Men need to develop their social skills and have healthy relationships with men and others in general + invest in therapy so that they’re not using dating apps to circumvent their lack of effort in their mental health investment. Men being lonely yet emotionally unavailable and demanding dates(with zero confirmation if two people like each other or not)-is the # 1 issue with why women are jaded with apps.
It has become the Amazon go for the low functioning(only focusing on making money and neglecting other parts of self) - who are seeking to trauma dump on whoever will say yes, with a very small % of genuine people who get drowned out by the low effort ones.
\*Men need to value and respect themself and their boundaries
FTFY slightly. You are not wrong. But the message needs to be properly made and positive. Men are not dogs that have to chase the price. Men can consider themself a price too
For me its saying you expect to be treated like a queen/princess in your bio
I actually fully intend on spoiling you, but when you write that up front, it presents the concern that you don't plan on giving me any/much effort, and that dooms a relationship no matter how much I spoil.
This is a major red flag for me personally. I make plenty of money, and can afford to “treat like a princess” but I’m not interested in women who aren’t self sufficient and driven. Lazy women are a huge turn off. And ones that want to be “spoiled” are usually fucking lazy and have shitty careers.
I used the term queen/princess before but what i mean is to feel : make me feel :feminine, protected, take care of emotionally. Not financially at all. Maybe those girls mean the same thing
You should see some of the men's profiles. A lot are "just looking for some fun," and or "no this and that. If you do this, swipe left."
I think a lot of peyote have a ton of unhealed trauma, and they're trying to fix it somehow through dating apps
Physical attraction is on the fence for me. In IRL I find myself emotionally attracted to some of the women I have met who don’t meet my immediate idea of physical attraction. Every time that happens their physical appearance stops mattering to me. So I tend to be very open about this one. Of course there is a limit. Like if she looks like Machete or mama June pre liposuction than yeah hard left.
Blank profile. If I have nothing to work off of for a conversation I already know it's going to be like pulling teeth.
Instagram handle. I'm quiet and reserved yet I have an ego that stops me from becoming match 346 added to the followers list.
I swipe left if:
The very first picture has multiple people in it. The first picture should be just you. I shouldn't have to scroll down to figure out who you are.
This is one of my many criteria for swiping left
To be fair, sometimes they might have tinder's best photo enabled and that may show a group one as the first one. So long as it's clear who they are in subsequent ones and I'm not going back and forth trying to guess which one she is
I also hate when people don’t show a full size picture and just show their face. Don’t be ashamed of your body because I can almost guarantee you that some guy will like it.
Even though I don't like how my body looks, I always put a full body shot in my profile because if someone is going to reject me for it I would rather not know about it. Like, why would I set myself up to be rejected in person. Awkward for both parties involved.
I try to include a full body pic but I have very large breasts and the picture could be in a high neck loose T-shirt and id immediately be bombarded with boob comments so I took them off for a while. Definitely not trying to hide but the obscene comments as the opening message gets old. I've now managed to include one that doesn't seem to cause this
The amount of women who say this blows my mind. These are apps meant to text potential partners, and texting is extremely easy. How hard is it to respond to a text?
Agree, however if you say you are interested in something other than friendship, physical meet needs to happen in two weeks, or I’m deleting. Not sure how you can be friends with someone you’ve never met.
I really, really think it’s weird that people put pics of their kids on dating apps.. if I had kids, I would never do that. Most of the time if they do, it’s a left swipe for me
I'm curious, as a parent.
I would never have my child's face or identifying features visible. However, I have it twice in my profile that I'm a parent, and I had an issue with matching with people who were much more childfree than their profile implied.
Having a photo of me and my child dressed as a monster (no face visible) solved that issue, but I'm open to the idea that it's still discouraging potentially great matches because my child is in a photo at all, even if you can't tell it's them.
Open to feedback on this.
I think having it on there like you do is not really an issue. I always came across women’s profiles that had like at least 2 or 3 full on photos of their kids on there. To each their own, but I’m kinda ehhh about it.. I don’t mind if they have kids, I just think it isn’t always safe to be putting your kids faces out there like that
I’m open to pics with your kids as long as it’s not every pic. I think it’s healthy sign your kids are your top priority.
I’m more horrified by the multiple pics of the grandkids, which tells me you are likely still trying to recreate your life with your kids where everyone relied on you. That’s not healthy imho
Ah, see I agree with you. Being a parent is not a personality, and you need to have interests and hobbies outside of your kids, even your kids need that balance and passion modeled for them.
Yeah the grandkids one is...a choice.
If privacy isn’t an issue, I think it’s great to have kids in pics. They are such a huge part of your life that it makes sense to show that up front. If anyone is turned off by seeing kids, they probably aren’t worth a single parent’s attention anyway.
I'd never thought much about it until I matched with a girl recently and she referred me to her IG to look at her artwork. It was on her bio btw. So I went and the first thing I noticed was lots of pics of her kids in easily identifiable places. Parks, schools. Hopefully it would never happen but a stalker could do a lot of bullshit with that info. Not good.
It’s odd. I think the reason most people do it is for full disclosure. They don’t want to spring that on someone or waste time pursuing a deal breaker.
Yeah… this was always an immediate left swipe for me. I have kids. I had on my profile that I had kids. I don’t think it needs to be listed more than that. Obviously, being a mum is important to me and I love my children, which is exactly why they are no place on my social media. They were never on my dating profile. For someone who does have them on their profile, it automatically makes me question their judgement. I had to tell my sister to take my kids off of her profile. She was showing she’s a caring aunt, but kids can’t consent to being on a public internet page and you really never know who is on any site.
A ton of cleavage shots.
A lot of booty shots at the gym
Many duck face pics.
Asking for my red and green flags
Opening message of just "hi" or emoji wave
Open messages shows you dis not read my profile.
I usually open with hi cause lots of men swipe right on almost everyone and will unmatch if, I guess, you’re not their type. Waste of energy to create a witty opening message.
Honestly I don’t really care if someone has some curves but they need to show it off and be proud of it. I went on a first date with someone who I did know was overweight and I wish she did not surprise me
Understandable. To each their own. The issue is though is that they know what they look like, they most likely know that whoever they're looking for won't be interested in them because of how they look. So they try to hide it OR put in their bio "I'm a big/chubby/curvy girl. If you don't like it, then swipe left."
Wants kids - I can’t have any
Must be over 6ft (I’m 6’3 but no thanks to that approach)
First date is hiking - I prefer to keep my organs and no way I’m waking up at 6AM on a Saturday to walk 10 miles. Just not for me.
As a F trying to date I'm appreciating the perspective in this entire post but this comment 🙌 I live in Utah and so help me if 6/6 photos is you doing some extreme mountain sport then move along. My fluffy ass prefers concerts, hole in the wall food spots and maybe a day paddle boarding. I do not want to hike on the first date or let's be honest probably ever anymore. If the truck took us to a beautiful casual walking trail where I'm provided with a beer at the end, super!
