It’s day 17, minus a text on birthday I really couldn’t skip because we didn’t leave angry, just hurt from honesty and circumstances.
I miss them. I wonder if I could have done anything “better” or should have continued to stay silent. I mostly am sad that I don’t think there’s anything either one of us did wrong. I still think about them constantly as I always have. I wonder if they are thinking of me at all.
I have the same regrets, I feel like if I didn’t say anything we’d still be okay. And it’s taking everything for me to not hate myself for speaking my mind
Thank you for saying this. we are close friends, shared some vulnerability w each other and that left us feeling raw, it’s all a bit overwhelming. But we care about each other and I have to believe in my heart that will prevail over anything we are feeling in this moment.
I don't know whether you want advice or not - but in my experience, it's better to try and stop asking yourself those types of unanswerable questions. I know, easier said than done, but once you figure out how to come to peace the easier it'll be to move on.
Day 24 for me. I’ve been doing better but I’ve had some days where I just cannot get past the sad feels that he’s gone. I have to choose myself everyday though. I’m excited for my future but I wish I could share it with him soooo bad.
No contact for a good few months. I'm gonna say its been about 3 and broke up about 6. Every day I dream about either murdering them or getting one horrible dig in… Some thing to the extent of them reaching out for Really any reason in particular no matter how Mundane & and me getting that one opportunity for one glorious " I hope you die a horrible death " response. But no contact is where it is just for today and no contact is where it will remain just for today.
Back to day 1.
I slipped up and texted them with out even thinking. I saw something that they would know the answer to, took a picture, and sent it to them with a question. I did it before I even realized it.
Day 11 of breakup and no contact today. It gets so difficult, especially at night. I'd wake up at 3am in the morning and the truth that we're not together anymore would always hit me hard.
I really want to talk to him but I don't know if it will help. I strongly feel that we can still work this out, but it might just be the loneliness / missing him that's talking.
Feel you. There’s those few seconds after waking up were the mind has registered yet, those seconds are nice then reality hits.
Don’t reach out yet.
I’m on exactly the same number of days as you and fcuk it’s difficult, especially when you feel like things can still work out.
One day everything will make sense, today is not that day!
Good luck stranger x
It’s been about 20 days for me. Last night I decided it was best for my healing process to block and unblock my ex and all of his mutual friends which we shared, there’s no reason for me to see him when it causes so much pain. Always worrying if they are watching my stories. So I guess today is truly day 1 of no contact?
Every day has been different
Day 8
They added some new pics and deleted some pics of us from soc media yesterday and i nearly caved. I was at a friend's house and was shaking and couldnt even think. It was like going through the breakup all over again. I held strong and watched some coach lee videos. I wanted to tell them how great they looked in the pictures.
17 days no contact. He reached out and in spite of me saying “ we have nothing else to talk about. He told me he would be available if I wanted to chat. I waited a day and a half to respond. This is what I said “ I appreciate you reaching out and I really need to focus on other things right now. I also need time and space to re-evaluate our relationship. I will reach out before Thanksgiving. Take care” He has not responded. If he responds rudely then that will solidify us being over. I love him and miss him and I am not going to be third choice behind his baby momma who he struggles with boundaries. She is very loud and present in our relationship and I am over it. She has him by the b…s. He is in his 50s and has a ten year old. I love his son and I do not want to tolerate his mom for the next 8 years. I am also 50 with adult children that do not live at home. I am leaning more towards letting him go.
Nearly 2 months since I saw her last. At least a solid month of no contact. Prior to that I only emailed her a confirmation of airline tickets cancelation and a text to ask for my t-shirt back, which I rec’d about 2 weeks ago. I haven’t messaged since.
I still have no idea what happened that lead to this breakup. She wouldn’t elaborate on anything after a text message breakup. She refused to talk to me any further. It’s my therapist’s opinion that something happened with her abusive ex husband and that’s why it happened suddenly and she wouldn’t communicate after. This is based on the info I learned just before the breakup.
