You'd be surprised. The kids in pre k. They probably won't figure it out for a while. Tricky part will come in when they misbehave and you have to figure out who they have to go to school on a Saturday
That’s when you drive them to the school (when they won’t think you actually will) and then tell them to get out of the car, and then when they are apologizing, you tell them “I’ll let it slide this time”
My dad did something like that to me when I was 7 and he threatened to enroll me in the ominous “military school” for 7 years
I did this exact thing. I looked up the cost and told my abusive, financially illiterate parents they couldn’t afford it anyways but if they were dumb enough to take out a loan I’d prefer somewhere tropical. Never heard the argument again.
It's not run by the actual military here. Military is more of a description of how the school is run. We have something called ROTC, Reserve Officer Training Corps, but that's not really what we'd call "military school" here.l, even though that's the only thing that really gives you a leg up if you do join the military. Military schools may well be run by XE or Triple Canopy or whoever but probably not. Most of them are a lot like those troubled kid camps I'm sure you've heard about.
when teenager was wild, I did the parent appropriate response mostly. I did have military schools around the country send him information by mail and thank him for his interest.
The actual trick is to have a dad like mine that did drive the community bus. Thing was such a piece of shit the network didn’t want to replace we’d joke “are you sure we’re going to school today”?
My father (who was a teacher) used the threat of gypsy sale on me *often*.
Thirty years later, guess who gets in trouble with their own kid’s school bc APPARENTLY THESE DAYS you are not “supposed to”
a) threaten to human traffic your kids
and
b) say “gypsy”… they are “romani” or “travelers”
But the principal was laughing when she said it, so maybe she heard it when she was young too.
I got hit with the military school bs a few times. At one point I was so stressed and upset at school and life in general that I told them to do it because I didn’t want to be around them anymore and my mum burst into tears. They stopped doing that
In preschool, I told a kid santa isn't real.
(I was raised with the knowledge that Santa was fake, but no one told me that other kids believed in Santa)...... He threw a crayon at me. I probably deserved it.
Oh man, I did this in third (or was it second?) grade. I said in an offhand way "yeah, everyone knows Santa isn't real." One of my friends said "Yes he is!" and started *crying*.
I have never in my life shut up about something as fast as I did that day. I felt like such an ass.
My god, the crying, that sounds awful hahaha. I'd bet that kid already had a suspicion that he wasn't real, but you confirmed it, and that just crushed them.
I thought my oldest didn’t believe in Santa, because she was talking about the historical st Nicholas. So I start reading her his Wikipedia page (she wanted to know more about him) and read his date of birth and death. Her face freezes for a second in terror, then shrieked, “SANTA’S DEAD???!!!!!”
Actually, this is what adults who underestimate children's cognitive abilities believe.
This is the type of lie that you shouldn't tell your child because you're deceiving them of how the world actually works.
He's 4 bro relax 😂 my daughter just turned 4, is in her first year of school as well. If you ask her what tomorrow is, no matter what, its always friday 😂
I used to teach 4yo and I'm not sure they knew what each other were saying half the time. Kids this age have so much running thru their heads. Most of the time they hear something they don't quite get they will just ignore it and replace it with another thought. Sometimes they will make up their own truth for it to make sense (I thought a plumber was another name for superhero). But by 6 they will fight with each other when they don't understand something.
Recently had a 6-y/o trying to convince me that she saw a speed limit sign that said "go as fast as you like". It was really hard to keep a straight face for that one.
For years I thought that my uncle was a semi-truck driver because my mom told me that he worked in distribution for Hallmark. He was some kind of high-up office worker, but I guess I didn’t know what all that meant, so I decided he drove trucks.
I mean, she could just say, “but you can’t tell anyone, because it’s against the law and they’ll make you go every day if they find out”
I believed turning on the interior car light while driving at night actually was illegal until I was like, 16.
4-year olds haven't yet fully developed what's called "thepry of mind" - they don't always realise that others don't know what they know. If a thing is known, it must be known by everyone.
So why talk about it?
🤷♂️
Pre-k is the age where kids barely want anything to do with one another communication-wise. They’ll cooperate and play, but they don’t sit and brag about things like that. Maybe they’ll talk about a cupcake they got or a birthday they went to, but this is such a small detail and the kids already don’t want to be there most of the time.