It’s common on profiles yeah, but I know a decent number of people who don’t like to travel (some just won’t get on a plane) and it’s often a dealbreaker.
I think when I had a profile (for a whole week) I said something more like how I’m the active vacation type rather than the veg vacation type.
I'm curious: how do you infer that someone is boring because they put "like to travel" on a profile? I know many people who like to travel, and they're some of the most interesting people I've ever met.
People who say "I've done this country and that country". You've done them hey? How interesting. I've lived in this country for decades and not "done" it yet.
I visit countries.
Attraction is always, always #1, including seeing if all of the photos are consistently trying to hide something. If I'm not attracted, then what are we even doing here? If you're trying to mislead me, then what are we even doing here?
Then it's more of a lifestyle / philosophy / personality check, I want to figure out if we'd actually get along and have something in common:
Super religious? Pass.
Super politically active, some kind of a fervent "ist"? Pass.
Negativity, complaining, collecting regrets and resentments from every past relationship, bringing it into the next one? Pass.
Long list of "demands" in the profile, especially financial, setting expectations, making the thing feel like a contractual agreement to provide benefit x, y, z? Pass.
Blank profile? Usually a pass, it's either a bot or someone who will put zero effort into the rest of our interaction.
Lots of lazy profiles “otters sleep holdings hands” “live laugh love” “pineapple on pizza”. If I wanted to watch paint dry I’d make a trip to Home Depot
yep, i would rather see "ill fill this in later" and just assume its a new profile than any of that cause that means you know that's it, that's the depth of their personality.
fair. If our moral views don't align, then there's not much point. Political and religious differences in a romantic relationship will never be helpful and always end badly imo. Fine to be friends with opposing views, but anything more is rocky territory.
This is controversial, but last photo is of myself with my child at a convention. Their costume covers their body and face, you can't tell if they're male or female, nor any other identifying features. It's me and a child-sized creature, essentially.
Doing this is the only thing that has stopped childfree men from matching with me. I have it in my bio that I have a child, but nobody reads it, evidently.
That said, a photo without the child's face obscurred? Never.
Edit: I am open to feedback on this if somebody feels it's still not appropriate.
I think that’s a fair balance. I fully agree with OP. The worse I’ve seen is the main profile pic of just the kid. Not sure who’s swiping right on that other than pedos. But, I’m not going to bullshit by denying that most men (and women) don’t read profiles.
On Bumble, women who say “I can’t see likes, so message me” … uh, no I can’t message you first (unless you have set up an Opening Move, which you haven’t)
>Leaving your instagram handle ( looks like you’re desperate for attention or extra followers)
Those are scam accounts.
Tinder link to Instagram which links to Onlyfans.
It doesn't even have to be something we both like to do. A hobby or just interest in something "unusual" is an immediate second look. And gym and travel are not hobbies.
I don’t think I have went a week without seeing it. Honestly it’s sad to rule out something that they can’t control when they check all of your other boxes.
Assuming I find them attractive, these are the things that still make it a left swipe:
1. Conservative
2. Christian
3. Smokes cigs
4. 35-year-old grad student about to change their major for the third time once they finish their sabbatical
The height thing never bothered me, just because that’s their preference and that’s totally fine. That one that always bugs me is the group picture being first. Like, you know what you’re doing.
Links to any social media
Not looking for what I want, or they don't have a definitive answer on their profile.
Too pretty
Girls that go out every weekend or party all the time etc.
Someone that refuses to drive even if theyre fully capable.
Conservative and apolitical. No body pics. No smiles, low energy pics. Eastern European model pics. No bio or lazy write ups. Any warnings to expect bad behavior from her (ie I’m unfiltered/sarcastic, try to keep up). Any ‘I need a real man’ , ‘dominant man’, or expect to pay my way bios. Cliche writeups that scammers frequently use.
Every Picture has filters/trying to hide something
Links to only fans. Ig/tik tok whatever.
Saying "I don't like to/am bad at respond to messages" or any facsimile of such.
"I'm expensive."
Grocery lists of my match needs to be "x" "x" "x" "x"
"Prove me all men arnt the same"
No point in wasting the time of these.
Too many to list but some common ones.
Bio blunders
1. I won’t text you first (or slow to text back or barely on this app, some version of this)
2. Passenger princess (or looking to get spoiled or saying swipe left if you won’t spoil me)
3. Anti vaccine (profiles that say if you are vaccinated, swipe left)
4. Just looking for a boat
5. Just looking for a wedding date
6. Just looking for a Disney date
7. Just looking for a rave date
8. Looking for someone to travel the world with
9. Only in town for a few days
10. Obnoxious political or religious affiliations
11. Telling me your pet is cuter than me
12. Telling me that I am competing with your pet for your love
13. Saying don’t waste my time
Picture blunders
1. Multiple pictures of the same photo
2. Only having one photo
3. Every photo is a group photo, and it’s not clear which person is the profile
4. All bathroom selfies
5. All photos of the head
6. All the photos are the person in the environment or the person is too far away in each photo
7. None of the photos have the person in the picture
8. More than a couple pet pictures (cats,dogs,horses,whatever)
- No bio
- Pictures are only selfies with filters taken from bed
- Any indication of a lifestyle that’s too expensive for me (flying first class, driving a Lamborghini, etc.)
- Always the same poses on pictures
- Partying on all pictures
- Not attractive, overweight
- Attitude on bio (diva / criticising men / unrealistic expectations)
- No picture
- No smile on pictures
When their photos look like they're from a photoshoot or travel catalog. I assume they're either a) fake/vapid b) fake/dude trying to scam me c) high maintenance. I prefer to see women how they look in their day to day, show a picture in jeans and tshirts, there's no way you're wearing a red dress, high heels while hanging out in some mansion everyday, and if you are ... No thanks 🤷
I’m in Latin America, and there’s a particularly type of person that I immediately swipe left on: “princess treatment” in the bio, something along the lines of “I’m not on here often, add me on IG,” and lots of lip filler/edits/generally fake appearance. Single moms are common here, too, and I’m not interested in being part of someone’s family, so I swipe left when I see that, too.
Kneejerk, physical attraction matters. Plain and simple.
That said, this might be a hot take, but when I see "family-oriented", I read that as "I had a happy childhood and have good relationships with my parents"; 50% of marriage if not more ends in divorce. And within that I'm sure most are amicable, but it feels to me it's becoming less of a norm to come from a "we sit down for dinner every night" household.
I might have a complex about it, but I find it can be uncomfortable relating to people who have really never experienced struggle or loss in their lives.