If she’s back with him, I can’t understand. I get trauma bonds, but how could you do that to your son. The anxiety you said he had from your ex. Not to mention your family hating your ex too. I just can’t understand how it was so easy to let me go, which is why I feel like I was a rebound. Without communication, I’m left to guessing based on the little info I have.
I hope you miss me as much as I do you. I have weak moments, but I’m getting better and refuse to reach out. I hope one day she figures out the mistake she made. I don’t know if I’d ever take her back after the way she handled a breakup with me. 99% sure she was going to ghost me until I called her out on it.
Edit: I just wish you took the time to talk to me like a grownup. I could have walked away easier if I knew. I can handle rejection, but a breakup text after what we had been through shows how much of a coward you are and your lack of emotional intelligence.
I just hope to move on sooner rather than later.
Rebounding after a week?!
No you have more self respect than to reach out.
You are NOT replaceable.
He will learn, I hope by the time he does you have moved on to better things.
Thank you Erin, that is very kind of you. I just lost my dad too, it’s a really turbulent time and I’m on my own. I have been nothing but good to my ex, so it hurts even more…
Day 10. Haven’t heard a thing from him. It’s summer but today is cold and raining and all I want is to be cuddled up in bed with him.
I wish I knew what he is feeling.
No contact has to remain this way.
I will not beg for love.
Been a month since no contact witha someone I had a shortterm relationship, she broke things off due to stress and hardships in her situation back then and told me before not to reply to her anymore and slowly cutting me off in socials. I respected her decision and just minded my own business and not talk to her anymore. Then lately I have seeing her socials like posting stuff abt quotes like she is the victim.. ive been resisting the urge to talk to her those days Ive been dealing the loss and it really triggered me to see those posts that makes me feel like Ive done something bad to her when all I did was being chill and supportive. Kinda sad
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i'm glad that you're realizing he wasn't healthy. good luck on your journey ❤
Thank you! It’s getting better.
It’s day 17, minus a text on birthday I really couldn’t skip because we didn’t leave angry, just hurt from honesty and circumstances. I miss them. I wonder if I could have done anything “better” or should have continued to stay silent. I mostly am sad that I don’t think there’s anything either one of us did wrong. I still think about them constantly as I always have. I wonder if they are thinking of me at all.
I have the same regrets, I feel like if I didn’t say anything we’d still be okay. And it’s taking everything for me to not hate myself for speaking my mind
They are definitely thinking about you too. But reach out if your heart says so…that’s the only way to know
Thank you for saying this. we are close friends, shared some vulnerability w each other and that left us feeling raw, it’s all a bit overwhelming. But we care about each other and I have to believe in my heart that will prevail over anything we are feeling in this moment.
I don't know whether you want advice or not - but in my experience, it's better to try and stop asking yourself those types of unanswerable questions. I know, easier said than done, but once you figure out how to come to peace the easier it'll be to move on.
Day 24 for me. I’ve been doing better but I’ve had some days where I just cannot get past the sad feels that he’s gone. I have to choose myself everyday though. I’m excited for my future but I wish I could share it with him soooo bad.
Good job for figuring out that you have to choose yourself. 💜 it took me too long to realize that. I'm still having trouble realizing it.
I made it one week. And I can make it however more I need. 🤍
No contact for a good few months. I'm gonna say its been about 3 and broke up about 6. Every day I dream about either murdering them or getting one horrible dig in… Some thing to the extent of them reaching out for Really any reason in particular no matter how Mundane & and me getting that one opportunity for one glorious " I hope you die a horrible death " response. But no contact is where it is just for today and no contact is where it will remain just for today.
Back to day 1. I slipped up and texted them with out even thinking. I saw something that they would know the answer to, took a picture, and sent it to them with a question. I did it before I even realized it.
Oof that’s a tough one.
Day 11 of breakup and no contact today. It gets so difficult, especially at night. I'd wake up at 3am in the morning and the truth that we're not together anymore would always hit me hard. I really want to talk to him but I don't know if it will help. I strongly feel that we can still work this out, but it might just be the loneliness / missing him that's talking.
