Sorry about your breakup, OP.
I hate unsolicited advice, period. I get it a lot in other online spaces I'm in. At the range and on the course, I find that men definitely don't feel the need to give it to men, only women and especially younger or younger looking women. I have the blessing/curse of rbf so I generally respond curtly and they get the idea to bug off. My template response is, "I'm not looking for any advice right now, thanks." And then I just don't engage.
Hope you find some peace at the range soon ❤️
Don’t stop going to the range on your own.
You have every right to go to the range on your own.
Just tell them you are practicing what you are learning from a qualified PGA golf instructor and that’s not you buddy.
Yeah it sucks. But I go now when I have my playing partners there before a round or will go alone to my club I joined where people aren’t idiots.
I just got tired of having to have some conflict with someone almost every time as it’s all I would think about for the rest of the session, even after I effectively got rid of them.
My line is:
“Are you a professional golf instructor?”
“No?”
“Then what makes you think you are qualified to give unwanted, unsolicited golf lessons?”
That usually shuts them up.
Sorry to hear that you're going through a breakup. You'll get back swinging (pun intended) in no time!
To answer your question, i dislike it. It's annoying, unnecessary and a waste of my time. It's worse when men quiz you on your own equipment smh. I just stare at them plainly and give short, emotionless responses. Headphones help, but it doesn't stop everyone unfortunately.
>I feel like men don’t go up to men to give advice, or is it that their peers are too good to give advice to?
This is true. You rarely see guy go up to a random guy giving advice. I can only postulate that its bc of the notion that women are typically not that great at golf and therefore the "nice guy" tries to help out by giving unsolicited advice \*coughs sexism coughs\* ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
Its happened to me too. Quite obnoxious.
I just tell them I'm working on something specific my coach wants me to work on, so I will not be accepting their advice.
Sorry you lost your golf partner. 🥺
As a man.. Can't say that I've received advice from strangers. In fact, I've only shared a few words with neighbors a few times, and it wasn't advice, just joking about bad shots, etc.
A lot of the time I have earbuds in so that probably helps too.
Sorry you have guys mansplaining golf to you.
(Also if I shouldn't comment or leave the sub lmk, just trying to support women golfers and a less-toxic space than r/golf)
No need to leave, it’s great to have people who want to have a diverse set of golfers enjoying the game and talking about it on Reddit.
Guys give tips to women even when we have earbuds in. Even when we don’t need help, even when we don’t look friendly or look clueless, and this goes beyond friendly small talk.
While I’m not amazing at golf, as a single digit handicapper, it’s fairly obvious I know how to hit balls at a range yet I get advice on how to warm up/stretch, what order to hit my clubs in, how many balls I am hitting with my first club when I’m focusing on making good contact as part of my routine, how straight my ball flight is (or isn’t if I’m having a bad day), how high I should tee it using the built in tees. I’d continue but I’m sure you get the idea.
Ok thanks I’ll stay!
Damn sounds like you go through a lot just to hit some balls, I am not surprised, that your experience would be like that though.
Glad you found a place you’re comfortable at.
A lot more woman and girls out on the course here in socal than what I ever saw before so hopefully the times are changing. SoCal feels like an outlier though so idk.
Man here too, but I lurk here because I don’t have enough golf Reddits to feed the addiction.
But I’ve gotten advice on the range a few times, but only when it’s pretty clear I’m working on something. Doing little weird feel moves to try to build a new swing, then chunking a few as I try to get used to it, tends to earn remarks. Makes me look very new to the game. Still very, very rare.
Old guy did solve my driver setup and my sanity last week though. I use earbuds too, and it does help with avoiding small talk and unsolicited advice.
Just adding my experience.
Sorry about your breakup, OP. I hate unsolicited advice, period. I get it a lot in other online spaces I'm in. At the range and on the course, I find that men definitely don't feel the need to give it to men, only women and especially younger or younger looking women. I have the blessing/curse of rbf so I generally respond curtly and they get the idea to bug off. My template response is, "I'm not looking for any advice right now, thanks." And then I just don't engage. Hope you find some peace at the range soon ❤️
Thank you❤️
I hate it and no longer go to public ranges on my own because of it.