Kids at this age often believe their parents above all else.
Which isn't a bad thing most of the time. In general a 4 year old should trust the adults who have dedicated their lives to raising him over other 4 year olds (who are generally idiots).
even if it was, they would eventually find out and have their trust in you destroyed at an early age. if she lied about that what else is she lying about, santa? no, dont be silly. he eats the milk n cookies every year
He's 4 years old man. What I remember about being that age is that none of us had a clue what was going on and just parroted whatever older people told us about the world. If anything I can see this being a big playground argument about whether weekends exist or not with no conclusive outcome
My daughter had a friend in high school who still legitimately believed in Santa Claus because he trusted his parents over his peers. I'd definitely believe it for a preschooler.
If there's anything kids love doing it's testing boundaries. What happens when the kid decides an extra two days of school is worth it and mouths off... but then still doesn't go to school?
This scheme wouldn't last long at all.
Maybe if the kid were a couple years older. He's not even in kindergarton yet. They don't even know their shapes yet. They ain't gossiping with each other lmao
It’s as simple as “don’t tell the other kids I’m letting you do this”
My parents told me Santa clause isn’t real from a very young age. Told me to never tell my friends and I didn’t. Kept that secret all the way to 5th grade.
It’s not. Five years old is typically the minimum age for kindergarten and kindergartens are not fulltime, 5 days a week either, unless they put them in a daycare. It was written by an edgy 14 year old.
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It's crazy how often "crafty lies" get pegged as good parenting. With very few exceptions I just...explained things to my kids. Broke it down to a level they understand and for the few topics you can't, chalk it up to "we know better and will explain more as you learn more".
Yall stop being afraid of your kids. They are designed to push their bounds to learn about the world and its your jobs to keep them in those bounds. All you are doing is teaching them to have no patience for mild stressors and that deception is the best way to control a situation, which to me isn't "good" parent, its easy.
It feels extremely Lawful coded lol
Telling your kids there's a system of punishment that doesn't actually exist to enforce your morality code on them is about as Lawful as it gets
Not saying they're a bad parent, but doesn't fit this place at all
Yeah i don’t see how tricking your child is good parenting, growing up with misconceptions and probably getting laughed at and bullied when they reveal them
My parents (hippies) told me Ritz crackers were cookies, and I believed them for a long time. I ate healthier than other kids my age, and now I eat healthier than other people my age.
I grew up with plenty of mental traumas and neurodivergencies, but none of them are related to my parents' "lie" about "cookies," or about Santa or the Tooth Fairy or whatever.
All the computer chair child psychologists here need to go do literally anything else. I dunno where yall are, but it's sunny and nice here and would be a great day for a walk.
I hated my nursery school so much my parents finally just gave up on making me go.
Yes, I am a nursery school dropout. (I went on to graduate college, so I guess I made up for it.)
Nope. Your entire education has been a sham, you need to go back and learn those ABCs and 123s you definitely didn't pick up somewhere along the way.
Then if you go back through all of elementary through high school, Billy Madison style, you'll be capable of starting college properly this time.
You monster.
Dale McGowan has some great books on raising freethinking kids (like *Parenting Beyond Belief*), and one of the things he does is put Santa nametags on presents, and all that, but never actually lies to his kid.
If his kids asks questions, he will lead the kid to answers that the kid can discover.
It's about religion-proofing and brainwash-proofing, to give them experience at looking at something that makes big claims and trying to find evidence to back it up.
Lying to your children is bad, unless it's one of the approved/grandfathered ones, including but not limited to Santa, the Easter bunny, tooth fairy, everyone is equal, karma, and religion.
The threat of violence is incredibly effective, and less harmful than actual violence. Predators / mating males will usually avoid conflict if they can.
Santa, the tooth fairy, the Easter Bunny. Sometimes "your fish looks different today? Oh, he's trying out a new way to style his fins" when they're too little to comprehend and process death and you really just don't want to deal with a meltdown.
