Hey, that’s a really tough situation to be in but you’re not alone. It sounds like you’re really crushed and losing a best friend and girlfriend is seriously a lot. The pain is so real but if your heart had been broken multiple times by these people then it’s okay to let them go.
This sub has really helped me a lot. What are you looking for advice on?
I can only imagine the pain your going through.I can tell you it will only get worse before it gets better. But you gotta heal and you can’t have her back in your life she lied and betrayed you she really fucked up fucked up hard. You tried to make things work you really did your love is undeniable but she hurt you more then what you can put into words.
I never experienced a relationship that long but my input would be to cut all ties with her don’t let her know what’s going on in your life leave her questioning. Talk to your friends and family talk about her it will help you will brake down and cry when you do and probably just the thought of her will make you. But talking about it will help no matter how embarrassing or painful it is. I think you should talk about her and let your go through the emotions and grief over it. I mean you lost a best friend and lover that’s no easy thing to lose you had a constant in life it was her I’m sure you pictured your life with her having children etc.
I know it will be a long painful road ahead but don’t stop it’s gonna be temping at times but don’t fall for it. This is a time for you to change and be who you want and better yourself in ways you want to or need to. There’s nothing wrong with you she messed up bad.
Give yourself time to heal can take days it can take years you’ve got lots of habits to unlearn it’s a process of many many small steps. Don’t be so hard on yourself your gonna have good days and bad don’t think about the past and all the what if’s or what could be it’s just gonna sky rocket your anxiety.
Make time to cry and mourn over her talk to friends and family about it, it will help talking. Start changing your like is small but impactful ways like gym,diet, rearrange your house find new hobbies keep busy being alone and not doing anything really sucks you just sit there with your thoughts. If you want some books I could recommend some. If your more into stories or mythology Iron John by Robert bly if you want more of a question answer format the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle is a good one I just started it. I’ve got a few more in my library that I want to read if you want that HMU. Again I’m sorry you don’t deserve this I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. Nothing is wrong with you just know it will be hard at the end it will be worth it.
Dude I cant imagine what you are going through Im so sorry to hear that man. Trust me that pain is real as Ive had this happen and its ok. Take time for yourself my guy and even take a mental break from work if you can dude really. Its gonna take a while but dude what really helped me was just going out for a walk and just sitting in park by myself and thinking about all the good I have in my life even without them and it does get better trust me I did it last night and dude it feels fantastic but it will take a while but know this that you have people here who are here to help my guy always remember that somehow the internet even though some people might troll has good people and that people are always willing to help. I hope your able to take some time off from work especially with the weekend coming up and thanksgiving coming up some time off will help a lot and spend time with your friends and family as they have helped me a lot getting through stuff
Reaching out is crucial but explain that you just need support and understanding and not a bunch of advice or whatever. Communicate your needs and it will help greatly
Hey, that’s a really tough situation to be in but you’re not alone. It sounds like you’re really crushed and losing a best friend and girlfriend is seriously a lot. The pain is so real but if your heart had been broken multiple times by these people then it’s okay to let them go. This sub has really helped me a lot. What are you looking for advice on?
I can only imagine the pain your going through.I can tell you it will only get worse before it gets better. But you gotta heal and you can’t have her back in your life she lied and betrayed you she really fucked up fucked up hard. You tried to make things work you really did your love is undeniable but she hurt you more then what you can put into words. I never experienced a relationship that long but my input would be to cut all ties with her don’t let her know what’s going on in your life leave her questioning. Talk to your friends and family talk about her it will help you will brake down and cry when you do and probably just the thought of her will make you. But talking about it will help no matter how embarrassing or painful it is. I think you should talk about her and let your go through the emotions and grief over it. I mean you lost a best friend and lover that’s no easy thing to lose you had a constant in life it was her I’m sure you pictured your life with her having children etc. I know it will be a long painful road ahead but don’t stop it’s gonna be temping at times but don’t fall for it. This is a time for you to change and be who you want and better yourself in ways you want to or need to. There’s nothing wrong with you she messed up bad. Give yourself time to heal can take days it can take years you’ve got lots of habits to unlearn it’s a process of many many small steps. Don’t be so hard on yourself your gonna have good days and bad don’t think about the past and all the what if’s or what could be it’s just gonna sky rocket your anxiety. Make time to cry and mourn over her talk to friends and family about it, it will help talking. Start changing your like is small but impactful ways like gym,diet, rearrange your house find new hobbies keep busy being alone and not doing anything really sucks you just sit there with your thoughts. If you want some books I could recommend some. If your more into stories or mythology Iron John by Robert bly if you want more of a question answer format the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle is a good one I just started it. I’ve got a few more in my library that I want to read if you want that HMU. Again I’m sorry you don’t deserve this I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. Nothing is wrong with you just know it will be hard at the end it will be worth it.
Dude I cant imagine what you are going through Im so sorry to hear that man. Trust me that pain is real as Ive had this happen and its ok. Take time for yourself my guy and even take a mental break from work if you can dude really. Its gonna take a while but dude what really helped me was just going out for a walk and just sitting in park by myself and thinking about all the good I have in my life even without them and it does get better trust me I did it last night and dude it feels fantastic but it will take a while but know this that you have people here who are here to help my guy always remember that somehow the internet even though some people might troll has good people and that people are always willing to help. I hope your able to take some time off from work especially with the weekend coming up and thanksgiving coming up some time off will help a lot and spend time with your friends and family as they have helped me a lot getting through stuff
Reaching out is crucial but explain that you just need support and understanding and not a bunch of advice or whatever. Communicate your needs and it will help greatly