No, she says where/when to drop off...which IMO was another bad point. You'd think if someone were kind enough to come with boxes of cookies or a few watermelon, the least they could do is invite you to have a hot dog with them, come meet the retiree. But no, she's clear about only dropping off. Like how many extra people does she honestly think she'll have to feed, thousands? But a little return kindness can go a long way.
Homemade snickerdoodle cookies mind you. Like, seriously, gtfo! I’m all for honoring service members, but wow! Hopefully she turned it into a potluck as the post was removed.
Which is extra funny because we have a train that comes straight from the airport to our city. Faster and cheaper than driving. I doubt she's picking up 75 people!
That part really gets me. Not only asking people to buy and deliver the party food, bev, games and decorations...but to clean too and then go home. LOL
What.
She's going to be so popular in her new neighborhood 😛
I think that's the part that makes it ridiculous. If she were inviting anyone who donated food to join the celebration, it would have been much more tactful and ... uh normal. Asking for drop offs with no invite is indeed crazy.
This is WILD. Can’t the 75 people attending the party chip in or do a potluck? It’s crazy to ask your neighbors to cater a party gratis they aren’t even invited to.
So, many years ago we went to a relative's wedding with the reception in the church basement. A cousin from the other side was there and mentioned she was surprised that the whole church was invited. My dad said the whole church wasn't and in fact, the relative's father was hoping people invited wouldn't show up because of the cost. My cousin said she had been asked to provide food for the reception so she assumed she was invited. Who asks people to make food for their wedding and then not invited them?!? The people I'm related to, that's who!
Yes if it's a pot luck celebration the whole church is traditionally invited too. It's an unspoken thing.
> hoping people invited wouldn't show up because of the cost
But what cost, the entire church brought food.
Hope no one told them they were not supposed to stay and help eat.
Pastors family invited the whole church to the ceremony and let everyone know beforehand there was only enough food for those invited to the reception. Turns out there was plenty of food, and after the ceremony they’re in the lobby trying to catch people to join them. Um, sorry, we made plans. Got divorced before their first anniversary smh
The ex-wife and I went to a party like that once. We went all smiles carrying two crockpots and bags. The hostess greeted us and said how thankful she was for us to bring so much. The ex said no problem. She said just set the stuff over there and thank you. So we did. So we then started to mingle. The hostess then walked over to us and said we didn’t have to stay. WUT?? She said she just wanted the items and we didn’t have to stay, she would get our crockpots back to us. The ex looked at her and said so we are not invited, just our food?
They started arguing. It turned into a yelling match. So the ex walked over to our crockpots and poured them out all over the serving tables. I just followed quietly and grabbed what I could and escorted her to the car. That woman was a fucking bitch.
I dunno, team ex wife on this situation. Sometimes you need a crazy reaction so people can understand that they are absolutely out of pocket. Can you imagine church lady retelling this story? “I asked these people for free food and then they thought they were invited”
One time I invited my best friend to my mom’s house for dinner and she unexpectedly brought her boyfriend. My mom ran out and bought another steak. We didn’t fucking kick him out! Who does that? Especially when you brought food??? I’ve never, ever heard of unexpected guests being asked to leave for any reason! Unbelievable!! And of course, if you’ve been asked to bring food, you shouldn’t even be unexpected; I think you can assume you’re invited. Except in that bitch’s world. 🤬
This sounds right to me. But it’s an established social group that volunteers for fellow parishioners at weddings and funerals. The volunteers know the recipients well.
This ask however feels inappropriate. She’s asking strangers in a public format to donate to her personal “cause”. It seems that she is used to military life and living on base-an established community that is willing to pony up for such an event. Those donating are likely ones that have or will receive in the future.
This poor woman is going to, if she hasn’t already, going to experience a severe case of culture shock. After 20 years as a military wife she seems to have forgotten what civilian life is like. There’s a good chance that she was not long an adult before she became a military wife and doesn’t really know how it works in the civilian world. I wouldn’t doubt though that if any of her neighbors, strangers or not, were in need of anything, she would be the first to knock on the door and offer.
"So glad I didn't have to go through all the trouble of going to the store for them. It was so much easier to get out my own mixer, bowl, butter, sugar, cinnamon, eggs, vanilla extract, flour, cream of tartar, baking soda, and salt. I'll just be going now. So so sorry you saw my face."
I had someone lovingly bake snickerdoodles -- and do a *great* job -- for my first time at age 35 or so. I had never tasted that in my life! It was so good!
But that led to such disappointment! Because after that moment, whenever the option to get a snickerdoodle came up, I took it. And I was always disappointed. They were crunchy or they were stale or they had no flavor. All the mass-manufactured snickerdoodles are terrible, IMHO.
But a fresh-baked snickerdoodle? One that is still a little soft and cakey, but mostly cookie? With the cinnamon and vanilla and tartar just perfect? Ohhhhhhh god. So good.
"oh hey thanks for showing up to help! Um, so hear me out. I know I technically said 'the park ' but somehow my keyboard autocorrected 'home lawn' to park lawn. So if you could also just get the lawnmower out and help do some tree trimming while your here, that'd be great!"....*"HEY WHAT THE FUCK THESE ARE STORE BOUGHT SNICKER DOODLES YOU PRICK!"* 🤣🤣🤣
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Yeah I mean I would have a lot more respect if she invited them to join in the celebration, as a welcome to the neighborhood thing. But even then you just need to make it a giant potluck. Can’t expect your neighbors to provide food for your friends who show up empty handed.
My husband and I moved about 8 months ago. Our neighbors have been wonderful people, dropping by to introduce themselves, offering help if needed because I’m a high level paraplegic. There’s been tasty meals and snacks and such dropped off, thoughtful housewarming gifts and the like.
So this weekend, we’re firing up our pizza oven and hosting the entire neighborhood for a “Get to meet your new-ish neighbors” pizza party. We bought 50 10” frozen pizza crusts, I made 1.5 gallons of pizza sauce, cooked up 3 lbs of italian sausage, about a dozen bell peppers, a couple pounds of mushrooms, bought the *good* pepperoni, got fresh mozzarella and basil, got ricotta to make white pizza for anyone who can’t have tomatoes, we have crumbled rendered down super crispy bacon.. you get the idea.
We bought plenty of soda, a neighbor is loaning us a cooler and their drink cooler so I can make a few gallons of unsweetened iced tea for folks who want something non-carbonated with sugar and artificial sweeteners provided.
People have been asking me for 2 weeks if they can bring anything and I just tell them to bring themselves and any pizza topping they might want that we don’t have. Or if they want beer or something with their pizza instead of the drinks provided.
