report her on the app, block her on instagram, and learn this lesson - anytime they try to get you onto another app, it's for reasons like this. you're just another follower or sucker to her.
They'd need a lot more or for you to be an idiot and start clicking links they send and entering your bank details. I think people from the USA seem to have a big fear of WhatsApp compared to the rest of the world.
WhatsApp is THE international texting app. I never understood why, but anytime I lived/traveled abroad everyone outside of the U.S. used WhatsApp rather than normal texting.
If the person is a scammer, is there any specific danger to them having your phone number or communicating with them on WhatsApp.? I often think I might be dealing with a scammer, but want to go far enough to find out for certain
I mean, they could sign your phone number up for stuff? But honestly the biggest threat I'm aware of is the old "you are not immune to propaganda" line.
The pig butchers will do everything to convince you to trust them. That said, I've met legit people who messaged exclusively on WhatsApp, all internationals, but I've still had fun dates that way. I also travel abroad a lot and live in a city with tons of international transplants, so it's not unusual for me to run into someone who wants to use WhatsApp
If the person is a scammer, why interact at all? All suspected scammers should be ghosted ASAP. No questions no exceptions—-that’s quite literally how ppl get scammed is letting the scammer get Colin themselves…
Yeah... WhatsApp is so good that it got bought by Meta. It's free, international, not limited in message size, does pictures, graphics, video and audio / voice messages. Everyone in the world uses it EXCEPT the USA. So, I think the USA are the odd-man-out here. Oh, yeah; It also treats all users the same, whether you are Android or Apple you are the same color.
I will say, I think normal messaging has caught up to WhatsApp, and also Signal/Telegram are regionally popular, but yeah, WhatdApp is pretty good and ridiculously popular
It’s commonly used outside of the US. It’s not odd to ask for WhatsApp outside of the US. But it IS inside of the US. Any app shifting is suspicious to me. You’re literally already on an app you both have! Next step, if any, is a phone number.
Yes, I do. That’s why I do not give my phone number out until AFTER I’ve met the person in real life, more than one time. Otherwise, we can communicate on the app. If he doesn’t respect that, that’s a red flag and I will not budge.
Edit: as to why—-there’s too many reverse search things tied to phone numbers for scammers to get more info, so I DO try to protect my real #. Also, you can block numbers, but numbers are so easy to spoof, there’s no way to block it all if someone decided they wanted to harass you. So I think it’s dumb for many reasons to give your number out to a stranger you’ve never met IRL.
Wow, not the response I expected. I thought you might laugh at me for being reticent to exchange phone numbers. The flip side of your approach though, is that I don't love the idea of getting together in person with someone I might not enjoy speaking with. I usually can tell pretty quickly on a phone call whether there is a chance of compatibility
Not sure about this specific case, but online scams often use imperfect grammar to filter out targets. If you think an offer or a business proposition is legit even though it's written very poorly, you're much more likely to be a successful target.
You're not wrong, and I understand the sentiment. But just knowing how fake Kim k is (physically and probably her personality) makes her so unappealing, even as eye "candy."
This girl could've been a Rosario Dawson clone, and she would still get blocked before she had the chance to after this
Seriously. If you're going to talk to eachother off the dating app, it had better be through a phone number. Social media links just mean they want followers and/or are selling something. Seeing people ask for insta and shit just makes me face palm.
Not necessarily. I usually ask for their IG handle first just to make sure that
1. They actually exist.
2. They are not some kind of creep.
3. To check if I find them interesting or not. IG displays a part of people's personality that is not easily detected via text or phone call.
This is why I report every account that says to contact them on another app. They are there for one thing only, and it's not dating.
And if we match, I don't go to another app. We can chat on Bumble or they can give me their number.
Wtf 🤣 Why would you report accounts for that? Are you paranoid? Every date I’ve been on in the last 2 years we have almost immediately moved to another app.
Screw that. I’m not going on a date with someone without moving to WhatsApp and seeing their Social Media channels etc within a day or 2 of matching. It usually happens within an hour or so.
I mean if that’s the way she was texting how did it even get to the point of y’all swapping ids. I’d just unmatch because of the sheer cringe and narcissistic way she texts.
Women regularly have their Instagram or Snapchat profiles in their bios. Even if we matched and we talk on Bumble, sometimes women will tell me to message them on Instagram
Entitlement issue
You dodged a major red flag. Congrats
Celebrate your life, because trust me she would have made your life hell with expectations and criticisms
Even if it wasn’t a bot, women do this all the time because they have so many options. It’s fishing. Women like to use passive aggressive comments to get attention. Not all women. Look for the ones that don’t behave like children.