Parenting is a heck of a time, sometimes you just need to learn what works. None of these are traumatizing lies or anything, just fibs to help out when they're too little to be otherwise reasoned with
It's also critical to discuss these issues properly when they do get old enough. My mom thought it was cute and a way to keep my sister in her youth, so she kept forcing Santa on her. She secretly believed until like 14 years old.
These lies of convenience \*can\* be a harmless way to \*delay\* the conversation, but there are still plenty of opportunities to mess it up.
Yeah the problem is sometimes kids just aren't at the age to understand and discuss the issues properly. Don't put it off indefinitely, but there are plenty of things you can't reason with a four year-old about.
I didn’t tell my kids about Santa, the tooth fairy or the Easter bunny, they found out from someone else and I’ve just carefully avoided telling them they’re fake so they wouldn’t spoil it for all of their friends. I’m not even really coy about it, I openly talk about buying them Christmas gifts and have never told them “this one is from Santa” like my parents did. I’m not even sure when my daughter figured it out because she kept the illusion alive for her brother.
I truly wonder if the folks who make those posts are the ones who HAVE kids or if they just homeschool them.
If I were to tell my kid that nah, Santa ain't real....my kid wouldn't be able to handle that info and would ruin it for about 24 of their classmates tomorrow!
My parents brought me up without Santa, the tooth fairy or the Easter bunny. I don’t think I missed out on anything and had a deeper gratitude to the people whose names were on the gifts I got. That said I was also an avid reader even when very young and we had a book on common traditions and their origins so I was familiar with the stories as stories and not reality.
To be fair, a lot of people hang on to that one all their lives. It's not a an example of a lie if you believe it yourself, then it's just an example of being wrong.
We did the whole Santa, bunny, tooth fairy thing. As soon as the kids started getting suspicious we told them the truth and dropped it gonna forward. Worked for us. 🤷🏼♂️
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You clearly have no kids as well as all the kids themselves who'll downvote me. There's a difference between white lies and coming forward when they're age appropriate vs lying to your kids.
Hmm. Lying to get your child to go to school instead of teaching them the normal expectation of going to school/work 5 days a week will just create more problems later. The initial behavioral issues have yet to be addressed.
some friends who grew up near Anaheim used to brag, 'cuz their parents took them to Disneyland at least a couple times a month
...didn't realize till they'd grown a bit and started hearing about all these 'rides'
'what's Splash Mountain?!?!"
...turns out the parents had been taking them to the Disney Hotel, the brunches with the characters, all those years, and lying to them
they'd never even been inside the park
💀
There's a greater chance than not that this is fake.
If it happens to be true, this person is a terrible mom, and this is how you develop your kids to have lifelong trust issues with you. Her kid will eventually find out shes been lying to manipulate him the entire time. People act like kids are stupid and don't remember things like this, they do.
This is such a damn false story… so his kid goes to the only school in the USA that where teachers don’t talk to their students about “next week” assignments or whatnot on Fridays, or say “see you Monday” at the end of the school day.
Like, who are the demographics these posts are supposed to fool??
(Sees the most upvoted comments on most rage bait on Reddit)… oh, nvm.
inb4 the kid finds out he's been decieved and wants to take 2 days off but isn't allowed to so he feels betrayed and no longer has an insentive to behave
I know it can be a controversial opinion, but I try to never lie to my children. While sometimes it may seem easier to lie to them in the short run, I have found that honesty is best in the long run as it teaches them important lessons about disappointment, responsibilities, tragedy, etc. I don’t know if I am always doing everything right as a parent, but I’ll never regret being honest with my children, perhaps to a fault.
I know Santa is a tough question on this issue and one I always face. I admit that I’m somewhat hypocritical on this point because I do allow the children to believe in Santa. I often second-guess myself, but it was important to my wife to do the whole Santa thing. But, in nearly all other facet of life, I have maintained age appropriate honesty with my kids. I, honestly, don’t understand or agree with the number of little cutsey “white” lies that parents tell their children on a daily basis.
That's how corporations got people to believe they were making people a favor giving them back only 2 of the 3-4 free days a week everyone should have after the massive increase in productivity.
I always say on friday mornings, “listen if you are well behaved today you can stay home tomorrow!” And my kid didn’t say a word until first grade. Pretty sure they genuinely believed me or just didn’t know what day it was or maybe both?