There’s a few other new-ish neighbors who will come by and stay for the whole time so *they* can meet everyone as well. They offered to contribute so I told them they’re welcome to but not to feel obligated to.
We’ve asked for nothing and plan to provide everything. This isn’t a retirement party. It’s not a celebration of reaching a milestone.
It’s a thank you to the people who have embraced us in their community, all 200+ of them.
That’s really lovely. It would also be perfectly acceptable to host a potluck! But it’s nice you want to host. I can’t imagine offering to host a big party but not being able to afford chips and water and cookies. And instead of asking attendees to bring snacks, asking strangers to provide free food and labor for a party they are not invited to.
Exactly. We’re still unpacking, still having some renovations done so I can live a fuller, richer and more independent life in our new home. It was a long move from one state to another, many, many trips on my husband’s part to move things on his own, the use of Pods for stuff we’d need sooner rather than later. It was coordinated with having medical equipment installed plus all the normal headaches of packing up a house we’d called home for 25 years.
The neighbors have been ridiculously kind and helpful. Not a mean one in the bunch, at least to our faces. We’ve been invited to dinners and parties and I was invited to a bachelorette party after meeting someone and knowing them for two hours. She said she admires my “energy” and wants my crazy vibes during whatever they get up to. As long as I can get to the party, I’m in. I’ll bring party favors (tiny anthropomorphic penises called ding dings) and Cards Against Humanity with all the updates and expansion packs. It’ll be great!
I’ve been absorbed by the geeks and nerds who love comics and pop culture. I made a BFF and she and I and her family are doing group costumes every day of a large comic con in July.
The teens love me because we have musical tastes in common and I know their slang and gently tease them with it. The little ones love my bright red wheelchair and my service dogs. The ladies trade recipes with me, we have crafting chats and they’re invited to come by any time to drop in and play in the craft room with me.
One very kind neighbor is taking my husband for his knee surgery next week and she refused gas money or the like so I made her an apron out the fabric she admired from my stash. She’s going to be surprised! I hope she likes it. Another neighbor found out I sew and needs a few dresses hemmed and I told her to just bring them over, we’ll get them done in an afternoon. She asked how much it’d cost and I told her I want her favorite pie recipe. She countered with the recipe *and* a pie so I graciously accepted. One day next week she’s coming by and we’ll get the dresses done and share some pie and coffee and chat when the hemming is done.
It’s not hard to be a good, respectful neighbor. It’s even easy! Just don’t move in and start asking for or demanding things before people even recognize you as a resident of the same street.
Hell, one of my neighbors loves to dry flowers so she was gifted the first roses from my freshly planted rose bushes! She loved them. Her father used to own our house and had a rather large rose garden in the front. I didn’t know until I brought her the roses and she told me about them.
During the eclipse we had spare glasses and offered them to the neighborhood on the facebook group. Some folks came by to get them and ended up staying, relaxing on a comfy bench in our yard and chatting the afternoon away, sipping on sweet tea and telling us the history of the neighborhood and filling us in on the people we’d met or had yet to meet.
And on Sunday, we’re all going to eat delicious pizza, I have the sauce recipe printed up to share and the ingredient lists from the packaged items are saved and mounted on some poster board so people can check for allergens.
It’s going to be great as long as the weather holds!
Dude, you Rock! Just from reading your comments I can tell you're fun, kind, thoughtful and just all around awesome and I totally want to be your friend, too (like, not even kidding). I hope you make a ton of new, happy memories in your new home and that your pizza party is a fun time for all (holy moly that's a lotta work!). I also hope that your neighbor loves the apron you made. Have a great time at the Bachelorette party and the comic con and I hope your husband's surgery goes well=)
Sounds like your neighbors are all really cool so far and you're lucky to have them and they are just as lucky to have met you.
If they’re retiring in Utah there is a good chance they are Mormon, and one of the few good things about Mormonism is that you gain an instant congressional “family”, if you will. She probably assumed that the members in her new congregation (ward) would love to jump right on in and help, gratis, because that’s what “Jesus would do”. I’m thinking the members instead said “who the heck is this?” and gave her a dose of reality.
Now if her husband had passed away they’d be much more likely to help her plan the event and feed people. This request here’s just pure entitlement though 🙄.
> She’s had 22 yrs to save and plan.
If her husband joined the military after high school, we're talking about a 40 year-old dude with a military pension. What an absolute joke. We're not talking about the older version of Matt Damon in "Saving Private Ryan". These folks should be able to use his pension for a mortgage payment, and live really well with decent jobs.
My husbands friend retired from 20 yrs and he was 41 and they’re set for life basically he just stays home w the kids now and it’s his wife’s turn to do her thing.
Crazy because the husband will be getting 55% of his salary too for the rest of his life, and it increases with inflation. They will be able to afford that no problem lol. If the husband retired at E6 (lowest possible rank for retirement), that's $2670 per month. And that's if he didn't file any VA claims. So the husband, more than likely, is getting more than this. That number is the bare minimum he will receive. Not to mention that Utah's cost of living is slightly below the national average.
If she's behaving like this, I guarantee her husband was an officer. She's had years of on-base support from wives who have nothing to do all day but take turns throwing parties. The officer's wives in a given unit always form their own little support group. She's been an officer's wife too long to realize the world doesn't work this way. Hell, being an enlisted wife doesn't even work this way.
Yes, this! Either that or he married someone much younger recently who has never moved around or had to put any kind of party together. She sounds immature and out of her depth.
He put in his 20 which means he will get a nice pension.
CB didn't say but why can't her hubby help with it? It has to be a surprise party too? CB is doing too much. If she can't fund it, or hire someone to organize it, scale it down, CB.
Yes! Someone posted anonymously in my local mom group asking for stuff for her kid’s first birthday party. Literally asking for everything from decor to a cake and posted an Amazon wish list for gifts and party supplies. Like if you can’t afford it don’t do it. People were telling her you can get boxed cake mix and icing at the dollar store and her excuse was she can’t bake. People were actually buying her stuff which I thought was insane especially since she was posting anonymously
She can't follow the recipe on a boxed cake mix? Or open a can of ready made frosting? She's got way more problems than not being able to afford a baby's birthday party.
My kid and her best friend are 8 and were able to make a batch of cupcakes the other day with very minimal supervision. I literally just had to put them in the oven for them because they couldn't reach. If you're an adult that can't make a cake from a box, you have some serious issues lol
CB doesn't want to soil her hands, she will be busy greeting guests coming in from all over, and showing them the town, and going out to dine, and having fun.
