You get out of this with small steps. Today, make your mission to be 1% better than yesterday. Cook a fresh meal, or have coffee with a friend outside. One positive step. Repeat every day. You’ll be a different person in a year if you keep it up.
What stopped me from being so lazy is the gym once you push through you’ll have more energy and feel healthier plus it will help with depression and anxiety
you don't have to physically go to a gym to exercise, exercising at home can be just as good, and can be better since there's no anxiety abt how you look or social interactions :) even going for a 5-10min walk outside everyday can help!
Once you build the habit it gets a lot easier to stay consistent and becomes less of a struggle to just do it. Try and go at the same day everyday after work or something.Just go even if you don’t feel up for it. This will also transition into a lot of daily tasks you avoid. When you start shutting down that voice in your head that tells you not to do something you know you need to do it gets quieter and quieter over time.
Make a list of shit you need to do or goals you’d like to achieve. Break down each one into daily tasks. Motivation follows action. Start on those daily tasks and you’ll feel motivation to continue on until you achieve each goal.
I'm in a similar boat. Something I started doing recently was some volunteering. It gets you out the house and meeting some new people. I'm planning on developing some good references from volunteering and then starting to apply to jobs again. Things will only get better if you change them. No one else can do it for you.
Trust me you have plenty of time to get your life together. Stop watching TV and get rid of mindless scrolling apps like TikTok, Facebook and the like. All of that is a waste of time. One thing that made a major difference in my life was going low carb/keto. The mental clarity is amazing and it becomes so much easier to focus on what needs to be done. Also the health benefits are amazing.
Just start now mate, dont even waste time on reddit. Do something, today. Do something to help your parent, read a book, do some exercise. Work out how you can find a job or make a bit of money. Take action, whatever you do just take some kind of small action to improve your situation and state of mind. Then do something again tomorrow, and the day after. Shit will change faster than you think by doing this
I would argue that most people "waste" a portion of there life. Some waste it at a job they hate, some start trying to figure out what they want todo with there life to late. What ever it is coming to the realization that you wasted part of your life means you can try todo better for your self there on out. Unfortunately we can't go back to right before we started wasting our lives and correct our self back then. We have to start now. You still have a large majority of your life left. Even if you didn't. A few years not wasted is better than all of them wasted.
You need to change yourself over time slowly one step at a time. For me what helped was free audiobooks and PDFs. Look up self improvement books on YouTube about whatever subject. Laziness, motivation, healthy eating. Just write for example motivation audiobook. Or find a book about motivation on Amazon. Get the title and then go on Google type it in and write off at the end of it. Read read read, listen listen listen. They say you become just like the people closest to you. So spend time listening and reading about what these people who are similar to you and me have went through. Also go out and walk for an hour a day. I did this for a year or 2 and I changed. I was struck with anxiety from my stressful job. Overtime I changed into who I wanted to be. Don't expect it to happen overnight. Join a gym for the exercise not too get swole. And see about getting a job. Working in a lab, or something overnight check out specimen accessioner. Hope all this helps.
Wasting your life is hardly a thing at age 24. You have plenty of time to go.
Forget the outside pressure of some other answers here. You know you're lazy and you want to change. Kudos to that. Your parents moan that you're lazy. You can turn this around by doing small things around the house. Start simple, don't feel pressured. Take out trash, do some dishes, vacuum the floor. Whatever feels like 'I can do this', just do it. Doing simple tasks, strangely, motivated us to do more. If I simply dust my desk, I magically want to do the rest of the room afterwards.
Doing house stuff will earn respect from your parents, who will see change. There's a good chance that this will make you feel better too. Start going outside more now. No pressure. Go for a 1-minute walk around the block, even if it seems useless. It's easy and achievable. You'll either do the small walk, or you'll suddenly feel like going a bit further while walking. Great, now you're more physically active.
You mention having no goals and no idea what to do. This is a very common demotivating feeling, I was in your shoes. What are things you like to do? If you can't think of an answer, what are things you like to watch on TV or social media? Are you pulled towards food, cars, nature, animals,...?
Statistically you've got a long life to go OP. 24 is a toddler in the grand scheme of things. Once you're in a better mindset and in a more productive life, nobody except assholes will still be thinking about the lazy person that you were before.
Can’t recommend it enough.
Make a list of your bad habits, porn, weed, tv, video games, unhealthy food, etc and do at-least a 7 day dopamine detox (or longer) and you’d be amazed how much motivation you’ll gain.
