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No hobby is gonna make you attractive if you don't have a genuine passion for it. I hate few things more than guys in my hobby spaces who clearly don't give a shit for the thing that is important to me an instead just want to get in my pants.
Yeah, and doing a hobby specifically to be more attractive to women is in of itself unattractive. If you're only there to hook up with people, you're just as unattractive as someone whose list of interests basically amount to sitting around at home all day.
The actual thing women are looking for is that you have a hobby that you're passionate about that involves you leaving the house. If you're only there in the hopes that someone will look your way, then the interest isn't your interest. Sex is the interest and you're just playing at being interested in everything else.
I get wanting to be in a relationship and it's fine for people to want that, but I wish people could recognise that having an interest has benefits other than getting into people's pants. But people never want to talk about the mental health benefits of going outside and interacting with people face-to-face on a regular basis. They only ever want to talk about whether or not it'll get them laid.
This is why I never take "find new hobbies like salsa dancing" advise seriously. I don't really care for dancing classes, and I'd just be there to get to know new people. It's not genuine, and I always imagine it would be really obvious to the other side as well.
I am better, I'm not subhuman filth like you worthless pathetic incels who won't even be around in a year thanks to the incelpocalypse.
It's the only thing that you incels ever do that's the right thing.
A hobby isn't attractive. Having a life, interests, and skills are attractive. Now, a man who's interests are compatible with yours? That can be attractive, or at least a green flag.
If you like writing and literature, then you want to look into socializing within those interests. Book clubs, writing clubs and classes, poetry nights at a local Cafe, volunteering at the library, etc.
I feel like it would have been a more useful question if OP asked what skills a man could develop that women find attractive. Unlike with hobbies, there's no expectation to be passionate about something like cooking, penmanship or public speaking, but women are more likely to consider you romantically viable if you're good at those things.
I always thought it would have been helpful if they periodically asked women to make a list of these things and handed them out to boys in school, so they could have a headstart in becoming attractive prospective long-term mating partners.
The list is simple:
Basic life skills. Cooking, laundry, paying the bills, personal hygine, etc.
A few things that *you* love: Computers, sports, painting, whatever.
Something that the kind of women you're into would find valuable: Like nerdy girls? Then get a nerdy skill. Like outdoorsy girls? Then get an outdoorsy skill.
Basic social/relationship skills: Empathy, conversation, compromise, eating pussy, etc
The end.
Women think it's hot when a man has nice handwriting, right? You're not going to tell me that I wasted hundreds of hours improving my cursive handwriting for nothing, surely?
Definitely. Whenever I date a guy I set up a test with three stations. First he must make a perfect risotto, then he must transcribe a suitable poem with the most delicate calligraphy and then he must hold a speech in front of 50 random people and pass an approval rating survey after. Only if he succeeds in these three tasks is he allowed to date me.
I mean, there are worse ways to select your romantic partners.
I suspect your mocking tone would dissipate the hungrier you became, or if you needed to fill out a lengthy form, or address the townspeople at the local square. When that happens, you may apologise to me.
Yes. Cooking, penmanship and public speaking. Three skills I definitely do not have myself and do not excel in at all. Whatever will I do without a man? I'd surely die!
Penmanship appreciation for me is a mixture of OCD control and ASMR satisfying. There is a Master Cerficate Penman and watching them work and seeing their work is a different kind of fascination. The detaills! The control! Maximalism Art Noveau!
I recommend youtube accounts of Connie Chen and Jake Weidmann.
Hobbies that you enjoy and are passionate about.
Edit: Nevermind. Just saw your post “**How do I fake my personality or lie to seem more interesting**”.
Maybe it's too early for me and my coffee hasn't kicked in yet, because I'm not sure what you're saying.
I did have a manager at a job one time, and some of us workers found out some things about her dating life. She had one failed date after another. She must have struggled with having a social life and hobbies and interests. She would go on dates and have nothing to talk about other than her cat. No joke. I feel kind of bad for her.
Hahaha, don't worry - it's the internet. I meet women like your old manager all the time, and it never works out. I made a sarcastic comment about replying your comment back to a potential future date when she says she doesn't have any hobbies or struggles to name one.
It would be a cruel thing to actually say though!
When you read enough of their profiles you start to see patterns. It's interesting how often they pop up.
Before I even clicked the guys profile I knew
1. He was a weeb
2. He had posts about how he "couldn't make friends :( :( :( "
3. He is a capital G Gamer
I still haven't looked at his profile. I don't need to.