Her neighbors are the ones who get to clean the party site and supply the food and bev. And decorations. And games. Lol
That’s the thing… it works. It’s insane. She’ll be back soon with another crazy list of needs and they’ll be people that will do it, again. My husband and I are in a shit way right now, I wish I had no pride or morals and could get away with that.
Well they're presumably lying by asking for all this free nonsense to do something they don't even need to do.
If you are telling the truth you wouldn't be a cb imo, and I'm guessing your list of items would be much smaller and contain much more important things. It's not something to lose pride over or have a moral complex if it's truly needed.
The problem is like you're saying, that it's so easy to abuse. "Let me post a picture with my dog in it while I beg for stuff I don't need for a party I'm not having to make you feel bad"
That's different from "We haven't had a good meal in a while, got any canned food to spare?"
What's sad is a lot of people are more likely to help the one with the dog.
Why not ask the people coming to bring stuff? It seems weird to ask random people to bring stuff for a party for you, when you have people coming who could donate a bag of chips or some water.
The issue is she wants the community, that she doesn't even know to provide all the supplies for the retirement party. A pot luck would be people that know him bringing food. Seems like she wants the guests to come with no expectation of supplying anything for the party.
That’s what I think, and I wrote in a previous post. She obviously assumed her Mormon neighbors/ward members were just going to jump in and throw them a free party because Mormons are “nice that way” 😂😂😂.
Obviously we don’t understand because we haven’t served like her husband! 🦅🦅🦅 Everyone knows spouses have the harderst job in the entire military! We should be honored to supply and support a military family!!!!! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
But seriously I would love for a couple of veterans to comment and tell her to fuck off lol.
I know. I'm so bummed they took it down already. I wanted her to see how many people are not supporting her audacity. And people are big military bootlickers where I live!!
If you've made it all the way to retirement without being able to afford hot dogs and chips you've done something seriously wrong.
Have a smaller party, have an actual potluck or don't have a party.
“Doesn’t have to be store bought cookies homemade is good too”
So…asking people to spend their free time baking for free when it costs more than standard store bought cookies
“Homemade are wonderful, doesn’t need to be store bought” is the most wacky, in-your-face, wannabe manipulative bullshit I’ve ever seen. It’s like saying “Genuine Gucci is wonderful, doesn’t need to be a ripoff”.
I bake a lot from scratch, and have made homemade cookies many times.
She's nuts expecting someone to spend hours, plus all the money on ingredients, to bake at least 7 dozen cookies, for some random stranger's party, for free. Butter, eggs, vanilla, etc., aren't cheap.
It's all nuts, but that request is especially ridiculous. Right along with the "come pull grass out of cracks at a public park pavilion for free!".
Then God forbid anyone feel ill later, and blame you for food poisoning.
I’m assuming if she’s expecting a crowd of at least 75, some of those people know her personally/can relate to her situation/might be willing to pitch in.
She’s basically planning a pot luck that random people need to pitch for lol
See, I think it would be legit to ask to borrow lawn games that you're only going to use this one time. Or, she might have said, does anyone have any leftover fun party decorations that you don't need anymore. But the FOOD, really??
I also really hate the whole “pic for attention!” thing people seem to do on posts. Fuck off with your pic for attention, why is this a thing and why is it that everyone who does it seems like an incredibly annoying person
That car looks so safe with no visibility out the rear window.
It's her husband retiring, are people supposed to care because he's military? Throw your own damned party.
This is giving major dependapotamous vibes. Everyone needs to drop off free stuff because her husband served them but SHE had the hardest job in the military. Don’t worry, she’s doesn’t NEED to keep your fun yard game.
Yeah, but you have way better healthcare for diabetes than I get here and I am a Hobbit and want to live there. That's genuinely my main reason, which I am aware is silly. Edit: TBF, our government is not much better.
For some reason many people think that all military are poor...which is definitely not the case, especially after 22 years. They also get terrific healthcare, discounted groceries on base, free college (which can be used by their child if they don't want to go), lots of other things. Yes, some move around a lot; yes, some go through danger. But they do get a lot in return for that. Some will say it's "not enough", but when is it ever for some people? The whole package is still way more generous than most "regular" people ever get for their work.
I know a family where the husband was career Air Force 25+ years. The wife never worked. He retired in 2014, they have a gigantic house, and are constantly going on trips all over all the world.
Yep, know a bunch of similar folks...
The reason I mentioned "lifestyle choices" in a previous comment was because of people I knew such as "Bob". He was high-ranking career military, making terrific money...but paying alimony to THREE exes and child support to each woman's children. He also supported an adult daughter and her loser boyfriend. Then he went around moaning all the time about how "poor" he was, how is he supposed to live, etc.
When I made mention of that, knowing full well how much a career military person makes, I was told by the only person defending OOP that I "don't know" their circumstances. Well, as the ex of a retired military member, I know better than most civies.
"Oh hi, just leave all that food on the table over there. I'll contact you again next week for our housewarming party which you're not invited to. Bye."
I live a few hours north of this town. We had one lady in our Buy Nothing group say she was having six people over for Thanksgiving and wanted somebody to make a pasta salad for her. She included the recipe. Oh, and she doesn't have a car, so in addition to buying the ingredients and making the salad it needed to be delivered too.
I got a temporary ban for telling her it was a buy nothing group not a free version of Uber Eats. She blamed English being her second language and took the post down.
Only thing in the whole shitty list that's reasonable is the asking to borrow yard games. Honestly if it was by me I'd tell her about my favorite game. It's called "Hide and Go Fuck Yourself". Pretty sure it would be a hit
By the time you hit 22 years of service, you’re making good money in the military. There’s no way they can’t go to Costco and buy the stuff they need, unless they have just made horrible choice after horrible choice with their finances
Like, sure, ask to borrow yard games. Those aren’t consumables so it makes sense to borrow vs buy for a one time event. But the food? Really? Homegirl can afford a veggie tray
So shes going to feed 75 people, presumably who know them, with donated food from strangers? Even if this did somehow work, I WOULD BE SO UPSET to find out I got invited to this party to eat some randos leftovers!
This is nuts. She phrases it like it's a time/stress thing rather than "deliver free party food to me." If that were the case, then all this stuff could be ordered on a big online grocery order and picked up before the party. I'd still think too myself "she can gtfo with this" even if she said she couldn't afford it...but it annoys me more that she makes it seem like she just doesn't have time and that's all this is about.
Army brat/Air Force vet/Space Force mom here:
I couldn’t imagine such a request. If your guests are fellow military families, they’re going to bring food. That’s what we do. Only problem is going to be who gets to bring their blue-ribbon deviled eggs. They just moved, attached to retirement, so is it family coming? Tell his sister to bake some damn snickerdoodles! I’d be mortified to show up for a barbecue, only to discover that the hostess has begged strangers to provide the food.
