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Sorry, I’m quite bad at explaining and didn’t know how to explain it without an example. So here it is:
Dog says to Cat, “Tell Rabbit I said hi”
So later on, Cat says to Rabbit “Dog says hi”.
This is actually the best example of what people expect.
It's mainly a way for Dog to let Rabbit know that he cares about Rabbit, even though Dog can not be there. Cat is just delivering the message, but Rabbit is happy anyway.
I thought the "say hi to x for me" was just a thing people said and I shouldn't take it literally for so long! That changed when my grandma found out none of her hi's reached her daughter-in-law 😂
It goes to another level when Cat is on a phone with the Rabbit. Cause then Dog says "say hi to the Rabbit", you say "Dos is saying hi", then Rabbit says "oh hi to the Dog too", and you say "Rabbit says hi to you too Dog".
Wait.. are we actually meant to say hi from them? I always just thought it was another one of those things that NT's say but don't mean...I can never tell what they actually mean in these kinds of things. It's like when a NT's says to someone "we should catch up for coffee". Which I always thought was genuine and id naturally get excited to be invited for coffee... Only to find out it's not genuine and they literally have no interest in hanging out.
i guess a lot of it depends on where you live & how well you know the person, but in my experience both of those are genuine statements -- i keep in contact with most of my friends, but my parents invite acquaintances to catch up for coffee all the time and it's always a real invitation. they're basically just weird ways of telling other people "hey we should interact more"
I see. That's interesting. I guess I have to say "hi" to A LOT of people then haha.
You'd think that they could just say "we should interact more". I could imagine better ways of interacting more than going for coffee in a loud cafe anyway.
i don't think it's always literal coffee, but just a general low-effort chill hangout that's not awkward to do with someone you haven't seen in a while. but yeah i don't know why people don't just say that!
I see. That's a difficult thing with some of us. I gotta say... I'm awkward on nearly every situation haha. But seriously, I can understand what you're saying. That makes more sense.
A hypothetical situation with fake names:
You and Joe both know Marcy.
You and Joe have just finished doing something social together.
Marcy wasn't there with you and Joe while you two were doing that social thing.
Joe wants to let Marcy know he's faring well - even if he didn't meet her right then and there, even if he hasn't seen her in a short while, not in a few days or a week.
Joe is leaving you a message to pass along to Marcy, if you happen to meet her before he does.
Joe's message isn't *literally only exactly* "hi" - there's some subtext here. Joe wants to let Marcy know he remembers her from the last time she was doing something social with you and Joe.
But if Joe can't deliver the message to her himself, he's giving the message to you so that you can deliver for him.
I hope this makes sense, subtext is strange 😄😄
Say “ hi” to your sister ( you know the sister and she has been nice to you but you have no seen her in a while and you are just talking to her brother)
Just a way to let someone know you're thinking about them without telling them yourself after running into/spending time woth a mutual acquaintance or friend.
When someone says something like "Tell (Name) I said hi!", or in a more formal context, perhaps "Give my regards to (Name)", it means something like "Let (Name) know I'm thinking of them, and I wish I could have seen them today." Next time you see them, just say "(Other Person) says hi"/"(...) sends their regards".
It's kind of nice to be on the receiving end of this, because it's nice to know that the other person had you in their thoughts and wished that they could see you personally.
Usually neither. It's rarely literal. Most often it's a way to show you are thinking about someone, or just being polite.
When it is literal, they mean the latter.
when someones asks me this i just dont do it because if they had to time to send me a messenger they also had the time to text them hi or go say hi themselves
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Sorry, I’m quite bad at explaining and didn’t know how to explain it without an example. So here it is: Dog says to Cat, “Tell Rabbit I said hi” So later on, Cat says to Rabbit “Dog says hi”.
This is actually the best example of what people expect. It's mainly a way for Dog to let Rabbit know that he cares about Rabbit, even though Dog can not be there. Cat is just delivering the message, but Rabbit is happy anyway.