What are you sad about exactly? She's likely a scammer. the way she talks screams foreign scammer. Even with the Instagram.. at the very least she's a gold digger. You dodged a major bullet. Nothing to be sad about. Honestly. Be thankful you saw this from the start. So many matches out there waiting for you. Chin up brother
3.9K followers and this is her criteria, don’t become sucker number 3,901
Aman
report her on the app, block her on instagram, and learn this lesson - anytime they try to get you onto another app, it's for reasons like this. you're just another follower or sucker to her.
Blocked her on both platforms immediately!
Well, this is beyond trying to get him off the app. This isn't even a girl.
Woman. I HOPE it’s not a girl.
Why is the request usually to connect on WhatsApp as compared to a regular phone call?
Why would you want to give your personal phone number to someone you plan on scamming in the first place?
WhatsApp is linked to ur phone number
Is someone having your phone number alone enough to scam you? Or would there need to be a lot more?
They'd need a lot more or for you to be an idiot and start clicking links they send and entering your bank details. I think people from the USA seem to have a big fear of WhatsApp compared to the rest of the world.
Because no one in the USA uses WhatsApp so it usually means it’s a scammer from another country
WhatsApp is THE international texting app. I never understood why, but anytime I lived/traveled abroad everyone outside of the U.S. used WhatsApp rather than normal texting.
SMS was expensive and neither RCS or iMessage held out until much later so people mostly stick to Whatsapp
If the person is a scammer, is there any specific danger to them having your phone number or communicating with them on WhatsApp.? I often think I might be dealing with a scammer, but want to go far enough to find out for certain
I mean, they could sign your phone number up for stuff? But honestly the biggest threat I'm aware of is the old "you are not immune to propaganda" line. The pig butchers will do everything to convince you to trust them. That said, I've met legit people who messaged exclusively on WhatsApp, all internationals, but I've still had fun dates that way. I also travel abroad a lot and live in a city with tons of international transplants, so it's not unusual for me to run into someone who wants to use WhatsApp
If the person is a scammer, why interact at all? All suspected scammers should be ghosted ASAP. No questions no exceptions—-that’s quite literally how ppl get scammed is letting the scammer get Colin themselves…
Yeah... WhatsApp is so good that it got bought by Meta. It's free, international, not limited in message size, does pictures, graphics, video and audio / voice messages. Everyone in the world uses it EXCEPT the USA. So, I think the USA are the odd-man-out here. Oh, yeah; It also treats all users the same, whether you are Android or Apple you are the same color.
I will say, I think normal messaging has caught up to WhatsApp, and also Signal/Telegram are regionally popular, but yeah, WhatdApp is pretty good and ridiculously popular
But I can’t use it in my iPad. :[
It’s commonly used outside of the US. It’s not odd to ask for WhatsApp outside of the US. But it IS inside of the US. Any app shifting is suspicious to me. You’re literally already on an app you both have! Next step, if any, is a phone number.
Thanks. Brings me to my next question. Do you put yourself at any scam risk by giving out your phone number?
Yes, I do. That’s why I do not give my phone number out until AFTER I’ve met the person in real life, more than one time. Otherwise, we can communicate on the app. If he doesn’t respect that, that’s a red flag and I will not budge. Edit: as to why—-there’s too many reverse search things tied to phone numbers for scammers to get more info, so I DO try to protect my real #. Also, you can block numbers, but numbers are so easy to spoof, there’s no way to block it all if someone decided they wanted to harass you. So I think it’s dumb for many reasons to give your number out to a stranger you’ve never met IRL.
Wow, not the response I expected. I thought you might laugh at me for being reticent to exchange phone numbers. The flip side of your approach though, is that I don't love the idea of getting together in person with someone I might not enjoy speaking with. I usually can tell pretty quickly on a phone call whether there is a chance of compatibility
There’s a way to talk by voice or video on most dating apps ;) I always talk first, often video before meeting.
Thank you u/OneAnother!
Bro you got issues. Just let people be and continue on
It’s a bot. The English is very off.
It’s a low level virtual assistant from pakistan. I work in Ecom and some of these guys now work in OF, tinder, bumble management.
A bot would have perfect English
Not sure about this specific case, but online scams often use imperfect grammar to filter out targets. If you think an offer or a business proposition is legit even though it's written very poorly, you're much more likely to be a successful target.
So maybe they're telling the bot to write poorly... Didn't think of that
I would report her immediately and block her afterwards.
