Don’t worry. This is completely normal and very very common. everyone around her must just be made aware of her illness and to not take it personally. Your mom doesn’t know she has dementia so trying to tell her she’s crazy is fruitless and also stressful for her. It’s easier for those around her to be educated on her illness and take what she says in context.
We did try to explain to her about her illness but she just gets angry & in denial about it. So we just gave up. And if we tell her that she remembers incorrectly or misplaced them, she will insist that her memory is really good. And she gets angry as well. So we kind of stop trying
Not in my experience, no. The patient can't process the situation like we can. They misplaced something and only remember where it was. When it isn't there, it is stolen. Who is the culprit? The nearest poor soul.
I moved in with my mother to help and was accused of everything you could imagine. I left when she threatened me with the police. Eventually everything worked out because a hospital saw the state of her dementia and we placed her in a Memory Care facility. Otherwise, who knows...
She does accused my niece for stealing money as well. When it's either misplaced cause she tried to hide it & forgot where it is, or she used it & forgot about it.
My niece has been able to handle it most of the time, but sometimes it can be too much.
I just thought there will be some way to help my niece out.
My mother is not too bad yet, according to my niece, when I suggested to put my mother into care. But my niece do not want to put her grandmother into any care facility yet.
Best of luck to you both. It is very difficult; support each other and take breaks when needed. It can be very overwhelming. Eventually, though, she might have to seek professional help.
She as in my mother? She is seeing a geriatric doctor that's how we found out she has dementia. She has some medication. It does help because before she started her medication, it was so much worse.
Our brain (as Persons Living with Dementia) is in stages of progressive brain-failure. There is practically zero hope of your mother realizing that "it is all in her head". Teepa Snow has some excellent short YouTube videos on how our brain takes "clips" of various sights sounds, etc, and combines them to decide that theft has occurred. it is an EXTREMELY common occurance. Add into that if there are hallucinations, and strategies become doubly difficult >> [https://truthfulkindness.com/2020/01/26/hallucination-types/](https://truthfulkindness.com/2020/01/26/hallucination-types/) .
Don’t worry. This is completely normal and very very common. everyone around her must just be made aware of her illness and to not take it personally. Your mom doesn’t know she has dementia so trying to tell her she’s crazy is fruitless and also stressful for her. It’s easier for those around her to be educated on her illness and take what she says in context.
We did try to explain to her about her illness but she just gets angry & in denial about it. So we just gave up. And if we tell her that she remembers incorrectly or misplaced them, she will insist that her memory is really good. And she gets angry as well. So we kind of stop trying
Sorry. You misunderstood me. I meant that you should NOT tell your mother she is ill. Just explain to your niece.
Yes, my niece understand :) She knows it's the illness.
Not in my experience, no. The patient can't process the situation like we can. They misplaced something and only remember where it was. When it isn't there, it is stolen. Who is the culprit? The nearest poor soul. I moved in with my mother to help and was accused of everything you could imagine. I left when she threatened me with the police. Eventually everything worked out because a hospital saw the state of her dementia and we placed her in a Memory Care facility. Otherwise, who knows...
She does accused my niece for stealing money as well. When it's either misplaced cause she tried to hide it & forgot where it is, or she used it & forgot about it. My niece has been able to handle it most of the time, but sometimes it can be too much. I just thought there will be some way to help my niece out. My mother is not too bad yet, according to my niece, when I suggested to put my mother into care. But my niece do not want to put her grandmother into any care facility yet.
Best of luck to you both. It is very difficult; support each other and take breaks when needed. It can be very overwhelming. Eventually, though, she might have to seek professional help.
She as in my mother? She is seeing a geriatric doctor that's how we found out she has dementia. She has some medication. It does help because before she started her medication, it was so much worse.
Our brain (as Persons Living with Dementia) is in stages of progressive brain-failure. There is practically zero hope of your mother realizing that "it is all in her head". Teepa Snow has some excellent short YouTube videos on how our brain takes "clips" of various sights sounds, etc, and combines them to decide that theft has occurred. it is an EXTREMELY common occurance. Add into that if there are hallucinations, and strategies become doubly difficult >> [https://truthfulkindness.com/2020/01/26/hallucination-types/](https://truthfulkindness.com/2020/01/26/hallucination-types/) .