I once dated the daughter of a cardiac surgeon (they lived in a very wealthy neighborhood in New York City) and while everything was great at times, it just never progressed beyond surface level.
tldr I think being a kind, and well rounded person matters a hell of a lot more than being a family-oriented person 🤷🏻♂️
I just wanted to pop in and point this out real quick:
>Saying you only like men over 6ft( seriously, the average height for a male is like 5 foot nine and a very very small percentage of the population is 6 feet tall **so why limit yourself like that**?)
Narrator: OP then goes on to describe all the incredibly petty ways he limits his dating pool.
lmao thank you for this comment. Such a double standard as evidenced here by men saying they mainly look at photos to gauge attractiveness and would never date someone who isn’t their exact physical preference.
A woman doesn't have to check off certain physical standards for me to be attracted to her, really any type of attraction will work paired with green flags from her bio and profile. It's online dating and well known that physical appearance is highly important and most people look for attraction first.
No bio it makes me feel like if you didn’t put in the effort to write 2 sentences about yourself your prob won’t put a lot of effort into any conversation either.
That and no kids I have no problem with childfree people my siblings are all childfree but I’m the opposite I want kids in the future and dating someone that doesn’t is not how I’ll get there.
For me its starting the bio with something like "Mama of #," "Jesus Lover", or up front hostility like "Not looking for...."
I tend to swipe left if they have no bio.
There are many reasons (other than incompatibility reasons)
- No bio or single word bi or purely emoji bios
- List of demands (It's a bio damn it)
- Showing off every single country travelled. A simple number would suffice?
- Instagram handles
- Negativity in general
- any mention of the word Queen/Princess.
- every pic is heavily filtered.
The latest shit is "Looking for my Kelce"... Worst is when their whole personality is about Taylor Swift. Where is the originality?
Saying, “Giving it another shot at this app! Where are all the good men?!”
Right in fucking front of you. How about actually replying back to messages or EVEN messaging when you connect with someone.
Too big of a height difference (I'm short), smoking (can't stand the smell), no common points (I talk a lot about stuff that I know/am interested in, but other than that, I'm not much of a conversation-maker). Oh, and distance, of course
Conservative or Christian + Moderate
High emphasis on faith/religion (Bible thumpers)
Wants kids/Has kids and wants more
Smoking (especially cigarettes, I don't hate weed but I don't think I could live with someone who smokes it)
Not having any unfiltered pictures where your whole face is clearly visible
No bio is an instant left swipe. Idgaf how attractive you are. If you can’t even put forth effort towards your bio, you can’t put forth effort towards me. Stay single
When they ask you to spend money on them as in I'll fall for you if you get me something. Very cheap.
If she holds camera in front of her face for mirror selfie. Low self confidence.
Filtered pics
IG handle and saying like I’m not on here much hit me up on IG
Group pics
Far left or far right sayings. Like swipe one way if you support this person. If you can’t date someone of a differing opinion I don’t want it anyways. Tells me you’re stubborn.
If it sounds like you’re looking for a meal ticket. I’m not a sugar daddy
Social causes…sorry I’m not into most. I have other things to worry about like raising my kid. They post basically for clout anyways.
Pronouns…idc and it’s a turn off. I’m looking for a woman…if you are something else we don’t fit.
One I just saw…a male dressed like a woman and doesn’t state it in their bio. Be up front. Some dudes can really pull off a feminine look so be up front if you have a wiener.
If their “goals” are too far out of my reach. Like they want to travel to different countries. Sorry I’m a poor single dad. That’s not happening. 😂
I have a kid so if they want one or more it’s a nope.
Also if your profile pic you are wearing a mask. Sorry pics for a dating site shouldn’t have masks. I want to see your face and I don’t want to scroll down to find one. If you’re wearing it in a pic you’ll probably wear it on our date. It is safe to take a picture without a mask for 5 seconds.
Agreed!!!💯
Also if she tells us that she has her "shit together". Sounds like a judgemental pompous asshole. So many profiles sound like they are on repeat while I scroll through them. Gets old reading the same shit over and over. Be an individual!
Anything along the lines of “I’m just figuring things out” or “I’m not sure what I want”. If you don’t know what you want I’m not going to help you figure it out. Because if it doesn’t align with what I want, but in a great guy, you’ll pretend it is what you want without ever actually giving it to me.
But a bio that says you’re busy all the time. Is it true? Probably, and I appreciate you saying it, but if you can’t even spot your free time then getting a date is going to be impossible!
This could be a long list. My biggest reasons are:
1. No bio. I assume you are relying on your looks and have nothing interesting to say
2. IG handle only. I assume that you are only looking for followers
3. Ridiculous and/or entitled demands and expectations (e.g. I want/deserve to be treated like a princess, or "I don't do coffee dates," or "the man always pays"). Sorry, sweetheart, you can't have it both ways. You want equality? That means meeting in the middle
4. "Dont just say hi" or "be interesting." Hmmm... I am sure that you are one of the crowd that led to Bumble changing their "women make the first move" policy because texting first was "too hard and stressful"
5. "Must be 6ft." While I am 6ft 2, the only way this "requirement" is acceptable is if you are 5ft 9 or taller. Otherwise, I am sure you would love it if guys put a weight requirement on their profiles
6. Only group photos, or you are wearing sunglasses in all your photos. Sorry, but your eyes are a very expressive part and need to be seen.
7. All of your photos have filters
8. Any spiritual, astrological, or "Boss Babe" nonsense
9. Gym junkies with or without the gym selfie
10. Unblurred pics of kids on your profile. No issue if their faces are not identifiable (I have some like this on my profile), but unblurred pics of kids is my biggest issue on a profile.
Woo! A Top 10!
Extra large people. Needs to be said. It's a very Very small minority of men that are very attracted to heavily overweight people. If a person can hardly take card of their own personal health.. What makes that person think they can take care of another person in a relationship if they hardly take care of themselves.
Having a weight preference **Is Not** body shaming, it is a preference and shouldn't be maliciously attacked as a person shaming another person; it should be viewed simply *as a preference.*
- not having a bio or having a generic bio. It shows that they spent effort in writing it and they're serious about dating.
- red flags from the bio like: telling me how I'm supposed to be, physically or mentally(like even if I match her requirements, I'll still swipe left), being negative, asking to follow on instagram
- objective attractiveness, of course, but I'm not really strict on this.
- photos showing no personality or screaming hookups. Personally, I like silly photos even if they're not attractive; They show personality.
- people who mention their god in the bio or answers.
You said almost all of my reasons!
Only addition is when all or almost all of the pictures show the woman either wearing sunglasses, facing away from the camera, or pictures of other things such as pets or landscapes.
Women who want to be spoiled / princess treatment. Women who take pictures of them in the bathroom showing off their booty profile. Instagram handle. Tattoos on face or neck.