I can believe this to an extent that it worked for a few weeks at most. I told my kids 3/4 years that the alarm button in the elevator activates microwave the microwave function. If they pressed it and the other buttons randomly, we’d be cooked alive.
I told them this to stop them from pressing all the buttons in the elevator. But they just found it fascinating and made their friends believe it. No trauma inflicted. My kids are just weird. Other kids parents weren’t too happy about it tbh.
I have an acquaintance who tricks her kids every Saturday into thinking she’s letting them stay home from daycare for two days because she’s the best mom ever. She pretty much makes them beg for it though.
There is no early education teacher in this earth that doesn't celebrate the coming weekend on Friday. They motivate their students with end of the week rewards too.
My boss has the same deal for me becasue I'm such a good worker. Not *every* weekend of course, that would be silly.
I can't believe a word of this. That kid would brag to his friends and find out so fast that every kid gets those days off. This isn't real.
You'd be surprised. The kids in pre k. They probably won't figure it out for a while. Tricky part will come in when they misbehave and you have to figure out who they have to go to school on a Saturday
That’s when you drive them to the school (when they won’t think you actually will) and then tell them to get out of the car, and then when they are apologizing, you tell them “I’ll let it slide this time” My dad did something like that to me when I was 7 and he threatened to enroll me in the ominous “military school” for 7 years
My dad did something similar, but because he didn't drive us to school (the school bus did), he pulled up info about various military schools
My parents sucked enough that I did that in my own. That's when I found out we're too poor to send me to military school.
I did this exact thing. I looked up the cost and told my abusive, financially illiterate parents they couldn’t afford it anyways but if they were dumb enough to take out a loan I’d prefer somewhere tropical. Never heard the argument again.
Nah I wanted to go. I felt like it had to be better.
Wait, you guys have to pay to go to military school?
Yup, it's still private school
Military school. How is it considered private? Is the military not considered a part of the government in the us? Or this school owned by blackwater?
It's not run by the actual military here. Military is more of a description of how the school is run. We have something called ROTC, Reserve Officer Training Corps, but that's not really what we'd call "military school" here.l, even though that's the only thing that really gives you a leg up if you do join the military. Military schools may well be run by XE or Triple Canopy or whoever but probably not. Most of them are a lot like those troubled kid camps I'm sure you've heard about.
when teenager was wild, I did the parent appropriate response mostly. I did have military schools around the country send him information by mail and thank him for his interest.
The actual trick is to have a dad like mine that did drive the community bus. Thing was such a piece of shit the network didn’t want to replace we’d joke “are you sure we’re going to school today”?
My parents threatened to “sell me to the Gypsies” throughout my childhood. I did not understand how funny this was until much later in life.
I tell my son we'll sell him to the circus/zoo and that they're probably looking for a new monkey
My father (who was a teacher) used the threat of gypsy sale on me *often*. Thirty years later, guess who gets in trouble with their own kid’s school bc APPARENTLY THESE DAYS you are not “supposed to” a) threaten to human traffic your kids and b) say “gypsy”… they are “romani” or “travelers” But the principal was laughing when she said it, so maybe she heard it when she was young too.
My oldest sister would always (jokingly) threaten to sell me to the gypsies as a kid!
I was told I would be given to the Jehovah’s Witnesses next time they came by. Packed a suitcase for me and everything.
Lol. Much funnier and less racist.
Would you believe me if I said it seeded a deep distrust of religion in general?
Yes I would
I was also threatened with being sold to the gypsies!
Haha I thought my mom made this up.
Omg same, I thought my dad made it up! I’ve never heard of any other parents using it until right now LMAO
I got hit with the military school bs a few times. At one point I was so stressed and upset at school and life in general that I told them to do it because I didn’t want to be around them anymore and my mum burst into tears. They stopped doing that
It got to the point where I actually requested it too... figured it couldn't be any worse 🙃 Found out they were bluffing all along.
Were your parents called Hal and Lois?
I thought your car will hit a man and his arms will come off or something
My dad did the same, but he drove off and never came back.
In preschool, I told a kid santa isn't real. (I was raised with the knowledge that Santa was fake, but no one told me that other kids believed in Santa)...... He threw a crayon at me. I probably deserved it.