Also your a grown man, if you throw your self out of the nest you’ll learn how to fly. You need to leave your parents house asap. Rent a cheap room or apartment I even you want to save money it’s the principle of being a man
You're*
Leaving parents house without any form of grip on how to live life is more likely to put OP into deep depression that to fix issues. It would be better for OP to work on those issues first and to get a clearer view on life. Staying with the parents provides a much more stable entry point into the 'good' life, since OP can properly develop their work and skills without being overburdened by bills. OP could even save more money that way, providing a stronger foundation for them to eventually leave the nest.
Not all birds who get thrown out of the nest actually fly. A bunch of them straight up die. #natgeo
So I have this rule. There first 18 years don’t count. That shit isn’t on you. You were a kid, then a dumbass teenager. Your brain hadn’t even developed. At best you’ve wasted almost 6 years. Now you’re an adult. Now it counts
Not that bad. Especially since you have like 60 more to go.
So follow the advice others gave in this thread. Tell your parents and see if they’ll help you with the changes you want to make. Unplug the Tv and keep the cord in an inconvenient place, delete social media. Start hitting the gym, meditating, studying. Exit your comfort zone at least once a week.
start there and the rest will follow
I understand where you are coming from and it can be difficult to improve yourself do to the lack of motivation. It is normal to lack motivation and it makes it difficult to do normal things like cleaning up after yourself. But I've heard of this community called tastylife where they reward you for improving yourself. They even have a section dedicated to cleaning where you can get special awards and gifts just by doing normal everyday boring things. Its a great way to motivate you.
Search up "queens kings morning routines" and go to their tasty life section on the top navigation bar and check out what they have to offer! I believe this is exactly what you've been looking for.
I'm 45M, you still have your whole life ahead of you. At 25 i loved partying, but then i knuckled down and now own a successful business and have a family. Although I still feel that i wasted my life away at certain times, thats just self judgement, and its totally wrong most of the time.
You get out of this with small steps. Today, make your mission to be 1% better than yesterday. Cook a fresh meal, or have coffee with a friend outside. One positive step. Repeat every day. You’ll be a different person in a year if you keep it up.
Thanks man I keep that mind
What stopped me from being so lazy is the gym once you push through you’ll have more energy and feel healthier plus it will help with depression and anxiety
The thing I wan to go to the gym I just f can’t get me there
you don't have to physically go to a gym to exercise, exercising at home can be just as good, and can be better since there's no anxiety abt how you look or social interactions :) even going for a 5-10min walk outside everyday can help!
Once you build the habit it gets a lot easier to stay consistent and becomes less of a struggle to just do it. Try and go at the same day everyday after work or something.Just go even if you don’t feel up for it. This will also transition into a lot of daily tasks you avoid. When you start shutting down that voice in your head that tells you not to do something you know you need to do it gets quieter and quieter over time.
Do you have any goals? I’d start there
Make a list of shit you need to do or goals you’d like to achieve. Break down each one into daily tasks. Motivation follows action. Start on those daily tasks and you’ll feel motivation to continue on until you achieve each goal.
Your 24 you havnt had your life yet
It doesn’t feel like that
Put your feet on the ground and move. Get outside and leave the phone at home for an hour. Go for a walk at a park.
I feel the Same way
I'm in a similar boat. Something I started doing recently was some volunteering. It gets you out the house and meeting some new people. I'm planning on developing some good references from volunteering and then starting to apply to jobs again. Things will only get better if you change them. No one else can do it for you.
That sound a good idea
Good luck! I can do it, so you can too!
Trust me you have plenty of time to get your life together. Stop watching TV and get rid of mindless scrolling apps like TikTok, Facebook and the like. All of that is a waste of time. One thing that made a major difference in my life was going low carb/keto. The mental clarity is amazing and it becomes so much easier to focus on what needs to be done. Also the health benefits are amazing.
Just start now mate, dont even waste time on reddit. Do something, today. Do something to help your parent, read a book, do some exercise. Work out how you can find a job or make a bit of money. Take action, whatever you do just take some kind of small action to improve your situation and state of mind. Then do something again tomorrow, and the day after. Shit will change faster than you think by doing this
I would argue that most people "waste" a portion of there life. Some waste it at a job they hate, some start trying to figure out what they want todo with there life to late. What ever it is coming to the realization that you wasted part of your life means you can try todo better for your self there on out. Unfortunately we can't go back to right before we started wasting our lives and correct our self back then. We have to start now. You still have a large majority of your life left. Even if you didn't. A few years not wasted is better than all of them wasted.
Is there a reason why you aren't working??