Not a man, but I’ll put emphasis on the “pictures of children” thing. Honestly, it’s dangerous to have pictures of kids on a dating app, not just creepy. There are scary people out there and kids should be left off of profiles.
You already listed many of the main reasons, but I also avoid anyone with blatant negativity or who puts ultimatums or makes demands in their profile, such as "You better love my dog" or "Must not live with roommates". Also, if their pictures give off the impression that they party too much.
Gonna offer a female perspective here but I think it works both ways. Here are some criteria I’ve used to filter out matches.
- “You need to be able to handle my sarcasm.” to me translates to they are an insensitive dick.
- Cops/law enforcement
- If they’re a fan of the book 12 rules for life or subscribe in any way to the manosphere
Only professionally-taken photos and no text describing herself or what she's looking for.
"Jesus first" or anything similar written anywhere in their profile.
"Conservative" on their political views.
A MAGA hat or thin-blue-line/stars-n-bars/don't-tread-on-me flags anywhere in their profile.
"CEO/Owner at \[insert some MLM company here\]"
Honestly, if they don’t have anything interesting to say in reply to the prompts. Idk how many times I’ve seen “I love cats”, “I yap a lot”(but doesn’t specify what about), “I’m always at the gym”, etc.
It doesn’t really give anything to start a conversation with and more often than not shows they’re a boring person.
Obvious filters.
All photos are close ups of their face at the same angle.
Any reference to a height preference (I'm tall-ish but the fact they felt the need to mention it says a lot about their personality...)
Horses.
- looking for “generous gentleman”/ spoil me/“treat me like princess” types. I don’t care how hot looking you are your personality blows and you’d be insufferable..
- heavy use of filters and/or no body shots
- no smiling pictures aka takes self too seriously vibe
- negative, bitter sounding statements about what they don’t want and who you better not be etc..
The pictures of their kids only creeps me out when it’s only the kid in the picture, which weirdly happens a lot
The height thing only rubs me the wrong way depending on their height. If she’s 5’10 then alright she wants to be able to wear heels, as she should. When she’s 5’2 saying she only dates guys over 6’ that’s a sign of a thot
And lastly yeah, if she has all group pictures I’m going to ask her about the hottest one. Does that work? No, but I don’t really expect it to either. That’s my way of trying to tell them to get rid of the group pics lol
“I’m never on here, message me on insta”
Or one word low effort replies
Or the EXACT same copy paste replies:
1. “Sweet to savory breakfast ratio”
2. “My mom can drop us off if your mom picks us up”
This shows the bar is unbelievably low to get matches. Try a little.
Or Espresso martinis in any context
When the tone or tenor of the profile is not fun!
Just a bunch of negative comments about what they don’t want!
It leaves me with the feeling of a bad personality.
No bio.
I don't care how pretty you are; if your bio is bad or nonexistent, that tells me you can't even put in the effort to determine if a relationship will go well or not.
Best Bees, heck, other dating app algorithms ought to factor in our preference for bios.
Friends only. Unvaxxed. Binary political mindset. Religious but not tolerant. Job that doesn't match lifestyle or shows lack of ambition. Nonmonogamous. 1st date expectations. No higher education beyond HS diploma. Group of girlfriends making it hard to tell whose profile. Regretful tattoos. Social media handles instead of a bio. racism in any form. "In town for the weekend."
If you give off “I wear Batman pajama pants to Walmart” vibes, which is usually accompanied by grainy pictures with filters that put hearts on cheeks.
With dirty white flip flops.
Too accurate KY/TN haha
Eating flaming hot Cheetos
maybe it's just me but "I wear batman pajama pants to walmart" would be an instant right swipe
Yep, batman pajamas could be the Walmart dress code.
Not just you
I'll never forget the Wal-Mart batman remark. I'm dying here!
Im not attracted to them.
Yes this. Men need to have boundaries and be less desperate to help fix the hellscape that is online dating.
Men need to develop their social skills and have healthy relationships with men and others in general + invest in therapy so that they’re not using dating apps to circumvent their lack of effort in their mental health investment. Men being lonely yet emotionally unavailable and demanding dates(with zero confirmation if two people like each other or not)-is the # 1 issue with why women are jaded with apps. It has become the Amazon go for the low functioning(only focusing on making money and neglecting other parts of self) - who are seeking to trauma dump on whoever will say yes, with a very small % of genuine people who get drowned out by the low effort ones.
This
\*Men need to value and respect themself and their boundaries FTFY slightly. You are not wrong. But the message needs to be properly made and positive. Men are not dogs that have to chase the price. Men can consider themself a price too
*prize
*pies
For me its saying you expect to be treated like a queen/princess in your bio I actually fully intend on spoiling you, but when you write that up front, it presents the concern that you don't plan on giving me any/much effort, and that dooms a relationship no matter how much I spoil.
This is a major red flag for me personally. I make plenty of money, and can afford to “treat like a princess” but I’m not interested in women who aren’t self sufficient and driven. Lazy women are a huge turn off. And ones that want to be “spoiled” are usually fucking lazy and have shitty careers.
I used the term queen/princess before but what i mean is to feel : make me feel :feminine, protected, take care of emotionally. Not financially at all. Maybe those girls mean the same thing
That’s not the vibe I was getting and you should be aware that it can be taken a very different way.
Includes pictures holding purses in front of you like they are some kind of appendage. And the word “spoil” anywhere in your profile. Run, run, run
Makes me think of milk for some reason... 🤢
YES!!!! Or a piece of meat left out in the sun. Such a vile, entitlement word
What if it says, I want someone to spoil me as much as I will you?’
Depends on the context, but a one-way, sugar baby sounding “spoil” a huge run-for-the-hills for me.
I get that. Just trying to build my next, if ever, profile on an app. 😂
Lemme know if the mutual spoil works😁
Yeah for me the new one is looking for a generous man who’s a gentleman…
Yeah, for me it screams “gold digger”
Hostile wording i.e. “no x, no y, don’t waste my time”. It’s just one of the least attractive things I can read.
I always saw so much of this on Bumble, it seems like women on there are so bitter.
You should see some of the men's profiles. A lot are "just looking for some fun," and or "no this and that. If you do this, swipe left." I think a lot of peyote have a ton of unhealed trauma, and they're trying to fix it somehow through dating apps
Would needs dating apps when you've got a lot of peyote and unhealed trauma anyway
You know... I really don't talk about peyote enough for my phone to try to correct it to that from "people"
You just think you don't talk about peyote that much. Your phone knows better.
I can see how my username would lead someone to believe that
Don’t argue with the algorithm.