Oh man, I did this in third (or was it second?) grade. I said in an offhand way "yeah, everyone knows Santa isn't real." One of my friends said "Yes he is!" and started *crying*. I have never in my life shut up about something as fast as I did that day. I felt like such an ass.
My god, the crying, that sounds awful hahaha. I'd bet that kid already had a suspicion that he wasn't real, but you confirmed it, and that just crushed them.
I thought my oldest didn’t believe in Santa, because she was talking about the historical st Nicholas. So I start reading her his Wikipedia page (she wanted to know more about him) and read his date of birth and death. Her face freezes for a second in terror, then shrieked, “SANTA’S DEAD???!!!!!”
I concur
Actually, this is what adults who underestimate children's cognitive abilities believe. This is the type of lie that you shouldn't tell your child because you're deceiving them of how the world actually works.
You’d be surprised how much Reddit stuff is bullshit and fake. The kid would brag, within one or two weeks.
They're gonna figure it out their first Friday of kindergarten when their teacher says "see everybody on monday!"
Take em to the park and teach em about ducks. And thier screw penises
The hope is that they will form a habit
He's 4 bro relax 😂 my daughter just turned 4, is in her first year of school as well. If you ask her what tomorrow is, no matter what, its always friday 😂
You don't realize how smart and how dumb four year olds are until you have one of your own.
love that attitude
I used to teach 4yo and I'm not sure they knew what each other were saying half the time. Kids this age have so much running thru their heads. Most of the time they hear something they don't quite get they will just ignore it and replace it with another thought. Sometimes they will make up their own truth for it to make sense (I thought a plumber was another name for superhero). But by 6 they will fight with each other when they don't understand something.
Recently had a 6-y/o trying to convince me that she saw a speed limit sign that said "go as fast as you like". It was really hard to keep a straight face for that one.
For years I thought that my uncle was a semi-truck driver because my mom told me that he worked in distribution for Hallmark. He was some kind of high-up office worker, but I guess I didn’t know what all that meant, so I decided he drove trucks.
Not to mention the teachers/staff usually always say something to the whole class about having a good weekend.
he’s 4 years old 😂 even if he was told that there’s a good 75% chance he won’t process it
I mean, she could just say, “but you can’t tell anyone, because it’s against the law and they’ll make you go every day if they find out” I believed turning on the interior car light while driving at night actually was illegal until I was like, 16.
4-year olds haven't yet fully developed what's called "thepry of mind" - they don't always realise that others don't know what they know. If a thing is known, it must be known by everyone. So why talk about it? 🤷♂️
Pre-k is the age where kids barely want anything to do with one another communication-wise. They’ll cooperate and play, but they don’t sit and brag about things like that. Maybe they’ll talk about a cupcake they got or a birthday they went to, but this is such a small detail and the kids already don’t want to be there most of the time.
He's 4
Yes, and when my kid was 4, he couldn't keep his mouth shut. This is something a 4-year-old would brag about.
I mean it depends on the type of kid lol
Pre k the kids don’t talk about their lives much. Also this kid might not have any friends and that’s why they hate it so much.
Kids at this age often believe their parents above all else. Which isn't a bad thing most of the time. In general a 4 year old should trust the adults who have dedicated their lives to raising him over other 4 year olds (who are generally idiots).
At that age the kids are not great at communicating. They mostly just scream catch phrases and gibberish at each other
You don't know any preschoolers lol
Have you met a 4 yr old? They're gullible as hell.
even if it was, they would eventually find out and have their trust in you destroyed at an early age. if she lied about that what else is she lying about, santa? no, dont be silly. he eats the milk n cookies every year
He's 4 years old man. What I remember about being that age is that none of us had a clue what was going on and just parroted whatever older people told us about the world. If anything I can see this being a big playground argument about whether weekends exist or not with no conclusive outcome
That's how the kids in my kindergarten class learned about birthdays.
Prek is preschool
The kid is four.
agree.
My daughter had a friend in high school who still legitimately believed in Santa Claus because he trusted his parents over his peers. I'd definitely believe it for a preschooler.
If there's anything kids love doing it's testing boundaries. What happens when the kid decides an extra two days of school is worth it and mouths off... but then still doesn't go to school? This scheme wouldn't last long at all.