The reason why because I don’t know what I want to do and there I can do
You need to change yourself over time slowly one step at a time. For me what helped was free audiobooks and PDFs. Look up self improvement books on YouTube about whatever subject. Laziness, motivation, healthy eating. Just write for example motivation audiobook. Or find a book about motivation on Amazon. Get the title and then go on Google type it in and write off at the end of it. Read read read, listen listen listen. They say you become just like the people closest to you. So spend time listening and reading about what these people who are similar to you and me have went through. Also go out and walk for an hour a day. I did this for a year or 2 and I changed. I was struck with anxiety from my stressful job. Overtime I changed into who I wanted to be. Don't expect it to happen overnight. Join a gym for the exercise not too get swole. And see about getting a job. Working in a lab, or something overnight check out specimen accessioner. Hope all this helps.
Watch my recent video about feeling behind it will help
Okay 👍🏻 I will do
i had a stroke trying to read this
Well all I can too that imagine how I felt writing it
Wasting your life is hardly a thing at age 24. You have plenty of time to go. Forget the outside pressure of some other answers here. You know you're lazy and you want to change. Kudos to that. Your parents moan that you're lazy. You can turn this around by doing small things around the house. Start simple, don't feel pressured. Take out trash, do some dishes, vacuum the floor. Whatever feels like 'I can do this', just do it. Doing simple tasks, strangely, motivated us to do more. If I simply dust my desk, I magically want to do the rest of the room afterwards. Doing house stuff will earn respect from your parents, who will see change. There's a good chance that this will make you feel better too. Start going outside more now. No pressure. Go for a 1-minute walk around the block, even if it seems useless. It's easy and achievable. You'll either do the small walk, or you'll suddenly feel like going a bit further while walking. Great, now you're more physically active. You mention having no goals and no idea what to do. This is a very common demotivating feeling, I was in your shoes. What are things you like to do? If you can't think of an answer, what are things you like to watch on TV or social media? Are you pulled towards food, cars, nature, animals,...? Statistically you've got a long life to go OP. 24 is a toddler in the grand scheme of things. Once you're in a better mindset and in a more productive life, nobody except assholes will still be thinking about the lazy person that you were before.
It is never too late to make your life better.
get a job man. Start being a responsible adult. Time to grow up.
Damn, thats some well constructed advice!
The thing is he aint wrong
Yeh I know took me while to tell how I feel
Can’t recommend it enough. Make a list of your bad habits, porn, weed, tv, video games, unhealthy food, etc and do at-least a 7 day dopamine detox (or longer) and you’d be amazed how much motivation you’ll gain. Also your a grown man, if you throw your self out of the nest you’ll learn how to fly. You need to leave your parents house asap. Rent a cheap room or apartment I even you want to save money it’s the principle of being a man
You're* Leaving parents house without any form of grip on how to live life is more likely to put OP into deep depression that to fix issues. It would be better for OP to work on those issues first and to get a clearer view on life. Staying with the parents provides a much more stable entry point into the 'good' life, since OP can properly develop their work and skills without being overburdened by bills. OP could even save more money that way, providing a stronger foundation for them to eventually leave the nest. Not all birds who get thrown out of the nest actually fly. A bunch of them straight up die. #natgeo
So I have this rule. There first 18 years don’t count. That shit isn’t on you. You were a kid, then a dumbass teenager. Your brain hadn’t even developed. At best you’ve wasted almost 6 years. Now you’re an adult. Now it counts Not that bad. Especially since you have like 60 more to go. So follow the advice others gave in this thread. Tell your parents and see if they’ll help you with the changes you want to make. Unplug the Tv and keep the cord in an inconvenient place, delete social media. Start hitting the gym, meditating, studying. Exit your comfort zone at least once a week. start there and the rest will follow
Get a job. Even part time. Walk. Sit outside. Get your ass out of your house.
The truth is no one knows what they’re going but you gotta start even if it’s something small, just starting will get you where you gotta be
I understand where you are coming from and it can be difficult to improve yourself do to the lack of motivation. It is normal to lack motivation and it makes it difficult to do normal things like cleaning up after yourself. But I've heard of this community called tastylife where they reward you for improving yourself. They even have a section dedicated to cleaning where you can get special awards and gifts just by doing normal everyday boring things. Its a great way to motivate you. Search up "queens kings morning routines" and go to their tasty life section on the top navigation bar and check out what they have to offer! I believe this is exactly what you've been looking for.
I'm 45M, you still have your whole life ahead of you. At 25 i loved partying, but then i knuckled down and now own a successful business and have a family. Although I still feel that i wasted my life away at certain times, thats just self judgement, and its totally wrong most of the time.