From what I hear, there's a small portion of men who are absolute psychopaths, and I believe it
It's every app and it's men too. A lot of bitter people in the dating world unfortunately
Physical attraction is on the fence for me. In IRL I find myself emotionally attracted to some of the women I have met who don’t meet my immediate idea of physical attraction. Every time that happens their physical appearance stops mattering to me. So I tend to be very open about this one. Of course there is a limit. Like if she looks like Machete or mama June pre liposuction than yeah hard left.
Blank profile. If I have nothing to work off of for a conversation I already know it's going to be like pulling teeth. Instagram handle. I'm quiet and reserved yet I have an ego that stops me from becoming match 346 added to the followers list.
I swipe left if: The very first picture has multiple people in it. The first picture should be just you. I shouldn't have to scroll down to figure out who you are. This is one of my many criteria for swiping left
To be fair, sometimes they might have tinder's best photo enabled and that may show a group one as the first one. So long as it's clear who they are in subsequent ones and I'm not going back and forth trying to guess which one she is
Either pictures with a bunch of other girls in them or with some guys. Family or not, just why?
Yeah, especially the very first pic! Later pics, ok, but your first pic better be obvious who you are.
Also, it's NEVER the hot one in the group picture. I wonder why women do it, it's like you're intentionally letting me know that I could do better.
I also hate when people don’t show a full size picture and just show their face. Don’t be ashamed of your body because I can almost guarantee you that some guy will like it.
Even though I don't like how my body looks, I always put a full body shot in my profile because if someone is going to reject me for it I would rather not know about it. Like, why would I set myself up to be rejected in person. Awkward for both parties involved.
I try to include a full body pic but I have very large breasts and the picture could be in a high neck loose T-shirt and id immediately be bombarded with boob comments so I took them off for a while. Definitely not trying to hide but the obscene comments as the opening message gets old. I've now managed to include one that doesn't seem to cause this
Just show it off, that way you filter out the dbags before you waste time on a date with them
Nothing below the chin means there’s three or four other chins underneath
Disney Adults
I like Disney but I must admit that disney obsessed profiles are weird
“Ethical Non Monogamy”
Pictures of you and a ton of other women that look way too similar to you. This ain’t where’s Waldo.
Also, when they say that they are bad at texting or they say they don’t respond on the app. Then why are you here lol?
The amount of women who say this blows my mind. These are apps meant to text potential partners, and texting is extremely easy. How hard is it to respond to a text?
This thread is really making me realize women do the same stupid shit on these apps as men do!! 😭😂😂
The sad part is, they are proud of it
Don't hate me if I forget to respond.... Smh
Don’t hate me if I unmatch you 🙃
Agree, however if you say you are interested in something other than friendship, physical meet needs to happen in two weeks, or I’m deleting. Not sure how you can be friends with someone you’ve never met.
Don’t forget the “you can find me on insta :@xyz “. I can confidently say that this is one way for them to gain followers … women ☕️
I really, really think it’s weird that people put pics of their kids on dating apps.. if I had kids, I would never do that. Most of the time if they do, it’s a left swipe for me
I'm curious, as a parent. I would never have my child's face or identifying features visible. However, I have it twice in my profile that I'm a parent, and I had an issue with matching with people who were much more childfree than their profile implied. Having a photo of me and my child dressed as a monster (no face visible) solved that issue, but I'm open to the idea that it's still discouraging potentially great matches because my child is in a photo at all, even if you can't tell it's them. Open to feedback on this.
I think having it on there like you do is not really an issue. I always came across women’s profiles that had like at least 2 or 3 full on photos of their kids on there. To each their own, but I’m kinda ehhh about it.. I don’t mind if they have kids, I just think it isn’t always safe to be putting your kids faces out there like that
Totally agree on the face thing, it's just not a safe practice. Appreciate the input!
I’m open to pics with your kids as long as it’s not every pic. I think it’s healthy sign your kids are your top priority. I’m more horrified by the multiple pics of the grandkids, which tells me you are likely still trying to recreate your life with your kids where everyone relied on you. That’s not healthy imho
Ah, see I agree with you. Being a parent is not a personality, and you need to have interests and hobbies outside of your kids, even your kids need that balance and passion modeled for them. Yeah the grandkids one is...a choice.
If privacy isn’t an issue, I think it’s great to have kids in pics. They are such a huge part of your life that it makes sense to show that up front. If anyone is turned off by seeing kids, they probably aren’t worth a single parent’s attention anyway.
I disagree. Kids are a dealbreaker for a lot of people, so letting potential dates know up front what they're getting into is helpful.
Yeah, that’s totally fine if they can disclose that in their bio.. no need to post pics of the kiddos.
I'd never thought much about it until I matched with a girl recently and she referred me to her IG to look at her artwork. It was on her bio btw. So I went and the first thing I noticed was lots of pics of her kids in easily identifiable places. Parks, schools. Hopefully it would never happen but a stalker could do a lot of bullshit with that info. Not good.
It’s odd. I think the reason most people do it is for full disclosure. They don’t want to spring that on someone or waste time pursuing a deal breaker.
Yeah… this was always an immediate left swipe for me. I have kids. I had on my profile that I had kids. I don’t think it needs to be listed more than that. Obviously, being a mum is important to me and I love my children, which is exactly why they are no place on my social media. They were never on my dating profile. For someone who does have them on their profile, it automatically makes me question their judgement. I had to tell my sister to take my kids off of her profile. She was showing she’s a caring aunt, but kids can’t consent to being on a public internet page and you really never know who is on any site.
A ton of cleavage shots. A lot of booty shots at the gym Many duck face pics. Asking for my red and green flags Opening message of just "hi" or emoji wave Open messages shows you dis not read my profile.
Every match that I’ve ever gotten has just been them saying hi lol but they get mad when I do that lol
When they do the hi thing… I’ll just say hi back lol. They get annoyed alot of the time
I usually open with hi cause lots of men swipe right on almost everyone and will unmatch if, I guess, you’re not their type. Waste of energy to create a witty opening message.
Hiding their face in EVERY photo. No, it isn’t mysterious and cute; it’s irritating and shouldn’t be allowed on the app.
Every picture of the girl is taken from an angle to avoid showing their body.
Honestly I don’t really care if someone has some curves but they need to show it off and be proud of it. I went on a first date with someone who I did know was overweight and I wish she did not surprise me
Understandable. To each their own. The issue is though is that they know what they look like, they most likely know that whoever they're looking for won't be interested in them because of how they look. So they try to hide it OR put in their bio "I'm a big/chubby/curvy girl. If you don't like it, then swipe left."
Wants kids - I can’t have any Must be over 6ft (I’m 6’3 but no thanks to that approach) First date is hiking - I prefer to keep my organs and no way I’m waking up at 6AM on a Saturday to walk 10 miles. Just not for me.