Bumble is bullshit nowadays
Who does she think she is? Kim kardashian? What a dumb egotistical broad
You're not wrong, and I understand the sentiment. But just knowing how fake Kim k is (physically and probably her personality) makes her so unappealing, even as eye "candy." This girl could've been a Rosario Dawson clone, and she would still get blocked before she had the chance to after this
The dumb ones are the ones that think this is a woman or ‘broad’ as you do eloquently put it.
lol. Anytime someone sends you to another social, this is the reason.
Seriously. If you're going to talk to eachother off the dating app, it had better be through a phone number. Social media links just mean they want followers and/or are selling something. Seeing people ask for insta and shit just makes me face palm.
Not necessarily. I usually ask for their IG handle first just to make sure that 1. They actually exist. 2. They are not some kind of creep. 3. To check if I find them interesting or not. IG displays a part of people's personality that is not easily detected via text or phone call.
This is why I report every account that says to contact them on another app. They are there for one thing only, and it's not dating. And if we match, I don't go to another app. We can chat on Bumble or they can give me their number.
Wtf 🤣 Why would you report accounts for that? Are you paranoid? Every date I’ve been on in the last 2 years we have almost immediately moved to another app.
I'm with the other guy. No legitimate date ever came after they asked to communicate on another app
Screw that. I’m not going on a date with someone without moving to WhatsApp and seeing their Social Media channels etc within a day or 2 of matching. It usually happens within an hour or so.
Supposing this was real- would you want a girl like that?
What a hoebag
All dating apps are scams nowadays
Good. You dodged a bullet
It’s a no for me. Not worth it bro.
What is she a prostitute?
Lmao what country is this?
I mean if that’s the way she was texting how did it even get to the point of y’all swapping ids. I’d just unmatch because of the sheer cringe and narcissistic way she texts.
So essentially an OnlyFans situation. Report.
Socials in bio means she wants clout.
It means it's a dude in India trying to scam you.
Women expecting to be pampered are pathetic and disgusting. Hope people get in their own head that they are special out of 8 billion is beyond me 😂
Where are some of you guys getting that she had her "socials in her bio?" OP clearly said "she asked" him to message her on Instagram.
Women regularly have their Instagram or Snapchat profiles in their bios. Even if we matched and we talk on Bumble, sometimes women will tell me to message them on Instagram
You sure showed her!!!
ok princess 🤭🤭
Reply eat shit and die 💀
Entitlement issue You dodged a major red flag. Congrats Celebrate your life, because trust me she would have made your life hell with expectations and criticisms
This will be a stolen account. The start of a sextortion scam. They will want nudes soon.
Even if it wasn’t a bot, women do this all the time because they have so many options. It’s fishing. Women like to use passive aggressive comments to get attention. Not all women. Look for the ones that don’t behave like children.
this is so obviously a bot troll, its hilarious 😂
What are you sad about exactly? She's likely a scammer. the way she talks screams foreign scammer. Even with the Instagram.. at the very least she's a gold digger. You dodged a major bullet. Nothing to be sad about. Honestly. Be thankful you saw this from the start. So many matches out there waiting for you. Chin up brother
The “message me on insta” is always a scam Brody. Don’t sweat it. You live, you learn.
At this point, anytime I see a girl put their IG name on their profile. I assume they use online dating apps to grow their IG following.
Dude no this is a narcissist. More specifically an overt narcissist block her and report!
Send her those emojis x 10 n make her a happy woman!
Do you need a self centered person like this ? Most possible a narcissist Do you need a narcissist?
 Sounds like you dodged a bullet
Either a bot or a scammer. One things for sure, it's not a woman
It’s ok she filtered her self out. You’ll find better.
GTFOH with your online begging 🙄🙄
You can always report Onlyfan material!
The moment I see any women mention Pamper or Spoil I unmatch. Its the female version of "The ICK". Its more like YUCK for me.
Pamper and spoil sounds like she's a SW. You dodged a bullet. Congrats
Get on the simp train. 
lesson learned playboy. if she got her socials in the bio, biggest hoe by a mile
Right? It’s so gross when men do that. I swipe left every time
I got the same message 💔. Really thought this was the one.
Pamper and spoil - instant unfollow
Chips waali spotted
Ew
Smart woman. Although you don’t need to tell the guys, just remove the follower.
What’s with the emojis ?
Always treat accounts that ask you to message them on instagram with skepticism. Which is a lot of them, it seems.
Narcissist alert! 😅
Maybe she’d feel better about herself if she was educated. lol
Yeah if someone immediately asks to go to another app to talk, this is the sort of shit I expect
bullet dodged
A bullet must pass within the general vicinity for a dodging reaction to occur 🤣
ok
Reading the comments I’ve found that your guys are some to the softest emotional men in America
Lol
This person is not a member of the dating pool.
Where is she from?