I just can’t get over the fact that she insists on a retirement party *now.*
I understand that he’s retiring soon after a move, but you don’t even have things unpacked… no one is gonna beat you up for having a retirement party once you’re unpacked and settled and can buy and prepare your own stuff.
Maybe also think about meeting your neighbors before asking them to supply products for a party they weren’t invited to for someone they don’t know lol
If the host genuinely can’t afford to throw a party, then the solution is to ask the guests to please bring a plate (I think Americans call it pot luck).
That way, it will be the people who care about the host’s husband who’ll be contributing (and benefiting), and who I’m sure would be happy to do so.
Asking complete strangers to help out, especially doing the cleaning and preparing beforehand, is weird.
“homemade are wonderful, do not need to be store bought” thanks for that clarification, but im sure nobody is baking 75 homemade cookies for a stranger lol (stopped reading after that)
Vet here on the verge of retirement myself. GFYS, lady. She’s using patriotism as a forced gimmick to get free stuff. If he just came from overseas, he likely already received some kind of recognition for his 22 years service and got an award in front of an audience. This is less of a retirement party and more of a gathering of family and friends post military. I’m glad she was called out for it.
This is on par behavior for Sally stay at home military dependas. Been watching this shit show for 14 years now. There is no bottom to the shamelessness or what they will ask for, try to impose on other people, etc. Shit is wild.
What in the world? I have no issue with the borrowing yard games or even asking if folks have leftover party gear - honestly, my Buy Nothing group has lots of people trying to give that stuff away after a big party, so that’s all cool. But asking people to *cater* the party? That is a HELL NO from me!
Nobody has a veggie tray just lying around! I truly love helping people. But there is helping people and enabling people.
She’s citing being stressed about moving, etc. but in the time she made this post she could have put together a simple pick up order from the local store.
I’m my local buy nothing group I asked if anyone knew or had a Nintendo Wii that they wouldn’t mind selling cheap being disabled and having multiple surgeries I was looking for something fun to help free my brain for a little bit. This very nice lady offered me her son’s Wii he didn’t play with anymore and she wouldn’t take a dime from me. She gifted me and my mother the system, tons of games and accessories. It even was missing one of the cords and she ordered it off Amazon and had it sent to my house. I was so shocked with her kindness, I offered to give her some money and she refused, she just wanted someone to be able to enjoy it and it was just collecting dust.
Are the people she's asking help from also invited to the party? It doesn't read that way.
NOPE. Wants strangers to hand deliver her entire party to her house.
No, she says where/when to drop off...which IMO was another bad point. You'd think if someone were kind enough to come with boxes of cookies or a few watermelon, the least they could do is invite you to have a hot dog with them, come meet the retiree. But no, she's clear about only dropping off. Like how many extra people does she honestly think she'll have to feed, thousands? But a little return kindness can go a long way.
She said it doesn’t have to be enough for 75 people. I’m dropping off one banana.
I will join you and donate 1 paper napkin
WHOA WHOA WHOA let’s not go crazy now! Why don’t you meet her at the park, pull one weed, and leave?
Homemade snickerdoodle cookies mind you. Like, seriously, gtfo! I’m all for honoring service members, but wow! Hopefully she turned it into a potluck as the post was removed.
It wouldn't be so bad if she was asking for help from the attendees, but I'm bringing homemade cookies, and then I have to leave?? Wtf?
Yep, how else would she take all the credit if the donors stayed?
And clean for the party 2 days before it. And help clean afterward I'm sure, too. But otherwise just stay somewhere else out of the way. 😛 /s
I can assure you service members know how to throw a potluck 😆
She needs everything delivered because she will be so stressed from picking up the guests from the airport!!!
Which is extra funny because we have a train that comes straight from the airport to our city. Faster and cheaper than driving. I doubt she's picking up 75 people!
That part really gets me. Not only asking people to buy and deliver the party food, bev, games and decorations...but to clean too and then go home. LOL What. She's going to be so popular in her new neighborhood 😛
I think that's the part that makes it ridiculous. If she were inviting anyone who donated food to join the celebration, it would have been much more tactful and ... uh normal. Asking for drop offs with no invite is indeed crazy.
What are the comments saying? I admin a buy nothing and would ban this woman so fast. This is not the spirit of the group
This is WILD. Can’t the 75 people attending the party chip in or do a potluck? It’s crazy to ask your neighbors to cater a party gratis they aren’t even invited to.
If I’m bringing food or do anything to help prepare, I’m staying for the party.
So, many years ago we went to a relative's wedding with the reception in the church basement. A cousin from the other side was there and mentioned she was surprised that the whole church was invited. My dad said the whole church wasn't and in fact, the relative's father was hoping people invited wouldn't show up because of the cost. My cousin said she had been asked to provide food for the reception so she assumed she was invited. Who asks people to make food for their wedding and then not invited them?!? The people I'm related to, that's who!
I know people like that—in my husband’s family.
Yes if it's a pot luck celebration the whole church is traditionally invited too. It's an unspoken thing. > hoping people invited wouldn't show up because of the cost But what cost, the entire church brought food. Hope no one told them they were not supposed to stay and help eat.
Agree so much. Asking guests to bring a dish is acceptable. Asking people who aren’t invited to contribute is unacceptable.
Pastors family invited the whole church to the ceremony and let everyone know beforehand there was only enough food for those invited to the reception. Turns out there was plenty of food, and after the ceremony they’re in the lobby trying to catch people to join them. Um, sorry, we made plans. Got divorced before their first anniversary smh
The ex-wife and I went to a party like that once. We went all smiles carrying two crockpots and bags. The hostess greeted us and said how thankful she was for us to bring so much. The ex said no problem. She said just set the stuff over there and thank you. So we did. So we then started to mingle. The hostess then walked over to us and said we didn’t have to stay. WUT?? She said she just wanted the items and we didn’t have to stay, she would get our crockpots back to us. The ex looked at her and said so we are not invited, just our food? They started arguing. It turned into a yelling match. So the ex walked over to our crockpots and poured them out all over the serving tables. I just followed quietly and grabbed what I could and escorted her to the car. That woman was a fucking bitch.
I dunno, team ex wife on this situation. Sometimes you need a crazy reaction so people can understand that they are absolutely out of pocket. Can you imagine church lady retelling this story? “I asked these people for free food and then they thought they were invited”
I love it! Ex-wife taught her a lesson!