Fellow over six foot guy showing solidarity with the short kings. I like it
As a F trying to date I'm appreciating the perspective in this entire post but this comment 🙌 I live in Utah and so help me if 6/6 photos is you doing some extreme mountain sport then move along. My fluffy ass prefers concerts, hole in the wall food spots and maybe a day paddle boarding. I do not want to hike on the first date or let's be honest probably ever anymore. If the truck took us to a beautiful casual walking trail where I'm provided with a beer at the end, super!
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It’s common on profiles yeah, but I know a decent number of people who don’t like to travel (some just won’t get on a plane) and it’s often a dealbreaker. I think when I had a profile (for a whole week) I said something more like how I’m the active vacation type rather than the veg vacation type.
I'm curious: how do you infer that someone is boring because they put "like to travel" on a profile? I know many people who like to travel, and they're some of the most interesting people I've ever met.
People who say "I've done this country and that country". You've done them hey? How interesting. I've lived in this country for decades and not "done" it yet. I visit countries.
Attraction is always, always #1, including seeing if all of the photos are consistently trying to hide something. If I'm not attracted, then what are we even doing here? If you're trying to mislead me, then what are we even doing here? Then it's more of a lifestyle / philosophy / personality check, I want to figure out if we'd actually get along and have something in common: Super religious? Pass. Super politically active, some kind of a fervent "ist"? Pass. Negativity, complaining, collecting regrets and resentments from every past relationship, bringing it into the next one? Pass. Long list of "demands" in the profile, especially financial, setting expectations, making the thing feel like a contractual agreement to provide benefit x, y, z? Pass. Blank profile? Usually a pass, it's either a bot or someone who will put zero effort into the rest of our interaction.
Good list
boring profile. Lots of people pass the attraction test but then mess it up by being lazy.
Lots of lazy profiles “otters sleep holdings hands” “live laugh love” “pineapple on pizza”. If I wanted to watch paint dry I’d make a trip to Home Depot
yep, i would rather see "ill fill this in later" and just assume its a new profile than any of that cause that means you know that's it, that's the depth of their personality.
The flipping off of the camera. Like “screw you too”
Leaves their CashApp… Gold digger be gone
Conservative, Christian
fair. If our moral views don't align, then there's not much point. Political and religious differences in a romantic relationship will never be helpful and always end badly imo. Fine to be friends with opposing views, but anything more is rocky territory.
Usually attractive too which is disappointing
A lot of those also state that they’re looking for “a real man”. I don’t need to read further.
Sometimes. At best.
Regardless of what you guys would say, I would never put pictures of my children, cousins, nieces or nephews on a dating app. I think it’s weird
This is controversial, but last photo is of myself with my child at a convention. Their costume covers their body and face, you can't tell if they're male or female, nor any other identifying features. It's me and a child-sized creature, essentially. Doing this is the only thing that has stopped childfree men from matching with me. I have it in my bio that I have a child, but nobody reads it, evidently. That said, a photo without the child's face obscurred? Never. Edit: I am open to feedback on this if somebody feels it's still not appropriate.
I think that’s a fair balance. I fully agree with OP. The worse I’ve seen is the main profile pic of just the kid. Not sure who’s swiping right on that other than pedos. But, I’m not going to bullshit by denying that most men (and women) don’t read profiles.
Me either, it’s a red flag for sure
That’s my whole point and as an educator I think it’s a safety issue
1) I don't find them physically attractive 2) empty bio 3) low effort bio
In NE Ohio. Women here either look like a 10 or Peter Griffin, and I’m pretty sure the 10’s are bots.
That I’m not physically attracted to them would be the first one, followed probably by not sharing the same preference for kids.
Those dumb looking fake lips
Any suggestions talking about how I have to win her time.
On Bumble, women who say “I can’t see likes, so message me” … uh, no I can’t message you first (unless you have set up an Opening Move, which you haven’t)
I can’t stand that. Learn the rules of the app please
>Leaving your instagram handle ( looks like you’re desperate for attention or extra followers) Those are scam accounts. Tinder link to Instagram which links to Onlyfans.
Lack of hobbies / and interests. If you wanna have a relationship built on something more then sex it’s paramount to find things you both like to do
It doesn't even have to be something we both like to do. A hobby or just interest in something "unusual" is an immediate second look. And gym and travel are not hobbies.
Don't forget the "food" one to the not a hobby list. So many profiles with foodie or fine dining. Pass
I didn’t realize that some women put height preferences in their profiles! That is awful, I hate seeing that kind of thing from the other side of it
I don’t think I have went a week without seeing it. Honestly it’s sad to rule out something that they can’t control when they check all of your other boxes.
Yep, when I was much younger, reassessing my “dealbreakers” to be less restrictive on height helped me meet and date so many really cool guys.
Assuming I find them attractive, these are the things that still make it a left swipe: 1. Conservative 2. Christian 3. Smokes cigs 4. 35-year-old grad student about to change their major for the third time once they finish their sabbatical
lol very specific number 4
Damn that last one describes to the T the person I'm going out with. Idk so far I don't see any issues.
I respect anyone who wants to go back and get more education, regardless of age.
I’m over 6 feet and if I see “only men over six feet” I swipe left. Always. Solidarity with the short kings.
Thanks bro
The height thing never bothered me, just because that’s their preference and that’s totally fine. That one that always bugs me is the group picture being first. Like, you know what you’re doing.
Links to any social media Not looking for what I want, or they don't have a definitive answer on their profile. Too pretty Girls that go out every weekend or party all the time etc. Someone that refuses to drive even if theyre fully capable.
Conservative and apolitical. No body pics. No smiles, low energy pics. Eastern European model pics. No bio or lazy write ups. Any warnings to expect bad behavior from her (ie I’m unfiltered/sarcastic, try to keep up). Any ‘I need a real man’ , ‘dominant man’, or expect to pay my way bios. Cliche writeups that scammers frequently use.
Every Picture has filters/trying to hide something Links to only fans. Ig/tik tok whatever. Saying "I don't like to/am bad at respond to messages" or any facsimile of such. "I'm expensive." Grocery lists of my match needs to be "x" "x" "x" "x" "Prove me all men arnt the same" No point in wasting the time of these.
The new one you have to look out for is AI photos. They’re getting harder to spot, but usually it’s in the lighting
Too many to list but some common ones. Bio blunders 1. I won’t text you first (or slow to text back or barely on this app, some version of this) 2. Passenger princess (or looking to get spoiled or saying swipe left if you won’t spoil me) 3. Anti vaccine (profiles that say if you are vaccinated, swipe left) 4. Just looking for a boat 5. Just looking for a wedding date 6. Just looking for a Disney date 7. Just looking for a rave date 8. Looking for someone to travel the world with 9. Only in town for a few days 10. Obnoxious political or religious affiliations 11. Telling me your pet is cuter than me 12. Telling me that I am competing with your pet for your love 13. Saying don’t waste my time Picture blunders 1. Multiple pictures of the same photo 2. Only having one photo 3. Every photo is a group photo, and it’s not clear which person is the profile 4. All bathroom selfies 5. All photos of the head 6. All the photos are the person in the environment or the person is too far away in each photo 7. None of the photos have the person in the picture 8. More than a couple pet pictures (cats,dogs,horses,whatever)
Not to mention "make me laugh". Instantly tells me that they're not funny and expect me to do all the work.