Maybe if the kid were a couple years older. He's not even in kindergarton yet. They don't even know their shapes yet. They ain't gossiping with each other lmao
It’s as simple as “don’t tell the other kids I’m letting you do this” My parents told me Santa clause isn’t real from a very young age. Told me to never tell my friends and I didn’t. Kept that secret all the way to 5th grade.
It’s not. Five years old is typically the minimum age for kindergarten and kindergartens are not fulltime, 5 days a week either, unless they put them in a daycare. It was written by an edgy 14 year old.
How many parents don't teach their kid what day it is?
Ya also, if it was real, that's just bullshit propaganda a boss would tell employees
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Teaching her child that she cannot be trusted.
Dude he's 4
Either way if she thinks her kid is problematic now, wait until he learns that his mom has been lying to get him to comply. Good luck lady
Lawful evil
Yeah this is neither chaotic or good.
I was thinking lawful stupid myself.
Wait till the kid calls your bluff. Never threaten a consequence you can’t back up.
Easy. Make them prepare your taxes as part of financial studies. Child learns a lesson and you get your taxes done.
My thoughts exactly. What if kid keeps misbehaving for the consequences or what if he figures out that there is no school on the weekend?
It's crazy how often "crafty lies" get pegged as good parenting. With very few exceptions I just...explained things to my kids. Broke it down to a level they understand and for the few topics you can't, chalk it up to "we know better and will explain more as you learn more". Yall stop being afraid of your kids. They are designed to push their bounds to learn about the world and its your jobs to keep them in those bounds. All you are doing is teaching them to have no patience for mild stressors and that deception is the best way to control a situation, which to me isn't "good" parent, its easy.
Modern problems require modern solutions...
modern problem: my life sucks compared to others social media posts moder solution: lie on the internet for internet points and pats on the back
Where’s the good?
Or the chaotic…
It feels a little chaotic to me
It feels extremely Lawful coded lol Telling your kids there's a system of punishment that doesn't actually exist to enforce your morality code on them is about as Lawful as it gets Not saying they're a bad parent, but doesn't fit this place at all
chaotic fake
Yeah i don’t see how tricking your child is good parenting, growing up with misconceptions and probably getting laughed at and bullied when they reveal them
Yeah, this is neutral at best?
I have been told the same trick was used on me and it worked for a few years.
I used to tell my daughter her ears wiggled when she lied. Got a good few years out of that one!
My parents (hippies) told me Ritz crackers were cookies, and I believed them for a long time. I ate healthier than other kids my age, and now I eat healthier than other people my age. I grew up with plenty of mental traumas and neurodivergencies, but none of them are related to my parents' "lie" about "cookies," or about Santa or the Tooth Fairy or whatever. All the computer chair child psychologists here need to go do literally anything else. I dunno where yall are, but it's sunny and nice here and would be a great day for a walk.
I hated my nursery school so much my parents finally just gave up on making me go. Yes, I am a nursery school dropout. (I went on to graduate college, so I guess I made up for it.)
Nope. Your entire education has been a sham, you need to go back and learn those ABCs and 123s you definitely didn't pick up somewhere along the way. Then if you go back through all of elementary through high school, Billy Madison style, you'll be capable of starting college properly this time. You monster.
Ah yes, lying to your children. That’ll win their trust
Santa?
another excellent example
Dale McGowan has some great books on raising freethinking kids (like *Parenting Beyond Belief*), and one of the things he does is put Santa nametags on presents, and all that, but never actually lies to his kid. If his kids asks questions, he will lead the kid to answers that the kid can discover. It's about religion-proofing and brainwash-proofing, to give them experience at looking at something that makes big claims and trying to find evidence to back it up.
yep. keep lying and u will breed a liar
They do exist
Lying to your children is bad, unless it's one of the approved/grandfathered ones, including but not limited to Santa, the Easter bunny, tooth fairy, everyone is equal, karma, and religion.
"violence never solves anything"
If violence is not the solution, you are not using enough violence. (or correctly)
The threat of violence is incredibly effective, and less harmful than actual violence. Predators / mating males will usually avoid conflict if they can.