One time I invited my best friend to my mom’s house for dinner and she unexpectedly brought her boyfriend. My mom ran out and bought another steak. We didn’t fucking kick him out! Who does that? Especially when you brought food??? I’ve never, ever heard of unexpected guests being asked to leave for any reason! Unbelievable!! And of course, if you’ve been asked to bring food, you shouldn’t even be unexpected; I think you can assume you’re invited. Except in that bitch’s world. 🤬
I went to a wedding in North Carolina. In a church basement. The Parrish made the food , who wasn’t invited and no booze. I was told this was normal
This sounds right to me. But it’s an established social group that volunteers for fellow parishioners at weddings and funerals. The volunteers know the recipients well. This ask however feels inappropriate. She’s asking strangers in a public format to donate to her personal “cause”. It seems that she is used to military life and living on base-an established community that is willing to pony up for such an event. Those donating are likely ones that have or will receive in the future. This poor woman is going to, if she hasn’t already, going to experience a severe case of culture shock. After 20 years as a military wife she seems to have forgotten what civilian life is like. There’s a good chance that she was not long an adult before she became a military wife and doesn’t really know how it works in the civilian world. I wouldn’t doubt though that if any of her neighbors, strangers or not, were in need of anything, she would be the first to knock on the door and offer.
Noooo nooo sorry just put the tray down there and kindly gtfo. Oh and thanks for the snicker doodles foo!
Pull some weeds before you go
"So glad I didn't have to go through all the trouble of going to the store for them. It was so much easier to get out my own mixer, bowl, butter, sugar, cinnamon, eggs, vanilla extract, flour, cream of tartar, baking soda, and salt. I'll just be going now. So so sorry you saw my face."
My favorite cookie, ngl
I never had one before (they're not a thing here at all) and then some of our friends from America made them for a birthday. They are AMAZING.
I had someone lovingly bake snickerdoodles -- and do a *great* job -- for my first time at age 35 or so. I had never tasted that in my life! It was so good! But that led to such disappointment! Because after that moment, whenever the option to get a snickerdoodle came up, I took it. And I was always disappointed. They were crunchy or they were stale or they had no flavor. All the mass-manufactured snickerdoodles are terrible, IMHO. But a fresh-baked snickerdoodle? One that is still a little soft and cakey, but mostly cookie? With the cinnamon and vanilla and tartar just perfect? Ohhhhhhh god. So good.
They are the best cookie 😋
Drop my tray of cookies off and sit down at a picnic table there in park. Just wait for someone to fire that grill up :)
Homemade cookies! They don’t have to be store bought
For a fancy party like this don't worry. I will buy cookies, then take them out of the packaging and put them on my own plate to bring :)
Don't use your good plate, it might be used in a party game.
Oh, they’re gonna be store bought.
Don't forget to clean up the park 1st.
Weeding the cracks. GTFO.
"Thanks for coming out to help me weed the cracks in the pavilion! Hey listen I gotta go run errands but I'll bring back water in a few hours"
"oh hey thanks for showing up to help! Um, so hear me out. I know I technically said 'the park ' but somehow my keyboard autocorrected 'home lawn' to park lawn. So if you could also just get the lawnmower out and help do some tree trimming while your here, that'd be great!"....*"HEY WHAT THE FUCK THESE ARE STORE BOUGHT SNICKER DOODLES YOU PRICK!"* 🤣🤣🤣
I'm bringing Equate brand pecan sandies and I ain't leaving without making a scene
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Most, if not all, of these neighbors probably don't know her if she moved there 2 months ago.SMH
Yeah I mean I would have a lot more respect if she invited them to join in the celebration, as a welcome to the neighborhood thing. But even then you just need to make it a giant potluck. Can’t expect your neighbors to provide food for your friends who show up empty handed.
My husband and I moved about 8 months ago. Our neighbors have been wonderful people, dropping by to introduce themselves, offering help if needed because I’m a high level paraplegic. There’s been tasty meals and snacks and such dropped off, thoughtful housewarming gifts and the like. So this weekend, we’re firing up our pizza oven and hosting the entire neighborhood for a “Get to meet your new-ish neighbors” pizza party. We bought 50 10” frozen pizza crusts, I made 1.5 gallons of pizza sauce, cooked up 3 lbs of italian sausage, about a dozen bell peppers, a couple pounds of mushrooms, bought the *good* pepperoni, got fresh mozzarella and basil, got ricotta to make white pizza for anyone who can’t have tomatoes, we have crumbled rendered down super crispy bacon.. you get the idea. We bought plenty of soda, a neighbor is loaning us a cooler and their drink cooler so I can make a few gallons of unsweetened iced tea for folks who want something non-carbonated with sugar and artificial sweeteners provided. People have been asking me for 2 weeks if they can bring anything and I just tell them to bring themselves and any pizza topping they might want that we don’t have. Or if they want beer or something with their pizza instead of the drinks provided. There’s a few other new-ish neighbors who will come by and stay for the whole time so *they* can meet everyone as well. They offered to contribute so I told them they’re welcome to but not to feel obligated to. We’ve asked for nothing and plan to provide everything. This isn’t a retirement party. It’s not a celebration of reaching a milestone. It’s a thank you to the people who have embraced us in their community, all 200+ of them.
That’s really lovely. It would also be perfectly acceptable to host a potluck! But it’s nice you want to host. I can’t imagine offering to host a big party but not being able to afford chips and water and cookies. And instead of asking attendees to bring snacks, asking strangers to provide free food and labor for a party they are not invited to.