Don’t stop going to the range on your own. You have every right to go to the range on your own. Just tell them you are practicing what you are learning from a qualified PGA golf instructor and that’s not you buddy.
Yeah it sucks. But I go now when I have my playing partners there before a round or will go alone to my club I joined where people aren’t idiots. I just got tired of having to have some conflict with someone almost every time as it’s all I would think about for the rest of the session, even after I effectively got rid of them.
Yes! After that interaction I shot poorly and as fast as I could to get out of there because I was embarrassed
My line is: “Are you a professional golf instructor?” “No?” “Then what makes you think you are qualified to give unwanted, unsolicited golf lessons?” That usually shuts them up.
Yeah I will work up to that
Unless it's one of the pros they can do one.
Agree with you. This has happened to me and I hate it. Its borderline harassment.
Sorry to hear that you're going through a breakup. You'll get back swinging (pun intended) in no time! To answer your question, i dislike it. It's annoying, unnecessary and a waste of my time. It's worse when men quiz you on your own equipment smh. I just stare at them plainly and give short, emotionless responses. Headphones help, but it doesn't stop everyone unfortunately. >I feel like men don’t go up to men to give advice, or is it that their peers are too good to give advice to? This is true. You rarely see guy go up to a random guy giving advice. I can only postulate that its bc of the notion that women are typically not that great at golf and therefore the "nice guy" tries to help out by giving unsolicited advice \*coughs sexism coughs\* ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
Yeah. At first I was wondering if that was the case as well - the whole nice guy thing or even was it supposed to be a pick up line
Its happened to me too. Quite obnoxious. I just tell them I'm working on something specific my coach wants me to work on, so I will not be accepting their advice. Sorry you lost your golf partner. 🥺
Yeah so rude! And thanks 🥲
As a man.. Can't say that I've received advice from strangers. In fact, I've only shared a few words with neighbors a few times, and it wasn't advice, just joking about bad shots, etc. A lot of the time I have earbuds in so that probably helps too. Sorry you have guys mansplaining golf to you. (Also if I shouldn't comment or leave the sub lmk, just trying to support women golfers and a less-toxic space than r/golf)
No need to leave, it’s great to have people who want to have a diverse set of golfers enjoying the game and talking about it on Reddit. Guys give tips to women even when we have earbuds in. Even when we don’t need help, even when we don’t look friendly or look clueless, and this goes beyond friendly small talk. While I’m not amazing at golf, as a single digit handicapper, it’s fairly obvious I know how to hit balls at a range yet I get advice on how to warm up/stretch, what order to hit my clubs in, how many balls I am hitting with my first club when I’m focusing on making good contact as part of my routine, how straight my ball flight is (or isn’t if I’m having a bad day), how high I should tee it using the built in tees. I’d continue but I’m sure you get the idea.
Ok thanks I’ll stay! Damn sounds like you go through a lot just to hit some balls, I am not surprised, that your experience would be like that though. Glad you found a place you’re comfortable at. A lot more woman and girls out on the course here in socal than what I ever saw before so hopefully the times are changing. SoCal feels like an outlier though so idk.
Also, who the hell tells someone how high to tee up the built in tee lololololol. Wtf
Haha all good. Appreciate hearing from a man on this too
Okay cool!
Man here too, but I lurk here because I don’t have enough golf Reddits to feed the addiction. But I’ve gotten advice on the range a few times, but only when it’s pretty clear I’m working on something. Doing little weird feel moves to try to build a new swing, then chunking a few as I try to get used to it, tends to earn remarks. Makes me look very new to the game. Still very, very rare. Old guy did solve my driver setup and my sanity last week though. I use earbuds too, and it does help with avoiding small talk and unsolicited advice. Just adding my experience.