Feel you. There’s those few seconds after waking up were the mind has registered yet, those seconds are nice then reality hits. Don’t reach out yet. I’m on exactly the same number of days as you and fcuk it’s difficult, especially when you feel like things can still work out. One day everything will make sense, today is not that day! Good luck stranger x
It’s been about 20 days for me. Last night I decided it was best for my healing process to block and unblock my ex and all of his mutual friends which we shared, there’s no reason for me to see him when it causes so much pain. Always worrying if they are watching my stories. So I guess today is truly day 1 of no contact? Every day has been different
Day 8 They added some new pics and deleted some pics of us from soc media yesterday and i nearly caved. I was at a friend's house and was shaking and couldnt even think. It was like going through the breakup all over again. I held strong and watched some coach lee videos. I wanted to tell them how great they looked in the pictures.
17 days no contact. He reached out and in spite of me saying “ we have nothing else to talk about. He told me he would be available if I wanted to chat. I waited a day and a half to respond. This is what I said “ I appreciate you reaching out and I really need to focus on other things right now. I also need time and space to re-evaluate our relationship. I will reach out before Thanksgiving. Take care” He has not responded. If he responds rudely then that will solidify us being over. I love him and miss him and I am not going to be third choice behind his baby momma who he struggles with boundaries. She is very loud and present in our relationship and I am over it. She has him by the b…s. He is in his 50s and has a ten year old. I love his son and I do not want to tolerate his mom for the next 8 years. I am also 50 with adult children that do not live at home. I am leaning more towards letting him go.
Nearly 2 months since I saw her last. At least a solid month of no contact. Prior to that I only emailed her a confirmation of airline tickets cancelation and a text to ask for my t-shirt back, which I rec’d about 2 weeks ago. I haven’t messaged since. I still have no idea what happened that lead to this breakup. She wouldn’t elaborate on anything after a text message breakup. She refused to talk to me any further. It’s my therapist’s opinion that something happened with her abusive ex husband and that’s why it happened suddenly and she wouldn’t communicate after. This is based on the info I learned just before the breakup. If she’s back with him, I can’t understand. I get trauma bonds, but how could you do that to your son. The anxiety you said he had from your ex. Not to mention your family hating your ex too. I just can’t understand how it was so easy to let me go, which is why I feel like I was a rebound. Without communication, I’m left to guessing based on the little info I have. I hope you miss me as much as I do you. I have weak moments, but I’m getting better and refuse to reach out. I hope one day she figures out the mistake she made. I don’t know if I’d ever take her back after the way she handled a breakup with me. 99% sure she was going to ghost me until I called her out on it. Edit: I just wish you took the time to talk to me like a grownup. I could have walked away easier if I knew. I can handle rejection, but a breakup text after what we had been through shows how much of a coward you are and your lack of emotional intelligence. I just hope to move on sooner rather than later.
Day 3. I fear I’m going to break soon and text him
Hold strong. Write a letter telling him what you want to say. Dont send it. It will help
Write it all down hun. Get it out but don’t send it.
Day seven. Tough day today, I had a moment of weakness. Does he miss me? He’s rebounding, which makes me feel sad
Rebounding after a week?! No you have more self respect than to reach out. You are NOT replaceable. He will learn, I hope by the time he does you have moved on to better things.
Thank you Erin, that is very kind of you. I just lost my dad too, it’s a really turbulent time and I’m on my own. I have been nothing but good to my ex, so it hurts even more…
Day 10. Haven’t heard a thing from him. It’s summer but today is cold and raining and all I want is to be cuddled up in bed with him. I wish I knew what he is feeling. No contact has to remain this way. I will not beg for love.
Im on day 17. I miss the sex. Lol
Been a month since no contact witha someone I had a shortterm relationship, she broke things off due to stress and hardships in her situation back then and told me before not to reply to her anymore and slowly cutting me off in socials. I respected her decision and just minded my own business and not talk to her anymore. Then lately I have seeing her socials like posting stuff abt quotes like she is the victim.. ive been resisting the urge to talk to her those days Ive been dealing the loss and it really triggered me to see those posts that makes me feel like Ive done something bad to her when all I did was being chill and supportive. Kinda sad