Exactly. We’re still unpacking, still having some renovations done so I can live a fuller, richer and more independent life in our new home. It was a long move from one state to another, many, many trips on my husband’s part to move things on his own, the use of Pods for stuff we’d need sooner rather than later. It was coordinated with having medical equipment installed plus all the normal headaches of packing up a house we’d called home for 25 years. The neighbors have been ridiculously kind and helpful. Not a mean one in the bunch, at least to our faces. We’ve been invited to dinners and parties and I was invited to a bachelorette party after meeting someone and knowing them for two hours. She said she admires my “energy” and wants my crazy vibes during whatever they get up to. As long as I can get to the party, I’m in. I’ll bring party favors (tiny anthropomorphic penises called ding dings) and Cards Against Humanity with all the updates and expansion packs. It’ll be great! I’ve been absorbed by the geeks and nerds who love comics and pop culture. I made a BFF and she and I and her family are doing group costumes every day of a large comic con in July. The teens love me because we have musical tastes in common and I know their slang and gently tease them with it. The little ones love my bright red wheelchair and my service dogs. The ladies trade recipes with me, we have crafting chats and they’re invited to come by any time to drop in and play in the craft room with me. One very kind neighbor is taking my husband for his knee surgery next week and she refused gas money or the like so I made her an apron out the fabric she admired from my stash. She’s going to be surprised! I hope she likes it. Another neighbor found out I sew and needs a few dresses hemmed and I told her to just bring them over, we’ll get them done in an afternoon. She asked how much it’d cost and I told her I want her favorite pie recipe. She countered with the recipe *and* a pie so I graciously accepted. One day next week she’s coming by and we’ll get the dresses done and share some pie and coffee and chat when the hemming is done. It’s not hard to be a good, respectful neighbor. It’s even easy! Just don’t move in and start asking for or demanding things before people even recognize you as a resident of the same street. Hell, one of my neighbors loves to dry flowers so she was gifted the first roses from my freshly planted rose bushes! She loved them. Her father used to own our house and had a rather large rose garden in the front. I didn’t know until I brought her the roses and she told me about them. During the eclipse we had spare glasses and offered them to the neighborhood on the facebook group. Some folks came by to get them and ended up staying, relaxing on a comfy bench in our yard and chatting the afternoon away, sipping on sweet tea and telling us the history of the neighborhood and filling us in on the people we’d met or had yet to meet. And on Sunday, we’re all going to eat delicious pizza, I have the sauce recipe printed up to share and the ingredient lists from the packaged items are saved and mounted on some poster board so people can check for allergens. It’s going to be great as long as the weather holds!
Dude, you Rock! Just from reading your comments I can tell you're fun, kind, thoughtful and just all around awesome and I totally want to be your friend, too (like, not even kidding). I hope you make a ton of new, happy memories in your new home and that your pizza party is a fun time for all (holy moly that's a lotta work!). I also hope that your neighbor loves the apron you made. Have a great time at the Bachelorette party and the comic con and I hope your husband's surgery goes well=) Sounds like your neighbors are all really cool so far and you're lucky to have them and they are just as lucky to have met you.
Have fun!
What a sweet gesture for your lovely neighbors!
If they’re retiring in Utah there is a good chance they are Mormon, and one of the few good things about Mormonism is that you gain an instant congressional “family”, if you will. She probably assumed that the members in her new congregation (ward) would love to jump right on in and help, gratis, because that’s what “Jesus would do”. I’m thinking the members instead said “who the heck is this?” and gave her a dose of reality. Now if her husband had passed away they’d be much more likely to help her plan the event and feed people. This request here’s just pure entitlement though 🙄.
Ummm did you not see the word military?
Neighbors she barely knows (if she's met them at all!) if she and her family just moved there two months ago! My god...
And brand new neighbors at that!!!
It’s a party. If you can’t afford it you don’t throw it. It’s really that simple.
She’s had 22 yrs to save and plan. It’s not like this retirement was a surprise.
> She’s had 22 yrs to save and plan. If her husband joined the military after high school, we're talking about a 40 year-old dude with a military pension. What an absolute joke. We're not talking about the older version of Matt Damon in "Saving Private Ryan". These folks should be able to use his pension for a mortgage payment, and live really well with decent jobs.
My husbands friend retired from 20 yrs and he was 41 and they’re set for life basically he just stays home w the kids now and it’s his wife’s turn to do her thing.
Crazy because the husband will be getting 55% of his salary too for the rest of his life, and it increases with inflation. They will be able to afford that no problem lol. If the husband retired at E6 (lowest possible rank for retirement), that's $2670 per month. And that's if he didn't file any VA claims. So the husband, more than likely, is getting more than this. That number is the bare minimum he will receive. Not to mention that Utah's cost of living is slightly below the national average.
If she's behaving like this, I guarantee her husband was an officer. She's had years of on-base support from wives who have nothing to do all day but take turns throwing parties. The officer's wives in a given unit always form their own little support group. She's been an officer's wife too long to realize the world doesn't work this way. Hell, being an enlisted wife doesn't even work this way.
Yes, this! Either that or he married someone much younger recently who has never moved around or had to put any kind of party together. She sounds immature and out of her depth.
Maybe he was forced to retire. His wife asking the CO for handouts.
He put in his 20 which means he will get a nice pension. CB didn't say but why can't her hubby help with it? It has to be a surprise party too? CB is doing too much. If she can't fund it, or hire someone to organize it, scale it down, CB.
Shocked to learn the US army is an unpaid job. Grim to be retiring and be unable to throw your own party.
Yes! Someone posted anonymously in my local mom group asking for stuff for her kid’s first birthday party. Literally asking for everything from decor to a cake and posted an Amazon wish list for gifts and party supplies. Like if you can’t afford it don’t do it. People were telling her you can get boxed cake mix and icing at the dollar store and her excuse was she can’t bake. People were actually buying her stuff which I thought was insane especially since she was posting anonymously
She can't follow the recipe on a boxed cake mix? Or open a can of ready made frosting? She's got way more problems than not being able to afford a baby's birthday party.
She was lying of course
Right. Even my 12 year old daughter and 11 year old niece can bake a cake from a box. I call bullshit.
My kid and her best friend are 8 and were able to make a batch of cupcakes the other day with very minimal supervision. I literally just had to put them in the oven for them because they couldn't reach. If you're an adult that can't make a cake from a box, you have some serious issues lol
CB doesn't want to soil her hands, she will be busy greeting guests coming in from all over, and showing them the town, and going out to dine, and having fun. Her neighbors are the ones who get to clean the party site and supply the food and bev. And decorations. And games. Lol
Jesus. And the kid won’t know the difference, anyway!
That’s the thing… it works. It’s insane. She’ll be back soon with another crazy list of needs and they’ll be people that will do it, again. My husband and I are in a shit way right now, I wish I had no pride or morals and could get away with that.
Well they're presumably lying by asking for all this free nonsense to do something they don't even need to do. If you are telling the truth you wouldn't be a cb imo, and I'm guessing your list of items would be much smaller and contain much more important things. It's not something to lose pride over or have a moral complex if it's truly needed. The problem is like you're saying, that it's so easy to abuse. "Let me post a picture with my dog in it while I beg for stuff I don't need for a party I'm not having to make you feel bad" That's different from "We haven't had a good meal in a while, got any canned food to spare?" What's sad is a lot of people are more likely to help the one with the dog.
Scammers that have kids fully take advantage of the fact that others have a heart for children. She prob returned the things from her Amazon wishlisy
You can literally just wait a couple minutes of months to throw it, even.
Especially if you can’t afford a bag of chips. Wasn’t this guy being paid by the military for the last 20 years?
With living expenses covered (most likely).
This is what I was thinking... Get a caterer
I’ll cry if I want to
You would cry too, if it happened to you!
Yes but she put a flag
Now you have to help. It's the law, you know. 