It's wild that all of these people are exactly the same.
Unapologetically doing the things you love is attractive in and of itself; it doesn’t matter what the hobbies are. Do things that you enjoy because they are fun, not to attract women.
Surprisingly, even though the ratio of male to female chess players is about 9:1, if you're a chess player who showers before a tournament and is decently dressed odds are you'll enjoy plenty of success.
You can almost certainly find women in the hobbies you already have. We aren't a hive mind, they might be the minority in some spaces, but they are there. Source: growing up as a girl into manga, games, comics, anime.
I wouldn't recommend picking something up for the sole purpose of meeting women. You should at least have some genuine interest.
Take care of yourself first, before you want to start taking care of a woman. Look for hobbies that interest you, and maybe that special one might be there.
The women you talked to who think that’s “old people stuff” sound immature or shallow, so that’s probably good for you since you want to attract compatible women, not just any woman, so don’t be insecure about your hobbies.
As someone who also writes and does music, it definitely helped me attract and connect with women who did appreciate such things, but really you should focus on developing yourself for your own sake. That will make you confident and skillful and women definitely notice that.
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No hobby is gonna make you attractive if you don't have a genuine passion for it. I hate few things more than guys in my hobby spaces who clearly don't give a shit for the thing that is important to me an instead just want to get in my pants.
Yeah, and doing a hobby specifically to be more attractive to women is in of itself unattractive. If you're only there to hook up with people, you're just as unattractive as someone whose list of interests basically amount to sitting around at home all day. The actual thing women are looking for is that you have a hobby that you're passionate about that involves you leaving the house. If you're only there in the hopes that someone will look your way, then the interest isn't your interest. Sex is the interest and you're just playing at being interested in everything else. I get wanting to be in a relationship and it's fine for people to want that, but I wish people could recognise that having an interest has benefits other than getting into people's pants. But people never want to talk about the mental health benefits of going outside and interacting with people face-to-face on a regular basis. They only ever want to talk about whether or not it'll get them laid.
This is why I never take "find new hobbies like salsa dancing" advise seriously. I don't really care for dancing classes, and I'd just be there to get to know new people. It's not genuine, and I always imagine it would be really obvious to the other side as well.
What about your dress? Lol.
what
Great point! But sorry to tell you guys do everything just to get in girl’s pants.
hm hmm, do tell me more about that. i've never heard of anything like it before.
It might be subconsciously, but it always in the mind of a guy.
is that so? fascinating!
I can’t even with this one.
no, no, be quiet, he's teaching me something here
My bad. (ahem) Yes, he’s truly going to teach us all of men’s “secrets”!
We're seeing yet more evidence that males are the biggest misandrists of all 👍
Using 'males' is rather misandric. Just as women dislike 'females'. Be better.
interesting that that's the only issue you have with this comment thread
“Be better.” You first.
I am better, I'm not subhuman filth like you worthless pathetic incels who won't even be around in a year thanks to the incelpocalypse. It's the only thing that you incels ever do that's the right thing.
It's not. Please don't make it harder for the guys who want genuine friendships.
Speak for yourself.
Tell us something we don’t know, dude. 🙄
You don’t speak for me
Insane take. Very obviously not true lol. You thinking this says more about you than anyone else
A hobby isn't attractive. Having a life, interests, and skills are attractive. Now, a man who's interests are compatible with yours? That can be attractive, or at least a green flag. If you like writing and literature, then you want to look into socializing within those interests. Book clubs, writing clubs and classes, poetry nights at a local Cafe, volunteering at the library, etc.
I feel like it would have been a more useful question if OP asked what skills a man could develop that women find attractive. Unlike with hobbies, there's no expectation to be passionate about something like cooking, penmanship or public speaking, but women are more likely to consider you romantically viable if you're good at those things. I always thought it would have been helpful if they periodically asked women to make a list of these things and handed them out to boys in school, so they could have a headstart in becoming attractive prospective long-term mating partners.
The list is simple: Basic life skills. Cooking, laundry, paying the bills, personal hygine, etc. A few things that *you* love: Computers, sports, painting, whatever. Something that the kind of women you're into would find valuable: Like nerdy girls? Then get a nerdy skill. Like outdoorsy girls? Then get an outdoorsy skill. Basic social/relationship skills: Empathy, conversation, compromise, eating pussy, etc The end.
It seems pretty simple when you lay it out like that. Maybe the issue has been unnecessarily over-complicated.