Indeed, that is "using it correctly," when applicable.
Thanks for reactivating my childhood trauma. "The bigger man walks away" Still haven't learnt how to properly stand up for myself.
Santa, the tooth fairy, the Easter Bunny. Sometimes "your fish looks different today? Oh, he's trying out a new way to style his fins" when they're too little to comprehend and process death and you really just don't want to deal with a meltdown. Parenting is a heck of a time, sometimes you just need to learn what works. None of these are traumatizing lies or anything, just fibs to help out when they're too little to be otherwise reasoned with
It's also critical to discuss these issues properly when they do get old enough. My mom thought it was cute and a way to keep my sister in her youth, so she kept forcing Santa on her. She secretly believed until like 14 years old. These lies of convenience \*can\* be a harmless way to \*delay\* the conversation, but there are still plenty of opportunities to mess it up.
Yeah the problem is sometimes kids just aren't at the age to understand and discuss the issues properly. Don't put it off indefinitely, but there are plenty of things you can't reason with a four year-old about.
I didn’t tell my kids about Santa, the tooth fairy or the Easter bunny, they found out from someone else and I’ve just carefully avoided telling them they’re fake so they wouldn’t spoil it for all of their friends. I’m not even really coy about it, I openly talk about buying them Christmas gifts and have never told them “this one is from Santa” like my parents did. I’m not even sure when my daughter figured it out because she kept the illusion alive for her brother.
Don’t forget to add God to your list of imaginary things that people tell their kids.
I truly wonder if the folks who make those posts are the ones who HAVE kids or if they just homeschool them. If I were to tell my kid that nah, Santa ain't real....my kid wouldn't be able to handle that info and would ruin it for about 24 of their classmates tomorrow!
My parents brought me up without Santa, the tooth fairy or the Easter bunny. I don’t think I missed out on anything and had a deeper gratitude to the people whose names were on the gifts I got. That said I was also an avid reader even when very young and we had a book on common traditions and their origins so I was familiar with the stories as stories and not reality.
The afterlife?
To be fair, a lot of people hang on to that one all their lives. It's not a an example of a lie if you believe it yourself, then it's just an example of being wrong.
We did the whole Santa, bunny, tooth fairy thing. As soon as the kids started getting suspicious we told them the truth and dropped it gonna forward. Worked for us. 🤷🏼♂️
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You clearly have no kids as well as all the kids themselves who'll downvote me. There's a difference between white lies and coming forward when they're age appropriate vs lying to your kids.
Hmm. Lying to get your child to go to school instead of teaching them the normal expectation of going to school/work 5 days a week will just create more problems later. The initial behavioral issues have yet to be addressed.
this is gonna backfire on them so badly
Pretty sure this is the definition of lawful evil? She's using trickery to get her kid to follow the rules. That's not chaotic.
This is neither chaotic nor good.
The comments being overwhelmingly negative compared to 24.5k upvotes is suspicious IMO
Parents have to do what parents have to do. Simple as that.
Lol..we do what we can as mom's..he's gna figure this out soon..
Nah this sucks, creating trust issues forever
Get a grip. He's 4. He's going to forget all about it.
Sometimes I wonder if all the redditors with "toxic parents" that cut all contact just had normal parents
The sheer number of people in this comment section without children, or at *very* least niblings is astoundingly clear
Tooth fairy must have messed you up then.
I'm sorry to inform you about the Easter Bunny. It didn't go out and hide eggs in your backyard, that was your parents.
WHAT????????????
Santa?
some friends who grew up near Anaheim used to brag, 'cuz their parents took them to Disneyland at least a couple times a month ...didn't realize till they'd grown a bit and started hearing about all these 'rides' 'what's Splash Mountain?!?!" ...turns out the parents had been taking them to the Disney Hotel, the brunches with the characters, all those years, and lying to them they'd never even been inside the park 💀
There will at some point in elementary school be a "what I did at the weekend" diary assignment to get him writing and that will come crashing down.
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Kids aren’t that dumb. It’s like posts of ways parents trick their kids to let them sleep. Doesn’t work.
Yes, because it's never too early to cause your kid to resent you when they're older....