HELP ME WEED THE PARK!? dafuq
RIGHT?? My jaw actually dropped at that.
I thought she at least will hold the party at her home….
Nope. At a park she wants people to weed.
So a potluck retirement party, only with DONATED FOOD from people who are not invited to the party? Gotcha.
Why not ask the people coming to bring stuff? It seems weird to ask random people to bring stuff for a party for you, when you have people coming who could donate a bag of chips or some water.
Lady, that’s called a potluck.
A potluck where the people who bring food aren’t invited 😭
A Pot-unlucky
More like a NOTluck for those not invited but providing the pot
Those 22 years really snuck up on them. No time to prepare 😂
I hate when that happens
😂
The issue is she wants the community, that she doesn't even know to provide all the supplies for the retirement party. A pot luck would be people that know him bringing food. Seems like she wants the guests to come with no expectation of supplying anything for the party.
They moved to Utah. She should have gone to church for like a month, THEN thrown the party.
That’s what I think, and I wrote in a previous post. She obviously assumed her Mormon neighbors/ward members were just going to jump in and throw them a free party because Mormons are “nice that way” 😂😂😂.
Typical dependa.
The part that fucking sent me is when she said that she was overwhelmed with the changes in separating from the military. She seems fun.
"I hope that doesn't sound lazy..." Lady, I've got some bad news for you.
Why is always the CBs with "kiddos" and "doggos"?
That’s how you know how ootsey wootsey cutsey pootsey they are and that will make you want to do stuff because doggy! Baby! GIMME STUFF!!
> I don’t need to keep it. Oh good to know.
*snort*
> So come pick up your janky pickle ball set once I'm done.
Obviously we don’t understand because we haven’t served like her husband! 🦅🦅🦅 Everyone knows spouses have the harderst job in the entire military! We should be honored to supply and support a military family!!!!! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸 But seriously I would love for a couple of veterans to comment and tell her to fuck off lol.
Either you contribute to my party, or you hate America
No donation? DEPORTED IMMEDIATELY 🤣🤣🤣
I’m a veteran, husband is retired military. I grew up in Utah and am a former Mormon. I would enjoy giving her a hard reality check 😂.
You would be the perfect fit! 🤝
I know. I'm so bummed they took it down already. I wanted her to see how many people are not supporting her audacity. And people are big military bootlickers where I live!!
No step on snek!
If you've made it all the way to retirement without being able to afford hot dogs and chips you've done something seriously wrong. Have a smaller party, have an actual potluck or don't have a party.
“Doesn’t have to be store bought cookies homemade is good too” So…asking people to spend their free time baking for free when it costs more than standard store bought cookies
Yes! That bugged me almost as much as asking people to pick *weeds out of cracks*.
100% this. Homemade cookies aren't cheap, or quick to make.
“Homemade are wonderful, doesn’t need to be store bought” is the most wacky, in-your-face, wannabe manipulative bullshit I’ve ever seen. It’s like saying “Genuine Gucci is wonderful, doesn’t need to be a ripoff”.
I bake a lot from scratch, and have made homemade cookies many times. She's nuts expecting someone to spend hours, plus all the money on ingredients, to bake at least 7 dozen cookies, for some random stranger's party, for free. Butter, eggs, vanilla, etc., aren't cheap. It's all nuts, but that request is especially ridiculous. Right along with the "come pull grass out of cracks at a public park pavilion for free!". Then God forbid anyone feel ill later, and blame you for food poisoning.
I was hoping it was a troll post tbh but her profile does show military wife life.
Yeah. The appropriate cohort for this ask would be other military spouses.
I agree, but I'm assuming her friends didn't retire to UT with them.
I’m assuming if she’s expecting a crowd of at least 75, some of those people know her personally/can relate to her situation/might be willing to pitch in. She’s basically planning a pot luck that random people need to pitch for lol
And not even participate in!
Why is everyone flying out for the party if it’s just hot dogs and hamburgers?????
Literally lol'd.
See, I think it would be legit to ask to borrow lawn games that you're only going to use this one time. Or, she might have said, does anyone have any leftover fun party decorations that you don't need anymore. But the FOOD, really??
And the weed picking! Don't forget the weed picking at a public park!
I also really hate the whole “pic for attention!” thing people seem to do on posts. Fuck off with your pic for attention, why is this a thing and why is it that everyone who does it seems like an incredibly annoying person
They said "doggo!" Every choosing begger has a kiddo or doggo- the o is to make them unassuming, I guess.
I saw one earlier that wanted something for her "littles". Gag.
Yep- and 9/10 times it’s a brat.
FB’s algorithm gives more visibility to posts with photos than only text.
That car looks so safe with no visibility out the rear window. It's her husband retiring, are people supposed to care because he's military? Throw your own damned party.
I was constantly amazed at the high level of self-entitlement among the other military wives when my now-ex was active duty.
This is giving major dependapotamous vibes. Everyone needs to drop off free stuff because her husband served them but SHE had the hardest job in the military. Don’t worry, she’s doesn’t NEED to keep your fun yard game.
It just seems crazy to me. We just don't see that at all here in NZ.
I would live there in an instant if I could afford the move.
I wouldn't move so fast. Our current government is a bag of racist dicks that love the rich.
Yeah, but you have way better healthcare for diabetes than I get here and I am a Hobbit and want to live there. That's genuinely my main reason, which I am aware is silly. Edit: TBF, our government is not much better.
That's true, can't complain about having public healthcare. It's easy to forget about that stuff. We're Hobbit- positive here so you'd fit in well.
For some reason many people think that all military are poor...which is definitely not the case, especially after 22 years. They also get terrific healthcare, discounted groceries on base, free college (which can be used by their child if they don't want to go), lots of other things. Yes, some move around a lot; yes, some go through danger. But they do get a lot in return for that. Some will say it's "not enough", but when is it ever for some people? The whole package is still way more generous than most "regular" people ever get for their work.
I know a family where the husband was career Air Force 25+ years. The wife never worked. He retired in 2014, they have a gigantic house, and are constantly going on trips all over all the world.
Yep, know a bunch of similar folks... The reason I mentioned "lifestyle choices" in a previous comment was because of people I knew such as "Bob". He was high-ranking career military, making terrific money...but paying alimony to THREE exes and child support to each woman's children. He also supported an adult daughter and her loser boyfriend. Then he went around moaning all the time about how "poor" he was, how is he supposed to live, etc.
When I made mention of that, knowing full well how much a career military person makes, I was told by the only person defending OOP that I "don't know" their circumstances. Well, as the ex of a retired military member, I know better than most civies.