..... penmanship? what are we? living in a jane austen novel?
Women think it's hot when a man has nice handwriting, right? You're not going to tell me that I wasted hundreds of hours improving my cursive handwriting for nothing, surely?
Definitely. Whenever I date a guy I set up a test with three stations. First he must make a perfect risotto, then he must transcribe a suitable poem with the most delicate calligraphy and then he must hold a speech in front of 50 random people and pass an approval rating survey after. Only if he succeeds in these three tasks is he allowed to date me.
I mean, there are worse ways to select your romantic partners. I suspect your mocking tone would dissipate the hungrier you became, or if you needed to fill out a lengthy form, or address the townspeople at the local square. When that happens, you may apologise to me.
Yes. Cooking, penmanship and public speaking. Three skills I definitely do not have myself and do not excel in at all. Whatever will I do without a man? I'd surely die!
Guess all those years living in the monistary learning illumination were wasted...
I mean, a guy who can do that Architectural Lettering freehand would make **me** swoon.
Any skill done with a passion is hot, sure. I find "cooking, penmanship or public speaking" a freaking hilarious list of essentials though.
Penmanship appreciation for me is a mixture of OCD control and ASMR satisfying. There is a Master Cerficate Penman and watching them work and seeing their work is a different kind of fascination. The detaills! The control! Maximalism Art Noveau! I recommend youtube accounts of Connie Chen and Jake Weidmann.
Being passionate about what you're actually interested in is attractive
Hobbies that you enjoy and are passionate about. Edit: Nevermind. Just saw your post “**How do I fake my personality or lie to seem more interesting**”.
Because having genuine passions and interests is just too damn difficult! /s
You joke, but some people really do struggle to find things they enjoy.
I'm well aware. It's a symptom of depression, for example. The solution is to get professional help. Not just do things as a form of people pleasing.
This is going to be my reply on the next date when she says she doesn't have any hobbies. /s
Maybe it's too early for me and my coffee hasn't kicked in yet, because I'm not sure what you're saying. I did have a manager at a job one time, and some of us workers found out some things about her dating life. She had one failed date after another. She must have struggled with having a social life and hobbies and interests. She would go on dates and have nothing to talk about other than her cat. No joke. I feel kind of bad for her.
Hahaha, don't worry - it's the internet. I meet women like your old manager all the time, and it never works out. I made a sarcastic comment about replying your comment back to a potential future date when she says she doesn't have any hobbies or struggles to name one. It would be a cruel thing to actually say though!
oh lmao OP is gonna stay single for a long time
When you read enough of their profiles you start to see patterns. It's interesting how often they pop up. Before I even clicked the guys profile I knew 1. He was a weeb 2. He had posts about how he "couldn't make friends :( :( :( " 3. He is a capital G Gamer I still haven't looked at his profile. I don't need to. It's wild that all of these people are exactly the same.
Unapologetically doing the things you love is attractive in and of itself; it doesn’t matter what the hobbies are. Do things that you enjoy because they are fun, not to attract women.
What women find attractive is a man who has a passion and does something that he loves rather than being obsessed with trying to look attractive.
>rather than being obsessed with trying to ~~look attractive~~ get laid.
Learn to groom yourself and learn that cheeto dust is not a replacement for soap and water or deodorant
Surprisingly, even though the ratio of male to female chess players is about 9:1, if you're a chess player who showers before a tournament and is decently dressed odds are you'll enjoy plenty of success.
You can almost certainly find women in the hobbies you already have. We aren't a hive mind, they might be the minority in some spaces, but they are there. Source: growing up as a girl into manga, games, comics, anime. I wouldn't recommend picking something up for the sole purpose of meeting women. You should at least have some genuine interest.
As long as you enjoy the hobby you can come across as attractive IMO
Videogames, reading, and knitting
Take care of yourself first, before you want to start taking care of a woman. Look for hobbies that interest you, and maybe that special one might be there.
Dancing and yoga
Yoga, Pilates, and Zumba.
The women you talked to who think that’s “old people stuff” sound immature or shallow, so that’s probably good for you since you want to attract compatible women, not just any woman, so don’t be insecure about your hobbies. As someone who also writes and does music, it definitely helped me attract and connect with women who did appreciate such things, but really you should focus on developing yourself for your own sake. That will make you confident and skillful and women definitely notice that.
it doesn’t matter, if you’re good looking and are playing a 3DS girls will walk up to you and ask you about it.