I've never swiped left.
Religious differences
I have seen some women have IG handle, but their profile visibility is set to private.
- No bio - Pictures are only selfies with filters taken from bed - Any indication of a lifestyle that’s too expensive for me (flying first class, driving a Lamborghini, etc.) - Always the same poses on pictures - Partying on all pictures - Not attractive, overweight - Attitude on bio (diva / criticising men / unrealistic expectations) - No picture - No smile on pictures
5 pics with 5 different hair colours, 5 different body types
When their photos look like they're from a photoshoot or travel catalog. I assume they're either a) fake/vapid b) fake/dude trying to scam me c) high maintenance. I prefer to see women how they look in their day to day, show a picture in jeans and tshirts, there's no way you're wearing a red dress, high heels while hanging out in some mansion everyday, and if you are ... No thanks 🤷
I’m in Latin America, and there’s a particularly type of person that I immediately swipe left on: “princess treatment” in the bio, something along the lines of “I’m not on here often, add me on IG,” and lots of lip filler/edits/generally fake appearance. Single moms are common here, too, and I’m not interested in being part of someone’s family, so I swipe left when I see that, too.
Kneejerk, physical attraction matters. Plain and simple. That said, this might be a hot take, but when I see "family-oriented", I read that as "I had a happy childhood and have good relationships with my parents"; 50% of marriage if not more ends in divorce. And within that I'm sure most are amicable, but it feels to me it's becoming less of a norm to come from a "we sit down for dinner every night" household. I might have a complex about it, but I find it can be uncomfortable relating to people who have really never experienced struggle or loss in their lives. I once dated the daughter of a cardiac surgeon (they lived in a very wealthy neighborhood in New York City) and while everything was great at times, it just never progressed beyond surface level. tldr I think being a kind, and well rounded person matters a hell of a lot more than being a family-oriented person 🤷🏻♂️
I just wanted to pop in and point this out real quick: >Saying you only like men over 6ft( seriously, the average height for a male is like 5 foot nine and a very very small percentage of the population is 6 feet tall **so why limit yourself like that**?) Narrator: OP then goes on to describe all the incredibly petty ways he limits his dating pool.
lmao thank you for this comment. Such a double standard as evidenced here by men saying they mainly look at photos to gauge attractiveness and would never date someone who isn’t their exact physical preference.
A woman doesn't have to check off certain physical standards for me to be attracted to her, really any type of attraction will work paired with green flags from her bio and profile. It's online dating and well known that physical appearance is highly important and most people look for attraction first.
No bio it makes me feel like if you didn’t put in the effort to write 2 sentences about yourself your prob won’t put a lot of effort into any conversation either. That and no kids I have no problem with childfree people my siblings are all childfree but I’m the opposite I want kids in the future and dating someone that doesn’t is not how I’ll get there.
Having or wanting children
For me its starting the bio with something like "Mama of #," "Jesus Lover", or up front hostility like "Not looking for...." I tend to swipe left if they have no bio.
1. They have kids 2. Anything remotely close to "spoil me"
If there’s any indication they’re dumb af, and there’s usually more than an indication.
Thirst trap pictures. Not the kind of person I want to marry.
1. an entire personality based on a "passion" for travels. 2. Instagram profile link 3. dogs in bed. 4. Kids
There are many reasons (other than incompatibility reasons) - No bio or single word bi or purely emoji bios - List of demands (It's a bio damn it) - Showing off every single country travelled. A simple number would suffice? - Instagram handles - Negativity in general - any mention of the word Queen/Princess. - every pic is heavily filtered. The latest shit is "Looking for my Kelce"... Worst is when their whole personality is about Taylor Swift. Where is the originality?
Saying, “Giving it another shot at this app! Where are all the good men?!” Right in fucking front of you. How about actually replying back to messages or EVEN messaging when you connect with someone.
As a female really loving the insight you guys are giving!! Most are valid reasons and I too would swipe left!
Maybe more females may learn from this post
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Too big of a height difference (I'm short), smoking (can't stand the smell), no common points (I talk a lot about stuff that I know/am interested in, but other than that, I'm not much of a conversation-maker). Oh, and distance, of course
Conservative or Christian + Moderate High emphasis on faith/religion (Bible thumpers) Wants kids/Has kids and wants more Smoking (especially cigarettes, I don't hate weed but I don't think I could live with someone who smokes it) Not having any unfiltered pictures where your whole face is clearly visible
No bio is an instant left swipe. Idgaf how attractive you are. If you can’t even put forth effort towards your bio, you can’t put forth effort towards me. Stay single
When they ask you to spend money on them as in I'll fall for you if you get me something. Very cheap. If she holds camera in front of her face for mirror selfie. Low self confidence.
Filtered pics IG handle and saying like I’m not on here much hit me up on IG Group pics Far left or far right sayings. Like swipe one way if you support this person. If you can’t date someone of a differing opinion I don’t want it anyways. Tells me you’re stubborn. If it sounds like you’re looking for a meal ticket. I’m not a sugar daddy Social causes…sorry I’m not into most. I have other things to worry about like raising my kid. They post basically for clout anyways. Pronouns…idc and it’s a turn off. I’m looking for a woman…if you are something else we don’t fit. One I just saw…a male dressed like a woman and doesn’t state it in their bio. Be up front. Some dudes can really pull off a feminine look so be up front if you have a wiener. If their “goals” are too far out of my reach. Like they want to travel to different countries. Sorry I’m a poor single dad. That’s not happening. 😂 I have a kid so if they want one or more it’s a nope. Also if your profile pic you are wearing a mask. Sorry pics for a dating site shouldn’t have masks. I want to see your face and I don’t want to scroll down to find one. If you’re wearing it in a pic you’ll probably wear it on our date. It is safe to take a picture without a mask for 5 seconds.
"Looking for a father figure for my dog"
Agreed!!!💯 Also if she tells us that she has her "shit together". Sounds like a judgemental pompous asshole. So many profiles sound like they are on repeat while I scroll through them. Gets old reading the same shit over and over. Be an individual!
Anything along the lines of “I’m just figuring things out” or “I’m not sure what I want”. If you don’t know what you want I’m not going to help you figure it out. Because if it doesn’t align with what I want, but in a great guy, you’ll pretend it is what you want without ever actually giving it to me. But a bio that says you’re busy all the time. Is it true? Probably, and I appreciate you saying it, but if you can’t even spot your free time then getting a date is going to be impossible!
