonderful because we've missed it, and we put a lot of time and effort into it. But as you say, that feeling of being looked at with nothing but love means everything. He worships me as I worship him. He will randomly say things like 'I was thinking about you at work today, you're just lovely, I love knowing I'm coming home to you' means so much more than anything. Sex will eventually stop when we're much older, but that affection and care between us I hope will last forever.
You described it beautifully. This is exactly what I have with my husband. It's really refreshing to hear someone else feel the same. I don't mention our sex life to friends for that exact reason. We just do it when it feels right but there's no pressure. We simply enjoy each other.
A *really good cup of coffee on a foggy, misty morning next to a warm, aromatic fire, not bothered by anyone, especially the person you just had sex with
Pooping at home after an entire day of holding in your poop
Sex with someone u love 🤭
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Sex with someone that loves u
A huge, liberating dump right before you shower.
A fresh Krispy Kreme donut
Peeing after you've had to hold it in for a while.
Goes for pooping too
Hearing your baby laugh for the first time.
Way back as a new dad me and my wife were trying to get our new kiddo to laugh and I was recording it. I accidentally dropped my phone and it landed right next to him and he lost his shit and couldn’t stop laughing. So naturally I kept tossing my phone around. It’s a precious video for me.
That's great you got it on video. Mines first laugh was while she was asleep on my chest. Looked down she she had the sweetest smile. It's the best memory of the sweetest sound.
Financial stability
A really good book
I can't believe how far down this is
I also prefer a book over sex, but can you really not believe it’s far down?😂
It's a reference to a vine https://youtu.be/5ggkhjtlSR4
*piano solo
Sex 2, a great improvement overall
That was stuck in development hell. So we got Sex+
Having enough money to not be worried about unexpected bills
Reading through another subreddit and laughing so hard you're crying.
According to Trevor Belmont, a cold beer after a day of killing monsters
When the D&D group actually get together. Also, when me and the guys (all married with children) manage to find a night when we are all free as a bird to meet up. Basically, socialising in a schedule that seems to get fuller by the day.
Having someone actually love you, just for being you. It’s not something I’ve experienced, but I bet it feels pretty good
I hope you do experience it. It feels amazing being with your life partner or soul mate!
Taking off your work clothes at the end of the day and grabbing an ice cold beer or soda from the fridge.
Finally going to the bathroom after forcing yourself out of bed.
Intimacy. I'm talking pure connection, comfort and confidence is who you've allowed into your heart and you into theirs.
Music
When you play a song for someone and they actually like the song.
Two sexes
Sex while high
Holding your child and making them laugh.
SLEEP.
Sleeping at night after a year of graveyard shift.
Peace of mind
A really good nap
Good beer, good food, good sleep and good music (well recorded metal :) ). Everything else doesn't matter. Sex is overrated and out of fashion.
Chocolate
Serenity and inner peace. No, really.
An orgasm.
a costco hotdog
Nah dude. Costco Chickenbake.
Taking a nap after eating and catching the itis
Sieben.
Garlic bread
r/aace.
waking up thinking you have to go to work or school and realize you have like 3 more hours until your alarm sounds so you get to sleep more. MY GOD IS THAT A GREAT FEELING!!!!
A perfectly poured cold cider
Sleep.
A bathroom when you need one.
Feeling my partner turn over & pull me into snuggles in their sleep.