You can add words to mask better if you want. Just before you walk away from rabbit, “Oh by the way, I ran into Dog on the way here and he says hi!”
I thought the "say hi to x for me" was just a thing people said and I shouldn't take it literally for so long! That changed when my grandma found out none of her hi's reached her daughter-in-law 😂
It goes to another level when Cat is on a phone with the Rabbit. Cause then Dog says "say hi to the Rabbit", you say "Dos is saying hi", then Rabbit says "oh hi to the Dog too", and you say "Rabbit says hi to you too Dog".
pretty much just literally what they're asking, yeah -- i usually say something like "oh, i ran into [name] earlier, they told me to say hello!"
Wait.. are we actually meant to say hi from them? I always just thought it was another one of those things that NT's say but don't mean...I can never tell what they actually mean in these kinds of things. It's like when a NT's says to someone "we should catch up for coffee". Which I always thought was genuine and id naturally get excited to be invited for coffee... Only to find out it's not genuine and they literally have no interest in hanging out.
i guess a lot of it depends on where you live & how well you know the person, but in my experience both of those are genuine statements -- i keep in contact with most of my friends, but my parents invite acquaintances to catch up for coffee all the time and it's always a real invitation. they're basically just weird ways of telling other people "hey we should interact more"
I see. That's interesting. I guess I have to say "hi" to A LOT of people then haha. You'd think that they could just say "we should interact more". I could imagine better ways of interacting more than going for coffee in a loud cafe anyway.
i don't think it's always literal coffee, but just a general low-effort chill hangout that's not awkward to do with someone you haven't seen in a while. but yeah i don't know why people don't just say that!
I see. That's a difficult thing with some of us. I gotta say... I'm awkward on nearly every situation haha. But seriously, I can understand what you're saying. That makes more sense.
A hypothetical situation with fake names: You and Joe both know Marcy. You and Joe have just finished doing something social together. Marcy wasn't there with you and Joe while you two were doing that social thing. Joe wants to let Marcy know he's faring well - even if he didn't meet her right then and there, even if he hasn't seen her in a short while, not in a few days or a week. Joe is leaving you a message to pass along to Marcy, if you happen to meet her before he does. Joe's message isn't *literally only exactly* "hi" - there's some subtext here. Joe wants to let Marcy know he remembers her from the last time she was doing something social with you and Joe. But if Joe can't deliver the message to her himself, he's giving the message to you so that you can deliver for him. I hope this makes sense, subtext is strange 😄😄
Good question. I take it as person 1 asking for you to tell person 2 that person 1 said hi and usually follow through with “(person 1) says hi”
Say “ hi” to your sister ( you know the sister and she has been nice to you but you have no seen her in a while and you are just talking to her brother)
I would just say… so and so said hi.
Just a way to let someone know you're thinking about them without telling them yourself after running into/spending time woth a mutual acquaintance or friend.
When someone says something like "Tell (Name) I said hi!", or in a more formal context, perhaps "Give my regards to (Name)", it means something like "Let (Name) know I'm thinking of them, and I wish I could have seen them today." Next time you see them, just say "(Other Person) says hi"/"(...) sends their regards". It's kind of nice to be on the receiving end of this, because it's nice to know that the other person had you in their thoughts and wished that they could see you personally.
Just tell them you’re not carrying their hello for them
“Oh, and Jamie says Hi”
Usually neither. It's rarely literal. Most often it's a way to show you are thinking about someone, or just being polite. When it is literal, they mean the latter.
A: say hi to C for me B: ok B: by the way A says hello C: oh cool
I honestly have always just fully ignored them and nothing terrible has happened yet
I always ignore it, no one remembers anyway so why bother
It's like they're saying, "Hey, when you see so-and-so, tell them I said hi!"
when someones asks me this i just dont do it because if they had to time to send me a messenger they also had the time to text them hi or go say hi themselves