This could be a long list. My biggest reasons are: 1. No bio. I assume you are relying on your looks and have nothing interesting to say 2. IG handle only. I assume that you are only looking for followers 3. Ridiculous and/or entitled demands and expectations (e.g. I want/deserve to be treated like a princess, or "I don't do coffee dates," or "the man always pays"). Sorry, sweetheart, you can't have it both ways. You want equality? That means meeting in the middle 4. "Dont just say hi" or "be interesting." Hmmm... I am sure that you are one of the crowd that led to Bumble changing their "women make the first move" policy because texting first was "too hard and stressful" 5. "Must be 6ft." While I am 6ft 2, the only way this "requirement" is acceptable is if you are 5ft 9 or taller. Otherwise, I am sure you would love it if guys put a weight requirement on their profiles 6. Only group photos, or you are wearing sunglasses in all your photos. Sorry, but your eyes are a very expressive part and need to be seen. 7. All of your photos have filters 8. Any spiritual, astrological, or "Boss Babe" nonsense 9. Gym junkies with or without the gym selfie 10. Unblurred pics of kids on your profile. No issue if their faces are not identifiable (I have some like this on my profile), but unblurred pics of kids is my biggest issue on a profile. Woo! A Top 10!
I swipe left if I don't find them attractive. It speeds up the process.
I swipe left on all of this as a female.
Extra large people. Needs to be said. It's a very Very small minority of men that are very attracted to heavily overweight people. If a person can hardly take card of their own personal health.. What makes that person think they can take care of another person in a relationship if they hardly take care of themselves. Having a weight preference **Is Not** body shaming, it is a preference and shouldn't be maliciously attacked as a person shaming another person; it should be viewed simply *as a preference.*
- not having a bio or having a generic bio. It shows that they spent effort in writing it and they're serious about dating. - red flags from the bio like: telling me how I'm supposed to be, physically or mentally(like even if I match her requirements, I'll still swipe left), being negative, asking to follow on instagram - objective attractiveness, of course, but I'm not really strict on this. - photos showing no personality or screaming hookups. Personally, I like silly photos even if they're not attractive; They show personality. - people who mention their god in the bio or answers.
If I'm making a better active effort to care for myself, my body and my mind then they can too!
You said almost all of my reasons! Only addition is when all or almost all of the pictures show the woman either wearing sunglasses, facing away from the camera, or pictures of other things such as pets or landscapes.
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Looks, Instagram handle in bio, and if they have kids. Those usually were immediate left swipes for me.
Instagram handles and filtered pics are also my no-go. It feels totally scammy.
"i dont react much on here shoot me a DM on instagram" at that point just install tinder..
Reading why all the guys swipe left I think women are f**ked as I’m sure there will be something in the profile that someone won’t like
Women who want to be spoiled / princess treatment. Women who take pictures of them in the bathroom showing off their booty profile. Instagram handle. Tattoos on face or neck.
Not a man, but I’ll put emphasis on the “pictures of children” thing. Honestly, it’s dangerous to have pictures of kids on a dating app, not just creepy. There are scary people out there and kids should be left off of profiles.
“Just here for the validation” is an immediate left swipe
You already listed many of the main reasons, but I also avoid anyone with blatant negativity or who puts ultimatums or makes demands in their profile, such as "You better love my dog" or "Must not live with roommates". Also, if their pictures give off the impression that they party too much.
Saying you like to be "spoiled"
Gonna offer a female perspective here but I think it works both ways. Here are some criteria I’ve used to filter out matches. - “You need to be able to handle my sarcasm.” to me translates to they are an insensitive dick. - Cops/law enforcement - If they’re a fan of the book 12 rules for life or subscribe in any way to the manosphere
Only professionally-taken photos and no text describing herself or what she's looking for. "Jesus first" or anything similar written anywhere in their profile. "Conservative" on their political views. A MAGA hat or thin-blue-line/stars-n-bars/don't-tread-on-me flags anywhere in their profile. "CEO/Owner at \[insert some MLM company here\]"
Please take off sunglasses... You all look the same...
Honestly, if they don’t have anything interesting to say in reply to the prompts. Idk how many times I’ve seen “I love cats”, “I yap a lot”(but doesn’t specify what about), “I’m always at the gym”, etc. It doesn’t really give anything to start a conversation with and more often than not shows they’re a boring person.
Funny how I see a lot of men doing this!
Obvious filters. All photos are close ups of their face at the same angle. Any reference to a height preference (I'm tall-ish but the fact they felt the need to mention it says a lot about their personality...) Horses.
shitty photos hiding your face or "dont know what im looking for" bios. also fucking travel pictures from prague.
- looking for “generous gentleman”/ spoil me/“treat me like princess” types. I don’t care how hot looking you are your personality blows and you’d be insufferable.. - heavy use of filters and/or no body shots - no smiling pictures aka takes self too seriously vibe - negative, bitter sounding statements about what they don’t want and who you better not be etc..
“Bonus point if you _____”. Listen buddy this is not a middle school test and I stopped checking boxes post-graduation.
The pictures of their kids only creeps me out when it’s only the kid in the picture, which weirdly happens a lot The height thing only rubs me the wrong way depending on their height. If she’s 5’10 then alright she wants to be able to wear heels, as she should. When she’s 5’2 saying she only dates guys over 6’ that’s a sign of a thot And lastly yeah, if she has all group pictures I’m going to ask her about the hottest one. Does that work? No, but I don’t really expect it to either. That’s my way of trying to tell them to get rid of the group pics lol
“I’m never on here, message me on insta” Or one word low effort replies Or the EXACT same copy paste replies: 1. “Sweet to savory breakfast ratio” 2. “My mom can drop us off if your mom picks us up” This shows the bar is unbelievably low to get matches. Try a little. Or Espresso martinis in any context
When the tone or tenor of the profile is not fun! Just a bunch of negative comments about what they don’t want! It leaves me with the feeling of a bad personality.
No bio. I don't care how pretty you are; if your bio is bad or nonexistent, that tells me you can't even put in the effort to determine if a relationship will go well or not. Best Bees, heck, other dating app algorithms ought to factor in our preference for bios.
Friends only. Unvaxxed. Binary political mindset. Religious but not tolerant. Job that doesn't match lifestyle or shows lack of ambition. Nonmonogamous. 1st date expectations. No higher education beyond HS diploma. Group of girlfriends making it hard to tell whose profile. Regretful tattoos. Social media handles instead of a bio. racism in any form. "In town for the weekend."
I can't see likes message me 👍◀️
"i dOnt NeEd A mAN" in their bio.
Having kids, bad pictures or just not physical attraction in general
“Just a Pam looking for her Jim”. Idk, it’s just a pet peeve for me