I mean, I think generally speaking, it's good for a dog to have a single stable home. That said, it's also entirely possible for two different homes to have different benefits and drawbacks, even separate from the two different people, two different routines, etc. I'm not sure you provided enough context for us to give a best informed answer here.
What's it like at each of your places? How has the dog been adjusting for the past year? What's causing you to think now that she should remain with just one of you?
We both are in a 1 bedroom apartment.
I am home most of the time & don't have visitor much. My ex is now working from home most of the time due to Covid-19. I have no idea about her personal life.
My dog seems to be adjusting.
I am having second thoughts about this arrangement because of his age, and thinking the routines he will have with me & when he is with my ex will be different.
Hmm. If it were me in this situation, I think this is what I'd be asking myself:
1. Are both people and both homes able to satisfactorily provide for the dog's overall needs?
2. Does the dog receive some benefit from being able to maintain relationships with both people?
3. How significant is the dog's confusion when he moves from one home to another? There's a difference between, say, staring at the door for a couple of hours and not sleeping or eating properly for several days. Also, how have these confusion levels changed over time? Again, I'd have different reactions if a situation was becoming noticeably worse for the dog versus if it was staying pretty steady for him.
4. What is the benefit and burden to both of the people involved? Do they both want to see the dog enough to keep up this arrangement? Would it be possible to mutually agree to change the dog's living situation in a way that was satisfactory for everyone?
My dog is shared by the family and seems to look forward to going to the different households. The only reason I'd worry is if your dog has behaviors or training you're working on because you and your ex would confuse the dog
I mean, I think generally speaking, it's good for a dog to have a single stable home. That said, it's also entirely possible for two different homes to have different benefits and drawbacks, even separate from the two different people, two different routines, etc. I'm not sure you provided enough context for us to give a best informed answer here. What's it like at each of your places? How has the dog been adjusting for the past year? What's causing you to think now that she should remain with just one of you?
We both are in a 1 bedroom apartment. I am home most of the time & don't have visitor much. My ex is now working from home most of the time due to Covid-19. I have no idea about her personal life. My dog seems to be adjusting. I am having second thoughts about this arrangement because of his age, and thinking the routines he will have with me & when he is with my ex will be different.
Hmm. If it were me in this situation, I think this is what I'd be asking myself: 1. Are both people and both homes able to satisfactorily provide for the dog's overall needs? 2. Does the dog receive some benefit from being able to maintain relationships with both people? 3. How significant is the dog's confusion when he moves from one home to another? There's a difference between, say, staring at the door for a couple of hours and not sleeping or eating properly for several days. Also, how have these confusion levels changed over time? Again, I'd have different reactions if a situation was becoming noticeably worse for the dog versus if it was staying pretty steady for him. 4. What is the benefit and burden to both of the people involved? Do they both want to see the dog enough to keep up this arrangement? Would it be possible to mutually agree to change the dog's living situation in a way that was satisfactory for everyone?
Thank you for these. These questions has given me some clarity as to how to proceed.
My dog is shared by the family and seems to look forward to going to the different households. The only reason I'd worry is if your dog has behaviors or training you're working on because you and your ex would confuse the dog
He is a very good boy, well trained. He is just enjoying his retirement. He just looks a bit confuse every time we swap him over. Thanks.