Lying to your kids is shit parenting.
lying parents may die alone… so alone
Having known some kids that age I believe it, but I also expect him to 100% Remember this and call her out on it as soon as he finds out the truth.
There's a greater chance than not that this is fake. If it happens to be true, this person is a terrible mom, and this is how you develop your kids to have lifelong trust issues with you. Her kid will eventually find out shes been lying to manipulate him the entire time. People act like kids are stupid and don't remember things like this, they do.
Even if this was true, this is probably the single quickest way to lose your kid's trust when he eventually figures it out.
Not liking school at pre K is not a good sign. This is the best school years. All you do learn a bit, paint and play. best years of my school life.
This is a villain origin arc.
I just feel like she's painted herself into a hole. If the kid acts up too much one week she has to simulate a school.
This is such a damn false story… so his kid goes to the only school in the USA that where teachers don’t talk to their students about “next week” assignments or whatnot on Fridays, or say “see you Monday” at the end of the school day. Like, who are the demographics these posts are supposed to fool?? (Sees the most upvoted comments on most rage bait on Reddit)… oh, nvm.
inb4 the kid finds out he's been decieved and wants to take 2 days off but isn't allowed to so he feels betrayed and no longer has an insentive to behave
That will blow up in your face in time.
Not r/chaoticgood. That is r/lawfulevil
Probably fake, but if not she is in for a rough time when he finds out about weekends and then never trusts her again.
This is why we have murder.
Could be worse. She could be telling him Jesus is real
I know it can be a controversial opinion, but I try to never lie to my children. While sometimes it may seem easier to lie to them in the short run, I have found that honesty is best in the long run as it teaches them important lessons about disappointment, responsibilities, tragedy, etc. I don’t know if I am always doing everything right as a parent, but I’ll never regret being honest with my children, perhaps to a fault. I know Santa is a tough question on this issue and one I always face. I admit that I’m somewhat hypocritical on this point because I do allow the children to believe in Santa. I often second-guess myself, but it was important to my wife to do the whole Santa thing. But, in nearly all other facet of life, I have maintained age appropriate honesty with my kids. I, honestly, don’t understand or agree with the number of little cutsey “white” lies that parents tell their children on a daily basis.
Don’t lie to your kids. It always costs you more later than it earns you now.
itt: a bunch of little shits who still hold grudges against their parents for lying to get them to behave.
My girlfriend has been saying that to me for the last 20 years. I can't believe she's been lying to me.
He needs a better school.
That's how corporations got people to believe they were making people a favor giving them back only 2 of the 3-4 free days a week everyone should have after the massive increase in productivity.
Ah so this is the reward shit people are talking about with current children growing up…I see…what could go wrong!
shure thing, because a four year old doesn't get the concept of weekends lol
I always say on friday mornings, “listen if you are well behaved today you can stay home tomorrow!” And my kid didn’t say a word until first grade. Pretty sure they genuinely believed me or just didn’t know what day it was or maybe both?
I can believe this to an extent that it worked for a few weeks at most. I told my kids 3/4 years that the alarm button in the elevator activates microwave the microwave function. If they pressed it and the other buttons randomly, we’d be cooked alive. I told them this to stop them from pressing all the buttons in the elevator. But they just found it fascinating and made their friends believe it. No trauma inflicted. My kids are just weird. Other kids parents weren’t too happy about it tbh.
Whats pre-k?
Works for as long as nobody at school tells your kid, once the jig is up all hell breaks loose.
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I remember in year 1999 some people said year 2000 will be end of world.
I’m just amazed we send kids away to school at age of 4 now. Seems kinda sad to be institutionalised so early
I hope they change school soon. We shouldn’t force kids to go to a thing they hate that is boring and sucks
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Bollocks
I wonder why the other kids also like Fridays so much
Lawful Evil
I have an acquaintance who tricks her kids every Saturday into thinking she’s letting them stay home from daycare for two days because she’s the best mom ever. She pretty much makes them beg for it though.
This is a great way to make your kid not trust you.
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There is no early education teacher in this earth that doesn't celebrate the coming weekend on Friday. They motivate their students with end of the week rewards too.
**Like** filling a kid’s heart with love for Santa, *this* won’t last long. And he will be made to feel like a fool, once it get’s out.