Wonder if that sole person willing to help/defend OOP was a sock puppet acct that they've made to try to draw in further support 🤔
No. Actually someone I went to school with in the 90s. She's always asking for absolutely everything but for her chickens.
Why in the fuck is she throwing a party when she doesn’t have the food or the time or any resources to do so? Why the fuck can’t the party wait?
She's been here two months. She absolutely had time to plan and to find the very-easy-to-find Costco.
Where does she hold her audacity
Next to her "I want a military discount."
Dependapotamus you say?
In her spouse's rank that you *better* address her by
"Oh hi, just leave all that food on the table over there. I'll contact you again next week for our housewarming party which you're not invited to. Bye."
“i don’t need to keep it” you know damn well she ain’t returning your corn hole set afterwards
Is no one gonna help this poor woman pull weeds at the park??? Baby Veteran War Kombat Jesus is gonna cry! 🦅🦅🦅🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
I live a few hours north of this town. We had one lady in our Buy Nothing group say she was having six people over for Thanksgiving and wanted somebody to make a pasta salad for her. She included the recipe. Oh, and she doesn't have a car, so in addition to buying the ingredients and making the salad it needed to be delivered too. I got a temporary ban for telling her it was a buy nothing group not a free version of Uber Eats. She blamed English being her second language and took the post down.
I want to see the FB comments to this post!
It got taken down. I'm so bummed because only one person was kinda wanting to help but also not really.
For the best I suppose but also, sad face
Catering exists. Just saying.
22 years in the military? I’m sorry but they should be set up All moving expenses and housing were paid Wow WTF is this
This lady is 100 percent “ I am my husbands rank” dependa.
so….. they just moved but they’re inviting 75 people?
All of whom she's personally fetching from the airport!
So essentially we would be the unpaid “help” ? Oooooh I’ll bring my whole family and we will all buy food for random people! Yay!
Except you don't get to attend. Can't have anyone seeing the free help!
Only thing in the whole shitty list that's reasonable is the asking to borrow yard games. Honestly if it was by me I'd tell her about my favorite game. It's called "Hide and Go Fuck Yourself". Pretty sure it would be a hit
The 75 fucking people coming couldn’t bring anything!? get wrecked lady!
Right? I was gobsmacked. This is literally my first post on Reddit ever because I was so mad.
By the time you hit 22 years of service, you’re making good money in the military. There’s no way they can’t go to Costco and buy the stuff they need, unless they have just made horrible choice after horrible choice with their finances
Like, sure, ask to borrow yard games. Those aren’t consumables so it makes sense to borrow vs buy for a one time event. But the food? Really? Homegirl can afford a veggie tray
She might as well have just asked for the hot dogs, hamburgers, buns, and toppings too, plus for someone to bring a grill and cook them.
Shocked she didn't, honestly.
So shes going to feed 75 people, presumably who know them, with donated food from strangers? Even if this did somehow work, I WOULD BE SO UPSET to find out I got invited to this party to eat some randos leftovers!
I can’t believe people post these types of things.
This is nuts. She phrases it like it's a time/stress thing rather than "deliver free party food to me." If that were the case, then all this stuff could be ordered on a big online grocery order and picked up before the party. I'd still think too myself "she can gtfo with this" even if she said she couldn't afford it...but it annoys me more that she makes it seem like she just doesn't have time and that's all this is about.
Army brat/Air Force vet/Space Force mom here: I couldn’t imagine such a request. If your guests are fellow military families, they’re going to bring food. That’s what we do. Only problem is going to be who gets to bring their blue-ribbon deviled eggs. They just moved, attached to retirement, so is it family coming? Tell his sister to bake some damn snickerdoodles! I’d be mortified to show up for a barbecue, only to discover that the hostess has begged strangers to provide the food.
I just can’t get over the fact that she insists on a retirement party *now.* I understand that he’s retiring soon after a move, but you don’t even have things unpacked… no one is gonna beat you up for having a retirement party once you’re unpacked and settled and can buy and prepare your own stuff. Maybe also think about meeting your neighbors before asking them to supply products for a party they weren’t invited to for someone they don’t know lol
This is not someone in need, this is someone in want.
The only thing acceptable to ask to borrow are the lawn games.
If the host genuinely can’t afford to throw a party, then the solution is to ask the guests to please bring a plate (I think Americans call it pot luck). That way, it will be the people who care about the host’s husband who’ll be contributing (and benefiting), and who I’m sure would be happy to do so. Asking complete strangers to help out, especially doing the cleaning and preparing beforehand, is weird.
“homemade are wonderful, do not need to be store bought” thanks for that clarification, but im sure nobody is baking 75 homemade cookies for a stranger lol (stopped reading after that)
Vet here on the verge of retirement myself. GFYS, lady. She’s using patriotism as a forced gimmick to get free stuff. If he just came from overseas, he likely already received some kind of recognition for his 22 years service and got an award in front of an audience. This is less of a retirement party and more of a gathering of family and friends post military. I’m glad she was called out for it.
I truly cannot imagine deciding to host a party for 75 people, and then asking total strangers to provide all the food, and leave.
What if someone dropped off some laced food? If some weird stranger preps food in a dirty unsanitary kitchen….. I dunno, it’s free right?
"I hope this doesn't sound lazy." It does, and you couldn't care less.
This is on par behavior for Sally stay at home military dependas. Been watching this shit show for 14 years now. There is no bottom to the shamelessness or what they will ask for, try to impose on other people, etc. Shit is wild.
What in the world? I have no issue with the borrowing yard games or even asking if folks have leftover party gear - honestly, my Buy Nothing group has lots of people trying to give that stuff away after a big party, so that’s all cool. But asking people to *cater* the party? That is a HELL NO from me!
The dependapotamus is gonna dependapotamus
Nobody has a veggie tray just lying around! I truly love helping people. But there is helping people and enabling people. She’s citing being stressed about moving, etc. but in the time she made this post she could have put together a simple pick up order from the local store.
I’m my local buy nothing group I asked if anyone knew or had a Nintendo Wii that they wouldn’t mind selling cheap being disabled and having multiple surgeries I was looking for something fun to help free my brain for a little bit. This very nice lady offered me her son’s Wii he didn’t play with anymore and she wouldn’t take a dime from me. She gifted me and my mother the system, tons of games and accessories. It even was missing one of the cords and she ordered it off Amazon and had it sent to my house. I was so shocked with her kindness, I offered to give her some money and she refused, she just wanted someone to be able to enjoy it and it was just collecting dust.
This is the sort of shit that you can ask family or friends for, not strangers. Goodness
Retiring after 22 years in the army and they need financial help to throw a party?